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How to Get a Better Erection: Complete Natural Guide to Getting Rock-Hard

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How to get a strong, lasting erection? How to get hard and stay hard? In this article, we’ll address erection issues and natural solutions to improve your sexual vitality.

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Introduction

A strong erection isn’t just about age. Yet after 40, many men notice a drop in quality. This can be linked to fatigue, stress, hormonal decline, circulatory problems, or lifestyle imbalance. Fortunately, in most cases, natural solutions work very well.

This guide gives you the keys to improving your erections without relying on medication. Breathing, diet, strength training, hormonal balance, circulation, and mindset — it’s all covered. This program is designed for men over 40, but there’s also a special section for younger men. Because yes, it can happen at any age — especially due to stress.

And if you’re also ejaculating too quickly, the problem compounds. Of course, the two issues don’t always go together. Some men come too fast but can get hard again… others struggle to maintain erections but have trouble climaxing. Neither is ideal.

But if you ejaculate fast and can’t get hard again… ouch.

👉 You can also check out this article on how to last longer in bed >>


Why Your Erection Might Fail

Common Physical Causes

  • Reduced blood flow due to age or arterial plaque
  • Overweight, sedentary lifestyle, lack of physical activity
  • Chronic fatigue, poor deep sleep
  • Natural testosterone decline (about 1% per year after age 35)
  • Excessive alcohol, tobacco, or certain medications

🔎 First step: see a doctor to rule out any serious underlying medical conditions. Once that’s done, we can work on your sexual confidence and lifestyle together.

Psychological Causes

  • Work or family stress
  • Performance anxiety (which is why you should also get good with your fingers and tongue)
  • Relationship or emotional issues
  • Porn addiction or unrealistic sexual expectations

✅ Good news: most of these causes can be reversed or improved within a few weeks.

It can be tough to accept that your erection problems are stress-related…

But your body is trying to tell you something.


How to Naturally Improve Erectile Function

1. Improve Blood Flow

An erection is primarily a vascular event. Blood needs to flow freely into the penile chambers. Healthy arteries are essential.

➡️ When your body is relaxed, blood flows in — you get hard. When tense or stressed, it cuts off — you go soft. That’s why stress kills erections. You wouldn’t want to be chased by a lion with a boner, would you?

Practical Tips:

  • 🍎 Eat more berries, beets, garlic, onions, citrus, and dark chocolate (100% cocoa)
  • 🏃‍♂️ Do moderate cardio 30 min, 4x/week (fast walking, cycling, swimming)
  • 🚫 Avoid saturated fats, fried foods, processed junk
  • ☕ Cut caffeine and drink more water (2 liters/day)

2. Boost Testosterone Naturally

Testosterone is key to male libido. After 40, production steadily declines.

What Helps:

  • 🥚 Eat zinc-rich foods: oysters, eggs, pumpkin seeds, fatty fish
  • 🛌 Sleep 7.5–9 hours per night with quality deep sleep
  • ✊ Strength train 3x/week (even bodyweight only)
  • 😊 Meditate or do yoga to lower cortisol (stress kills testosterone)

⚠️ Watch out for endocrine disruptors (plastics, pesticides, synthetic cosmetics) — they’re everywhere and mess with your hormones.

3. Targeted Exercises: Kegels, Core Work & Posture

Your pelvic floor muscles (especially the pubococcygeus or PC muscle) play a crucial role in erection and control. Strengthening them improves erection quality and ejaculation control.

Kegels:

  • Contract as if stopping your pee
  • Hold 5 sec, relax 5 sec
  • Repeat 10 times, 2–3 times/day

(Some experts don’t recommend doing this during actual urination, but you can train the muscle via mental focus.)

Core Strength and Stability:

A strong core supports better blood flow and sexual positioning.

  • Planks, crunches, glute bridges, slow squats
  • ⛹️ Yoga: plank pose, cobra, warrior II

Once cardiac issues are ruled out, exercise is one of the best remedies.

4. Reduce Chronic Stress and Anxiety

A stressed man activates his sympathetic nervous system (“fight or flight”) — which shuts down erections. Erections need the parasympathetic system (“rest and digest”).

You can’t run from danger with a hard-on, right? So it makes sense that stress is the enemy of arousal. Some pressure is inevitable, especially with a new partner. The key is learning to manage it — and having backup plans in case things go sideways.

Effective Anti-Stress Routines:

  • 4-7-8 breathing: inhale 4 sec, hold 7, exhale 8
  • Cardiac coherence: 6 breaths/min for 5 minutes, 3x/day
  • Hot baths, time in nature, silence, slow music

Try different things. Even placebos can help — if it works, it works.

5. Conscious Sexuality and Sex Tao

Instead of chasing performance, reconnect with your inner sexual energy.

Sex Tao, an ancient Chinese tradition, teaches how to recycle sexual energy through breath, muscle control, and focused awareness. It allows:

  • Deeper, more stable erections
  • Prolonged pleasure (even without ejaculation)
  • Less reliance on external stimulation

Practice:

  • Breathe through your belly
  • Gently contract the pelvic floor
  • Visualize energy rising to your chest or head

Sex Tao is a system for mastering sexuality: orgasm control, delayed ejaculation, heightened sensation, and more.

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Focus: What About Younger Men?

Before 40, erection issues are also common, but often due to different causes:

  • Too much porn and frequent masturbation ➝ real desensitization
  • Student/work stress or toxic relationships
  • Poor diet and irregular sleep (alcohol, drugs)
  • No exercise (or extreme fatigue from overtraining)

✅ Main tip for young men: reset your mind and body.

  • Quit porn for 30 days
  • Learn to enjoy pleasure without always ejaculating
  • Resume regular physical activity
  • Reconnect with your body (mindfulness, breathing, slow touch)
  • Don’t compare yourself — especially not to porn stars
  • Take care of your lifestyle (diet, hydration, rest)
  • Find a sexy woman who really excites you!

Bonus: Diet and Natural Supplements

Some superfoods and supplements can help support your efforts:

  • Maca: Peruvian plant known for boosting libido
  • Red ginseng: enhances sexual and mental energy
  • L-arginine / Citrulline: amino acids that promote blood flow
  • Ashwagandha: reduces stress, supports testosterone
  • Omega-3s: improve blood fluidity, brain function, and hormone balance

⚠️ Always check with a health professional before starting any supplement regime.


Conclusion: Take Back Control, Naturally

You get it now — a great erection isn’t just mechanical. It’s the result of a healthy body, calm mind, deep breathing, and a good relationship with yourself.

✅ With consistency, even after 40, you can regain strong, lasting, satisfying erections. And most importantly — you don’t need a pill. You need an aligned lifestyle.

Use Viagra or Cialis only as a last resort — and never take sketchy products from the internet.


FAQ

What if nothing works to get a solid erection?
See a urologist or sexologist. They can check for serious issues (diabetes, hypertension, hormonal imbalance). You can also consult a sex coach.

How long before I see results?
Some improvement can show in 1–2 weeks. But expect 4–6 weeks for solid, lasting changes with consistent effort.

Is porn harmful for erections?
Yes, excessive visual stimulation can mess with real-life arousal. Even a temporary detox often boosts erection quality.

➡️ Especially if you want to “get hard on command.” If you always need stronger stimuli for the same level of arousal, that’s a red flag. Train your body to get aroused by thought — no visual aid needed.

Can I still improve my erection at 50 or 60?
Absolutely. Erections reflect overall health. Many men 50+ report better sex lives today thanks to simple, natural changes.

⚠️ Be aware: some medications can have erection problems as a side effect. Always check the leaflet.

 

Your sex-coach

Fabrice Julien

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How to Last Longer in Bed: The Ultimate Guide to Endurance with a Woman

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How to last longer in bed? How to last longer during sex? Discover this complete guide to lasting longer with a woman. We’ll talk about various ejaculation issues, and how to take control.

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Introduction

I imagine you’re looking for a method that’s natural, respectful, and satisfying?

Lasting longer in bed is absolutely possible — without medication (Viagra, Cialis), without gimmicks, just with the right techniques, better physical and mental preparation, and open communication with your partner. This complete guide will help you understand why you ejaculate quickly, how to regain control of your body, and most importantly, how to become a more confident and enduring lover.

Quick reminder: to be considered “good in bed” by most women, you generally need to last at least 10 minutes of active sexual intercourse. That gives time for a few positions. It’s not about records — it’s about the quality of the shared experience. Premature ejaculation can be a real handicap.


Why Some Men Ejaculate Too Quickly

The most common cause is premature ejaculation, a frequent issue that can affect any man, at any age. It’s often related to:

  • Hypersensitivity of the glans
  • Lack of muscular control (pelvic floor, abs)
  • Habits of fast masturbation (in secret, under stress)
  • Stress or performance anxiety (very common!)
  • Poor understanding of one’s body and arousal threshold
  • Neurological or hormonal factors (less common)

In any case, it’s not a life sentence. Control can be learned. And you’re on the right page to improve.

