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How to please a girl?

How to please a girl? We’ll see that. How to please women? Yes Yes. How to please girls? I understood… How to please a woman? In short, we will see together what you need to know to understand how to please a girl you want to seduce.

How to please a girl

Pleasing a girl: Everything about your lifestyle

How to please a girl? Get a life.

Success attracts success. The mojo attracts women. That’s how it is, sometimes we are in a positive dynamic and we succeed and sometimes it is a little more windy.

If you’re in the depths of a depression, you’re unlikely to please women (their nurse side has limits). So, to please girls, I advise you to start by reading this article that explains how to regain your spirits.

To please women, play sports

Women generally like the idea that their man is athletic. You do not have to be an Apollo, but tell them that you play sports.

In addition, women love the idea that a guy can lead them to seventh heaven without being out of breath, so fitness is important to please women.

More than your physique, it is the image that you send back that is important.

If you take the example of Gainsbourg, he did not have an easy physique but he liked women. How to please a girl then?

Gainsbourg was intelligent, elegant, talented, famous, kinda rich… but, above all, he had a reputation. A sexy reputation! A reputation of libertine.

He had a reputation as a slugger and a big fool, who did more than half the job for him. Make yourself a reputation as a seductive guy (and so that women are interested in you – this is called preselection) or a reputation for great leg can help you please women.

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Take care of yourself

Taking care of yourself will never hurt women unless you become a really effeminate twink.

But, to a lesser extent, they like it because they hope that you will stay alive for as long as possible. The self-destructive side may be attractive, but, again, there are limits.

The healthier you eat, the cleaner you will be and the more successful you will be. You will notice a difference that is all the more significant if you are currently very far from this healthy lifestyle.

Do not overdo it: for that the neglected air can help you

As we said, you must not overdo it. Women do not like try too hard men. A slightly neglected hairstyle, if all else is fine, can even make you even more attractive.

It will give you an air of “I don’t give a shit” which can be very charming. Especially since many women like nonchalance.


How to please a girl: your attitude

How to please a girl? Look confident in some areas

How I have already explained, if you are not in the virtuous circle of success, you must enter it. Anglo-Saxons say “fake it until you make it” and that’s what you need to do to please women if you’re not a successful guy by the time you read me.

Without doing too much, you must appear more alpha, more confident, especially in certain areas (no need to broast all the time). Women love when a guy is expert in something.

Interested in gender relations

Still wondering how to please a girl? Talk to her about her or what interests her. Then, I’m not in her mind but it’s a safe bet that the girl you like likes to talk about gender relations, because it is a subject that fascinates women, that, the relations between men and women.

Do not hesitate to talk to women as often as possible and you will see that they like it, when we try to understand them and to please them.

Assume yourself as a man

Many women are fed up with these guys who do not assume they want to fuck. They do not like the sex-starved either, but they hate the guys with no balls.

So, assume yourself as a man, assume that you want her, that you like her, etc.

No need to wait for three appointments to kiss or to sleep with a chick !!!

Respect yourself

You think that by behaving like a stooge or a little poodle, this girl will end up liking you? Well no ! Respect yourself, even if you lose that girl. You have to be ready to lose a girl to win her.

Why ? Maybe she will say that you are finally a real guy who does not let himself be pissed off and that will please her. But even if she is not smart enough to get this information, at least the other girls will respect you in the future.


Do not smile all the time, for everything and for nothing. But smile, just without excesses. Smile, it will allow you to be loved.

Use sexy humor to make her laugh

It is often said that to please women, you have to make them laugh. Yes, but not no matter how! Do not be a jester. You have to make her laugh with sexy alpha humor. This same humor that often use men to women in movies and TV series.

The body language

To enter the virtuous circle faster: adopt a confident body language.

Do not get put in the friendzone

When I say that you must be a man who assumes: forget the strategy of doing friend-friend before showing your interest for chicks. This is a monumental mistake made by many men and that’s why I have writen Friendzone & Sexualization.

Be tactile

A good way to avoid the friendzone is to dare to touch her. I do not mean to put your hands in her ass but to make kinos on her forearm: only that will make you look more attractive to her.

Make a good impression

How to please a woman? It is of course better to make a good first impression, from the first 5 seconds when you talk to her.

Choose your first words, have a confident voice, a firm handshake, especially no shy eye contact, and hold yourself well.

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What message should you send after the first date?

What message should you send after the first date

What message should you send after the first date

Often, after a first date, the guys want to send a text to show the girl they liked her. Like if the chick needed that… no, but, man, she knows that your dick itches! Everyone knows, by the way…

The biggest mistake would be to send a shitty test after a first date. For example “I had a delicious time with you. You are a great girl, I hope you will agree to see me again”. It’s a needy, it’s cliché, it puts the girl on a pedestal, and so on.

So what should you do?

Hypothesis number 1: the first date was good

Well then? If the first date was good, you should not have to send her after a message telling her that you liked her. Assume when you are in front of her! If the first date was good, you should have (at least) kissed her and so it is she who should send you a text to tell you that she has enjoyed your proactive sexy attitude. You’re the prize, damn!

What, then, will you answer her, when she will recontact you to say that she enjoyed this fiery kiss? Well, there you will be able to propose to meet up again (you can even push to invite her directly to your place). Be careful, some chicks really wanted you to kiss or fuck them during the first date and will not contact you if you took no initiative… despite the fact that they liked you! You thought to be a romantic who takes his time, you actually looked like for a loser who without dick…

You can also, by text, bounce on things you talked about during the date… for example by making private jokes. It will create a complicity between you and the girl will be even warmer when you see her again!

About the timing, it is useless to make a false suspense. When she writes to you and you have the opportunity, answer her. If you are really a guy with a good lifestyle, it will not sound needy anyway… and the timing will be inevitably good! If, on the other hand, you have a bad game and a life of shit: start by making personal development to improve it and the rest will follow, I swear !


Hypothesis 2: you do not know if the date was good for her

In this case, I suggest waiting a little and… if she does not send a message, do it (maybe she is just shy) ! But this is the only case you have to send the first text after a date. Wait at least the next day or even one day more before sending something to make her react and show her that it’s up to her to move for you (in your head you’re a fucking alpha male). For example, “so, are you dead?” And then that’s all… If she does not answer or if she does not answer a constructive and positive thing, just forget about her! Protect your little heart !!!

Seriously, do not rock yourselves any illusion because there is 1 chance in 2 that she never answers (for example, if the date was bad for her but you did not understand that). I know that what I write can shock the sensitive souls of the naive, the inexperienced and the younger but it is the truth! Sometimes you believe that the chick had a good time but in fact she just pulled out her mask of politeness and does not intend to go any further with you. Why did not she say anything? Out of cowardice, she did not want you to get upset and taking the risk you hurt her, because of her education as a tight-ass bourgeois, what do I know?

So, how do you know if, in fact, she got pissed off or not? It must be seen whether she left early with a false excuse, if she showed no sign of interest, and so on. It must be understood that most of the chicks do not try to offend the guys. They will just say “yes” when you ask “we’ll meet again?” Sometimes they even go so far as saying to you “it was good, see you soon” but will never answer any of your messages again. It’s like that, it’s life… You have to desecrate the pussy!


Hypothesis number 3: the first wasn’t good

In that case, do not write the first one! I often saw girls joining me in my bed after a bad first date that they had shortened… then receiving a text from the guy who was trying to feed the conversation hoping to still shoot a spermatozoon. Their reaction of sluts? They openly made fun of him… I am not kidding! So avoid being humiliated by acting like a sex-starved, respect yourself!

Here is an excerpt from a story that is kinda old but is edifying: “To leave her first date of the evening, she pretended to have a headache (what an excuse). And, something like 1 hour later, the guy sent her a text “Are you feeling better?” How naive. Especially since she started to speak badly of him in front of me “well, he writes me not even an hour later, it must be a poor guy who has no other plans in his life, I did well dumping him”. Conclusions: do not believe everything they tell us AND sending a small word like that even if it is out of kindness comes down to humiliation. How sad !”

In fact, if the current is not well passed with a chick, why would you want to see her again? It just shows you do not have no women in your life… It communicates bad things. Failing to flatter your dick, at least heal your reputation and have a little self-love.




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How to have a girlfriend ?

How to get a girlfriend

Have the following questions ever touched your mind? “How to make out with a pretty girl? How to be a couple with a sexy girl? How can I find a really interesting girlfriend?”

First, why a couple with a girl? I mean, in high school there’s a social pressure “ah you’ve never kissed a girl ?!”, In college, it is the same “ah you have never had sex?” The worst is when your friends are guys who have success with chicks… it starts to itch in the panties !!!

