Introduction:
Today, I propose a new concept: articles for chicks.
Several girlfriends have asked me to write to explain how to give a good blowjob. Most Internet articles are written by girls, explaining to other girls how to suck. So I want to give, this time, the view of a man on the subject. If you want to add other advice or if you want me to answer other questions : feel free to leave a comment !!!
What follows is therefore just my opinion… but we are a bit all the same, right? đ
The purpose of this article is twofold:
– Give girls ideas to improve their oral sex;
– Show guys how their girlfriend could (maybe) better suck them.
For me, a good blowjob is with three things:
1) The mouth
2) The hand
3) The tongue
But there are other criteria to consider:
4) The rhythm
5) Testicles
6) Swallow
7) The position
8) The fingers in the ass
9) The mindset
10) Statistics
1) The mouth
The first thing that comes to my mind is obvious: it is important to do not put teeth. Know that girls do not always realize when they scrape our glans. Watch out, there’s someone on the other end !!!
One way to avoid putting the teeth is to position your lips in the good way. You must tighten your lips so we a little feel something. It happened to me, with closed eyes, I did no longer know whether the girl was sucking me or not: I felt NOTHING.
Feel free to drool to lubricate. The idea is to replicate a little texture of the vagina that is hot and humid. It is an interest of blowjobs, especially when we usually fuck with condoms: because we really feel the woman without a piece of plastic on the penis that separates us from her. Regarding the risk of STDs, it is very small and almost non-existent with oral when you have no mouth sores.
There’s websites that advise you ladies to take only our glans in your mouth … but I think it’s a bad idea. That’s comings and goings on my entire penis that drive me crazy.
Finally, be careful if you keep sucking after ejaculation: my penis is very sensitive when I came… and it can hurt.
2) The hand
I especially like when there is a rotational movement of your hand on my penis simultaneously with the movement from the bottom to up of your mouth. I say it otherwise: when the girl has my cock down her throat, her hand is down and when she goes up with her mouth, her hand goes back by at least a quarter turn around my cock. And so she does repeats it again in rhythm.
Girls can also have your hand on our chest or can touch themselves at the same time (breasts or pussy). Seeing you having fun, it really turns me on.
A variant of the rotational movement is to do a basic low-top motion but with only the thumb and index finger placed in a ring around the cock. Again, it is the pressure exerted on the sex that will determine our sensitivity to this practice. If it’s too tight it hurts and if you do not shake enough, we do not feel much. But do not make me say what I did not say: do not squish us anyway!
3) The tongue
While you suck, get out your tongue out of your mouth and stretch it so that it caresses the sex by naturally following the movements back and forth of your head.
Note that, not to mention the deep gorges (which can be fun) when you touch the back of your throat: it can make you want to vomit. To avoid that this happens every time, I’m afraid there is no alternative but to train yourself to tame the sensation.
There’s websites that advise women to make us wait an hour before sucking us, while turning around the bush (kissing us everywhere else). So anticipation itâs cool two minutes, but if the girl need one hour before going for it… I think it’s just boring!
4) The rhythm
You have to see the rhythm that the girl can bear to follow. Sometimes we can show you our ideal rhythm by doing pelvic movements (conscious or unconscious) at the same time you suck (we fuck your mouth).
To relieve you or show you our ideal rhythm, we can put our hands behind your head and help you in the movements. It’s also helpful to keep your hair if they are not attached so you do not eat it.
Know that just before orgasm, the penis tends, swells significantly and becomes hotter.
To increase the power of orgasm, you can raise the excitement. Whether it is by basking long before, by a long blowjob, or … let us approaching orgasm several times, but let us go down a bit, and try again several times before letting us go after. Please note that this technique works but it must be done with the agreement of your partner and by explaining what is done or you take the risk of making is go crazy!
5) Testicles
There’s a lot of girls who want to touch my balls in bed: they want to lick me or fiddling it with their fingers. It seems that there are guys who fancy it thoroughly, but me, I personally do not like it. If it lasts five seconds itâs nice but if it lasts too long, I ask them to stop, explaining that it hurts. It started from a good intention but…
6) Swallow
Should you swallow or not? Already, you “must” nothing. Everyone does as he wants. Personally I love it but I can imagine there are many girls who do not want to drink the cup. Oh, by the way, I should make an article about the taste of semen. Anyway, so, when it is the first time and I do not know if they want to swallow, I tell them I’m going to enjoy when I feel that I enjoy and I let them do what they want then with that information.
