Author: Fabrice Julien PUA

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Is seduction something innate ?

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On seduction forums, we can often read these vague politically correct advice that invite people to be more natural, “do it simple”, “mostly be natural”, “it just happens between a man and a woman”, “c’mon it’s easy to flirt”and worst of all “just be yourself”. For me, it makes no sense to say that. BE YOURSELF: OK … but the real yourself!

Too much theory kills theory … (but the opposite is true!)

For me, take these tips as invitations to approach the game in a less stressful way (and therefore more effective because stress is our enemy in seduction – some make a mountain of that). It is important to don’t use those advices as excuses to do nothing (“I am myself so I do not approach” … no in this case it is the stress that speaks it’s not you). And it is especially necessary to understand what really means this famous “be yourself”: basically you’re a man with sexual desires so: be yourself and assume them! It is important to don’t misinterpret the message !!!

If one takes away your inhibitions and your bad faith, you already know almost everything, basically! I’m sure ! You probably would be able to fuck a girl per week. I remember friends I introduced to the game who were able to take a phone number or kiss a girl during their first approach. We can say that it’s beginner’s luck or think that this skill is innate somewhere in us. (Anyway this beginner’s luck motivate to continue … I do not know if my friends would be where they are if they did not begin with some success before being rejected a lot). But the problem it’s when the guys start thinking too much about the game…

For example, learning how to recognize indicators of interest… it’s not obvious at first. However, we instinctively have this faculty in us. It’s a question of survival of the species! But it is currently covered by a layer of education and experience that block us (we do not believe in it). Unless you have Asperger’s or spend 10 hours a day on World of Warcraft, you should be able to suspect something when a girl likes you. But when a guy switches into analytical mode and need a comprehensive list of IOI to check before taking initiatives, it unfortunately means that he is not focused enough or present enough in his pickup. He should perhaps start by being in the present moment instead of trying to further analyze the thing. This is not the theory itself I’m criticizing (theory is necessary), but rather the mode of intellectualization some adopt that seems causing too much frustration. In other words, intellectual masturbation will not drain your nuts!

Incidentally, my eyes still hurt a bit when I read on forums that guy is “a beginner in seduction.” Indeed, he may be a young inexperienced player but talking about beginner in seduction seems to me inappropriate … like if the guy was at level 1 of a video game with Mimie Mathy to be gamed to go to level 2 and Eva Green the boss at the end. It’s not appropriate to think that the physical appearance of a bitch will influence the ease with which she spreads the legs or her IQ. These parameters aren’t really related, in practice there’s more ugly girls that are pains in the ass than beautiful chicks (among others because the ugly chicks often dislike their bodies therefore do not like to get naked)!

Sorry but picking up chicks, this is not rocket science unlike creating computers. However, some geeks among my readers master very complicated stuff about the computers but not how to approach a woman. We can complicate the thing with formulas like Mystery for reassurance (or sell) and eventually actually make it difficult … but it is not so difficult in fact. You must demystify seduction! This effectively becomes difficult when you are not confident and when you imagine that it is. Otherwise, how our grandfathers would have seduced our grandmothers knowing that the game did not exist before 1990? This is just a science created to understand a phenomenon like physics studies the world but what is not explained yet exist.


What approach is the most appropriate for learning?

You cannot pretend you are zero : we (almost) all have naturally a number of social skills. Indeed, unless you have been abandoned at birth and raised in the jungle by Baloo, you already know about communicating normally and you have some human qualities. The real challenge is to identify, strengthen them and make the most of it. This well-known by consultants and coaches approach can be effectively applied to seduction.

The opposite approach is to identify what’s wrong to try to fix it… it’s too long, tedious and unrealistic when applied to humans. How can we believe that we will fully reconstruct someone? Besides this type of method can have destructive effects in terms of self-esteem and guilt. This wrong approach is also the reason why many guys are still blocking for years on seduction forums without getting any concrete results. Even that sometimes they are so watered by theory that they het used to give lessons to others !!!

How do inner game works?

The inner game is what happens in the mind of the player. Its main obstacles are: doubt and anxiety. An optimal inner game is to do not let these crap too much hinder the path to success… so we can fully express our innate potential. Fear, disbelief, nervousness, jealousy, embarrassment, perplexity, hesitation and lack of attention are driving down our confidence and ability to penetrate fully in the exchange in a relevant and empathetic way with respect to the objective which is all the same for a PUA to bang hot babes girls. Not to have dates, not take numbers … to fuck! For an optimal game, switch off this damn ego that gives the orders (“you MUST use this as opener, playing the cube game, negging her” if you have not you’re a noob, etc.) rather switch on and let express your natural ability. Basically, bombarding someone with orders and advice is counter-productive. Do not do it to your friends when you want to initiate them to the game !!! But let’s o back to you…

If you give yourself the order to stop giving you orders, it is the homosexual snake biting its tail. Your self-talk will just amplify and contradictions will make you implode. We instead want to concentrate to only keep the aspects of a situation that is necessary for its optimal performance. It’s like when you talk to a girl: all that matters is that the message is heard in a clear and genuinely way to create in her an emotion that works for you. When you watch your game it’s the same: do it in the most neutral way possible and without emitting negative value judgment (that was bad, sad, zero, etc.)

No bad value judgment!

This is fundamental in the learning process which has four steps:
– Observation without judgment of what is to be improved
– Imagining the desired result
– Self-confidence (routines and techniques are just contingency plans)
– Observation without judgment of the changes and results until you’re proud of having achieved your goal
Such an approach necessarily strengthens your belief in your innate qualities and therefore your self-esteem. Notice that we erased here the stage in which we yell at ourselves every time it does not go as well as we would like. It is relaxing to deal with yourself in a so kind way. Especially since it’s not because we have a bad game that we necessarily miss our life…

Wanting to learn…

To learn, sometimes a good question well put is better than one hundred tips to make people move on in their head.
“What have you observed when you’ve approached? ”
“Why did you ask her phone number at this moment? ”
“What happened when you took her hand to make her dance? ”
etc.
The apprentice PUA thus realizes things we could simply tell him directly … but he discovers for himself. This learning is much deeper and less interference generator. It is better to teach him how to learn, to stir his curiosity, knowing where to find the answers and thus develop his adaptive intelligence by reducing the interferences of the ego and contradictory injunctions. The autonomy is fundamental in seduction! Initiatives too! Nerves even more !

