I recently devoted a 140-page book to sexualization and how to avoid the Friendzone. Here’s the link if you want more details.
Today, we are particularly interested in kinesthetic escalation (kino escalation), which is an important stage of sexualization and helps to avoid the FZ.
Definition
The term kino comes from the community of seduction and designates touching. The word escalation refers to the steps involved in creating a sexual connection with a girl.
The so-called “kino escalation” corresponds to the physical escalation of the kinos with a woman, from the first touch on the shoulder (for example) to the finger into her pussy.
The concept
Kinesthetic escalation has the advantage of making you more concrete in the eyes of the girl. As soon as a contact (even a simple touch) is made between two bodies, they become more familiar. Numerous studies have shown that contact makes people who touch us more sympathetic and make us more likely to trust them, to want to please them.
In fact, touch (in the broad sense) can turn her on, which would also increase your chances of fucking her. Basically, even if she does not like you more than that, touching helps creating sexual tension and can make her want to kiss you.
Finally, it must be understood that each touch is a test in itself, which allows you to appreciate the progress of your game at any moment: calibrate, adapt to her reactions.
Sexual anxiety
Some guys have trouble with the idea of touching a girl. But touch is paramount in your seduction game if you want to kiss a girl and take her to bed (not to sleep). One of the keys to success in seduction is thus to overcome this sexual anxiety.
The best is to physically escalate quickly, to be fixed on what you can expect from such girl. If after 30 minutes she is not receptive to your tests… she won’t probably be more receptive 2 hours later. In such a case, you should save time and energy by attacking another target.
How to touch her?
You must touch a girl you have just met in a progressive way because any contact with a person makes you enter her privacy. To better visualize the idea, imagine that an appropriate contact is equivalent to knocking on the door of the girl’s apartment, while a touch made too early on an area of her body more intimate (breasts, buttocks , pussy) is similar to pushing her door.
You should use kinos as soon as possible, from the beginning of the interaction. This helps to make her understand that you are someone touchy and so it won’t sound weird when you’ll initiate new touches a little later. Your first kinos should be on non-intimate body areas: hands, arms, back, hips and shoulders. Finally, they must be fast, light and intermittent so as not to be too pressing.
There is kino and kino. Some touchs will show her that she attracts you. This will then correspond to a sign of interest sent from you. These are the ones to be mastered. For example, when you meet a girl, shake her hand when you introduce yourself. And when you remove it, gently slide your fingers over the palm of her hand.
Assume each of your touchs so that the girl does not feel any discomfort that could make her feel uncomfortable (because of the contagion of emotions). Stay relaxed and make your touch feel like something natural. Put your hand on her body with slow and short movements. So you will also communicate that you are confident.
But for me, the real escalation (the real challenge) begins when you assume to caress her. When you take real initiatives. For example, stroking her hand, back or thigh. You can do this nonchalantly by talking about something else or you can reassure her so that the touch passes better if dared.
You must see if she is comfortable with your touchs: does she leave her thigh against yours? Does she let you stroke her hand without removing it?
If you see that she is comfortable, receptive (and the best it’s when she touchs you as an answer), go! Depending on the context, you can kiss her on the cheek, neck, etc. You can even totally turn her on!
If she is not comfortable
Stop or interrupt the contact yourself, if possible. Then, restart by reassuring her and/or dismantling her resistances. Dredramatize the thing and try to understand what is blocking her. If it’s just stress, make her understand that what she feels is actually sexual tension.
When it starts to get hot, women are “programmed” to give signs of resistance. It is a reaction to avoid feeling “easy girl”. So if for a test, you go up your finger along her thighs and suddenly remove it, she will feel a disappointment or even a lack but will not object because the touch has disappeared (and so much better because she will not be thought of as a whore who gets fiddled). So it is better to do and to interrupt … then to start again, rather than go there without moderation.
The massage
It is a technique of seduction very classic, but diabolically effective. Few women refuse a massage and it has the advantage of exciting them. It is also relatively okay to offer a massage to a woman but she knows implicitly, if she accepts, what to expect. I always fucked a woman I had massaged. On the other hand, few have massaged me in return: it is better to do it yourself because often, the chicks are too shy to massage. You have to know what you want! 😉
Do not forget that it will be all the same be up to you to provoke your chance by making this massage “slip” … 😉
I finally found a LAIR in Lyon, which is a nice one, in addition. They are cool and are younger than me: next to them, I seem to be 22 years old. So I found the fountain of youth.
There are two guys that I took especially under my wing. Because they are really friendly and motivated. One is a virgin (22 years old) so he is a big challenge for the PUA that I am and the other lives near my home so it is convenient to walk back home in the dark of the night (in addition he is a sturdy so I feel safe). So we often go out together.
Last week, I initiated them to crash & burn. Result : Chromosome Y who had KissClosed only one girl in his life has kissed 4 since that night. And the sturdy giant also kissed one girl. For my part, I tasted the tongue of a cute blonde in a bar. But nothing more (I did not fuck her). That’s why I say I have not enough impact, there’s too much waste in my game right now. I really have to find fields where I feel more comfortable.
I have not yet practiced SPU in Lyon… and I have no excuse because here, unlike Aix, there is plenty to do. I swear on the holy bible (The Game of Neil Strauss) that I will move my ass and fuck a girl picked up in the street this year.
Last night I went out with them again. I initiated him to fast seduction this time.
Just before putting my nose out, a chick of my age met on Adopte (she will be called CPE because she is a CPE in a boarding school – I must have a problem with authority because it turns me on). She had sent me a text message “do you have got something planned tonight because I want to visit you ?
– yeah I go out with friends, we can meet up tomorrow if you want to
– ok tomorrow I go to a bradery with a friend but I can come after”.
It is certain that if I was home doing nothing, I would have fucked her last night. But I went out with my friends instead: I’m not a sex-starving dude and then it made her respect me to see that I don’t put her on a pedestal just because she has a pussy.
This afternoon, on the other hand, her visit was a good thing because I was home watching Girls. Seriously I am watching season 1 and there are one or two funny characters that I like then I have fun watching this. And then, this kind of show allows me to better enter the mind of the chicks.
What I am going to say is very unhealthy but you’re used to it now : the CPE looks like my cousin, the one who is general practitioner. She also is one head taller than me. And she’s cool. So I had every reason to honor her.
When I arrived home at about 6 pm she asked where she could pee, directly. In my toilets, there’s a book about Feng shui so she asked me if I practiced. I told her “that and many other things” while approaching her and placing my hands on the bottom of her back. Then, I went up, to caress her neck and breasts. She ended up kissing me so much the sexual tension was superior to her belief that it is the man who has to take the first step. She could not handle more, she was very excited.
I kissed her in the neck, she took off my t-shirt, I removed her top, opened her high-waisted pants and put my fingers in her panties. We knew each other for 20 minutes when she orgasmed, standing, for the first time.
She was still trembling when she sat on my bed. She started to jerk me but she has a too tight grip, it hurt me. So, I swung her on the bed and licked her. It was long, I would say 30 minutes, until she came one more time.
