Author: Fabrice Julien PUA

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Introduction to sexualization

Definition

Sexualization is creating a sexual atmosphere, while remaining fun and correct. It is tempting the woman you pick up to get wet for you. It is running as a potential lover, not as a new sexless best friend and even less as a platonic lover. It’s making the girl understand you’re OK to fuck her.

The idea is to grow feelings of intimacy and physical comfort. Sexualization is what makes a girl see in you a potential lover, not one more guy with who nothing will happen. It will provoke, stir her desire and urge to play with you. The more a girl will come into your game, the more you can accentuate the sexualization.

There are several types of sexualization: this can be done through words and/or the body.

There are also different degrees, sometimes it’s more or less ambiguous, but the goal remains the same: creating attraction, creating a warm climate between you, to let her imagine naughty situations, be mischievous to create an impression of complicity, etc.

It is through the sexualization it becomes possible to sleep at the first date and to quickly kiss girls in clubs.

On the other hand, if shitty phrases like “I like you a lot, but I prefer that we stay friends…” come back too often in your life, it’s very likely that you do not sexualize enough… or not at the right time. In short, you have a problem with that!

This was only an appetizer… we will study the sexualization in details in this ebook!

Sexualization is running as a potential lover.

This is tempting her, communicating your desire to give her orgasms!

 

Lack of sexualization

Sexualisation also serves to clarify the situation between you and the girls. The faster you will clarify the context, the more you avoid the risk of landing in the Friendzone: the worst shame for a player is to pick up a girl who would not understand it and would see just a friend in him.

If you are doing pickup in any serious way, sexualizing should be your priority!

Lack of sexualisation is the syndrome of the too “nice” guy afraid to show his desire (even if he may very well be mean and not knowing sexualization : the result would be the same (except if he really is an asshole and women do not even want him as a friend)).

Most men having trouble seducing introduce themselves in an asexually way. Typically, the main symptoms are:
– Obvious lack of confidence;
– Nervousness glaring in their body language in the presence of a beautiful woman;
– Inability to talk about sex with women (or very strangely);
– No sense of timing;
– Do not recognize the sexual tension when they talk to a girl and dissipate it;
– Too serious / distant / cold;
– Never touch chicks;
– Do not (or badly) communicate their desire: for example, they try to take the hand of the girl and to kiss her without any prior contact or then verbalize their desire just like when they were kids (by idealizing it).

We will come back throughout this ebook on it: talking about sex, it’s natural. This is also one of the favorite topics of conversation of women. This subject becomes annoying only when you talk about it in an embarrassed way (because emotions are contagious).

So the key is your attitude!

However, I understand some fears: sex is the subject that typically scares chicks if it is not properly done (besides, even if you do it right, this topic will still make some psychorigid flee). There is also the risk of being called a pervert stalker by a rabid an extremist feminist…

In fact, many men are paralyzed by the fear of what women might think. This even cut their balls!

That’s because there is a growing asexualisation of males, mainly due to the prevailing hypocrisy in our society… that’s why we must treat this matter seriously!

Sexualization, it’s exciting…

Polite indifference, it’s over…

It is very important to clarify the situation between girls and you!

For a seducer, ending up unwittingly in a Friendzone is a shame!

The lack of sexualisation is the syndrome of the “nice guy”…

You must beef up your game: dare to touch, talk about sex, etc.

Look at what Emily Ratajkowsky wrote on her Instagram. And she’s right.

So, do not hesitate to read her essay here.

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

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How and why to sexualise ?

Friends, just friends

Many are unhappy and disrupted by questions like “Does she like me? Is there some way with her? Why doesn’t she suck my cock greedily?”

They are people who are going to torture themselves by looking for hidden meanings in what women say. “Did she want to get a message across when talking about her last relationship?”; “What the hell does she find to this guy she often talks about? Are they together?”; “What did she mean when she said I was cute? “

Many boys, facing those questions, took their courage in their hands and asked the elected of their heart “wanna make out with me?” They then received as an answer: “No. I prefer that we stay just friends.”

It has broken them.

 

Bad memories

In Les particules élémentaires, Houellebecq tells the story of a guy who did not dare to kiss the most beautiful girl of his class, while he hung out with her all the time. He liked the girl very much, and it seemed mutual. But one day the damsel got tired of his inaction and they lost touch. Throughout his life, the character wondered what would have happened if he had dared to try something. This traumatic experience has affected his whole life and was followed by a shitty love life. This sentence of the book struck me: “When I was seventeen I never imagined that life is so short, possibilities so brief.”

It reminds me a dirty experience I myself have lived… a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away.

I poked a girl on Facebook and it turned out that we had a friend in common. We have long talked online (I thought we were flirting), then we met at a party, in the presence of the common friend (that I would have gladly fucked too).

After that night, she continued to talk to me on the chat, so I figured she was interested and have proposed to meet again: she invited me to the carnival, an afternoon with her friends. Then we saw each other in a platonic way.