The problem is that when it comes to love and sexuality, social control and influence over the people by the religious authorities / government / parents / media / etc. are so powerful that we all are at some degree puppets submitted to social pressure (even if you feel that’s you’re free). Unlearning all that crap to achieve a simpler, more empathetic and sincere communication (with yourself and with others) remains in my opinion the quickest and most enjoyable way to seduce women you like. Because seduction is most a question of communication… even if it is multidisciplinary.

Let’s be ourselves! But do we really know who we are?

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How to show to a woman her own contradictions

Patricia offers you the possibility of chatting with her. Do not hesitate to send a message to try to fill her shopping basket!

Patricia says: Unfortunately I think you have wasted one of your rare charms (I am flattered btw ;)) because it seems I am one of those girl stereotype, who takes relations upside down according to you and am tight-ass … Certainly because I fell only on bad lovers :)!

Fab answers: it’s your choice, but do not forget that by doing what you’ve always done … you will get the results you have always gotten.

Patricia says: What I always get me probably suits me ;)! But I cannot prevent myself to approach men like you thinking that I’m special enough to make them see things differently. But I would have to realize that I am not special;)

Fab answers : Yeah that’s it! It suits you so well that you give moral lessons on Adopt… so approach guys like me, as you say, and you will have lots of orgasms. Otherwise, every woman is special in one way or another… don’t worry!

Patricia says : I am not giving you lessons of moral :)! People are as they are and it is useless to invest energy to try to change them! Then if you’re happy that’s the most important !!! I would not waste my time to make you a lesson, you assume what you are and that’s what counts. I accept people as they are, I just know if they can bring me something good or not! If I condemned your way of life I would not have accepted your charm and praised the effort put in your description :)!

Fab answers : Welcomes therefore the effort I’ll put in licking your pussy now.

Patricia says: Haha I do not think so! But I don’t want to question your qualities as a lover 🙂

Fab answers: I HOPE SO, YEAH! 😉 Otherwise explain me why a girl like you is going to refuse free orgasms without judgment and with a guy who turns her on a minimum… is it a principle or there’s something else? Because it seems so stupid that I cannot conceive it so you would be nice to explain.

Patricia says: Let me clarify that I find you a little pretentious (I find it fun and at the same time I don’t know if I most want to see if you say the truth or to shut you up ;)). As you stated in your description, I’m locked in my principles;)! I believe that sex is important but the couple must already be a couple for that. And to be a couple we must have a minimum of connection before the act. With that said, I appreciate the idea that you do not prevent yourself from living something nice if it comes to you. Many men do not want to expose themselves to a normal relationship with a woman. I may also be very stupid 🙂 but I do not like this idea!

Fab answers: So, you have not been able to give me arguments and you are contradicting yourself in your paragraph. PS = of course that you want to check, deeply.

Patricia says: I have no argument except that I am what I am;).

Fab answers: So you transform a win-win scenario in a lose-lose scenario and you’re proud in addition? OK, you consider sex as important but to be a couple before. So why do a lot of couples break up because sex is bad? They go on dates during several weeks and then sleep together and it sucks then they will not meet up again. Wanting the guy to commit before sleeping with him reveals a lack of confidence in your ability to keep him after sex. This is not very encouraging…

Patricia says : I will not calculate the number of dates before sex, I’m not such a stereotype than that, thank you;)! It depends on the connections with the person. You are certainly right, I am not really confident even though I’m wonderful haha! But it’s because we fall on guys who make us believe things while they just want to undress our firm buttocks;)

Fab answers: Yeah and then you’re mad at them because they lied. But as you can see that the franchise does not work with you…

Patricia says: I am suspicious, that’s all! You pay the piper for your fellow, I cannot deny that and I do not hide it!

Fab answers: If you knew how I could repair a part of your mess, you might not give me the same speech. What could you lose by trying, by the way?

Patricia says : I don’t like to be taken for an idiot, if not be taken for a ham. It hurts my ego too badly, I have a minimum of pride! And then it makes me lose my confidence… what a vicious circle!

Fab answers: Yeah I understand that but the question is: What do you have to lose by coming enjoying with me? I’m not a stupid asshole : If you’re talking to me for an hour and everything it’s because you’re tempted a minimum…

Patricia says: This is not compatible with me.

Fab answers: You watch too many TV shows, you. It makes you answer stupidly.

Patricia says : Guilty !!!

Fab answers: Yeah, maybe you come to live in real life just one day. I wish you to fall on a dude who will make you discover another aspect of your own sexuality one day. But do not forget that you are in a competitive environment so the pain in the ass like you who contradict themselves and are full of rigid principles are bypassed by babes a little more flexible in their head who 1/know where is their interest and 2/dare to take the plunge. See ya

For more informations about how to handle this damned women’s logic : here.

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Good pickup scene in Girls

Girls is an American TV show that tells the lives in New York of a group of friends who are in their twenties. Their main perspective is the economic and moral crisis of the Western world. They are living in a time that is both hard and free (sexuality, friendship, unability to succeed in life). We follow their sentimental, sexual, at work and in family galleys. It’s like Sex & The City but younger. The first episode even talks about it, that is to say!

This is typically a “series for chicks.” The kind that I watch sometimes (when it’s not too namby-pamby) to better understand women.

The four main characters are (a team of little-known but credible actresses):
– Hannah Horvath, a young writer in her twenties who trainee and living in Greenpoint, Brooklyn, whose parents have pulled the plug. She is a little ill at ease.
– Marnie Michaels, the roommate and best friend of Hannah. She is serious and responsible. If not tight-ass but sexy, bitchy and ambitious.
– Jessa Johansson, English cousin and roommate of Shoshanna. Bohemian and unpredictable adventurer. She’s a little hippie and former drug addict.
– Shoshanna Shapiro, naive and bubbly cousin of Jessa.

