Author: Fabrice Julien PUA

Because of their shyness and fear of rejection, many men make the mistake of behaving as if they were not interested. This is a mistake because a girl in this situation says to herself “either he doesn’t like me, whether he likes me but tried nothing so he has no balls.” What cuts her desire in both cases!

She must feel that you sexually want her. But you are no longer a kid, you no longer say “hi do you want to make out with me?” A good way to show your desire is to give her a REASON. If possible, something that suits you. It is a way to encourage her to behave that way with you.

Examples:
“You have guts. A woman who has guts, I find it sexy. ”
“You have a little naughty side… hmm I like it. ”
“Good point” when she does or says something that goes in the good sense…

Giving a reason is fundamental because you show you like her for what she does, not only for her physical appearance… and you leave some doubt by revealing only a partial interest: you do not say you like her totally but only her good sides, which means that you do not idealize her and would not hesitate to criticize her shortcomings.

In a nutshell: nothing is won in advance for her! This is key!

If you wish to make a compliment, the best is that you can withdraw it at any time, so it is double-edged. “You have such pretty hands, it would be perfect if you did not gnaw your fingernails!” To don’t be confused with a hateful sarcasm.

If you want to encourage them to adopt a certain attitude towards you or to put in her head that she wants to fuck you, you can test this type of compliments “I love your lips / your lipstick”; “They are beautiful, your heels. In addition, it’s sexy, heels.”

What I like to do also is to bend over chicks at times when they do not expect it. Then, if there are no backward movement, I Frenchkiss them. It is good, it makes them dream! And me, it makes me live a sympathetic little rise of adrenaline. Once, I went for a drink with an old friend I liked for a while. At the end of our meeting, we said goodbye. I bent over as if to say goodbye normally but I kissed her on the mouth. And then I kissed her more languidly. We have not slept together after but it’s always something taken on life. You must be a little bit crazy life !!!

She must feel that you want her sexually.

A good way to show your desire is to give a REASON. If possible, choose something that suits you.

Giving a reason is fundamental because you show you like her for what she does, not only for her physical appearance.

Make double-edged compliments, then pretend you have no tact if she is outraged. It’s funny !

Do not communicate you love her entierely but only her good sides, which means that you do not idealize her and would not hesitate to criticize her shortcomings. Nothing is beforehand won for her!

Do not hesitate to go for a kiss when you feel like it, even if it’s a bit out of context.

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

One thing that helped me the most to become a “professional sexualizator” is to set myself little challenges.

In fact, it really amuses me to say or do daring things, sometimes coming out of nowhere. Sometimes it’s the fact of putting the foot in it that makes me laugh the most.

By doing that, I was pleasantly surprised to find out that the range of possibilities is actually much bigger than what I thought: the more I dared to try things, the more I had success. Sometimes in unlikely situations, simply because I had dared to try something to provoke!

After all, didn’t God say, “Ask and you shall receive?”

The reactions of the girls in front of my boldness were so legendary that it was very fun. Sometimes I had fun, other times, I had fun and I had sex. My mindset was that the session would be funny anyway. This is a really positive vibe! And being positive, it is important to seduce.

I advise you to have fun to put yourself small challenges ie to say or do at least one bold thing during your pick up sessions and your dates.

Do it for fun and it will be better! I rarely was in danger because of my attitude. In fact, we can go very far without danger. And oddly, the only time it was hard for my ass, I had not done much for. I just fell on bad clients (crazy).

You can start small, to take the snap, and then move further and further! You will find that the nerves pay a lot in life (in seduction but also in many other areas).

Have fun and bet on humor. It can be enjoyable if you do not take yourself too seriously and enjoy the moment with the girl. Play on the words, misunderstandings, allusions, associations of ideas and dared queries. Try, dare things, be a tease! Gradually, you’ll learn how to calibrate. But, especially in the beginning, this is not the most important. The most important is to get you out of your comfort zone and get away with your limiting beliefs. For example, in night clubs, realize that absolutely nothing can prevent you from asking a girl with who there’s a good feeling to show you her breasts. I did this several times and some did. The others were shocked, too bad for them !

