Author: Fabrice Julien PUA

“I am like Saint Thomas, I believe what I see.”

Most people think that seeing is believing. But…  what if they were wrong ? What if in fact believing was seeing?

Maybe just thinking we’re good with women, or believing that the game works so is enough so that it works. And perhaps it is “enough” to do not believe so that it does not work.

Facebook is full of shitty quotes that are nonetheless true. Such as “they did not know it was impossible, so they made it.” I am not saying it is impossible to pick up hotties in night clubs, I’m just saying if you do not provoke your luck, it will probably not happen magically.

We all know someone who has succeeded with women without the game. As we all know someone who can eat like a horse without being fat. So what… ? If this is not your case, I do not see how it applies to you. Equality exists only in the Motto of the French Republic. In practice, we are not all equal in life. We all have a different genetic makeup, we must adapt. We all have strengths and weaknesses. But in general, with work, we can get ahead in all areas.

After the discovery of the seduction community, some alphas become fulfilled, others stagnate in their mediocre love life. Facing a problem, it is often what we decide to believe that determines the outcome. Since childhood, I have always wondered “how am I going to do that?” instead of “will I be able to do that?”

Thus, by not considering that I was not able to do something, I always looked for a way to do it. That helped a lot. Beliefs are the key to seduction and personal development in general. I’m not saying it is enough to believe that we are rich to see a million in our bank account (we do not do magic). I speak of a less superficial reality I speak of your inner strength. And in my humble opinion, this is much more important.

We all have built beliefs about everything. About us, about the others, about the game… Our beliefs influence how we see things : so they influence our mood and our internal chemistry.

“I decided to be happy because it is good for health.” Voltaire

Basically, beliefs are positive mechanisms that are useful to filter our perception. They are used to relieve us of the burden of reflection. However, if we let this weapon turn against us, it limits our results and can even destroy us.

We must understand that whatever our beliefs are, our unconscious works to prove it. If we believe that we are a shit, we will always find in our field of perception some things to support this theory. If we think we can pickup a hottie, you will see life more positively and become more attractive. We’ll be more likely to succeed than people who think that beautiful women are not made for guys like them.

This is also the interest of placebo medication for example: people believe that the treats works and sometimes they really heal without apparent reason.

Given this situation, my conclusion is this: the smartest thing to do is to create beliefs that help us. Because, whether true or false, they will influence our lives. They will become a habit of thought. So it is better if they are useful and beneficial.

Beliefs have a huge impact on our lives: they allow self-fulfilling prophecies. Positive or negative? It depends on us. But in any case, they influence our emotional state which itself is a major key to seduction.

Some PUAs are convinced that all the women want them. It’s not true, but this belief helps them because it gives them confidence. This high level of confidence allows them to have a naturally attractive behavior, which leads to actually charm women.

Their unconscious keeping only the information that goes in this direction, it gives them a reinforced good mood which makes them concretely more attractive. And when they are rejected, their unconscious quickly occults it. For them, the standard is a success. It is still a way of thinking much healthier and more positive than when success is considered an anomaly.

If an opener works once, then twice, you will tend to believe that it will always work. This is wrong, of course, but we will take confidence because we know that it has worked. So, when used, it will show more confidence. Thus, we communicate much more positive things that will make this opener work more than others. But its power is actually coming from the beliefs we have about him.

If, unfortunately, we start a night with rakes, we could have the conviction that it is a bad night and go home. Instead, if we had started with good interaction, we would have felt like with grown wings, which would have encouraged us to try more daring moves.

There is a luck factor in the game, certainly, but it is not because we ate only rakes during one evening that should prevent us from trying to kiss a nice model. The only thing that may negatively influence the interaction is the negative dynamics in which we are bogged down into. If we can break it and get back on a positive way, we will have as much chance with her as if we were not in a bad dynamic.

The first step to work on your beliefs is to recognize that you have some. If you are human, you might be the more open-minded in to world, you have some. Thus, in those thoughts that come to your mind, which generalizations are the most emotionally charged? By becoming conscious of them, you can begin to act on it.

Frankly, we don’t care if your beliefs are true or false, the important thing is that they allow you to be happy. So keep those that help you and change those that draw you down.

When we know that, unconsciously, believing allows an infinite number of things, we must understand that it is one of the most important aspects of your personal development. This is not to scare you, but it reminds me of the result of an experience I had read. I warn you, it’s scary! A group of people had been locked in a room (by Nazis, I think) and were led to believe that the temperature had dropped to something like -10°C while it was actually about +10°C . Well, some froze to death in a few minutes.