So, my first advice is not to put pressure on yourself by absolutely trying to “depucleate” yourself. My second advice is to put all the chances on your side by listening to the suggestions I make in this article. The third is to tell you “fuck off, social pressure, I will have a girlfriend!”

1/ Is it necessary to wait patiently to please a girl or should one provoke his chance?

The answer may seem obvious. In France, it is almost impossible to make out with a girl without approaching her. To be able to “afford” to be passive in love, one would have to be fucking beautiful or very popular, etc.

In an open environment like the street, you have about 0 chance that a chick will take the first step towards you to tell you that she likes you and that she wants to know you better. In a closed environment, like in a high school or college, I would say that you have 1 in 5 chance that it happens to you. On the Internet, chicks feel less social pressure… so, it happens a little more often… I would say that you have 2 out of 5 chances to be approached.

But even if you are approached by a chick, will this chick be for your taste ? No, you must take your responsibilities to be in control of your love life.

2/ Becoming more attractive

If you’re have difficulties making out with girls, it’s probably because your perceived value is quite low (which does not mean you have no potential) or you do not act very well (for example, you never leave your house…)

So, above all, I advise you to work on your reputation, behave in a more “cool” way, don’t spend all your days playing video games, improve your look, hang out a bit with popular people, say hello to pretty girls to benefit from a certain preselection, etc.

One very important thing, which is the basis of everything to achieve this goal, is to work on your body language. Do not neglect the power of making a good first impression!

3/ Show your balls

Do not send your buddies asking the girl in question if she wants to make out with you or not. Your buddy could have the priority like in the movie Nos jours heureux.

Do not pass by the girlfriends of the girl you like because it would communicate that you do not have the balls to take the first step. It would be absolutely not attractive…

The best thing is to go and approach the girl yourself or to get by to meet her and talk to her. Do not start saying “do you want to be my girlfriend?” : you would risk a kinda violent rejection. Try to create some attraction between you, especially with kinos. Then, ask for her phone number or Facebook and finally meet up again.

4/ Is this girl for you?

I admit that at the beginning of my career of pick-up artist, I didn’t give a shit about if the chick is made for me or not. I just wanted to fuck, satisfy my sexual urges and gain some sex experience.

Today, I am always looking for fun but I am seriously thinking about becoming a dad and founding a family. So, I can testify: for staying a long time with a girl met in the street, you have to be very lucky. Remember, we must have a girl out of nowhere matches us, it’s rare anyway! She must have the same vision of life, the same ambitions, and so on.

Because, yeah, throwing our sights on someone who does not really correspond to us is taking a big risk of living quite a lot of disappointments after suffering in a shitty relationship.

So, to optimize our chances of meeting someone who matches us (because “who looks alike matchs” in life), it may be opportune to frequent the same places as the type of girl that is hooked. To do this, we must ask ourselves and try to think about what we are looking for in women and then find where we can go to meet this kind of girls. There is also the solution to resort to dating sites that can be effective.

5/ Sexualize and conclude

Try to have a date with the girl you like. Sexualize of course during the date so as not to end up in the friendzone. And, at the end of this date, if it goes well and you still like her, you’ll have to kiss her… and fuck her.

And you have to fuck her WELL to make her addict!

Some say it is unthinkable to be a couple with a girl we fucked the first night. I get upset, I met a lot of my long relationships (including my current girlfriend) by fucking her the first night. The truth is that it does not mean anything at all except for bloody-minded people.

After the fuck, you have to keep in touch and see her again.


Anyway, remember that I think it is important not to put too much pressure on yourself to find a girlfriend at all costs. Because, who says “pressure” says “it works less well”. I always met my girlfriends with whom I stayed for a long time at times when I did not expect it, when I was not looking for anything special.

I was quietly fluttering, then some caught my attention and made me want to deepen the relationship. It’s still better than being a couple by default with the first coming who wants a couple with us, right? And even for them, it’s more rewarding than going out with a guy who has no choice in his sex life and who wants them because they represent his only chance to have a girlfriend!

See you later !

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What is an easy woman and where are the easiest girls?

In this article, I’ll tell you what an easy woman is. Then I will explain where to find easy women in France. Finally, we will see where are the easiest girls in the world …

1 / What is an easy woman?

An easy girl is a girl who is not afraid of sex because she has experience, who fucks when she wants to fuck, who does not wait 10 dates before making love with a man… in short, an easy woman is a woman who has a lot of sexual adventures.

To sum up, in the collective thought, an easy woman is :
– a chick who quickly sleeps with a man;
– a slightly liberated chick who does not feel the need to have a stable relationship before fucking.

Personally, I find it a shame to say that a man with the same characteristics would be a “Don Juan” (positive). Indeed, we are at the time of gender equality, so I do not appreciate that when a woman is called “easy” it’s generally connoted negatively. But this is another debate.

2/ Where to find easy women in France?

In France, not all girls are easy. But fortunately, there are tourists. In cities where there are a lot of tourists, you optimize your chances of meeting an easy girl. Especially the bars for backpackers.

Obviously, in libertine clubs, there are women who love sex and therefore are less difficult before sex (sometimes even you can fuck porn actresses there). They are not all nymphomaniacs but there are not many… so it’s cool!

Let’s not forget the young students in the faculties and the parties of medicines. In the parties of literary preparations or in the faculties of psychology, you can easily have fun. And in the nights like the “skins parties”, I do not even talk about it…

Finally, you can find on the dating sites women approaching the 40 who have been dumped by their husband and who regret not having experienced more when they were younger (this is often the case). These women generally say that they have no more time to lose and are not shy.

3 / Where are the easiest girls in the world?

Easiness of girls by country by Roosh V

For my part, I find that the latinas (Mexican, Peruvian, etc.) as well as the eastern European girls are easier. Pierre Woodman’s cock would confirm. As for Thailand, I also agree with the map…

Among the countries where women are easy, I would also have put Australia, New Zealand, Sweden and Norway (maybe even Canada). On the other hand, I do not know how what happens in African countries.

For the USA, I would say that in general, abroad, when you say that you are French, you can get girls quite easily. But in the United States, morals are not too liberated… so to kiss, yes, but to get laid it’s another story…

What do you think ?

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The best taglines phrases for pickup

The best taglines phrases for pickup

The best taglines phrases for pickup

Many guys would like to know what is the perfect tagline for pickup. But the truth is that there is not ONE unique magic phrase to seduce all women: you have to adapt your opener to the context of your approach.

In this article we will see a few effective taglines that you can use on different fields (online, on the street, in a bar or a club…) I will also explain how to invent your own effective phrases.

The contextual approach is always the most effective but is not always possible

Generally speaking, whatever field you’re picking up on, using a ready-made tagline is only interesting when nothing original comes to your mind when you’re looking at the girl you want to approach . Because by approaching with something bad, you always have more than 0% chance of success (you have 0% chance of success if you do not approach). But, if you are inspired, obviously ALWAYS prefer a situational or contextual approach.

Indeed, when you use a tagline that amuses you, that this entry in matter also pleases the girl and that she is sure that it is not a phrase that you say to all the chicks… then you increase your chances to have pleasant conversation with her. Your opener is like the pilot episode of a TV show : if it is very bad, she will probably not want to watch the rest (except if she has nothing better to do or if she finds you very charming).

The power of conviction

When you approach on the street, in a bar or a club, the belief you put into your approach is important. Indeed, you can say a phrase that spontaneously comes to you to a girl and it can work ; but you can then say the same phrase to another girl and be thought of as a loser.

The difference, of course, lies in how you communicate non-verbally (a phrase that is said in a confident and natural way, sincere, perfectly suited to your internal state of the moment, etc.). Moreover, you’ve more chances of success if you are really in a very good mood or if you have a super modjo.

Tagline online (Tinder, Adopte, Happn, Lovoo, etc.) :

The first objective of a tagline is obviously to get an answer. The second objective is whether the girl is interested in going further with you or if she is just there to spend her time or reassure herself on her seductive power (in this case, you have to reframe her and run away).

As has been said, when you approach in real life, the most important is to go with a positive attitude and to communicate good things non-verbally. But you should not think in this way online : your alpha attitude can not appear through a poor written “hello beautiful” or “yo my deer, what’s up? »… Through a screen, the girl may well not understand that you are fun and assimilate you to the basic asshole.

By the way, I invite you to read this article to see the type of messages that most losers send to the chicks. I would like to add that the approach of sending “girl’s first name “ is absolutely bad. I know that many sites advise to send “Sophie! » or “Caroline!” But I think it’s a shit. So, I had to say, fucking crappy dating coachs, stop copying yourselves without testing!