And dare to assume sexualization. It is easy to lose that goal of sight during a date because it is much easier to remain inactive fingers crossed waiting for the job to be done on its own… but you’re not on the field to twiddle your thumbs!

So yes, in an ideal world, the girls would do half the job. They would invite you in one way or another to dare. But in real life, they are even more timid and shy than you. And besides being  scared, they think it is a good idea for testing a guy to let him do to see if he dares to take initiatives. That’s really all good for them!

So: dare to take initiatives, you have nothing to lose !!!

 

Fucking romantics

If you think spending a night lying next to her on a bed, without trying anything, will make you score points in the eyes of a woman… you’re wrong. It’s a just something that will make you lose the woman’s sexual interest for you. The girls want you to try, they even await it from you and would be surprised otherwise.

Otherwise, they may:
– Think you are gay;
– Think that you do not have balls;
– Think you do not like them.

My brother was invited by a girl he liked. She proposed him to go watching the “DVD” in her room. Result? He tried nothing so they really watched a DVD and she has never invited him again. He still has regrets. MY OWN BROTHER ACTED LIKE A PUSSY, FUCK!

When I was younger, a girl came at my place. We liked each other but I have not tried anything once in bed, although we had spent a nice evening. Result? She left during the night with a fake excuse “my brother is in the hospital, I have got to go.” She never came back to see me. We never fucked. What a lot of regrets! Once in the bed of a bitch, generally just a spark is enough to ignite her. She, meanwhile, had no problem finding another dick…

Once, the most beautiful girl of my prom point blank said “kiss me.” I was a bit unsettled, I wanted to play the hard to get so I said no. Then I have not stopped hoping that she asks me again. But it never happened… what a surprise!

Another time, a little blonde came for the tea at my place. We talked a lot side by side on the couch and then she left. From home, she sent me an email asking me if I was gay. I said no. She then asked if I liked her. I said yes. She finally asked me why I had tried nothing. I said “I do not know.” It’s true that it was very stupid. But she has not came back to me so far… she said that I had missed my chance. So they expect us to try something!

My current policy is to never have regrets. All these mishaps have vaccinated me… One day, I got sick and bowl, and I decided to have a preventive attitude. Since that day, I excessively sexualize my interactions and I do not regret it!

If you do not want to lose a girl’s interest, you should show your balls!

You must dare sexualization : it’s your alpha male mission!

You have to try something, and too early is better than too late!

You must absolutely avoid having remorse!

Even if the battle is already lost, try to have no regrets!

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

You come to understand that you are not a socially maladjusted perverse, even if you often think about sex and you wanna make love.

You’re just a normal human being! And if you manage to assume that part of you… then you’re even more honest than the average.

But when it comes to sex : women are not sure what to think either. They receive a lot of conflicting information… and society strongly encourages them to preserve their reputation! They want therefore to feel comfortable before agreeing to talk about sex.

Most human beings are struggling to think for themselves, so the best way I found to decomplex women, is to be the first one to assume. Besides, it really changes them : I guess that currently, the silliest and the most naive… are men! I effectively stand out by showing my balls !!!

Assume that sex is something good.

Assume that you have desires, they have desires too, and this is normal and natural!

Once you assume all this, your interaction naturally becomes sexual: sexualization will be much easier.

Behaving as if what we do was normal helps in life.

It’s just that sometimes your constructive reality “sex is something good” will come up against very negative beliefs like “only whores sleep on the first date” or “any guy who talks about sex is a sex-starved and must be stoned. “

You should know that some girls have big problems with sex, because of trauma in their childhood, a crappy education, sub-cultures they are drinking, etc. In fact, we don’t give a shit about the reasons! And we don’t give a shit about shocking them or shaking their reality. It will be good for them, those little virgins !!!

We have nothing to lose, it just means that this girl is not an option … and even if in a parallel reality we had sex with her, it is almost certain that it would have been bad!

