Category: Social dynamics

He got a date on the Internet.

Scenario 1: The galley of the pickup

He comes a little early. Stressed, it is obvious: he is impatient. And he apprehends.

However, she comes after the appointed time. She vaguely apologizes “sorry I’m a bit late.”
He is quick to get up to kiss her on the cheek (without the hug) and says “it doesn’t matter” many times so he makes sure she doesn’t take him for an asshole.

There he sat in front of a pure beauty. He did not think she really would come to the date. He can not believe she is even got dressed pretty for the special occasion. Would he have a chance?

She orders a glass of wine and continue “I cannot stay long I have to go to comfort a friend who had just broken up with her boyfriend.”

He stresses, he says to himself he’ll have to take the high road to impress her and make her want to meet up again.

His minutes are counted, the phone will ring.

“So what do you do for a living” Fuck, he realizes that it’s a little shit as a question. After she answered, he continued, “do you love to travel? ” Oh yes, that’s good, the travel. He read it on ADS.

Twenty minutes of winded conversations ensue, then her phone sounds and she smiles. She offers to pay her drink but he pays for her. She leaves officially to join her friend. “Sorry
– It’s nothing. See you next week?
– Maybe, I tell you”

He never got a second date. He simply lost sight of the essential. He forgot the essential component of a good game: fun.

He will type on google “how to make a success of my first date? “; “How to have an interesting conversation? “; “How to seduce her? ; “How to make her want me? “; “How to see her again after a date? ”

He’ll find the answers to his questions about Diary of a French PUA.

Scenario 2: The casual player

He comes five minutes late. Normal, he fucked another girl the day before and he is tired. She still turns up after him. She apologizes, he replies that he was late too, so it’s okay! She feels comfortable this way.

He gives her a kiss on the cheek, she turns her head waiting for a second kiss, he teases her “ah but you want one second kiss? “And he kisses her a little closer to the lips. He set arm around her shoulders to greet her. She appreciates his body language.

He tells her to sit where she wants. She puts herself in front of him, with the thighs that time from time temp to caress his legs. He asks her what she wants to drink, calls the waiter to order both drinks.

He makes her talk. He casually give her occasions to sexualize. Then he says she has a dirty mind. That’s it, it’s fun, she accepts the frame like what it is sexualized between them, he teases her, it’s fluid. It is comfortable, she speaks.

She is very cute and she do not look stupid. Quite apart and open-minded. That’s why he gives her some of his time in a bar.

He teases her, she gives him a pat on the shoulder. He asks how she will be forgiven for having sexual assaulted him, she says she has lots of ideas with stars in her eyes.

Drinks happen. They clink glasses. A spark circulates them at the moment of the contact of the two glasses. A shiver routes. It is sexual energy. He acknowledged: he likes and knows how to play with tension. He masters his subject. He is comfortable when other guys would be uncomfortable. He has a good game.

After a while she strums on her phone. He can see from the corner of his eye she told her friend, “it’s good he is nice.” He grabs her hand like to see her ring or something and stroked a little. She sees through his game but pretend to not. It amuses them both to flirt like that.

He is never short on fun conversation topics and is distributed foolproof. A man with such a sexy humor makes her feel like she’s dreaming. She believes she is in a TV show.

He goes to the bathroom. Once back, after of course washed and dried his hands, he put one on her shoulder. She sat turns around, a little surprised. He looks like saying something stupid to her ear and kissed her. She gets off! He stops the kiss “enough, you’ve enough jumped on me like that;)”

She giggles of nervousness and says she did not expect it … they speak a little and take advantage of it to slip into the conversation that he doesn’t live very far from the bar. He has a cute cat, surely she would love to meet it. He offers to introduce them. She’s OK. They walk hand in hand to his house. In the hall, there, he pushes her against a wall and warms her like a master of foreplays.

Then arrived home, she laughs because there is no cat. And he makes fun of her gently to have truly believed him, saying that it is the most fucked up excuse in the world. He continues casually to warm her and they fuck. She did not even want to resist because she’s flooded. He has already put on a condom by giving her a cunnilingus. The best oral sex of her life.

She enjoyed it o much that she recommends him to her friends and they make a threesome the next week.

Congratulations!

I watched Ted 2 this weekend. At a given moment in the movie, John tried to pick up a redhead nurse in a sperm donation clinic (as class as picking up in a AIDS detection center): he asked her out, and she answered “no I have a boyfriend”. And he replied “too bad, you’ve missed a nice guy.” It made me want to write an article about rejection.

How to handle rejection? How to react to rakes? And for who is it “too bad” in the end? Him or her ?

If ever you want to call it rejection. We can also use the word “refusal”. This is less negative. For me a rake it is when a girl I want to fuck doesn’t want me, not when an unknown I do not know does not want to fuck me. It makes no sense to take it personally.

There are several types of reactions :

A. The guy takes a rake and is broken. It doesn’t approach anymore for weeks and cry over his fate. Women have power over him. They have broken him.
B. The guy takes a rake and go on the next one without being affected. He said nothing, he ignored it and turns away. The girl then realizes that she is not that important.
C. The guy takes a rake and says something to have the last word and then leaves. So the girl knows what she misses. It shows a certain level of confidence. But, some stupid girls will think “who does he think he is, this one is a braggart.” But well…
D. The guy takes a rake and nailed the beak to the girl. He explains her what she missed and why she doesn’t deserve him. It can be funny to see their faces decompose during the argument but hey, it’s a waste of time. Few, very few are those who will change their minds. They will rather steer.
E. The guy takes a rake and cannot handle it. He became aggressive with the girl. It is intolerable because when you play, you have to accept you can lose. Because if we cannot lose, each victory is an illusion (like at the carnival).

From a profitability perspective, the reaction B is the best one, I guess. But it’s not realistic to think you can always nervously stick out like this: sometimes it feels good to vent. Especially when they are nasty with us but we have done nothing else than approaching them. Reactions C and D may be justified in some cases, but I do not think they help a lot in practice.

The reactions A and E are prohibited. A minimum of inner game is requested please!

Be aware that, sometimes, direct rejection are just a test. We must therefore learn to differentiate a “no” from a shit-test! For this, there is the reaction F: humility…

Below, a part of what I wrote about rejections in The (Inconvenient) Truth about Gender Relations (click to read the full text):

Relativize

You can do exactly the same thing on two girls, one will find you sexy, the other will find you repulsive. Which one is right? None.

Afraid of what ?

You will try to be sensual and will, of course, sometimes be rejected. For example, you will maintain eye contact with a woman who will give you back just a look in response making you understand that she finds you disgusting. Then she will turn and will not deal with you anymore. Ouch, that hurts. But there is nothing to fear. This is not so different from a verbal rejection. It is even rather better, in fact. More direct! And keep in mind, that one day or the other she probably fucked a less handsome guy than you …

I like the quirkiness. I like to put pressure on girls. To see women blushing or becoming nervous amuses me. I know you are afraid of being labeled as a “weird guy” and that’s why you do not dare to move faster physically. So you stay in a friendly mode and waste your time.

