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How to pick up a girl

How to pick up a girl

Whether it’s for dating a girl in a nightclub, dating a stranger in the street, dating in the university, dating at the gym, by text, dating on social networks, dating your neighbor or even dating a girl who has a boyfriend… there are rules. Yes, there are things you should do and others you shouldn’t.

Obviously, I can not explain in a single article all that you need to know about female psychology and interpersonal communication, but I will talk about what seems to me inevitable for a good pick up.

This seems to be a job of general interest because most of the tips to seduce that one can easily find on the Internet are, in the best case, funny … and in the worst, dangerous!

So here are 20 tips to properly pick up a girl. I will also give you in this article some tracks, if you want to go further…

1/ The girl is interested

When you go to the field to pick up, assume that women might be interested in you to the point of taking your number, making an instant date with you or even to the point of sleeping with you quickly.

With such a state of mind, you will optimize your chances because you will probably have a more confident attitude (and therefore you’ll be more exciting for a woman).

You’re a winner, don’t forget the condoms !

2/ Validation

To put all the odds on your side when you are picking a woman up, you absolutely must not leave with the concern to seek her validation. You must not seek to please he at all costs. You are not a sex-starved guy who needs affection at all costs!

Worse, behaving like her subordinate and licking her ass would not be sexy. Do not laugh, many men think that to sleep with a woman, they must treat her like a princess.

Put it right in your head: you do not try to get anything from her (her pussy) because it is a mutual exchange of pleasure… or even, the beginning of a love story FOR BOTH.

When you pick a woman up, you simply give her a chance to make a (small) end of the way with you!

3/ The smile

Smiling (a bit, eh, not like a psychopath nor a happy imbecile) communicates and transmits positive emotions. And since emotions are contagious, it’s much better to approach with the smile than like if your cat had just died.

The thing to understand is that you must at all costs reassure the girl on your “normality” and that smiling is a good way to make her feel at ease.

4/ The eye contact

Look at the girl in the eyes when you talk, maintain the eye contact to connect to her. But look from time to time elsewhere so as not to be thought of as a weird guy. What you need to remember here is not to have a fleeting glance.

5/ Pay attention to your body language

In general, pay attention to your body language. But there would be too much to say then I suggest you to read my book on the subject.

6/ Do not approach in order to become her friend

I’ve even seen some coaches advising to say “let’s have a drink as friends” to get the number of a girl… with, of course, the intend to seduce her AFTER. But it’s a very bad idea!

I advise you rather to let her guess your intentions because, once fallen in the friendzone, it would be difficult to leave it. The girl must absolutely see in you a potential lover… and if she does not accept this condition, you should quickly next her because others would accept it.

Remember that you must be ready to lose a girl in order to win her without too many headaches. And that, to be a good pick up artist, you have to assume your sexuality.

7/ Take initiatives

It is extremely rare for a girl to take your number, even after a nice conversation. As a result, you must be psychologically ready to make proposals and take initiatives for the relation to move on.

Sometimes they will be delighted that you do it but just did not dare to talk about it for fear of being thought of as easy girls!

8/ Do not put too much pressure

No PUA leaves with 100% of the numbers of the girls approached with cold approaches. So do not put yourself under pressure and do not feel obliged to do too much to seduce chicks.

Forget the idea that a perfect approach surely seduces a girl and that if it does not work it’s because you have made a mistake. The truth is that the worst approach of the world can work and that the best can end in rejection.

There is no catch phrase that 100% works, then use a contextual opener (on its outfit) or practice the direct game. If you don’t know what to say to a woman, check my ebook 1000 sexy alpha funny lines.

9/ Do not try to be perfect

We often imagine that if we were perfect, all women would want us and it would be easy to get laid. But the truth is that a perfect pick up will not let your charm appear. A live concert has more charm than a recording on CD despite the imperfections, is not it? In seduction, it is the same.

Moreover, the perfect man would intimidate the women (IRL not in a movie) and most would not deserve him…

10/ Show your personality

When talking with women, you should not always agree with them. If you find a point of disagreement about something that is not very important (in a seductive context, you should not talk about religion, politics or anything like that), hold your positions and explain your point of view .

You will show that you are not her doggie, that you are not there to lick her sneakers, unlike most guys without balls who would be willing to say /do/pay anything in the hope to have sex one day. Respect yourself and women will respect you more!