After, I got up and she straightened up on the edge of the bed… to suck me. I think that when we lick women, we show that we love their bodies, and they are more likely to suck us to return the same. A lot told me that they do not “usually suck the first night” but they did it after a good cunnilingus. Well, I came kinda quickly.
Small hug and glass of water to recover before the second round.
After I fucked her again in missio/doggy style while she touched herself at the same time (she knows well her body) and she enjoyed for the third time. After the orgasm, she told me she had contractions and formication everywhere. With my usual delicacy, I answered “yeah, it’s because I fucked you very hard!
– I admit, 3 orgasms in 1h30 for a first time, it’s crazy.”
I sweated a lot and she also went to shower. I found her sexy with a towel around the waist… so I took a picture. Eh shit: I activated the flash, fortunately she did not understand anything!
After, we talked a bit: she loves animals, has traveled a lot and has visited many zoos around the world. There is an animal that has marked her mind this summer: a lizard with two heads, whose name I forgot… I thought that with two heads, I could lick two girls at the same time! It would be awesome.
Otherwise, I also see again the cardiologist of last time: I pricked her blouse to make a picture and recorded her while I licked her. You can listen to it here (not available anymore). That made me laugh. It’s a bit bordeline, but I hope she will not be hurt.
On the other hand, I really hope she does not want more than an improved friendship because I find her a little sticky. That said, I still have chest pain so she checked me and told me my heart was fine. So it’s just stress, it reassured me.
In the section “less cool things”: Virginie currently makes me a crisis of nervous because she finds that I do not respond fast enough to her texting (it is true that sometimes I answer the next morning to something she sent me at 5pm, but well…) The long distance relationship thus begins badly! But please, understand me : I’m very tired in the evening and quite busy too. And then my phone is in silent mode all the time.
At work, it’s OK. But at the moment I am at the reception because the secretary has resigned… and it’s boring because behind me there is the office of the niece of the boss who watches everything I do. And as soon as I do anything other than counting: I’m entitled to a shitty comment. I call her the eye of Moscow, this asshole. So I can not pick up nor go on Facebook during business hours and that’s really not cool…
About the CPE, she has already sent me a text to meet up again. Maybe I’ll see her again, maybe not. We’ll see.
A part of the “feeling” between two people corresponds to the unconscious communication between them. You can increase the number of people with whom you have a feeling by improving your body language and by studying interpersonal communication.
But it’s not just about that.
The exact definition of the feeling is “the way one feels this or that situation”. Because the “feeling” is what a person feels, it depends largely on his/her state of mind (by definition). So, a part of a pick up depends on the mindset of the target.
I have met, as you know, many girls on the Internet. And many of these women wanted to know if there would be “a feeling between us” before coming to my place to make love. In fact, I understand what they meant: they wondered if they would have the intuition that it would be good in bed with me. But I think this is (in a sense) a bad selection criterion. I will explain why.
A question of context
It must be understood that there are situations where a girl will feel the “feeling” with a guy and others where she won’t… with this same guy.
For example, if you go on a first “walking” date with a chick during which you stay one meter from each other all along… this is being little conducive to touch, and thus you have very little chances to have a good “feeling”. A date around a drink would probably be more opportune, especially because you could look at her in the eyes.
But, no matter what kind of dating, it’s often up to us (men) to do the work, to touch the girls and that kind of thing… to make sure there’s a feeling. So that they have the impression that “it goes well” between us.
In fact, it’s boring. When you think about it, most of the chicks are a bit waiting for it to fall down from the sky. And if they are a little stressed by the fact of having date: they will be uncomfortable, which will prevent this famous “feeling” to pass.
Because it is necessary to realize that if the girl does not know how to manage her stress, it will be very easy and very tempting for her to take refuge behind the excuse “we have no feeling” so as not to leave her comfort zone. Then, she will complain to her girlfriends that online dating sucks… when in fact, it is she, who sucks.
I think that at one time or another, if chicks want to orgasm, they have to put some good will into it.
A short story
I remember a date with a girl who wanted to see if there would be a “feeling” between us or not. Online, we decided to go to my house to have a drink but at the last moment in face to face, she demanded to go elsewhere to see if I was not a psychopath who wanted to murder her. Well, if I were a killer, I would not have told her anyway. It’s stupid but so true…
So, I was just out to pick her up and get her to go to my house. I had no money with me nor anything at all. Unprepared, I insisted that she come to my house, like if it was normal (in fact, it is). But she replied “if that’s what you want, I’m leaving, we’re done.” It creates a chill. It was only her second date with Tinder in her whole life and she yet wanted to do things in her own way, to dictate her rules.
I do not know why I accepted (the principle of coherence probably since I had left my house – too bad, there was a good movie on TV). So we went for a “stroll”. But she was simply there, killing my initiatives and redirecting the conversation on asexual subjects.
The worst thing was that she allowed herself to judge a lot of stuff, for example, she told me that only riffraff pick up in the street. Another example: she said she was on Tinder “just for fun” but that my profile had caught her attention but that usually she only met people in parties.
I’m pissed off by this reductive mindset so I did not make any effort and wanted to go home after 30 minutes… even if she was not ugly. It finally lasted 1h30… for nothing. She, just like me, did not want to fuck. Even if we had talked a lot about sex on Tinder.
Yet, if she had come over to drink a tea with me, we could have raised the sexual tension in a place where our impulses could have been unhindered.
It plays, in fact, the intimate place : she could have let herself go and be the bitch she claimed to be on Tinder instead of playing the tight-ass. For my part, I have not been oversexed either, but, in my defense, she left me no chance to be. It makes me laugh, the chicks who would like a guy to kiss them against a wall and fuck them wildly but who keep their distance and send no signal when there is a sex beast in front of them.
Finally, if we had fucked together, I would probably have made her orgasm like she rarely enjoyed in her life (see The awesome lover’s manual), which would have dropped the last barriers of intimacy.
Then, we could really have talked about everything and nothing in a fluid way, without stupid little game. And everyone would have been a winner. We must stop believing that if we do not have much to say before sex, we will have nothing to say afterwards and that the fuck will be bad because we will have no complicity. In fact, sex is an effective way to create a connection with someone.
Instead, it was a lose-lose scenario. Everyone was disappointed. So maybe she did not like me IRL while she liked my pictures (everything is possible)… but in this case, she should have said it directly. We would have saved a lot of time and energy. Even though, finally, this little digestive stroll made me feel good (thanks to it, I slept like a baby after)!
It reminds me of an episode of Sex & The City where Carrie had a sexfriend with whom sex was extraordinary. One day she decided to invite him to the restaurant to do “non-sexual” things and see if a more serious relationship could be envisaged with him. But it turned out that this guy was as boring as rain outside the bed : they had no other complicity than sexual complicity. And yet, she orgasmed like never before with him. So, should she have missed these moments of ecstasy if they had gone on an hypothetical first date at the restaurant ?