There are also stories of people, often mentally ill, who think they are someone else but effectively demonstrate knowledge and skills coming from nowhere. So we know a lot more things than we think we know. You must still be motivated to take action. It is clear that keeping a blog and a diary in which I tell you my adventures with the opposite sex pushed me to be better so I have something interesting (I hope) to tell.

The powers of the mind are far greater than what we think. For example, at age 17, while he was very ill, bedridden in his room, Milton Erickson heard a doctor telling his mother in the next room that he will be dead the next morning. Erickson asked his mother to move his bed so that he can see the sunset one last time before dying. He lived what he later called a self-hypnosis experience, during which he saw the sun, ignoring the tree and the barrier that blocked his view by the window. Besides, he did not die that night, and it was a good idea because he became one of the fathers of modern hypnosis… probably inspired by this experience.

But I do not ask you to perform miracles. Just decide to change your reality when it does not suit you. Beliefs depend mainly on your inner dialogue, the way you speak and formulations that you use when you speak. So you need to act on it to improve your state of mind! Go slowly. Use a positive turn in dialogue with yourself, facing on a desired result and not on what you want to avoid.

Instead of saying “I am nowhere with women,” you say “so far I have not had a lot of results but now I decided to change that.” In this logic, “I’m afraid to take a rake” becomes “I want this to work.” Finally, “I do not approach because it never works” becomes “I approach because this practice will allow me to succeed.” Do you get the idea?

Then repeat to internalize. Repeat your new formulations of your beliefs. Coue method, despite what most people say, works. This is not ONLY intellectual masturbation, all this shit! It can actually help you if you decide to believe and practice.

Drive your state! I did at first. I had a list of positive affirmations displayed in my room, so I impregnate myself every time I passed ahead. If you want to read them, they are still available for free here.

Correct your dialogue when you catch yourself thinking negatively. Finally, visualize like if your beliefs were real tomorrow. Imagine kissing pretty girls, imagine that you open your door to a beautiful chick you would have seduced on the Internet and who would come directly to fuck you. Your old beliefs will actually be replaced with new if you can join the most powerful emotions. And visualization is a good way to do this before it happens for real.

In all my ebooks, I communicate my state of mind of womanizer and my vision of things. Thus, by reading me, your reality is deforming to become a little closer to a reality in which you can fuck a lot. Do not hesitate to read if you are a little lost in the mass of information in the community, but determined to succeed. You will see your glass prison melting slowly: you will still have to give the final push to fully destroy it.

In short, it’s up to you to see how much you want to invest in your success with the opposite sex. Of course, the more you work, the better (if it’s not to stir the air – some people do it to salve their conscience).

Believe in yourself and decide to make yourself right! It’s an order ! Courage!

The concept of value is one of the most important for success in seduction. Even if you did not know this concept, you surely were using it without even noticing it.

 

1 – The value in the seduction community

In seduction, we tend to see value as something that can create attraction. Where from the idea to practice DHV – demonstration of high(er) value.

We will speak of the “perceived” value because when doing a cold approach it’s the only one a girl can see. Thus, it may be wise to always behave as if we had a great value. It is not dishonest, it’s just a way to be in a better light. It will always be better than the assholes who often are successful because they have assholes behavior but that can be perceived as “high value” behavior.

So far we were talking about “alpha behavior” on this blog, but today we’ll try to see it in another light. It goes without saying that, basically, we say the same thing as usual. This is just another way of seeing things, other words put on the same concepts.

So, giving the image of a guy who has value helps having good results quickly. Mystery used the peacoking for it. The negs also. Personally, I prefer to have really got a great mental strength and now I know what I am worth. Replicas and other behavior showing that I am a “high value” guy come naturally to me… I confess, however, that at first I forced a little the thing, taking models as an example (PUA, movie characters, etc. ). I practiced “fake it until to you make it.”

Often in my field reports, I said that I sat next to the girl and she came over to kiss me. I justified it by “she cracked because of the sexual tension.” This is a way of seeing things. But one could also say that she found me alpha and was so excited that she jumped on me. Finally, we could say that I informed him that I had so a high value for her at that moment so she threw herself on me to be sure I will fuck her.