Personally, I like Marnie and Jessa. That’s my kind of chicks. Shoshanna is kinda hot but her eyes are weird, they make me uncomfortable. And Hannah’s too damn fat: even if she is friendly, it does not compensate.

In terms of guys I like two :
– Adam Sackler, who has a relationship with Hannah. He is a completely crazy actor.
– Jonathan Booth, a kind of sex maniac and full of himself artist.

Girls has a raw side, both in tone and in aesthetics. Forget the sex scenes that give you the impression that the actors have smooth skin like latex: the beads are not erased, the dialogues seem to come straight out of your most embarrassing memories, the sound environment is respected; in short, it is rather realist than glamor. Discussed themes are also quite realistic (and it helps to have the point of views of chicks on these subjects) : fuckfriend-who-is-not-totally-just-a-fuckfriend who treat you like a sex toy a little boring, sexual compatibility problems, lifestyle choices disputed by relatives, looking for work, abortion, or the “late” virginity…

The least realistic thing for me in this series is that the exhibitionist fat and too talkative Hannah fucks handsome guys. Tall guys, hot guys, etc.

The first season is quite refreshing and funny (the next ones I less liked them). I managed to identify with many situations, it was fun. And I like when the main character is a writer.

It must be said that there are not many American series that address my age group (26 years), they prefer to stage teens or young thirties. There, the actresses are done with college, and like many of their peers are midwater, single but not really, in search of a stable job, freshly abandoned – financially – by mom and dad … a youth that “tries to become what it is” hit hard by the crisis but still able to dream.

I leave you now with a very alpha scene from episode 3 of season 1 in which one can really smell the sexual tension. The guy (Jonathan Booth) has a good body language, does it straightforward style as I like with an incredible confidence (well it’s coming to him because he is an artist but who cares). He reminds me of Chuck Bass: he very well knows how to manage the sexual tension.

Moreover, Marnie is so excited after meeting with Booth that she runs in the bathroom of the party to masturbate.

It makes me think of chicks that we have cold-approached with a very direct game in bars and who resisted “for the principle” : maybe they came back home and masturbated, remembering the party. What is unfortunate is that we could have done it for them for real.

https://youtu.be/54e-GSeMnd4

If you decide to watch the season one, know that I like Adam too. He is so casual I just see myself in him. But he is totally fucked up and way more weird than me anyway. This is not to say that he is a PUA or anything of this nature, but he’s still exciting for women thanks to his side “I don’t give a shit” and “I am obsessed by sex” and he is daily uninhibited. With him, you can never be at the heart of inaction.

Frankly, we could make a TV show like that in France, that would be cool. I am willing to write the script.

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Can seduction be taught?

The problem

I assume that most people have no idea how to deal with the other sex. They are unable to understand each other. So I tell myself that it could be a good thing to explain seduction.

However, claiming to 100% control the workings of seduction and to transmit this knowledge seems to me boastful, disconnected from reality and unhealthy for the guru as for the student. I speak of guru in this case because I think there are several schools that claim they get the knowledge and that competitors are zero … but the truth is that each holds part of the truth. Mystery, Ross Jeffries, Cajun, DeAngelo, etc. : OK. There is truth in what they say. But there’s also the commercial crap. And every time is claimed to be able to seduce THE women (and not SOME women) this is wrong. Even worse when they pretend that if it does not work it is because the student has done something that he should not (it may be true but it could have screwed up even if he had ollowed the method to the letter). Otherwise explain me why these alleged universal seducers do not make out with beautiful women important, rich, famous, etc. instead of merely cute waitresses.

Indeed, we must have the humility to realize that:
– What works for the coach may not work for all students;
– What worked in the past won’t necessarily work in the future;
– The stories past, present and future of the protagonists will influence the interaction;
– All girls are similar and different;
– According to the moment, the same girl will suck you or will reject you;
– As you are constantly changing, your level is not regular from one day to the next one;
– Because there are so many things we do know nor control down here now it might be time to recognize it. BUT THIS IS NOT A PROBLEM.
– Because we do not bathe twice in the same river …

The thing is that a small variation in the experimental protocol can dramatically change the result of the interaction. One drop too much in the potion (or one less drop) can turn you into ogre or dwarf when it was supposed to turn you into a prince charming. Do you understand the metaphor?

With humans it is even more difficult than physics and chemistry: situations, contexts, attitudes of people are never the same. 1 electron = 1 electron. But in seduction: one woman is not equal to another. The equation changes every time, not just the unknown. It is therefore a drama to pretend extrapolating our experiences across all women or all situations, etc. Especially since we ourselves have studied on small experimental sample (human-sized).

However, I agree that there are fundamental things that really work to make you stay ahead in the context. The first thing you must understand is that seduction is statistics, this is what I explain well in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations. So if you think filling yourself with theory before going on the field will guarantee you invincibility or confer a degree allowing you to give lessons to others: you are sinking your index finger in the eye up to your anus.

For the money (or because they really believe in it but then they are stupid), “how to seduce ALL THE women” is what want to teach you most of my colleagues. They will supposedly teach you how to seduce THIS girl. All that is bullshit for suckers. So no, I do not teach seduction! I’m not God, and I do not think one single person on this planet can boast to have found the magic potion allowing to fuck any girl, anywhere, anytime.

Anyway, I think that seduction cannot be considered indiscriminately as a collective sport. There’s some coaches that really do it for the love of art. Most do it to take your money. They have no interest in really teaching you how to pickup chicks or there would be less women for them. What I mean is that we must think carefully who listening the advice from in the seduction community. The women have understood that better than us, and they realistically rely more on their friends to extract them from the clutches of a weirdo than to conquer a stud.

The solution

Now that we have laid the foundations of the problems, we must recognize that some guys are doing well with the game. What background do they have? It is those who are open and adaptable. Indeed, when one is stuck in a failure scenario or on a stereotyped behavior … he does not open enough in terms of empathy, creativity and authenticity.