In my life, it happened regularly that the chicks who have come to my place to have sex directly are tense, crossed arms, and so on. But as soon as I began to approach to warm them, something lit up in them. And it remained activated after sex. Yet, if we had a drink in a bar with them instead of meeting up at home, I’m not sure I would not have gone back home alone.
Last point, some needed to drink alcohol to feel comfortable enough to do what they really wanted to do in fact. Of course, when you’re drunk, the feeling usually goes much better. But, frankly, we need to know ourselves and control ourselves so that we do not need to resort to those kinds of things that cause health problems.
The conclusion is that “intuition” is a good criterion for those who know themselves a minimum, who assume and who know how to manage their stress. For the others, it’s crap. Finally, I do not throw the stone at them, if they were not torn between the desire to orgasm freely and this fucking social pressure (and by the pressure that they put on themselves on their own)… we would not be in this situation !
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Procrastination is the tendency to systematically postpone certain actions, an activity, a particular task. The procrastinator can not “go to work”… especially when it does not provide instant gratification.
But being a “chronically late person” does not mean doing nothing. Rather, the subject can do a lot of things (go shopping, a spring cleaning, repainting the shutters and calling his grandmother) as long as these things are not related to a really problematic task for him.
At the end of the day, the procrastinator says he finally has not advanced much in his project… But it does not matter, because tomorrow he will do it seriously, he promised.
Who is concerned ?
Anyone can be subject to procrastinatation, for one reason or another. I give you examples: adults eager to learn by themselves but leaving their books gathering dust, students losing their time on Youtube instead of revising, people who want to diet or quit smoking and who always promise to do it the next day, etc.
The causes :
Studies have shown that there is a connection between procrastination and: anxiety, perfectionism (fear of your own judgment or the one of others), low self-esteem, boredom, apathy and impulsivity.
Some perfectionists are therefore affected by procrastination. Since they can not bring themselves to make an average job and since a perfect job takes time and effort, they prefer to avoid the task. Procrastination is often related to fear of failure.
Others say they are “overwhelmed” and do not know where to start. This may be the case in seduction because of the mass of available information. I’ve prepared a plan for you to make it easier : click this link to see it.
We can also see in procrastination a fear of success, or rather an unconscious fear of change, a fear of breaking a vicious circle (a void is left). The feeling you have to be (very well) prepared before doing things can be another reason for procrastination.
According to the psychologist Walter Mischel from Stanford University, who conducted experiments in the 1960s, procrastination is a phenomenon mainly due to a lack of learning of self-control, of our own desires. But, he said, and some other scholars after him, we can learn it quickly and well. It’s encouraging !
Excuses :
If you’re a procrastinator, you always find a good excuse to justify your behavior. You turn around the bush but it is just a self-deceit. Excuses are divided into three types:
– Lack of time and other non-renewable resources ;
– Lack of money and other renewable resources;
– Lack of personal talent, stuff like “I do not feel capable.”
Those that are found most often when you pick up with guys are :
“I will not approach a girl until all the conditions are not met. There are too many people around. I’m not out for that. This is not the right place. I did not go to the hairdresser. And I do not have the level to succeed so why trying? “
“There’s too much noise in this club, I will approach in a party when we can hear each other…”
“I’m not feeling really warm tonight, next week it will get better. I’m not in the mood.”
“I’m in high school, once in college I’ll move my ass.” And once in college, “I will start after my exams, now, I’m too busy! “
“I’m only 16 years old, it’s hard to approach girls at my age, when I’ll be 18 I will feel more comfortable to do so.” At 19, “I do not feel very good right now, we will see that later.”
“This girl is walking too fast, I will approach the next one. In addition, she is not hot enough, I’m not motivated enough. And she does not look nice, I guess she’s a superficial rich girl, anyway.”
Since there is no admissible reason not to act here, we can conclude that these are just excuses of cowards. And it turns out that this is indeed 99% of the time the case! I don’t give a damn what you plan to do in the future. I want to see action now. Because an initiative worth 1000 words.
The concept of avoidance strategy:
Avoidance is a behavior which consists of avoiding what would confront you with your anguish. We have to realize that most people live in a glass prison.
Avoidance strategies through such excuses make you still feel a vague unease behind your bad faith. While a saving efforts would help you improve your well-being. Otherwise, I would not piss you off with that.
However, if you do not make the effort, you will try to find an excuse for keeping internal consistency and justifying your inaction. And it can last long…
But I don’t know if there is really a good time to get out of your comfort zone. To start a better life. I guess that the perfect time is now… Make a decision, let’s say… tonight, not next year. And try to stick to it!
If you do not succeed, do not be discouraged; you are probably the most severe judge of yourself… then why don’t you think possible for you what you think is possible for another one? Be patient and sympathize with yourself! And try again!
I often meet girls who want to realize their fantasies (like threesomes) and that are seductive as the prospect is distant but get cold feet at the last moment under muddy excuses. “I have a little stomach ache tonight so I do not come”: it is a normal reaction because it stresses them, going out of their comfort zone, but we must see beyond that! Then know that to live exceptional things, you must deserve them a little, by daring for example! The worst is « I want it to happen in a spontaneous way » : fuck you, everything does not fall from the sky.
The solutions :
If you are not able to stand back, never forget that whether you act or not, time will pass anyway. This is a real constraint so use it wisely. So you need to review your priorities and analyze what really blocks you! It’s not when you’ll be 60 that you will fuck young girls! Select the most important things, the ones that will give you the most well-being. Finding a girlfriend (or several) and having a regular sexual activity, is it important to you? How important ? See for yourself (without bad faith). Tackle what will make a real difference in your life, and go after things.
Then, realize when you procrastinate or use a strategy of avoidance and know how to recognize when these excuses (and your little inner voice) work for you or against you. Shut it up when it’s against you. Set yourself achievable goals (you need a bit of discipline): at first, it will not be fucking four new girls a week. But approaching three girls a week, for example. Change your thinking, put stuff in perspective, change the words you put on things and try to be positive. Think of the feeling of satisfaction, of the immense pleasure it will bring you to finally have this thing DONE! Even if you’ll probably have to work hard at the beginning (it’s not easy). Prove that you have some character, some will!
With regard to dare approaching a girl :
– At the beginning, be in the game rather than the stake. It will save you from too much stress.
– Do not try to make perfect approaches (who cares ? It puts too much pressure and then who can judge you anyway?)
– Keep it simple: one idea per sentence, do not try to be TOO original, just try to do…!
Anyway BRAVO for reading this article until the end, for not having postponed the reading. It shows that you feel that something is wrong and you want to change it. This is a very noble goal, wanting to move your ass.
So, sign up for a seduction forum to meet players from your city, sign up for Tinder to meet girls easily and start reading my blog to improve yourself in seduction! Courage, it’s worth it!
I am just back from holidays with the cock tanned thanks to nudist beaches. Just kidding, there’s no nudist beaches around Aix-en-Provence. But I have the mark of the jersey, really… I look as stupid as those who go to ski and come back with a white stripe around the eyes (except that, me, it is on the cock).