Little riddle, who has the highest value?
– The one that approaches or the one who is approached?
– The one that numclose or the one who is numclosed?
– The one that offers an appointment or the one who is offered?
– The one that kiss or the one who lets himself be kissed?
– The one who accepts fucking a girl or the one who pushes hard to fuck?

In general, it is always the one who is sought who has the most value. However, the inner game can allow us to see things differently: I’m a guy who dares approach so I have a high value. I’m a guy who dares to warm her to make her want to fuck so I have a great value.

To finish this part, I would say that I hate guys who are pressuring a girl to have sex by treating her like a princess. And that, once they have fucked her, think they have immediately taken a lot of value and therefore treat her like shit. To me, your value should not depend on the validation of a particular girl, but should come from your mind. From your way of thinking. Finally, do not treat girls badly especially if they did not deserved it.

 

 

2 – The different types of value

Now we will talk about fixe different types of value… but when it comes to the value in general it’s a little the five at a time. If we were into micromanaging, we could say that we have a specific value for each target and that it is up to us to make her see what she can expect to gain by being with us. But there are more general values, who give us less headaches (I prefer that), you will see that.

A – The emotional value

The idea, when it comes, is to communicate that we represent an added value, not that we will be an anvil.

The first question to ask yourself to see if you can have any value in the eyes of someone is: what can you bring to this person? What added value do you have for her?

For example, you work in a trendy club and can therefore make people come in and offer free drinks. Hence the appeal of the Party Girls for servers. Or you are rich and so a girl who would enter your life might enjoy a bit of your lifestyle.

Most of my readers are like me I think normal people at this level. So we mostly represent added value if we can create emotions (mostly positive). Or if we can offer benefits like super good orgasms. Thus, an added value can be intellectual, monetary, benefits of all types, services, emotions…

In the community, we prefer the emotional value because women love it and that is cheap. Many suckers think their only value in the eyes of a woman is to pay her glasses. How sad… Instead, make her live emotions like intrigue, excitement, etc.

B – Social Value

It is the one that people give you. This is what is sometimes called social proof.

It is often said that seeking to break the rapport is a good idea because it shows that we have a value greater than the other person. And looking for the rapport shows that we have a low social value. I do not agree. I think that establishing good communication is more important than trying to show at all costs that we have a high value. Also, if we show a too high value and in addition we do not create rapport, we risk alienating people. Because we intimidate them or because they really believe they are a shit in our eyes.

The important thing is still to do not seek for approval. Do not be needy. But negs and everything, it’s really to be used with caution (for example if there’s a bitch shield).

C – The survival and replication value

It is the most developed value sub-concept in the community because most related to the attraction and the most generic.

This is just what evopsy explains: we all look for partners who can bring us resources for us and our offspring.

Are attractive in terms of values:
– Survival (strength, power, intelligence …)
– Replication (health, beauty, fertility, etc.)

As you probably already know, the weight of these features in the attraction is reversed in men and in women. The potential of attraction of a woman is based 80% on her replication value while in a man it’s 80% of his survival value. Do not they say that both sexes are complementary?

D – The specific values

The specific value is the subjective value that is for a person based on her own characteristics or the circumstances. Most people have, consciously or not, one or more personal criteria.

A rich daddy’s girl will not give the same value to the professional situation of a guy than a girl who is not rich. A girl is looking the image of her father in his lovers, which is different for each (if they do not have the same father). A PUA who has the choice will be more demanding regarding his girlfriends than a virgin who is desperate to ejaculate one day.

Sometimes one has a value simply because he is there. Some girls do not filter on natural biological unconscious criteria but on orders of psychological criteria (their neurosis) or other more conscious stuff. Some do not seek an alpha male but a beta male so he serves her as a princess, others are just looking for a guy who has a car, or a fuck without complications or any guy who can lift her spirit her with his cock because she just has been dumped with humiliation.

That’s why some suckers sometimes get hot babes (good for them). That’s why sometimes we fuck even if we do not practice DHV. It finally explains why we can not have 100% success.

Many chicks like tall men. But some are afraid or are complexed. They therefore prefer shorter guys. For some, a guy who drives a Porsch is a gambler who surely makes up for his small cock, for others it is particularly attractive.

Eh yes ! Thus, there are vulgar girls who fancy on riffraff who are in a tracksuit all day, with a hood and who spit on the floor. But hey, they are often the same picture than them, so I am not interested.

