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Should you follow a protocol in bed ?

Should you follow a protocol in bed This text has been written by The Teacher

The first time a man looked at me to push me to orgasm while he had already come himself, I felt lucky. It was the first time I met him, we had not developed particular feeling for the other one, and yet my pleasure seemed important to him. He had achieved a faultless performance, from the first moments to the final orgasm through foreplay: he had fanned my desire and excitement, he took his time, looked and touched my body with envy, as much as I was discovering new sensations. What a new experience, thank you Cyprineman! When I got home, I wondered, either the spell was hard on me and I had met only selfish men until today, or the majority of men are selfish in bed and this one is a pearl.

We, I think, all agree that sex is something we need to practice with one partner (at least), this is a moment that we share. A moment when the partners have fun together, and when everyone is benefiting. But I’m not sure that we all interpret this in the same way…

We all need to feel desired, during the act and after, when we watch again the movie of our romps in our mind. Now, I have not often had the feeling of being desired for myself. I mean a form of hierarchy settles, and I felt like my partner liked more the sex “in general” than the sex “with me for me”. Precisely, in my opinion, it’s what is the source of several more or less selfish behaviors.

Note that selfishness is not inversely proportional to the affection that your partner feels for you. He can be in total love and think only about his pleasure like he can simply be in “love with every women” and be a great lover.

I have identified some selfish (male) behaviors in bed. Of course, nothing comprehensive. In other words, here’s what not to do if you want your partner to have a good time with you.

1. The worst lovers are probably those who use women as an alternative to their usual masturbation. I mean, it’s when Madame is only there to help Monsieur to empty his balls, she has only one purpose: varying the monotony of his hand jobs. For the luckiest, Monsieur will perhaps touch you a little. It’s cliché but it exists, and it is widespread. The nice woman agree to date the man and put aside her frustration while another one would show all the same a bit of disappointment. If really Monsieur is the worst of the boors, he will finish in her hand or mouth and not fuck her. In the best case, she can still hope a future coitus will give her some sensations. It’s better than nothing. However, gentlemen, it will not surprise you if those women feel a lack of motivation and opts for the starfish position. And if she cries loudly, is that she is really very attentive and does not want to alter your pride.

2. About bad lovers, there are also those who go straight to the point, who do not really understand that they should better first make the desire of their partners raise… Like if they were magnetic and that by simply watching us we become wet. Generally, these men do not give a shit about preliminary and decide to rapid penetration. Of course they will blame us for not being enough lubricated. Hey, idiot, turn me on! Not better : there are those that put directly their hand in the string, like this, without warning. Normal. If it can sometimes be exciting, most of the time it’s just bad. The idea is like if he said to us: “your body I do not care, what I am interested in is your pussy.” It is well known, the beauty of women depends entirely on her pussy.

3. There are those who have understood the need of stimulating their partner…. but not too much, all the same! It’s the kind of guy who understands the value of foreplay, but do not want it too long. Generally, it is limited to mutual masturbation. A little blowjob if Madame is generous. Note that I have rarely met men who love cunnilingus, who go down there by themselves or who agree to do so when it’s asked. Typically, I interpret this rejection of cunnilingus as a selfishness symbol in the sense that there is no desire to give pleasure to the other one selflessly while some people find in this a real source of pleasure. Sex is like a bouquet of flowers : joy to offer, joy to receive.

4. There are also these selfish men behavior from men who are not really so selfish. I explain: these are the men a little awkward, inexperienced or not confident enough that dare because they are afraid of hurting. They are in a rather passive and disconcerting attitude. Sometimes people have understood the importance of warming their partners by promising the moon and stars… but are bad when the time comes. Beware of big mouths: chances are they are bad legs. In this category there are those who are too proud to learn and let themselves be guided by their partner (who will stay bad and selfish), and there are those who are humble and who listen to their partner (who will certainly become great lovers). Of course everything can be learned, and The awesome lover’s manual is here for you.

5. Finally, some men strictly follow a protocol, regardless of their partner. It’s enough for them. They probably think we are all alike, we love all exactly the same things and above all, in a specific order… it is wrong : the fuck parties are very similar, it bothers and gives no pleasure. Why is it selfish? Because nothing is done FOR the partner, because the desires are not listened and those men do not really show themselves interested in this female pleasure in particular : everything is anticipated, almost imposed. There is no spontaneity, no real sharing when Monsieur fucks Madame with a prepared program. The typical plan is: warming her while dressed, touching a bit as we undress, Monsieur fingers a bit, Madam kinda sucks by gratitude (or not…) and hop hop hop, come here I take you 5 minutes (missionary or doggy style, not original). These protocols are even more detestable when the partner is regular. I understand that some may feel comfortable thanks to the idea that there is a magic formula to apply… but this is the worst mistake to commit, because we are all different and we want to be treated in our singularity. The key would be to identify the desires of the other one (even verbalize it) and let things happen as a logical consequence (easy to say).

When we put a will in it, despite a selfish partner, we always find a way to be (somewhat) satisfied. At least one adapts to the situation, at least when that’s the only thing we know. Personally, all these behaviors had something in common: no orgasm. Never. Why ? Perhaps because, psychologically, I was not willing to have any orgasm. And what can prevent a woman from being ready for this? A lot of things, I suppose. One of them is linked to the partner even unconsciously, we evaluate the guy and try to guess if yes or no our pleasure matters to him. How to let yourself go when you know the other one doesn’t give a shit about you and your pleasure in fact?

In these cases, women are not really benefiting, for sure. But I wonder if these men, too, do not miss out on something powerful.

So what ? Is it not enough to have a pretty face or a big dick to be a great leg? Sure, a handsome man will be more attractive just like one who has a healthy body. Although, tastes and colors… Fortunately there’s something for everyone. And about penis size… I do not think that’s the first thing a woman thinks about when meeting a man, so it is not very important.

Anyway, I do not think the physical appearance of a man is directly linked to his performance/knowledge/sexual experiences, although it is still important that we like him. Many other factors come into account: his personality, his intelligence, his culture, his humor, his split, his interests, his style, his attitude, what do I forget..? In short, many things that make this man attractive. For the rest, his handsome face is not going to influence his behavior in bed (maybe will he feel more confident and will take more initiatives. Maybe he had fucked more women and so has a good experience?). Similarly, what is the point in having a big cock if we do nothing with it?

But the question also arises for women: is just being beautiful enough to be a good lover? It seems nevertheless enough to have a regular sexual activity… But if they do know only the starfish position, the guys will not necessarily want to see them again. What I am saying is there is not only men that can be accused of being selfish in bed… that women are not only victims of lager (even if we are very happy to believe it). Some are passive, they expect to receive without giving back. With this difference that they do not clearly ask for things: in general, the selfish man asks for his blowjob, while the women selfishly hopes her cunnilingus (and sulk in silence if she does not get it). They should also make efforts to communicate and know the body of the other one.

In conclusion, I would say that sex is a problem of expertise, and that good sex mix this knowledge of the other with the fact of being interested in the partner (remember to listen and be heard). Well, sometimes, despite our best efforts, it’s still not awesome : nothing is always perfect, and I guess that some partners were not made to fit to meet.

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Women, charm and money

Women, charm and moneyShame on those who use their charm for sale !

Today I want to denounce a reality that bothers me for a long time! I speak of an inequality that hurts many men while some women enjoy it unscrupulously. I may be like an old bitter in the text but never mind…

Women do not want to be thought of as whores so they do not pick up guys. On the other hand, using their charm to push guys to consumption, often for other men, does not bother them. What does a whore again? Oh yes, she sells her charms…

I think of those who distribute flyers in the street for bars. They are often cute chicks, like most of the time are hostesses and barmaids. Why cuties? Because guys tend to consume more to “please” the girl or to “impress” her. And that’s it, the trap!

The owners of these institutions play on the fact that guys are usually sex-starved. So they send beautiful girls meeting them for the benefit of their bar or of their club. But if you’re a flirty and want to take the girl’s number, then in this case, no way!

A friend was handing out flyers for a bar in Aix, and her boss had told her to do not give her number to the guys hitting on her. Same thing for a waitress girlfriend: it was forbidden to make out with customers! So this is the hidden face of this practice.

Why forbidding them to enjoy with clients? Because if customers want to see again the girl who talked to them normally but has made eyes to them casually, they will have to come in the establishment and consume!