Sunday, back to Lyon. My parents drove me there. Bad idea: more than 5 hours road to drive 300 km… On the way, I decided to weigh the pros and cons: I concluded to stay registered on Adopteunmec. I have a salary now and I earn a little bit too thanks to my blog so I took the €29 per month formula to have access (limited to 10 likes per day) to women of the region.
For those who’ve read my ebook about online dating : I used the same profile as the one I gave as an example but, at the end, I added a bonus “speed seduction” text. Between Tinder and Adopte, I am ready to have a good sex life in Lyon. In addition, I have decided to train a small group to the Game… so we will go out I guess (well not too much because with my job I will only have my WE free).
Monday I fucked your mother and your sister: they liked it. Just kidding ! No, it was just the resumption of work. With a fucking heat wave, still at least 35°C. Lyon is a city as hot as Emily Ratajkowski (I do to her what she wants even if I prefer her in Blurred Lines than in We Are Your Friends).
Tuesday, compulsory medical visit. I peed in a pot: nothing to report. The doctor listened to my heart and taken the heart tension: 80 bpm and 12.7! So things are going well. I am reassured. For corrected vision: 12/12. She made me do a lot of movements also to see if I functioned well (she has strangely not tried to make my dick get up). Here I am, a real war machine ready for action !!!
No, seriously, we talked about life and death, all these metaphysical anguish: she told me that except not being fat, being physically active but not too much, doing less than 45 hours of work per week and eating healthy, you could not do much more to try to control the uncontrollable. Her philosophy of life is to put the odds on our side but to do not take a headache with all that! I liked it! I’ll try to do like this…
Wednesday, ie yesterday, I met a cardiologist I talk to since early August. I made come at my place directly. At first she was a bit hesitant and full of principles but after the excitement won and made both of us save time. This is a girl that I approached on Adopte and I speed-seduced. She is in 6th year of medicine and has a cardiology background. I’m scared to know that they are only paid €250/month for doing the same work as graduate doctors.
I have sent several texts of speed seduction (I give them in my ebook). And I’ve even written a new one, just for her. She was very excited by my pen: she sent me sexy pictures of her, one only in underwear under her white coat with stethoscope !!! On her profile, was written “no sex friend” but I don’t care. It’s been a long time since I don’t give a shit about what women write on their profile to try to save her reputation.
Personally, I have been frank. I told her the truth. She said it suited her because I am honest and respectful (and we would use condoms). No need to lie to chicks to fuck them. I have an ethical and I’m proud of it !!! It was the moral lesson of the day.
So, before me, she had slept with only 7 guys in her life including 2 very long relationships. But she was eager to meet me. At 8pm, she brought white wine and homemade bounties (a vegan version of the stuff because she is vegetarian). It was a good thing that she invests so much in this sex session!
She said she was afraid of not pleasing me, etc. So, the girls also have anxieties. Yet she is quite sexy, really thin. Beautiful face with green eyes.
Once home, she wanted to fuck me directly but I dodged it. Damn, she wanted me to fuck her directly, she clung to me and everything. The poor girl had not fucked for 5 months and masturbated regularly… except that I am a civilized man.
After a quarter hour, I stroked her clit and fingered her : it was funny because to struggle, she was trying to catch my dick but has difficulty to open my Efficience belt… while I made fun of her because of it (nicely).
Then I thrown her on the bed and have licked her until orgasm. Then I got up, she sat on the edge of the bed facing me with her head up to my cock. I have shown her how to open this belt, the mechanism has passionated her. Then she sucked me and I fucked her. She then straddled me first and I fucked her doggy style and she orgasmed again. Note that she sucks very well. I finally removed the condom and finished in her mouth. She really wanted to make me happy!
We ate a bit to recover. Then we took a shower together. I sat down in the shower and licked her. She went crazy, and had another orgasm. Then she knelt and sucked me again. It was very good, especially with the water over us : her flowing makeup gave her a really sexy side.
She wanted to sleep at my place after that. She’s nice so no problem… What pissed me off a little bit on the other hand it’s that she is not really a good kisser (for my taste) and is VERY sticky even TOO MUCH (she always wants to take me hand or a cuddle while we don’t really know each other). On the other hand, she is OK to come with me to the swimming pool during the week so that’s cool!
Minute positive: she told me she found me beautiful, intelligent, friendly and a good lover. Awww, it’s nice! Handsome : I dunno, it depends on taste, I guess. Intelligent: if we rely on my IQ, kinda intelligent yes. Nice: it depends. Good lover : I’ve already been told so it should not be wrong. My advantage is, I have a wise face and a look that hide a very pronounced naughty side.
We will talk today about the concepts of “reality” and ” frames control,” applied to seduction.
These notions are fuzzy, so we’ll try to make them clearer. This is important because assimilating them helps to understand the complexity of the world around us: these are concepts of communication at large, not just pick up stuff.
It is important first to understand that reality exists, but that each person sees it differently: each of us has a different and subjective representation of it. Edgar Morin speaks of “cooperation from the outside world and our mind to build reality.”
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming, it is said that “the map” (our representation of reality) is not “the territory” (absolute reality). The reality of a person consists of beliefs and rules. Our representation of reality is the card that allows us to locate ourselves in the world. You should know that if one doesn’t have life one desires it’s probably that one does not use the right map.
Be careful : here we’re talking about strong beliefs, ones that will push us to adopt a lifestyle in agreement with defined values. For example, a good belief that pulls us up would be to say, “I can influence the course of my life at any moment.” In more advanced cases, there is religion or reincarnation. The type that influences our thinking and our behavior. For someone who believes in God, and God is here and helps. Even if ultimately there’s no God (we don’t know), the one who lives with the belief that paradise awaits after death is less afraid of his own end and has a more serene life. It helps so it’s a positive belief.
There are also constructive beliefs that help in seduction eg “any interaction is positive (even rejections) in the sense that it gives some experience”, “it is possible to take the number of a girl in street then to see her again and sleep with ” or “every no moves closer to a yes.”
What will disturb in this article is to understand that, as stated by Obi-Wan Kenobi in Star Wars « many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of view. »
Our beliefs are not reality but all our beliefs shape our reality. This is why you have to keep an open mind, think for yourself and be tolerant with people who are.
A strong reality
All you do is dictated by your depiction of reality. Your attitude, your reactions, your body language reflect your reality and intensity. Having a strong reality therefore requires having a powerful inner game that is to say, a good mind.
My reality was forged by dint of sleeping with beautiful girls. Now I tell myself that I’m entitled too. The fact that they sleep with me is normal. And I know I am capable of giving orgasms to 99% of girls. This makes me very confident. This is a very positive reality that does not hurt anyone... and even if actually all girls don’t like me (far from it): I’m liked by enough to have a great sex life! Reminds me a line of OSS117: Jean Dujardin takes a rake and the only answer that comes to his mind is “what, you do not like men?”. Indeed, in his reality, a straight girl is inevitably attracted to him.