In my high school, a guy looked like Harry Potter (uglier) and some chicks liked him just for that reason. This is what can be called a marginal value because he is far from being a sex symbol, Harry Potter. If you like him, take the example of Austin Power : if a girl liked the character in the movie she can be attracted by a guy looking like him.

If the guy looked like Ian Somerhalder, the fact of licking him would not be a marginal behavior, because most chicks find him very beautiful. In this case, a guy who would even a little bit look like him would gain in value by ricochet effect of the fantasy value of Ian.

There are chicks who like submitted guys. Suckers. To dominate them widely and everything. This is a relatively rare behavior, but for them being a loser gives value. I advise you of course to do not adopt this behavior, precisely because it is rare and mostly because you must respect yourself in life.

E – The hidden values

Sometimes our value lies in what the other feels when they are with us : serenity, security, freedom, fun, appreciation, etc.

If a girl says she loves the tall and muscular men, it’s probably because she feels safe with them. Men who are not tall and muscular will therefore have an interest in making her feel safe by using communication. This is not the dishonest manipulation if they are able to guarantee her safety for real : if not why not just changing the target?

Identifying the things that are important for a girl helps to DHV specifically on this criterion (calibration/adaptation). What is potentially more powerful than a general DHV. In addition, it can help to create the rapport with the conversation that will flow from it.

So you can dig to find her hidden values ​​or simply deduct it from what she says. Otherwise than that, to match her specific values, one can only rely on luck!

 

3 – The utility of value and how to recognize value

Any value is relative, ours (depending on whose eyes) like the value of our target (it depends on who games her). You must understand that a person has not got the same value for everybody.

We do not game someone with a high value like someone with a low value. We do not really play the same way with a 20 year old student shy than facing a thirty blossomed in her life.

What is the value of a girl for you? And what is your value from her point of view?

Basically, what is the value?
– Physics rating, replication value (traditionally between 1 and 10 in the community – 5 being a girl with whom the average guy would have sex – 6 being my minimum to undress). Of course this replication note is adapted taking into account the values ​​related to survival (intelligence, social status, money, etc.)
– Her self-esteem, her confidence, level of welfare
– Her way of behaving with others, her beliefs, her mood of the moment
– Her social value (anonymous or actress, girl in a group or alone at the bar, the clothes she wears, etc.) The prestige of banging a celebrity, or a model who poses in magazines, or the hottie college, doesn’t it make you hard ?
– The relative value, depending on the environment, circumstances, etc. A bartender is overpriced in her club, outside, she is probably nobody. A model in a normal club or at a beauty queen election it’s not the same level or arrogance.
– An attractive girl with humor, conversation is more likely to have fun with me.
– Our identity and specific values: I like classy girls, elegant, open-minded…

Some think that if a girl has a “high value” she must be negged directly. No ! Think about it: you may very well find value in a super friendly and open girl. No need to be aggressive from the start! In addition, she is maybe not aware of her value in your eyes. Understand that your reality is not everybody’s reality.

Depending on your current form, or your status in such a place, it is sometimes better to practice very direct game than taking gloves! According to the competition there is in the place where you are, your value can also increase or decrease.

We are attracted by what is more valuable than us. But beyond a certain big difference, ego protects itself. That’s why some unfuckable chicks and too full of ego allow themselves to talk to us badly while we were just being nice. This difference of value explains why sometimes chicks that are not worth a 4/10 will violently reject us as we just talking for socializing (we were not even flirting).

We tend to say that 2 points (/10) of difference between two people, it is still possible if the person in front is confident. With 4 points of difference, it is a miracle.

The value of a man resides essentially in his inner game. So if you are convinced of being a 8, you can bang 10 if you are confident. In addition, women are much more sensitive to the mental strength of a man than we are. Or other solution : totally kill your ego.

According to this principle of value, chicks who are chasing send Indicator Of Interest and other Approach Invitation to the alpha male with the highest value perceptible to them.

Sometimes we don’t care about the value of a girl but it is society that puts on us a pressuring judgment. For example: a lot of guys would be ready to fuck a 5 on the condition that no one ever knows. But if the whole office could be aware, then there, they would not. Without perceptible value, sexual tension needs discretion. According to this logic, the more your value you show, the more a woman will allow herself to be excited in your presence.

The sexual tension, you know it, varies over time and according to your actions. But sometimes a value is enough to create sexual tension. If you offer a night with Ian Somerhalder, many women may get wet just thinking about it. So you have to play with the attraction, the value and the sexual tension.

