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How to tell her that you love her: how can you tell a girl that you love her?

How to tell her that you love her

How to tell her that you love her

This is the kind of question I have to deal with even if I do not agree with the implicit starting assumption. Indeed, why should one at all costs SAY to a girl that he is LOVE with her ? Well, we’ll talk about that later…

Anyway, the best way to declare your love to a woman is certainly not the one you think… so read this article to the end at the risk of living quite a lot of violent disillusions!

1st case: you are sure you love her but you never made out with her

“How can I confess my feelings? ” If you think like this way, already, you’re wrong. Indeed, this sentence communicates that having feelings is a burden that must be hidden or got rid of at all costs. Considering romantic relationships like this might not take you very far.

Think a little : “I fulfill my DECLARATION of taxes, I ADMIT that it is me who broke the vase of the drawing-room, I CONFESS to the priest that I have already stolen some donuts in a store.” But passion speaks a completely different language and refuses ABSOLUTELY to be associated with a faulty behavior (it is already too often the case in our shitty society).

In our crappy cultures, we like to confess, whether in church or to a shrink. Because one can not confess without a third part who will decide between punishing or consoling, etc. The one with whom one confesses has an enormous power over him and at the same time one frees oneself from a weight, a part of responsibility, a secret. DO YOU UNDERGROUND THE PRESSURE THAT YOU CAN PUT THE GIRL UNDER?

Ultimately, going to a girl and telling her “I love you, do you want to make out with me?” can work 1 time out of 100 in high school or college, in the playground or in bad romantic comedies that only sell dreams to the basic idiots. But it works very rarely BECAUSE:
1) Someone who is uncomfortable with his own desires and sexuality to the point of confessing them as mistakes is not attractive.
2) The relation of judgment and the handing over of power to the hands of the other is the opposite of the fusional relationship that makes the basic chick dreams.
3) Girls want a game set, they want to be seduced before they are asked to answer “yes” or “no”.

Yeah, I understand, confession is often a cry of the heart, an expression of despair, a kind of ultimatum: we feel stuck, we do not know what to do… but, it is not attractive.

For many people who know nothing about love or relationships, the declaration of love is nevertheless a necessary passage to kiss or sleep with a girl. But this is completely wrong and is even often counterproductive.

The first thing to realize is that landing and saying to someone “hello, can I talk to you ? I love you”, well, it’s shit. Yeah, you secretly hope she’ll answer you “I love you too. Let’s make love.” BUT DON’T HOPE TOO MUCH!

This is actually the best way to be rejected violently. If you take the girl off guard and you are not especially a popular handsome boy of the chest… the chick is probably not in the same state of mind as you (or even do not know you) and is likely to send you to Hell just to get rid of the discomfort you have set up with this way of doing like a dumb guy.

The little sweet words that you pass in class are no better than the statement out of nowhere that we just talked about. But the worst is still the love letter of 18 pages… the writing, when it touches on love, it is a cowardly way of proceeding. Even if, I grant you, the simple fact of doing it requieres a lot of courage, the girl will not respect you for that. It’s unfair, but it’s life! Notice, all life lessons are good to take.

There is a tacit rule in relationships but that will increase your chances of success it’s to indirectly communicate that you are interested in a girl.

Indeed, people emotionally masters create a bond with the people they appreciate and try to make evolve the relationship rather than imposing brutal and unexpected decisions.

To finish, remove at all costs from your mind that there you need to love a girl to kiss or to sleep with her. If she likes you or if you are just at the right time at the right place taking the right initiatives, it’s enough for most. Sorry to break the myth and disappoint the fucking romantic.

2nd case: you are in a couple with her and wish to declare your love for her to make her understand that your relationship is serious

First of all: « Are you really in a couple? » This is the first question to ask. It’s not because you kissed a girl once or you slept with her at the end of a party that you’re a couple… again, I’m sorry to disappoint the pseudo-poets of my balls.

Imagine if for her you are just sexfriend and you start to put pressure on her by declaring your love to a girl who just wanted to have fun, she might say « well, fuck off, he’s going to become a pot of glue if he’s in love… » It can give rise to priceless situations like “I love you.
– Oh shit. Well, then I think it’s better not to see each other anymore.
– Snif, snif!”

Well, if you’re nevertheless sure to be really in a couple with the chick: do tell a woman you love her only when you’re 100/100 sure she thinks the same as you. To try to see more clearly in her state of mind: feel the ground, sound her, and so on.