In addition, having a positive reality like this one helps to seize opportunities. Because we see things through the prism of our reality: when you are not positive, you often miss things because do not see or do not read the right way. On the other hand, when you think that things are possible, it’s a little like if you attracted them. That is why we must always strive to be positive!
If so many guys have seen, with me, their sex life greatly improved… it’s because they have SEEN what is possible to do. And when they began to believe, they behaved so that it also happens to them. (To enlarge your field of possibilities, I recommend you read my Diary of a French PUA where I tell my adventures on the field with girls.)
Warning: Some are so jostled by this reality that they are in denial and become aggressive or reject me.
The alpha male knows that his reality is more important than the reality of an unknown woman, so he sucks her in his reality or kick her out of his life! It’s regularly that one says I’m ugly and I do not know how to pick up a girl… and yet the results are here (reinforcing my reality) so I don’t give a shit about the vision of these girls. It even makes me laugh when I’m in a good mood. I even managed to convince some of the validity of my vision (and after I’ve fucked them).
I have approached the same way many girls : some have loved it, others have hated it. Which ones were right? None, actually. The important thing is that I did not let me down by the gossips and I continued my way by focusing on good results. Hence the need to surround yourself with positive people.
Impose your frames
The frame is, literally, the general framework of the interaction: this is the reality as it is apprehended by the communicators. Each interaction has its frame that must show YOUR reality. Watch my other video about frames here…
Reframing is changing this framework: it comes down to see the problem in a different way.
Examples of different frames:
“My drink is half empty” (negative frame)
“My drink is half full” (positive frame)
“My drink is half full of water and half full of air” (very positive frame)
Controling the frame is controling communication : it’s sucking people into your reality. This amounts to direct the conversation and check the direction that it takes. This is very important, in seduction, to don’t let girls suck you into realities as “men must invite women 5 times at the restaurant before bed” or “spanking is degrading.”
I prefer to communicate that “sex is normal and natural” rather than “only whores have sex on the first date.” This frame is strong and avoids me many headaches. But I can not say this loud out to a woman (saying it explicitly communicate some insecurity about it) it would not be credible, although it is reality. MY reality that helps me move forward in life, head high.
Sometimes, of course, my dates go wrong (that is to say, I do not sleep) with girls (about 1/10). But I do not let the bitter taste of defeat depress me because I know it’s just the reality of the girl that did not match with mine. That does not mean I’m “a disgusting big pervert” but “she was a little too afraid of sex and is not ready to get out of her comfort zone” or better yet “she did not seized her chance for once she might have come across a good lover.”
In my reality, the woman wins as much or more than me when they sleep with me… so they must deserve sex as much as me. But sometimes, there is nothing to do: women in front of me block and do not see the interest to orgasm when they have the opportunity if it’s not with a guy they love and who has committed to start a family even sometimes before having tried the girl. Except that “carpe diem”: maybe tomorrow we will take a brick on the head and die frustrated for nothing so it is better to enjoy this day. Well, it is my vision.
Beware, though, sometimes you have to compromise so you’re not a big rigid asshole (alpha is not necessarily a big asshole): for example, even if you do not like smokers, sometimes the cigarette with coffee after a meal is inevitable for an inveterate smoker. What then is the point of pissing her off for that? It would just lead to an argument and to do not sleep with the girl... on the other hand, if you want to spend your life with her, it’s different and you will have to tell her that the cigarette disgusts you.
Good frame / Bad frame :
She: If you do not buy me a drink, I’m leaving.
Loser: Do not go away… okay.
She: Buy me a drink.
Winner: Why don’t you pay me a drink if you want me to stay with you?
The congruence:
If you have to “think” for one hour about what to answer to stay in your frame, it means that you are not really in it… and then everything I spoke about becomes very difficult.
By the way, it’s really difficult… because changing your mindset into a mindset of winner is the ultimate goal of the game that will make you not only a man who attracts women but also a man successful in his whole life.
In the long term, an alpha frame should impose to you, should become a reality, a second spontaneous nature. So you’ll always be yourself, but a better version of yourself more confident, more sexual, more attractive…
Good luck for building your constructive reality, handsome guys!
I’m in Aix, at my parents, for nearly three weeks. I’ve not really picked up since I was on vacation: a little bit on Tinder… but above all I revived old southerners plans on FaceBook. I had two flakes: girls who wanted (one sent me pictures of her naked) but at the last moment one told she was not ready for love because still in love with her ex and the other was afraid of regret. “They overthink too much these girls,” I said to myself. Then I let it go, no desire get a headache right now.
Monday, I went to the testing center and I went to Red Trousers (see my Diary 2). This girl is still beautiful and hot. She told me she spent one month in Japan and banged a guy there who had a tiny dick : 5cm in erect… I found it funny but not her: she had to simulate to make him finish quickly. Because, in addition, he was not gifted with his sex.
I fingered, licked and fucked her : two orgasms. After we rested and she did a funny thing: she masturbated her clit while I fingered her by touching her breasts: BOOM third female orgasm (very powerful). That’s as much as the first time we had met up almost one year ago, yet… In short, I like this chick.
Yesterday I went to Marseille, I visited a girl picked up on the Internet. A little girl of 36, a typical Mediterranean brunette mother of two children who were on holiday with their dad, pretty. Finally, I found that her face had a lot of charm and she is pretty damn hot for a mom.
I went at her place, on the Corniche. I had too much to piss on the way but I was not going to go straight to the bathroom when arriving at her place so I went and did in the garden of a residence, quietly. Then, it took almost 1 hour to park in her neighbourhoods, what a pain! She had prepared a small meal for me then okay, it was worth the trip. She showed me her videos while taking a drink, because she loves making videos. There were also many books on the “synchronicity” in her room : she explained to me what it is but I’ve not understood this theory.
After a moment, she said she thought I was a liar, and I was a sexx-starved. It was a kind of test. I could tell she was stressed and unsettled when I stroked her thigh casually on the couch. I said, “if I prove to you that I fucked yesterday and therefore I am not a sex-starved, do you remove your top?
– OK.”
I showed her the text messages exchanged with Red Pants thanking me for orgasms and she said, “you’re not my type because of your leather shoes and polo because I like the guys that look more roots (I dont know what that means) but you’re still charming’re so we can fuck if you want.”
She showed me the way to her room, then removed her top and pants directly. She then undressed me. I licked her: cunnilingus orgasm. A funny thing: at some point she has spread herself her lips so that I lick her clit better!
Then she really wanted me to fuck her so she put the condom on my dick, fixing me in the eye: it was really exciting that!
Her vagina was very dilated by her two deliveries and, no doubt, by several huge dicks from Marseille… So, not too many feelings j’n’avais but when I took her doggy style she started screaming to the rhythm of her beautiful ass and tatoo, it made me come! I did not even try to refrain.
She was really tired after sex (though we only fucked once) then she ate a icecream and talked to me for a long time. She told me I was good in doggy style, it’s nice.