How to pick up a girl

11/ Tease

Tease a woman to tell her you are not afraid of her and to prevent boredom from settling into conversation. Moreover, if she laughs with you (complicity) she will have more chances to sleep with you.

Be careful not to make strange remarks because if the woman laughs at you (contempt or embarrassment), it’ll be difficult to go further.

12/ Calm down

Most men speak quickly and move in all directions when they talk with a woman they want to seduce. Some love coaches advise to have a high energy level when approaching but I think this is a bad idea.

Let me explain: sex is better when you are comfortable… so, to consider it, it is necessary that both people are comfortable. So do not stress women by going at full speed.

13/ Not a job interview

Most guys who pick up ask bad questions by believing themselves to be very clever. But it is extremely cumbersome for a girl to answer the same predictable questions “Where are you coming from?”, “What do you do for a living ?”, “how old are you ?”, & C.

Instead, make her talk about her and what she loves… then focus the conversation on sex. Attention, do not boast… but do not act like a tight-ass either when talking about sex!

14/ You must stay the price

The girl must understand that you are a man who has the choice, that you do not put everything on her: you are a man who has a high value so she is not the only one who would respond positively to your seduction.

Stress the fact that something unique has made you want to come and talk to her and be interested in her.

15/ You know what you want

You must communicate that you are a cool and accommodating man but who knows what he wants. You are not a poor frustrated guy who does not assume and who doubts all the time.

You are not either a loser that does not dare to take action and that always does things half.

16/ Too nice, too stupid

Do not start paying drinks to girls you hardly know and who do not make much effort for you. Do not be the willing victim of bitches who have no desire to sleep with you but want you to pay them stuff…

17/ Persistence

You have to know how to differentiate a rejection from an objection. It is necessary to persist in case of objection (it can be a test of virility or she just don’t want to be thought of as an easy girl) but to give up in case of pure and simple rejection. The key to reacting well in case of rejection is not to show yourself affected.

18/ Respect the decision of the woman

Generally speaking, do not ask for permission before trying something… but stop without discussing if she refuses your seduction. Do not follow her in the street !!! You must not be charged with sexual harassment…

Never insult a woman who does not want you. You do not know what is the real reason for her refusal and I am sure she has lost more than you… so wish her a good day (or a good evening) and bye bye!

19/ No one-itis

Do not start making a love obsession about a girl who just kissed you in a club or who just gave you her number… It would be a serious beginner mistake that could make you very unhappy (false hope).

20/ Learn how to play with sexual tension

You must learn to feel and play with sexual tension. In addition, you must have some sense of timing so as not to miss the seductive shooting windows (usually I advise you to go rather too fast than too slowly).

The trick is that some girls will want to sleep with you one night but if you miss your chance by playing the fucking romantic dude, will go with another dude and forget you forever.

If you want to learn how to control sexual tension, I recommend my book The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations.

If you want more tips to get started in the world of pick up, I advise you The basics of seduction.

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How to understand women? (+ books you need to read)

understand women

Understanding women … ahlala, how difficult it can be for a man! I have personally fumbled for several years before I see clear enough in it.

It must be admitted that men and women may be equal, we are not similar. There are big differences in terms of hormones, genetic heritage, worldview, education, customs and so on.

Understanding women seems important to me as it helps both to seduce (and sleep with women) and to live enriching relationships.

In this article, I will give you keys to better understand female psychology. Then, I will guide you to two books to read to better understand them (because 1000 words would not be enough).

1/ The fundamental error

One must not try to reason by pretending that women are men. When it comes to seduction, they think absolutely not the same way as us!

Even if we are attracted to the opposite sex (we are 80% attracted by a physical… they are by a social situation, a trust, etc.) Many men are wrong by trying to become more “beautiful” to seduce. It can not hurt, of course, but the main problem is not there. As long as they do not have a better understanding of what women are looking for in a relationship or an adventure, they will go blindly and lose a lot of time and energy.

In relationships, there are also a great deal of communication problems and misunderstandings between men and women: the fact that one does not necessarily put the same modalities on a “relationship” sometimes leads to big crises. To avoid this, I suggest you stop thinking that the other works exactly like you.