As a man, you tend to have more difficulty in refusing to take an extra glass when it is a cute girl who asks you if you want another drink than when it’s a fat bearded disgusting guy who asks the same thing.

I sometimes have fun when I am approached by this kind of girls, telling them, “do you want to give me your number and hang out with me?” There often, they use a crappy excuse like “I have no number” (it’s like : what’s your name ? I have no name.) And so I can tell them, “well then see you soon darling bye bye.” If you bypass its ambiguity with the charm, she is disarmed.

It’s like those who come for club parties, the so-called Public Relations… Often these are relatively hot dumb. When they try to charm me or anything so I buy them a pack with a bottle of whiskey (€150), I lean towards them and do like if I wanted to kiss them.

Basically I often do not take into account what they offer me and I act like if they approached me to pick me up. I can tell you that they feel stupid !!! Their strategy is basically to talk to you sensually to charm you but to say things that are not really compromising. For example, if you start trying to pick them up in a soft way, they often say something like “haha yes we surely meet up again at the party then”;)

Well, seriously, they must be reframed! Coming up and using charms on guys, counting on the fact they are a bit unlucky in love, and then letting them hope that it might perhaps happen something at the party so they come and pay their entry… I think it’s disgusting! Especially that they know very well that nothing will happen with the guys in question, I guess they do the same thing on 20 men per day!

The best way to do not be manipulated this way, is to always separate the proposal itself and the person making the proposal. Basically, study the plan as objectively as possible. And test the girl too: if you see that she knows there will never be anything with you but she does not want to tell you so you buy her stuff, do not buy it. Do not put an ultimatum to her or anything, just change the subject and try to determine if she is interested or if she dishonestly uses her charm (I am not speaking here of women who just do their saleswoman job and who do not overdo it). Do not be a cash cow !!! In case of doubt, do not spend money and in any case never buy something you don’t want to buy/you will never use…

Thus, in my reality, one can very well have sex with me even if I do not buy her product. Moreover, I am not a sucker who is easily manipulated by his dick. In fact it is really this: chicks see almost all of us as suckers. I cannot count the number of women I observed approaching guys to get free drinks. Then, once the free drink in hand, “bye bye I’ll go back with my friends.”

I am aware that girls use their charm in all the areas of life. And sometimes, there’s nothing to complain about. One woman who works with me now told me: “I play on the fact that I am a girl. I glance at them, I act like if I was very happy when I see my clients, and so I am more appreciated. Anyway, that’s how everything works.”

I do not put the blame on this girl, good for her if it works! Still, how idiot are the lambda men !!! And even then, for her, it should not be cool to be more appreciated for her legs and her ass than for her work.

I guess the girls are also more receptive when the guy who wants to sell them something is handsome… but still, I do not think they are as blinded as are most guys.

In conclusion, I advise you to never do anything you do not want to do, even if it’s a pretty girl who proposes it. If you do not want to go clubbing, nor to drink alcohol, do not let women force your hand. Impose your reality (but do not be totally rigid anyway – I hate people who spend their time giving lessons). I never pay drinks to unknown with the hope they kiss me or they go back home with me. I only do it if I decided to do this because they deserved it in a way or another.

Before finishing, it reminds me a final anecdote. A friend in Aix, a schoolgirl, went on the Cours Mirabeau and proposed to guys “€5 for kissing me”. “Damn, she made almost € 100 that night !!! It’s crazy… Especially that she chose the guys she asked to so she chose guy she liked then she really did not force herself. She was earning as much as the guy but the balance still was “THE GUY + MONEY = HER”. It’s really hard… accepting such an unbalanced frame just shows that the guy has a mindset of beta male. I would have told her : we can kiss for free if you want!

In short, if I managed to get you thinking about some stuff, I’m happy. My goal through this article is to help you to never be bamboozled by a tease. Never pay for love… unless you’re old and ugly… and even in this case, it’s hardcore!

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Why women don’t reply to you anymore ?

Why women don’t reply to you anymore

A friend asked me this question: “damn, why don’t they answer to my text after the first date ?”

I dug a little bit more the issue and he said: “No, I’m did not try to kiss them nor anything, I’m a gentleman, I let time take its course.”

You should know that the fact that you have not tried anything may disappoint some girls and get them to stop talking to you, without giving you any explanation. It must be understood that it is better to try it all out when the girl is in front of you rather than hoping a hypothetic future date.

Waiting probably reassures you and everything, and you justify it to yourself by saying that you want to look like a gentleman. But from their point of view they may very well think (and this is often the case), “but he is a non-testicled guy who do not even dare to kiss me I’m wasting my time with a guy who has lost his balls”.

Of course, they can also not answer you because you did something they did not like it during the appointment. But that, in general, you will feel during it the date anyway.

There are too many guys who hope that girls do not respond because they have read in a book they must make the boy struggle even if he is liked. But frankly, if it’s a twisted girl like that, it’s better to give up right now.

Regarding the delay, let’s say after 24 hours without response, we can consider that it’s dead. Some respond directly and immediately, others reply once or twice a day, that, that does not mean anything… it depends on personalities. Better analyze the content of the answers: if you are the last wheel of the cart or if she blocks when you sexualize a little, it starts badly, and it seems to me more profitable to focus on other targets.

Granted, they have some good light. As long as they are hot, they just have to sit down and be seduced without saying too much shit (and the sponge is passed over some stuff anyway). So it’s easier for a sexy girl to decide she’ll next a guy than for a guy to decide he’ll next a girl. And of course, to top it all, they often do it without giving you any explanation: perhaps because they are not sure themselves, perhaps to do not offend you, perhaps because you said a wrong word and they are super rigid but do not want to recognize and prefer dreaming, maybe something let them think it is you who do not like them enough and they do not want to take any risk of a refusal or that you do not answer, maybe they next 10 guys a week so it would take them too long to justify every time (even if it would help us and make us improve – the polished girls, it’s something rare).

However, we at least better control our sex life than them : because by moving his ass, one can find plenty of new targets. They, on their side, can only choose among those who flirt with her. Granted again, a beautiful woman who would assume to pick up and approach would be the queen of cum oil… but it’s not yet returned in manners in France.

I then looked at the texts of my buddy. By trying to do too much to seduce, his texting was finally just weird. He went too far in his jokes, was doing too much, etc. When in doubt, keep it simple. I have often sent “well then, I said something that shocked you or what?” Quite simply. And it sometimes revived the conversation.

After a date, I usually do not write. I expect they send me a text to show me their interest and this way I will not appear needy. I do not remember that it has already bear fruits (for me) to revive a conversation with a girl who had not sent any text message after our first date. Nor even to insist too hardly to see a girl who induces you to pray her. Anyway, they know very well that it is their role to appear receptive and they’ll do it (often even the LSE – low self esteem – will do so and if not too bad for them). By doing this, at least, we can leave the interaction with the head high by not giving her the image of a guy sex-starved submitted crawling underfoot capricious bitches. We respect ourselves, us!

After a numclose, I am writing in general relatively quickly unless I really do not have time. I do not write immediately in the wake unless I have a really good thing to say, but I do it in the following 24 hours that’s for sure. In addition, it allows me to see if, by chance, I would not have met a chick who assumes to make the first call. I therefore also test her motivation. Anyway, the famous trick ie waiting two days before calling her back is really cliché! But, letting them wait between your responses (like they do with you or longer), it’s cool.

As for sexual initiatives, it is often better to go too fast rather than too slowly with the communication means. But be careful to do too much pressure them!

About what to do when they do not respond or not anymore: I try once with humor like “Orange cut your subscription and that’s why you do not answer me or what?” Or “My last message was so a shit that you do not reply ? ;)”

If they still do not answer and I’m motivated, I confronted like “well then, my message made you afraid or what? I did not think you were that shy…” or “so then you, as soon as one makes a joke you stop answering, yet you looked like a smart girl who understand the second degree humor…”

Finally, in case of despair, I send the message of the last chance.

In Secrets for seducing on the Internet, you will find examples of messages to revive your interactions and the message of the last chance that allowed me to get some blows that seemed dead and buried. About my way of reviving conversations and confronting girls there are practical examples in More than 1000 sexy alpha funny lines!