Guys have to overcome that fear. Starting conversations with strangers, this is not “weird”, being tactile and sensual is not “disgusting” and pushing things sexually doesn’t directly makes you a “perverse”. All this are just beliefs …

If you are sociable and you start conversations, women will test you by saying that it is strange to do that. Or they will give this stupid skeptical look we all know. All the other guys do not have enough balls to approach women, but it is not weird that… Phew. And they want us to believe that it’s better to stay wise … but where is the world going?

When you are sensual, women try to make you feel “dirty”.

When you are sexually aggressive women test you by saying that you are evil (as if it was a bad thing…) Most guys are afraid of the label “perverse” because it refers to the image of an old man who masturbates in a sex shop.

But it’s not that at all, and you want to be “perverse” because you do not want to be asexual. Do not let social pressure having so much power over you that it has on these people stuck in their conditioning.

Not getting rejected, that does not mean you’re good

Most guys think they were good because they were not reject … at least, not yet. This is actually a bad thing. And they are not really good. Being rejected early in the night should be your goal. Before the first rejection, you will be tense and shy. After, you will be free and ready to perform feats.

When I’m snub for the first time of the night, it annoys me. It drives me crazy. Anger rises in me … but this is not an anger against women. Hate is there because I just realized that releases and critics are a big joke, and I cannot believe that I was scared and it stopped me from doing what I wanted in life until today…

After realizing this, nothing can stop me. Basically, I need the first rake to put me on track and have a fun night (and we do not make an omelet without breaking eggs; there will always be waste).

A woman is laughing at you? Makes fun of how she rejected you ? That’s funny. That’s what you were afraid of? Yet it is nothing … You will know you have improved when you can laugh at rakes and that you can even shut up the mouths of babes who respond badly. Remember that for some, going out and playing the bitch, well it’s funny. The best solution is to laugh in their face “thank you, it was really funny.”
People who get angry easily and make scandals are trying to manipulate you emotionally. They want to intimidate you. I’m sure you know people like that. The best strategy is to take the wrong way. They want you to perceive them as important; you see them just as entertainment. In addition, this casual attitude seems to piss them off. When girls understand they are not so important for you (individually speaking, at least), it drives them crazy. Then, each responds differently (some are less stupid than others).

Some are even worse after being rejected. I’m ten times better. I know myself. I need to be rejected to feel free. Loose. That’s why I quickly need social rejection and physical rejection before being awesome.

I have a friend who does not approach women. He’s handsome and cool but he hopes that women come to him like mosquitoes attracted to light. Thus, if they approach him, they have done all the work and are hopelessly attracted to him because have invested a lot. It’s bogged him down in long relationships where he is the prize.

The only problem is that it is too passive. He can stay a long time without meeting anyone even by going out twice a week. It may take months before he finds a new girlfriend.

The other guys are the opposite. They approach everything that moves anyhow hoping for a positive answer. Even if they have to suffer violent rejections and talk for hours to women without interest, they stay. This attitude fucks up you confidence in the long term and you can catch the phobia of starting conversations.

The compromise is to quickly select women but only invest time in those excited that you contacted them. Those who smile, laugh and feed the conversation. If you do not get a positive response right away, leave. This is not an excuse to do anyhow, discuss the best way possible, stack the odds in your favor but you invest only for those who understand how lucky they are that you approached them.

One way to avoid scandals, preserve your confidence and maximize your results socializing is to limit the time spent with foolish and wicked stupid bitches. Do not spend with them a second longer than they deserve. You can only do this if you allow yourself to leave the conversation on a bad note.

We don’t give a shit, but with class

This means you do not look for the perfect exit. You can go away in the simplest way. Even if it looks strange. Just as you came, you leave.

I think most guys do not approach enough women because they think that once the conversation is started, they must stay and make sure that it works with the girl. They feel trapped.

It is sure that if you see things like that and suffer the pickup more than you live it, approaching can quickly become a hassle.

You start a conversation with a sexy woman on the right. She’s cute, but sarcastic and not at all playful. She makes fun of your pink shirt. Then she contradicts you on a bunch of silly topics. You clearly do not like her personality so why staying with her? Turn heels and ignore her, she will not understand what happened. These girls were not enough rejected by guys in their lives. Or have been too much rejected and take revenge. In any cases, they have a problem to do so … We can even say that they overcompensate! Their nasty attitude refers to their own problems.

If someone must be under pressure, do you prefer it is you or the others?

When you go out, and you behave in a sociable way, you do not need to try to save face. You do not try to have the last word. You don’t care about leaving on a good note.

And better yet, if you’re not afraid of weirdness, you do not even need to go away, let people get bored and leave… and take their place.

If the girl you’re talking to is a bitch, or if the interaction does not appear well enough started to be productive, leave without further ado. Have some character, fuck!

Most guys are afraid to push the envelope too far because they are happy with just small successes. They want to rethink the interaction and keep a good taste in the mouth.

“A handjob would make me very happy but I’m too afraid of being hurt in my ego if I ask you, and you say no.”

You know very well my views. Make her say no. Press her like a lemon. My credo “Suck me or insult me, but do not stay in inaction.” The problem is that you are most of the time not actually looking for being sucked nor insulted. It suits you to be there, to smile and watch her laugh listening to your jokes. It makes you feel good. You want to go head high so you do not push the thing up.

It’s enjoyable to hang out with a girl and smile blissfully. Most gus merely that. They prefer the sweet, platonic relation with a woman to a rapid physical escalation because it runs the risk of brutally breaking the interaction.

The same can occur when you caress each other’s hand. The caress of the hands is so enjoyable that you forget to push things more sexually. But the problem is that this feeling of well-being does not last. And it does not last because she will break up with you as soon as she met a guy with whom she has a sexual connection. Now, is what the point? Talking to her for 10 hours or penetrating her for 30 minutes?

The illusion you can fuck them all

A guy strikes up a conversation with a cute girl in the street. They walk together to a small bar. They exchange names and flirt a little. It goes well. He would ask her out : to go for coffee but he freakes out then does nothing. Later in the day he self-flagellates and wonders what she would have said if he had invited her out. Fuck. The bitch was very hot. However, despite his regrets, he is still happy, he draws some form of satisfaction. The memory of that interaction will remain nice: he dealt with her successfully in the street and made a pretty girl smile… Good.

The truth is that he did not seek for more because he was afraid that the interaction ends badly. He did not want his last memory to be a deplorable rejection.

“Let’s have a coffee.
– Sorry I have to go somewhere to do something with someone. Bye.”

Now he sees things differently. He has been rejected. The interaction was a failure from the beginning but he did not get it (it is better to know right away, no?)

Passive interactions often end as follows: she ignores you or your texts or stand you up. Or you had a strong connection but because you have never pushed things sexually you’re now mired in a very strange relationship. Sometimes you feel the urge to ignore her or tell her you do not want to fuck her. This is called FRUSTRATION.

Guys want it to end well, having a little story to tell their friends “how I got the number of a bitch in the street or simply flirted with but it’s still good.” It’s just a matter of ego. They do not escalade physically because they are not sure it will be fine.