2/ Women adore emotions, men love logic:

There is nothing absolute in this rule but let’s say that, generally, women love romantic comedies more often than men. The emotions that the reading of a Fifty Shade of Gray transmits to them make them vibrate while this book leaves me unmoved.

This is why women sometimes give the impression of illogical behavior and their actions do not stick to their speech. A chick may very well not wanting to sleep with you but doing it anyway if you spend an evening together that turns her on like crazy! Likewise, she can let you undress her one day when she wants but she could say “no” if you try your luck another day (luckily, they go back to bed more easily then with a guy with whom they have already slept)…

Often women varies…

3/ Women protect their reputation

You must absolutely understand and accept that, in France, you live in a society where women pay great attention to their reputation.

A girl who sleeps with a lot of men, if this is known by bad people, will give her a reputation of bitch or whore: and it is not easy for a woman…

This reputation as an easy girl can excite guys, but they probably will not want a serious relationship with a girl reputed to be easy… as for the other girls, they will be the first to criticize a “competitor” to destroy her socially and keep the guys for them.

If you want to sleep easily with a lot of girls, you have to either provide them with an excuse such as “he’s handsome/he’s famous” or make the sexual act easy by taking initiatives or guarantee them discretion.

If a chick wants you but resists “for the principle”, it is probably she wants to make you good impression not to close the possibility of long relationship.

But be careful not to be too “soft” with a woman, at the risk of finishing in the friendzone and becoming unfuckable in her eyes.

4/ Women love sex

Many men are bad or selfish in bed (while believing to be very good). A girl can therefore forget some principles and sleep more easily with a man if she knows that she has no STD, that he will make her orgasm like a little crazy and that he will not judge her.

It must be understood that sexuality has a very important place in the life of a woman. They have much more erogenous zones than us, can feel more pleasure, etc.

Sorry to break the myth but women are not small fragile beings: so, if you fuck them, do not hesitate to fuck them very hard so that they are satisfied!

5/ Women choose (a little) and are very afraid of the rejection

To a lesser extent, women choose their partners… Indeed, in our French society, it is up to the man to take the first step. They only have to answer “yes” or “no”.

BUT they are not necessarily approached by men they like… and even if they are approached by guys they like, they may not necessarily say “yes” right away and easily for fear of being thought of as easy girl.

Similarly, it is tricky for them to send us too obvious approach invitations for fear of being thought of as a bitch who warms all the guys.

6/ Women are afraid of falling into an unstable man

The girls want to avoid at all costs guys who seem weird (for their own safety).

A man is usually much heavier and stronger than a woman: being in bed with this big beast is therefore something that requires a minimum of trust or confidence. Likewise, imagine that the guy becomes mad at the slightest annoyance and kills her? A woman is afraid of this kind of behavior and will therefore try to test you to avoid any problem.

For this, she can try to push you to the fault, use shit-tests or try to make you boast to eliminate you… do not fall into the trap!

7/ Every woman is different

You and your friends are men… but you are not completely alike with the same way of thinking about all subjects, is not it? Well, as far as women are concerned, it is the same thing… there are main lines that are common to most women, and then there are small details that differ.

For example, there are some who are more open-minded than others, others more pains in the ass than others, and so on.

8/ Homogamy

Men as women, we are sensitive to homogamy: we love what looks like us!

So understand that a Marseilles riffraff might find you absolutely not attractive if you are a kind of “classy boy” while you could easily seduce a well-born (but naughty) chick.

9/ Women master seduction

You only have to see the covers of women’s magazines… women, from an early age, see in seduction their main weapon to face life. But they can not shout it on all the roofs at the risk of being labeled “slut”.

So it’s not easy between the two sexes… and, in addition, some repressed lesbians like Marion Seclin feel compelled to dig even more the gap between men and women by preventing them from meeting in the street and creating an anxiety-filled climate of mistrust between us.

Fortunately I am convinced that we will not be able to hate each other because both sexes are irresistibly attracted to the another one and because every heterosexual woman keeps the hope of meeting “the man of his life » (just as men who believe a little to the charming princess).

10/ Two complete books to understand women

There would be a lot to say but I have already done 4 pages there… so I will stop and give you some tracks to go further (if you want to).