7) The position
The problem of the position may be a problem for some, but I love when she is kneeling in front of me or when she is sitting on the edge of the bed and I am stand up before her. If the girl find it disrespectful or too dominant, she may still suck by lengthening us on the back on the bed: she just has to come on us at the footboard There’s a lot of bitches who forget that during the blowjob we are vulnerable and they are in total control of our pleasure. So it does not so dominant! The girls from Sex and the City are right when they say, “OK. when we suck them, we are kneeling. But at the same time, they are held by the balls.” So: draw game! Like for oral sex!
What is good is to cross a naughty look as she plays with our craft.
8) The fingers in the ass
If a girl tried to put a finger in my ass by force or surprise, she would take the risk of getting fired from my bluntly… I know there are guys who fancy that… but it’s far from our every manâs dream. So be careful with it and âtest the waterâ at least a little before raping our anus.
9) The mindset
The context of the blowjobs matters, of course. Depending on where you do that or if you had a good day or not, you can be more or less in the mood. But here I wish to mention the deepest beliefs that are related to the blowjob.
A girl who does not suck (especially if you lick her) is the most often by:
– disgust
– fear of not doing well
– selfishness
*Some women are really put off by oral sex, as some guys are by the cunnilingus: I can conceive it. There’s not much to do there except presenting a very clean sex or asking them to try to suck us in the shower. Also remains the solution of flavored condoms but frankly I have already said, the plastic during blowjob removes a lot of pleasure.
In short, sometimes there’s not much to do with these girls. Being pumped by a girl who seems disgusted : even if she does it to please us, that’s nice but it’s not awesome! I love when I feel that the girl is “greedy”. I love that she shows she likes my entire body.
There’s wrong beliefs that block women today. In ancient Egypt, the prostitutes put lipstick to show they practiced blowjob. Babylonian whores smeared men sex before sucking it (it’s also good with whipped cream not too sweet). So it was something degrading for sex workers. At the time of Catholicism, it had become downright sin as the act was separate from the will of procreation. In the Song of Songs, oral sex is even associated with the adulterous woman. Among Irish Catholics, she was punished by fifteen years of imprisonment (like a homicide). Today, we still sometimes have the image of the blowjob without tenderness as presented in pornography. It is often humiliating for the woman (yet willing), but it is fortunately not perceived like that by men normally formed in privacy.
Today it is a classic caress part of foreplay. Fellatio is not (now anyway) an act that man us to discharge on women their misogyny. It is an act of devouring of the woman on the man, you suck our life energy!
Fortunately, thanks to a real letting go, some women manage to make fellatio erotic. I have met many who were more than wet after sucking: so that excites a lot of you! The shrinks would say they are looking for their lost phallus, and therefore, performing oral sex, allows them to relativize the castration complex.
Feminists also make women who love to suck feel guilty. They try to make us believe that after centuries of female availability, men no longer have the right to ask anything in bed. But if we do not feel fully loved, if the man no more feel irresistible and manly: it may frustrate us deeply!
*If this is the “fear of doing it in the bad way” that blocks her, that’s another problem. Let her read this article and encourage her. Same thing if it is shyness: in this case, be the first to go down on her. That said, when we do not really know the girl, it’s awkward to ask this, fortunately they mostly do it themselves.
*If it is because of selfishness that she does not suck you but she loves your cunnilingus: it’s unfair. Could I stay with a girl like that? I do not think so. This is important in a couple I guess : because I appreciate this practice and because it helps to ease conflicts, if any.
I would not stay with a woman who sees oral sex as a one-way favor or a reward. Like who does not suck me when I have not unscrewed the cover of the toilet to punish me or something like that, it’s going to piss me off! Sex should not be a blackmail argument!
10) Statistics
In the 1970s, 55% of men had oral sex.
In the 1970s, 66% of men had oral sex.
Today, 88.5% of women aged 35-39 have experienced blowjob. 90.5% of men of the same age have already been sucked. About the regular practice with pleasure (or at least without displeasure), it is 70% among 25-34 yearsâŠ
In summary :
Whether it’s to make me orgasm, or just to warm me and have sex with me right after, that’s how I like blowjobs. If your girl sucks in a bad way, it’s difficult to directly tell your girlfriend, you have to be diplomatic. Why not watching a porn with her, where the girl sucks like you would like her to try to suck you?