My role is to show you that I am rejected too, but I totally changed my mind over this. And with a good state of mind: I forget the faimures, the field of possibilities opens up and I can score goals in any position like Jean-Pierre Papin.

So you have to unlearn the crap that some put in your head and learn from your real life experiences on the field. Otherwise, you will all your life seek advice from so-called “experts” on seduction forums (who are actually virgins geeks full of theory and who love giving lessons but who do not do much on the field ). There is always a way to get something concrete from your experiences, I mean, something more than “it works” or “it does not work.” This is what I want to teach you.

My role is to help apprentices PUA to unlearn their misconceptions and break some bad habits. I have to remove the stones that fell in the middle of the road. Crappy stuff like “I am worth nothing”, “it is impossible to kiss a girl tonight because XXX”, “others are better or have more rights than me”, “I cannot hit on this hottie because XXX “,”it is not correct to approach her like that “etc. Freed from this glass prison and from the fear of what other procrastinators think (and women who do not always right), my Padawans can enjoy the delights of the action and originality. And succeed!

Although I love cum kicks in anthills, I must remind you that like all good learning: the seduction / pickup / the game (call it what you want) is something you learn on the long term. It is not enough to read a math manual for the level of a doctoral student. But you can cook well by following a cake recipe to the letter, though that does not make you a pastry.

I hope with this blog make you want to venture out of your comfort zone. Make you wonder more often “and why not in fact?” and then acting accordingly. Please beware of comfort, routine and lack of initiative. Inaction is your biggest enemy in seduction.

What I currently observe

The men are on their side in herds, empting pints of beer. The women wonder if a guy will have big balls enough the balls to come and approach them before the bar closed. When a guy does, it is often that he drank enough to dare, but the chicks do not necessarily like alcoholics who are crap. They are wary and there’s a tense between the two sexes.

In the everyday life, flirting and sexual tension are present in all our interactions … but are not socially accepted. We live among a mass of coward hypocrites. One might say that if women observe that men dare not approach, they could help us in one way or another to take the plunge. But no. On the contrary: when a guy clumsily dare they look at him as a UFO and cut him any desire to make his balls regrow. But this attitude, despite what one might think, does not make them happy so far: in front of the wilderness of their emotional life, they wonder if they have become ugly. And watch TV at home alone. Or take a cat.

People have difficulty admitting that everything depends on chance, and statistics. That’s why some are offended when approached in the street: “It could very well be another you would have approached instead of me”, they say to me sometimes. I’m sorry but even those who seek a soul mate: you choose from a panel in your immediate environment. So if instead of studying in Aix you had studied in Lyon, the panel and the environment would have been different. Your soul mate would have probably been too. QED. “Yes but it is you I approached … is it fate?”

I know quite a few people who eventually resign themselves to a default relationship. It’s sad. I hope you’ll avoid that.

Many women admit they would like to enjoy their celibacy/youth and dare to live steamy nights with beautiful strangers. But they do not take the plunge because their conditioning and their previous experiences have left their bad memories tinged with guilt and shame. During their old times, they realize that it was the good time and that it was stupid to do so.

And then women claim seeking for spontaneity and authenticity in men. We, the PUA, we are willing to offer them as our learning taught us: but that’s not why people who are offered this gift can recognize and accept it. Everyone is suspicious of everyone now. I find it sad but I cannot prove them wrong.

Gender equality is a good thing, I think, in general. But in seduction, that creates confusion. Each sex should have its role in seduction… but how to explain it to men and women heard on loope since they are young that woman = man! In practice, men are more likely to take risks and better tolerate rejection. While women have more empathy and understand body language better than men. From this, it’s up to us!

Feminists have also done a good job in cutting our balls. There’s even guys who look at you like it is wrong when you APPROACH girls… and then they return with their boyfriends. They make fun of you when you APPROACH but do not have the balls to do it!

With some advice from a good coach and a small makeover, any not ugly girl could learn to get her hands on one or more interesting men. Just by playing her cards better than others. By judiciously sending invitations to the approach for example. A large majority of men can not in fact refuse the advances of a not ugly woman because sexual diversity is less dangerous for a man than for a woman. And because they are substantially all sex-starved. From this observation, it’s up to you, ladies!

Some tell me “I would rather want to be loved for what I am rather than for my physical appearance / cash. “I often reply “I dunno : when you fall from a ladder, this is the law of gravity that rules. Well, when you pickup you must accept to follow the laws of sexual attraction.” It’s as simple as that. Then, I’m not saying you will have to pay stuff for bitches, but rather you will learn how to seduce these girls (who are beautiful enough to make out with footballers) through your alpha personality and your originality.

I really have a lot of female readers, almost more than male readers … so I’m happy. I have the impression of building a bridge, in my scale, between men and women. And between people and themselves. It’s very rewarding.

I think that despite what you might think when you see a girl being approached 30 times in a club: they also are in difficulty. So we have a chance. A chance to get out all together. Beautiful women are not nymphs who master all the keys of seduction. They’re just human as we are. From this, game is on!

I would certainly have been talking about a lot of other stuff but if I write too long texts that discourages some illiterate readers so I will stop here. :p

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What a girl says, she does not necessarily mean it

This text is a bonus in my Diary of a French PUA 2

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I had a good night,I’m drinking some tea and prepares a marriage proposal for Lola Le Lann. Suffice to say that I’m in good conditions to lay this little misogynistic text: What a girl says she does not necessarily thinks it. I give you her few funny examples of the famous “logic princesses” (which only makes sense for them and which is responsible for the fact that they drive us crazy sometimes).

1) I met this chick for the first time at a friend’s in Marseille. We drank, we went out and I warmed her in a club. Then we got back to Aix in train. In the station, she confessed to me still living with her parents and so I could not come at her place. I have proposed to go at my place or in a hotel but “I am not that kind of girl who will sleep anywhere with a guy met that same evening.” Instead, we made love in the lobby of a building that remained open. I even buried the condom in a flower pot faded (it gave them back the force).