But a blessed night, I had invited her to a party I had organized to celebrate I-don’t-remember-what and we went clubbing. On the dance floor, she stuck her ass against my cock, moving it with the music. I tried to say something in her ear but she stepped back making large gestures and shouting “NO”. She thought that I had tried to kiss her.

One hour later, she kissed enthusiastically a guy I did not know but one of my friends had brought to the party. Our common friend also kissed a stranger on the dance floor. Seeing this, and not having the ability to find a girl, I was pissed off and got back to my place, grumbling like a bastard.

But the two girls had to sleep at my place because they lived outside of the city. Then, about 5pm, they rang the doorbell, hopeful. I did not open and told them to go fuck themselves. That day, I decided I had to master the game to no longer live so bad adventures. That day, I reconciled with my balls.

Motivated by rage of humiliation, I started my (re)build myself. Two years later, I saw this bitch in a bar. She was with her boyfriend, a guy with no apparent virility. I used our old “friendship” to isolate and told her shit for an hour before french kissing her, she was surprised. But made no downward movement.

After that, I went to tell her guy what we just did and I left. Yeah, it wasn’t a good idea to piss me off!

All that to say that being a friend of women, this is crap. I know how it can make a man suffer. That is why I am writing this ebook today: I want to help men who are in this hard situation.

 

Friendzone and lack of sexualization

The term “Friendzone” gradually became a name, sometimes declined in verb. The concept even has its own Wikipedia page. This encyclopedia says it is a “social situation where a person wants to have a romantic or sexual relationship with another person who wishes to maintain a friendly relationship.”

Except in real life, the situation is a bit more complex than that.

Some see it as “a way of describing this difficult time when you realize that the person you like is absolutely not interested.”

For others, it is an admission of the failure of a man who allegedly tried to seduce a woman or to have sex with her.

Women are tempted to see in it a “means used by men to justify their sense of entitlement over women. They imagine that if they are nice with a woman, women are obliged to show a certain interest to them.”

Some suggest that this term implies a sense of victimization and injustice and is « full of aggression and resentment. [That] it is often used to say “she hurt me and unjustly rejected me.” »

Men therefore associate this term to failure and disillusionment. Women to animosity and antagonism.

When guys talk about their experiences, all evoke a more or less a similar sense of disappointment that I experienced in the story I just told you. However, not all react constructively.

One of the men confessed on the Internet that he knew the girl had a boyfriend, but he continued to hang out with her because she was “very pretty and he had no respect for himself”. One night, he said it was time to play cards on the table and confessed his feelings. The girl then told him she was flattered, but she did not had this kind of sentiment for him. “She still invited me to her place. We slept in the same bed, but nothing happened. When I think back on this night, I want to yell at my old me : Go home! Respect Yourself, a little bit!”

As for women, they tell some experiences that roughly follow the pattern described: friends with a man until the day he admits feeling an attraction to them – often without warning (the guy yet probably thought he had sexualized). And when they express their refusal to go further, the situation is getting worse: their friend often gets angry against them for sending conflicting signals or says he never wants to see them again.

Interesting : A bisexual told me she often had had Friendzone experiences with her straight friends, but never with her lesbians and bisexuals friends. A gay friend also proudly told me that he had never been Friendzoned : “All my gay friends are my ex.”

Almost all the people I’ve talked to believe, however, that the male-female friendship can exist. But then, how do we fall into the Friendzone?

This is the consequence of a lack of sexualization. To have an affair with a woman, she must want you physically. She must have a sexual attraction for you. And it does not depends on your physical appearance ! No need to be a very tanned and muscular model to seduce a woman. On the other hand, your behavior and attitudes are critical (the fact you’re ready to do anything just for tasting her pussy is, for example, a bad mindset).

We will see in detail in this ebook how and why to sexualize. This will help my regular readers to no longer naively be relegated in the Friendzone.

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

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A hot girl coming from the islands

A hot girl coming from the islandsJanuary 9th 2016,

If you have not heard from me for a long time, it’s normal : I went green since December 23th. My work tool needed some rest because it was close to overheating.

I spent the holidays with my parents, nice and warm in the south of France with my cat and my dog. I also got 1kg fatter : I realized the fucking prowess to take 7kg in 6 months. Seeing that on the scales kicked me in the ass, so I made the right resolution to go swimming 2 times a week (before I went more but here in Lyon the pools are shit and I have hard work office hours).

Monday and Tuesday, the come back to work was really difficult. In the evening, I was dead, so I just watched movies… I took advantage of being alone to finally watch 50 shades of Gray. It was not so bad but I find that the actor is not credible in the role of Christian. The guy is handsome, yes, but I think it does not suit him to play the dominant alpha. Otherwise, the scene I have the most enjoyed is when he tells the girl to get on all fours and he spanks her. All in all, I was still disappointed : I did not find the film exciting enought to jerk off.

Wednesday night, I did a little photoshoot with the teacher in underwear. It was funny. She says she finds that I have not got fat… she is so nice! But I think she said it especially so that I eat the frangipane cake she cooked for me. In short, it is always very cool with her… and, besides, she is trying to find for us a chick on Tinder, to make a 3some !

