I want to write an article to clarify the situation to my readers about female orgasms. What to think? What to expect ? What should you know? Not that I am God and that I know everything, but I do have some experience so I’ll tell you what I observed. Feel free to leave a comment to flesh this knowledge!
1/ I start with a typology of women reaching orgasm by the time they need:
A. There’s those who enjoy fast
It is a case not unusual but this is not the most common, either. I often encountered this case among virgins I had trained to enjoy. You lick three minutes or you penetrate during five and they enjoy. Chicks must know how to orgasm, be comfortable and have some knowledge of what they like and how. These (lucky) girls can have a lot of orgasms during a normal sexual intercourse, like 3 or 4 and up to 7 or 8.
Orgasms are not necessarily less powerful than for those who take longer to enjoy. It actually depends on several factors like their mood, their health, fatigue, etc. But let’s remember that in good conditions: they can have very huge orgasms quickly if enough excited! Love can help to orgasm too.
They may not enjoy at all if the guy is really bad. It was the case of Virginie with another dude than me… he a little discouraged her. The poor girl ! In short, so it does not happen to you: cf. The awesome lover’s manual
B. Those who enjoy after an average time
It is the most common case I meet. These girls need between 10 and 20 minutes of cunnilingus to come.
There are a lot of women who say they dislike cunnilingus but when I eat them out, they enjoy in a quarter of an hour: the problem is that most guys do not know how to lick. (cf. The awesome lover’s manual)
C. Those who take a long time to enjoy
Chicks who have difficulties to enjoy often struggle with all their partners. I know you would think it’s because I’m bad in bed but I banged enough chicks and I made enjoy more or less 90% of them so I know what I’m talking about. Sometimes it’s not your fault: they are just “hard to come.”
I had to lick from 30 minutes to 1 hour and 30 minutes so they enjoy. These girls will love you for taking the trouble for them and will surely thank you with a good blowjob. Also, if you see them, they will need less and less time to “let it go.”
D. Those who are unable to let themselves go enough to exult
Sex is still good for them. But they fail to “let it go”. I do not voluntarily speak here of girls who cannot have orgasms but I’m talking about girls who could have but do not (99% of women who never orgasmed).
Among those who have never enjoyed despite an active sex life:
– A man never gave them enough pleasure;
– Or (and this is most often the case) they have a mental block or fear of the unknown (they do not know what awaits them if they stop controlling). Typically, these are women who like to be in control (not especially in bed but in their everyday life).
They are never “really” satisfied, they constantly want more. They are a little discouraged, some are wondering if they have a problem. They need YOU !!!
Helping them let it go is difficult. But do not drop the case. Find out how she likes it the most, bring her to the brink of orgasm (her limit) and talk to her, reassure her, encourage her, what do I know… I unlocked a few like that, with perseverance and understanding. Of course, I had put them before in a comfortable position, like on a bed, not on a washing machine !!! Sometimes you will have to see the girl several times before you succeeding.
E. Those who ejaculate
I have not met a lot of them. But there could be more than that there are, if women knew how to make themselves cum (there is a big unexplored potential of pleasure). These women enjoy easily and quickly, can have many orgasms in a row (like 15), and the feelings are better than in conventional orgasms. I’m not telling shit, I saw it with my own eyes. A woman who ejaculates begins to rediscover her whole sex life…
On the other hand, after 15 orgasms, they are exhausted and spend a good night!
2/ I continue with a typology of the orgasms they reach :
A. The orgasm that rises suddenly and orgasm rising slowly. It depends on how she is taken, and on her state of mind.
B. The light orgasm, orgasm and moderate powerful orgasm. It depends on how she is taken, and on her mindset.
C. The orgasm that fills and orgasm that makes her want to have more. We, men, have a tendency to be emptied after an orgasm but with women it’s different: some are knock-out and cannot continue sex, others are boosted and are drugged until they fall asleep (or their legs do not support them anymore). In some women the clitoris is sometimes too sensitive after orgasm or during the first stimuli: fortunately, it doesn’t last!
D. Multiple orgasms, continuous orgasms, brief orgasms: better a brief orgasm than no orgasm at all. But continuous orgasms or multiple orgasms are obviously better. For this, you must keep up and the girl must be psychologically and physiologically adapted to that too.
E. The G spot, the clitoris, the deep spot…
I read a lot of studies on the questions: vaginal or clitoral women? What I think it’s that this is more or less nonsensical: the clitoris and the G-sport correspond in fact to the same thing. They are the two ends of the same pleasure center.
Most of orgasms are actually a mixture of both. I like licking/fingering, it’s the ultimate combo. But what is most stimulating and helped her releaseing? Some are easier to enjoy by one side than by the other. Often you’ll need to do both if you do not want to spend the day there…
Apparently the feeling of the orgasms is different too. There’s not necessarily any that is better, it depends on people: just that sometimes it is more difficult to achieve at one end than with other one so it is perhaps more liberating (enjoyable) when it happens. But most girls are still clitoral even if I use the combo of the two stimuli.
As for the deep spot, I’m undecided. Sometimes when I’m fingering from behind I think that this is what I touch (and it works). Still, for me the dp and gs are attached to the vaginal orgasm and that’s all.
F. Other types of orgasms
Sometimes there’s chicks who have nipples orgasms.
Sometimes some have or have had orgasms without physical stimulation. During my sleep, I even ejaculated once like that. I was an erotic dream (I was fucking an actress against a wall), I woke up I ejaculated (it was very good) and I went back to sleep. Without having to masturbate at all. Perhaps the sheets have jerked me without my knowledge?
Sometimes there are chicks that get enjoyment just by being rubbed over their clothes.
Sometimes there are people who love anal orgasms. But I’m not a specialist, I prefer the normal funny box… why should I go into the poop box?
3/ I finish with my opinion on female masturbation :
Whatever the politically correct people and the ignorant say, I believe the number of women that touch themselves all alone is about 4 over 5. At least 50% of young people regularly do it, like 3 or 4 times a month. About the old women, I do not know, this is not my category. But I think it decreases with family life and menopause.
Masturbating can calm them down for a time but they will need a real dick in the end. It’s like when we masturbate: it’s still ten times better when it’s someone else who does it! It is much more exciting, there is less control, etc.
Inevitably, we know our bodies so it goes straight to the point… but we are deprived of anticipation, feminine energy and all that makes the true power of pleasure and satisfaction. For women it’s the same : a sextoy is not a man.
In conclusion: is it better that they have a strong orgasm or a lot of little orgasms ? Who cares if they are satisfied, in fact, but I would say a strong one.
It’s been a while I had not talked about sex like that, so if you miss it, feel free to read The awesome lover’s manual !