By the way, it’s not just premature ejaculation that’s problematic. Rapid ejaculation — meaning ejaculation before both partners are ready — is also an issue. Especially if it’s combined with difficulty getting hard again…

Check out this article on how to get better erections >>


Immediate Techniques to Delay Ejaculation

These methods can be used tonight (even if you’re with a bombshell):

Stop-Start Method (Edging)

This technique involves stopping all stimulation (masturbation or penetration) just before orgasm, waiting until the urge subsides, and then resuming.

Stimulate her with something else — like oral sex — while you cool down.

➡️ Use this multiple times during one session. It’s a powerful training method to help you understand and control your arousal threshold.

Best practiced during mindful solo masturbation sessions.

Stop-Squeeze Method

When arousal is too high, stop and gently squeeze the base of the penis or frenulum for 5 to 10 seconds. This reduces stimulation and delays ejaculation.

➡️ Can be done solo or with your partner during sex.

This method exists, but I don’t personally recommend it often.

Think About Something Else (Even Your Grandma)

It sounds silly, but mentally detaching yourself from intense arousal can help. Think of neutral or unsexy things (your grandma, your taxes, tonight’s dinner) to defuse the moment.

Once the peak has passed, you’ll often find you can last quite a bit longer. Arousal comes in waves — the goal is to surf them.

Pinch Your Ear or Change Position

A small physical cue can break the automatic cycle of arousal. Pinching your ear, biting your lip, or switching positions can buy you time.

Some men even say out loud, “I’m about to cum” — and that expression alone can bring relief and buy them more time.

Use Thicker Condoms or Desensitizing Sprays

Condoms with a numbing effect or sprays containing lidocaine/prilocaine can reduce sensitivity. It can help temporarily, but don’t overuse them — it may affect pleasure or your erection quality.


Ejaculatory Control and Advanced Techniques

Conscious Breathing

This is one of the most effective tools. Slowing your breathing lowers your heart rate, calms your nervous system, and enhances control. Inhale through your nose for 3 seconds, exhale slowly for 5. Sync your breath with your movements.

➡️ The closer you get to orgasm, the faster your body wants to go. Breathing calms that impulse.

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Pelvic Floor Mastery (Kegels)

Kegel exercises strengthen the muscles that help control ejaculation. They also lead to harder and longer-lasting erections.

  • Contract the muscles you’d use to stop peeing
  • Hold for 5 seconds, release for 5 seconds
  • Do 3 sets of 10 contractions per day

Some experts suggest avoiding stopping your pee mid-stream due to inflammation risk. But you can train your pelvic muscles through focus alone — no bathroom needed.

I teach these in-depth in my Sex Tao training course >>

Sex Tao (Taoist Sexual Practice)

Sex Tao is an ancient Chinese practice focused on circulating sexual energy (Chi) throughout the body. The goal is to separate orgasm from ejaculation and even experience multiple orgasms without releasing.

It involves:

  • Deep meditation
  • Targeted muscular contractions
  • Highly controlled breathing
  • Deep focus on internal sensations

Medium and Long-Term Exercises

Cardio and General Endurance

Your body is your vehicle. The fitter you are, the better you perform sexually. Cardio (running, rowing, cycling, HIIT) improves blood flow, stamina, and reduces stress.

➡️ Aim for 3 sessions per week, 30 minutes each.

Functional Strength Training and Core Work

A solid core is essential for thrusting, movement control, and sexual stamina.

Try planks, bridges, lunges, squats, and slow push-ups.

Fast ejaculation may also signal your body wanting to “end the effort” quickly. But a stronger body is more resilient.

Yoga and Mobility

Yoga enhances breathing, body awareness, flexibility, and mental grounding. It significantly reduces anxiety. Poses like Cobra, Child’s Pose, and Warrior II are especially helpful for sexual energy.

➡️ Some yogis claim they can make love for over an hour without ejaculating.

And yes — the best way to practice is mindful solo masturbation. Avoid conditioning yourself to “finish fast” with porn.


Lifestyle and Nutrition

Your sex life reflects your overall lifestyle.

  • 🍎 Eat an anti-inflammatory diet: berries, leafy greens, omega-3-rich foods
  • ❌ Avoid processed sugar, junk food, and excess caffeine
  • 🚬 Quit smoking, cut back on alcohol and drugs: all hurt your control and erection quality
  • 💤 Sleep well: testosterone is produced during deep sleep
  • 💧 Stay hydrated: good hydration supports circulation and sexual energy

Communication and Mindset

Don’t Make Performance the Goal

Focusing on “lasting as long as possible” can increase pressure. Focus instead on shared pleasure, connection, and intimacy. Talk to your partner about what you’re trying — being aligned will relax you and help you last naturally.

Ditch Porn

Porn creates unrealistic expectations and bad habits (fast, intense solo sessions). Reconnect with reality — your body, your breath, your partner.

Sex Therapy

A sex therapist can help uncover blocks, provide guided exercises, and reduce performance anxiety. It’s not a weakness — it’s smart.


Conclusion

Lasting longer in bed is a mix of immediate techniques, physical training, mental awareness, and lifestyle upgrades. It’s not something you’re born with — it’s something you learn.

The combo of breathing + Kegels + Sex Tao + cardio + communication is unbeatable.

➡️ And remember: make 10 minutes your baseline. Not to impress, but to give your partner a true shared experience.


FAQ: Lasting Longer in Bed

What’s the average duration of sex?
Between 5 and 6 minutes for most men. But with focused training, 15–20 minutes becomes very doable — enough for at least 3 positions. Don’t start with what excites you the most (often doggy style).

Does Sex Tao really work?
Yes, it’s a proven practice in Eastern traditions. But it requires discipline, regularity, and a deep connection with your body. It’s not for everyone — but it works.

Can I train alone to last longer?
Absolutely. Kegels, edging, mindful breathing, and Tao practice are all trainable solo. The more you practice, the more confident you’ll be with a partner.

Should I avoid ejaculation altogether?
No. The idea is to choose when you ejaculate, not to suppress it entirely. Some days you’ll last 20 minutes, others 7 — the key is having control.

How long until I see results?
With consistent practice, you’ll likely see progress within 2–3 weeks. In 2–3 months, your sex life can transform completely.

 

Your sex coach,
Fabrice Julien

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How to Properly Finger a Woman: A Detailed Guide On Fingering Her

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How to finger a girl ? Fingering her is an art. So, how to put fingers in her pussy ?

You can learn how to do it properly here.

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Why learning how to stimulate with fingers?

Digital stimulation (fingering) involves touching the vulva and vagina with the fingers. Often seen as just a warm-up act, it’s actually a legitimate and deeply pleasurable sexual practice. When done properly, it can lead to clitoral or vaginal orgasms, enhance trust and intimacy, and even result in female ejaculation (squirting) for some women.

Understanding how to finger a woman respectfully and attentively is essential for anyone wishing to explore sexuality gently and consciously. It’s an adaptable, sensual way to connect — every woman is different, and so the technique should be too.

Anatomy and Physiological Basics

The Vagina and Its Sensitive Areas

The human vagina measures approximately 2.5 to 4 cm in diameter at rest and is naturally lined with moist mucosa. Certain areas, particularly on the anterior wall, are especially sensitive to touch and can create intense sensations when stimulated.

The G-Spot

Although its existence is debated in scientific circles, the so-called G-spot is located about 5 cm inside the vagina, on the anterior wall. It often has a slightly rougher texture; stimulating it may activate internal branches of the clitoral nerves and, in some cases, trigger female ejaculation.

Even without causing ejaculation (squirting), good manual stimulation can give a woman great pleasure and may lead to a satisfying orgasm.

Vaginal Lubrication

When aroused, women produce vaginal secretions (also called cyprine) that are rich in water, mildly acidic, and naturally lubricating. These fluids increase comfort and ease during manual stimulation.

As arousal increases, a woman’s genital area becomes engorged with blood—just like a man’s. It swells, opens slightly, and becomes more lubricated.

If you want to learn how to make her squirt, click here >>

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Preparing for digital stimulation

  • Hygiene: Clean hands, trimmed and smooth nails are essential to avoid discomfort or infections.

  • Comfort: A relaxing environment with soft lighting, calming music, and a warm tone.

  • Consent: Always ask. If unsure, say something like: “Does this feel good?” or “Would you like me to continue?”

Step-by-step fingering techniques

1. Start slowly
Avoid going directly inside. Begin by caressing the inner thighs, outer lips, and vulva gently. Teasing through underwear or light strokes can build anticipation.

2. Insertion and basic movement
Insert one or two fingers (palm facing up) about 4–5 cm in. Use a gentle “come here” motion to reach and stimulate the G-spot.