It must be understood that a girl may simply have forgotten to respond. For example, if you wrote her when she was falling asleep: the next morning, she will no longer be notified that she has received a message and if she did not respond at the moment, it can easily get lost in the bit-bucket. Especially if she does not really know you yet and is not yet fully on you!

Or she had a guy for when she nexted you but it did not work with him. Do not dream, they almost never come back to you by themselves. That’s why the stimulus messages can be helpful and save some pussies. It all depends on why they have not answered. But that, we cannot guess.

The confrontation messages allow to prick their egos and push them to say what’s wrong. Again, there’s those that submit to you (or willing to challenge themselves) and those who will get blocked (and will insult you by principle).

The message of the last chance is longer and quite argues, which can convince those who were not very motivated (or inspired) to meet you at the beginning. For example, if they had misinterpreted your text or if they did not understand your humor. Because yeah, there are people who next guys for nothing. In addition, this message of the last chance reveals things about you that they would not necessarily dare to ask you… but they are interested by the answer eg “I am not a premature ejaculator, I do not have a micro-penis … ;)”

I wish you good luck for your study of the functioning of the weaker sex fair sex!

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WARNING : do not imagine link between things that are not linked !

WARNING do not imagine link between things that are not linked !There is a negative attitude I have often seen in people who begin in the game (and with myself when I started). This is the attitude of imagining connections between things that are not connected (often to be reassured).

Concretely, what does that mean?

Imagine a guy was trying to pick up girls in the street but he got nothing for months. Then one day, he had the brilliant idea to go on the field by wearing a hat. And that day, miracle: he took the number of a girl! His conclusion will probably be : “oh fuck, as soon as I wear a hat, it works.”

Wearing a hat would be THE ultimate seduction technique?

The problem is that next time on the field, this guy could become superstitious, and force himself to wear a hat to pick up chicks. But the truth is that he would surely have taken the same number even if he had nothing on the head (this was statistically THE hottie who wants to fuck you for the fun without complicating everything). And therefore, objectively he will have the same results with or without hat in the future.

The excesses of this thinking are twofold:
– There is a false belief : we need a hat to seduce;
– It can be believed so much that this ridiculous belief could be transmitted to young Padawans who come for advice.

It gives sad but easily observable results on seduction forums: a lot of nonsense and intellectual masturbation ! No, we must learn to separate out the essential things from the rest…

I took the example of the hat because it was easily understandable but it’s not where I was going. And the fact is that, in practice, the hat is fine for some people. Moreover, to open sets at night, it can be cool and efficient! The perfect example would be: a guy wears a hat one day and finds €20 on the ground and it has rarely happened to him before. So he thinks he can find money on the ground that he is wearing a hat and therefore starts wearing it every day. If, he finds some money on the ground in the future, it will strengthen his belief (even if it is still less than before).

But it is when applied to seduction schools that my reasoning makes sense. You will better understand with a story!

I have a friend who has practiced Street Pick-Up (SPU) for several months before fucking his first girl met in the street. When I went on the field with him, he yelled “no, you’re too direct! This is not how to do: me, the only one I have picked up, I talked to her for almost an hour before asking for her number. “

Result: he loses even today hours talking with chicks to finally be told “oh no sorry I would have liked but I have a boyfriend” (or any other variant). And except that day, that was maybe blessed, he is always coming back empty-handed.

He is still convinced that this is how he will have the best results. Period. He is blinded by the fact that the only time he fuckclosed thanks to a number taken in the street, it was by doing it that very indirect way. Suddenly, he no longer sees the downside of his processes (huge loss of time).

At that same session I did with him, I was very direct. I have not taken a lot of numbers, that’s true. But I fucked one of the chicks I had numclosed… and yes, she was hot! Isn’t it stupid to talk about everything and nothing with a girl not interested when, thanks to the numbers, we could talk about sex with an interested girl.

Instead of understanding me and to question his ways, he criticized me and told me that I JUST had a fluke. Well, sure, luck played… but still! Him, it was for more than six months he was hitting the streets… and he got one street-FC in Lyon. Me, I did a session and I got one street-FC too. I do not say it enough: be pragmatic and make your time profitable. I had the chance to exchange on the subject with people who are knowledgeable in SPU (Snipe for example) and I KNOW it is by being direct that we maximize our results.

Seeing links where there is no link can therefore turn you, like my friend, to methods that do not bear so much fruits and block you into dead ends for years (principle of consistency). So beware: put things in perspective before jumping to conclusions!

Another thing: sometimes, guys do not think for themselves and take for granted things that a person they consider objective and good said. For example, a woman (usually their mother, sister or an ugly friend) told them with a peremptory tone that they must behave in such a way to have success (eg “be patient and pay for everything”). Since that day, they reject any advice from “competent” people (by that I mean people having concrete results and knowing how to transmit their knowledge) even if they their efforts did not pay so far. It’s stupid, not wanting to be “alpha”!

My opinion about seduction tips from women: “If you do not fuck her, do not listen to her.”

First, because maybe the girl who gives you her opinion is sincere but does not match the type of girls you would like to fuck. So, since there is nothing absolute in seduction, it directs you in the wrong direction: how to seduce the women that you do not want.

Furthermore, because the social pressure must be taken into account and that women who have not slept with you have often more difficulties to talk frankly about these things. They are more interested in maintaining their image of “purity.” It will be harder for them to do so if you just banged them in doggy style with some little spanking !!! The ice will also be broken: they will less feel shy.

On the contrary, some say that all the girls are sexually hardcore and everything. But as you do not see it in the life of every day, you will be in misunderstanding and think you’re ugly. But no, it’s only because they describe their reality when they say that … because with their girl-friends they talk a lot about sex (like us). Some will even exaggerate about their sex life to look smarted : but if you talk about the fact that it can become real with you, they may get cold feet because they do not often assume the fact of having oversold themselves. How to cope with all this shit? Make your own opinion and talk about gender relations with your conquests on the pillow! You will discover the reality for yourself and it will be even better (if you want you can read my ebook to take a shortcut).

I do not even talk about those who do not even know what turn them on nor about those that teach you how to be a good but submitted HUSBAND (not a good lover nor a good one-night) to better manipulate you.

In short, you can not imagine with the human: read the advice of competent people, experience to make your own opinion and draw YOUR OWN measured and thoughtful conclusions from repeated empirical facts. And finally, we do not forget that hazard controls our lives a little bit.

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How to find a good sexfriend when you’re a woman?

Today I’ll answer the question from a reader who approaches a disturbing reality: how can a woman find a good sexfriend in a society where the guys are often as cheesy as a romantic comedy? It is a serious problem…

“Hello,

I think than for anyone else but you, my approach would have made me look like a slut. But since I know what you write on your blog, I think you’re one of the few people who think that a woman who has fun in bed and who is open-minded is not necessarily a slut. I regularly read your articles for two years, and even if I do not agree on everything you write, I think you have correctly identified the woman mind and the science of seduction.

I’m at a point in my life where I want to have fun in bed, I want to have fun without headache. But now, attracting THE guy we covet in our bed is not as simple as it seems! Contrary to popular belief, a lot of guys are looking for serious relationships only and get excited for something serious too quickly…

To me, (most) guys are not really able to compartmentalize. Either they really like the girl and they want a serious couple or they don’t really like her and in this case they just see want a one shot. Having regular sex dates with a guy, that seems to me almost impossible… That’s why I want you to tell me how to get into the game. What is a girl supposed to do so the man she wants invites her to take pleasure?

Hoping that you’ll find the time to answer me. Especially that, to my knowledge, we are a lot of women reading you and we are all facing the same questions…

Chloé “

If I have identified the problem, many women have trouble finding guys:
– They like ;
– Who can fuck them good but with respect ;
– Who do not ask them to be faithful while they only fucked a few times together.

Many guys are very mushy. Much more than one might think. Especially that girls tend to spread the idea that a one night stand is not a respectful concept and that they want to settle down with the love of their life as soon as possible. As a consequence, the guys say to themselves “yeah, so I’ll give her what she wants (a couple they think) so I can empty my balls at will” or they like to sleep with her and are also conditioned to want a couple so they believe they have “fallen in love” just because they feel some affection for their sexfriend.

The ideal for many emancipated girls, it would be to have a nice guy who fucks them correctly from time to time without pissing them off. And it seems quite complicated to find.