Thursday, I went to the pool with the Nice Giant. I had some knocks in the heart during the effort and followed a restless night. Stress, surely. So, I was really punished Friday morning, fortunately the weekend pointed the tip of its cock!

Yesterday, Friday at 9 pm: first Fuckclose plan of 2016. I had a date with La Réunionnaise. She is, like the original pseudo I chose for her indicates, a girl coming from the islands. She had sent me a spontaneous message on Adopte at the end of December, when I was getting into the train to Aix-en-Provence.

“Hello ! First of all, I want to award you the prize of the longest description of the whole site I guess (smiley). And that said, not the least interesting (smiley). I have a little confession to make to you: I knew your website even before finding you here… I read it a few months ago but in the meantime, I totally forgot you (I confess). I registered on Adopte two days ago and as if by chance, I come across your profile, coincidence (smiley)? In addition, I discover that you live in Lyon now, one more coincidence (smiley)? It’s up to you to answer these questions (smiley) (sorry, I put a lot of smileys when I write (smiley)). Hoping to read from you, maybe!”

My answer: “Thank you for the compliment. I am delighted that you are a reader of my blog… you are not the only one here who has recognized me but I am surprised every time, how had you discovered me? No, I do not think it’s a coincidence. As for the second, let’s call it fate or luck, it will be more sexy (smiley). Don’t worry, I love smileys and I hope you smile so much in reality! Kisses!”

Then : « You must be the only guy who managed to scare me with a message! My phone vibrated oddly when you wrote me… I discovered the features of Adopte as you can see (smiley).
– Haha, my goal was not to scare you. But to make you vibrate… so if you vibrated, it’s cool (smiley).
– Hop, vibrate again! I hope this is not the last time I make you vibrate!
– Ah ah, for the fact to make me vibrate, it’s up to you (smiley). By answering my messages, of course (smiley)!
– If I send you several messages in a row, are you going to reach orgasm then?
– Hm, I do not think so! I do not know what kind of vibrator you have on your mobile, but on mine, it is not awesome… I may not have found the right setting (smiley)!
– Effectively ! I think you just did not set the right setting! Come then, show me, the after-sales service will take care of it (smiley) !!!
– Oh, if it’s just a set-up problem, I can send it to you, no problem… I did not know you had that hat (smiley)…
– Yes, on the other hand, I said to bring it in my own hands (you will wash your hands before) not to send it to me. I’m not very into hats but you can give me one.
– At the moment I wrote “send”, I wondered if you were going to notice (smiley)… But no problem I can bring it to you, if you manage to settle my phone as it should, it is all blessed for me (smiley). Have you ever been told that some of your jokes were shit (e.g. the hat joke) (smiley)? Luckily for you, I’m kinda easy (for jokes) (smiley)!
– Of course I noticed ! Is it not said that the devil is in the details? 🙂 And yes, I’ll fix it, your phone problem !!! Yes, I’ve already been told, lol, that’s why I do it! Awesome, I love when it’s easy…
– Yes, you are totally right, so, it forces me to choose the words I use (smiley)! And I remember that you owe me a phone with orgasms! Better than all the apps in the world (smiley)!
– Yes ! Watch your vocabulary, girl (smiley)! A promise made is a debt unpaid, you will have a phone that will vibrate so hard that you will let yourself go to the seventh heaven.
– Cool, the problem is that it will no longer be used as a phone…
– What do you mean ? You’re gonna use it so much that it’s going to implode ?!
– Yes, if it is set to give orgasms, I will maybe use it a lot!
– You know what is set to give orgasms, too? Me (smiley)! Do not hesitate to use me !!!
– Ah ah, until now you only offered me the phone (smiley). But it’s interesting…
– If you want us to meet up this week (smiley), tell me! »

She came to me at the time said despite a cold (so much the better because I do not like flakes). We talked a little bit about the relationship between men and women. She is a payroll manager and seems to have a keen mind. She has been in a couple for 6 years and has just registered on Adopte. She has already banged another guy and I would be the third dick she knows. She made it clear to me that usually she does not go to the guys directly but that since she knew my blog, she made an exception. I called her a groupie.

She is a metis (kind of chocolate with a lot of milk), she has a beautiful face, she is tall, not fat. Not too much make up either but she has a piercing and beautiful eyes. Despite her sexyttude, she told me that I intimidated her. Then we played a game of looks (“the first one who looks down has lost”). But since we had been holding up for 15 minutes, she told me that I could do whatever I wanted to try to deconcentrate her, that she would do well no matter what. I took it for an invitation so I fiddled with her. She did the same on me. Then I fingered her (she was still sitting in front of me and we always played this shitty game.) It lasted quite some time. It is true that she held good, the rascal. It was there that she said “I’m on the very verge of enjoying…”  Yeah, I had one finger on her clit and two in her pussy. She tried to catch my cock to create a derivative to her pleasure but she could not do it thanks to my Efficiency belt that protects me from female assaults.