3. “Come here” technique
Bend your fingers upward toward the belly button. This is especially effective at stimulating internal pleasure zones like the G-spot.

4. Vary pressure and rhythm
Alternate between circular, slow, or steady movements. Change pace every 30 seconds unless you find a rhythm that brings her closer to orgasm — then stick with it.

5. Combine with clitoral stimulation
Use your other hand to stimulate the clitoris while fingering. This “dual stimulation” technique often enhances pleasure.

6. Shake technique
Light vertical shaking with your fingers inside can create different sensations and increase intensity.

Listening and adjusting

Ask questions such as:

  • “Do you like this pace?”

  • “Do you want more or less pressure?”

  • “Want me to keep going here or try elsewhere?”

Also, observe her breathing, moans, or muscle reactions. If she tenses, slow down or pause. Always follow her pace and comfort.

Safety and care

  • Protection: If there’s any STI risk, use a finger condom or glove. A woman wanted me to always finger her with gloves, I didn’t like it.

  • Lubricant: Water-based lubricant helps avoid discomfort during dryness.

  • Post-play: Wash hands and the genital area to prevent irritation.

 

Pleasure and benefits

  • Can lead to clitoral or vaginal orgasms.

  • May trigger female ejaculation (squirting) with proper G-spot stimulation.

  • Encourages trust, intimacy, and communication.

  • Some women find fingering even more satisfying than penetration.

 

Advanced options

  • One finger inside, one on the clitoris (or even anal play, if consensual).

  • Combine with toys or external pressure on the lower abdomen.

  • Explore different depths and angles.

  • A finger in the ass, a finger in the mouth…

Every woman is different — adapt, don’t assume.

Common myths

  • “It’s dirty” → False. With proper hygiene, it’s intimate and clean.

  • “If there’s no orgasm, it failed” → False. Pleasure doesn’t always mean climax.

  • “All women like the same thing” → Also false. Technique matters, but so does listening. You have to adapt the techniques to the women you fuck. More or less pressure, more or less fingers, rythm…

 

How many fingers ?

Start with two, and see if she wants more or less.

Conclusion

Fingering, when done attentively and with respect, can be a deeply pleasurable and intimate act. The key is to listen, communicate, and stay attuned to the person you’re with. Whether your goal is to give joy, strengthen intimacy, or simply explore, the best tool is curiosity guided by care.

Fingering is not just a preliminary.

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How to Make a Woman Squirt: The Complete Guide to Supporting Female Ejaculation Without Pressure

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How do you make a woman squirt? How can you help her experience female ejaculation? And what exactly is female ejaculation?

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Why Should We Care About Female Ejaculation?

Female ejaculation—or “squirting”—both fascinates and raises questions. Often misunderstood, misrepresented, or even caricatured in popular culture, it remains an integral part of female sexuality. More and more people are wondering: how do you make a woman squirt? Is it natural? Is it something all women can experience?

Exploring this phenomenon isn’t just about “doing more” in bed—it’s about getting to know the female body better, encouraging open and intimate communication, and exploring deeper, more authentic pleasure together.

Let’s make it clear right away: helping a woman squirt is not a performance, a duty, or a universal goal. Every body is different, and so is every sexual experience. This article is meant to support those who want to understand squirting—with kindness and no pressure—by offering a respectful, educational, and practical approach.

We’ll demystify the process, explore the ideal conditions, and explain the actual gestures and mindset needed to create a safe space for squirting. Because true pleasure is never just about technique—it’s about trust, release, adapted stimulation, and body awareness.

Mum and social worker the day, squirts at night!

What Is Squirting? Definitions and Clarifications

Before diving into how to make a woman squirt, we must understand what squirting is and how it differs from other forms of pleasure.

Squirting is the expulsion of clear, warm fluid through the urethra, usually during intense sexual stimulation—most often involving the G-spot. It can be a little or a lot, with or without orgasm. It’s not a systematic phenomenon and varies widely among women.

Squirting vs. Female Ejaculation

The terms “squirting” and “female ejaculation” are often confused. Here are the key differences:

  • Female ejaculation refers to a small release of whitish liquid from the Skene’s glands, often described as the female prostate.
  • Squirting involves a larger expulsion of clear, watery fluid from the urethra.

Both can happen together or separately. Scientific studies (though limited) confirm that squirting fluid may contain traces of urea but is not simply urine.

What matters most is understanding that squirting is a natural physiological response, one that depends not just on technique but also on a woman’s emotional and physical readiness.

So yes—your technique matters, but so does her psychological state.

Anatomy of Pleasure: Understanding the Female Body

To support female ejaculation, one must understand the zones involved in this response. This means knowing how the body works, and acting with precision, gentleness, and patience.

The G-Spot

The famous G-spot (or G-zone) is located about 3 to 5 cm inside the vagina, on the anterior wall (facing the belly). It’s not a tiny button, but a spongy area that swells with stimulation and becomes highly sensitive.

Proper stimulation—progressive, rhythmic, and attuned—can trigger powerful sensations that lead to orgasm or squirting.

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Skene’s Glands

These small glands sit around the urethra and secrete the liquid involved in female ejaculation. They can release a small amount (classic ejaculation) or a larger volume (squirting).

Other Areas Not to Overlook

  • The clitoris, though not directly involved in squirting, can amplify arousal and sensations.
  • The perineum (the area between the vagina and anus) also plays a role in helping muscles relax, which is essential for letting go.

Having this anatomical understanding allows you to adapt your actions, avoid discomfort, and create pleasurable and respectful stimulation.

What Conditions Help a Woman Squirt?

Squirting isn’t guaranteed. It depends on several combined factors:

1. A Safe and Trusting Environment

A woman can’t let go unless she feels safe. Trust in her partner is crucial. She must be able to express herself freely, set boundaries, and never feel judged.

2. Physical and Emotional Release

Squirting is often blocked by a subconscious fear of urination. Many women tighten their pelvic muscles when pressure builds. It’s important to normalize the sensation and remind her there’s nothing shameful about it.

3. A Relaxed, Receptive Body

Ideal conditions include:

  • Proper hydration
  • Low stress
  • No external distractions

Certain positions improve G-spot access—such as lying on the back, legs open or bent.

4. Gradual and Targeted Stimulation

Rushing can ruin everything. Instead:

  • Start with foreplay, kissing, and deep relaxation
  • Move to G-spot stimulation using fingers or curved toys
  • Keep a steady, firm but gentle rhythm

Step-by-Step: How to Encourage Female Ejaculation

Here’s a detailed guide to support a woman through the squirting process:

Step 1: Set the Mood

  • Choose a stress-free moment
  • Lay down towels or absorbent pads
  • Use soft lighting and soothing music

Step 2: Relax and Arouse

  • Begin with kisses, caresses, breathing together
  • Stimulate the clitoris gently to awaken pleasure
  • Massage the lower belly, inner thighs, and perineum

Step 3: Access the G-Spot

  • Insert one or two fingers, palm facing up
  • Use a “come here” motion
  • Slowly increase pressure
  • Pay close attention to her reactions

Step 4: Maintain the Rhythm

When she’s close to squirting, she may feel:

  • A strong urge to pee
  • A wave of internal heat
  • A tension in her abdomen or pelvis

Do not stop unless she asks. Encourage her to breathe and, if she wants, gently push with her pelvic muscles.

Step 5: Support the Release

The moment of squirting can be:

  • Noisy or quiet
  • Energetic or soft
  • With or without orgasm

Don’t interrupt the moment. Stay present, tender, and emotionally available as she comes down from the peak.

(If you’re a woman wanting to learn how to squirt solo, click here >>)

What a Woman Feels When She Squirts

Sensations differ, but often include:

  • An intense emotional release, like an adrenaline rush
  • Warmth, relaxation, and euphoria
  • Laughter, tears, or quietness
  • Mild muscular fatigue, like post-exercise

Some women feel this as deeply emotional, others as purely physical. In either case, respecting her personal experience is essential.

Don’t treat her like a sideshow—it can create emotional blocks.

As for what a man might feel when he helps his partner squirt? A deep sense of pride and satisfaction in knowing he gave her that experience.

And yes—squirting women are often multi-orgasmic.

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What You Should Absolutely Avoid

  • Pushing if she’s not into it—consent comes first
  • Treating squirting like a performance goal
  • Laughing or reacting awkwardly—it can cause lasting shame
  • Using rough or painful movements—always be gentle

This is not about “making her squirt at all costs,” but inviting a fun, pressure-free discovery.

Busting the Myths

  • “It’s urine” → False. It’s not pure urine—it’s different.
  • “No squirting = no pleasure” → False. Completely untrue.
  • “A real woman squirts” → Wrong. That’s toxic pressure.
  • Squirting is natural, but not mandatory.
  • Every woman’s body is unique.