How can you make guys understand the type of relationship you wish?

1) Assume it directly and make it clear that you have several lovers.

I met a woman once who wrote directly on her profile on Adopt that she only wanted sex and that bad fuckers did not interest you. But you are not obliged to show that in public, you can say it in private conversation (at the beginning).

Then, it is especially necessary that you be firm on the fact that this type of relationship is exactly what you want at the moment : so you can see like that or can not meet up at all. Do not let any door open to hope. You can even talk to guys you frequent about some of your other accomplices, it will avoid that guy harbor illusions.

It is customary to say that men are looking for purity (it explains they try to make you a faithful wife), so if you assume your slut side (I say it lovingly) they will have less desire to engage and will be more excited about sex. Then, eventually comes the reputation problems, which brings me to the solution #2.

2) Change your hunting grounds.

For example, a field that women looking for good sex too often forget, but which is full of guys and couples who are only looking for sexfriend, it’s the libertine sites. With that, you will probably find your happiness not far from home, because single women are queens there. Talk a bit with the guys anyway to be sure they are good lovers (for that, we still did not invent better than the shit-tests). There’s not only old and ugly perverts on these sites, contrary to what one might think. The libertine spirit is based on respect and people there fully understand this kind of research!

3) Change your way of thinking and fucking

If the problem is that the guys fuck with you once and do not call after… or that they fuck you once but do not want to see you again if that is not clearly “serious” between you: it is perhaps that the deal to have you only for sex does not suit them. Either that comes from a blockage in their mind (oriented feminism) or you are not very good in bed (sorry). It is quite possible to turn on the guy to see you just for your ass or the way you fuck/suck only for the fleeting pleasure (that can make them forget their principles). Read up on the subject, see if you need to change something in the way you dress and train in the bed !!! This is very much a question of behavior, all that shit…

May the God of the Game be with you, beautiful ladies!

 

For the guys who still delude themselves:

4) I recommend this ebook to better understand women.

5) And this one to become a good lover.

May the God of the Game help us in this upside down world…

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How to give a good blowjob (advice from several men)

How to give a good blowjob (advice from several men)

I refer to the last article I published “How to give a good blowjob (advice from a man)“. I was accused of having too much talked about my personal tastes.

So, I now correct the shot: this article contains several testimonies of men who tell YOU, ladies, how they like you to suck them.

 

Testimony 1:

“Okay so, for a good blowjob:

First of all, I think it’s a very visual act. It excites me a lot to see the girl sucking me, especially if she does it with envy. Probably because of the submission (or the devotion, your choice) related to the act itself. Since it’s visual, I love that the girl has beautiful hair (I like girls with beautiful hair, rather long and silky). So I love watching her and I love playing with her hair, stroking her head. I do not know if it’s good for them. I never really asked. That was for the visual part.

About sensations, I’ll just describe the best blowjob a girl has ever given me :

Already she did not forced on the penis. Ie she adapted to the curvature of my cock. She did not pull on it to put it vertically, which can be uncomfortable with a very hard erection. Then I had many feelings, but I never felt her teeth. Much more her tongue and a sensation of suction, like if she tried to attract the sperm as soon as possible. She also lubricated very well my cock with her saliva. She alternated descents at the very bottom of my cock only with her mouth, but by remaining rather on the top of my sex (glans slightly below) and masturbated the lower part, with a “rotating” movement (hard to explain this one, basically she did same movement as to open a jar of Nutella, while of course still holding the penis). It’s nice not to have a monotonous sensation throughout fellatio. So she went down from time to time with her tongue along my cock and played with my balls (note it can quickly become unpleasant, so gently with the balls !!). Then she went back along the penis, kissing, before taking back my dick in her mouth. It was very nice, especially for the visual sensations. Namely, it is also very nice to be licked at the crotch, between the thigh and my sex (it’s another one who did that to me).”

 

Testimony 2 :

“The perfect blowjob? I did not think it existed before I met this girl from Czech Republic, a few years ago in Paris, however, even now I am unable to explain how she did that (she had probably swallowed a vacuum cleaner). But except that, I think that to give a good blowjob : use a good hand position, especially not make men feel your teeth, the mouth must not be too thin and in my case please don’t concentrate the excitement only at the glans because it can be very unpleasant. Then, I think it is a mixture of experience and physiology for a girl to know how to make a good blowjob, and especially she must like it!”

 

Testimony 3:

“A blowjob while she looks at you, she is not afraid. I love when she ties her hair and starts sucking me when she masturbates me with one hand and she licks my balls at the same time, when my dick is in her mouth and she caresses my balls, when she touches her cheek with my cock. I like when she’s not afraid when I’m on the couch and she is kneeling on the floor. I would like her to use her tongue. For the technical part, those who have used her teeth never had the right to a second chance, it is forbidden there and I take no pleasure at all when they do that. I’m not into deep throat either, once for performance but no more. And describing what she does with her tongue, it is quite difficult but I think she has to be attentive to my needs.”

 

Testimony 4:

“So, for an ideal blowjob, I’d say the main thing is that it is well lubricated. I hate feeling it GRATING ideally I love when the girl’s lips easily slip on my penis from the top to the base. Then, they touch my balls at the same time, it’s nice, but nothing more. On the other hand, I recently discovered a part that at the beginning of the blowjob can make me feel a lot of good sensations, it is just between the balls and anus, and when the girl caress my balls, it gives me an hard erection in the second!”

 

Testimony 5:

“I personally love deep gorges and fondling on the balls, it’s just beautiful and it makes me vibrate. Seeing my penis in her mouth and feeling her tongue playing with is also awesome! For me a bitch who sucks must taste it you know, doing it gently, with desire and passion for her work.

One day a girl refused to suck me, she did not like it. OK ^^ she jerked me off like a goddess and was fondling the balls with her fingernails, it was just … AWESOME

Then another time a girl while she shook me put me one finger in the ass … I have never orgasmed so deeply since that day, it was so good!

I like to test new tricks, as soon as the girl do not violate me, I’m open-minded xD”

 

Testimony 6:

“The ideal blowjob first of all is a blowjob made with desire, pleasure and appetite. Because being just sucked without the girl really likes it, or worse if she forces herself to make us happy, that will not create pleasure and it even erase it. We often think that a girl just has to put a cock in her mouth to make a man feel pleasure, but it’s wrong. Fellatio is an exchange between two people who want the same thing : having fun and giving to each other. Because a woman can feel pleasure by sucking a hard cock, and the knowledge that the man appreciates gives her even more pleasure. An ideal blowjob is given by a girl who is not embarrassed and knows that she dominates the male the time of her job. It’s the one who shows she loves what she does, looking at the man in the eyes to seduce and charm him. It is often said that a good cunnilingus can make a woman faithful, a good blowjob can create loyalty in a man too. A woman who gives good blowjobs, is mostly a woman who is seeking to make her lover enjoy, and that will have no problem if he cums on her face, on her body or in her mouth, and who will savor the seed of her man because this semen is like the fruit that is harvested after hard work. It’s the dessert after a good meal. “

 

Testimonial 7:

“The steps are important to make the pressure increase before using the tongue. Start over the pants to take your time, then start a handjob gently licking his balls and after gently go licking his glans! Finally handjob then blowjob at the same time.

Ps: what is cool it is when she plays with her tongue at the tip of my penis where the skin begins to arrive.”

 

Testimony 8:

“She begins by putting her hand under my shirt and in my pants. She pushes me on the chair and unbuttons my shirt. She opens my fly and greedily swallows my cock. Finally she undresses and climbs astride.”

 

Testimony 9:

“I love when she talks me dirty during the blowjob, when she asks me to come for her!”

 

Testimony 10:

“I do think I have ever received one worthy of the name. I have never orgasmed with it. I know I love to be a little bit violent with the girl, I love to grasp her hair during the deep throat and to fuck her mouth by being over her. What is important is that it is she who takes the initiative and that she shows she loves it, the bitch effect is amazing. But this don’t mean that we should not respect her.”

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How to give a good blowjob (advice from a man)

How to give a good blowjob (advice from a man)Introduction:

Today, I propose a new concept: articles for chicks.

Several girlfriends have asked me to write to explain how to give a good blowjob. Most Internet articles are written by girls, explaining to other girls how to suck. So I want to give, this time, the view of a man on the subject. If you want to add other advice or if you want me to answer other questions : feel free to leave a comment !!!