What I mean is that being afraid of a negative reaction, is being afraid of something that does not yet exist… in addition, the fact of being afraid, being stressed, increases chances to qualify for a negative reaction (always those damn contagious emotions at work). Being afraid of something is often an involuntary way to provoke it, that’s why stress is your enemy!

Put things into perspective! Sexualization is only an invitation. And your reality is not less real than those of the tight ass… but your belief will at least have the merit of helping you have sex.

Your frame (= reality) may then be accepted or rejected by the girl in front of you. But if you are respectful in your approach, then the girls who react hysterically would be wrong: it would simply show that they have a big problem in their little head.

And even then, basically, it’s not you who are rejected but only your invitation to fun. So do not give too much importance to the fact of having or not their approval.

With practice, you will find that assuming your intentions, even if this could mean some negative reactions, will bring you much more success than trying to bias by not assuming (or only assuming half way). Not only is it much healthier to maintain an honest relationship, but in addition, it allows to sort among women.

You will also win because you will have less headache with women by quickly sexualizing the interaction : you avoid misunderstandings. You also avoid losing hours with a girl who will eventually tell you she prefers to wait for marriage before blowing you.

NB: You can use Internet to easier dare sexualization at first, but remember to be the same one than online during the real date.

Although you often think about sex and you want to make love, you are not a socially maladjusted perverse.

You’re just a normal human being! And if you can assume, then, you are more honest than the average.

Women are encouraged by the society to preserve their sexual reputation. They need to feel comfortable before talking about sex.

The best way I found to decomplex women, is to be the first to assume.

We don’t give a shit about negative reactions because, ultimately, in your list of conquests, remain only those who have responded positively.

Assuming your intentions, despite some inevitable negative reactions, will bring you much more success than trying to bias by not assuming.

Sort your targets upstream and meet those who accept your sexual interaction : you will be happy because you will have less headaches.

NB: You can use Internet to easier dare sexualization at first, but remember to be the same during the date than online.

If you want, you can read my article “Can we talk about ass in front of chicks?”

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

When you have integrated it is not inappropriate to talk about sex with a woman, you have avoided the first trap.

A guy who would think otherwise and who would feel “perverse”, “weird” or “vicious” just because he addresses this issue would be irrevocably damned…

If you were, the image that you’d return to those in front of you would be the image of an unsteady, or even unhealthy, man.

The tone to adopt, on the contrary, is the one of a guy who knows that these things are natural and especially who is used to talk with women without appearing embarrassed.

Why would a woman react negatively if your relaxed attitude shows that she is certainly not the first one with who you approach the subject so freely? Sometimes I like to play the surprise when a woman is shocked by my freedom of speech. I of course expect it, but this type of reaction is so far from my reality that I can communicate that in our bubble, a hostile reaction to sex would be abnormal.

This is a basic concept of psychology that is at work in this phenomenon. The reaction of the person in front of you will be influenced by the way you start the topic. In other words, your fluency prevents she blocks, even if the idea to discuss sexuality with a man she barely knows makes her kinda comfortable.

Approach this without asking permission. And that’s all. There is nothing simpler. Of course, do not make me say what I did not say: I do not ask you to talk about “her wet pussy” in the first few seconds of interaction.

 

Concerning the perfect transition to the topic, in general, I am simple. I ask intrusive questions teasingly or I speak of anything else but use my body to warm her. But, you can show yourself a little more original and improvise, for example, a game of questions and answers increasingly daring. The possibilities are endless in this domain.

If you exceed a certain limit, you actually will risk appearing as a pervert. Do not indulge yourself in too searched details. Avoid vulgarity and too technical terms.

“The last big bitch I fucked loved getting her rectum fingered. “

Yes, women together can sometimes be harder than many would believe when they talk about sex. Among men, we do not take a lot of precautions either, most of the time. But when the conversation takes place between a man and a woman, the rules are slightly different.

You can’t say “hello darling, do you want my cock?” Until you have already removed barriers.