She went very high and complained about getting hot so I let her undress. I took advantage that she gets up to turn her against my dining table and to finger her from behind with a hand while stroking her clit with the other. There she enjoyed a first time. I was annoyed because I had not paid attention to who had looked down the first one. And I do not like losing. So let’s say I won !

Well, I wanted to finally allow her access to my precious toy so I showed her how this damn belt of chastity opens. She really jerked me to let off steam. Then I pushed her on my bed and licked her until she finally came again.

She was in the mood to do battle and wanted to thank the after-sales service so she got up in a sitting position on the edge of the bed. I got up too, standing in front of her and she sucked me. Until the end, and she swallowed. Fuck ! I love that ! It was very good. She drank a glass of water and on my side, I was high, so I lay down. She lay next to me so I fingered her on her G-spot while waiting to get hard again. She orgasmed like crazy a third time. “Stop now my pussy can not  handle more.”

I had become hard again in the meantime so I showed her my proudly erected cock by asking her if she wanted me to penetrate her. It was ready. So she climbed up on me, then I took her doggy style.

Finally, she lay next to me to hug. We talked about a lot of stuff but mostly how is life in La Reunion. It looks cool, seriously, except the shark attacks on swimmers. It seems that the sharks are aimed mainly at surfers because, seeing them from below, they believe that surfers are turtles. It also seems that the tradition there wants that after they graduate from high school, the chicks conceive a child! It seems to me kinda young but no problem ! Well, it was already 2am when we had finished talking so she took her car to go home. We did not see too much time passing by, it was nice.

My bottom line is that she is cool, she actually smiles almost as much as she puts smileys on Adopte. I do not know if I will see her again because I’m short of time and because I want to fuck a lot of other girls but she’s a nice girl anyway.

This morning I found the following text on my phone (I had fallen asleep in between) “Thank you for this night (smiley)! You killed me (smiley) !!!” It always gives me pleasure when they thank me for the orgasms I gave !!!

May the God of the Game be with you!

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Street pick-up : taking her phone number or giving yours?

Street pick-up taking her phone number or giving yours

There are two schools concerning phone numbers: those who take them and those who give them.

Most pick-up artists advise to take the number of the girls because it allows to keep control on the timing (for example, when you’ll recontact the girl), and so on. But, by doing this, you take the risk of ending up sending texts to an old pervert with a mustache because a bitch may find it funny to give a wrong number (there are chicks that have no respect for your courage and  do not respect the players…)

Giving one’s number, on the contrary, makes it possible to see if the girl is motivated enough to call, so it allows sorting and avoids wasting time. On the other hand, it can make lose some girls who would be interested but who have not enough imagination or who do not have the balls to send the first message (would you be interested in such a girl?) Another problem when you give your number to many girls is that when they call back, it is hard to know who is who (fortunately sometimes by typing the number in the Facebook search bar, you can find to whom it corresponds).

The compromise that I like to do is to make sure that when I give my number to the girl I say something like “give me your phone so that I type my number” and then I make it sound. The result is that I also have her number that appears on my phone… and so I’m sure it’s a real number!

I prove in the following video that the girls to whom I give my number call me back :

Then, you know, there’s nothing absolute in pick-up… a given number just like a taken number can allow you to fuck. It depends on its solidity, the motivation of the girl and your phone game. A taken or a given Facebook may also give good results. Just like an instant date!

You have to accept that there are things you do not have control over (it makes you feel more free).

Maybe you’re going to take 50 numbers and you’ll fuck nobody… then the next day you’ll get one number and fuck the girl.

Finally, we do not always have the same energy, the same mojo, the same success (it’s like the best soccer teams: the best in Europe can lose matches sometimes). It depends on the days, sometimes you can be a God and the next day a shit… that’s the reality of the field : that’s why it’s useless to become big-headed when you take numbers or when you fuck chicks.

Let’s keep our feet on the ground.

And, whatever happens, the God of the game expects from us that we persevere, that we never give up !!!

Be courageous, my friends.

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I almost fainted when I saw her tits !

I almost fainted when I saw her tits !December 22th 2015,

When I fucked the libertine woman, the Nice Giant proposed me to exchange her Adopte profile for the one of the last girl he had sex with. The dating site becomes a bit small for both of us, so we must exchange our targets sometimes!

I do not know if it worked for him, however, his girl accepted my invitation. We wrote about 5 messages of ten lines and then I tried a… “OK, let’s meet up one of these days, do you like wine? (Rosé, white wine?)
– Yes I like wine, I just don’t like some red wines. Otherwise, rosé or white, it suits me
– Good, I just bought a rosé from Aix-en-provence and a white wine that looks not bad. Which one should I keep in the fridge for you?
– Um… the white one.”

After that, I did not answer because I was busy, I was fucking a girl in my room (it was the German if my memories are good). But the girl from Adopte came back flirting the next day. “Hello, when are you available so we share this bottle?” We agreed on a date last night.