What follows is therefore just my opinion… but we are a bit all the same, right? 😉

The purpose of this article is twofold:
– Give girls ideas to improve their oral sex;
– Show guys how their girlfriend could (maybe) better suck them.

For me, a good blowjob is with three things:
1) The mouth
2) The hand
3) The tongue

But there are other criteria to consider:
4) The rhythm
5) Testicles
6) Swallow
7) The position
8) The fingers in the ass
9) The mindset
10) Statistics

1) The mouth

The first thing that comes to my mind is obvious: it is important to do not put teeth. Know that girls do not always realize when they scrape our glans. Watch out, there’s someone on the other end !!!

One way to avoid putting the teeth is to position your lips in the good way. You must tighten your lips so we a little feel something. It happened to me, with closed eyes, I did no longer know whether the girl was sucking me or not: I felt NOTHING.

Feel free to drool to lubricate. The idea is to replicate a little texture of the vagina that is hot and humid. It is an interest of blowjobs, especially when we usually fuck with condoms: because we really feel the woman without a piece of plastic on the penis that separates us from her. Regarding the risk of STDs, it is very small and almost non-existent with oral when you have no mouth sores.

There’s websites that advise you ladies to take only our glans in your mouth … but I think it’s a bad idea. That’s comings and goings on my entire penis that drive me crazy.

Finally, be careful if you keep sucking after ejaculation: my penis is very sensitive when I came… and it can hurt.

 

2) The hand

I especially like when there is a rotational movement of your hand on my penis simultaneously with the movement from the bottom to up of your mouth. I say it otherwise: when the girl has my cock down her throat, her hand is down and when she goes up with her mouth, her hand goes back by at least a quarter turn around my cock. And so she does repeats it again in rhythm.

Girls can also have your hand on our chest or can touch themselves at the same time (breasts or pussy). Seeing you having fun, it really turns me on.

A variant of the rotational movement is to do a basic low-top motion but with only the thumb and index finger placed in a ring around the cock. Again, it is the pressure exerted on the sex that will determine our sensitivity to this practice. If it’s too tight it hurts and if you do not shake enough, we do not feel much. But do not make me say what I did not say: do not squish us anyway!

 

3) The tongue

While you suck, get out your tongue out of your mouth and stretch it so that it caresses the sex by naturally following the movements back and forth of your head.

Note that, not to mention the deep gorges (which can be fun) when you touch the back of your throat: it can make you want to vomit. To avoid that this happens every time, I’m afraid there is no alternative but to train yourself to tame the sensation.

There’s websites that advise women to make us wait an hour before sucking us, while turning around the bush (kissing us everywhere else). So anticipation it’s cool two minutes, but if the girl need one hour before going for it… I think it’s just boring!

 

4) The rhythm

You have to see the rhythm that the girl can bear to follow. Sometimes we can show you our ideal rhythm by doing pelvic movements (conscious or unconscious) at the same time you suck (we fuck your mouth).

To relieve you or show you our ideal rhythm, we can put our hands behind your head and help you in the movements. It’s also helpful to keep your hair if they are not attached so you do not eat it.

Know that just before orgasm, the penis tends, swells significantly and becomes hotter.

To increase the power of orgasm, you can raise the excitement. Whether it is by basking long before, by a long blowjob, or … let us approaching orgasm several times, but let us go down a bit, and try again several times before letting us go after. Please note that this technique works but it must be done with the agreement of your partner and by explaining what is done or you take the risk of making is go crazy!

 

5) Testicles

There’s a lot of girls who want to touch my balls in bed: they want to lick me or fiddling it with their fingers. It seems that there are guys who fancy it thoroughly, but me, I personally do not like it. If it lasts five seconds it’s nice but if it lasts too long, I ask them to stop, explaining that it hurts. It started from a good intention but…

 

6) Swallow

Should you swallow or not? Already, you “must” nothing. Everyone does as he wants. Personally I love it but I can imagine there are many girls who do not want to drink the cup. Oh, by the way, I should make an article about the taste of semen. Anyway, so, when it is the first time and I do not know if they want to swallow, I tell them I’m going to enjoy when I feel that I enjoy and I let them do what they want then with that information.

 

7) The position

The problem of the position may be a problem for some, but I love when she is kneeling in front of me or when she is sitting on the edge of the bed and I am stand up before her. If the girl find it disrespectful or too dominant, she may still suck by lengthening us on the back on the bed: she just has to come on us at the footboard There’s a lot of bitches who forget that during the blowjob we are vulnerable and they are in total control of our pleasure. So it does not so dominant! The girls from Sex and the City are right when they say, “OK. when we suck them, we are kneeling. But at the same time, they are held by the balls.” So: draw game! Like for oral sex!

What is good is to cross a naughty look as she plays with our craft.

 

8) The fingers in the ass

If a girl tried to put a finger in my ass by force or surprise, she would take the risk of getting fired from my bluntly… I know there are guys who fancy that… but it’s far from our every man’s dream. So be careful with it and “test the water” at least a little before raping our anus.

9) The mindset

The context of the blowjobs matters, of course. Depending on where you do that or if you had a good day or not, you can be more or less in the mood. But here I wish to mention the deepest beliefs that are related to the blowjob.

A girl who does not suck (especially if you lick her) is the most often by:
– disgust
– fear of not doing well
– selfishness

*Some women are really put off by oral sex, as some guys are by the cunnilingus: I can conceive it. There’s not much to do there except presenting a very clean sex or asking them to try to suck us in the shower. Also remains the solution of flavored condoms but frankly I have already said, the plastic during blowjob removes a lot of pleasure.

In short, sometimes there’s not much to do with these girls. Being pumped by a girl who seems disgusted : even if she does it to please us, that’s nice but it’s not awesome! I love when I feel that the girl is “greedy”. I love that she shows she likes my entire body.

There’s wrong beliefs that block women today. In ancient Egypt, the prostitutes put lipstick to show they practiced blowjob. Babylonian whores smeared men sex before sucking it (it’s also good with whipped cream not too sweet). So it was something degrading for sex workers. At the time of Catholicism, it had become downright sin as the act was separate from the will of procreation. In the Song of Songs, oral sex is even associated with the adulterous woman. Among Irish Catholics, she was punished by fifteen years of imprisonment (like a homicide). Today, we still sometimes have the image of the blowjob without tenderness as presented in pornography. It is often humiliating for the woman (yet willing), but it is fortunately not perceived like that by men normally formed in privacy.

Today it is a classic caress part of foreplay. Fellatio is not (now anyway) an act that man us to discharge on women their misogyny. It is an act of devouring of the woman on the man, you suck our life energy!

Fortunately, thanks to a real letting go, some women manage to make fellatio erotic. I have met many who were more than wet after sucking: so that excites a lot of you! The shrinks would say they are looking for their lost phallus, and therefore, performing oral sex, allows them to relativize the castration complex.

Feminists also make women who love to suck feel guilty. They try to make us believe that after centuries of female availability, men no longer have the right to ask anything in bed. But if we do not feel fully loved, if the man no more feel irresistible and manly: it may frustrate us deeply!

*If this is the “fear of doing it in the bad way” that blocks her, that’s another problem. Let her read this article and encourage her. Same thing if it is shyness: in this case, be the first to go down on her. That said, when we do not really know the girl, it’s awkward to ask this, fortunately they mostly do it themselves.

*If it is because of selfishness that she does not suck you but she loves your cunnilingus: it’s unfair. Could I stay with a girl like that? I do not think so. This is important in a couple I guess : because I appreciate this practice and because it helps to ease conflicts, if any.

I would not stay with a woman who sees oral sex as a one-way favor or a reward. Like who does not suck me when I have not unscrewed the cover of the toilet to punish me or something like that, it’s going to piss me off! Sex should not be a blackmail argument!

 

10) Statistics

In the 1970s, 55% of men had oral sex.
In the 1970s, 66% of men had oral sex.
Today, 88.5% of women aged 35-39 have experienced blowjob. 90.5% of men of the same age have already been sucked. About the regular practice with pleasure (or at least without displeasure), it is 70% among 25-34 years…

 

In summary :

Whether it’s to make me orgasm, or just to warm me and have sex with me right after, that’s how I like blowjobs. If your girl sucks in a bad way, it’s difficult to directly tell your girlfriend, you have to be diplomatic. Why not watching a porn with her, where the girl sucks like you would like her to try to suck you?