The light is red

I see guys approached and being outraged when they get a reaction type “red light”. I see guys be ready to end the interaction when it starts softly with a shy girl and fall in love with a girl who just tries to be polite in answering briefly in a detached way.

Some will probably treat you like crap. We don’t care, it’s totally NORMAL. If all the girls were smart, we would know it, and the world would be a better place (this judgment also applies to the guys). Being rejected is expected and even hoped … It’s the routine … If this does not happen it means that you do not do things properly. Nobody pleases everyone, and if that was the case, well it would not even be fun to game (= practicing the game of seduction).

Understand that you will feel anxiety whatever her reaction is. Even if it works like clockwork, you feel tension because she likes you. If it takes softly, then you feel that tension called “social anxiety”. If she ignores you or tells you something nasty, you’ll probably be upset. Whatever her reaction in fact, approaching will make you experience strong emotions.

1. Red: she ignores you or rejects you through body language … without a word;
   2. Red: she reacts aggressively or in a very haughty way.

If you get rejected by her body language, it does not give you a lot of material to work and improve. The only thing you can do in this case is to smile and laugh with / of her. Remember that women are funny. Any verbal rejections is a trap to get you to break the report. Take the opposite way by being humble.

Idea:
– Most girls are not really bitches.
She hopes:
– call me WHORE and leave.
Solution:
– Laugh with her. Women are funny. Especially when they want to reject guys. Be genuine “I wanted to meet you.” Give her a second chance to be cool. Otherwise “it was a pleasure to meet you” and go to the next.

Sociability vs Sexuality

You have crossed the stage of social, now you can do what you want. Have fun. Try new things. Be rejected. The social part has nothing to do with your seduction potential.

This is not an excuse to act like a clown or a weirdo but do not take the “sociability” part too seriously. You would become paralyzed with fear.

This will be quite counter-intuitive to discover what works and what does not. As if the success with women was random. I’m taking about techniques (the craziest can work) and results. For example, you can have a super hottie in your bed the day before and getting rejected by a fat ugly woman today. It’s a joke. Seduction and even more pickup are big jokes.

Life is an absolute joke…

I award for the night pick up… the medal of the biggest joke in the world. As if the girls did their best to make us have the most difficult task ever… But then, why do they do surgery, why do they wear makeup and all this stuff? To have sex, obviously.

This requires more confidence to approach them in person than on the Internet. However, the same guy they send to hell in the bar in front of their girlfriends, they could agree to meet him from the Internet just because he would have sent a cocky message.

It does not make sense. I think all the women do not give us bonus points for having the nerve to approach them. They do not realize… This is why we must not take the night pickup too seriously. There are too many stupid women who do not understand anything to life.

At night, the defenses are activated: the women go as far as claiming that they do not want to fuck. All the cockblocks and amogs are out, ready to intervene at the fateful moment. It’s hilarious. A Belgian joke. If you take seriously a nocturnal rejection then you are a fool. In the long term, you would become mad. Accept that it’s just a comedy.

Some marketing managers reward salespeople for every NO obtained. Knowing that each NO moves you closer to a YES, it’s understandable. For us, seducers, it’s the same…

We all know that perseverance is an important part of the seduction game. But in my head, all perseverance is not always worth it. Your stress level should be linked to what you will potentially get back.

For example, I will not be too persistent if a band I have just met rejects me. I could make fun of the a girl who answer like a bitch or I could give a second chance to be part of the conversation to a nice cute girl. But I will not do it for too long because I have nothing much to gain.

Oh yeah, for all this work, my only reward would be that she talks to me. I don’t care, seriously.

Dare action for seduction !

DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! DARE! THE NERVE PAYS!

Daring = Having the courage, the audacity to say or to do something. My vision of the PUA is that this is a guy who dares to dare! Daring can often help you to take shortcuts even if sometimes it will take time to tame a little the girl, just like the fox.

Daring to approach? Daring sexualization? Daring to kiss her? Daring to ask her to go in a quieter place? Daring to finger her?

The biggest problem for most guys is to dare. How can I help you to stand back on your deepest fears ?

For example, in a club, when you look at a girl dancing and you do not approach her about because “you do not know what to say” … this is an excuse for not approaching. You do not dare!

The problem is that after you have regrets because THEN you stand back and understand you had nothing to lose.

Or that girl who is in class with you. At the beginning of the year, she smiled to you. You could have asked her out but you did not. Now you are sad because she is making out with another one!

This is the kind of thing that often happened to me when I was younger and still happens to me from time to time.

But the game is a sport like any other: so, you must enter on the ball!

Not in five minutes nor tomorrow, BUT NOW! Just after having checked that she is not married or is not holding the hand of a guy!

It’s a bit the same adrenaline rush than during skydive at first but hey, we made it, and then we get addicted! Especially that from time to time it pays! And there we are proud not only to have dared the approach but in addition to have banged a hottie!

Talking and sexualizing with an unknown woman… YOU ARE CRAZY FABRICE! Yeah probably a little, unless it is all the other guys who spend hours staring at thousands of girl but never try anything and go back home to jerk off on porn sites every night who are crazy!

For the catchphrase? Well, any contextual bullshit or an opener that you use automatically when you do not know what to say.

Avoid still crappy stuff like “do you have light […] and by the way I find you cute so will you give me your number?” It’s not that it cannot work but it’s not very “PUA” because you do not assume. You like if you were interested in the light then “ohhhh give me your phone number”. Seriously, you do not fool anymore, coward!

Bad approach > no approach. A good insurance salesman, is a seller who sells a lot or a seller that sells every time he knocks on a door? Well… seduction is the marketing of yourself. You try to find high-end buyers!

A funny opener “you’re pretty but are you nice?”

As you see, we do not reinvent the wheel when we approach. But the Game do not stop with the opener. The advantage of quickly sexualizing are :
– Differentiate from the mass that do not dare to show their interest (but it can scare the most tight-ass girls);
– Make a quick sorting between those that will have sex with you and those that will piss you off during several dates for nothing.

The fact that we have to tackle fear is natural. Or rather, cultural.

But those who approach were able to change their belief system. If you fuck some bitches like that ‘cause you approached while the others were paralyzed, you will realize how stupid they are! If in addition you give them up by making them cum like crazy, you know that those who refuse miss something, too bad for them! Even the greatest PUA in the world sometimes hear “your pickup technique is crap”, the difference is that they know their value and it makes them laugh! And you, how to you handle rejection ?

You cannot lose this game anymore, you are invincible!

As I said above, approaching is not everything. Then, act in a sexual way with the girl, a bit like with an old friend with who you were used to flirt. If you react to a female like if you were in from of a velociraptor in Jurassic Park… it will cause some problems.

The first big challenge of a seduction coach is to make you want to approach all over the street and have fun like crazy! With or without results, we don’t care in a first time because everything starts from there! The rest will follow…

When you will feel pleasure during your approaches, there, I’ll be satisfied! And you will be proud too when you will bring your first telephone numbers or first chicks home!

You have to expand your field of possibilities (beliefs). Because what you believe determine what is possible for you or not.

