Today we will see how to effectively getting ready for a rendez-vous, without overdoing it! I’ll tell you how I do, because it works most of the time. There are three aspects to the preparation: physical, mental and material!
Physically
– Mowing the beard (or shave it). Seriously, it is useless to take care of your beard for an hour, especially if it’s in order to look like a guy who does not care for his beard.
– Then: mowing pubic hair if they are too long. A tip: do it above your toilets.
– Cut your nails and remove any black dirt encrusted below, it’s important if you want to finger her in an hygienic way. Seriously, otherwise, a shame and does not make women want to see the rest (your sausage).
– It’s time to take a shower especially if you have transpired during the day, before the date.
– Wash your hair if necessary, if they are oily. Wash your teeth so you won’t stink.
– Wear a classy shirt or t-shit/polo, it’s not worth suiting up. It can be a ground to reject you, not sticking to the image that was given to the girl: if one plays the cool guy, do not come dressed up like a penguin. You have to value yourself but remain comfortable in your clothes. Avoid clothes that have the scriptures or big logos, especially in your back. And dirty underwear.
– I prefer eans unless I come directly from work (case of emergency) and I am wearing a suit, but in this case, I explain…
– It’s not worth testing 4 outfits especially if it is to finally go back to the first. This is the stress that you would make you do that… but, stress is your enemy in seduction. Be careful in choosing shoes (check that they are in good condition and not grimey) and belt. Never wear white socks with dark shoes.
– Then your hair: Again, like with the beard, do not spend three hours in front of the glass like a narcissist.
– Sprinkle A LITTLE perfume.
– No need to spend an hour in front of the mirror waring makeup if you are not a chick. See if you have no boogers, hair protruding from the nose and ears or your fly open…
– No need to do pushups in order to look muscular.
– No need to prepare 2 hours before the date, even if she has to wait 5 minutes, it’s not a problem. It’s happened to me to get completely drunk to a date in my youth and I fucked the girl so since I relativize. The purpose of a first date is not to be perfect but to have a good attitude, to be relaxed and to communicate it.
Mentally
It is not worth repeating 150 times your openers in front of a mirror. It will not change your inner game, anyway. Do not internally replay the possible scenarios, especially if it is to imagine the worst!
It is not worth preparing a list of conversation topics to get into. You can quickly check her interests on her Facebook profile if it reassures you but remember that the goal is to make her speak of her and of what she likes. So finally you’ll just have to get comfortable, to tease her a little and show your interest. But, if she notices that you have stalked her, it will not be good…
You must go for a result at least a kiss on the mouth, in the best case a fuck. This winner mindset will make you sexualizing a little bit the conversation instead of staying in your abstinent comfort zone. If you really think it would not work, do not attempt the kiss. But make sure it’s not an excuse that you imagined on the moment (and will regret later) to reassure you by saying that if you try to kiss her, you would frighten her and not see her again. Do not be silly, chicks know very well why they accept a date. Only stupids and hypocrites say otherwise. This requires that your friend understands that this is a date and not an appointment to become best friends… never agree to go into that kind of frame! The forced Friendzone does not exist for sexual men! Besides, a guy who does not dare to take initiatives rarely see chicks again!
Materially
If she comes to your place directly or if you plan to take her home:
– Remove the paper towel from beside the bed. Do you love masturbation so much ?
– Prepare the bed (at least pull the sheet)
– Remove the affairs of another girl that could still be in your bed
– Do not leave too icky stuff lying around, do not let a mountain of dishes (at worst even if she ultimately does not come, it will be done)
– Always have something to drink at home. And a card game or another trick to get comfortable, if necessary
– Take two or three condoms in the back pocket of your trousers or then place them under the bed but do not let them prominently on the bedside table, in mode “YOU SEE, I KNEW THAT I WAS GOING TO SCREW YOU AHAHAH”
– Do not bring a bouquet of flowers
– Have some cash, but do not pay for everything or then say “you will pay the next time/next glass”
– Regarding the choice of the place, if you go to a neutral place before going home: avoid the restaurant, cinema, and these clichés stuff. I know you read a lot on the Internet that it is better to go to a place where you know many people because of social proof… but I prefer avoiding it, to do not be constantly interrupted and to be able to focus on my target. When I have to date a girl outside, I often choose places I know with a friendly atmosphere, pretty quiet places.
Good luck !