So, before sending your message, you have to find a tagline really adapted and effective. I will now explain how.

You need to find a detail in the photos, interests or description of the girl and bounce on it. Obviously, you must turn your sentence so that you can easily orient the conversation then on sex. It goes without saying that ideally, you write without spelling mistakes. And do not forget to include her first name (or nickname) in the message to avoid that she thinks it is a copy/paste (most babes would eliminate a guy who would pick up automatically like a robot) .

Minimum one week after a first unanswered message, you can try to tickle the ego of the beautiful who ignores you and ask her for explanations. This makes react quite a lot because babes do not like to be thought of as impolite chicks (they pay attention to their social image). They will want to prove to you that they are not big sluts who are on the site only to accumulate the matches and let the guys hope without having any desire to make a meeting (although sometimes it is the case, they will always deny).

I invite you to read the last chance message in Secrets for seducing on the Internet : I often send it to the chicks who ignored me at first on Adopte or Tinder and I always manage to fuck some in the lot.

Taglines for bars or night clubs:

In night, I like direct, contextual and “what the fuck” approaches (but you do not have to look drunk for it to work). Go for daring and do not let women feel fear in you !

“Tonight is my birthday, we could kiss.”

“Did you wash your teeth before you coming?”

“Are you enjoying tonight?”

“Would you like to kiss me?”

You can also use situational which is obviously very effective to start a conversation. Examples: if she has a hat “be careful, the aliens have landed on your head”!

Taglines for the street pick up :

In the street, again, it is obviously awesome to use situational, to approach on something “unique” (or at least that you will describe as such when approaching the girl): a jewel, a garment, an original bag, her hair, her way of walking and so on. It must absolutely be something she chose… no “I swear, you’re really cute”, I think it is shit.

Be careful not to focus on obvious features; like “you’re so tall!”

I now give you a general tagline that you can use if you are not particularly inspired when approaching a girl “Hi, I saw you there, I wanted to come talkingto you because you seemed very nice. Are you from Lyon?”

Finally, know that, in the worst case, a simple “hi how are you?” in the street can change the whole course of your existence. If Einstein’s father had not approached his mother, we would not be there today in our vision of the world…

So do not hesitate to test and find out what fits your personality. Then, multiply the tests and do not forget to put conviction in there! 😉

For more informations, have a look to my formation Cyprine !

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How to pick up a girl

How to pick up a girl

Whether it’s for dating a girl in a nightclub, dating a stranger in the street, dating in the university, dating at the gym, by text, dating on social networks, dating your neighbor or even dating a girl who has a boyfriend… there are rules. Yes, there are things you should do and others you shouldn’t.

Obviously, I can not explain in a single article all that you need to know about female psychology and interpersonal communication, but I will talk about what seems to me inevitable for a good pick up.

This seems to be a job of general interest because most of the tips to seduce that one can easily find on the Internet are, in the best case, funny … and in the worst, dangerous!

So here are 20 tips to properly pick up a girl. I will also give you in this article some tracks, if you want to go further…

1/ The girl is interested

When you go to the field to pick up, assume that women might be interested in you to the point of taking your number, making an instant date with you or even to the point of sleeping with you quickly.

With such a state of mind, you will optimize your chances because you will probably have a more confident attitude (and therefore you’ll be more exciting for a woman).

You’re a winner, don’t forget the condoms !

2/ Validation

To put all the odds on your side when you are picking a woman up, you absolutely must not leave with the concern to seek her validation. You must not seek to please he at all costs. You are not a sex-starved guy who needs affection at all costs!

Worse, behaving like her subordinate and licking her ass would not be sexy. Do not laugh, many men think that to sleep with a woman, they must treat her like a princess.

Put it right in your head: you do not try to get anything from her (her pussy) because it is a mutual exchange of pleasure… or even, the beginning of a love story FOR BOTH.

When you pick a woman up, you simply give her a chance to make a (small) end of the way with you!

3/ The smile

Smiling (a bit, eh, not like a psychopath nor a happy imbecile) communicates and transmits positive emotions. And since emotions are contagious, it’s much better to approach with the smile than like if your cat had just died.

The thing to understand is that you must at all costs reassure the girl on your “normality” and that smiling is a good way to make her feel at ease.

4/ The eye contact

Look at the girl in the eyes when you talk, maintain the eye contact to connect to her. But look from time to time elsewhere so as not to be thought of as a weird guy. What you need to remember here is not to have a fleeting glance.

5/ Pay attention to your body language

In general, pay attention to your body language. But there would be too much to say then I suggest you to read my book on the subject.

6/ Do not approach in order to become her friend

I’ve even seen some coaches advising to say “let’s have a drink as friends” to get the number of a girl… with, of course, the intend to seduce her AFTER. But it’s a very bad idea!

I advise you rather to let her guess your intentions because, once fallen in the friendzone, it would be difficult to leave it. The girl must absolutely see in you a potential lover… and if she does not accept this condition, you should quickly next her because others would accept it.

Remember that you must be ready to lose a girl in order to win her without too many headaches. And that, to be a good pick up artist, you have to assume your sexuality.

7/ Take initiatives

It is extremely rare for a girl to take your number, even after a nice conversation. As a result, you must be psychologically ready to make proposals and take initiatives for the relation to move on.

Sometimes they will be delighted that you do it but just did not dare to talk about it for fear of being thought of as easy girls!

8/ Do not put too much pressure

No PUA leaves with 100% of the numbers of the girls approached with cold approaches. So do not put yourself under pressure and do not feel obliged to do too much to seduce chicks.

Forget the idea that a perfect approach surely seduces a girl and that if it does not work it’s because you have made a mistake. The truth is that the worst approach of the world can work and that the best can end in rejection.

There is no catch phrase that 100% works, then use a contextual opener (on its outfit) or practice the direct game. If you don’t know what to say to a woman, check my ebook 1000 sexy alpha funny lines.

9/ Do not try to be perfect

We often imagine that if we were perfect, all women would want us and it would be easy to get laid. But the truth is that a perfect pick up will not let your charm appear. A live concert has more charm than a recording on CD despite the imperfections, is not it? In seduction, it is the same.

Moreover, the perfect man would intimidate the women (IRL not in a movie) and most would not deserve him…

10/ Show your personality

When talking with women, you should not always agree with them. If you find a point of disagreement about something that is not very important (in a seductive context, you should not talk about religion, politics or anything like that), hold your positions and explain your point of view .

You will show that you are not her doggie, that you are not there to lick her sneakers, unlike most guys without balls who would be willing to say /do/pay anything in the hope to have sex one day. Respect yourself and women will respect you more!

How to pick up a girl

11/ Tease

Tease a woman to tell her you are not afraid of her and to prevent boredom from settling into conversation. Moreover, if she laughs with you (complicity) she will have more chances to sleep with you.

Be careful not to make strange remarks because if the woman laughs at you (contempt or embarrassment), it’ll be difficult to go further.

12/ Calm down

Most men speak quickly and move in all directions when they talk with a woman they want to seduce. Some love coaches advise to have a high energy level when approaching but I think this is a bad idea.

Let me explain: sex is better when you are comfortable… so, to consider it, it is necessary that both people are comfortable. So do not stress women by going at full speed.

13/ Not a job interview

Most guys who pick up ask bad questions by believing themselves to be very clever. But it is extremely cumbersome for a girl to answer the same predictable questions “Where are you coming from?”, “What do you do for a living ?”, “how old are you ?”, & C.

Instead, make her talk about her and what she loves… then focus the conversation on sex. Attention, do not boast… but do not act like a tight-ass either when talking about sex!

14/ You must stay the price

The girl must understand that you are a man who has the choice, that you do not put everything on her: you are a man who has a high value so she is not the only one who would respond positively to your seduction.

Stress the fact that something unique has made you want to come and talk to her and be interested in her.

15/ You know what you want

You must communicate that you are a cool and accommodating man but who knows what he wants. You are not a poor frustrated guy who does not assume and who doubts all the time.

You are not either a loser that does not dare to take action and that always does things half.

16/ Too nice, too stupid

Do not start paying drinks to girls you hardly know and who do not make much effort for you. Do not be the willing victim of bitches who have no desire to sleep with you but want you to pay them stuff…

17/ Persistence

You have to know how to differentiate a rejection from an objection. It is necessary to persist in case of objection (it can be a test of virility or she just don’t want to be thought of as an easy girl) but to give up in case of pure and simple rejection. The key to reacting well in case of rejection is not to show yourself affected.