The Partner’s Role: Kindness, Listening, and Patience

The partner’s job is key:

  • Create a pressure-free zone
  • Observe and respond to her cues
  • Let go of expectations
  • Accept that it won’t always happen—and that’s okay

Good sex is based on trust, authenticity, and adaptability—not fixed results.

Final Thoughts: Respect Over Results

Helping a woman squirt is possible—but it should never become a rule or a must-do. It’s an intimate, emotional, personal part of sexuality.

With active listening, patience, respect for rhythm, and open communication, you can create the right space for it to happen. But the real beauty is in the journey itself: discovering her body, sharing joy, and deepening your connection.

Once again—it depends greatly on the woman. As men, our role is to reassure, encourage, and stimulate correctly. The rest is up to her.

And yes—a woman can train herself to squirt, even solo, through masturbation. In fact, most women discover this capacity later in life.

 

Your dating coach,

Fabrice Julien

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Female Ejaculation: Understand, Feel and Explore Squirting Without Shame

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How can you learn to squirt? How does a woman ejaculate? Because yes, a woman can become a “squirter.”

Female ejaculation, also called “squirting,” remains a fascinating subject—often surrounded by mystery, myths, and taboos. Yet more and more women are seeking to understand this phenomenon and experience it through personal exploration, self-awareness, and pleasure.

In this comprehensive article, we’ll break down what female ejaculation really is, how it works, what it feels like, and how to encourage its occurrence. All of this will be approached without pressure or judgment, with kindness and deep respect for each body.

We’ll answer most questions—including: can you become a squirter?

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What Is Female Ejaculation?

Female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluid from the urethra during an orgasm or intense stimulation, generally focused around the G-spot. However, it’s also possible to squirt through clitoral masturbation. The phenomenon may or may not be accompanied by orgasm, and it’s often described as an intense, liberating, and deeply emotional experience.

Female Ejaculation vs. Squirting: What’s the Difference?

There are two often-confused types of female fluid release:

  • True female ejaculation: a small amount of whitish fluid secreted by the Skene’s glands, located near the urethra. It’s more discreet—and it’s not urine.
  • Squirting: a larger expulsion of clear fluid, sometimes spectacular, also released through the urethra.

Both are completely natural and not mutually exclusive. Some women may experience one, the other, both, or neither—without that affecting their sexual fulfillment in any way.

Where Does the Fluid Come From? Is It Urine?

This is a frequent and legitimate question: is it urine or not?

Studies show that fluid released during squirting may contain traces of urea and creatinine (substances found in urine), but it is mostly made up of water. It’s believed to come from the paraurethral glands, also called Skene’s glands, often thought to be the female equivalent of the prostate.

So no—it’s not pure urine, even though it travels through the urethra and may mix slightly. Women’s bodies react differently, and this process is still not fully understood. What is certain is that it’s not an accident or a loss of control, but a natural physiological mechanism.

The Anatomy of Pleasure: Understanding the Body to Better Explore It

To encourage female ejaculation, it’s essential to know the body well—especially the G-spot, which is often misunderstood.

The G-Spot: A Key Zone

The G-spot isn’t a magical button—it’s a spongy area located on the anterior vaginal wall, about 3 to 5 cm inside. It is rich in nerve endings and, when stimulated, it can swell and produce deep pleasure, sometimes triggering ejaculation.

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The Skene’s Glands

Located around the urethra, these glands secrete the fluid associated with female ejaculation. While little-known, they play a central role in the squirting process.

What Does It Feel Like to Squirt?

Sensations vary widely from one woman to another. Some describe it as a wave of intense warmth, a powerful peak of pleasure, or a deeply physical and emotional release.

Others say they feel like they need to urinate just before it happens—sometimes causing embarrassment or hesitation. In fact, that sensation often signals the body is ready to release fluid.

Many women describe it as a state of total surrender, even a mild trance, with orgasms deeper than clitoral ones. Some don’t experience a traditional orgasm but instead a strong emotional release, extreme relaxation, or even… tears.

In short, there is no “right” or “wrong” way to experience female ejaculation. It’s a unique and personal event for each woman.

Most women I’ve spoken with say they feel more complete, deeper orgasms after learning to squirt. Many also say they became multi-orgasmic through the experience.

(Oh—and if you’re a man and want to learn how to help your partner squirt, click here >>)

Can All Women Ejaculate?

The answer is: maybe. All women share similar anatomy, but that doesn’t guarantee a squirting experience. Many factors influence this ability:

  • Mental state (relaxation, trust, emotional letting go)
  • Psychological blocks (fear of peeing, shame, tension)
  • Type of stimulation
  • Past sexual experiences
  • Whether or not she has Skene’s glands (most women—about 99%—do)

Some women may never experience it, and that’s totally okay—even if it feels disappointing. It’s not a goal, but a possibility to explore.

The real frustration happens when a woman wants to experience it but can’t—either due to inadequate stimulation from a partner, or because she struggles to fully let go.

Many women say becoming a “fountain” revolutionized their sex life. But there’s absolutely no obligation.

How to Encourage Female Ejaculation: Practical Tips

Here are several steps and tips to create the right conditions:

1. Create a Safe, Relaxing Environment

  • Quiet, stress-free surroundings
  • Alone or with a trusted partner
  • Soft music, dim lights, absorbent sheets if needed

2. Hydrate and Prepare Mentally

  • Drink water before exploration (the fluid is mostly water)
  • Accept the idea that the feeling of “needing to pee” is normal
  • Go to the bathroom beforehand to reassure yourself and avoid confusion

3. Use Lubricant

Even if natural lubrication is enough, a water-based lubricant can make stimulation smoother and more comfortable.

4. Gently Stimulate the G-Spot

  • Insert one or two fingers, curled upward (toward the pubic bone)
  • Use a “come here” or circular motion
  • Gradually increase pressure—never be rough
  • Combine with clitoral stimulation if desired

Some women also use tools like G-spot vibrators or curved stimulators to target the area better.

5. Breathe Deeply and Let Go

Breathing is a powerful ally. Deep inhalations and slow exhalations help relax the pelvic floor and heighten sensations.

Some women will find it easier than others to reach squirting. They may have a breakthrough one day—and then find it easier in the future, especially with a partner. That’s why it can help to practice solo first through mindful masturbation.

Exploring It as a Couple

  • Communicate openly: share your desires and fears
  • Be patient and respectful—it can take time
  • Try positions that facilitate access: lying on the back with knees bent, or doggy style with stimulation from behind
  • Use fingers or toys while carefully watching your partner’s reactions

The partner’s role is to create emotional safety, enabling surrender. A good partner will not only stimulate well, but make sure you feel at ease, unjudged, and confident. Support and encouragement are key.

Common Mental Blocks

  • Fear of losing control
  • Shame about possibly urinating
  • Limiting beliefs (“It’s not clean,” “It’s not feminine”)

It’s essential to break these taboos. Female ejaculation is not dirty, not fake, and not shameful. It’s a real, natural, and variable phenomenon.

The Benefits of Squirting

  • Discovering new zones of pleasure
  • Deepened body awareness
  • Intense emotional and sensory release
  • Stronger connection with a partner
  • Endorphin boost and muscular relaxation

Some women even report reduced menstrual tension or pain thanks to this type of pelvic stimulation.

Also, your boyfriend may feel proud to be the one who helped you squirt—especially if he’s the first. Many men enjoy feeling sexually special.

It’s Not a Performance, It’s an Option

It’s crucial to remember: squirting is not something to achieve at all costs. It doesn’t make a woman “better in bed” or make sex more “successful.” Female pleasure includes clitoral, vaginal, emotional, mental stimulation—and more.

To become a better lover, you can also explore things like expressing yourself more freely, giving better oral sex, moving better during intimacy…

Actually, it’s a bit like men: they can ejaculate, have dry orgasms, ejaculate without real pleasure, etc. It’s the same for women. You can enjoy sex with or without squirting. We’re not so different after all!

Body exploration should always be a personal choice, guided by curiosity, kindness, and a desire for deeper self-knowledge.

Final Thoughts

Female ejaculation—whether subtle or abundant—is a natural, complex, and beautiful phenomenon. It’s neither mandatory nor reserved for a select few. With gentleness, listening, and a bit of curiosity, it is possible to experience it… or not.

The essential thing remains the same: feeling free in your body, your pleasure, and your sexuality.

And yes, I encourage you to explore it—for your own sexual growth, so you won’t one day look back with regret.

 

Your dating coach,

Fabrice Julien

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SPU & DG : How to approach women in the street (very direct and natural way) ?

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“All true life is encounter”. Martin Buber

 

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Forget what you thought you knew about the day game (DG). This book is a new challenge for me, a new opportunity for you .