Which stop most guys is that they think that a PUA must at least take the number every time he approaches (wrong beliefs). So they don’t dare because they think that if it doesn’t work (most probable that’s why we play on the big numbers) they will be ridiculous. But only bad wingman who understood nothing would make fun of you for that… do we have to congratulate you when you dare to approach, that’s the right mindset !!! They are a lot of other criteria for a good pickup than the result ! The most important is the inner game ! Dare to “disturb” (except of course if she is really busy or pressed) because it is an honor for her to be approached by a man like you!

The little thrill before going out to pickup is what you must boost you now. Not what should inhibit you, that’s not true anymore!

However , there is a pitfall to avoid, it is the “it’s a shame to spoil.” Becoming addicted to flirting and banging chicks who do not deserve you just because “it’s a shame to spoil : others would enjoy to bang them.” This is the problem that makes that sometimes girls who are below you in all areas patronize you or lecture you…. HAHAHA! Another pitfall is that most girls are cold when approached (shaken out of their comfort zone) but it’s not necessarily because a girl is nice that she wants to unlock her legs! Do not make them regret to be nice…

Gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

And the guys who never dare to approach are fags!

It’s your turn to go on the field, bro!

Many times I was asked if a PUA could fuck the chick of another guy? And if yes, is it risked?

First of all, from an ethical point of view, everything is possible. Social realities are constructions that are more dependent on our individual perceptions than on the rules in force in our spacetime. In addition, it would be hard for me to lecture you.

Then, from a technical point of view, this is also possible. Beyond the “do not do to others what you would not like them to do to you” (there’s always been fucked and fuckers), the chick may not be satisfied or seeking for taking revenge on her boyfriend so a woman always can cheat. In addition, it is reasonable to think that if she is not cheating on him with you, she will cheat with another man.

But I want to share with you some cases you may encounter on the field and to what you expose yourself by banging chicks who are in a relationship :

 

1 / The pretty girl who says “I have a boyfriend.”

It’s either true or it is a defense to avoid weiros. It’s a bit like “I am a lesbian.” In any cases this is a bad start but I advise you to avoid sinking with the “it’s good I’m not jealous” or with stuff like “I’m a better lover than your guy who is ugly and has a small dick.”

Maybe her couple is fictitious or in the hot seat, but she would defend it to stay consistent with what she first said. She would also feel hurt in her ego.

I think it would be better to congratulate her for having found her soul mate, even if it is a bit ironic. In this case, she may entrust it does not go that well between both of them actually. But in any case, you score points because you won’t be thought of like a plaintiff or a desperate ass-starved.

For the provocation, you can even ask if her boyfriend would be up for a little football game with you next weekend.

 

2 / The guy comes while you’re hitting on his girlfriend.

If you did not say too much bad things about him and showed that you are not fully on his girlfriend (if it’s rather like I do not care if it’s her it may be another woman), there’s no reason for problems (unless he is a mentally sick person). You would be well advised to congratulate him on his taste about women.

But you must know that some are always looking for excuses to fight. Or, helped by alcohol, who go crazy for nothing. I remember a guy in the street, I had just stared at the ass of his girlfriend and he had come to me, doing a total scandal, like asking if I wanted to fuck her and everything. I just said she was a pretty girl, but I had a girlfriend too and I did not want to disrespect him and her. Although when a guy stares at my girl, it’s more of flattery. But hey, when you’re insecure, you see everything in black…

 

3 / If however you bang a girl in couple… watch out!

You may experience the jealousy of a guy that can go from a mouth breaking into proper form to murder or any trap/revenge. I agree that the chick is as much or more in fault than you. And what would the guy have done if your girlfriend had offered to fuck him? But … most of monkeys will rather be mad at the other guy than at their girl. Although this latter failed to admit that she had a boyfriend at the one who picked her up.

You may even risk worse: never being able to trust your girlfriends because you understand that women cheat. They have a lot of proposals and that it’s easy for them. This is very toxic, almost as much as the water side of a Japanese nuclear power plant.

If she falls in love with you and leave her boyfriend for you: you feel guilty so you finish in a relationship without the knowledge of your own accord. You will also struggle to trust her because “who has drunk will drink again.”

You will have the word “BASTARD” tattooed for life on the forehead … in the eyes of the people who know the cuckold.

If her boyfriend guesses and she does not have the courage to admit it to her boyfriend, it will be easier for her to do not assume: BUT OF COURSE, YOU HAVE FORCED HER … SHE WAS RAPED! You’ll get in trouble. It happened to some guys before, all this shit, this is why I mention it.

She can be beaten up or murdered by the jealous boyfriend, enraged because of his hurt ego. What would be your part of responsibility and guilt in the matter? It’s scenarios that are common, the passion killings.

 

The conclusion is that anyone can be tempted, do discrepancies or mistakes. But beyond the ethical question, we can say that sex with married or in couple girls is more risky than just doing this sport with the many single hotties out there.

However, sometimes the desire takes precedence over reason. In this case, it is better that neither one nor the other admit it. Anyway, that’s my advice. And pay attention to erase your texts/mails… This protects the other from his jealousy perhaps destructive and yourself too. The only hard thing to deal with is (for some) guilt. If you feel that the chick will reveal everything to her boyfriend, beware! Avoid cheating on a whim …

Also think about why you did cheat, what’s wrong in your relationship or in your mind? Or do you just want the cake and butter? And it is possible without too many damages…?

#1 Be zen, relax

The game begins when you’re coming in. We must therefore watch your body language to be a center of attention (that’s why the servers are so successful in bars in addition of social proof). Stand straight, open up, make sure and slow movements. You must display a zen aura, one must think that you are relaxed (although this is not the case).

Remember to smile, but not too much. Instead, make little smiles : the kind we do when we get a private joke that others have not understood.

 

#2 The eye contact : do not be afraid of women

Too many men are afraid of women and it can be read in their eyes. Make her look down the first one by maintaining the eye contact.

Then, when the interaction has started: look at her in the eyes 90% of the time when you talk and 10% of the time when she talks … in order not to look like a psychopath.

 

#3 Talk to her like if you already know her, be a player and fun

If you start to get uncomfortable or too tight-ass, she will feel it and the bad emotions are contagious. Instead, consider flirting as a game.

So have fun, use funny and daring lines. Make her have fun, show you nerves. Over-play your confidence and show that you do not take yourself seriously.

Break the ice, be fun, playful and relaxed… like if you were with an old friend (so touch her that way) and see if she agrees to discuss with this dynamic (or frame). If this is the case, it’s all good and be take more initiatives. If this is not the case … next!

 

#4 Have ready-to-use lines to help you when you don’t know what to say nor how to approach

Too many guys keep silent because they do not know what to say. So, prepare some “openers” to avoid being always silent. There are plenty of examples on my blog and in this ebook.

These same guys, when they finally speak with a girl switch in an interview Mode “how old are you, what do you do in life, what’s your name, do you suck dicks?” : This is not original (it bothers women and thus makes them want to go away) … but a good pick-up artist should be the exception to the rule.

By the same logic, do not stare at every asses in the street like a hungry sex-starved loser!

 

#5 Do not give her too much before you saw her naked

You talk to a girl: you needed some courage and effort to get there. But you should not give it too much importance just because she has a pussy into which you would feel warm.