She said she also lost a former partner who wanted to save a girl from drowning in Spain but died of exhaustion in the sea, last month. She started to cry. In short, she is really touching, this chick. I tried to cheer her up, tell her that maybe death is better than life (at least one is not forced to work). But that kind of crap had no effect on her.
She still thanked for sex, and for having made her laugh… she said she needed to fuck a nice unknown man, to overcome her fear of inviting a stranger into her house… in short, to live, period! Another good deed for Cyprineman !!! My karma seems to be doing well at the moment…
I was thinking on my way back: people who have seen death up close (like the Banker (see my Diary 2)) no longer see life as stupidly as before. Before me, this woman had fucked only 4 or 5 guys since she is divorced for 4 years, and had never invited a stranger home. I managed to charm her enough for her to let herself go, that’s why I’m a PUA online. I hope it made her feel good and will allow her to make a step forward in her sex life.
I also saw the friend of my mother during the holidays, the one who is a bit psychic and who advised me to go to a seer to get out of my depression (see my Diary 2). She told me that I had no entity on me now! It’s good to hear even if a part of me was skeptical any way!
Well, now I just picked up my screening results (I have nothing) and, this weekend, Virginie is coming to see me before I go back to Lyon.
Kisses and have a good holiday…
I hope you have a tanned cock (tanned tits for women).
Today we will speak of feminism and street harassment. I have already addressed this issue in an article entitled “What about the current debate on street harassment?” I’m going this time to share with you my perspective (as a witness)…
The story
I remember I fucked a girl who said she was a “feminist”. When she told me that, I immediately distrusted because that term no longer means much today. There are indeed too many pseudo-feminists who currently misuse this term and have fun engaging huge polemics from confusions and fight for almost the same thing than the PUA.
Post-coitus, the girl went crazy on topics such as “for an equal work, a woman earns less money than a man, do you think it’s normal, you?”. Well no, it’s unfair, it’s a fact. And besides, when I’ll live with a girl, I’ll be glad she makes more money because it will make US have more money.
She said she wanted to behave like a free man: fucking me on the first night and not calling me after without feeling dirty/shameful/dishonored. I told her to do it and that I would be happy if more girls felt free to do that : society would be less sexually frustrated and everyone would feel better.
The street harassment
Finally came on the carpet, the street harassment. She began by telling me that women were pissed off all the time in the street. So I asked her if i twas her case personally and she said “NO, but many women tell it on the internet.”
I told her that she should be careful when she reads stuff on the Internet because many girls invents a life online just to grandstand: there are so frustrated in life that they will compensate by being aggressive. It is also often the race to outbid on forums “me, one whistles every 100 meters, I’m tired”, “me it’s every 50m, because I’m so beautiful.” No doubt some girls are in good faith but just got paranoid because of all the crap one can read on the Internet. Then their “paranoia” makes that they really will FEEL harassed. And since they FEEL harassed, it is a general truth for them: men harass women.
When a woman is making up and chosing nice clothes to get out, it’s normal to attract attention, that does not necessarily mean that those looks reify her. And then you know we just as easily look insistently a girl who is very beautiful than someone who is damn ugly or just a detail that draws our attention. It is true that it is not very polite, but we must deal with it, we are in a ceremonial society where everyone scrutinizes everyone. The eyes are usually not threatening. Paranoia and egocentrism should not lay down the law…
I am not trying to minimize because when I talk about it around me, almost all the girls I know have had at least one bad experience in the street… but is that enough to generalize?
After I showed her my blog to see what she would say… and, sure enough, she called me a big asshole. Without trying to understand what I do. I speak of pick-up and seduction so I am necessarily a big pervert, misogynistic, manipulative, narcissistic and liar… So, I showed her that we, PUAs, are teaching things that are in line with what the authentic feminists want because our art revolves around personal development. Yet many women hate us but are unable to explain why.
For the record, one of my friends approached Marion Seclin in Paris (a famous pseudo-feminist). He told me that this girl who preaches tolerance and freedom of expression has cold-rejected him without even he had time to open his mouth. In addition, he said that as he approached her, he saw that she had a mustache. It makes me laugh that because we are coming to such extremes that many “fake feminists” make themselves ugly voluntarily on behalf of their cause. Anyway, who cares, it’s too bad for them but does it make happy to be ugly?
In this table are grouped things that differentiate the pick-up and harassment.
Harassment
Pickup
Walking insistently around a girl despite (or because of) her refusal to discuss.
Respect : do not be an ass… do not try to force things.
Whistle and insult women.
Politeness and courtesy, do not whistle chicks, it is useless.
Do not insult accept rejection without feeling affected.
Being rude: touching your cock by watching a woman in a public place.
Do not put a girl uncomfortable, on the contrary.
Dangerous and menacing guy.
Bold guy wishing to cause a good meeting.
Denial of Man/Woman equality legal status. Considering a woman not as a person but as a consumer good.
Man who appreciates the fairer sex.
Aggressiveness of frustrated: « A woman who dresses sexy deserves to be raped. »
“Wow, thank you for dressing so sexy, it makes my eyes feel good.”
Reductive terminology : because of the guys who use that kind of vocabulary, many women do not see (supposedly) what is positive when a stranger tells them they are pretty.
In the community of seduction, we recommend to avoid compliments on pure physical appearance. Instead, we will make them focus on things like accessories. On things she has chosen.
Inappropriate behavior: I read that many guys would follow the girl to her house if she ever had the misfortune to answer politely.
The game helps the guys to stop being sex-starved, to have more normal behavior, which makes them less aggressive.
Pick-up disguised and not assumed.
Be frank. Use the direct game.
Hypocrisy : considering that women who have sex are actually sluts.
PUAs are for sexual freedom of women. But the goal of gender equality is to mutually help each other.
I also told the girl the time I was attacked on my way home after a night: 4 junkies have beaten me, for no reason. What I mean is that there is not only who women feel insecure and who are pissed off in the street in France. It’s a society problem. It’s dramatic that events such as assault and rape occur but this is not a reason so that it turns to the collective psychosis. Otherwise, it would be the end of the beans.
I think women are right to complain when men touch them when they do not agree, when they are insulted by men because they do not want to talk to them. They are right to complain when they are called whores because they are not interested. And they are right when they are afraid to be followed up at home by people (often drunk) who are not invited. But we must not let it go crazy with large deviations in this movement called “modern feminism.”
This girl started to agree that we were in the same boat and it might be smarter to pull together. It’s not the feminists we do not like in the seduction community, it’s the bitches who are pains in the ass in the name of feminism (in fact, I think I’m more feminist than them, I guess I want more good for women than these people). In fact, if we do not like them, it’s mainly because their movement is being emasculating men.
Wikipedia: Feminism is a set of movements and political ideas, philosophical and social, which share a common goal: to define, establish and achieve political, economic and cultural, personal, social and legal equality between women and men.