I gave her the choice between meeting up at the metro station or coming directly to my place. She chose to come directly on the pretext that it is more convenient because she lives not far away. I thought she must be cock-hungry…

She came as agreed, we discussed about 2 hours around my table and several glasses of white wine. She looked very shy but made efforts to feed the conversation. Then, to reward her, I gave her a papillote.

Then it was getting late, things had to go on: I got up and lifted her up to carry her on my bed. She clung to me, I think it turned her on.

Then we kissed, horizontally. Once warm, I fingered-caressed her by leaving her some clothes. She approached the orgasm… or rather I saw a renewed vigor when I pressed harder on her clit!

But she managed to turn around, undressed me and shook me. I had not put on any underwear because I had no clean one but she did not even noticed. She just wanted my cock.

I put a finger in her mouth, that she sucked with appetite so I thought “you, you love sucking dicks, slut.” So I taclked her on the bed and undressed her completely: she showed me her beautiful big tits. Fortunately, I was warned by my friend because otherwise I could have fainted (they were very beautiful like Emily Ratajkowsky).

There, I licked her, she tried to get up several times so that I penetrate her… but no! I decided to make her orgasm, so I held her firmly.

After orgasms, she jumped on me. She started rubbing a little too much. I asked her if she often had sex without a condom, she said “never”. We were so close, I slipped a few times in her pussy and it was really good, then I said “we are making a mistake” so she took a condom in the back pocket of my jeans.

She on me, my dick in decontamination dress, I stroked her clito with the index finger at the same time I penetrated her and it made her come like crazy. She shouted, went through spasms, and so on. Thinking it was time to fuck her hard, I took her doggy style to finish. She has a nice ass, it was very good!

After that, we hugged, then I caught her clit and she came again. I had blocked her thighs with my leg to keep her from tightening because she apparently have difficulties to let it go. She was high during a long time after that…

Then I put a finger in her mouth, that she sucked again. So I told her that when she sucked my finger, it made me hard down there. It gave her a brilliant idea: she came down to blow me. She makes good blowjobs, despite her shy look of classy girl.

After that, she came back on me and… she took me without a condom. I’m not joking, I got screwed! It’s really better without condom, but hey, it’s not serious. It’s not respectful for The Teacher and Virginie that I also fuck without condom ! I interviewed her during the act (I don’t give a shit): she told me that she takes the pill, got tested recently and have not fucked without a condom since. It reassured me a bit but must say that the hormones had taken over so I wanted this to be true!

I finished her in the missionary position then she slept with me because it was 1 am yet! She told me she never had such good sex. At the same time, she is only 20 years old… I find this sex innocence very touching.

Otherwise, this weekend, in a club, I got just a kiss: “are you a good kisser?
– Would you like me to show me?
– Yeah.” Nothing more, no fuckclose, pff.

So I will see for my resolutions of 2016 but I think I will force myself to practice SPU. And also, in one month, I have to get tested to see if I have any STD.

I have a big problem because if I do not take my other girls without a condom, they will suspect that I have screwed up and confidence will be broken. On the other hand, frankly, there is about 0. 0000000001% risk, so well… but it’s not cool! I’m not sure how I’m going to handle it.

Well, it’s soon the Christmas truce, I can’t wait, I am exhausted. May the God of the Game be with us!

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Sexual misery

sexual misery

For an “average” man, access to women and sex is difficult. For women, finding a good sexual partner is rare. Today, the trivialization of sex and the extraordinary models that we find everywhere impels us to see as normal relations that are more and more assumed and unbridled and, even more, to imagine that it is easy to find sexual partners. Between what we are told and reality, we are almost all driven to feel a great lack and a devaluation of our intimate life. Many men and women live in what I call “sexual misery”. I am not talking here about the love misery (even if one can be in a couple and have a shitty sex life) but really of sexual misery.

However, this affective reality is ignored by many people because it is a taboo. It is taboo because men have to show a social image of a strong man who does not reveal his sufferings nor his weaknesses, even of a Don Juan who never has any problem with women. It is also a taboo because a woman who would admit having trouble finding a guy who fuck her well would be labeled “whore” or “nymphomaniac”. More generally, it would mean crying out in front of the world: “I’m not fuckable!”. Even if people think it, people keep it for themselves.

Some artists, however, dare to speak of this phenomenon, but they are immediately labeled losers by the politically correct people and the one-track thinking. I find it unfair because their honesty allows other people to be reassured and less ashamed. If you are interested in this, I advise you to read Houellebecq and/or listen to the first songs of Orelsan.

Me, I will show you that sexual misery exists, explain the causes and propose a solution.

First of all, the facts are alarming:

In this study (IPSOS 2015), we see that a woman has on average 8 sexual partners in her life, and a man has 11 in France.

In itself, the figure would not be a problem if people were satisfied in bed. But this is not the case at all, as the rest of the study shows.

Moreover, according to an IFOP survey (2015), the French women would be “the last ones in the race to orgasm!”