Too many guys cling to girls who are OK to talk to them because they do not want to have to make the effort to approach another one… so they attach themselves and invest in them too much ( and often disproportionately so it scares women away). Don’t pay for a restaurant during a first date, for example.

Rather, YOU must be, the price in the interaction: you must reverse the balance of power (first of all in your head so that it is materialized in real life). It is way easier to fuck a girl when we know we will be the best lover of her life and that if she does not want and would rather want to fuck losers… well, that’s too bad for her if she is an idiot who does not understand anything. This is called a positive belief, it is not necessarily true nor false, it’s subjective but it helps to get ahead in life.

Once you’ve slept with her, if you still want to be her boyfriend you can behave as such. But still do not become too sticky and needy. And do not confuse love and sexual desire.

 

#6 Do you ever get discouraged

Me too, there’s nights when it does not work. Nights when they all are “sorry I have a boyfriend” or “sorry I am lesbian” (or other fake shitty excuses that are sometimes only virility test but hey it sucks anyway). But you should never give up. It’s part of the game!

You should have enough inner strength to do not be affected by the wickedness of some girls who no longer feel sooo powerful when we approach them. The nerves and perseverance pay (not only in pickup).
Be careful, the game can be dangerous for your nerves …

 

#7 Instead of bragging, make her talk

Do not boast, it is not an alpha male attitude, but rather of guy seeking for approbation. Now, a sexy guy is not trying to prove things. “A rich doesn’t need to say he is rich.”

So instead of trying to qualify yourself by talking, make her talk about her about things she is interested in. People love it (we’re all a bit self-centered), even the women, and in addition it will rest you. Make active listening: she will find you much more friendly.

 

#8 Go too fast rather than too slow, dare

As she speaks, feel free to touch her or make innuendos. You will see how she reacts. Know that women are followers of the implied consent (because of social pressure, she is not going to jump on you because she’s too scared to be thought of as a whore).

For your own comfort, please go rather too quickly, too direct, than too slowly or too indirect, it will avoid ambiguities and thus friendzone. In addition, she expects you to be manly and that you want to sleep with her: you do not want her to take you for a gay anyway? You must desecrate women, you must know that they are not so pure nor innocent as some believe. Do not judge them for that. Do not call them whores. Enjoy it instead: yes, they love sex, especially when it’s done right, and that’s good for you too.

“It is better to ask forgiveness than permission.”

 

#9 Do not let her play with you

Lambdas men, guided by their pecker, yet only very rarely sleep with chicks (of few girls). So, women can get away with playing with them, boss them around, make them do what they want like paying drinks and everything.

Do not go into this system because, except in cases she would want to marry, they are not turned on by the “pigeons”. Paradoxically, all these efforts and attention are fun but they lose their respect for you when you submit to everything. Learn how to say no. To make her pay drinks for spending time with you. It’s like the cat with toys: as long as it moves the cat plays but when it falls between its legs … the cat loses interest.

 

#10 Be everywhere, approach a lot, get used to talking to strangers

You can multiply your chances of success by picking up on the Internet, in clubs and why not in the street. More option you have and the better it is. You should play on numbers.

Must also work on the technique: the trick is to get used to talking to unknown(s). The more you practice, the less it will cost you and you will be less dependent on the women you approach. They feel it and your attitude becaming more “I don’t give a shit I’m sexy” towards them seduce them (they usually love this attitude).

Last tip: approach quickly, something like three seconds after spotting a girl you like. Otherwise, she will take you for a psychopath or a guy without balls who need an hour before finding the courage to dare and she will lose respect for you (and you lose some value in her eyes just like those who use false excuses like “do you have a light?” and then try to pick them up it’s a shame). Or you will ask 36 000 questions and be put under stress then get cold feet at the time of spending a speed or then approaching her but perspiring malaise and solitude.

And you, what advice would you give?

Today, it is not me who will give you a course of seduction, it is Robert Greene. In The art of seduction, he describes several profiles of seducers. Here is the one in which I recognized myself the most. I suggest you to read his book, by the way.

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A woman never quite feels desired and appreciate enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy figure—when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest, and amoral, but that only adds to his appeal. Unlike the normal, cautious male, the Rake is delightfully unrestrained, a slave to his love of women. There is the added lure of his reputation: so many women have succumbed to him, there has to be a reason. Words are a woman’s weakness, and the Rake is a master of seductive language. Stir a woman’s repressed longings by adapting the Rake’s mix of danger and pleasure.

Keys to the Character

At first it may seem strange that a man who is clearly dishonest, disloyal, and has no interest in marriage would have any appeal to a woman. But throughout all of history, and in all cultures, this type has had a fatal effect.

What the Rake offers is what society normally does not allow women: an affair of pure pleasure, an exciting brush with danger. A woman is often deeply oppressed by the role she is expected to play She is supposed to be the tender, civilizing force in society, and to want commitment and lifelong loyalty. But often her marriages and relationships give her not romance and devotion but routine and an endlessly distracted mate. It remains an abiding female fantasy to meet a man who gives totally of himself, who lives for her, even if only for a while.

This dark, repressed side of female desire found expression in the legend of Don Juan. At first the legend was a male fantasy: the adventurous knight who could have any woman he wanted. But in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries, Don Juan slowly evolved from the masculine adventurer to a more feminized version: a man who lived only for women. This evolution came from women’s interest in the story, and was a result of their frustrated desires. Marriage for them was a form of indentured servitude; but Don Juan offered pleasure for its own sake, desire with no strings attached. For the time he crossed your path, you were all he thought about. His desire for you was so powerful that he gave you no time to think or to worry about the consequences. He would come in the night, give you an unforgettable moment, and then vanish. He might have conquered a thousand women before you, but that only made him more interesting; better to be abandoned than undesired by such a man.

The great seducers do not offer the mild pleasures that society condones. They touch a person’s unconscious, those repressed desires that cry out for liberation. Do not imagine that women are the tender creatures that some people would like them to be. Like men, they are deeply attracted to the forbidden, the dangerous, even the slightly evil. (Don Juan ends by going to hell, and the word “rake” comes from “rakehell,” a man who rakes the coals of hell; the devilish component, clearly, is an important part of the fantasy.) Always remember: if you are to play the Rake, you must convey a sense of risk and darkness, suggesting to your victim that she is participating in something rare and thrilling—a chance to play out her own rakish desires.

To play the Rake, the most obvious requirement is the ability to let yourself go, to draw a woman into the kind of purely sensual moment in which past and future lose meaning. You must be able to abandon yourself to the moment. (When the Rake Valmont—a character modeled after the Duke de Richelieu—in Laclos’ eighteenth-century novel Dangerous Liaisons writes letters that are obviously calculated to have a certain effect on his chosen victim, Madame de Tourvel, she sees right through them; but when his letters really do burn with passion, she begins to relent.) An added benefit of this quality is that it makes you seem unable to control yourself, a display of weakness that a woman enjoys. By abandoning yourself to the seduced, you make them feel that you exist for them alone—a feeling reflecting a truth, though a temporary one. Of the hundreds of women that Pablo Picasso, consummate rake, seduced over the years, most of them had the feeling that they were the only one he truly loved.