The two main books I have written to help you understand male and female behaviors are:
– Evopsy & Seduction which is an analysis of our love behaviors according to the theory of Evolution. Much of the feminine behavior and paradoxes that we experience in society can be explained by the history of our species and the adaptation of our primitive instincts to modern life. Go and see, I put at your disposal a free extract of the book!
– The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations that is a book that speaks a lot about the social pressure women feel and how to handle it to sleep with them (it is a work of general interest because they have as much desire as you). Again, I put you on line a free extract, have a look!

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How to dance in a club ?

How to dance in a clubYou probably know, I’m not a “dancer” in a club. I do not like dancing and even less when it’s not with a girl.

So, I’ll let more expert people give you video lessons to be a great dancer in a club.

How to dance in a club ?

 

Great lesson for dancing in clubs :

 

Dancing classes to seduce women and raise sexual tension :

 

John-David, the “seducer” in Secret Story :

 

See ya !

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10 of the best books of personal development

10 of the best books of personal developmentI am writing here for free the list of 10 books that have helped me the most in personal development. I am not going to speak of seduction or pick-up here, but more generally of books of personal development.

I planned to make another article or a video to talk about the 10 books that helped me most in seduction as well as books that helped me with my problem of anxiety attacks.

Let’s go !

 

 

 

1/ How to win friends and influence people, Dale Carnegie : the best book of personal development

2/ Unlimited power, Anthony Robbins : except the part about food, everything helped me

3/ The four agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz : easy to read and awesome

4/ Influence and manipulation, Robert Cialdini : good book

5/ Miracle Morning, Hal Elrod : very interesting even if not for me

6/ The subtle art of not giving a fuck, Mark Manson : I love this title

7/ The 4-hour work week, Tim Feriss : changed my life

8/ Nonviolent communication, Marshall B. Rosenberg : good message

9 & 10/ Do not exist in English, I’m so sorry…

And you, what books do you recommend ?

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Take my wife: Cuckolding, watching your partner with another man

CuckoldingOne of the things that surprised me the most when I started to frequent the libertine world was that many men had a fantasy of seeing me taking their wife.

The term “candaulism” and its English equivalent “cuckolding” were twenty times more searched on the Internet in 2016 than in 2004. But you shouldn’t think that this is a simple phenomenon of fashion since this libertine practice has existed since Cusaule (741 BC). Let’s say that the advent of the Internet has just facilitated the realization of this fantasy.

Definition

According to Wikipedia, Candaulism is a sexual practice related to the excitement of seeing your partner exposed to the looks of other men, or even having sex with another person.

In fact, this practice, which combines voyeurism and exhibitionism, is close to swinging. However, we are not talking here about swinging partners. In general, the guy who has this fantasy is not directly involved in the sexual act that takes place before his eyes. He only produces a personal satisfaction.

Do not think that the libertine man who practices candaulism with his wife does not love her. On the contrary, it is usually very loving men who, excited to observe the reaction of others in front of their partner, turn to this practice. Moreover, they are not jealous because they are sure that their wives love them in return.

The motivations of candaulism:

– The man is excited to see his partner making love with another (this is the fantasy of many guys to want to see their wife penetrated by another cock).
– He wants to see other bodies with his partner because it can revive the flame, especially after a few years of common life.
– He no longer feels able to fill his wife then want other men to deal with this task, because he loves her…
– He wants to better observe the enjoyment of his partner from the outside.
– He is proud to “lend” his spouse for a few hours or for an evening because it pleases him to see that his wife also excites other guys.
– He fills a homosexual fantasy by seeing another man naked and erect.
– He fulfills his desires as a voyeurist.
– Let’s specify that some men who love submission adore the fact of being humiliated by being cuckold. You have to respect that!

Attention, the voyeur man plays a big part in this practice, even if, a priori, he is only an interested observer:

– He participates in the choice of his wife’s partner(s).
– He often writes the script.
– He can interrupt the fuck at any time.

But you have to be careful because this practice can have negative effects on the couple. Indeed, if the lady is dissatisfied with the relationship and wants to take a lover, her partner opens the doors of adultery to her. For this to be beneficial to both people of the couple, that it spices up their sex life, they must:

– Have excellent communication.
– Both of them feel a sexual arousal in front of this opportunity.
– Make sure that they find good partners together.
– Determine the conditions of this adventure before even going to the act.
– Be comfortable with the nudity of a third.
– Determine if the experiment will be photographed or filmed.
– Protect against sexually transmitted infections.
– Talk after the experience, to evaluate the discomforts and the pleasure felt.