Emasculation of men
In the past, women have been victims of a lot of violence. They were not the equal of the man and even today there are still unequal treatment. They do not want any of it, I understand… but I do not think they should avenge on us, modern men. Yet the current extremist movement has the effect of emasculating men and virilize women (does it make a woman happy to be virile like a man ?). But what attracts when it comes to men, it is their manhood. Paradoxically, this movement does not make women happier : they do not have the men they like.
A woman is not a man. She may be equal in rights, we will never be identical but complementary, you must understand that. This is even the heart of the problem. The equality would dictate that we all have the same treatment. Fairness, it would be equivalent treatment. As in math, we recognize that each solution of the equation is different, but yet they are strictly synonyms (x²-1=0 so x=1 or -1). In sport, for example, women do not generally compete against men. Yet it doesn’t offended anyone!
I think the so-called feminists (those that are closed and aggressive) should understand that if they want full equality: it would remove privileges such as all the free stuff for them and paying for guys. Or if they speak badly to a guy, he could punch them without being an asshole (which is unthinkable). And when they will want have sex, they will have to go out and pick-up (and take rakes). It is not reasonable to demand equality in all areas and superiority in certain.
If women want to approach in the street and to pay drinks, in the name of equality, we think it’s good. They will then understand that approaching unknown people in the street, it is not easy. There is a huge adrenaline rush, the fear of what other people think, we invent excuses not to go, etc. Getting to approach women, even in a club, it is not something easy. So why trying to blame the few men who still want to approach?
Approaching someone in the street should not be considered “unnatural”. What are the other ways to meet people today? The circles have become very closed, a lot of women do not find a guy that suits them because they have not the choice (hence the growing importance of dating sites and meeting apps). I know many women who, in fact, are flattered to be approached. GQ Magazine has also assessed in an article to $66 the value of a compliment from a stranger.
I must tell you how it goes, in general, when we pick-up a girl in the street (it almost became a heroic act). First, you must know you’re likely to fall on girls that are directly on the defensive : not open-minded, frustrated, and very complicated. When one woman is approached, in addition to the difficulty it represents, sometimes she uses a frightened look that shows the woman think we’re a rapist, a serial killer or a dangerous madman. When approaching women in a group, they often appear contemptuous and use derogatory comments. Like “who does he think he is? He’s ugly.”
What bothers me is that their bad behavior can traumatize shy guys who take their courage in their hands for the first time to approach a woman. Yet we all have much to gain to encourage such behavior. If we do not approach someone we like, we potentially misses something. And if noone approaches anymore, it’s the end of everything. We would become individualistic, frustrated and hurt self-esteem, as many people are yet, by the way.
The logical consequence is that the goods guys do not want to approach the princesses who send them to hell before the first sentence pronounced (often without even watching our face). And this is understandable. But then women complain because they do not meet guys or only fall on assholes. Men also are unhappy and frustrated, in fact it’s a lose-lose scenario.
False feminists are making men lose the little balls they still have. And others women let them do even if it makes them unhappy…
A gap between men and women
We must return to Earth, the street is for everyone. There’s no need for a “special place” to meet people (we are not all lucky enough to pay €20 to get to VIP parties).
So, we catch up on Tinder as long as it’s free. It’s good a moment but we also need to face the reality of the ground sometimes. The street is good because there is no social separation: we should not deprive normal men of their freedom and a chance to meet women who only attend the VIP areas. This is not the VIP area that makes the interest of a man.
Yet according to these pseudo-feminist, approaching them in street would violate their freedom to walk alone in a public place. With this logic, rejecting us would violate our freedom to have sex or our freedom to be ugly… And by conditioning the guys to do not approach because they are afraid of being called perverts, don’t they violate the freedom of the women who want to be approached? It seems that these false feminists have never seen a handsome guy in the street and the fantasy of the unknown is a myth.
Many women I spoke to complain about not making spontaneous encounters in real life. But the pseudo-feminist fight is not for nothing in that problem. Is it then really the friend of women? Or is it the game, the true friend of women who will reconcile women with men? 😉
Those who are wrong are those who spit in the soup and cry because just we have made them a compliment on the street. Women who think like that unserve the purpose they think they serve. It is necessary that these women stop playing the victim. Talking to a woman in the street or in a bar, this is not an impermissible intrusion into her private life as some pseudo-feminists claim. If they prefer to turn sealed (always the same social circle, no fancy, never out of their comfort zone) that’s their problem. But there is nothing disrespectful in approaching someone in the street (when it is for a survey or a charity, noone says anything…), so why this disrespect as a reply ? Because of this attitude, too many guys now think talking to unknown… it’s wrong.
The real problems
On the other hand, there are true cases of harassment (often by riff-raff, men of power and superiors). Unfortunately, there are also sexually assaulted. People who’d say “you got raped but you were dressed in a skirt so you deserved it” would be idiots. Regarding the clothes, I think everyone can dress as he/she wishes as long as there is no indecency. It’s called respect. On the other hand, those who kiss by surprise the breasts of a woman who nevertheless said she was not interested, to save face on TV, are like dogs. Just as those who insist during 3 years and who make a woman drink alcohol to get to kiss her in a bar. Now, the game teaches guys to do not behave like dogs.
Feminists are right to complain that sometimes when women are attacked, idiots find a way to ask them if they have firmly expressed their refusal to be mugged. They are angry because they feel that men often pose to victims of assault a share of the responsibility. Of course, this is not tolerable.
That said, I have heard similar stories but about men: guys accused of rape on the mere word of a woman who was lying in fact, just to piss off an ex. Or men who have not been granted custody of their child to benefit their ex wife, yet notoriously hysterical that will traumatize them, just because they are the fathers and not the mothers. Unfair stuff, excesses, are found everywhere.
The solutions
Feminists say they are tired of being approached in the street but yet I know many girls who complain that it never happens to them and wonder if they are pretty. All women are not in agreement. This is a problem: what to do? Listening to those who spit their venom and not picking-up or pleasing those who like to be picked up and say it (but quietly because the others make them feel guilty : « if you do not support our cause and if you like being picked up it’s because you’re a whore ») ?
First you should know that if you spend your whole life to especially never want upset anyone, you will never do anything. So stay virile and continue your personal development process although the society says “be frustrated and shut up! And do not try to get out of the flock, accept your fate and shut up!” If you do nothing wrong and are not disrespectful, there is no reason to feel guilty. You do that as much for you than for them.
Next, understand that it is not because we dared to approach a woman that she owes us something. I advise you to withdraw as soon as you are not meeting enthusiasm (the interaction may last only 2 seconds). If they pretend not to be happy when they would like to be fucked : that’s their problem. The most important is to especially protect you from trouble like harassment and rape. No shadow of doubt should hang over!