The Rake never worries about a woman’s resistance to him, or for that matter about any other obstacle in his path—a husband, a physical barrier. Resistance is only the spur to his desire, enflaming him all the more. When Picasso was seducing Françoise Gilot, in fact, he begged her to resist; he needed resistance to add to the thrill. In any case, an obstacle in your way gives you the opportunity to prove yourself, and the creativity you bring to matters of love. In the eleventh-century Japanese novel The Tale of Genji, by the court lady Murasaki Shikibu, the Rake Prince Niou is not disturbed by the sudden disappearance of Ukifune, the woman he loves. She has fled because although she is interested in the prince, she is in love with another man; but her absence allows the prince to go to extreme lengths to track her down. His sudden appearance to whisk her away to a house deep in the woods, and the gallantry he displays in doing so, overwhelm her. Remember: if no resistances or obstacles face you, you must create them. No seduction can proceed without them.

The Rake is an extreme personality. Impudent, sarcastic, and bitingly witty, he cares nothing for what anyone thinks. Paradoxically, this only makes him more seductive. In the courtlike atmosphere of studio-era Hollywood, when most of the actors behaved like dutiful sheep, the great Rake Errol Flynn stood out in his insolence. He defied the studio chiefs, engaged in the most extreme pranks, reveled in his reputation as Hollywood’s supreme seducer—all of which enhanced his popularity. The Rake needs a backdrop of convention—a stultified court, a humdrum marriage, a conservative culture—to shine, to be appreciated for the breath of fresh air he provides. Never worry about going too far: the Rake’s essence is that he goes further than anyone else.

When the Earl of Rochester, seventeenth-century England’s most notorious Rake and poet, abducted Elizabeth Malet, one of the most soughtafter young ladies of the court, he was duly punished. But lo and behold, a few years later young Elizabeth, though wooed by the most eligible bachelors in the country, chose Rochester to be her husband. In demonstrating his audacious desire, he made himself stand out from the crowd.

Related to the Rake’s extremism is the sense of danger, taboo, perhaps even the hint of cruelty about him. This was the appeal of another poet Rake, one of the greatest in history: Lord Byron. Byron disliked any kind of convention, and happily played this up. When he had an affair with his half sister, who bore a child by him, he made sure that all of England knew about it. He could be uncommonly cruel, as he was to his wife. But all of this only made him that much more desirable. Danger and taboo appeal to a repressed side in women, who are supposed to represent a civilizing, moralizing force in culture. Just as a man may fall victim to the Siren through his desire to be free of his sense of masculine responsibility, a woman may succumb to the Rake through her yearning to be free of the constraints of virtue and decency. Indeed it is often the most virtuous woman who falls most deeply in love with the Rake.

Among the Rake’s most seductive qualities is his ability to make women want to reform him. How many thought they would be the one to tame Lord Byron; how many of Picasso’s women thought they would finally be the one with whom he would spend the rest of his life. You must exploit this tendency to the fullest. When caught red-handed in rakishness, fall back on your weakness—your desire to change, and your inability to do so. With so many women at your feet, what can you do? You are the one who is the victim. You need help. Women will jump at this opportunity; they are uncommonly indulgent of the Rake, for he is such a pleasant, dashing figure. The desire to reform him disguises the true nature of their desire, the secret thrill they get from him. When President Bill Clinton was clearly caught out as a Rake, it was women who rushed to his defense, finding every possible excuse for him. The fact that the Rake is so devoted to women, in his own strange way, makes him lovable and seductive to them.

Finally, a Rake’s greatest asset is his reputation. Never downplay your bad name, or seem to apologize for it. Instead, embrace it, enhance it. It is what draws women to you. There are several things you must be known for: your irresistible attractiveness to women; your uncontrollable devotion to pleasure (this will make you seem weak, but also exciting to be around); your disdain for convention; a rebellious streak that makes you seem dangerous. This last element can be slightly hidden; on the surface, be polite and civil, while letting it be known that behind the scenes you are incorrigible. Duke de Richelieu made his conquests as public as possible, exciting other women’s competitive desire to join the club of the seduced. It was by reputation that Lord Byron attracted his willing victims. A woman may feel ambivalent about President Clinton’s reputation, but beneath that ambivalence is an underlying interest. Do not leave your reputation to chance or gossip; it is your life’s artwork, and you must craft it, hone it, and display it with the care of an artist.

Symbol: Fire.

The Rake burns with a desire that enflames the woman he is seducing. It is extreme, uncontrollable, and dangerous. The Rake may end in hell, but the flames surrounding him often make him seem that much more desirable to women.

Dangers

Like the Siren, the Rake faces the most danger from members of his own sex, who are far less indulgent than women are of his constant skirt chasing. In the old days, a Rake was often an aristocrat, and no matter how many people he offended or even killed, in the end he would go unpunished. Today, only stars and the very wealthy can play the Rake with impunity; the rest of us need to be careful.

Elvis Presley had been a shy young man. Attaining early stardom, and seeing the power it gave him over women, he went berserk, becoming a Rake almost overnight. Like many Rakes, Elvis had a predilection for women who were already taken. He found himself cornered by an angry husband or boyfriend on numerous occasions, and came away with a few cuts and bruises. This might seem to suggest that you should step lightly around husbands and boyfriends, especially early on in your career. But the charm of the Rake is that such dangers don’t matter to them. You cannot be a Rake by being fearful and prudent; the occasional pummeling is part of the game. Later on, in any case, at the height of Elvis’s fame, no husband would dare touch him.

The greater danger for the Rake comes not from the violently offended husband but from those insecure men who feel threatened by the Don Juan figure. Although they will not admit it, they envy the Rake’s life of pleasure, and like everyone envious, they will attack in hidden ways, often masking their persecutions as morality. The Rake may find his career endangered by such men (or by the occasional woman who is equally insecure, and who feels hurt because the Rake does not want her). There is little the Rake can do to avoid envy; if everyone was as successful in seduction, society would not function. So accept envy as a badge of honor. Don’t be naive, be aware. When attacked by a moralist persecutor, do not be taken in by their crusade; it is motivated by envy, pure and simple. You can blunt it by being less of a Rake, asking forgiveness, claiming to have reformed, but this will damage your reputation, making you seem less lovably rakish. In the end, it is better to suffer attacks with dignity and keep on seducing. Seduction is the source of your power; and you can always count on the infinite indulgence of women.

“The pick-up? The sex? These are really humiliating practices!!! We must actively denounce them! A man who assumes that he wants to fuck? This is unacceptable ! If you try to pick a girl up = you are an asshole, I next you. ” (and he probably has AIDS)

This is the kind of speech that some chicks have. And one cannot totally blame them, unfortunately. The thing is, there’s “weirdo” and “player”. Avoid amalgams in seduction, like in politics. And think on the false draconian solutions that are digging an even deeper gap between men and women. (put a condom)

Abusive generalizations: fuck your mothers

Some days ago, I approached chicks with a flirty apprentice coming from Ivory Coast. This yuppie, polite and respectful of women, absolutely not deserve to be associated to individuals appearing in some videos that traumatized chicks make circulate on the net to make the gender relations become even more difficult than they currently are. Again recently, a report on channel 6 showed a lot of women complaining of being solicited on the street. They said they would prefer that never anyone talk to them (= no guy is interested in them?) And there was a PUA that I like in the video, Snipe, that that production had arranged to make him look like a total sucker.