2) I had invited this girl over but she was menstruating. We thus caressed each other a little, just for fun. I invited her again one week later to finish the job, she came and we did it. She decided to spend the night with me but complained of not having a change of clothes to go to work the next day because “I did not expect to sleep with you nor to spend the night here …” And my ass is some chicken, chick?

3) I had invited the girl to eat at my apartment one night. She refused, claiming having an evening with friends. She made a counterproposal: the same day but at noon, it was OK. We spent the afternoon together and fucked on digestion. Height of height, we stayed together the whole afternoon and she spent the night with me. What happened this party with her friends? “I had not really one, but if I had come in the evening, I came to sleep with you…”

4) I had pick up this girl in college. She had given me her Facebook and had made it clear that she had no phone so no number. I slept with her a few times at home before being invited to her place. I saw I-phone loading there she apparently never takes with her or hides deeply in her bag. I asked her why she had lied to me and she said “it is dangerous: there are plenty of people that cannot be trusted, so my friends have advised me not to give my number to guys because we do not know what can happen if we fall on a psychopath.” So: she lets a guy she barely knows making love to her, she spends the night with me at the first date and even asks me to slap her during sex but was not confident enough to give me herphone number because her friends told her to be careful of strangers. It is the pot calling the kettle back! I guess I’m gonna buy candy and distribute it at the exit of college …

5) I asked a friend living in Lyon if I could sleep at her place, overnight. She said she first had to ask permission from her boyfriend who would not be there. She added that she would feel guilty if she did not talk about it and many other stupid things about no breaking trust in her couple. It was OK for him. There, she offered me a disgusting deep-frozen pancake and sucked me. Before leaving the next day I have left a note to thank her for orgasm and attempted poisoning. I hope her guy will never read it…

Moral: if a girl resists once but that was we were good enough, it’s just a matter of principle or to piss you off. Do not give up but show determination. On the other hand, there is denial and REFUSAL: do not turn into clumsy insisting because you think she tests you while in factyou screwed up or she absolutely doesn’t like us (it happens – even if they would stand to gain by having sex with a respectful PUA and they would like it but they do not always realize it).

I do not think that girls resist better than us the sexual tension. Like a beautiful girl drives us crazy, I think that when she likes a guy : if he puts the pressure on the person with the ball he is often going to score the goal.

All this to say that we cannot really trust the first come girl, even if she is cute and even if we want to believe her, it is sad and that breaks the trust between men and women. It is necessary to know it to don’t count on them too fast all the same. That breaks my heart to say that but most of the girls are not reliable. Then I know guys out there who react by not being reliable neither. Or it is the opposite, it is women who protect themselves. In brief, it is the girl whose astrological sign is “snake” which died the tail.

For me the problem it is not even that the girls have only a mouth but nothing behind. It is that most of people generally have just a mouth and there’s nothing behind…

Game for you, according to your values !

#FabriceJulien, author of indecent texts but full of love

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30 little lessons on the gender relations

lessons of seduction

This text is a bonus in my Diary of a French PUA 2

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It’s been a while since I publish only adventures. It is time to take stock and draw some lessons. Here are thus 30 little lessons on the gender relations :

1) Think for yourself. This is the basis of the database but if you let yourself be influenced by Pierre, Paul and Jacques, you will gonowhere.

Then it goes through there to don’t be a sheep. Did you know ? Only 5% of people are innovators, 95% others are only vulgar followers devoid of reflection and critical thinking… Good pathetic sheep that graze on transgenic pasture that society orders them to swallow. What category of person do you think is more attractive? According to this logic, only 5% of players will become a good day.

2) In the same vein, we do not care about critics on our way of life.

Seriously, what acritical person says or does with more or less bad faithusually reveals more onthe fears of this person than on yours. Do not take at face value the crap one throws in your face, be strong, confident in your opinions and travel the world by realizing that most people are idiots and that their opinion does not even deserve to be considered by someone like you. Live for you and detach yourself from the eyes of those who are prisoners of their (wrong) limiting beliefs. Have fun, that’s all what is important, not the others! I would also like to tell to the hot girls to don’t get big-headed too much for that because with time faces wrinkle and breasts fall. And to the guys to score when they have the opportunity because the girls are a often weather vanes.

3) Seduction is everywhere.

It governs our lives, our wallets, our well-being … Its laws obeys to emotions and not to logic. They have hardly changed for centuries, they remained independent of race or culture of the country since the true “Game” speaks directly to the instinct of a girl, bypassing the “reason”(but this is to be qualified in the practice because that it is the official propaganda of Mystery). Remember: The seduction can make you become an accomplished man, a simple friend, a lover, a husband, a lover and even a god … But also, an enemy, a prey and a corpse. As with any weapon, be careful when you use it! It can work against you. I’ve already paid the price.

4) Attraction isn’t a choice :

David DeAngelo speaks better than me about it but you might as well seduce Swedish chicks who largely deserves their rank 10/10 as well you can fall in love unfortunately with a50 yearsold women (I’m exaggerating). These are the vagaries of life… “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.”As would say Roger Dodger ” sex is everywhere “. As would say my office co-worker: do not listen to these hypocrites because the whole world is governed by the 0 and the 1 with the 1 which makes comings and goings in the buckle of the 0.

5) Between doggystyle and fantasize, choose.

By definition, we cannot fantasize about the girl with whom we sleep. At best, we can rethink about chicks we had sex with by jerking off.

6) We only have one life.

Any good psychiatrist will tell you CARPE DIEM must be/become your philosophy to be happy and enjoy your time on Earth.But not just any old way,all the same. Always weigh the pros and cons and assume that there will be a tomorrow.Living the present moment: yes. Committing suicide in the everyday life: no.

7) Errors are sometimes good.

Of course we can learn from it (it is well known) but what you are probably less aware is that they can prevent us from big stupid mistakes. Of course, we did not manage to sleep with this girl, but maybe she had AIDS or something. Maybe our lucky stars in fact have saved us from something much worse than missing a pussy that seemed open to our cock.