18/ Respect the decision of the woman

Generally speaking, do not ask for permission before trying something… but stop without discussing if she refuses your seduction. Do not follow her in the street !!! You must not be charged with sexual harassment…

Never insult a woman who does not want you. You do not know what is the real reason for her refusal and I am sure she has lost more than you… so wish her a good day (or a good evening) and bye bye!

19/ No one-itis

Do not start making a love obsession about a girl who just kissed you in a club or who just gave you her number… It would be a serious beginner mistake that could make you very unhappy (false hope).

20/ Learn how to play with sexual tension

You must learn to feel and play with sexual tension. In addition, you must have some sense of timing so as not to miss the seductive shooting windows (usually I advise you to go rather too fast than too slowly).

The trick is that some girls will want to sleep with you one night but if you miss your chance by playing the fucking romantic dude, will go with another dude and forget you forever.

If you want to learn how to control sexual tension, I recommend my book The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations.

If you want more tips to get started in the world of pick up, I advise you The basics of seduction.

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Recognizing an easy girl: 10 tricks

Recognizing an easy girl

In this article, I explain how to know if a girl is easy or not. The goal is obviously to invest neither your time nor your energy for women who would make you lose both.

Indeed, if you need 10 dates with a girl (and paying) to sleep with her… know that you could have fucked two or three “less difficult” others during this time (and for cheaper). Moreover, the babes who play it hard to get before sex generally do not offer good sex and the continuation of the relationship is complicated (it must be suspected because when it starts complicated, everything can be complicated…)

In short, there are some commonalities for girls who sleep quickly… and even if it is not an exact science (because women may be easier at certain times in their lives than others) I will share my experience with you.

How to spot a good leg, an easy girl, an open girl who wants both to have fun and a good time?

1/ She is single or has a guy but feels helpless. Basically, she does not tell you about her boyfriend from the outset…

2/ She is accustomed to making encounters, does not look wild when approached, is comfortable when you talk about sex. She has nothing against sex for sex: that, you will notice by testing her reactions to your fast sexualization (but be gentleman)… how does she react when you make innuendos or give her the opportunity to talk about sex ? I strongly encourage you to test her relation to sex and get away from those for whom it is problematic.

3/ She does not want to look for a serious relationship for now or comes out of a long romantic relationship that has led to nothing concrete: she feels that she has lost her time and hopes to catch up lost time by making new experiences. She thought a little and stopped believing in fairy tales like a 15-year-old girl.

4/ She does not stay long in your city (either she is a tourist, she is on internship, or she will soon leave for a long trip in Australia, etc.)

5/ You must stop to believe that the girls who dress sexy are sluts and that the others are not fucked. In fact, the woman’s dress does not reveal much about her sexuality… but, on the other hand, I noticed that naughty girls tend to be very careful about the maintenance of their pubic hair.

6/ Attention to the body language of the chick. In general, a woman’s eye  contact can betray her excitement or her desire for sex. Attention, if she is very tactile, it does not mean much in itself because there are many kino girls. But if she is tactile in addition to looking at you with envy or to tell you that she wants to have fun, there, it should raise your suspicions…

How to recognize a girl you should avoid?                

7/ In general, avoid those who talk too much about sex, who boast, etc. Often, they will get cold feet at the last moment because they will be afraid of not being up to what they said. Except for real libertines.

8/ The lack of experience of the girl can be offset by a strong desire to get out of her comfort zone. But if the chick is afraid and does not wish to make efforts, it is necessary to be wary. If the chick does not seem to have strength of character or determination, be aware that she may not change and remain that who she has always been, the one that has not too much experience of encounters with unknown, who has no real sexual experience, etc. This kind of girl is generally recognized by the brakes she put to your advances “we will meet up in 15 days after my exams” or “I never do anything at the first date (shitty principles)… I just have an hour to spend with you tonight for a drink in a bar (LOL)”.

9/ Stay away from those who hope to find the prince charming, who seek at all costs a “serious” relationship (I prefer a funny relationship) or who verbalize that they do not want to sleep quickly. You probably can not fuck them unless lying to them (but it’s not ethical). Also avoid those who are suspicious of seducers, who say they are afraid to “make a mistake”, who believe their pussy has exceptional value, and so on. The worst, I think it is those who say that it is useless to make love without having feelings (ah, love!) These have clearly never been well fucked and are not ready to be satisfied with such a mentality.

10/ I also advise against the bitches who always pretext that they “need more time”. And/or who say that they still think of their ex, who often speak of him, or even who compares you to him.

And you, what are your tricks to recognize an easy girl?

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The first date with a girl (or a woman)

get ready rendez vous

I – How to get ready for a date ?


How to seduce during a date

Today we will see how to effectively getting ready for a rendez-vous, without overdoing it! I’ll tell you how I do, because it works most of the time. There are three aspects to the preparation: physical, mental and material!


– Mowing the beard (or shave it). Seriously, it is useless to take care of your beard for an hour, especially if it’s in order to look like a guy who does not care for his beard.

– Then: mowing pubic hair if they are too long. A tip: do it above your toilets.

– Cut your nails and remove any black dirt encrusted below, it’s important if you want to finger her in an hygienic way. Seriously, otherwise, a shame and does not make women want to see the rest (your sausage).

– It’s time to take a shower especially if you have transpired during the day, before the date.

– Wash your hair if necessary, if they are oily. Wash your teeth so you won’t stink.

– Wear a classy shirt or t-shit/polo, it’s not worth suiting up. It can be a ground to reject you, not sticking to the image that was given to the girl: if one plays the cool guy, do not come dressed up like a penguin. You have to value yourself but remain comfortable in your clothes. Avoid clothes that have the scriptures or big logos, especially in your back. And dirty underwear.

– I prefer eans unless I come directly from work (case of emergency) and I am wearing a suit, but in this case, I explain…

– It’s not worth testing 4 outfits especially if it is to finally go back to the first. This is the stress that you would make you do that… but, stress is your enemy in seduction. Be careful in choosing shoes (check that they are in good condition and not grimey) and belt. Never wear white socks with dark shoes.

– Then your hair: Again, like with the beard, do not spend three hours in front of the glass like a narcissist.

– Sprinkle A LITTLE perfume.

– No need to spend an hour in front of the mirror waring makeup if you are not a chick. See if you have no boogers, hair protruding from the nose and ears or your fly open…

– No need to do pushups in order to look muscular.

– No need to prepare 2 hours before the date, even if she has to wait 5 minutes, it’s not a problem. It’s happened to me to get completely drunk to a date in my youth and I fucked the girl so since I relativize. The purpose of a first date is not to be perfect but to have a good attitude, to be relaxed and to communicate it.


It is not worth repeating 150 times your openers in front of a mirror. It will not change your inner game, anyway. Do not internally replay the possible scenarios, especially if it is to imagine the worst!

It is not worth preparing a list of conversation topics to get into. You can quickly check her interests on her Facebook profile if it reassures you but remember that the goal is to make her speak of her and of what she likes. So finally you’ll just have to get comfortable, to tease her a little and show your interest. But, if she notices that you have stalked her, it will not be good…

You must go for a result at least a kiss on the mouth, in the best case a fuck. This winner mindset will make you sexualizing a little bit the conversation instead of staying in your abstinent comfort zone. If you really think it would not work, do not attempt the kiss. But make sure it’s not an excuse that you imagined on the moment (and will regret later) to reassure you by saying that if you try to kiss her, you would frighten her and not see her again. Do not be silly, chicks know very well why they accept a date. Only stupids and hypocrites say otherwise. This requires that your friend understands that this is a date and not an appointment to become best friends… never agree to go into that kind of frame! The forced Friendzone does not exist for sexual men! Besides, a guy who does not dare to take initiatives rarely see chicks again!


If she comes to your place directly or if you plan to take her home:

– Remove the paper towel from beside the bed. Do you love masturbation so much ?

– Prepare the bed (at least pull the sheet)

– Remove the affairs of another girl that could still be in your bed

– Do not leave too icky stuff lying around, do not let a mountain of dishes (at worst even if she ultimately does not come, it will be done)

– Always have something to drink at home. And a card game or another trick to get comfortable, if necessary

– Take two or three condoms in the back pocket of your trousers or then place them under the bed but do not let them prominently on the bedside table, in mode “YOU SEE, I KNEW THAT I WAS GOING TO SCREW YOU AHAHAH”

– Do not bring a bouquet of flowers

– Have some cash, but do not pay for everything or then say “you will pay the next time/next glass”

– Regarding the choice of the place, if you go to a neutral place before going home: avoid the restaurant, cinema, and these clichés stuff. I know you read a lot on the Internet that it is better to go to a place where you know many people because of social proof… but I prefer avoiding it, to do not be constantly interrupted and to be able to focus on my target. When I have to date a girl outside, I often choose places I know with a friendly atmosphere, pretty quiet places.