Ah… and never before knowing her for at least 3 months.

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How to become attractive and beautiful in the eyes of women?

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How to become attractive
Jean-Paul Sartre / Government Press Office (Israel)

According to popular belief, one should be beautiful and muscular to seduce women. Besides, I often hear that it is not possible, that I am a liar, that I can not be a coach in seduction and have slept with almost 300 women because I do not look like one of those handsome actors who play in American TV show… er, what the fuck?

Beauty is a prime quality to seduce FOR WOMEN. But for a man, there are many other criteria much more sought after by women: beauty is not essential to be a seducer. Examples are not lacking: in all periods there are famous examples of ugly seducers (Sartre, Gainsbourg, Neil Strauss, etc.)

Be aware that I planned to write an ebook about the look because a lot of love coachs advise you to turn into an androgynous duster to “have a good look and be beautiful.” What is of course a heresy: why not even wearing makeup like a stolen car in this case ? In the meantime, here are some tips to become more enticing and look more beautiful.

The health

The first thing I have to say is : take care of yourself.

Sleep enough not to have pulled traits and so that your body is in optimum conditions to seduce (piercing glance, a real desire to fuck, a good reaction time, etc.)

Eat properly to be more fit and have enough energy. Obviously, not being too fat will help you be more beautiful because slimming is, in France, the aesthetic standard. In order to have an improved morale and therefore a better modjo (which makes appear more beautiful), you can do a cure of omega 3 and vitamin D : it is safe, everyone is more or less deficient and it helps to be in shape.

Sport is fashionable. It allows to be hot thus to be beautiful. It gives you more confidence. So I recommend you read my article on bodybuilding and to go in for sports.

The style

Avoid having hairs that protrude from the ears and nose. Shave or mow your beard to make it clean : yeah, being “neat and tidy” helps to seduce!

Cutting and removing the black under your nails it is also very important: a woman does not want to take the risk of malaria by being fingered by a disguting pig.

Brush your teeth and make sure you have a good breath.

Perfume when you’re going to seduce.

I’ve already made an article about mistakes to avoid in your look to seduce, go read it!

If you have glasses, choose some that suits you (in doubt, go and choose with a girlfriend who did not friendzone you). Above all, do not take any hoping that it will be as discreet as possible… assume or use contact lenses, otherwise you risk looking like a poor frustrated computer scientist.

Also choose a haircut adapted to your face and to your morphology in general. Hair raised on the top will help, for example, a medium-sized person to look taller. It will lengthen his silhouette! A good choice of shoes can do the same thing…

Pay attention to your shoes: they must be clean and pretty. Women attach tremendous importance to shoes.

Obviously take clothes at your waist. There is not an unique dress style that seduces women… but the important thing is to have a style. Yeah, a working boy can seduce, a crunchy-granola too, a rapper too… on the other hand, do not dress like a nice virgin guy with a too big Pluto sweater and too tight pants that would highlight your fat ass.

I also wrote an article about the impact of clothing on women. Read it!

How to become attractive and beautiful in the eyes of women?

The truth is that the beauty of a man rests above all on what he releases. The more confidence you have, the more you will seduce. Confidence is a universal criterion of seduction. A good modjo too, it can work miracles.

Believe in yourself, believe that you can seduce pretty girls. This will influence your reality and it will help you greatly!

Social intelligence and just intelligence are all aphrodisiacs that will make you look more beautiful.

Being a leader also makes you look more handsome, taller, and so on. Talent too.

Preselection by other pretty women will also make you look more beautiful in the eyes of a woman.

Work on your body language, gesture, look, smile, voice, etc. I wrote an ebook to help you in this tedious task. Go take a look!

Self-confidence is the basis of seduction for men. Women dream of a confident man… we have never seen a chick saying she wants to marry a knee slack who has no balls. In fact, many marry losers, but it is not something that makes them dream!

Confidence is attractive because it is synonymous with virility. Women expect a man to be powerful and protective. That’s why, a guy who would not dare to approach or talk to a woman would immediately lose points.

Be imperfect but REAL! To put it another way: take the risk of being yourself. Assume your desires, say what you think and want. Even take the risk of displeasing! Think for yourself and create your own reality. It’s sexy!

Good luck!

PS = don’t forget you don’t need to be beautiful to seduce.

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What is an easy woman and where are the easiest girls?

In this article, I’ll tell you what an easy woman is. Then I will explain where to find easy women in France. Finally, we will see where are the easiest girls in the world …

1 / What is an easy woman?