Other Warnings:

– The couple could live major conflicts once the fantasy realized, especially if the man is possessive. Jealousy could undermine the relationship after the act.
– The sex life of the couple can be transformed… for better or for worse.
– A certain resentment can be established if the woman accepts caresses or positions that she previously refused with her husband (sodomy, for example).
– The woman could be uncomfortable, facing her spouse, if she enjoys more than with him.
– The lovers of one evening might decide to see each other again in secret.
– The guest, for his part, may experience discomfort or even erectile difficulties due to the particular context.

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Recognizing an easy girl: 10 tricks

Recognizing an easy girl

In this article, I explain how to know if a girl is easy or not. The goal is obviously to invest neither your time nor your energy for women who would make you lose both.

Indeed, if you need 10 dates with a girl (and paying) to sleep with her… know that you could have fucked two or three “less difficult” others during this time (and for cheaper). Moreover, the babes who play it hard to get before sex generally do not offer good sex and the continuation of the relationship is complicated (it must be suspected because when it starts complicated, everything can be complicated…)

In short, there are some commonalities for girls who sleep quickly… and even if it is not an exact science (because women may be easier at certain times in their lives than others) I will share my experience with you.

How to spot a good leg, an easy girl, an open girl who wants both to have fun and a good time?

1/ She is single or has a guy but feels helpless. Basically, she does not tell you about her boyfriend from the outset…

2/ She is accustomed to making encounters, does not look wild when approached, is comfortable when you talk about sex. She has nothing against sex for sex: that, you will notice by testing her reactions to your fast sexualization (but be gentleman)… how does she react when you make innuendos or give her the opportunity to talk about sex ? I strongly encourage you to test her relation to sex and get away from those for whom it is problematic.

3/ She does not want to look for a serious relationship for now or comes out of a long romantic relationship that has led to nothing concrete: she feels that she has lost her time and hopes to catch up lost time by making new experiences. She thought a little and stopped believing in fairy tales like a 15-year-old girl.

4/ She does not stay long in your city (either she is a tourist, she is on internship, or she will soon leave for a long trip in Australia, etc.)

5/ You must stop to believe that the girls who dress sexy are sluts and that the others are not fucked. In fact, the woman’s dress does not reveal much about her sexuality… but, on the other hand, I noticed that naughty girls tend to be very careful about the maintenance of their pubic hair.

6/ Attention to the body language of the chick. In general, a woman’s eye  contact can betray her excitement or her desire for sex. Attention, if she is very tactile, it does not mean much in itself because there are many kino girls. But if she is tactile in addition to looking at you with envy or to tell you that she wants to have fun, there, it should raise your suspicions…

How to recognize a girl you should avoid?                

7/ In general, avoid those who talk too much about sex, who boast, etc. Often, they will get cold feet at the last moment because they will be afraid of not being up to what they said. Except for real libertines.

8/ The lack of experience of the girl can be offset by a strong desire to get out of her comfort zone. But if the chick is afraid and does not wish to make efforts, it is necessary to be wary. If the chick does not seem to have strength of character or determination, be aware that she may not change and remain that who she has always been, the one that has not too much experience of encounters with unknown, who has no real sexual experience, etc. This kind of girl is generally recognized by the brakes she put to your advances “we will meet up in 15 days after my exams” or “I never do anything at the first date (shitty principles)… I just have an hour to spend with you tonight for a drink in a bar (LOL)”.

9/ Stay away from those who hope to find the prince charming, who seek at all costs a “serious” relationship (I prefer a funny relationship) or who verbalize that they do not want to sleep quickly. You probably can not fuck them unless lying to them (but it’s not ethical). Also avoid those who are suspicious of seducers, who say they are afraid to “make a mistake”, who believe their pussy has exceptional value, and so on. The worst, I think it is those who say that it is useless to make love without having feelings (ah, love!) These have clearly never been well fucked and are not ready to be satisfied with such a mentality.

10/ I also advise against the bitches who always pretext that they “need more time”. And/or who say that they still think of their ex, who often speak of him, or even who compares you to him.

And you, what are your tricks to recognize an easy girl?

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Videos of sensuality lessons

Videos of sensuality lessonsToday, we are going to watch some scenes of movies and take lessons of sensuality!