Good luck !


II – How to seduce during a date?


get ready date

The date is a stage of seduction which consists of meeting up in a neutral place. Sure it’s better to know someone before taking him home, but hey, on the other hand, you are as likely to be attacked by someone you know than by someone who basically do not give a shit about you (statistics).

You can watch my video about how to get ready for a date here.


On your way to get to a date, try to think of something else to avoid stress. Once there, if you do not see the girl, call her. It is more suitable than texting in such moments!

When you say hello to her, put your hand on her shoulder, to make it a bit sensual. The gesture must be confident but not pressing or you take the risk of making yourself look like a weird guy. You can even try to guide her to go somewhere by putting your hand on her down back (not all the time but briefly).

I think it’s better to sit in front of each other than side by side: experience shows it works I better. Probably because it allows for a good eye contacts.

If there is a seat, be a gentleman and offer her to sit on. If you have a choice, you should prefer to be positioned against the wall. This will limit the her field at the rendezvous, and she will not be disturbed by by the comings and goings of other people behind you. It will help you to create “your bubble.”

Drink : order what you want. But even when I was still drinking alcohol, I did not get drunk during a date. In fact, this is not a good strategy to make her drink until she loses control nor to put some GHB in her drink.

If you make a date at home, ask if you need to bring something. If she comes, plan some wine or another thing like that to drink.

Getting along well

There are positions to be adopted to better succeed, I personally adopt a rather nonchalant body language but not slouching. Of course, do not stare at chicks’ ass all around you during a date.

Check the position of your friend and evaluate the signs of interest she gives. Make some mirroring sometimes if you remember. That is to say: create a subconscious connection by synchronizing your gestures asymmetrically.

Be the same than when you made her dream enough to accept the date. There is nothing worse than the loudmouth that become very shy when in front of a girl.

A date is not a job interview, do not prepare your discussion topics. This is not the time to cover her with compliments, that would make you lose value (needy mode).

It’s true that it’s better to avoid like plague some subjects, like : politics, religion or stances. Generally, I avoid too strong opinions, I do not make a speech in favour of a particular cause or at least I do not speak about it during the meeting, I wait to know her better, it avoids hitting her personal beliefs (and also that she hurts mine – it avoids headaches). About her ex? Sometimes it can be good to talk about him, one told me that he fucked her very badly and everything but it is generally recommended to avoid this subject sometimes too sensitive.

On the other hand, you must sexualize of course. It would be good to make a whole video about it and about how to avoid Friendzone (as well as body language)! Do not be afraid if she talks about sex, assume to get her comfortable with it. But do not talk only about sex either. The idea is just to put it in her mind, if she had not this idea already! You can tease her, about her nervousness due to having a date.

Making her talk about her is paramount. Although sometimes in the beginning you will have to launch her by making the most of the conversation. Knowing how to do that without giving her the impression of answering police questions is a major asset. Ask “and you? ” to turn her questions back to her is effective because chicks often ask about what they are interested in. Common interests are important for a girl.

If you talk to a girl you like about cinema, naturally propose to go watching a movie the next day, for example.

In any case, you must absolutely not let your hormones make you lose your mind and look like a douchebag. Each girl has her definition of a douchebag and her own criteria, that’s what’s hard! But hey, there’s universal things. For example, never say, “well, I’ll poop.”

Orient the conversation towards positive things, not too many factual, rather some emotional.

When you talk, make the distinction between bragging and marketing yourself. Telling your little piece of history or your stories without trying to brag, this is done subtly and not boastfully.

A little small talk, it’s also important to look normal. It’s sad but it’s like that… “But we do not care of what my father does for a living, will we fuck or not ?”

During the visit, it’s easy to make some kinos on her hands. That is to say, for example, asking to see more closely the ring or bracelet and taking this opportunity to fondle nonchalantly and sensually this sensitive area. It can even be a compliance test: will she play the game? How will she react? (For more informations, see my video about the cooperation test).

The end of the date

Should you pay the bill? Yes, why not, but tell her « you will pay next time. » Make it look like that’s not much. But if she insists, let her pay. Remember that in the savannah, the lioness goes hunting for the king of the jungle.

At the end of the date, propose to go home or try to kiss her (not in the bar but rather by leaving) even if you do not feel with this idea… 1% chance of success is better than 0 % and then… even if you never see her again after that, know that you would probably have not see her again anyway, so that’s something taken on life! And no regrets is my policy! And if she does not want, too bad for her! 😉

So it is better that the place of date allows her to come over fairly quickly, just so shet does not cool down on her way to seventh heaven.

You can use the excuse of showing her something you’ve talked about to take her home. Or assume and normally she will understand to what she is commited if she says yes. No smart girl would go alone in the room of a hetero-sexual guy if she wouldn’t want to fuck him.

If you did not fuck after the date, in this case, do not send the first message directly after the date. Wait she does first!

Some mistakes to avoid

Do not go on a date with a friend.

Do not join a girl who is with her friends.

Do not join her if she has something planned one hour later.

Do not wait if it is doing something before.

This is a very bad idea to wait, even if she looks very sure on the phone, very motivated and very excited to see you. If she is not completely available for you, it is better to postpone the date. This will prevent you from having date with the friends of the girl who will judge you, dates rushed because of a lack of time and it is not a good idea to wait because she has something planned before and desperately wait for her because she already has something planned, but does not know at what time it will end. Do not be a spare wheel on the condition that she has nothing better to do that day! Enjoy the time you have reached to see more available girls. Respect yourself !

If during the date, she says she has to leave because she has a headache. Or because one of her friends needs emergency assistance: it is an excuse, do not send texts to propose a second date after such an affront. Anyway, she will probably not answer. Time to go home, she will have already have deleted you on Facebook, Tinder and her repertoire! Women are usually not really honoest when they do not want to us (nor when they want us) it’s a shame but it can lead to humiliating misunderstandings! You have been warned!

If she is late, do not wait more than 20 minutes (unless she has a good excuse) and do not tolerate more than two bucks. Girls should respect you to desire you!

If an interested girl cancels a date, SHE must make a counter-proposal. You do not have to beg for the “privilege” of seeing her (it’s a bad frame). You can watch my video about frames too !

Do not spend 1 hour on the phone during a date while she is waiting for you. Do not answer the phone unless you have real emergency, it is not polite.

Extract from my formation Cyprine

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The wingman in seduction


A good thing to improve your game is to meet other good seducers in your city. Stay humble and cool even if you are better than them because the exchange is (almost) always rewarding.

For my part, I avoid taking as wingmen people who always give lessons, mythomaniacs, half-virgin guys who think they know everything about everything because they watched the formations of Nicolas and Vincent, etc. You see the kind of guys (I can tell you that there are many weirdos in the community of seduction but fortunately there are also great guys)!

Better is someone a little less good than you but who has a good mentality, rather than a better player thank you who is a pain in the ass… but the worst is a bad player that is a pain in the ass!

Finally, I do not like going out with 45000 guys, you do not usually pick up effectively in a pack. At the limit with one or two motivated buddies, it’s OK, but it is a maximum.

What is a wingman ?

A wingman is a pick up companion who is part of the seduction community (so it’s a player). It is, in the broad sense, a buddy who accompanies you in your sessions and your delusions, and that helps you to move forward in your encounters by the energy and the good mood that he gives you (and also thanks to his little pushes like pushing you on a group when you do not decide to approach). It is a guy who helps you to achieve your goals, if necessary, including by taking care of the friends of your target.

Seducing with a wingman, it is often easier than alone because he helps you spending better time (you can make fun of mean girls together) and you are less likely to be assaulted. I’ve said it before but I repeat it because it seems important to me: If you want to seduce women with the help of a wingman, I suggest you choosing someone who helps you and allows you to appear under your best light… especially not someone who always tries to dominate you and show that he has a bigger one than you.


What is a wingman used for?

The social network is important during a phase of seduction. Your buddies will have a positive or negative impact on your pick-up according to their behavior. So, choose respectful people because the more they respect you and the more they will strengthen your social proof in the places you go. So your social proof will walk with you. When you go out with one or more wings, it is therefore important to focus your attention on developing a good internal dynamic before even focusing on the sarge itself.

In addition, with wings that suit you, you can set up routines or at least a “habit” that works. Good routines with an accomplice allow you to bounce on subjects of conversation, to bring positive energy, etc.

Finally, you will encourage each other during the pick up sessions and never pull you down.