Initially, you will always have to respect a form of modesty to don’t appear socially maladjusted. Again, it is a matter of social intelligence and image. I concede that it is not very reliable because a great guy could very well speak about sex awkwardly while a big mental patient could easily hide his cards. Anyway, we will not change the world…

It sucks, I know, but you have to accept the rules if you want to play.

It is not inappropriate to talk about sex with a woman.

The tone adopted is the one of a guy who knows that these things are natural and especially who is used to talk about sex with women…

Approach this without asking permission. There is nothing simpler.

Initially, you will always respect a form of modesty to don’t appear socially maladjusted.

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

One of the first reasons why guys are afraid of sexualization is that they are afraid of being thought of as perverse.

It is well known, when we talk about sex, we have a big problem even especially if we talk in a crude way.

But  what the story does not say is that chicks fucking talk about sex too. And often in an even more obscene way than us, poor naive.

It is a fact that I had already denounced in the (free) introduction of The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations “are women the only ones who have the right to be interested in seduction?”

Now, to be sexual, we must agree to take the risk that some tight ass call us perverts. And even, it would be nice to make fun of them: they are tight ass, why are they proud of that, these cunts?

Constructive belief is that you are a sexed human being and you are talking to other sexed human beings: sexual attraction is natural. So you need to naturally express this energy for it to be well received.

To help you accepting the fact that women think about sex as much or even more than us, I had fun to photograph the covers of various women’s magazines hanging in my doctor’s waiting room when I have been sick.

You are aware, of course, that girls are addicted to this kind of literature. These books say so much about their actual state of mind.

Hypocrites who do not even know why they are hypocrite, go to Hell ! It would be nice that people start to REALLY think for themselves…

Illustrations 

So, women are the only ones who have the right to talk about sex?

Seriously, if they like it and so do we, why this puritanism? Why am I thought of as a pervert just because I blog about gender relationships? Yet I speak (kinda) respectfully…

It is because of social pressure! You’ll have to get to detach yourself from the eyes of others to achieve action. To get to do what you really want to do, and what the other who enrage would want to do too.

In Les particules élémentaires, another passage struck me. Houellebecq speaks of an attractive character in these words: “His extraordinary charisma had its roots in a profound simplicity, authentic personal conviction. He said in all circumstances nearly exactly what he thought – and among his opponents, entangled in the obstacles and limitations resulting from outdated ideologies, such simplicity was devastating.”

Free yourself from the prison of glass that separates you from an assumed and uninhibited sexuality! Open your mind and you will attract more open people…

Stop being afraid of being thought of as perverts!

Women often talk about sex in an harder way than us!

For being sexual, we must accept to take the risk that some tight ass call us perverts. And besides, it would be nice to make fun of them for that.

Constructive belief is that you are a sexual being and you are talking to other sexed human beings: sexual attraction is natural. This energy must be expressed naturally to be welcomed.

You’ll have to detach yourself from the eyes of others to achieve action. To get to do what you really want to do, and what the other who enrage would want to do too.

Free yourself from the prison of glass that separates you from an assumed and uninhibited sexuality. Open your mind and you will attract more open-minded people…

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

Definition

Sexualization is creating a sexual atmosphere, while remaining fun and correct. It is tempting the woman you pick up to get wet for you. It is running as a potential lover, not as a new sexless best friend and even less as a platonic lover. It’s making the girl understand you’re OK to fuck her.

The idea is to grow feelings of intimacy and physical comfort. Sexualization is what makes a girl see in you a potential lover, not one more guy with who nothing will happen. It will provoke, stir her desire and urge to play with you. The more a girl will come into your game, the more you can accentuate the sexualization.

There are several types of sexualization: this can be done through words and/or the body.

There are also different degrees, sometimes it’s more or less ambiguous, but the goal remains the same: creating attraction, creating a warm climate between you, to let her imagine naughty situations, be mischievous to create an impression of complicity, etc.