An easy girl is a girl who is not afraid of sex because she has experience, who fucks when she wants to fuck, who does not wait 10 dates before making love with a man… in short, an easy woman is a woman who has a lot of sexual adventures.

To sum up, in the collective thought, an easy woman is :
– a chick who quickly sleeps with a man;
– a slightly liberated chick who does not feel the need to have a stable relationship before fucking.

Personally, I find it a shame to say that a man with the same characteristics would be a “Don Juan” (positive). Indeed, we are at the time of gender equality, so I do not appreciate that when a woman is called “easy” it’s generally connoted negatively. But this is another debate.

2/ Where to find easy women in France?

In France, not all girls are easy. But fortunately, there are tourists. In cities where there are a lot of tourists, you optimize your chances of meeting an easy girl. Especially the bars for backpackers.

Obviously, in libertine clubs, there are women who love sex and therefore are less difficult before sex (sometimes even you can fuck porn actresses there). They are not all nymphomaniacs but there are not many… so it’s cool!

Let’s not forget the young students in the faculties and the parties of medicines. In the parties of literary preparations or in the faculties of psychology, you can easily have fun. And in the nights like the “skins parties”, I do not even talk about it…

Finally, you can find on the dating sites women approaching the 40 who have been dumped by their husband and who regret not having experienced more when they were younger (this is often the case). These women generally say that they have no more time to lose and are not shy.

3 / Where are the easiest girls in the world?

Easiness of girls by country by Roosh V

For my part, I find that the latinas (Mexican, Peruvian, etc.) as well as the eastern European girls are easier. Pierre Woodman’s cock would confirm. As for Thailand, I also agree with the map…

Among the countries where women are easy, I would also have put Australia, New Zealand, Sweden and Norway (maybe even Canada). On the other hand, I do not know how what happens in African countries.

For the USA, I would say that in general, abroad, when you say that you are French, you can get girls quite easily. But in the United States, morals are not too liberated… so to kiss, yes, but to get laid it’s another story…

What do you think ?

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Phone game: how to give her an orgasm on the phone?

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Phone gameThe purpose of sleeping with the girl on the phone is to make her imagine that you make love together. But the human brain finds it difficult to differentiate between imagination and reality. I mean : by imagining you penetrating her or imagining her blowing you, she will feel positive emotions related to the sexual act and associate them with you.

You probably already know if you read me : a girl has sex more easily with a guy with whom she has already slept than with a stranger: practicing the sexual phone game will reduce the risk of encounter last minute resistances and will facilitate your fuckcloses .

But be careful, you cannot immediately address the subject of sex with a girl, you have to chat a little bit of everything and nothing before, so that she feels relaxed and at ease.

Then you’ll start asking her how she’s dressed, how’s the light, if she’s on her bed, if she’d like you to kiss her, and so on. If she gets into your game, then go farther and farther. Decrease the chances of blocking her by avoiding phrases such as “well, I’ll make you enjoy with my big dick!” Do not talk about things like sodomy before knowing if she likes this type of practice, at the risk of blocking her…

If you call the girl to speak to her orally, put everything in the tone of your voice to excite her. Suggest naughty things by whispering in her ear, etc.

If you want to warm her by SMS or Snapchat, use the writing to raise the temperature.

Here are some tips to write erotic texts (if you are lazy, you will find some texts ready to use to excite chicks in my ebook Secrets for seducing on the Internet).

And here I give you some tips for writing good sextos.

In any case, if you manage to make her come with your phone game, be aware that there is a good chance that she will agree to come directly to your house (or to make you come to her place) without having to go through the box “having a drink in town before”. This is a good way to take shortcuts!

Thanks to this technique, I often heard the same phrase coming back into the mouths of girls just before putting my dick in it : “Ah, this is the first time I’m in a guy’s bedoom in less than 3 minutes. Awesome, btw, your technique of approach, one has the impression to have already slept with you, to already know you in fact”.

In my Diary of a French PUA 2, you will find examples of conversations with girls where I have warmed them online with erotic texts to get them directly to my house and fuck them.

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The best taglines phrases for pickup

The best taglines phrases for pickup

The best taglines phrases for pickup

Many guys would like to know what is the perfect tagline for pickup. But the truth is that there is not ONE unique magic phrase to seduce all women: you have to adapt your opener to the context of your approach.

In this article we will see a few effective taglines that you can use on different fields (online, on the street, in a bar or a club…) I will also explain how to invent your own effective phrases.