Wingman rules

There are precise wings rules so as not to sabotage the work of the other. The most important thing to remember before, during and after interactions with other sets is this: your wing is always more important than other people. Giving more importance to a girl you know for a few minutes than to your wing (who is supposed to be a very good friend) is a serious fault, and is a sign of a lack of attention/affection, of poor social life. Your wing is “sacred.” He is more important than the rest. You must not leave him alone, making fun of him to try to shine nor ignoring him.

Rule # 1: The pilot approaches the group and invites the wingman into the conversation.

Target flight is theoretically unimaginable between two good wingmen. If both like a girl, she is for the first one who approached her because the wingmen know that playing as a team is more profitable than playing selfishly in the Game.

Rule # 2: The pilot chooses his target and there is no competition. Only if it’s lost for him, the co-pilot can attack this target.

If your target prefers your buddy, you have to help him by saying a lot of good about him and diverting the attention of anyone who could interfere (especially the jealous “good friends”). To console you, tell yourself that you will be sent back the lift a next time… pride and ego have no place in a healthy game!

Rule # 3: You make each other increase your value by saying positive things about the other. You try to neutralize the cockblock threat.

It’s always better to approach alone a girl who is alone but if she’s in a set, it’s fine if you go with your wingman.

Good luck !

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Lexicon of seduction

Lexicon of seductionThe words you need to know in the community of seduction :

Alpha male: A virile and attractive man.

Alphaness: Attitude of alpha male.

AMOG (Alpha Male Other Guy): It’s the rival, the one that’s competing with you. He is by definition dangerous for your game.

AFC (Average Frustrated Chump): Boy who has no idea how the relationships between men and women work. Timid and limited, he is convinced that it is enough simply to wait and “to be himself” to fall on the girl of his dreams and realize his wildest fantasies.

AI (Approach Invitation): A non-formal invitation that indicates a sign of interest or curiosity. For example, in a nightclub, it is a girl who looks at you from afar to tell you that she finds you attractive or that dances right next to you with her friend for you to approach.

ASD (Anti Slut Defense): This is a protective mechanism for the female ego that is triggered by a player error, he believed it was won and his excess of confidence triggered the mistrust of the player. (“What, I, an easy girl? I’ll show him…”).

Attraction: Creating Attraction is attracting a woman. It’s also creating sexual tension.

Bob the AFC: A Bob is a nice guy who has a hard time seducing a girl.

Buyer’s remorse: The regret of the buyer. This is when the girl regrets having slept with you or kissed you… Sometimes because of the guilt she feels (for example if she feels easy girl), sometimes because you have been bad in bed, etc.;

BT (Buying Temperature): This is the level of attraction of the girl, her desire to “buy you”. The image comes from the marketing world (like many other things in the community of seduction): in pick-up, you are both the seller and the product… and for the girl to want to “buy” you, you have to work on the product (your lifestyle thanks to personal development, which will guarantee a healthy relationship) and your sales strategy (your approach techniques). There are different levels of BT. Imagine the BT as a temperature displayed on a thermometer. When the girl’s BT is low, she does not even let you talk to her. When her BT is a little higher, she sends you IOI. A little higher still, she lets you kiss her, and so on. BT is a purely emotional phenomenon: sometimes some girls have reached a BT level enough to sleep with you, but do not allow themselves to follow their desire for various reasons: they want to remain faithful, either by principle or because of social pressure, etc.

BL (Body Language): It is the body language… ie the set of attitudes, postures and gestures of a person. On the one hand, you have to look after your BL. On the other hand, learning how to decrypt the BL of other people helps to better understand what they feel and have in mind.

Bootcamp: A bootcamp is a series of exercises to do over several days or weeks to improve your seduction ability. For a shy person, the first exercise of a bootcamp can be to ask something on the street to 10 people.

BST (Boyfriend Smashing Techniques): Technique whose aim is to devalue the boyfriend of a target so that she cheats on him.

Bitch shield: A set of techniques used by women to avoid passing off as easy girls and thus to keep men at bay. It is said that a girl is bitchshielded when she rejects all the propositions.

Canned stuff: It means “prepared stuff”. The seducer can prepare material in advance (stories, original answers to be placed in everyday situations, way of presenting his personality). The “canned” material is reflected and learned alone, assimilated, like the text of an actor. This technique is very useful to begin : from your previous experience, from the testimonies of other players, it is possible to collect the behaviors most likely to be seductive, and to systematically integrate them into your way of life. The consciousness that this method entails is one of the ways used in the community of seduction to effect a transformation of the personality: we start from the most “superficial” behaviors like speech, certain gestures and attitudes, to move progressively towards something deeper (body language, beliefs, trust, charisma, etc.)

Chick Logic (feminine logic): A slightly pejorative term that means that women have no logic except following the desire of the moment and then rationalizing. For example, “I slept with this guy because Chuck is dead in Gossip Girl.”

Comfort: Designates a stage in the process of seduction (the three main ones are “approach, comfort and seduction”). It involves getting to know each other, making sure the girl feels comfortable and confident with you.

Close: Soft word to say you have arrived at your goal. There are several types of closes: the num-close (numbering), the kiss-close (you kissed your target), the fuck-close (you slept with your target). Afterwards, there are countless other variations (email-close, blowjob-close)…

Cockblock: A person who, through his intervention, blocks your interaction with the target and prevents you from advancing towards your goals in terms of pick-up. It can be a girlfriend of a girl, a member of her family, an ex who would be jealous, a rival (or AMOG), and so on.

Crash & Burn: It’s going into the crowd and be very direct with a woman and then move on to the next one by don’t giving a shit if she is not receptive.

Calibrate: Adapt.

Comfort Zone: This is the comfort zone. This refers to the imaginary zone in which you avoid putting yourself in situations that would stress you. This varies from one individual to another. Many people spend a dreary life, stuck in their CZ, their routine. When you face your anguish, you get out of your CZ. Leaving his CZ means to pushing the limits. In your case, it may be to go down the street and approach a girl. An important part of the work is to become aware of your limit zone (the opposite of the CZ), your comfort zone and the balance that must be respected in order to move forward: if you take too little risk, boredom and lack of progress will be your enemies and will demotivate you, but if you are out of your comfort zone all the time, you will exhaust yourself. You have to find a balance between the two: consider your comfort zone as your capital, and your limit zone as an investment… for a healthy and prosperous economy, you need to invest and take risks, but not too much, because you risk losing all your capital. The better you manage and the more effort you make, the more your comfort zone gets bigger, the more you will progress.

Cocky and Funny: Term popularized by the American coach David DeAngelo. It is a type of behavior based on teasing and sexual allusions while remaining light. The goal is obviously to be thought of as a cool guy who is confident, but also to turn the girl on.

Date: Designates a date with a girl.

Disqualify: It is the opposite of qualifying. In seduction, to disqualify means to clearly show to the target that one does not try to seduce her. You can disqualify a target or disqualify yourself. For example, if you say “ah you’re a brunette, shame on you, I prefer blondes,” you disqualify her. On the other hand, if you say “I’m a bad lover, plus I do not know how to cook, you better try with the guy over there”, you disqualify yourself. Contrary to what one might think, disqualifying sometimes sub-communicates relevant information (that you do not try to seduce her nor impress her and that you have self-mockery: being indifferent means that you are not absolutely needy, so that you have other options, so that you are preselected and also that you have humor).

Dead Man Walking: A guy whose relationship with his girlfriend is over even if he does not know it yet.

DHV (Demonstration Higher Value): Technique for valorizing with a woman and arousing her interest. Be careful not to overdo it (no bragging). DHVing is talking about your trip to Argentina, your meeting with such and such star, etc.

DLV (Demonstration Lower Value): this is the opposite of DHV. It is to shoot yourself a bullet in the foot by evoking your problems (no money at the end of the month, problems to seduce girls, depression, etc.) in front of a girl that is supposed to be seduced. It makes her want to run away. Avoid at all costs!

Eye Contact: An EC is a look exchanged between two individuals. It can be stealthy or maintained. We can sometimes interpret it as a sign of interest or an invitation to approach.

Eliciting Values: Important values ​​that a woman looks for in a man. For example if she likes tall men, it’s because she needs to feel protected.

Escalation: Means “going to next step”. For example, “kino escalation” is used to talk about the evolution of physical contact since the first time you touch someone (her hand or the upper arm) until you kiss her or sleep with her.

Flake: This is the name given to the cancellation of a date for false reasons and at the last minute. The metaphor corresponds to a snowflake that would melt into our hands while we naively think we could catch it. Note that if the date is canceled for good reasons and the girl compensates with a counterproposal, we can not consider that she really spun between our fingers.