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Last Minute Resistance & Rape

Last Minute Resistance & RapePart 1: Last Minute Resistance

 

A/ Definition

A LMR is something rather difficult to define in absolute terms.

This is for example, when you’re both in underwear and the girl is in her string on the bed, that you kiss quietly… but she suddenly no more wants to make love.

Basically, it is when everything seems to go well for both of you… but that at the time of moving up a gear: the girl finally don’t want to. Like if she had suddenly changed her mind. But is that really the case? Except if you are a terribly bad kisser, there is no reason. If you suspect that this may be the case for you, please read The awesome lover’s manual.

I think it is most often a kind of anxiety that can also feel every human during a bedtime… especially when it’s with someone new. Girls are more victim of it and it is easily understandable when one knows how they are strong to take a headache and ruin their lives because of details (like the fact that their pubic is not shaven for the occasion).

The difference between a girl who makes a resistance and a girl who really does not want to fuck us is that: the girl who “just” resistant is hot like fire but cannot help to play it “fierce.” She is totally wet but doesn’t want to sleep. While the one who really does not want to fuck is really blocked, says “no” several times, etc.

 

B/ How to react

If you arrived at this point: first of all, congratulations! Let’s not forget that you’ve all the same met an unknown girl, you talked to her, and you made her want to be in a bed with you. But how can do you go through when she makes a LMR?

First, we have no choice. And even if it is frustrating, we must stop our attacks to open a dialogue. You have to see where she blocks and why. In any case, we must stay within a committed relationship, it’s not about raping anyone! PUAs are modern gentlemen !!!

I sometimes encountered this kind of blocking, but fortunately it does not happen every time. So, sometimes it is surmountable but sometimes not. However, be aware that if you arrive at the preliminary stage, but that this anxiety is triggered and that nothing happens after with the woman, she may stay with a negative image associated with you, which could cut her any will to see you again. Once, I enjoyed making an LMR to a girl, just for fun. But she took it badly, she was upset and she never answered me on the phone after that.

Most often, the reasons that we can hear are in general:
“I think we’re going too fast.”
“I do not have enough time free time today.”
“I’m not a girl like that.”
“I do not know you well enough.”
“Not on the first night.”
“I have my periods.” (sometimes it’s true but it is also often a fake… with that said, you should know that sometimes they agree to do it anyway under the shower or with a towel under the buttocks)
“I am not shaved.”
“My place is a mess so I do not want you come over. ”
“I cannot, it’s complicated, I cannot tell you but it’s not you it’s me.”
“I’m still thinking about my ex, I’m not into it.”
“I want to remain a virgin until marriage.” (let’s respect that)
“Why me and not another girl?”
“What that tells me you’re going to call me back after? ”

At first I tried to argue, to demonstrate calmly and thoughtfully how this type of reaction is absurd. But they have rarely admitted.

In fact, you should know that they do not always give the real reasons that are blocking them. Because it is a reaction partly unconscious: they may not even understand what is happening in them. Evolutionary psychology also comes into play: their instinct warns them against the risks of STD, childbirth, etc.

Blocking can sometimes unblock if she is enough turned on, if her logic gives way to emotion. For this, as soon as she says stop : take a minute of rest, argue and work on her again. It can work if she really wants you and if that was really the fault of the principle “I don’t fuck on the first date”. However, in some people, the rational mind is stronger than the emotional mind and it is very difficult for them to let it go… especially with a stranger.

Another good solution is to reassure her and to try again later. If it is really because she is not shaved that she doesn’t want to have sex, we can tell her that we don’t give a shit of this detail and that it’s the whole of her we want. It could unlock her! Warning: women can balk and become cold during the dialogue.

The third good idea is my favorite, it’s a mix of the two first ones. It is the one I talk about in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations : a verbal reassurance to help her control her blocks but we warm her with our hands, to see how she reacts.

Some coaches recommend trying a “naked man” in case of LMR, but I have never tried it in such a situation (I bet them either). The closest situation that happened to me: I was on my bed kissing the breasts of an American who did not want sleep with me under the pretext that she had a boyfriend in the United States. We both were in underwear and I removed my pants : as soon as I took her hand to put it on my cock : she gave me handjob. Then I convinced her to let me lick her ( “it is not binding, if you don’t like it please say stop and I will stop”. She then begged me “I so much want your dick into me” with her very cute accent.

There’s finally the solution that is to ignore the girl when she is too indecisive : it can work. It is called “the fridge.” So if it is more like a whim than anything else, that she is just playing to drive you crazy, play it like a bitch too. She could reflect on the fact that she is messing around and losing you and then she could very well change her mind. Or she can leave your place… she’s free! I draw your attention to the importance of wisely decipher what the girl communicates. If she said no, but she stays half-naked in front of you : it ss a game for her. If she rejects you clearly, this is not a code to say “I love you please still try to fuck me with strength.”

That said, I met one like that. I went to her, place we kissed and everything but I have not fucked her. She did not want. She texted me once I left, she said, “I would have liked that you force me.” Well yeah, but…

Last paragraph: what to do if nothing works and that “no means no”? Sulking or insulting her : bad ideas! It would definitely prevent you from seeing her again later. It is better to play the gentleman and to tell her the truth: that you are disappointed but hey, that’s life, and that if she changes her mind later, you will be very happy because you think you both have missed something. You should know that there are girls who purposely push us like that to see our true nature: it can be a test!

 

C/ Take precautions

To avoid such problems, I suggest you to talk upstream of the fact that you will fuck if you go home. Do not hide your intentions! Tell her how much she turns you on, that she is very sexy. Once home, if she is hesitant, ask if the desire is mutual. It can be just shyness, her little hesitation …

Also create some comfort during the date and make her not feel guilty. Explain the fact that you will not judge as a “slut” if she sleeps with you. Make her comfortable with that! It is for you to do this job because they have a social mask to take care of, which is not really our case.

Finally, it may help to make your apartment a not disgusting place, a place where you feel comfortable…

I think I have taken a feather out of my cap : if a woman feels anxious or unsure about the idea of ​​making love, how in this context, making love with her could be a good thing, and not a incentive for abuse? Simply because, in such a situation, this woman really want to make love with you. At this stage, she feels she wants to make love with you, but she wonders if she should do it. It is torture, she is afraid of regretting or feeling “dirty” after. Many men do not understand that today girls possess their own bodies and have as much than men the right to have fun. Many women have not understood it very well either, by the way.

 

Part 2: Rape

Under French law, rape is a sexual assault involving, according to article 222-23 of the Penal Code, “any act of sexual penetration, whatever its nature, committed against another person by violence, constraint, threat or surprise.”

So: clearly show your intentions (but no sexual harassment nor needy either: you have to work a little on your game and acquire tact). Do not force her in any way and be very careful: the goal is not to insist until she gives up, but to do not foolishly give up before she gave a clear answer.

To illustrate the shit it is to manage a LMR, I’ll tell you another story. A girl I had picked up in the street had come to a date. I spoke to her about sex for a while and, despite that, she was “OK” to come and eat at my house. We talked and played cards for hours before I kiss her on the neck. She said “stop” when my hand started to go down on her crotch. So: I stopped. And then she said, ” stop it because you are fucking making me want to have sex with you but I have not shaved my pussy and I’m not a girl like that so we’ll meet again next week to have sex.” Admit that the concept is stupid: she was dying but felt compelled to frustrate both of us… And nobody forced her to say that. So: I insisted, ready to stop if she asked me to one more time… but she finally agreed that I caress her breasts and fingers her. From there, we fucked several times in a row. By leaving, she thanked me for insisting (her blocking was an avoidance strategy because she had few experience in bed), congratulated me for the good fuck and we have met again the next week with great pleasure.

The confusion between rape and LMR is that women send a lot of mixed messages. Sorry, politically correct people, but “no” does not always mean “no.” It depends on how it’s said. If one does not speak the ‘girls’ language and never had any “feedback” after shots: indeed, one might think that they did not want and that we a little forced them. But the truth is that they had wanted us to do that, and they are most of the time grateful because we insisted because : relieved them of a weight.