Because it is politically correct and easy to say that : flirty = shitty asshole. Until we come out of this shitty scheme, we will not make a step forward. Think for yourself!

There is a real risk that this evidence stigmatizes us and releases a hate-speech based on feminism & sexism. It is therefore necessary to avoid excessive generalization, in one way or another. These girls may not all be frustrated badly fucked chicks, perhaps they’re just traumatized chicks who push their self-protector delirium revenge-based a bit too far.

However, I do not deny that some guys are weird or worse, very aggressive: and that’s the image that today has the PUA. This fact penalizes all straight guys. A man approaching a woman with grace and courtesy should in no way be associated with the riffraff who whistle and insult chicks. And yet, we only talk about them in the media. When we say PUA, we think sucker, liar, sex-starved …

Should we draw a line under the beautiful meetings that can be done through pick-up? I think the next generation of guys will suffer even more than us because of fear and guilt chicks make us feel. Beside that, “you approach on the Internet? You have no balls because you do not dare to approach in the street”(a girl told me that once I was laughing). It is the height of the paradox.

This guy talks to me in everyday life? He is necessarily a fool

We cannot decently blame women for being suspicious if, sometimes, they are insulted and jostled by muzzles. Well-behaved boys then become reluctant to take the plunge while the worst representatives of the male sex occupy the land. It’s easier to whistle a girl or call her “bitch” than to hook for real. That’s why we have a serious problem. That’s why so many “good” guys are frustrated.

Legally, there are repressive measures against insults and sexual harassment. Why not applying them? With the demagogic government that we currently have, we could easily. But no, it is more important to allow people to drive without a license.

A friend told me the other day she sometimes feels schizophrenic, “Sometimes I say to myself that I would like that this cute guy approaches me. But if he did I would tell to myself that he is the ‘kind’ who approaches and it would afraid me. I think I would reject him. ”

The problem seems to have no solution and it will be very difficult for chicks misinformed to share things as long as a minority of cads continue to sow doubt and mistrust between the vast majority of men and women. Some girls claiming “feminists” have a lot of hatred against the guys and help to raise the pressure. Think for yourself! (I have the feeling I’m repeating myself)

What are the solutions against harassment?

Until proven otherwise, we live in a free country. As long as we do not exceed certain limits. So I can talk to whoever I want, and the girls can dress as they want and suck my dick if they want. There’s also the problem of girls who criticize those who have fun. Damn but it’s not because you got a broom in the ass that you have to piss off the entire world, bitch! And all the guys are not bad in bed as you seem to imply “sex without being in love? It’s useless.” Pff, go throwing your frustration on another blog. I’m not condescending here, just realistic: it would be good for this kind of chicks to enjoy sex for good. They do not like players but not the guys without experience either … (You see I am even able to do the questions / answers on my own now)

Should the pick-up disappear?

It seems important to me to think to avoid draconian drift that not only would not solve the problem, but would limit to the only private (AND PROFITABLE) space the possibility of dating:
– Dating Sites;
– Bars and clubs;
– Private parties with friends;
– Love on the workplace …
There would therefore exist anymore only planned, paying dating promoting excessive homogamy. Basically, when you’re a little bit original, people look at you like a crazy person yet, soon it will no longer be allowed to be a man outside some places where it will be allowed to “let it go” (and where chicks quite happy because we are interested in them will still find a way to say it’s boring to be approached). Damn but let’s rebel before it’s too late!

Also to avoid this extreme, I am happy to carry my struggle by informing, giving examples and many other things to fill a little that gap between men and women I mentioned earlier in the article. I am perhaps not the most gallant, the most distinguished, nor the most modern but I love women … I respect them and I am absolutely not a bad guy. They have their free will so it’s up to them to see if they want to make “their men” (I speak here of average French guy) become guys with no balls. If it’s their point they are on their good way! Let’s fight for our dignity. I’m not a pet, fuck. OK we take into account the feminist struggles during decades but let’s not deny our nature and the right of expression of guys. All that just to try to look charming with beautiful babes… and for what? To try the fuck them …………… we always come back here. But they will not respect you if you get into the vicious circle of not assuming. Or they are very stupid, formatted and love bad faith.

And in practice?

The advice I give to my readers are clear:
– A ‘NO’ and the interaction is over. At least at the beginning of the interaction if she wants to be prayed she will find another pigeon. Be fair-play. (LMR it’s a different problem)
– When you approach a girl, do not follow her : it’s creepy. Let’s stop if she wants it. Some are afraid that a psychopath follow them at home, and then the sexual side of things is very far at this point. This is not your objective!
– Contrary to what some people say: being polite does not make you a submitted dude … an “excuse me” to stop her is not useless.
– Do not ask her 1001 questions before having interested her a minimum. You’re a stranger, stressed probably because you’re approaching a stranger, so try to first and foremost create a climate of confidence. Talk to her like if you already know her a little bit.
– Your normality is your first asset. Free yourself from the cartoon that says that the seducer has be macho, arrogant and aggressive.
– The insults have no place in this type of interaction (but sometimes in the yes 😉 ).

Let us turn to one another with respect and courtesy! Although some chicks speak badly too, is not a reason to do the same. Sometimes, you do not even have time to get close to them, they insult you. It is sad and disheartening. But hey, at least I know that these girls have a problem. And that is not what will make me want to kill myself or will make myself believe I’m the ugliest dude on Earth. As some like to pretend it.

Should some girls realize that by being nasty for no reason, they can hurt guys who take upon themselves for the first time to give it a try. And traumatize them for life, breaking their self-determination, etc. Respect is good, but it is not one-sided.

Let’s all become Buddhists and it will get better! 😉 we all too much live into anxiety

Who says girl with her friends, says complicated pick up, especially in the clubs/bars. I exclude here voluntarily the case of the good friend of good will and of the open-minded HB11 who wants to make a threesome with her best friend and you. I want to talk today about cockblocks who are ugly and obstacles who are a pain in the ass because they are jealous.

HB11/10 : A so beautiful girl that we never planned to meet one like her one day.

War Pig : A very ugly girl. I am not a fan of this term.

Obstacles: the friends that a beautiful girl brings with her in the club/bar. Her purpose by bringing them is among others to filter the boys who approach her. Sometimes these obstacles are jealous because would want to fuck the girl but do not dare or are in the friendzone then they are a pain in the ass.

Cockblock : Literally, the one that block your cock – friend of the target, her job is to take away every intruder or to help the extraction of the target. Example: when a girl is bored with a boy who does not stop talking too much, she is going to try to establish an eye contact with her friends. They are then going to come to extract her, by saying that they need their friend. So far, it’s all good. But some girls can also intervene because they are bored: no boy came talking to them then they prevent their friend from having fuck or simply because they are tight-ass.