Fluff: Discussion with no interest or purpose (talking about the weather, your appointment with the dentist, etc.) More generally, it is any discussion that is not structured according to a game plan (therefore with a purpose, a function to seduce). Know that any topic of conversation can be good for seduction, that it is the strength or emotional direction that is really important (yes, you can talk about the dentist and be seductive, as surprising as it may sound).

Frame: It’s our state of mind, our way of seeing the world. It is a concept of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). The stimuli our brain receives constantly are too numerous for us to take them all into account: the resulting limitation defines the reality in which we live. Three images allow us to quickly identify this concept.

1 / The glass half full or half empty: commonplace, this image is nonetheless extremely useful. It is possible, in all situations, to focus on positive elements, contributions for ourselves and others, or loss and negative elements. It is central to understand that this is only a choice to make.

2 / The video camera: our perceptions are limited, and we are only able to see reality through a reduced frame, like a video camera. Life is like a party with one of your friends: you have the choice between spending your time recording the dispute between Jeannot and Marie-Claire or the romantic and playful meeting of David with Sophie. You can apply this to any type of situations and reflections. We have no control over what is happening to us, but nothing and no one can take away the choice of taking things positively or negatively.

3 / Sunglasses: when you wear it, you see the same world as the others, but at the same time a darker world, in which everything is different. Having a frame of success, or a frame of happiness, is to be able to see success and happiness in everything we do and in everything that happens to us. Everyone is capable of that. The frame is like a muscle, if you train every day to model your frame the way you want, you will become more and more skilled at directing your own thoughts and making yourself happy.

Open environment: it is the street, the clubs, the dating sites. Where you do not have to see a woman after trying to seduce her.

Closed environment: this is your company, your office, your school. Where you risk seeing women again and where your reputation precedes you.

Freeze out: A technique that overcomes a Last Minute Resistance, namely the fear that a woman can feel just before a sexual act, and that is often the last obstacle in the pickup process. Instead of a needy behavior such as getting excited, supplicating, arguing or trying to physically excite a little more (which is nevertheless the most effective solution after the FO) it is better to feign disinterest for sex considering that if the woman does not want to, it does not matter. So you have to move on to another activity: breaking the charm of intimacy (caressing, kissing) and switching to an activity without sexual tension, such as watching TV, playing a card game or whatever, produces several effects : you show that you are still fine without sex, as if you were already in a long-term relationship, you show that the absence of sex does not affect you, which means indirectly that you have women an abundance (preselection by other women) and that you control your emotions. You finally show that you are a sexed being who respects his own sensuality: you are not going to play forever, and the woman has to choose between intimacy with sex or nothing intimate (because in any case you live in the abundance and other women therefore desire you so too bad for her).

Friend Zone (FZ – Friendly Zone): The girl who puts a guy in the FZ sees him as a friend with whom she will never sleep. It is very difficult to get out of this zone, which is a real swamp of shifting sands. Avoid it at all costs.

Field: It’s a pick up place (it can be a bar, a street, a website, etc.) The  field report it’s when you tell a pick up.

Field Tested: Too many beginners speculate on hypothetical techniques. Arguing that a technique is Field Tested is to ensure its effectiveness.

Game: A term that refers to the game of seduction as a whole. It was popularized by the book by Neil Strauss.

Guy Thinking Too Much: Scientific seduction was introduced by geeks very gifted in logic but who had no social intuition. Many of these men have analytic personalities, are incapable of being natural and always need to refer to a theory instead of listening to their intuitions. On the ground, they spend their time thinking about details that have no purpose instead of acting, it’s a shame!

H2G (Hard to Get): DHV technique to don’t be regarded as a sex-starving person. An H2G man does not make out with any girl and does not do anything for a girl. Behaving in this way helps you gain self-confidence. But, be careful, being too H2G can be an excuse to justify your loneliness and lack of balls (especially with desperate and full of bad faith players).

HB (Hot Babe): Subjective rating of a girl’s beauty. The note of the same girl can vary between two players. In general, a HB is a hottie, rated between 6 and 10.

HSE (High Self Esteem): High self-esteem. An HSE girl would accept a few funny jokes about her without flinching, unlike an LSE.

Instant date: Having a date instantly with a girl we just met. Typically: a café after approaching the street.

IOI (Indicator of Interest): Any verbal or non-verbal signs that show a woman is interested in you: she asks you for your first name, asks if you have not already met somewhere, what is your perfume, looks at you insistently smiling, etc. On the contrary, there are the signs of disinterest (IOD).

Kino: Action to touch your target without disturb her. Touching someone creates a connection and lets you know if seduction begins to bear fruit or not.

Kino Girl: Touchy girl, loving to be touched and touching without necessarily meaning that she is interested… it’s just her nature.

Inner game: Improving your inner game is becoming more authentic. It is becoming more confident and exceed your limits to seduce the women that you like.

Outer game: These are the actual seduction techniques, routines, approach phrases, transitions, and all the details that allow to act concretely.

IRL (In Real Life): means in real life, as opposed to virtual.

Try too hard: To do too much to try to impress, to compensate a complex. Acting in this way usually communicates bad things.

LJBF: “Let’s be just friends”: the typical phrase that many women use to say to a man that they do not consider him as a potential sexual partner. This is the phrase that often accompanies relegation to Friendzone. The sentence itself is not as dramatic as the relational framework it introduces…

LMR: Last Minute Resistance. It is the fear that some women feel just before the beginning of the sexual act, whose intensity varies according to women, and which is linked to the fear of seeing the man disappear just after. Typically the girl is in your room but no longer wants to make love for a silly reason or think you take her for an easy girl. The main weapon against the LMR is the Freeze Out, but it is recommended, in order to avoid this blockage, to show you like her (and a legitimate interest, in other words a good qualification) with sufficient conviction and congruence and do not show any signs of neediness either.

LSE: Low Self Esteem: a person whose self-esteem is low or bad. An LSE person tends to don’t know how to receive compliments because they will not match the self-image he/she has, and tends to seek relationships in which he/she will be treated in accordance with this image (thus mistreated). In terms of frame, it will be said that the person filters all the situations to retain only the negative interpretations and elements. Such behavior is often so deeply anchored that the person profoundly believes that his or her “bad” situation is not a state of mind, but a reality that can not be changed, a fate. An LSE suffers and needs help, a thorough work is needed, and it can be tricky or difficult to maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship with such a person.

LTR: Long term relationship. Relationship (intimate, affective) in the long term. It is often considered that a serious, long-term relationship begins after 3 months of an ongoing and exclusive relationship.

Mister Nice Guy: True AFC, Mister Nice Guy has a lot of female friends who constantly say he’s wonderful while he is single and they are fucking other men. Mister Nice Guy therefore has little or no sexual relations, it is the cousin of Bob the AFC.

MILF (Mother I would Like to Fuck): A mature but attractive woman, usually a mother. For a young man, it can be a friend of his mother or even the mother of his best friend. Beyond that, after 45 years, one begins to speak of cougar woman. There is an older woman fetishism about MILFs: it is one of the most wanted types of pornographic videos on the Internet.

Mojo: Energy, psycho-corporal motivation at a given moment. We also speak of momentum or flow to qualify this positive state of creativity and inner strength.

Needy: Frustration, sexual need too visible. A guy who demonstrates that he desperately seeks the attention, sexual or emotional favors of another person. This is called neediness. Some words, but mostly bodily attitudes are signs of neediness: as a rule, as soon as there is an imbalance between the attention that two people are giving to each other, the person who gives more than the other tends to seem needy. Too great neediness does not generally appear to be attractive to those who are targeted. This is why it is fundamental to work on the characteristics and attitudes that demonstrate an absence of neediness to improve your charisma and attraction. However, do not confuse being needy and affirming your desire for a woman. The affirmation of desire must work as a gift to the other, without waiting for reciprocity. It is also important to understand the system of representation in which your interlocutor evolves: the criteria of what is needy or non-needy can vary from one person to another, and during the game of seduction. However, it is obviously the criteria of your target that are decisive. Ultimately, an LSE would get along well with a needy!

Neg: Kind of innocent remark or inadmissible compliment addressed to a girl who thinks a little too much she’s a princess, who is snobbish. The goal is to get her down from her pedestal and feel she does not impress you. The idea is that once you are on an equal footing, you can undertake to build a relationship. One of the best known negs: « Nice nails… are they real? » This plays on the insecurities of girls, to be used on confident women and HSEs. But beware, we get treated as a big asshole if we abuse it or if we are clumsy. And if this is the case, usually it breaks more sexual tension than it creates… and game over !