Another example: some chicks when I lick them and they approach orgasm, tell me “stop”… but do not think for a second and would be disappointing if I did. I know it for sure because it is a fairly common event and they tell me “thank you” after. They admit to me on the pillow they were just afraid to let it go, at the time, that’s all. When they are in a situation which gives them strong emotions, women do not always say what they really think. We either, for that matter. But we do more, all the same!

However, be aware that in France, rape is a social phenomenon quite common: 75 000 cases per year, or 1 per 1000 inhabitants. It’s sad, but just around me, I know 4 or 5 cases. Some were raped by members of their families, others under GHB by several guys. And stay a big trauma. Some now make anxiety attacks, others are disgusted of sex, others still love sex but feel guilty, I also know some who by now have great difficulty in trusting someone, and some lucky girls for who fortunately nothing changed…

It is unacceptable to say that they unconsciously wanted it because they were dressed sexy, or because they were walking alone at night. Damn we are not savages !!! These damn rapists should more  read my blog, they would be less frustrated as they would be more successful and everyone would have fewer problems.

Some rapists claim that it does not count because she “loved it” but it is wrong to believe that :
– A woman who said “no” think “yes” (it depends on how it is said);
– Violence is sexually exciting for women (a little spanking during doggystyle why not but for the rest you have to ask permission for it to be respectful);
– The victim could have resisted if she really did not consent (bad faith).

It is there that stops the concept of LMR: if the girl firmly says “no”, we stop. And let’s discuss with her calmly. We will only penetrate into her if she finally says “yes” or if she starts jumping on our cock by herself (basically she has to come back to us by herself to show us that she still has desire for us even though it may seem obvious: it’s such a delicate position, we must be careful).

On the other hand, attention, sometimes women falsely accuse men of rape. I’m not saying that it is often, but it can happen. Some have made a lot of money like that through fraudulent trial. It’s disgusting to talk about this but be aware that it exists. So, prevention is better than cure, prevent this kind of situation!

In summary, to do well, she must feel that she can leave at any time; do not put her too much under pressure. The frame must be clear: she is free, she is not forced and we do not withdrawn “sex” to a woman, we are two when we do it !!

 

My conclusion

It’s better to miss a shot than being accused of rape, let’s be realistic. But women must also understand it and not call us “small dick” if we do not always insists when they yell their internal torture “but I feel like I’m not like that” or “I love that one forces me but I say it only when you’re gone.”

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Is grass always greener elsewhere ?

Is grass always greener elsewhere The phrase “the grass is greener elsewhere” is used when we imagine the situation elsewhere (where ? it’s often indeterminate) is better than the one we have.

However, this is mostly an optical effect that gives to the grass of the neighbor a perfect shine ONLY if you look quickly and by far. But closely and with attention it’s often longer the same delusion. For example, if you look at the FB profile of the girlfriend of one of our friends: she looks probably more awesome than what she is in real life.

Which brings me to the following questions: why do unknowns often seem hotter than the chicks we have? Why, for the same physical appearance, unknown almost always turn us on more than our usual sexfriend? Why do we tend to desire more those we have not?

 

Will we always experience desire for other people?

The inconvenient truth today is: whether you are a couple or single, you will always feel desire for other chicks. At least a little bit, make no mistake. Watching is human, desire too. In addition, the alpha male is often in contact with his conqueror’s instinct, so he loves the flesh. But that does not mean he cannot fall in love.

Let’s clarify immediately the thing (for the haters): loving the new and the unknown is healthy and invigorating. Discovering a country, a film, a book, a dish, a music: vitality and health marks. But we slide in the disease when we only carbide with things newer than new. We know it, all the excesses are problematic.

I think we all have an inclination, an attraction, a fascination, even a need for novelty… do the consumer society plays on it to make us buy stuff, or is it the society that creates this need… I don’t know but it doesn’t matter, the result is the same: the fold is taken. We are conditioned to neophilia (not necessarily sexual but it influences us). And besides, when you see the hotties they show us on TV, you think you can necessarily have better than your girlfriend.

Sexual neophilia carbide with unusual smells, the unknown epidermis, the unconquered looks at the unexplored nudity. But, what is familiar, known and tamed doesn’t excite much more. It is the transformation of a healthy human aspect (the taste for discovery) in compulsive neurosis. “I love women so much that I would like to catch them all!”

The novelty has a magical stimulating effect on my desire, I admit: the spell is amplified by unprecedented. People like me have a strong need for novelty, stimulation intensity. Much more than the average human. But this is not a disease, I often talked to psychologists: it is a personality trait located at one extreme of the standard. However, make no mistake “not the average” always complicates life because our society is not thought for extremes when it comes to what it is accustomed to offer and tolerate.

In short, we surely still have some desire for women that are not ours, at least until our hormones had calmed down. In people who are beginning to be old, it calms I think, but it does not prevent them from enjoying the beauty of certain bodies.

 

Do we have as many choices as we think ?

With Happn or Tinder, one can easily believe that thousands of pretty girls are at hand. But is that really the case?

In theory yes, but in practice it is different. There are lots of fake profiles and photoshoped photos on dating sites. It’s the same in clubs: there are girls who excite us when they are dressed sexy but we must realize that we see hardly see their face because of the light, and if we ever see her in the daylight, we may not even notice them. And in the street : when hardly crossed they may seem beautiful, but only because we did not yet had time to notice their imperfections. It makes us surely feel good to fantasize, though. But it should not distance us from our girlfriend, who is real.

I advise you to sit on the subway trying to see objectively how many girls are as pretty as your sweetheart. Personally, I have seen very few. My impression so far was there were plenty… but in fact, no! Certainly, tastes and colors, it is discussed, but you get the idea: our imagination is fertile and sometimes we lose sight of the luck that we have.

I’m not saying that there would be nothing to do, anyway. I’m just saying that they are often less beautiful than our girl. And besides, we have not yet spoken to them, maybe, they are vulgar, stupid or not interested. It happened to me also to meet beautiful and smart girls, to sleep with them, but one thing pissed me off : in particular, I remember one who smoked all the time. While a girl less hot (but still pretty) would not necessarily have pissed me off. What is it better for the long term? Hot and with a perfect character, yes I know. But does Santa exist?

I have during a long time sought an ideal of beauty because I thought for reproduction. I really wanted a girl with blue eyes for my children to have clear eyes, but actually I thought… I could very well send them my brown eyes. So if my girlfriend is nice with her blue eyes but does not transmit because of me, too bad! For me, it’s better a girl with brown eyes but still hot !

I also wanted a tall girl so my children will be because I would have liked to be tall. However, the mother of my brother is 1m55 and he is 1m90. My mother is 1m60 and I am medium sized. We’ve got the same father. So there’s nothing absolute with genetics, actually. I just think that, ideally we should not take a headache with this. Simply let nature do : if there is a strong attraction between us it’s probably for good reason.

The legend of the marriage says that the character and the complicity we share with the girl are more important than physical appearance: that with time, we do not really see if she’s cute or not. So I’m not telling you to take you a ugly one, but I advise you to don’t take a girl just because she is pretty. If she is a pain in the ass or is unhealthy, next! The wedding legend also says that husbands often cheat on their wives during the midlife crisis, maybe can we prevent it through the pickup? If we play the womanizers when we are young, we will surely less feel the need to do it later?

So when you find a shoe to fit, why not settle for enjoying life (of course if she still meets some basic criteria)?

 

Is there no other things to enjoy hunting?

Now that we understand that perfection does not exist, we can realize how lucky we are that this girl loves us. Takes care of us. It is often difficult to realize the value of what we have before losing it. But by wanting to put a card in excess on the Castle, everything can collapse.

So yes, there will always be a desire for other women (often a fleeting desire) but that’s not why our dear is not satisfying us. On the other hand, we can be afraid of commitment, so we may use the excuse of the pickup to continue to flutter with the unconscious hope to mess it up with HER. If this is your case, the goal of this article isn’t to criticize you but to offer food for thought.

All that to say that swimming on the surface should not prevent us from discovering the beauty and density of depths. Needing fresh meat to be able to desire, to get hard happily, to be totally wet and to forcefully fuck seems to me infinitely sad. Some women have more to offer than a pussy. And it’s worth to slow down pickup for them. I do not want to continue to pick up chicks who are 18 on Tinder when I will be 35. I agree it can be cute when you’re young to be a womanizer, but after I find the idea sadder than anything. My goal when I started the game, was to find a girl. So I had disappointments, I had periods of intense fuck like a production chain, like you I guess but when you find something special despite all that: it’s a gem you should polish (like my dick).