8) A relationship is built in stages:

If your Game foundations are fragile, the building formed by this girl climbing on your cock can collapse at any time (hello, it’s a metaphor – think about it).

9) The adventure is around the corner:

leave home and be sociable. The life of a man flourished through human interaction. I know that it can make you be thought of as a strange guy but at least you will be yourself not like those who wear masks hoping to look “normal”. I am proud to be different.

10) The peacocking theory claims that, as this bird spreads its colorful tail to attract females, the man who wants to attract girls should stand out from the competition.

There is however a gap that can form between cultures: Sex before marriage, arranged marriages, etc … However, the science of pickup is universal and peacocking (standing out rather than blending in, being enough confident to assume wearing accessories, embodying a more exciting lifestyle than the one girls are used) seems to operate in all cultures. But not necessarily with the most tight-ass peoplenor with the most manipulated by society, and it’s not a problem, they are not the target.THE KEYWORD OF AN UNINHIBITED AND EFFECTIVE GAME IS: ASSUME! It is not because most of people assume(accept) nothing and invent excuses that we have to do the same thing! Assume yourself for God’s sake! Let’s show the example together if we want that things change and that the world becomes less hypocritical!

11) Girls love it is said that it is not in their habits to give up to the sex appeal.

But in fact, they just want us to imagine that it is not in their habits. Question of reputation and everything… They are not programmed like us in terms of responses to temptation. Again, culture, education received, and her models can influence her behavior (it’s like kissing a girl: for some it means something important, for others it’s like if they were buying their bread, it’s just casual like that).

12) The unknown is more attractive than boredom.

The main border that separates us from the adventure is anxiety (approachanxiety as well as sexualanxiety).Beating it releases a sometimes unsuspected potential. It always comes back there, talking to people and being sexual must become your second nature…

13) The obstacles tenfold desire:

provided that there is hope and that the attraction is already felt. Indeed, persisting when it’s over equals losingyour time and self-esteem.

14) True strength is emotional trickery, because the brain dominates the body.

15) You are what you perceive.

At least in the eyes of people who do not really know you. And how many people can you say that you really know? In my opinion, it can be counted on the fingers of one hand. So I am a genius for some, a dangerous monster for others! Also, certain days, I am really a God on the field, others I’m not that awesome. That is why it is necessary to see on the length-term.

16) We do not sell off our respect.

Including by giving money or by making too many efforts for a girl to get sexual favors (which are not even guaranteed).

17) The feminine sexual appetite, when one manages to unleash it, is much more voracious than that the appetite of man.

18) The character of a woman (and yours too btw) is certainly influenced by her intellectual level and plastic but also by past events in her life including her childhood.

So if you look like her father she loved, she will instantly have a crush on you. Similarly, if her father beat her, you can be as handsome as Ryan Gosling, she will hate you if you look like him. It’s just an example.

19) Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

You never know what a girl can book us but we always remain optimistic without being blinded. Stepping back on situations and on yourself avoids a lot of disappointments.

20) An obstacle is not really important when you’re motivated to overcome it.

They make me laugh the girls who say “yeah I like you but we cannot meet for X or Y reasons” because in fact they want to keep us below the elbow. When you really want someone, you can. Beware of bitches who most of the time just seek to be desired by many.They probably will never do anything more than what it takes to maintain your flame. Your “Game” if he gets this result, probably wasn’t good enough … Again, the problem may also come from the chick and her broom in the ass, from her lack of internal strength (will to overcome social pressure) or from her deep fears. If it does not cost you much to maintain contact with such a chick you can, when in doubt, but do not invest much. And those who got cold feet once will probably get cold feet all the time thus do not take them too seriously after the first flake. The thing is girls often secretly want but do not manage to dare thus they blame you because it is easier to youmake feel guilty: but it is not always your fault when it doesn’t work… you will notice it when you will be sure that you have good Game. The not confident girls want guarantees before having sex or whatever because they know that it would be better for you with another girl but they don’t want you to know it.

21) It is better to avoid drugs and alcohol abuse to have a clear mind to better “Game”.

Most people who use these substances are unhappy people who fill a void. But the seducer is supposed to be comfortable. Another thing: if you do not know why you drink, or if you get drunk because “it feels good” or “to do like the others’, then refer to 1), stupid asshole ;).

22) Emotions = reason. In seduction, we must reach to offside logic of the girl.

She must live a moment out of time with you. And as far as possible, do not regret it after.

23) The sex spectrum can fit men and women in stereotypical roles.

Man seeking pleasure, woman fleeing pain. The fear experienced by men when they approach a girl, women feel it when they give in to the penis of n asshole. To be invented : the condoms that would protect from STDs, babies, and feelings. Indeed, the “fair sex” can say what it wants,they suffer more after orgasm before depending on who she falls on. If we can speak of suffering. It is also the role of the PUA to be nice with the babes oncefucked. Love women do not hate them, PLZ !I know that the border is fine.

24) Love without trust does not lead anywhere.

Can it even exist? Jealousy shattering confidence and lack of trust breaking love. If you are too jealous and you care too much about the girl, do not show it, grit your teeth and hold on. There is much more to lose than to win.

25) Wait at least three months before saying “I love you” even if you instantly feel you would like to grow old with this girl.

The opposite would be tantamount to a “Ted Mosby,” as Barney would say. Look on the internet if you’re not a fan of the show !;) The girls can also reveal big defects on the length-term they succeed in hiding at the beginning with the aim of catching you in their cobweb.

26) Couple Relationships: when it’s not working it’s not.

No need to try one thousand times with the same person. I do not want to communicate fatalism or other bad stuff, just realism. It broke, it will break. 99% of the time.

27) The desire causes suffering.

Because if we do not care about a princess, we will not suffer because of her. But if the desire, the attraction, is sincere then it is over. You will be eaten, whatever the sauce. It’s better to know it and enjoy the present moment.

28) You never win alone.