Here I offer you a guide for daytime game, an art that is being lost these days. (Fuck this shit, I want to believe that’s how my grandparents met, but I think it was more or less at their job. In short, we more or less all agree that it’s super romantic. Do you dream of meeting your wife on the street ?)

Daytime pickup is an art that I relatively neglected for a while. I devoted myself thoroughly to night pickup and online game but I only occasionally practiced street pick-up (SPU).

Then, when I moved from Aix-en-Provence to live in Lyon (France), I met a group of really nice wingmen. And among them, I made a great friend, Kent, who practiced street pickup (SPU) at high doses! We did a lot of SPU and DG together!

What I am offering you here is the synthesis of what my mentors and my wingmen have taught me , as well as what I have experienced in the field and which I in turn teach today to people I coache daygame. Value = 97$ per hour.

I do not claim to hold the ultimate knowledge, nor that what I offer is the ONLY way to seduce during the day. There are dozens of techniques for flirting during the day. I only claim that what I propose to you is a method that gives interesting results .

If you want to apply my advice, do it thoroughly. If you decided to pick only two or three things here and there, the improvement in your game would be minimal. I really advise you to live the thing thoroughly for a while, like a real lifestyle!

If you want to use this book to get into my mind and answer your questions about women, do so. A little in the spirit of The (inconvenient) truth about male/female relationships , I promised myself here to be very direct in my remarks. May this book give you as much mojo as my previous one.

I want to respect two strict rules in this book:
– writing what I say and…
– saying what I do in real life.

You won’t find any intellectual masturbation here (or very little). Indeed, it is important for me that my advice is applicable by you quickly!

How will you know if your game is improving? You will have success with younger, more beautiful women, faster and with less effort.

You will see your blocking points disappear one after the other. If you couldn’t approach, you will approach. If you couldn’t take a number, you will take numbers. If you couldn’t see the girls again and fuck them, you will see the girls again and fuck them. In short, you will move forward!

Admittedly, the game is not just about knowing what to do when talking to a girl to fuck her . There are in the game all these notions of self-connection and personal development which are important. But I think I’ve already covered enough of these topics on my blog: here, I’m mainly going to talk about the part where you interact with the girl in daytime pickup.

So I’m not going to talk too much about the passive game (if necessary, refer to my other books): play sports, eat well, dress well, earn money, have an interesting social circle, watch less TV, play less video games, have hobbies that make you vibrate and feel alive, etc. Even if by saying that I will not talk about it, I have necessarily just talked about it J

What is the game for ?

The game was created by men to meet the ancestral need “how to have sex with beautiful women”. It’s logical, it’s studied, it’s documented.

Women, who are not quite like us (though not quite different either), have never really been studied from this angle before us. [I make a remark here because I believe that some secret services like CIA or KGB had looked into the subject.]

Before, when we flirted, there was only the law of nature: are we beautiful? do we have resources? Where are you from birth on the scale of seduction?

But pick-up artists have broken the code of seduction and nature had not foreseen it.

A good player or a PUA can see the matrix. Just as a hacker can enter secure servers where he shouldn’t be… a good player can enter vaginas that are “too good for him” theoretically.

Women are not ready to accept that. That’s why it pisses feminists off so much. They feel like they’re being manipulated…even though they’re not being manipulated. We just know what to say or what to do to make them react positively to us. And we do not hesitate to use it !

But, like anything that works and empowers, it’s highly addictive. It’s very addictive to flirt, it’s very addictive to fuck, etc.

Your identity changes when you blame yourself for letting all those girls go. But remember that before you opened your eyes, you were blind.

Realizing that you are not doing the right thing and that it could be otherwise is the first step!

And then there is the ego. Because there will always be a better player than you. Must accept it.

Don’t talk negatively to yourself. Don’t say “I’m afraid!” Nor “I suck!” Don’t be hard with yourself, the game is hard in itself! And you’re one of the few guys brave enough to do it. So congratulations!

What is pickup?

Pickup is not simply looking for girls with whom there is a good feeling . Certainly, each “no” brings you closer to a “yes”. Certainly, by playing on the numbers, you will find your happiness.

(After all, it’s a law of the universe: when you’re looking for an apartment, you visit several, when you want to publish a manuscript, you send to several publishing houses, when you want a job, you send a lot resumes to lots of employers, etc.)

Playing on big numbers, OK. But pickup is also and above all optimizing your chances. Make clean approaches. And then, it’s spreading happiness and giving love. The goal shouldn’t just be to get laid. You have to try to make the chicks AND your cock happy.

And if you want to make these magical encounters? You don’t necessarily need to have an extraordinary physical appearance (your value will essentially be communicated by the fact that you’re ballsy), you don’t necessarily need to be rich (when you’re seen on the street, people don’t know your salary), or even having friends or a big social circle (you’ll just be you on the field, with your dick and your brain).

You have to motivate yourself to put one foot in front of the other… and to approach.

May this book be more than a book: an incantation. A voodoo energy pushing you towards the unknown. Your first step into the unknown J Daytime flirting allows you to meet very pretty girls who are healthy in body and mind (who don’t go out drunk in clubs every night, for example).

Dating apps are both a chance because you can fuck a lot with them. But they are also an excuse not to go on the REAL field, swiping from your sofa often means letting an algorithm lower your self-esteem, and finally… do nothing! I’ve seen a lot of guys interested by SPU but in the end never get started because “yeah, but now I’m talking to a girl on Tinder so I’m not going to approach a stranger in the street, it wouldn’t be cool for her”.

I would end by recalling that there are apps like Happn whose concept is to find the people we saw on the street who we liked. Might as well go see them directly, right?

Day game vs Night game

Daygame and night pickup are very different disciplines (I’ll come back to this but for me the night is much more superficial, based on appearances, intimidating for some).

But the two disciplines also have things in common.

*You have to stop a girl and this move should always be done in a masculine, manly, dominant way for best results and for you to look at yourself in the mirror with pride afterwards (even if you don’t get the girl’s number).

*You must always, if possible quickly, make it clear to the girl that you are interested in her. There is a progression that must be made between the meeting and sex with a woman. You have to win your reality over the girl’s mind.

*You will need to see her again to escalate to sex. The meeting will start calmly and then it will increase crescendo in intensity. You have to sort of hold way over her mentally (and physically but always be respectful and a gentleman) right down to sex.

*If you don’t have sex the day or night of the date, you should try to kiss her on the first date and fuck her on the second. The kiss on the mouth is useful because if it is accepted it means “OK, I am sexually attracted to you too”. But that’s all. [Here I specify that in the night gaùe; a kissclose has less value than during the day anyway, because of the alcohol and the light – festive atmosphere]. Kissing girls or taking numbers, we don’t care, we want to fuck !

Your goal shouldn’t be to pick up numbers or to kiss girls. Aim further. Be ambitious. Life has so many surprises and improbable things in store for us when we provoke our luck. We provoke our destiny, it’s up to us to make things happen.

*However, don’t expect 100% success. You need to be in the game more than in the stakes because the reality of dating can be brutal. After a few months of practice, you can hope to take the numbers of between 10 and 20% of the girls you approach.

Why not 100%? Because, when you approach a girl, there is always the “risk” that she is in a relationship and faithful, that she is homosexual, that she has herpes, etc. What about women who aren’t interested? It doesn’t matter, you will have given them a smile by giving them a compliment!

*When you’ve hooked up with a girl you like, you can calm down a little (even if I don’t advise you to stop pickup as soon as you’ve met an interesting girl… in order to avoid love obsession , the famous one itis).

Approach, meet, bond and ask on dates. Be serious and disciplined in your work on yourself and you will get dates.

*You will in no way waste your time because SPU is extremely formative. Already, you will improve in seduction. But since it’s ruthless, you will really improve A LOT, confront your fears and grow your mind. Your level of communication and your self-confidence will increase enormously and it will reflect on all areas of your life (work, family, etc.)

*You will undoubtedly experience incredible things for ordinary mortals on the ground, in any case, I wish you so. You will be able to take on challenges. But even if you get laid, if you have a sex-bomb in your bed, it doesn’t mean anything at all.

Even when you get a girl who refused to sleep with a celebrity (it happened to me), it does not mean that you are better, smarter or more beautiful than this star. That doesn’t mean she didn’t regret her decision afterwards. It doesn’t mean anything.

The game is a game that follows the rules of the universe. Chance, luck, destiny, exciting subjects that have a lot to do with ours… So, stay humble and modest so as not to turn the god of the Game against you. Respect the game and it will be loyal to you. Betray him and you will pay it dearly!

Apply only 50% of what I tell you and you will be better than 98% of the guys outside.

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“What you encounter in life is destiny. The way one meets it is through personal effort.” Sathya Sai Baba

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How to be good in bed (for a woman)?

the good lovers manual for women

Looking for how to be a good lover? How to be a good woman ? How to be good in bed? The best mistress ?