And in addition, thanks to the time released, we should be able to find other exciting areas in our daily life! Such as sports, writing, work…

 

What could you miss by aiming always higher, by always wanting other women?

By never attaching to any woman, you risk to not build a family and to be alone when old and senile. In deciding that you will do it “later” and by refusing the good opportunities that the God of the Game has put in your way, you risk to don’t really know the woman you will spend the rest of our days with. Basically, you may make a decision in a hurry with the last ones who remain available.

Okay, we’re young and we could certainly still enjoy… but sometimes you meet a girl that makes others seem bland. A girl that makes you want to spend the weekend cooing in your nest rather than picking up. A girl that makes you want to call her at night just to hear her voice while you have never done that before. If it seems long when you did not see her for 3 days, in this case you’ve to think.

A depth relationship can also be a wealth: there are cool things to do in couple (for example to see how it goes in the libertine clubs). There’s good times to share that do not necessarily involve sex. New experiences to do in bed and out of bed. It also allows helps in life, to project with someone… It makes us go on.

This is an aspect of seduction is unknown by compulsive players. Also, if you have the chance to have a baby who also likes girls, you can continue to pickup a little… like a team this time. Continuing to discover new body because you will surely miss it. This is the routine that frightens me the most, actually… some people they like it, but that terrifies me.

By focusing on a woman, you may become sensitive to things that normally would slip on you. If your baby slept elsewhere, or when you think about her and visualize her in bed with her ex, it irritates! On the other hand, if she had no experience and if she was lame in the sack, she would not interest you. This is the flip side: her purity becomes important to you… we become dependent.

So it was nice to be the first and only man to make her come, the only one she made threesomes with, or what do I know. We may be the first for many things, it still annoys us to think about her past sexuality. But what counts is the future and the present, right? Guys who fucked her badly a few times and she hardly remembers them, is it worth taking a headache for it? In addition it will be the same with any girl that may meet, it seems. Finally here, she has some power over us now. Shit !

 

It is also necessary that we really match

I will always caution against the same thing so I do it again: the fake love. The love we imagine. Many people are “waiting to find love” because they feel that it will be “the happiness that will fall from the sky on them without they ever need to make any effort.” And so they can finally live happy !!! Is not that ridiculous? Love brings new problems, new efforts to make…

For the record, I remind you that my brother is married with a girl who would make me ashamed and he is really pulled down, both financially and socially. So watch out and stay alpha !

 

Take heart!!!

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20 redhibitory details in a girl

20 redhibitory details in a girl

Today, I decided to take stock of what is unacceptable in a girl. I wish to speak of these little character traits and physical details that are eliminatory for me and for most members of the male sex I interviewed. I asked only players confirmed … not sex-starved who, anyway, would start in a relationship with anyone delivered with a vagina.

 

1 / An interested girl

I’m talking about a girl interested in our money. Who would make us pay for everything and everything. Who would play the princesses we must support … But, if she is just interested in our cock, it’s all right.

 

2 / A girl too possessive

I have known one like that: she was all the time close to me, sit on me while I had not even finished eating, she wanted to see me all the time, etc. Leave us a little air!!! If in addition she plays on emotional blackmail or ultimatum, next!

 

3 / A disturbing detail on her face

This is personnal : some people it will be a big nose, others it will be a leek on the face, me … it is the hair that grows on the cheeks which cut me envy. Unfortunately, the girl help much with those thing, but she can compensate or find other guys it will not block.

 

4 / A green plant

This is a girl who does not speak, do not move, in short that blends into the background like an ornament… A not curious girl, who is interested in nothing in particular, who does not know where she is going in life. It does not interest us, these relationships that enrich only one of the two protagonists.

 

5 / An immature girl

This kind of idiot who act like teenagers while she is 25 years old, who watches seriously crappy emissions, who idolizes guys whose image is retouched by Photoshop but who did not understand that. I also fall into this category the girls who play it fashion to disguise the fact they are a stupidity abyss: they try to impose their frame “I am a star” but only fools accept. We laugh in their faces!

 

6 / A girl with a difficult character

The kind that makes whims all the time, it sucks. The nervous that yell, the hysterical, the unstable in all kinds, TOO. A girl without tact that takes pleasure in belittling me or telling people intimate stuff that might make me uncomfortable, it would be next ! Same thing if she is full of hate.

 

7 / A girl with an addictive behavior

For example smokers with black teeth, those who are drunk every weekends, those who use drugs, those who have too much tattoos and piercings, who changes her hair coloc every month (blue, green, red) etc. Damn, we did work on ourselves to improve, it is not to end up with this kind of girls! We are not desperate !!! There are people who love smoking because “it is sociable girls” … but that’s just an excuse, in fact, they just like to smoke with them and their personal development process stops when it would be necessary to  make a effort to stop smoking. Sorry if I offended sensitive souls, but it was to make them think.

 

8 / A not feminine girl

Sorry but we like girls who take care of themselves. Who perfume, smell good and everything. Who choose their outfit carefully. In short, we want to be proud to have them in our arms.

 

9 / A girl who speaks badly

I hate vulgarity. A girl who speaks in “riffraff” mode, I find it anti-sexy. Especially if she is aggressive and wants to play the man … I like girls who talk properly and, for that matter, who write correctly too. If they read in addition, are cultivated, and understand second degree humour : it is perfect!

 

10 / A girl who has bad eating habits

You already know it but many of us do not love the soft girls that make no effort (no sport) and in addition who make us eat shit that gives stomach ache when we visit them. If they don’t understand we don’t like bad food, because they find McDo very cool, we disappear !

 

11 / A dirty girl

If she lives alone but has 3 cats and 2 dogs, that her apartment is messy, dirty and smells like piss: we flee! We also run away if she feels perspiration but she is not coming back from sport, she stinks from the mouth, or her pussy smells like sanitary sewers just when we have just approached or her pubis is archi-hairy and she refuses to remedy.

 

12 / A close-minded girl

The kind of girl who refuses to think for herself (full of preconceived ideas), to question, to make efforts to get out of her comfort zone and to experiment things that are out of the ordinary: this kind of girl will probably not go very far in life so we do not want her on our side. We want women that pull us up!

 

13 / An unconscious girl

We flee if she is not aware of the risks of STDs and wants to fuck without a condom while she does not know us (one flees perhaps after fucked her), if she has already aborted while she is just 18 (one flees perhaps after fucked her), if she sucks with teeth, etc.

 

14 / A girl who has a weird social circle

If she has more guys than girls friends, let’s beware. If she does not like any of our relatives or if her friends are social cases, all shelter!

 

15 / If she misbehaves in public

If she burps in front of people, farts or if she is simply rude to servers: ouch.

 

16 / A girl who talks too much

The kind who talks too much but that has nothing to say, who cannot stand the silence then fills with crap music if necessary, or wants us to talk about shit making us uncomfortable : it pisses us off. We are not passing an interview and we have not to prove that we are “normal”.

 

17 / A girl who talks all the time of her ex

Or who compares us to other guys for free, is a pain in the ass. Especially if she brags or something like that.

 

18 / A girl who doesn’t know how to kiss nor fuck

Some girls, when they kiss, they put us very uncomfortable by blowing into our mouths. When they suck us, we feel nothing. And when we have sex with, we wonder if they are sleeping. Frankly, it does not really want.

 

19 / A girl who gives us a headache with her shitty principles

If the girl quickly gives us a headache with her fucking stupid principles, or her strict rules of life, or anything else that pisses us off, run away !!! There are people who assume being pains in the ass, that test us to see if they can go too far, etc. That kind of girl can go doing in with other guys!

 

20 / A girl who, one year ago, had a dick and no tits…

And without laughing, those who are operate, implants and everything from head to foot, or has a disproportionate body. Even worse if she is proud of her huuuuuuuuuuuuge breasts and exhibits them to rhyme.

 

Did I forget something ? And you, what is blocking you in a girl? Feel free to leave a comment.

 

PS = I’m not talking for a one night stand but for something more serious…