The thread that connects us to reality is not thick… who will take care of us if it broke? This is the question I ask myself when I fuck without a condom. Damn, if I get AIDS or whatever, I’ll never game again in my life. Renouncingall the wonders offered by the “Game” for ten minutes of pleasure? Ridiculous, really need to protect us. Without condoms, it is certainly best. But without STDs it is even better.

29) If there is no love, there will be hope.

If you want a girl to forget about you, give her no hope. Otherwise, she will hang on for a long time by believing that you play to a silly game and it will be boring. Conversely, learn how to recognize when a girl gives you hope for not bothering to break your heart and when you really have a chance with her. Again this is not an exact science. Refer to 20)Think in terms of investment at time and energy for a result in term of pleasure and satisfaction.

30) A relationship without cooperation is doomed to failure.

If on the other hand, you want your relationship to work with this girl, be ready to make concessions (even if you do not drink alcohol).

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I love you now

I love you nowThis text is a bonus in my Diary of a French PUA 2

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Sometimes we make crazy things, we are very afraid but it’s still one of the best memories of our lives.

I encourage you to break this glass prison that is fear because it is behind fear that crazy experiments are located.

Sometimes some people will do for you, or will push you to do so, but it is rare, knowing that humans have a natural tendency to procrastination. Then do not always take the easy way out. Also know that more time is running, more people are anxious and afraid. I speak about French people in general. I am going to try to motivate you …

Remember though that: the one who does not make a step forward makes a step back.

That day, I was a bit bored so I went alone to the mall “Plan de Campagne” hoping I could find some new girls with who I could go out (because all my friends were sick or in a couple or pissed me off).

I wandered for a while in the shelves of different stores without finding the courage to approach. I was resigned to fail when I saw a pretty saleswoman who took her break who was open. There were no many people so we could talk easily, it was a good thing. Opener : you cannot look at me this way and not talk to me.

I made to her a lot of bad jokes and I teased her and everything. She said she worked a lot and I told her that too much work and no fun makes Jack a sad sire. She said I was the coolest customer of the day. “But I’m not a customer” actually. It was true because I had bought nothing. I asked her if she was damn bored all day long to see the bimbos and the riffraff who populate abundantly Marseille since Gaston Deferre buying things clearly over their waysin cash with the drug money.

She said yes, but one must earn some money and that jealousy and malicious gossip are useless. That the most mattering was that she leads her boat legally. So I said a “I love you now” for fun and to try something I read in The Game ; and she came in my game. I felt that I had tamed her in two seconds then I asked her to close her eyes “why, you’ll sting me something?
– Awww no, trust me, I’m in love with you, you know so trust me.“She was playful and understood my special humor so she did … and I kissed her. Well, it was not the coolest kiss in the universe because:
1) the situation was not very appropriate
2) I was psychologically ready to get slapped so I was a little defensive
3) I felt the eyes of the people around us in the “what the fuck?” mode (or I was paranoid).

“Do you often do stuff like that?
– Every time I fall in love.
– And do you often fall in love?
– Shut up.” I let her regain some composure and she told me cool stuff like “it is the most surprising thing that ever happened to me since I work here except when a customer has crapped in a radius and that the guard was showed us the video in a loop.” So I have promised to come back. I never did.

It’s so beautiful to break the everyday of people this way. If I could, I would do it as a job. But for that, would need that I earn enough money to live…

So buy my ebooks, babies.

#Fabrice Julien, author of indecent texts

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Oral orgasm while blowing

This text is a bonus in my Diary of a French PUA 2

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Read on a blog for girls: a quack coach teaches that women who want to seduce a man must cook good things. I laughed out loud when I realized that women do not understand men more than lambda men understand women.

Seriously, if you’re hungry, you go to the restaurant. But, to leave us a huge impression, a girl shouldgive us the best blowjob of our lives. We will then remember her until our last breath. If I am single and a chick lets me know she is good and is motivated to make me a demonstration : I run after her all night long… and if she is really good in addition : she shouldn’t worry, I will call her back the next day. Finally, I think that to better understand the gender relations, we should just accept our respective simplicity.Do not see that as a defect.

After this “appetizer,” I must tell you the incredible story that happened to me. Why was this girl different? She offered me via my blog something more than just a fuck, rather a sexually and very rewarding educational experience.

Indeed, she studied Tantrafor years and found a way to orgasm deeply in her mouth just by sucking cocks (which just goes to show that it is in the head all this, this is why some people manage to enjoy during the sleep). Moreover, her behaviour projected sex and orgasms. Girls like that, it is not common. Maybe just by eatingbananas, she can enjoy.

Between “scary” and “exciting,” my heart swung. But because I am a positive guy, I decided to focus on the exciting side of the case. If I summarize the concept, she offered me (the most naturally) to bring me into another dimension by playing with the muscles of her throat during an oral intercourse. I would have nothing else to do than lending my cock.

It was interesting me in the scientific sense of the word, like an explorer. As Christopher Columbus discovering America, I set sail for the unknown(s). I was going to explore the legendary world of Tantra. The one that makes so many people fantasize. Much ado about nothing or there are really crazy things in those old customs?

Rendez-vous halfway between our places, in a hotel.We created a link with a drink before she swallows me in the intimacy of her bedroom. Without this, transgressing sex magic does not affect me. I more need, I think, that it fits with the girl as a form of approval and mutual attraction than doing some stupid dry humping against her body. When it came to “sex”, she took matters in hand like a queen so I obeyed her as one obeysa nurse. It’s exciting as when they “take things in hand.” For me, sex is the man’s responsibility. However, reversing roles sometimes is enjoyable (and relaxing).

She lay on her back and leaned her head over the edge of the bed: funny but unorthodox technique. I had never seen such a thing.With her hands on my butt, it was her who hold the reins of this session. After a while I traveled. The euphoria invaded my body. I understood the meaning of life, why we are on Earth and everything (but I forgot in the meantime)… I was thinking of a super ugly Lama so I don’t come, quickly, to extend the session. My anxieties were veeeeeery away at that time. Shestarted moaning like if sheenjoyed it even more than me (and maybe she did).On the other hand, the return to reality was hard after that.