49% of French women admit having “fairly regular” difficulties in reaching orgasm, the highest level of all countries where investigations were carried out during the survey.

37% of French women have orgasmed “at least once a week” in the last three months, the lowest proportion observed in the countries surveyed in Western Europe and North America.

52% of French women report having “often” orgasmed with a partner during their lifetime, a rate well below the one measured in other Western countries.

31% of French women simulate “orgasm fairly regularly” with their partner, the highest level observed in Western Europe and North America.

25% of French women did not have an orgasm during their last intercourse, a record proportion in Europe.

The guys resort to masturbation to palliate their lack of orgasm, unlike women who necessarily feel a little lack (although it is hard to admit it):

We also see that people go more and more on porn sites to fill their lack:

Be careful, I do not give you these figures to justify the unjustifiable (rapes, harassment) but only to make you aware of the reality of facts, the hypersexualization of the French population is only an illusion, it’s not the reality of ordinary mortal… maybe for a privileged few but that’s it!

What are the causes of sexual misery?

In the “normal” nightclubs (I do not voluntarily speak of “trendy” clubs because you have to pay a fortune for going there so the guys who go there belong to a privileged category), there are about 1 girl for 9 Guys: a normal guy is going back come alone almost every time.

The dating websites and applications of remain an effective solution to remedy the sexual misery. But the thing is, dating apps and sites are designed for women (often free for them and paying for guys like many clubs) in order to bring them in because it is known that if there are girl, guys will come (the opposite is not necessarily true except for Abercrombie and Fitch). Moreover, they are very solicited on these sites whereas for a guy it is difficult to get one simple answer. These are two different realities.

In this study by OKcupid (that I analyze in The Basics of Seduction), we see that the supposedly most beautiful guy received as much message as the supposedly ugliest girl.

Picking up in public places, like in the street, it’s often stigmatized. Society calls those guys suckers, sex-starved, stalkers, and so on. The extreme feminism that we are undergoing today has no doubt its share of responsibility in the situation of sexual misery because it makes people who like to pick-up or to be picked-up feel guilty. Moreover, more and more men are turning to the countries of the East and the Asian countries to find less demanding, less bicky, less complicated women than the French ones (I am not saying that all French women are Princesses because there is everything everywhere but it’s widespread here).

Finally, a “normal” guy has very few opportunities to meet women through his social circle (and even less if he works in an office).

Not to mention porn, ads and some movies that promote an awesome love and sexual life as a norm.

The solutions I propose?

It is not easy to find a solution to a problem when it is taboo, opposed to a gender identity and is societal. However, from the moment you accept, or even assume that there is a problem, then it becomes possible to solve it.

The game can easily teach you how to date and avoid committing the main mistakes that scare women off. You also have to accept that you are a guy with sexual desires because I observe that more and more men thought it is smart to play the sexually preserving gentlemen… all this for being thought of as nice guys… in order to fuck the women! It’s a bit dishonest and I agree with the women who are suspicious of these fake poets. Especially as more and more women stop playing the prudes and imitate their idols (Beyonce, Rihana, Nikie Minaje, etc.) and to affirm their freedom, their independence, provoke by crying loud and clear that they are whores… and proud of it (but watch out acts rarely follow the lyrics).

The community of seduction says it very rarely and it is a shame but it must be remembered that penetrating a woman is not an end in itself, it is important to satisfy her!

On the other side of the mirror, innumerable women undergo poor male sexuality, almost without interest for their pleasure. What is not very motivating, that’s why a lot of women declare that sex without love has no interest: they have probably never been really well fucked! So it’s going to take a bit of a challenge for the guys to become great legs. If babes were almost sure to orgasm like crazy, they would do less fuss about going to bed.

I find it a pity that many of my contemporaries love going out in a club, brag about drinking alcohol and everything (which is bad for health) but say they have not interest in sex (which is good for health and self-esteem) or even denigrate it. People really need to learn how to think for themselves!

Besides, it would be nice for the girls to stop thinking all the guys who want to seduce women are losers, because when it happens it makes me laugh in my beard. The girl are often suspicious, naughty and everything, sometimes allows derogatory reflections, before going to bed… whereas after sex, they call me back almost every time and beg me to fuck them again. Too often, instead of enjoying that some men are interested in them, women play it bitchy and think the men who approaches are desperate sex-starved who would fuck anyone… what is discouraging, let’s admit it! Where is the respect ???

In conclusion, there is a job of re-education of guys to do. But chicks also are going the wrong way and it shows that most are frustrated (even if they will pretend it’s not the case to preserve their social image) then they will have to make efforts too. For the common good!

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How to make someone fall in love?

 

How to make someone fall in loveLove passion exists in all cultures. It is the conception of love that differs from people to people.

In the “developed” countries, one bathes in a culture of influence: for example, one undergoes daily brainwashing through advertising. Advertising has the goal of making us want to buy by stimulating our desire. So there are ways to create a certain desire among people… and let’s not forget that the love passion is a great desire.