Next: Knowing how to next means knowing when to give up. It saves time and energy to dedicate them to a less problematic, more motivated woman, etc.

One itis (OI): Love obsession, idealized and fantasized image of a woman. One speaks of obsession because the OI makes lose all sense of the reality and must not be confused with the true love. The AFCs (and therefore sometimes the young players with their first successes) are often victims because they do not know how to control their emotions, do not have a high self-esteem and generally do not have sex  often (which would enable them to take a step back from the importance of this woman in particular). Many men are persuaded to have found the woman of their lives by having seen her only a few times! The poor man in one-itis will gradually convince himself that this girl is unique and extraordinary and that her happiness depends on her, which means that he will no longer really be himself in his presence. In our society, it is very well seen to be ready to do anything for the chosen one of your heart, we see there a mark of love powerful and sincere… In reality, this kind of behavior is anything but attractive. The classic scheme of an OI is the following: the man meets a woman and very quickly develops feelings for her, before even knowing her well. As this man is generally not sexed or seductive and does not escalade towards the sexual act, he enters without realizing it in the Friendzone. Then, one day, suffering too much from the friend-friend relationship he hopes to see evolve, he declares his love and takes a devastating rejection. Indeed, she only saw him as a friend. There is also the frequent case of the one who falls in OI on his best friend or on a girl he (badly) fucked. The problem is that in the vast majority of cases, an intimate friend can not be considered as a lover in the mind of a woman. Becoming the best friend is often the best way that AFCs have found to stay close to a woman who attracts them. It is imperative to be able to identify the IO and to move away from it as soon as possible. If possible, eliminate any contact with the person you like so much at first to regain personal integrity.

ONS: One Night Stand. Coup d’un soir, sex without a tomorrow.

Open: Approach.

Opener: Sentence to start a conversation.

Pattern: Routine created in order to put the other in the desired emotional state using NLP principles.

Peacocking: Wearing dress to attract attention. The goal is to differentiate themselves from others, for example with accessories, and to give a pretext to the girls interested to approach and touch you. Comes from the word “peacock” in English.

Pivot: A kind of female wing. This term comes from the fact that your friend approaches a group or sympathizes with a woman so that you “pivot” around her and that she can introduce you. Because she’s a woman, your chances of success will increase considerably if she opens. Indeed, there will be less chance that the group rejects her and she will be a powerful “social proof”, especially if she is pretty…

Player: Seduction is seen as a game (cf. the game). The player is therefore the one who plays it, who maybe wants to become a PUA. This term is also used outside the community. And they sometimes say “do not hate the player, hate the game”.

NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Branch of Psychology, founded by Richard Bandler and John Grinder by analyzing the work on the hypnotic trance of Milton Erickson. The two founders have formed a system of tools that influence their own representations and representations of others (mainly) through language. This movement, whose popularity in the United States quickly crossed the Atlantic, was taken over by the seduction community to understand and master the emotional mechanisms in the interactions.

PUA: Pick Up Artist. Artist of the dredge, seducer confirmed. Grade, the highest to the rank of seduction. Since this is a self-assigned title, there are fakes. And a lot of criticism: there will always be people saying that PUAs are not balanced people and they are looking to escape a deep discomfort. This is true or false, depending on the case. Some PUAs are not models of inner peace, others are more so than the majority of people. But the ideal of true PUA is to continually improve, to find a path of balance and respect in his sexual and social life. Seduction goes beyond the mere fact of adding women to your kill count : it is a way of finding one’s own identity, of locating oneself in relations with others and of gaining maturity. For many, it is a quasi-therapeutic way to overcome shyness and to become confident in society.

Qualification: The pick-up phase in which the man communicates to the woman the reasons why he is interested in her and that allow her to consider him as a partner. Most beautiful women have almost infinite possibilities to have sex, it is for this reason that it is not advisable to use their physical appearance as an argument in the qualification. Doing so would mean belonging to the same category as the hundreds of men who do it on a daily basis. Moreover, a large proportion of women find qualification as a major element of attraction: they will allow themselves much more easily to desire a man who desires them in a legitimate way, that is to say who wants them for certain traits of their personality, and which gives them the feeling of being unique and special.

Routine: A routine is a story that has been used several times in the past and that the player uses to captivate his target. And, the more you use it, the more the routine is mastered. Generally, routines serve to hold the target’s attention, to under-communicate attractive characteristics, or to generate emotions. It can go far : some have used routines hundreds of times, some for over thirty minutes.

Set: This is a term used in seduction to designate a group of people that contains potential targets.

Shit test: Or “chick test”. Attitudes of women whose purpose (most often unconscious) is to test your self-mastery, your persistence or your limits. It is a way for them to know if the boy has good reproductive value and is confident by asking dumb questions to test him. They want to take the best of all the men available to them (it is necessary to realize that a beautiful girl is relatively often approached, and even more when she goes out at night, she lives constantly with thousands of options). A shit-test is sometimes a trick question that aims to eliminate boys judged below the level of demands of women. To answer a shit-test, this is the way that matters. It is better to respond ironically to show the absurdity of the question.

Example: “Why are not you going to seduce this girl?
– Okay, are you coming with me?”

Social Proof: To define the social value of a man, a woman uses external elements like the perception of this man by others (yes, most people are sheep). A girl will have more interest and trust in an individual who has been previously selected by others, to whom she assignes value if possible. Social proof is the recognition expressed by the environment towards the player. When you are somewhere and you know everyone, you are said to be “social proofed”. If you take a girl to a club/bar/restaurant where you know the boss, waiters, and where many people come to say hello to you, you do not give her the same impression than if everyone else was ignoring you. It shows that you have a fairly rich social life. Moreover, if people around you seem to like you, they will tend to love you too. For example, in the night, even before approaching a girl, if she has seen before that you know many people and they laugh in your presence, she will be more receptive. Warning, if people seem to take you for an idiot, social proof would then have the opposite effect.

Social circle: Social circle.

Sarger: Going out to pick up and seduce “on the field” to practice the theory of seduction. We can speak of a good sarge, a nice sarger or a desire to sarge… the term comes from the name of the cat of Ross Jeffries, the creator of the community of seduction.

Story Telling: Action to tell a captivating story with lots of emotions and twists to captivate a woman’s attention. May contain a final morality olike “carpe diem, let’s make love” to make her want to let it go. Technique that can also consist of telling stories and memories by embellishing them so as to raise the interest of our target for us.

SPU (Street Pick Up): Literally translates as street seduction. There is also mainly the “night pickup” which takes place by definition at night… and the “online dating”, on sites and dating applications.

Target : The lady or woman to seduce is seen as a goal. Dehumanizing her somewhat allows you to give yourself more courage to start to meet her and sexualize more easily. Gainsbourg, in a song, said “I think of you as a target”: it’s a bit that, the idea!

Time Constraint (often False Time Constraint): A technique of setting a time limit on our target to put her back to the wall and speed things up. Useful also when approaching a woman in a hurry: she is given the indication that we are just passing and that we are already about to leave before asking her a question, which shows that we will not harass her during one hour. It is supposed to relax the target and works like a foot in the door because sometimes there is no real intention to leave quickly.

Wingman (wing): Friend/colleague with whom you are going on the field, usually it is a guy who knows the various techniques and methods of pick-up.

Warpig: HB rated below 5, meaning “ugly”, which refers to girls who are physically unattractive. Often, the lousy girlfriend of our target, the same who puts us sticks in the wheels and who is jealous that her girlfriend can have fun with cool boys like you! ;

Prize: It’s the price in the interaction.

Fast seduction: It is rapid seduction, it consists of sexualizing and kinesthetically escalating quickly. This method teaches how to play with sexual tension. Thanks to it, sometimes you can sleep with girls 10 minutes after you met them. In some cases of LMR, for example, stepping up sexual tension to excite the woman will allow you to fuck her, but not putting her in the fridge. That’s what this method taught me. Yes, here again, you must calibrate and choose your school…

Speed ​​seduction: This is the seduction school of Ross Jeffries, the creator of our community. It is seduction through communication (patterns, NLP, hypnosis, etc.). It is sometimes referred to as “dark seduction” (the not very ethical face of the community of seduction).

The Mystery Method: One of the first methods of seduction. Mystery PUA organized seduction in phases (attraction, comfort and seduction), themselves containing several sub-stages (opener, DHV, etc.). But this school is today surpassed by more powerful tools: Mystery said you need at least 8 hours to sleep with a girl, which is obviously wrong. However, there are still some good things in his work!

Extract from : The basics of seduction