Their mentality should also change because they are women who thanked me much for having a little insisted and told me they were very happy to meet me in fact even if they were cold at the beginning and they especially do not regret not because they have orgasmed like crazy. This is the big problem of the social pressure that fight against the real deepest instincts of women. But when in doubt, do not insist… if I am sometimes allowed me to do so it’s because I was sure of what I was doing (I know how they works now). When it comes to the guys who do not have much experience in pick-up, it is for women to learn how to show visible signs of interest. And to stop blowing cold if they want something hot. Everyone must do their part of the job !!! Otherwise it’ll make everybody crazy.
In France, we make great efforts to pick-up while they are difficult. And then they complain about the efforts we make by saying it oppresses them. And the worst is that the chicks that are pains in the ass like that are often zero in bed. So we will take a headache, so that they take ten times more fun than us (but that’s another debate).
In some countries, the customs are totally different. And women more comely (less aggressive as truck drivers). However, this is not an excuse to go abroad in the North, East or Australia: a battle needs to be fought here in France and is not yet lost. Abandonning the vessel and his comrades would be an easy solution.
I don’t think that the false feminism as advocated by the site who wanted its workers to post pictures of their tits on a wall of the premises is the solution. The game can be. Be interested in the message we really drive, do not be blocked because of received ideas.
Think for yourselves! Otherwise we will not get out, we live in a society that starts being a mess and it will be worse and worse if it continues.
I slept with Evangeline Lilly last night! Well, I admit: it was not really her, but she damn looked like her.
I’m really euphoric this morning because she was really my type : not tall, brown haired, blue/green eyed, thin, with a beautiful face and a small nose.
This double of the actress is podiatrist and is 34 years old but looks like a girl of 20 years. Her belly is super flat and muscular (she swims too). Her breasts are not big but keep straight. Her legs are delicious. One might think that I am exaggerating but this is not even the case…
I thought what happened on Monday night with the blonde hottie was exceptionnal but I admit Lyon spoils me right now : the city entrusted me another one of its sex bombs. I approached her on the Internet, that one too. I write you down the approach to inspire you!
Her profile said: “I can be as nice and placid than unpredictable. As soon as I have time I like to go out and have fun, but after having enjoyed celibacy I am looking for a man who will tame me and mellow me ! “
My first message was powerful “I think I will tame you but I’m not interested in mellowing you 😉
– Oh you think? Lol
– Yes if you leave me a chance
– Why not
– Great ! Wanna come over for a massage ? A real one, huh, do not imagine bad things;)
– Oh good idea 😉 I am not in Lyon these days, maybe this weekend? I’m back for a few days before leaving again.
– Yes you will see it will relax you! I even have some essential oil I just bought a diffuser. Perfect. I hope you spend a good holiday and are doing good trip! Are you having fun? OK this weekend that suits me… Friday?
– Well I tell you later ? I am just back a few days and many things are already planned.
– OK… but do not worry, I do not think you will regret your decision to come to me 🙂 or Thursday it actually does not matter to me
– I hope so;) you’re where in Lyon ?
[Blah]
– Tomorrow I’ll be very late, but we can say on Thursday… I’ll reconfirm !
– Go for Thursday 🙂 you will not regret it!
[No more news until Wednesday evening when she tried to piss me off]
– Tomorrow at 9pm, it’s still good? 🙂
-Isn’t it possible on Friday finally? 😉
– Honestly it is 1,000 times better for me tomorrow [I’m not your dog even though I like to lick everywhere]
– Ok I’ll try tomorrow
– You will have be entitled to a nice massage because you’re coming when it suits me
– Cool where do we meet then ?
– At my place ?
– Yeah well I generally do not like to meet a guy directly at his place.. I only agree because you promised me a massage
She arrived late but with a bottle of white wine. I like well-mannered girls! I politely wetted my lip because I no longer drink alcohol. She, meanwhile, has drunk almost half of the bottle. Must say we chatted for over an hour.
I quickly learned that her sister lived near from me. She saw my library and my books on meditation/Buddhism then asked me lots of questions about. I told her my paranormal experience and she told me hers : one day she saw a black shape in her house… she was 8 years old, was very afraid and went into hiding. The next day her hamster was dead, she is now convinced she has seen death. I freaked out when she told me that so I directed the conversation to more exciting topics.
We talked about her sex life. She did not wanna tell me first but I started and after she opened. I told my orgies and the afternoon I fucked after a session of body painting. She told me that one night she directly visited a guy met on the Internet, she undressed in front of his door before entering while he was waiting naked on his bed: they directly fucked without talking before. It was one of her fantasies. Her other fantasies are: 2 guys for her, and 1 guy and 1 girl for her. She tried once to have 2 guys for her but one of the guys did not get hard. Too bad for him !
I FINALLY asked if she wanted to see if I massaged well, she replied “why not? “So I grabbed her up and removed her top. I told her to get on the bed and she removed her skirt herself. I said “forgive it and take it on.” She did it by asking “why?” I have just taken if off myself by approaching her and looking into her eyes. It was very sexy. Just like her pretty blue underwear. She layed on her stomach, I turned the essential oil diffuser on, grabbed a cream that smells good, took off my polo and put myself astride her.
I gave her a massage for a while and then I followed up with the combo “fingers in her pussy with one hand and clit caressing with the other hand.” It lasted a long time. She trembled, had spasms everywhere, she almost came but stopped me! She sucked me a few minutes, very well indeed, and said “I never finish a guy like that sorry
– OK “. I wanted to lick her but she did not want: she said she doesn’t like it and it is very hard to make her come anyway. Never mind, I took care of her with my magic fingers.
She wanted to resist but I obliged her to orgasm by taking her firmly. I admit that it took a long time. I was like a locksmith trying to open a safe. I listened carefully to the changes. Then she came over me. We fucked WITH CONDOM (I’m proud of me). She jumped me while I admired her great firm breasts and her very cute nipples. We went on a missionary with and without raised legs. Then in lotus. And finally, doggy style. She fucks and kisses very well, she obviously is a woman of experience.
She told me after the battle she had mistakenly accepted my request on the site but after she wondered “why not?” When she decided to get up for a glass of water, I really wanted to take her up. But I was too tired. Then we got a hug and she left. She texted me to wish me a good night … and it worked.
It may look easy when I tell it but remember you first must convince the girl to come to you, then have a correct BL (be a little bit dominant) and give her orgasms.
Well, tonight I’m on vacation for one month (the office is closed). I do not think I will fuck another girl from Lyon before going back to Aix because I need to sleep and I have several episodes of Arrow to watch!
Anyway, picking up in a big city like Lyon, changes life. I’m sure if I lose my job (if I have more free time in fact), I could fuck 9 or 10 girl per month. Anyway, maybe I’m dreaming. But according to Snipe: 4FC/month it’s already a good PUA level…
I trust his judgment because this PUA is my reference in France. Unlike Nicolas Dolteau who says he is the “best seducer of France” but blocked me directly on FB when I left a comment on his page to explain that I do not agree with some advice he gave. I’m not saying this guy is bad, just that he is best in marketing than in pick up.
Procrastination is the tendency to systematically postpone certain actions, an activity, a particular task. The procrastinator can not “go to work”… especially when it does not provide instant gratification.
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