In France, the word “love” is used indifferently and the society tells us that we may be a loser, if we find love, we will be happy and will become a winner because love is the remedy for everything. But in Greek there are nuances which would be very useful to us. Philia, for example, is the love within the meaning of friendship. Eros, on the other hand, really refers to the passion of love: the passion that makes one feels a lack when not with the loved person, that makes one think he or she cannot live without the other one.

Advertising also tries to create a lack in us, and this gap would be filled of course by buying products and not by having sex (although in the pyramid of Maslow, one sees that sexuality is one of the main desires that allow blossom).

Freud said that sexuality is an impulse, but that society is constructed to prevent its fulfillment. But it has not always been the case! In some societies, like in Babylon, sexuality made civilization. Young girls from good families had the right to marry only after having made love with a foreign visitor (see Herodotus’ works). It is a different vision of sex because, in our case, we value the purity of the woman. And we even managed to persuade many women that this is what they want! In general, women adore the idea of ​​a sexually freed woman (like Samantha in Sex and the City), but only when it does not concern themselves.

We will start on the basis in this article that when we want to make someone fall in love, we talk about Eros. In any case, it seems to me to be the basis of everything because, among the Eros relations, some naturally become Philia.

So, how to trigger love?

In our modern culture, one would be tempted to say that a guy who makes people fall in love voluntarily is a manipulative bastard. For us, “it must happen all by itself”, it is “destiny” (and not a sheer coincidence) and there would be only one person out of the seven billion on Earth who would suit us.

On the other hand, sorcerers, shamans, marabouts, can create love (according to them). In India or Africa, it is normal to believe in spells or love potions, etc. If so many people believe that love can be triggered, I think there are things to be done!

However, loving passion is often seen in these cultures as a madness that metamorphoses, but not necessarily as something positive… rather like a madness in the wrong sense. In our culture, I think people want to “fall” in love because they dream of metamorphosing themselves or of filling a gap through love (lack often created by society itself). More and more people are atheists, leaving an extra gap… and those people try to fill their lack of gods by inventing gods who are not gods like famous footballers but feel a lack deep inside because they feel that something’s wrong).

In the old world, to make someone fall in love, one could:

1 / Use gods.

2 / Use objects such as the love apple, animated with blood or perfumes (depending on the recipe). Then one had to name people related by magic and seal the spell. Then, of course, make the target eat the apple.

And in the modern world, what to do to make someone fall in love?

1/ Promise the metamorphosis. So many women have told their psychoanalyst they were in love… it is because these guys promised them a change inside!

2/ Never say “I wish you want me”: do not be needy and avoid the one-itis. (For more explanations, see my book The basics of seduction!)

3/ One can use a go-between: like the monk in Romeo and Juliet who plays the matchmaker and suggests love to the two characters. What is powerful is to give birth to the idea of ​​the possibility of love. (Who said « hope » ?)

4/ Choose the moment: melancholic or sad people (such as after a bereavement) are more likely to fall in love… because they are in a phase of metamorphosis. They are weaker and have the desire to rebuild themselves, which makes them more receptive to the idea of ​​love.

5/ Summon the modern gods (in a church, mosque, synagogue, etc.) We no longer believe in these things in our cultures but they have already helped many people in history so these beliefs probably have an effective power.

6/ The Game: the community of seduction will allow you to become more alpha, to improve your communication and to be better in bed. This will cause more women to fall under your spell and will make them want to stay close to you through the attachment hormones released during orgasm. (If you are interested in this theory, read The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations.)

Women are afraid of being judged, are stressed at the idea of ​​meeting someone, are afraid that the guy is not a good lover, they are afraid of not being good enough in bed, fear of losing control, fear of being thought of as whores, are afraid of their “animal side”, etc. But if one deactivates these various obstacles and their social conditioning, one can easily get laid… and from there, make them fall in love.

Indeed, women can unconsciously force themselves to fall in love with the guys with whom they have slept because they are put under pressure by society (“you cannot sleep with too many guys because if you do so you’re a whore”). It is the principle of coherence that is at work here.

They can also force themselves to fall in love because of their genetic programming (before, when they slept with a guy, they risked 6 months of pregnancy so had to retain the man to have access to his resources). Since there is contraception: washed it can be used again… but this obsolete genetic programming is still working on us. (For more information, read Evopsy & Séduction!)

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The quality of German girls

“It’s a German one !” pub Opel Claudia Schiffer

Previously:

Remember the German girl I had met in Aix, during an NPU session with Hafid.

He had opened in a downtown bar that smells like piss with “do you know Fabrice?
– No !
– It’s him…” and then I told her, directly,”I love you!
– I love you too.”

We stayed vaguely in touch after that night, meeting sometimes in the bars. But I never fucked her, because when I added her on FaceBook, she got frightened when read my adventures on my blog.

Then, at the end of the semester, she had returned to Germany and we lost contact.