Hi everyone,

the good lovers manual

Who am I to write this book on how to be a good lover?

I am Fabrice Julien, coach and author, expert in sexuality since 2010.

I have a successful YouTube channel about sexuality.

I have slept with more than 350 women whose desires and pleasures I have listened to.

And I’m already the author of The awesome lover’s manual (sex guide for men) and Tuto X (video training for men and women with porn actress).

The guide to be good in bed is a training course that will give you advice on how to get to know a woman’s body better, how to finger her better, how to lick her better, how to fuck her better, etc. Thanks to this training, you will give many more orgasms!

Through this eBook, you will discover my best techniques to make a woman come. Women will be much more satisfied in bed and you will ask for more!

The Tuto X is a huge project shot with two X actresses (Emma Klein and Natacha Guapa) and two actors (James Klein and Joss Lescaf) and with the participation of a sexuality expert.

It tells you how to have good sex in real life, for two (mostly for two but also for more)… it’s a video training with real demonstrations and everything.

With this book, I wanted to make the guide of the good leg for women.

 

The purpose of the Good Lover’s Guide

My goal in writing this eBook is for you to have amazing sexual experiences and for you to allow your lover(s) to have them too.

Are you looking for how to be a good mistress in bed? How to become that woman who makes men fantasize? The one who makes guys go crazy with pleasure? The one they want to call back as soon as she leaves after a good sex ? The one they will never cheat on because she fulfills them perfectly?

With this reading, you will become a sex bomb! A great lover! No matter how good you look or how shy you are now.

Many women have incredible sexual potential but don’t dare to reveal it because they don’t know what to do about it. That’s a shame!

Knowing what to do with a man will make it easier for you to get started! You will dare to let go more too. You’ll give your partners more pleasure (you’ll give them pleasure) and you’ll get more pleasure too! Unleash your potential to be the best in bed!

The content of the good lover’s guide

Do you want to be the best in bed? Do you want to be confident in bed?

Here I will reveal the mindset that leads to good sex. We will also talk about the preparations for good sex. Then I’ll talk about the actual sexual practices. Finally, I’ll talk about more advanced topics like getting a good male booty call or having a threesome with two guys.

It is a complete program that awaits us in this book. I really felt I had to write this book because the sex education we get in high school doesn’t really help us to cum more and make us cum. It teaches us to put a condom on a banana but that’s about it…

It’s not always by listening to your girlfriends that you find good advice on sexuality. In fact, if they themselves are not great lovers, it is difficult for them to inform you correctly. Besides, some of them also like to pretend that they don’t know that much about sex… And there are so many false beliefs about sex…

the good lovers manual

Why the Good Lover’s Guide?

How to be a pro in bed? How to be successful in bed? What is a good fuck for a woman? I don’t like to talk too much in terms of performance, the idea is not to perform or anything but to be so natural and enjoy it so much, while knowing exactly what to do, that you will be a woman who makes good love and maybe even become the best fuck of her life…

Do you realize what it is to be the best sex of his life? He will think about you often, he will jerk off thinking about you, etc.

And you don’t have to be a tigress or a beast that bites and scratches! Too many guides are written by women who haven’t bothered to ask men.

I swear, while researching for this book, I read some amazing stuff (and watched some amazing YouTube videos). There are a lot of pseudo-experts who think they are in a romantic comedy and give advice that is useless or even counterproductive in real life.

There are a lot of misconceptions about male psychology out there… and the worst part is that women sometimes pay to hear the dumbest shit (I think the worst part is the women’s magazines)! This only reinforces them. I’m sick of it! So I’m trying to make you better understand men, the society that surrounds you and… yourself. We will also talk a lot about how you can have more pleasure and better orgasms.

Of course, this is not about giving a selfish male opinion that would force you to do things you don’t want to do, because of the patriarchal obligation. It’s about teaching you how to give more pleasure in bed, but also how to receive pleasure better and how to communicate better with your man to create a real deep bond.

And, no, you don’t have to be super thin, with huge breasts and a squat buttock to be a great sex machine. You don’t have to be a magazine figure to give pleasure to a man and to deserve to receive it. Let’s be clear, being pretty is cool but it’s not a prerequisite: every woman is entitled to it!

With The Good Lover’s Guide, I tried to make the book that I would like all my lovers to have read. But I also interviewed several other men and the best lovers in my life so that the content would not be too subjective.

This is a guide that I want to be simple and effective on how to have good sex. Good for yourself, and good for the other person.

So if you’re the kind of person who compensates for your sexual despair with excessive shopping, food, chocolate, or alcohol, or by overworking, know that this will revolutionize your sex life. You don’t need female viagra, chances are you’re not sick, frigid or anorgasmic… I think you just need someone to tell you the truth. And to help you get rid of all that pent-up sexual energy, all that desire that’s clogging you up!

I want you to know that I’m going to avoid intellectual masturbation and only talk about things that you can apply in real life and that will make a real difference. Things that very few people dare to talk about. We suffer, I think, from a pleasure deficit in our country. And it’s essentially a cultural problem.

If you are a woman who is hungry for sex, pleasure and orgasms, the following should delight you.

How the guide benefits you

Through good sex, you can connect more with each other.

Through good sex, you can get a man addicted to you. Yes, here you will find tips on how to keep a man through sex. So this guide can help you KEEP but also FIND a man.

With good sex, you will feel good about yourself! You will be in better mental and physical health! Good sex is good for your health.

Knowing that you are a good lover will increase your confidence level! This will affect all areas of your life (work life, personal life, etc.)

Many girls are afraid to sleep with a guy they like because they are afraid of not being good enough or because they are afraid of being judged. Others are tired of faking it. If you’ve been doing it before, that’s about to change!

Besides… your partner will thank you!

Through good sex and the exploration it entails, you’ll get to know yourself better too.

Are you skeptical? What do you have to lose? A few dollars and hours of reading… In fact, you have nothing to lose, everything to gain, I tell you honestly. Do you want to spend your whole life missing out on good sex? Never really get properly laid? Do you want to deprive yourself of all those opportunities for deep enjoyment that life offers to those who know how to seize them? Do you want to miss out on making that powerful connection with a man?

Change your mindset

The truth is that very few women are really good in bed. I know this is very hard to hear but most girls are pretty bad in bed anyway.

I know you haven’t been told this often because we men are all about protecting the female ego (besides, I’m sure you rarely tell a guy when he’s bad in bed, right?).

But the reality of my experiences and those of my coaches is that very few women are really good in bed. What’s worse is that many are convinced they are great lovers… but they’re not!

I’ve seen too many girls who have never had an orgasm or for whom having an orgasm with a guy was the event of the year.

A lot of girls think that it’s good enough to let a man come inside of them, that they’re already lucky that they let themselves be penetrated, and that they don’t need to make any extra effort.

There are also women who have read some bullshit advice and do weird practices thinking that we like it or that it makes them look cool… when it doesn’t. Or who think they’re in a porno and are surprised they don’t cum like the actresses (who often overdo it).

This is a very bad mindset. That’s not how you’re going to be the best sex of his life! Besides, (coincidence?), for many girls, sex is mostly average. They tell themselves that “that’s life” or that it’s necessarily the guy’s fault. Hmm, wrong!

From a male point of view, there are many women who are pleasant to fuck because they are sexy, but it stops there. But being sexy is not everything (especially once the “new body effect” is over). And, for the record, these are not the most beautiful girls in my life who left me with the strongest sexual memories either.

I will, of course, reveal here what makes me remember some women more than others.

Benefits for your relationship

If you think that just being ” decent ” in bed is a noble goal, if you think that the quality of sex is not your responsibility, think twice! We live in a competitive environment! And we are in the age of gender equality and female sexual liberation.

56% of men who have extramarital affairs say they are in love with their wives. 40% of married men have had or will have extramarital affairs. 54% of people will never know that their partner has cheated on them. 30% of users on dating sites are not single, and 38% of people on these sites are looking for a one-night stand (source: IFOP).

Do you know the number 1 reason why people cheat on their spouse? It’s chronic dissatisfaction in bed.

If you’ve been cheated on or dumped, if your boyfriend hasn’t been fucking you for a long time, if you’re not sexually active anymore, it’s probably because you’ve got some things to learn in this area. I’m sorry, but I’ve decided to speak frankly to you, not to take the gloves off and to reveal all the truths.

If you’re more interested in being talked down to, or bullshitted, go read a women’s magazine or watch some of the chicks who act all smart on YouTube but have no real experience! If you want the hard truth, read on.

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Let’s get started!