Her performance finished, she smoked a cigarette. I drank a caramel tea and offered her some BN. I like all the blowjobs but then frankly it was magical.

Maybe I could one day, me too, enjoy by making a cunnilingus (licking a pussy).

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Is it possible to stay one month without ejac ?

Is it possible to stay one month without ejac This text is a bonus in my Diary of a French PUA 2

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The game, if I can call it a game, was to do not ejaculate during one entire month. I was thinking I was going to succeed easy-peasy because at the momentI was in a slump, but when I took this fucking decision, I think I pissed off the whole universe because that is apparently not my mission in this world: I strangely received plenty of calls … including a lot of girls that I had stored in the folder “Mission aborted” for ages and who suddenly came back tempting me.Like if a higher power was telling me “you just had a really dumb idea so I will make you regret : they will all want to blow you …”

And, indeed, it was harder and harder every day. After one week, a simple kiss in a club was enough to make me hard all night. I tried to give orgasm to girlfriends who pressured me on the phone but fuck, it excited me too, what a torture! Anyway, they enjoyed, perhaps even more than usually because I focused on their pleasure and not at all on mine. I’ve licked a lot of pussies too without asking anything in return.

After fifteen days, I decided to have sex for good … but to firmly hold on. It was hard, very hard, if you know what I mean. As if I wanted to stop smoking when people are smoking a cigarette in front of me: you must have a strong motivation to succeed. Must say that it is a habit ingrained in me, satisfying my impulses … I admit that I have more or less jerked off on average once a day since I was born (with a girl or with my personal girlfriend ie my hand.) So here we are, I’m a kind of cum-addict and I wanted to wean myself.

At one point I had the idea to train myself to enjoy without ejaculating some great masters of Tantra like are able to do. I have not been able to orgasm, but I have not finished either … phew (I stopped just before) … So, this session of sex rather put me in shape me instead of tiring me. Once is not custom. So I repeated the experiment with others girls.

With that said, the fact that I did not finish in doggy style disrupted more than one “YOU DON’T WANT ME, HUH, WHAT’S WRONG ? WHY THEN ARE YOU FUCKING ME ASSHOLE !” Women are just too accustomed to the fact we ejaculate, they feel guilty or disgusting when it doesn’t happen.

I admit, I lost a lot of fuckfriends during this period. A real massacre: but I am very stubborn (it’s not my fault it’s in my DNA)! Must say that I gave back to my semen its sanctity, making it rare and it was not nothing. After twenty days, I did not even have pain in the balls anymore when sitting down. I could dominate me, control me, and stay away from girls. The hard part was probably behind me (no, I have not tried to get sodomized).

So I resumed my seduction activities on the well known social network that begins with Face and finish with Suckerberglapute. I talked to this girl, a cute brunette. We warmed each other, like before I started this little challenge. Understand, I have never met this chick though she lives in the same city than me … Because she talked a lot but did nothing in fact (like many cause it allows them to stay in their comfort zone while feeling desired), it remained a fantasy relationship (so much the better because that’s what I needed at that time).

She said “come for me on Skype and we’ll meet up.” I said “no”. I resisted a little and then I said OK after the 24th day. We did never meet up after that, she was just a biatch who had challenged herself :I won’t let me trap so easily again, besides “you deceive me once shame on you, you deceive me twice shame on me“. It’s the hormones that disrupted my judgment, I guess, fuck. Needs to precise that she had assets !!!

But I do not care, because I shared something sexual with her in a way… I saw her naked, and everything (on the webcam). Finally, it’s different, I know, but … Understand me, when I don’t fuck, I approach and when I don’t approach I imagine naughty things. The girls that I want and I cannot get in real life, I’ll fuck them in my head. You are now warned, ladies !!!

In some ways I am addicted and proud of it.

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Really a shitty idea

This text is a bonus in my Diary of a French PUA 2

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Do you know this nice little story written by Haruki Murakami?

Once upon a time a man and a woman made eye contact in the street and immediately felt something rare. They miraculously found the courage to speak to each other and spend very pleasant almost magical hours together. Everything was perfect except … they wanted to test the Destin, otherwise there would be no story.

So they thought that if they are really made for each other, Destiny that made them meet once will make them meet twice. They thus left each other with no way to get back in touch with the other, thinking that if they meet again by chance, then they will get married and live together for the rest of their days blah blahblah. Really a shitty idea, if you want my opinion,but well let’s say it’s cute.

So far, this is all very romantic … but reality catched up with them: they didn’t find each other again. Years went by and everyone took other lovers … They then met again in the street but unfortunately did not recognize. True story.

The morality is that love is hanging by a thread, you have to seize your chance. This is also on this premise that street pick up isbased : this girl will disappear forever in Aix’s streets unless you find the courage to speak to her, and then, maybe it will be the beginning of the story of awhile life (or even just one night which is already better than nothing when you know how life can be hard). Who knows ?

All that to say that I met THIS girl some time ago in a bar. It was truly symbiotic and reciprocal between us, we hardly could believe it, it was impressive. Much in common, troubling coincidences, etc.

That same night, we did not sleep together nor anything, saying to each other that if we met again, we put together in couple because it seemed to us too good to be true. Except that the city in which I live is not so big: so one day, we met again.

Except that when she saw me again, weeks later in a bar, well, you might say I had my tongue in the throat of another girl. “You’re really like the others …
– So will you forgive my behavior because I am a Man? Or did you expect I’m better than my peers?
– Both, I think. ”

The thing is that we slept together but it was crap. Well, it was not awesome from my point of view. She also slept elsewhere in the meantime : so they are always readyfor morality but the truth is men and women are equal. They’re maybe worse than us.

Indeed, she told me she had a boyfriend, but not with herone true love, and that it was better that way. Because even if we got along really well, she did not feel comfortable with another man the himin her bed. That perhaps simply afraid her after all, to get into something else.

Me too, actually.

I’ll call Hafid. Back on the field.For better or for worse. I prefer the worse, btw.