First of all, even if you have a preference in a group: it is absolutely necessary to make a good impression on the friends of your target (being a flattering and entertaining presence) otherwise «  Mélanie, are you coming, we go to another party » (or variant that castrates you). In the ideal, your wingman can try to pick up the friend of your target.

Target : According to the theories of the Game, it is important to choose a person when we approach a group. In the practice, it is not necessarily true…

Even if you’re interested in ONE SINGLE GIRL IN THE GROUP, it is important that they ALL feel quite involved. Even a minimum. However, your target must know that you prefer her: thus maintain the eye contact a little longer, etc. It must be subtle to don’t create jealousy nor offend the ego of her friends. Still, if the ugly one feels, wrongly, if she has a ticket with you: because it is rare, her friend could eject herself charitably. Thus keep a kind of safe distance, like on the road.

The ugly friend (translate: frustrated) is often the one who will fuck up everything. It’s no legend. Every time she goes out with Mélanie HB11, Yvonne HB2 feels alone and lonely like an idiot while her buddy is approached. She thus develops a whole arsenal to push away the pretenders of her friend. Often maliciously « PLZ, don’t you see that we are talking ?
– Shut up, the truth is that you are ugly and fat, if in addition you behave as a silly bitch, it’s not surprising that you are badly kissed. Don’t try to fool me, I know that you did not go out to dance nor to have drinks but well and truly to be approached… And miracle, tonight, the offer meets the request. Yeah yeah, even you, you would want you to have sex in fact, I know it well, then one advice : try to be nice! 😉 »

Certainly attractive answer but if the situation came to become inflamed you would lose your target: she will 99 % take the side of her friend rather than the one of an unknown. It’s logical! That’s why I advise you to defuse upstream this (not-)sex bomb: That will avoid that she explodes in your face during a numclose or worse … during a kissclose. Not doing it is a stupid error which can waste wonderful approaches.

Phone-close or num-close or n-close : Obtaining of a phone number. Not a fake one preferably.

Kiss-close or k-close : Obtaining of a kiss. I do not like too much this terminology because that implies that we win something when the girl kisses us. While, on one hand it is a pleasure for both of us and on the other hand, the work is far from being finished after a simple kiss.

In practice, it is much more frequently the not-beautiful chicks that piss me off. I have much fewer problems with the cute friends than with the ugly friends on the field. Having said that, I remember some unfuckables who have helped me to catch their friend. Thus, let’s not accuse them as long as they were not obnoxious but let’s be wary.

The enemy can also be the social pressure exercised by her tight-ass friend: the interest of the isolation is to release her from it. Except that she risks not to let her friend leave with a big jerk. That’s the thing!

Before I get into the main topic, we have to agree on the vocabulary. Two terms in particular:
– Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) : a man who wants to use the politically correct stereotypes taught by the media to seduce a woman. And failing most of the time. He thus has few women around him, or then with a lot women but who have friendzoned him, etc. (I’ve been this guy).
– Pick Up Artist, usually abbreviated PUA is a term, coming from American English : used to describe a man (not necessarily a handsome one) skillful to meet, attract and seduce women. He knows how to have women when he wants, he is not necessarily a sex maniac, a sex-addict, a misogynist nor a narcissistic pervert.

When we discover the Game and when we begin to have results, the most frequent/serious 2 errors are:
– being in couple with the first chick we met (statistically there are few chances that she suits you well) and deny all that you have learnt by becoming again stupid as one pleases, etc. ;
– being full of resentment to the women, trying to take revenge on all those who did not want of you in the past, picking up as a kind of crusade by refraining yourself from any feeling, etc. It is not healthy.

We are going to be clear on one thing: it is not the methods which have to seduce the girls, it is you. Being a PUA is a question of state of mind… The techniques like the routine of the questions or the compliance test can help… But what is essential it is that it is necessary to acquire social and sexual freedom: thus, a good state of mind and understanding how to put things in perspective!

I develop. A PUA and an AFC will not have the same faiths, will not interpret the reality in the same way. And it is obviously the one who interprets the reality in the most constructive way for him who will go the farthest. The PUA, him, will of course trendy to go out more of his comfort zone! Let’s take the example of a girl who accepts the invitation of a guy to come to his place. The AFC will tend to raise 36 000 questions, to wonder what he would have to do or say to sleep with her, etc. This malaise can be felt by the girl and the capital attraction of the AFC will suffer from it. The PUA will take more initiatives, will be more a player, because he will know why the girl came in fact. Even if often the social pressure prevents him from saying it. This thoughtlessness, this nonchalance, this implicit confidence… all this will make him only more charming, more open-minded, more comprehensive, and he will thus have more success.

The AFC who offers flowers and pays the restaurant can have results (fortune favours fools, as it is said, but that does not seem to be true with women then let’s speak rather about the beginner’s luck here). The player who follows carefully a plan will also have results. But the tools of seduction serve only to highlight the best in you (empathy, fineness, intelligence) and in freeing this personality, this energy that slumbers to attract the one or several woman(en) of your life like a magnet. Having a narrow and mechanical vision of Game will lead to the failure, I can certify it to you.

Thus needs to reach beyond the stage of the mechanical memorization, do not become a robot to fuck 3 chicks, selling your soul to the devil like that is not worth it. And it is not being a PUA. Yeah, you can embody a character at the beginning to get acquainted with the methods, to see what works and what does not work for you, to get free from certain blockings but quickly become again yourself (a better yourself) even if it means giving up on certain categories of girls. You will just take more satisfaction on the long-term.

I am no guru but I think hard as rock that personal fulfillment is the purpose of the existence: needs to keep the cape above. You won’t find it into the woman of your life as considers it the AFC nor in a list of conquests very supplied as believes it the obsessional player. It is two opposed philosophies of life that can bring you a certain dose of pleasure but happiness is in theory IN YOURSELF (don’t we say that money can’t buy happiness?). A critical perspective on the various methods and a widened culture of the gender relations can help you to sublimate your love life thanks to greater maturity and lucidity. At least it is what I think. Even if becoming lucid, it is not necessarily being happy because we open eyes on things we would have preferred not to see.

A personal work will be necessary for the success of this project and few will be the ones who will go ’till the end of the journey. Reading, understanding, practising, internalizing and personalizing the advice are keys: no author holds the inherent knowledge (not even me). The magic will not in one night operate and taking the necessary stand back before finding the happy medium and letting express your personal touch which will allow you to bloom in this world that became all the same a fucking mess will take time.

When you will be ready, you will be able to be happy with a good girl and to manage the ups and downs of your relation… If it is not your purpose at the moment, that will probably become it (even me I eventually found a girl who tempted me of believing in love again). You will also have the moral strength and the courage to break up if your relation becomes toxic. When you will be ready, you will also be able to be honest with yourself: you totally can decide to live as an eternal single nectar-gathering. Even if for it, after a certain age, it will be necessary for you to take some viagra. In brief, in any case, your power of seduction will exponentially have increased. And that’s not nothing!

Eventually, I think that one can be a PUA even by being in couple or by not picking up every day. It is a question of state of mind, of vision of life/women, and of past experience. Just like we can be a sucker and a submitted guy during a whole life. Let’s meditate on that together.