Yes, you will make him go crazy with desire. Yes, you can make him tremble with pleasure. Yes, you can be the lover he secretly dreams of without daring to ask you. Yes, you can be the best lover of his life, enterprising, daring and sensual…

What about oral sex? How do you put a cock in your mouth? Does it hurt to suck? Is there a risk of choking? Of having jaw cramps? We’ll talk about this in detail, of course. As well as hand jobs, penetration, female ejaculation, etc.

This guide will be really comprehensive. I’m going to give you lots of tips and tricks, sex tips, etc.

Let’s go for the good lover’s guide!

I sincerely hope you enjoy these sex tips… because I put a lot of effort into writing this book for you. I contacted the best sex partners I’ve ever had, I asked my buddies about their best sex partners, I synthesized hours and hours of coaching, I had to read a lot of crap about female sexuality (very few books are good), I interviewed sex experts, porn actors and actresses, etc. I really wanted to write THE book for you. I really wanted to write THE best book on female sexuality. So I gave myself the means to do it. Will you take the steps to become this incredible lover?

Click here and become THE BEST version of yourself in bed

Your sexuality coach who wishes you to become a queen of sex,

Fabrice Julien

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How to get harder and last longer in bed

How to get hard? How to get a big boner? So, how to have a good hard-on? How to get it very hard? How to get a stronger erection? Here, I’m going to talk to you, first, about how to have a hard-on. How to get hard to the maximum? How to get a better boner ? And how to get a harder erection? How to get a big powerful erection? How to fix erection problems?

In a second part, I will talk to you about how to last longer in bed. How to last longer in bed? How not ejaculating too quickly? So, how not to come too quickly? How to stop being a premature ejaculator and put an end to rapid ejaculation? How to fix ejaculation problems? And how to say stop to premature ejaculation? What to do to fight against premature ejaculation? How to put an end to sexual precocity? How to fix premature ejaculation? And how to delay ejaculation?

In a third part, I will talk to you about ejaculatory control and how you can control your ejaculation. If you are interested in the subject of controlling your cock and getting a hard on command, the following should please you immensely! Say goodbye to male impotence (also known as erectile dysfunction)…you’ll no longer be an impotent man with these 20 tips, tricks and techniques.

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How to get it hard and keep it long?

Ejaculation disorders are a taboo, delicate subject, but which concerns many men (often young people because, in general, controlling ejaculation becomes easier with age, but not only!) erections, meanwhile, are also a taboo subject, very sensitive, which concerns many men… but especially once the quarantine is over (again, not only!)

It’s really a sensitive subject talking about the power of his penis, his erection and his ejaculation… because loss of erection rhymes for many people with loss of virility (we also speak of “male impotence “).

Biologically, we are not here to fuck during a long time, nor to perform like porn actors: we are on earth to reproduce ourselves, getting a hard-on, ejaculating, and that’s it. The notion of taking pleasure, giving pleasure to our partner, holding on for a long time and giving a woman an orgasm is relatively new on the scale of humanity. Nevertheless, we all feel a big pressure, and today being a man, a real, powerful, virile, rhymes with having a very hard erection that lasts a long time.

Fortunately, getting a hard boner on demand can be learned.

Why would you want to have longer reports? Why would you want to have hard sex? First of all, to get more pleasure yourself but also so that the girl you’re sleeping with can have time to orgasm in bed with you.

In short, lasting longer is good for everyone! So no stress, you are really brave and generous for seeking information on this hot topic.

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What is the “How to bend hard and long” program?

Discover here the program of the ebook “How to get hard erections and long in bed”.

The content of the guide and the solutions :

So, how to get hard and strong? How to get a big, very powerful erection and keep it? How to overcome erectile dysfunction or erectile dysfunction? And how to get very hard? How to get a good erection? How to get hard and have a big cumshot? All the tips and tricks in the first part of this ebook will help those who want to understand why they have these problems (psychological and physiological causes) and learn how to have a harder hard-on (ideally a big boner) and longer…

Premature ejaculator? Or just a guy who wants to know how to last a long time in bed? No matter. In the second part of the ebook, you will find techniques and advice to overcome rapid ejaculation, you will see how to stop being premature, how to be more enduring in bed, in addition to helping you to have it hard. I will give you solutions to no longer suffer from premature ejaculation, nor from rapid ejaculation and techniques to last longer in bed.

Every man is different so you will find over 20 potential solutions to your problem to find the one(s) that works best for you!

Want to have total control over your ejaculation? I’ll show you the way! Finally, in the third part, we will talk about ejaculatory control (sometimes called “injaculation” or “dry orgasm”). Sex-tao and Tantra can help you get a hard penis and maintain erection.

Here you will find tips, tricks, advice, techniques and exercises on the subject of “how to last longer in bed”.

Quick results and thorough work with this manual to put an end to quick ejaculation

Some will give you results quickly (there are solutions solutions to ensure immediately and without waiting, if you are in a hurry and you have to see a girl this evening, for example), others will take more time but will lay a solid and more stable foundation.

There are practices you can do alone and others with a partner. Why ? Because a girl who understands your problem and your difficulties will be more understanding, caring and forgiving. And know that she will be even more so if she has in front of her a voluntary man, motivated to get out of it. Who does not give up at the first failure and who gives himself the means to succeed.

No stress ! Any man who is motivated and invests in solving such a problem can succeed in overcoming it! Your girlfriend will be proud of you!

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Who am I to teach you how to get hard?

I am Fabrice Julien, coach and author, expert in sexuality since 2010.

I own the successful Youtube channel “Le Grivois” which talks about sex (more than 200’000 subscribers). I help men (and women) improving their sex lives. They call me the doctor of love.

I have slept with 350 women and many have called me “the hit of the century in bed”.

But it wasn’t always like this…

My story and my past as a premature ejaculator

The first times I made love, I lasted about 3 back and forth. I had a hard time getting past 3 minutes. It took me several weeks to pick up and flirt with a girl for just a few minutes, it sucked. I began to doubt and lose my confidence.

When I started sleeping with girls, I only lasted 3 or 4 strokes of the kidneys… and I suffered from it! It was stronger than me: I wanted to satisfy my partner but I couldn’t control my cock.

I know too well what it’s like to ruin sex with thoughts like “I hope I can last long enough”, “oh no, not already!” (Sentences that stress, in addition, and only feed the vicious circle).

Afterwards, I felt ashamed and a little selfish to finish so quickly. This prevented me from really taking full pleasure because I had pleasure in giving it… and so did she!

How I trained to learn to control my cock

Since I found it humiliating, and that girls did not want to see me again because of that, I decided to find out about the subject. I trained myself, I learned from ebooks and training videos. I also fucked a lot to practice what I was learning, which gave me more experience.

The challenge was not easy, to tell you the truth. It hurt my ego. Especially since this type of training has a bad reputation (it’s the kind of shit with which we are spammed in our emails). But it was definitely worth it. When I measure the progress made, I am very proud.

Today: I control my cock and my ejaculation

Today, accidents are rare, and sometimes I even last more than an hour with a cock so hard it looks like a piece of wood. Women regularly tell me that they have never seen this… especially since I am 33 years old. I feel so powerful when this happens to me… I wish it happened to you too! (Without drugs, products or medicines or anything like that, of course.)

Sex is an important pillar for the development of a man, as for a woman. And therefore for the development of a couple.

I wish every man to be able to fuck his girlfriend or his wife like a god and feel what it’s like when a woman looks at you with admiring eyes, like a real sex beast.

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Who is this ejaculatory control program for?

This program is for men who want to get harder, stay hard, quickly get a boner and more easily and last longer in bed. We also talk about those who have trouble “finishing”.

It is aimed at men who suffer from not having control over their cock and their ejaculation. And for those who want to enjoy more, longer, with a better erection! Even if you are not early or premature, that is to say, if you last more than 3 minutes, it still sucks. Sorry for not taking gloves, but it usually takes at least 10 to 30 minutes for a girl to enjoy. A good (third) leg lasts and is hard! 😉

If you are concerned, if you are sad, frustrated, desperate… or even depressed: know that I find it very noble and courageous to want to solve your problem, to take care of yourself (as well as your partner) and to want to take back your sex life in hand.

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Getting hard and not being premature : a problem to be solved so you’re not a helpless man

I understand that it’s a problem that haunts you to don’t get a hard-on or to come too quickly with a girl you like, and I intend to help you overcome this sexual anxiety. Even if you currently have few (or no) experience, even if you’re intimidated by the next girl you’re going to have sex with, even if it’s your first time sleeping together (or your first time at all), etc.

I’m thinking of all those men who feel handicapped, who aren’t getting the best lover in their girlfriends’ lives, who find it humiliating not to perform in bed… to all those who don’t dare sleeping with a woman because they tell themselves that they are not going to do well in bed, those who are afraid of losing their partner or being cheated on, those who “give” their wives to other men (threesomes or candaulism) not out of fantasy but so that she is finally satisfied…

This “How to Get Harder and Last Longer” guide can really change your life. Improve your erection, increase your erection! Say goodbye to precocity problems!