The contextual approach is always the most effective but is not always possible

Generally speaking, whatever field you’re picking up on, using a ready-made tagline is only interesting when nothing original comes to your mind when you’re looking at the girl you want to approach . Because by approaching with something bad, you always have more than 0% chance of success (you have 0% chance of success if you do not approach). But, if you are inspired, obviously ALWAYS prefer a situational or contextual approach.

Indeed, when you use a tagline that amuses you, that this entry in matter also pleases the girl and that she is sure that it is not a phrase that you say to all the chicks… then you increase your chances to have pleasant conversation with her. Your opener is like the pilot episode of a TV show : if it is very bad, she will probably not want to watch the rest (except if she has nothing better to do or if she finds you very charming).

The power of conviction

When you approach on the street, in a bar or a club, the belief you put into your approach is important. Indeed, you can say a phrase that spontaneously comes to you to a girl and it can work ; but you can then say the same phrase to another girl and be thought of as a loser.

The difference, of course, lies in how you communicate non-verbally (a phrase that is said in a confident and natural way, sincere, perfectly suited to your internal state of the moment, etc.). Moreover, you’ve more chances of success if you are really in a very good mood or if you have a super modjo.

Tagline online (Tinder, Adopte, Happn, Lovoo, etc.) :

The first objective of a tagline is obviously to get an answer. The second objective is whether the girl is interested in going further with you or if she is just there to spend her time or reassure herself on her seductive power (in this case, you have to reframe her and run away).

As has been said, when you approach in real life, the most important is to go with a positive attitude and to communicate good things non-verbally. But you should not think in this way online : your alpha attitude can not appear through a poor written “hello beautiful” or “yo my deer, what’s up? »… Through a screen, the girl may well not understand that you are fun and assimilate you to the basic asshole.

By the way, I invite you to read this article to see the type of messages that most losers send to the chicks. I would like to add that the approach of sending “girl’s first name “ is absolutely bad. I know that many sites advise to send “Sophie! » or “Caroline!” But I think it’s a shit. So, I had to say, fucking crappy dating coachs, stop copying yourselves without testing!

So, before sending your message, you have to find a tagline really adapted and effective. I will now explain how.

You need to find a detail in the photos, interests or description of the girl and bounce on it. Obviously, you must turn your sentence so that you can easily orient the conversation then on sex. It goes without saying that ideally, you write without spelling mistakes. And do not forget to include her first name (or nickname) in the message to avoid that she thinks it is a copy/paste (most babes would eliminate a guy who would pick up automatically like a robot) .

Minimum one week after a first unanswered message, you can try to tickle the ego of the beautiful who ignores you and ask her for explanations. This makes react quite a lot because babes do not like to be thought of as impolite chicks (they pay attention to their social image). They will want to prove to you that they are not big sluts who are on the site only to accumulate the matches and let the guys hope without having any desire to make a meeting (although sometimes it is the case, they will always deny).

I invite you to read the last chance message in Secrets for seducing on the Internet : I often send it to the chicks who ignored me at first on Adopte or Tinder and I always manage to fuck some in the lot.

Taglines for bars or night clubs:

In night, I like direct, contextual and “what the fuck” approaches (but you do not have to look drunk for it to work). Go for daring and do not let women feel fear in you !

“Tonight is my birthday, we could kiss.”

“Did you wash your teeth before you coming?”

“Are you enjoying tonight?”

“Would you like to kiss me?”

You can also use situational which is obviously very effective to start a conversation. Examples: if she has a hat “be careful, the aliens have landed on your head”!

Taglines for the street pick up :

In the street, again, it is obviously awesome to use situational, to approach on something “unique” (or at least that you will describe as such when approaching the girl): a jewel, a garment, an original bag, her hair, her way of walking and so on. It must absolutely be something she chose… no “I swear, you’re really cute”, I think it is shit.

Be careful not to focus on obvious features; like “you’re so tall!”

I now give you a general tagline that you can use if you are not particularly inspired when approaching a girl “Hi, I saw you there, I wanted to come talkingto you because you seemed very nice. Are you from Lyon?”

Finally, know that, in the worst case, a simple “hi how are you?” in the street can change the whole course of your existence. If Einstein’s father had not approached his mother, we would not be there today in our vision of the world…

So do not hesitate to test and find out what fits your personality. Then, multiply the tests and do not forget to put conviction in there! 😉

For more informations, have a look to my formation Cyprine !