1/ The first cult scene that gives us a lesson in sensuality and that I would like you to watch is taken from the movie Ghost :

 

2/ The second scene comes from the famous film Dirty Dancing :

 

3/ Here is a striptease remained legendary, in Nine ½ Weeks :

 

4/ The scene of the piano in Pretty woman has made wet and hard quite a lot of people :

 

5/ In L’auberge espagnole, Romain Duris is entitled to a free lesson of sensuality from Cécile de France :

 

So, I hope that men and women will find their account! I await your observations in the comments…

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Sexto example: 10 examples of good sextos you should send

 

Sexto example

Men and women under 30 love SMS. Many people would like to master the art of turning someone on with messages (it works for your target or your girlfriend). So I here will give you some examples of ready to use sextos !

Definition and origin

According to Wikipedia, “sexting” (also known as “textopornography” or “sextage”) is the act of sending sexually explicit texts or photographs… in French, we call it “sextos”. But, by extension, it can be said that one sends sextos when one warms someone on the dating apps.

The term appeared in 2005 in Australia in an article in The Daily Telegraph (Sunday magazine issue).

Interest

The phone call can sometimes be perceived as intrusive, while the e-mail is something more “professional”. The SMS, meanwhile, is a perfect compromise to discreetly excite a person.

Kinky texting is a good way to create and feed sexual tension. They are very useful: in the past, we used the letters of love… it is in fact an adaptation of a human need (writing is an awesome weapon of seduction) to new technologies.

The objectives of sextos

The goals of a sexto are to talk about your desires, to seduce, to arouse sexual arousal, to play and to strengthen the bond with the other. The point  is to sexualize the conversation and create some intimacy, a sexual complicity, between you two.

Another objective is to make the other person visualize the act. Indeed, know that if you have already slept on the phone with a girl, you will sleep more easily with her in real life.

How to write and send good sextos

It’s not always easy to send a good sexto. What to start with ? How do we know if we’re going too hard, too dirty? I will now give you tips to put all the odds on your side. Nevertheless, you must keep in mind that, this kind of thing, it happens or breaks (fortunately it happens more often than it breaks)…

Avoid nevertheless sending photos of your cock (let a certain mystery and frustrate a little bit the other one). But if you decide to do it anyway, make sure one cannot see your face and your cock on the same picture.

First, let it go, forget your inhibitions, feel the ground, be bold and go further and further. Do not send anything to a girl you hardly know… go ahead and see how she answers. Depending on her open-mindedness and responsiveness to your advances, you need to move a gear or take a little more time. Above all, avoid being too vulgar before knowing if she likes it: some prefer erotic sextos while others adore when it is downright pornographic… here is a perfect opportunity to disinhibit and test your sexual compatibility with the other!

Timing is also very important: try sending your messages at times when both of you are available to answer quickly. In fact, it is often necessary to “sextotate”, that is to say sending a series of sextos, to achieve a good degree of excitement.

Then, keep in mind that there is a huge difference between “writing sextos” and “sending sweet words”. I do not advise you to play it mushy (the goal is to turn her on) nor to be too salacious too fast (you don’t want to scare her). Nevertheless, you must be believed, sincere, frank, direct, etc. In short, do not try to make complicated innuendo… be explicit!

Finally, remember that even if the goal is to be direct and confident, you must always consider the desires, fantasies and preferences of your partner. It is useless to try to excite her by telling her that you would like to sodomize her on the coffee table of her living room if she does not like anal…

Examples of sextos

“I want you. Do you know what I would do if you were next to me?”

“I imagine your caresses and your tongue on my body… I  am becoming very hard.”

“I’ll take my shower, wanna come?”

“I’m very hungry, I could devour you entirely.”

“Think of something kinky and I’ll do it to you tonight. You have my word.”

“What color are your underwear?”

 “I want to put a good spanking on you. You excite me.”

“I’m naked in my bed… thinking about you and it makes me feel good.”

“Did you know I love to massage?”

“Do you remember when I licked you up to orgasm the other night?”

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What you should talk about to a girl

What you should talk about to a girl

What you should talk about to a girlWhat you should talk about to a girl…

Good topics :

They love subjects that relate to gender relations. If so many women look at The Young And The Restless, it’s for a reason.

Women also love subjects that concern mystery, magic, witchcraft, and so on.

