How to perform cunnilingus properly? How to perform good cunnilingus? And how to lick her pussy ? In this article, discover the guide to giving orgasms with your tongue.
Don’t laugh: there are guys who start licking a girl, and she falls asleep!
Or, they pretend to enjoy themselves so they can quickly move on without offending the guy.
You can also read : How to Properly Finger a Woman: A Detailed Guide On Fingering Her
How to enjoy giving cunnilingus?
First of all, mindset is essential. I would say you have to learn to enjoy giving cunnilingus.
No, it’s not degrading for the man: yes, you’re between his legs, but you’re the one controlling his pleasure.
Plus, they’ll love it so much, they’ll be eager to return the favor by sucking you off to give you complete pleasure!
So learn to enjoy it because it matters. Like a woman who loves giving you head: you enjoy it! So learn to enjoy sucking her clit!
Foreplay: Cunnilingus
Cunnilingus is a practice that can be considered part of foreplay. However, before diving into her pussy, there are a few things to do.
Play with anticipation, imagination, kiss her on the mouth, caress her entire body… Create sexual tension, turn her on, and run your tongue down her little tummy until she can’t take it anymore! She’ll beg you to take her. At that point, you agree to lick her. Then, you can alternate between penetration and cunnilingus. For example, by using edging so that when she comes, it’s incredibly powerful.
How to properly perform cunnilingus: you need to find the clitoris
It’s all about knowing where the clitoris is. Once you know roughly where it is, you can slide your tongue in and feel it underneath.
It’s like a hard little buttercup. It’s not the same size or sensitivity for all women, so you have to adapt!
And besides the clitoris, where should you lick her? Make a V with your fingers and place them on her pussy; that’s the area to lick, roughly! Then, you need her feedback: does she like it right underneath, or around it, how much pressure, etc.
How to Perform Good Cunnilingus: The Finger + Tongue Combo
The idea here is to accentuate the sensations she’ll experience by adding fingers inside her vagina. Two fingers on the G-spot, in addition to the tongue, is usually a turn-on for her!
Of course, here again, you have to adapt to your partner’s feedback. And your hands must be clean, with short nails, etc.
Women are extremely careful about hygiene, and we understand why: they don’t want a yeast infection.
Licking a Woman: How to Position Yourself
You can lick a woman in various positions, but it’s important to position yourself correctly first. Position your nose well to avoid odors (on her pubic mound). Or stick out your tongue. Or strategically place a finger between you and her before separating. A cushion under her buttocks is good.
This will put her pelvis in the right position. You also need to find a good position for your fingers. Some guys have “cramps” in their jaw or biceps that prevent them from continuing their oral sex. My favorite position is on my knees in front of the bed, with her lying on top. But some guys prefer to lick a woman sitting in front of them on a chair. Others want to lick her from behind (like doggy style). Some only lick during a 69: oral sex versus blowjob! I recommend trying different styles so that it’s comfortable for you and you enjoy what you’re doing.
Licking a Girl: What to Do with Your Tongue?
Use a hard and thin tongue at the same time. Here, you can lick her clitoris, with or without the hood, depending on her sensitivity. You can wrap your arms around her legs and control the small skin of her clitoris to “adjust” her sensitivity.
Use up and down or circular motions; they usually work well! Either right on top of it or around it. Again, it depends on the girl! Also use your hands: caress her thighs, her breasts, her G-spot, put a finger in her mouth, etc. Remember that she’s not just a pussy, but a whole body!
Cunnilingus: Mistakes
Above all, don’t use your teeth. I think you all understand why! Imagine her sucking you with her teeth, the look on your face! Next, don’t blow into her vagina; it can be dangerous. That’s pretty much the only thing you shouldn’t do. So those who tell you to blow hot and cold on the vagina are idiots.
How long does it take for her to come from cunnilingus?
It depends on the woman. Some are like premature ejaculators and come in a few minutes. Luckily, they can have several orgasms in a row! Others take ages to come. It’s not great: neither for you nor for them. But generally, over time, they relax and “learn” to come from cunnilingus, and it comes faster. Others have blockages (psychological) and can’t do it. Even on their own.
There’s some serious work to be done. But I’d say the average time is between 10 and 30 minutes to give her an orgasm. As she approaches ultimate pleasure, her legs will tremble, she may squeeze them around your neck, and even tell you to stop so she can take her. I advise you to go all the way and make her come! If you have a finger inside her little vagina at that moment, you’ll see it tighten around you, then it lets go and gets wet. If she’s not babbling incomprehensible words and pulling your hair, it’s probably not good enough!
And after the cunnilingus?
Well, after making her come with cunnilingus, you can already be proud of yourself. Take a moment to savor your achievement. Guys who can do it are rare. Guys generous enough to do it too. Most want to get sucked but don’t lick girls.
They’re pretty selfish, after all. So tell yourself that learning how to give her the best cunnilingus of her life will allow you to be a special lay that stands out from the crowd. In concrete terms? Wipe your mouth before kissing her. Take her with your cock! One cunnilingus may be enough, but generally, they also need penetration.
Generally, when the tongue goes in, everything goes in afterward, she’s so excited. Sometimes you can start by saying, “I’m just starting to give you cunnilingus. I love it, and if you don’t want to go any further, too bad!” They say OK. And then, afterward, they’re super excited, so they want to fuck! Well, of course, if your cunnilingus isn’t done properly, she’ll get bored and be in a hurry to get it over with. So you really have to learn how to do cunni properly.
Let’s just say that done properly, it’s an extraordinary thing that will make you one of the best lays of her life, and she’ll want to thank you like never before! But done poorly, it’s something she’ll never want to experience again and might even laugh about with her friends. Don’t be that “crazy licker” who doesn’t realize what he’s doing isn’t good.
Some women don’t like cunnilingus.
Of course, that’s not up for debate. It’s like a guy saying he doesn’t like blowjobs. It’s pretty rare! That said, there are more women who claim they don’t like cunnilingus than guys who refuse to get a blowjob. For women, it’s often either a hypersensitive clitoris that makes them uncomfortable.
Or they’re “ashamed” of their anatomy, so they don’t want you to even touch it. As you know, female psychology in bed plays a huge role!
Or they might even feel “I don’t deserve to be taken care of.” Likewise, depending on her traumas and personal history, she needs to free herself.
Not to mention all those who’ve never been properly licked because the other guys out there are so useless, they don’t know how good it can feel!!! I’ve given MANY women their first orgasms through cunnilingus!
Your sex coach and king of cunnilingus in France
Fabrice Julien