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How to pick up a girl

How to pick up a girl

Whether it’s for dating a girl in a nightclub, dating a stranger in the street, dating in the university, dating at the gym, by text, dating on social networks, dating your neighbor or even dating a girl who has a boyfriend… there are rules. Yes, there are things you should do and others you shouldn’t.

Obviously, I can not explain in a single article all that you need to know about female psychology and interpersonal communication, but I will talk about what seems to me inevitable for a good pick up.

This seems to be a job of general interest because most of the tips to seduce that one can easily find on the Internet are, in the best case, funny … and in the worst, dangerous!

So here are 20 tips to properly pick up a girl. I will also give you in this article some tracks, if you want to go further…

1/ The girl is interested

When you go to the field to pick up, assume that women might be interested in you to the point of taking your number, making an instant date with you or even to the point of sleeping with you quickly.

With such a state of mind, you will optimize your chances because you will probably have a more confident attitude (and therefore you’ll be more exciting for a woman).

You’re a winner, don’t forget the condoms !

2/ Validation

To put all the odds on your side when you are picking a woman up, you absolutely must not leave with the concern to seek her validation. You must not seek to please he at all costs. You are not a sex-starved guy who needs affection at all costs!

Worse, behaving like her subordinate and licking her ass would not be sexy. Do not laugh, many men think that to sleep with a woman, they must treat her like a princess.

Put it right in your head: you do not try to get anything from her (her pussy) because it is a mutual exchange of pleasure… or even, the beginning of a love story FOR BOTH.

When you pick a woman up, you simply give her a chance to make a (small) end of the way with you!

3/ The smile

Smiling (a bit, eh, not like a psychopath nor a happy imbecile) communicates and transmits positive emotions. And since emotions are contagious, it’s much better to approach with the smile than like if your cat had just died.

The thing to understand is that you must at all costs reassure the girl on your “normality” and that smiling is a good way to make her feel at ease.

4/ The eye contact

Look at the girl in the eyes when you talk, maintain the eye contact to connect to her. But look from time to time elsewhere so as not to be thought of as a weird guy. What you need to remember here is not to have a fleeting glance.

5/ Pay attention to your body language

In general, pay attention to your body language. But there would be too much to say then I suggest you to read my book on the subject.

6/ Do not approach in order to become her friend

I’ve even seen some coaches advising to say “let’s have a drink as friends” to get the number of a girl… with, of course, the intend to seduce her AFTER. But it’s a very bad idea!

I advise you rather to let her guess your intentions because, once fallen in the friendzone, it would be difficult to leave it. The girl must absolutely see in you a potential lover… and if she does not accept this condition, you should quickly next her because others would accept it.

Remember that you must be ready to lose a girl in order to win her without too many headaches. And that, to be a good pick up artist, you have to assume your sexuality.

7/ Take initiatives

It is extremely rare for a girl to take your number, even after a nice conversation. As a result, you must be psychologically ready to make proposals and take initiatives for the relation to move on.

Sometimes they will be delighted that you do it but just did not dare to talk about it for fear of being thought of as easy girls!

8/ Do not put too much pressure

No PUA leaves with 100% of the numbers of the girls approached with cold approaches. So do not put yourself under pressure and do not feel obliged to do too much to seduce chicks.

Forget the idea that a perfect approach surely seduces a girl and that if it does not work it’s because you have made a mistake. The truth is that the worst approach of the world can work and that the best can end in rejection.

There is no catch phrase that 100% works, then use a contextual opener (on its outfit) or practice the direct game. If you don’t know what to say to a woman, check my ebook 1000 sexy alpha funny lines.

9/ Do not try to be perfect

We often imagine that if we were perfect, all women would want us and it would be easy to get laid. But the truth is that a perfect pick up will not let your charm appear. A live concert has more charm than a recording on CD despite the imperfections, is not it? In seduction, it is the same.

Moreover, the perfect man would intimidate the women (IRL not in a movie) and most would not deserve him…

10/ Show your personality

When talking with women, you should not always agree with them. If you find a point of disagreement about something that is not very important (in a seductive context, you should not talk about religion, politics or anything like that), hold your positions and explain your point of view .

You will show that you are not her doggie, that you are not there to lick her sneakers, unlike most guys without balls who would be willing to say /do/pay anything in the hope to have sex one day. Respect yourself and women will respect you more!