Topics about fashion, clothing, perfumes… are also quite effective with women!

Topics to avoid :

Politics is a delicate subject in which everyone seeks to defend his point of view. Keep this topic aside to discuss it with your parents’ friends on Sunday afternoon.

Religion is a subject that does not create a link, it is a subject that is likely to lead you constantly to dead ends and does not bring anything in seduction.

Avoid at all costs talking about the exs (yours or hers), it is a subject that she normally reserves for her friends or her best friend. If she starts talking about her exs, cut off the conversation and show her signs of disinterest.

Never talk about your problems with girls. Talking about your problems with girls will devalue you and diminish your attraction capital… As a future PUA, you are supposed to have no problems with girls!

Avoid this kind of phrases: « it’s cool here don’t you find? ; Are okay ? ; How long have you been here? ; There’s a lot of people, huh? » This type of lambda phrases reflects a lack of confidence, as if you felt compelled to fill the silence so your target doesn’t escape.

Extract from “The basics of  seduction“…

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What can you say to a girl ?

What can you say to a girl

What can you say to a girl (or a woman) ?

What is interesting about a conversation with you is not the subject in itself but the way you approach it, the way you treat it. This is called originality. Paradoxically, to be original, start by being yourself. That is to say, talk about the things you like without headache. It is in the expression of your passions and interests that will emerge your natural freshness.

You’re not there to interview her so avoid all the questions like, « What are you doing in life? Where do you study ? Do you come here often ? Etc. » This is the kind of boring questions whose answer does not bring anything because basically you do not give a fuck. Moreover, all the men who have been here before you have surely asked her exactly the same questions. Instead of these unnecessary and boring questions, ask her questions that stimulate her imagination and make it possible to set up a kind of challenge.

To make her speak, imagine that each new encounter must give rise to a little story. The woman to whom you speak must always tell you her own. “Who ? When? What? Where ? How?”

You too have yours to tell. But you will have to listen to her story if you want to be listened to. Especially since her story will condition yours: one answers often to an anecdote by another one of the same type.

The next time you talk with someone, a colleague, a friend or a girl you meet, do not think about what you want to say, but focus on what he or she has say. Try and you’ll see that it will be fine!

Basic rules:

– Do not swear like a wagoner. In any case not, not before well knowing her;

– Be self-mocking about your body fat. It will make her laugh;

– Do not spend your time comparing her to your ex (or worse to your mother);

– Do not talk about yourself in the third person, except for humor;

– Do not put yourself at the center of all subjects as if everything was related to you;

– Show yourself interested when the woman speaks, offer her your active listening.

In your narratives and descriptions, always add emotion and sensory elements: describe what you see, feel, hear, etc. Never say anything to try to impress. Do not boast about your job, your money, your knowledge, your exs (!) or any other qualities (example: “I am a very protective man, I am super attentive and faithful, etc.”).

On the other hand, try to demonstrate your value via stories, storytelling. Tell an anecdote about yourself, which implies that you possess such and such quality, but remain implicit. If she feels that you are trying to impress her, your value will diminish in her eyes.

Always be cool, playful and fun. Seduction is a game, not something really important. The ideal of a conversation would be to mix up humor, teases and questions about something she likes. Bad taste is not necessarily to be proscribed, it is necessary to establish communication with the animal that is in both of you.

One of the best ways to seduce a woman is to talk like her. But the expression “speaking like her” does not mean adopting her facial mimics, nervous laughter, or shrill voice. Because I want to preserve your manhood, I propose a much less dangerous exercise. During your appointment, you will discuss many topics, but before giving your opinion on some of them, wait until she expresses herself and then resume her opinion on your account. This is a great way for a woman to feel understood. And who says woman understood, says woman conquered. A “I understand you so much” or a “I totally agree” would obviously not do the job : it is necessary to paraphrase.

Of course, it is not a question of stifling your personality, nor of silencing your opinions and of acquiescing to all that the lady says in front of you. “Talking like her” is a technique to use from time to time in conversation to create a real connection between you two.

When you wait a little before re-starting a subject and rephrase yherour words with your words, the woman in front of you will generally not understand that you are repeating her ideas solely in order to seduce her. She will even come to believe most of the time that she has found the rare pearl: a man who thinks like her and understands her…

Extract from “The basics of  seduction“…