Imagine having a nice, long erection before you dive into reading this guide! It will soon be a reality! 😉

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Click here if you want to know more about this manual.

Your coach in seduction and sexuality,

Fabrice Julien

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How to get women witout pickup ?

how to get women without pick up

How to get women without pick up ? How to get women without effort?

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The absolute fantasy

It’s a bit of every man’s dream that I promise you here.

Imagine that women come to you to sleep with you. Let them offer themselves and even make efforts to seduce you to have your cock.

I don’t know any heterosexual man who wouldn’t feel like the king of the world in such a circumstance.

I lived it…

Well guess what? I experienced this. Yes me and my size (5ft57), me and my very banal physical appearance.

On my scale, yes, I live that. There are girls who contact me to sleep with me.

But even if none contacted me, I would know where to go to find a woman who wanted sex. You can relax, I have a secret!

I’m not going to lie

But first, I want to clarify that I’m not claiming I receive constant flows of girls who, every day, would come knocking on my door naked to suck my dick. No, that would be lying to you.

On the other hand, I can tell you that there are regularly (several times a month) women who make very explicit sexual advances to me by email or on social networks.

Some came from Bretagne or Blois just to sleep with me. So we can say that they were motivated! And I thank them for that…

The ability to fuck wherever and whenever you want

I can also certify that I am able to get laid almost whenever I want. Imagine that I am alone, single and idle: I know a lot of strategies for sleeping with women. Thanks to what I discovered, the uncertainty of being able to fuck or not in the future, sexual misery, is only a distant memory.

I can fuck or cum in a girl’s mouth about a week after I decide I want to fuck. And I say “one week” but I generaly need less time …

I see so many men who haven’t undressed a woman for months, sometimes for years… despite sometimes a lot of effort (they give flowers, they pay for a subscription on Tinder)!

Thanks to my method and especially to all these LIFE HACKS  that I propose to you here, forget sexual misery! Say hello to sexual satisfaction!

How do you no longer need to pickup and enjoy this famous sexual abundance?

I want you to be satisfied. You know it if you’ve been following me for a while on my Youtube channel: I’m not the kind of guy who make promises that I don’t keep. So you can expect something powerful in this book.

I’m not saying that all of the following will be easy to set up. Indeed, many men have mental barriers, blockages, which may prevent them from applying my advice at first. It is essential to open your mind and agree to think outside the box.

Here, we want to think differently from the competition, to act differently from the mass of other men. It is by thinking like this that we can have different results. The other guys find themselves begging women who make them struggle by pleasure. That’s not at all what I’m suggesting here. But to have access to this dark side of women, so that they show themselves with you in their most sexual light, you have to do otherwise.

What do you say?

Do you want to adopt one of the lifestyles (which I will reveal to you) to be supplied with women without having to flirt?
Do you want to know how to become a woman magnet?
How do you get them coming to you naturally, with a sexual intent?
Do you want to know the life hacks I’m going to tell you about that help you find women who are beautiful, hot and enthusiastic about having sex?

No longer need to beg or lie to make them let you give them orgasms? It can make some men dream, it is reality for others!

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No it’s not the perfume lol (Axe)

This is too GOOD

Most guys who live in the same reality as me, in sexual abundance, don’t share their discoveries because they want to keep the “loot” for themselves. Some have discovered one of the hacks I’m going to tell you about by chance and, because this sooooo good, don’t talk about it around them for fear of having to share it.

For my part, I have fucked more girls in 30 years (and it’s not over!) than 25 other men in their entire life. Indeed, men have on average 15 partners in their life. I’m over 400… and yes, I have a girlfriend! So I can afford to help my neighbor.

How did I find out about all these tips?

In my case, I discovered these little life hacks by testing ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING I could find, read and listen to, about flirting and seduction in more than 10 years. Even the craziest methods. I behaved like a real researcher and experienced almost everything.

I must say that when it comes to having an easy, fun, satisfying sex life, some of my research has led to dead ends (I’m thinking in particular of mind control) but others have turned out to be the gold bar (the 27 hacks to get women without pickup that you will find in this guide).

If you want to be sexually satisfied on demand, which I think is important for any man, you are reading the right guide. If it’s been a while since you’ve slept with a woman, you’re going to be in awe of the shortcuts I suggest you take.

Ooooh the judgments of people

I suspect that some people will try to make fun of this guide, just to show their virtue. For example, I know that Youtubers like to make fun of dating coaches. But hey, with over 10 million subscribers, they can give a damn about pickup because they activate the fame hack. That said, when we know that Norman or Cyprine hooked up his young subscribers after his shows, we can see that they are no better than us.

The end of seduction?

I am also sometimes asked if I am not afraid to sacrifice my business on seduction by teaching men how to fuck without pickup. I say no, I’m not afraid. I’m not afraid because it’s not the same thing! Let me clarify: sleeping with someone else’s wife in a swinger club, for example, is good… but it’s not the same as finding a girlfriend. So this is a complement that allows you to find sexual satisfaction but in no way a substitute for the deep process of personal development that you should undertake if you want to have a great girlfriend.

I teach you this so that you no longer suffer from sexual misery or frustration because I think the world would be much better if everyone, man and woman, had their fill.

In this guide, I’ll talk to you raw, I’ll talk to you real. Sensitive souls should refrain from reading me. It is not a guide for those who want to find love in a silly way or for those who live under the illusion of thinking that women are fragile little angels.

It’s a guide for clever guys who love sex, who want to give pleasure to women, who know that they are sexual beings (not objects), and who know that love, true love, will come when they have had a lot of sexual encounters (statistics).

Be sexually satisfied to find a great girlfriend

Thus, they will not make a default choice, guided by their sexual desert, when getting into a relationship, but a choice that really comes from their heart. Indeed, when you are not frustrated, you take more time to choose the woman of your life. Finally, we are more lucid to make the right choices and avoid disasters.

A lot of men get into a relationship because they’re not sure they can get sex any other way. I’ve seen so many men hooking up with shrews just to get some sex. They bitterly regretted it in the long run.

I want you to be in a relationship by choice, knowing that there are other ways to have sexual satisfaction.

For women, it’s not the same

Women are very (too) often solicited for sex. This annoys some, others make a business of it on Onlyfans to make ends meet. But what is certain is that men and women are not housed in the same boat when it comes to sex. For us, “normal” men it’s very complicated. There’s some sort of pussy embargo that’s driven up its value and makes a lot of guys go crazy to get a fuck even with a lousy chick!

A lot of guys are willing to pay $150 for restaurants to women they don’t even really like, just because they think there might be a way. Many work hard to earn a lot of money, or spend their time at the gym to build muscle, hoping it will help them for getting laid. But it doesn’t really work that way. There are plenty of good-looking guys who don’t fuck, plenty of guys with a great job who don’t fuck either.

The easiest solution? Knowing the hacks I’m going to tell you about 😉

Fab, who writes what the god of seduction tells him in his ear.

How to have women without flirting?

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Visit here the presentation page of this excellent guide!

To my knowledge, this concept does not exist anywhere else.

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Diary of a French PUA 4 : the diary of the training Cyprine

Hello !

I now have the pleasure to offer you to download and read Diary of a French PUA 4 for free.

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Introducing Diary of a French PUA 4

This is the diary of the training Cyprine, so these are adventures that happened while I was preparing my training in spring 2017.

This is a period during which I gave myself thoroughly in the game, and it paid off! You will discover how I made a foursome with 3 girls and an orgy with 4 women.

There’s also an instant fuckclose in street pick-up.

I also broke the record of the number of FC in the seduction community (13 with 15 girls in a month).

I managed to pick up girls on all terrains: Adopte, Tinder, Lovoo, Happn, Facebook, bar/nightclub, street …

There are adventures happening in Lyon, Aix-en-Provence and Tours!

I do not say that to boast. If I speak to you of all this it is to show you that it is possible, the goal here being to enlarge your field of possibilities and to destroy your limiting beliefs.

Everything is told in a tone kinda fun, light but didactic.

In addition, I propose a training in videos, the training Cyprine, in which I show you how I managed to do all that, I prove it to you too, and I teach you how you can do the same thing.

It is a training for beginners and experienced players.

Unheard of in the world of the game: the most complete and most transparent training to date…

 

Download The Diary of the Training Cyprine

I propose you to download the PDF file of the diary of the training Cyprine.

It is a document of about fifty pages, formatted with illustrations.

I offer it for free.

You can also find on my blog my Diary of a French PUA 1, 2 and 3.

Do not hesitate to discover the underground world of real pick-up artists! No taboo, no false modesty, only frank and bare reality.

Wishing you every success,

May the God of the Game be with you too!

Your virtual wingman,

Fabrice Julien