How to pick up a girl

11/ Tease

Tease a woman to tell her you are not afraid of her and to prevent boredom from settling into conversation. Moreover, if she laughs with you (complicity) she will have more chances to sleep with you.

Be careful not to make strange remarks because if the woman laughs at you (contempt or embarrassment), it’ll be difficult to go further.

12/ Calm down

Most men speak quickly and move in all directions when they talk with a woman they want to seduce. Some love coaches advise to have a high energy level when approaching but I think this is a bad idea.

Let me explain: sex is better when you are comfortable… so, to consider it, it is necessary that both people are comfortable. So do not stress women by going at full speed.

13/ Not a job interview

Most guys who pick up ask bad questions by believing themselves to be very clever. But it is extremely cumbersome for a girl to answer the same predictable questions “Where are you coming from?”, “What do you do for a living ?”, “how old are you ?”, & C.

Instead, make her talk about her and what she loves… then focus the conversation on sex. Attention, do not boast… but do not act like a tight-ass either when talking about sex!

14/ You must stay the price

The girl must understand that you are a man who has the choice, that you do not put everything on her: you are a man who has a high value so she is not the only one who would respond positively to your seduction.

Stress the fact that something unique has made you want to come and talk to her and be interested in her.

15/ You know what you want

You must communicate that you are a cool and accommodating man but who knows what he wants. You are not a poor frustrated guy who does not assume and who doubts all the time.

You are not either a loser that does not dare to take action and that always does things half.

16/ Too nice, too stupid

Do not start paying drinks to girls you hardly know and who do not make much effort for you. Do not be the willing victim of bitches who have no desire to sleep with you but want you to pay them stuff…

17/ Persistence

You have to know how to differentiate a rejection from an objection. It is necessary to persist in case of objection (it can be a test of virility or she just don’t want to be thought of as an easy girl) but to give up in case of pure and simple rejection. The key to reacting well in case of rejection is not to show yourself affected.

18/ Respect the decision of the woman

Generally speaking, do not ask for permission before trying something… but stop without discussing if she refuses your seduction. Do not follow her in the street !!! You must not be charged with sexual harassment…

Never insult a woman who does not want you. You do not know what is the real reason for her refusal and I am sure she has lost more than you… so wish her a good day (or a good evening) and bye bye!

19/ No one-itis

Do not start making a love obsession about a girl who just kissed you in a club or who just gave you her number… It would be a serious beginner mistake that could make you very unhappy (false hope).

20/ Learn how to play with sexual tension

You must learn to feel and play with sexual tension. In addition, you must have some sense of timing so as not to miss the seductive shooting windows (usually I advise you to go rather too fast than too slowly).

The trick is that some girls will want to sleep with you one night but if you miss your chance by playing the fucking romantic dude, will go with another dude and forget you forever.

If you want to learn how to control sexual tension, I recommend my book The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations.

If you want more tips to get started in the world of pick up, I advise you The basics of seduction.

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How to understand women? (+ books you need to read)

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Understanding women … ahlala, how difficult it can be for a man! I have personally fumbled for several years before I see clear enough in it.

It must be admitted that men and women may be equal, we are not similar. There are big differences in terms of hormones, genetic heritage, worldview, education, customs and so on.

Understanding women seems important to me as it helps both to seduce (and sleep with women) and to live enriching relationships.

In this article, I will give you keys to better understand female psychology. Then, I will guide you to two books to read to better understand them (because 1000 words would not be enough).

1/ The fundamental error

One must not try to reason by pretending that women are men. When it comes to seduction, they think absolutely not the same way as us!

Even if we are attracted to the opposite sex (we are 80% attracted by a physical… they are by a social situation, a trust, etc.) Many men are wrong by trying to become more “beautiful” to seduce. It can not hurt, of course, but the main problem is not there. As long as they do not have a better understanding of what women are looking for in a relationship or an adventure, they will go blindly and lose a lot of time and energy.

In relationships, there are also a great deal of communication problems and misunderstandings between men and women: the fact that one does not necessarily put the same modalities on a “relationship” sometimes leads to big crises. To avoid this, I suggest you stop thinking that the other works exactly like you.

2/ Women adore emotions, men love logic:

There is nothing absolute in this rule but let’s say that, generally, women love romantic comedies more often than men. The emotions that the reading of a Fifty Shade of Gray transmits to them make them vibrate while this book leaves me unmoved.