December 19th 2015,

On Monday, I published an article saying that I was currently living in Lyon. So the pretty Aryan came talking to me on FaceBook to tell me she was there too for a few months! So I invited her to have a glass of wine at my house last night in memory of the good old days. I made it clear that the idea of ​​seeing her again made me happy… and it was true. She replied that they have a saying in Germany, which could be translated as “we always meet someone twice”.

Last night she came to my house. We drank a glass of rosé around my table then she said “I guess we would be more comfortable on your bed…” I nodded. She wanted to listen to French songs and that I explained the lyrics to her. Seriously, she knew neither Ferré, nor Gainsbourg nor Orelsan. Just a little bit Brel! On the other hand, she loves Soprano.

On the bed, I started caressing her, putting my hand under her clothes, but she always pushed me away. Fuck, I had not worked on the Last Minute Resistances for a while. When I confronted her, she said, “I did not come for that, you know.”

This little game lasted over an hour before she decided “I’ll leave now, it’s time for the last subway”. I kindly pointed out to her that it was she who wanted to meet up again and who wanted to go on my bed… and so I found her a little incoherent.

Then I kissed her. But she did not really open her mouth. I asked her to explain what the problem was. There were actually three problems :
– 1/ I have principles, I am not a girl like that, we do not know each other very well, it goes too fast, I did not come for that.
– 2/ I have a guy here, not a boyfriend, but he likes me and I do not want to hurt him, plus I slept with him yesterday.
– 3/ I read your blog, you surely have diseases seen all the girls with whom you have slept, I do not want to take the risk, besides you drink too much and go out all the time.

So I proposed to show her my last test of STD while explaining to her that I do not drink any more and only go out once a week now. At this moment, it was too late for the last subway. However, even after seeing the doctor’s signature, she objected “I do not believe it anyway, I cannot trust you.”

She pissed me off seriously. I was upset, really. I never lie on my blog, I never say bad things about the chicks with whom I sleep and I’m still thought of as an asshole. Just because I give love and pleasure to babes who deserve it, it’s unfair…

That said, after seeing the test, she opened her mouth a little more when I kissed her. Then our tongues played together as I touched her pussy over her jeans. I felt it was wet down there so I told her she wanted me. She began by denying. Then, in a burst of honesty, agreed “I’m tempted.”  Before asking, “Is it going to be good?
– I think so, I hope so… [the trap here would have been to play the too confident guy]
– I’m very demanding, you know.
– Me too [easy answer to this type of shit-test]
– One day in Aix, you told me you are the best French, is it true?”
– I said that ?! I don’t know but I’m probably not the worst…
– And was the captain really your cousin?
– No, I admit, but it was fun to make you believe it…
– We really cannot trust you. And Hafid?
– Hafid? He’s not my cousin, did I tell you that?
– No, it was he who told me that! But I did not believe him because he doesn’t look like you!”

In fact, she had a bad image of me: I do not respect girls, I have a new one in my bed every night, etc. What is wrong, of course, let’s be realistic.

Then Leo, the stuffed leopard (as naughty as Ted) who lives on my bed kissed her and it made her laugh. More relaxed, she asked “Can we close the blinds?” I did it. “Could you turn off the light?” Yes. “Turn down the music?” OK.

We kissed and she really transformed, she started to warm me and to shake my cock. After, I licked her and she orgasmed. Then she asked me “do you have a thing?
– a thing ?
– yes a…
– a condom ?
– Yes, I want to sleep with you now.
– OK.” One does not argue in those moments.

We fucked in missionary position a long time, then she came on me, before finishing with a doggy style. Her little pussy was very tight and totally shaved. Two or three times, she came hard then asked for breaks to recover. It was touching. And also exciting: she shouted very loudly with her little cute accent.

Afterwards, she slept in my arms. But before going to bed, she cleaned my apartment and made the bed, it made me laugh! Ahlala, they are awesome these Germans… Me I had carelessly thrown the condom down but she erased all traces.

At one point, she said “I like you better now, I did not have that good image of you”. Must know that I do not have anything selfish as some think, I give a lot in bed, we really share something, and it creates a bond. What makes me say that among those who flaked me at the last moment, most would have been very happy to have made the effort to come and enjoy like crazy. I always look demanding, in this position of fucker, but in the end, I think I really offer something valuable.

In short, I took out the violins: I told her that I was glad to have slept with her too, that I wanted her for two and a half years and that it was a good Christmas gift she allowed me to unpack. She replied “then next year I will offer you another one!” She was funny. Until this morning, I was very attentive with her. She, she complimented me on my performance in bed and told me that it was nice, that I had done well to have insisted, that she was finally happy. She concluded, “Honestly it was not bad when you stroked my legs and breasts over my clothes even if I pushed you away, it’s always better to do more than less.” This will be the conclusion of this story.

Otherwise, good news, it pissed me off to look for a new job because there is always at least 30 minutes of subway for all those I found. So, I asked a wage increase to my boss… and he accepted! He respects me a minimum! Cool.

May the God of the Game be with you!