It is through the sexualization it becomes possible to sleep at the first date and to quickly kiss girls in clubs.

On the other hand, if shitty phrases like “I like you a lot, but I prefer that we stay friends…” come back too often in your life, it’s very likely that you do not sexualize enough… or not at the right time. In short, you have a problem with that!

This was only an appetizer… we will study the sexualization in details in this ebook!

Sexualization is running as a potential lover.

This is tempting her, communicating your desire to give her orgasms!

 

Lack of sexualization

Sexualisation also serves to clarify the situation between you and the girls. The faster you will clarify the context, the more you avoid the risk of landing in the Friendzone: the worst shame for a player is to pick up a girl who would not understand it and would see just a friend in him.

If you are doing pickup in any serious way, sexualizing should be your priority!

Lack of sexualisation is the syndrome of the too “nice” guy afraid to show his desire (even if he may very well be mean and not knowing sexualization : the result would be the same (except if he really is an asshole and women do not even want him as a friend)).

Most men having trouble seducing introduce themselves in an asexually way. Typically, the main symptoms are:
– Obvious lack of confidence;
– Nervousness glaring in their body language in the presence of a beautiful woman;
– Inability to talk about sex with women (or very strangely);
– No sense of timing;
– Do not recognize the sexual tension when they talk to a girl and dissipate it;
– Too serious / distant / cold;
– Never touch chicks;
– Do not (or badly) communicate their desire: for example, they try to take the hand of the girl and to kiss her without any prior contact or then verbalize their desire just like when they were kids (by idealizing it).

We will come back throughout this ebook on it: talking about sex, it’s natural. This is also one of the favorite topics of conversation of women. This subject becomes annoying only when you talk about it in an embarrassed way (because emotions are contagious).

So the key is your attitude!

However, I understand some fears: sex is the subject that typically scares chicks if it is not properly done (besides, even if you do it right, this topic will still make some psychorigid flee). There is also the risk of being called a pervert stalker by a rabid an extremist feminist…

In fact, many men are paralyzed by the fear of what women might think. This even cut their balls!

That’s because there is a growing asexualisation of males, mainly due to the prevailing hypocrisy in our society… that’s why we must treat this matter seriously!

Sexualization, it’s exciting…

Polite indifference, it’s over…

It is very important to clarify the situation between girls and you!

For a seducer, ending up unwittingly in a Friendzone is a shame!

The lack of sexualisation is the syndrome of the “nice guy”…

You must beef up your game: dare to touch, talk about sex, etc.

Look at what Emily Ratajkowsky wrote on her Instagram. And she’s right.

So, do not hesitate to read her essay here.

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization

Friends, just friends

Many are unhappy and disrupted by questions like “Does she like me? Is there some way with her? Why doesn’t she suck my cock greedily?”

They are people who are going to torture themselves by looking for hidden meanings in what women say. “Did she want to get a message across when talking about her last relationship?”; “What the hell does she find to this guy she often talks about? Are they together?”; “What did she mean when she said I was cute? “

Many boys, facing those questions, took their courage in their hands and asked the elected of their heart “wanna make out with me?” They then received as an answer: “No. I prefer that we stay just friends.”

It has broken them.

 

Bad memories

In Les particules élémentaires, Houellebecq tells the story of a guy who did not dare to kiss the most beautiful girl of his class, while he hung out with her all the time. He liked the girl very much, and it seemed mutual. But one day the damsel got tired of his inaction and they lost touch. Throughout his life, the character wondered what would have happened if he had dared to try something. This traumatic experience has affected his whole life and was followed by a shitty love life. This sentence of the book struck me: “When I was seventeen I never imagined that life is so short, possibilities so brief.”

It reminds me a dirty experience I myself have lived… a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away.

I poked a girl on Facebook and it turned out that we had a friend in common. We have long talked online (I thought we were flirting), then we met at a party, in the presence of the common friend (that I would have gladly fucked too).

After that night, she continued to talk to me on the chat, so I figured she was interested and have proposed to meet again: she invited me to the carnival, an afternoon with her friends. Then we saw each other in a platonic way.