This is why women sometimes give the impression of illogical behavior and their actions do not stick to their speech. A chick may very well not wanting to sleep with you but doing it anyway if you spend an evening together that turns her on like crazy! Likewise, she can let you undress her one day when she wants but she could say “no” if you try your luck another day (luckily, they go back to bed more easily then with a guy with whom they have already slept)…

Often women varies…

3/ Women protect their reputation

You must absolutely understand and accept that, in France, you live in a society where women pay great attention to their reputation.

A girl who sleeps with a lot of men, if this is known by bad people, will give her a reputation of bitch or whore: and it is not easy for a woman…

This reputation as an easy girl can excite guys, but they probably will not want a serious relationship with a girl reputed to be easy… as for the other girls, they will be the first to criticize a “competitor” to destroy her socially and keep the guys for them.

If you want to sleep easily with a lot of girls, you have to either provide them with an excuse such as “he’s handsome/he’s famous” or make the sexual act easy by taking initiatives or guarantee them discretion.

If a chick wants you but resists “for the principle”, it is probably she wants to make you good impression not to close the possibility of long relationship.

But be careful not to be too “soft” with a woman, at the risk of finishing in the friendzone and becoming unfuckable in her eyes.

4/ Women love sex

Many men are bad or selfish in bed (while believing to be very good). A girl can therefore forget some principles and sleep more easily with a man if she knows that she has no STD, that he will make her orgasm like a little crazy and that he will not judge her.

It must be understood that sexuality has a very important place in the life of a woman. They have much more erogenous zones than us, can feel more pleasure, etc.

Sorry to break the myth but women are not small fragile beings: so, if you fuck them, do not hesitate to fuck them very hard so that they are satisfied!

5/ Women choose (a little) and are very afraid of the rejection

To a lesser extent, women choose their partners… Indeed, in our French society, it is up to the man to take the first step. They only have to answer “yes” or “no”.

BUT they are not necessarily approached by men they like… and even if they are approached by guys they like, they may not necessarily say “yes” right away and easily for fear of being thought of as easy girl.

Similarly, it is tricky for them to send us too obvious approach invitations for fear of being thought of as a bitch who warms all the guys.

6/ Women are afraid of falling into an unstable man

The girls want to avoid at all costs guys who seem weird (for their own safety).

A man is usually much heavier and stronger than a woman: being in bed with this big beast is therefore something that requires a minimum of trust or confidence. Likewise, imagine that the guy becomes mad at the slightest annoyance and kills her? A woman is afraid of this kind of behavior and will therefore try to test you to avoid any problem.

For this, she can try to push you to the fault, use shit-tests or try to make you boast to eliminate you… do not fall into the trap!

7/ Every woman is different

You and your friends are men… but you are not completely alike with the same way of thinking about all subjects, is not it? Well, as far as women are concerned, it is the same thing… there are main lines that are common to most women, and then there are small details that differ.

For example, there are some who are more open-minded than others, others more pains in the ass than others, and so on.

8/ Homogamy

Men as women, we are sensitive to homogamy: we love what looks like us!

So understand that a Marseilles riffraff might find you absolutely not attractive if you are a kind of “classy boy” while you could easily seduce a well-born (but naughty) chick.

9/ Women master seduction

You only have to see the covers of women’s magazines… women, from an early age, see in seduction their main weapon to face life. But they can not shout it on all the roofs at the risk of being labeled “slut”.

So it’s not easy between the two sexes… and, in addition, some repressed lesbians like Marion Seclin feel compelled to dig even more the gap between men and women by preventing them from meeting in the street and creating an anxiety-filled climate of mistrust between us.

Fortunately I am convinced that we will not be able to hate each other because both sexes are irresistibly attracted to the another one and because every heterosexual woman keeps the hope of meeting “the man of his life » (just as men who believe a little to the charming princess).

10/ Two complete books to understand women

There would be a lot to say but I have already done 4 pages there… so I will stop and give you some tracks to go further (if you want to).

The two main books I have written to help you understand male and female behaviors are:
– Evopsy & Seduction which is an analysis of our love behaviors according to the theory of Evolution. Much of the feminine behavior and paradoxes that we experience in society can be explained by the history of our species and the adaptation of our primitive instincts to modern life. Go and see, I put at your disposal a free extract of the book!
– The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations that is a book that speaks a lot about the social pressure women feel and how to handle it to sleep with them (it is a work of general interest because they have as much desire as you). Again, I put you on line a free extract, have a look!

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How to dance in a club ?

How to dance in a clubYou probably know, I’m not a “dancer” in a club. I do not like dancing and even less when it’s not with a girl.

So, I’ll let more expert people give you video lessons to be a great dancer in a club.

How to dance in a club ?

 

Great lesson for dancing in clubs :

 

Dancing classes to seduce women and raise sexual tension :

 

John-David, the “seducer” in Secret Story :

 

See ya !

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10 of the best books of personal development

10 of the best books of personal developmentI am writing here for free the list of 10 books that have helped me the most in personal development. I am not going to speak of seduction or pick-up here, but more generally of books of personal development.

I planned to make another article or a video to talk about the 10 books that helped me most in seduction as well as books that helped me with my problem of anxiety attacks.

Let’s go !

 

 

 

1/ How to win friends and influence people, Dale Carnegie : the best book of personal development

2/ Unlimited power, Anthony Robbins : except the part about food, everything helped me

3/ The four agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz : easy to read and awesome

4/ Influence and manipulation, Robert Cialdini : good book

5/ Miracle Morning, Hal Elrod : very interesting even if not for me

6/ The subtle art of not giving a fuck, Mark Manson : I love this title

7/ The 4-hour work week, Tim Feriss : changed my life

8/ Nonviolent communication, Marshall B. Rosenberg : good message

9 & 10/ Do not exist in English, I’m so sorry…

And you, what books do you recommend ?

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Take my wife: Cuckolding, watching your partner with another man

CuckoldingOne of the things that surprised me the most when I started to frequent the libertine world was that many men had a fantasy of seeing me taking their wife.

The term “candaulism” and its English equivalent “cuckolding” were twenty times more searched on the Internet in 2016 than in 2004. But you shouldn’t think that this is a simple phenomenon of fashion since this libertine practice has existed since Cusaule (741 BC). Let’s say that the advent of the Internet has just facilitated the realization of this fantasy.

Definition

According to Wikipedia, Candaulism is a sexual practice related to the excitement of seeing your partner exposed to the looks of other men, or even having sex with another person.

In fact, this practice, which combines voyeurism and exhibitionism, is close to swinging. However, we are not talking here about swinging partners. In general, the guy who has this fantasy is not directly involved in the sexual act that takes place before his eyes. He only produces a personal satisfaction.

Do not think that the libertine man who practices candaulism with his wife does not love her. On the contrary, it is usually very loving men who, excited to observe the reaction of others in front of their partner, turn to this practice. Moreover, they are not jealous because they are sure that their wives love them in return.

The motivations of candaulism:

– The man is excited to see his partner making love with another (this is the fantasy of many guys to want to see their wife penetrated by another cock).
– He wants to see other bodies with his partner because it can revive the flame, especially after a few years of common life.
– He no longer feels able to fill his wife then want other men to deal with this task, because he loves her…
– He wants to better observe the enjoyment of his partner from the outside.
– He is proud to “lend” his spouse for a few hours or for an evening because it pleases him to see that his wife also excites other guys.
– He fills a homosexual fantasy by seeing another man naked and erect.
– He fulfills his desires as a voyeurist.
– Let’s specify that some men who love submission adore the fact of being humiliated by being cuckold. You have to respect that!

Attention, the voyeur man plays a big part in this practice, even if, a priori, he is only an interested observer:

– He participates in the choice of his wife’s partner(s).
– He often writes the script.
– He can interrupt the fuck at any time.

But you have to be careful because this practice can have negative effects on the couple. Indeed, if the lady is dissatisfied with the relationship and wants to take a lover, her partner opens the doors of adultery to her. For this to be beneficial to both people of the couple, that it spices up their sex life, they must:

– Have excellent communication.
– Both of them feel a sexual arousal in front of this opportunity.
– Make sure that they find good partners together.
– Determine the conditions of this adventure before even going to the act.
– Be comfortable with the nudity of a third.
– Determine if the experiment will be photographed or filmed.
– Protect against sexually transmitted infections.
– Talk after the experience, to evaluate the discomforts and the pleasure felt.

Other Warnings:

– The couple could live major conflicts once the fantasy realized, especially if the man is possessive. Jealousy could undermine the relationship after the act.
– The sex life of the couple can be transformed… for better or for worse.
– A certain resentment can be established if the woman accepts caresses or positions that she previously refused with her husband (sodomy, for example).
– The woman could be uncomfortable, facing her spouse, if she enjoys more than with him.
– The lovers of one evening might decide to see each other again in secret.
– The guest, for his part, may experience discomfort or even erectile difficulties due to the particular context.