But a blessed night, I had invited her to a party I had organized to celebrate I-don’t-remember-what and we went clubbing. On the dance floor, she stuck her ass against my cock, moving it with the music. I tried to say something in her ear but she stepped back making large gestures and shouting “NO”. She thought that I had tried to kiss her.

One hour later, she kissed enthusiastically a guy I did not know but one of my friends had brought to the party. Our common friend also kissed a stranger on the dance floor. Seeing this, and not having the ability to find a girl, I was pissed off and got back to my place, grumbling like a bastard.

But the two girls had to sleep at my place because they lived outside of the city. Then, about 5pm, they rang the doorbell, hopeful. I did not open and told them to go fuck themselves. That day, I decided I had to master the game to no longer live so bad adventures. That day, I reconciled with my balls.

Motivated by rage of humiliation, I started my (re)build myself. Two years later, I saw this bitch in a bar. She was with her boyfriend, a guy with no apparent virility. I used our old “friendship” to isolate and told her shit for an hour before french kissing her, she was surprised. But made no downward movement.

After that, I went to tell her guy what we just did and I left. Yeah, it wasn’t a good idea to piss me off!

All that to say that being a friend of women, this is crap. I know how it can make a man suffer. That is why I am writing this ebook today: I want to help men who are in this hard situation.

 

Friendzone and lack of sexualization

The term “Friendzone” gradually became a name, sometimes declined in verb. The concept even has its own Wikipedia page. This encyclopedia says it is a “social situation where a person wants to have a romantic or sexual relationship with another person who wishes to maintain a friendly relationship.”

Except in real life, the situation is a bit more complex than that.

Some see it as “a way of describing this difficult time when you realize that the person you like is absolutely not interested.”

For others, it is an admission of the failure of a man who allegedly tried to seduce a woman or to have sex with her.

Women are tempted to see in it a “means used by men to justify their sense of entitlement over women. They imagine that if they are nice with a woman, women are obliged to show a certain interest to them.”

Some suggest that this term implies a sense of victimization and injustice and is « full of aggression and resentment. [That] it is often used to say “she hurt me and unjustly rejected me.” »

Men therefore associate this term to failure and disillusionment. Women to animosity and antagonism.

When guys talk about their experiences, all evoke a more or less a similar sense of disappointment that I experienced in the story I just told you. However, not all react constructively.

One of the men confessed on the Internet that he knew the girl had a boyfriend, but he continued to hang out with her because she was “very pretty and he had no respect for himself”. One night, he said it was time to play cards on the table and confessed his feelings. The girl then told him she was flattered, but she did not had this kind of sentiment for him. “She still invited me to her place. We slept in the same bed, but nothing happened. When I think back on this night, I want to yell at my old me : Go home! Respect Yourself, a little bit!”

As for women, they tell some experiences that roughly follow the pattern described: friends with a man until the day he admits feeling an attraction to them – often without warning (the guy yet probably thought he had sexualized). And when they express their refusal to go further, the situation is getting worse: their friend often gets angry against them for sending conflicting signals or says he never wants to see them again.

Interesting : A bisexual told me she often had had Friendzone experiences with her straight friends, but never with her lesbians and bisexuals friends. A gay friend also proudly told me that he had never been Friendzoned : “All my gay friends are my ex.”

Almost all the people I’ve talked to believe, however, that the male-female friendship can exist. But then, how do we fall into the Friendzone?

This is the consequence of a lack of sexualization. To have an affair with a woman, she must want you physically. She must have a sexual attraction for you. And it does not depends on your physical appearance ! No need to be a very tanned and muscular model to seduce a woman. On the other hand, your behavior and attitudes are critical (the fact you’re ready to do anything just for tasting her pussy is, for example, a bad mindset).

We will see in detail in this ebook how and why to sexualize. This will help my regular readers to no longer naively be relegated in the Friendzone.

Extract from : Friendzone & Sexualization