The value of a person also depends on the quality of interactions that we can have with. So in case of bad vibe, you will have a low value in the eyes of the girl, even if you have a great value. But often, she will make efforts to feed the conversation if she is interested (unless you make her feel too shy).

I suggest you to investigate yourself, identify your own criteria, in order to do not miss the women who could make you really happy. Especially the one that could give you what your biology and your values ​​are looking for…

 

4 – How to demonstrate value

The principle of “Fake it up to you make it” is to behave as if we had a value until we really get it. Demonstrating more value will logically increase your success rate.

Assuming at the outer game and inner game level (by pretending this is a part of you it will become more real), you will create in other people the impression that you have this value (which is just a perceived value but can become real).

But in addition, you will receive in return verbal and non-verbal responses to this characteristic that will change little by little your own beliefs about yourself. Which will really help you to really get it.

Therefore, behave like a womanizer (or just like an alpha male for those who are soft) !!!

All our actions communicate characteristics and therefore value. Try to communicate DHV and avoid DLV – demonstration of low(er) value – to an audience you want to seduce. For example, in seduction, being too nice especially if the girl is abhorrent, it is a DLV. It says about you that you are a weak…

Thus, to communicate that you are a seducer, you will not tell it. You will make this clear by suggesting through what you say or do. You can tell, without bragging, stories that have happened to you. Or if pretty girls come and say hello, you can suggest that you have fucked them all. Or if you receive a naughty text, pretend to be discreet when in fact you make sure that other people see it. So you will subcommunicate what? That you bang a hottie, that she is so turned on by you that she sends naughty messages, that you have a beautiful phone so that you are rich, etc.

These are not things I usually do, because I prefer the more natural things, but these techniques can work. Personally, I behave like an alpha, and I let people wonder “but what is this secret that gives him such a confidence?”

Here’s how to easily communicate value:
– Be confident and ambitious, you will succeed;
– The social proof (ie with good wingmen and wingwomen (preselection) or practice butterfly on groups so you look like someone knowing a lot of different people);
– Don’t look bored, have composure;
– Stay alpha even in front of tests (targets, cockblocks, amogs);
– Do not drool when you see a beautiful girl, if you communicate it is normal for you, you will look like a guy who has great value because used to fuck hotties ;
– Show that you have the choice, you are demanding;
– Show that you have a higher value than the average guy, and a strength of character, you are a prize ;
– Show that you’re not a lambda sucker, you know women;
– Convince yourself that you have a high value, especially as regards survival and replication.

 

I hope you enjoyed this article.

There is a negative attitude I have often seen in people who begin in the game (and with myself when I started). This is the attitude of imagining connections between things that are not connected (often to be reassured).

Concretely, what does that mean?

Imagine a guy was trying to pick up girls in the street but he got nothing for months. Then one day, he had the brilliant idea to go on the field by wearing a hat. And that day, miracle: he took the number of a girl! His conclusion will probably be : “oh fuck, as soon as I wear a hat, it works.”

Wearing a hat would be THE ultimate seduction technique?

The problem is that next time on the field, this guy could become superstitious, and force himself to wear a hat to pick up chicks. But the truth is that he would surely have taken the same number even if he had nothing on the head (this was statistically THE hottie who wants to fuck you for the fun without complicating everything). And therefore, objectively he will have the same results with or without hat in the future.

The excesses of this thinking are twofold:
– There is a false belief : we need a hat to seduce;
– It can be believed so much that this ridiculous belief could be transmitted to young Padawans who come for advice.

It gives sad but easily observable results on seduction forums: a lot of nonsense and intellectual masturbation ! No, we must learn to separate out the essential things from the rest…

I took the example of the hat because it was easily understandable but it’s not where I was going. And the fact is that, in practice, the hat is fine for some people. Moreover, to open sets at night, it can be cool and efficient! The perfect example would be: a guy wears a hat one day and finds €20 on the ground and it has rarely happened to him before. So he thinks he can find money on the ground that he is wearing a hat and therefore starts wearing it every day. If, he finds some money on the ground in the future, it will strengthen his belief (even if it is still less than before).

But it is when applied to seduction schools that my reasoning makes sense. You will better understand with a story!

I have a friend who has practiced Street Pick-Up (SPU) for several months before fucking his first girl met in the street. When I went on the field with him, he yelled “no, you’re too direct! This is not how to do: me, the only one I have picked up, I talked to her for almost an hour before asking for her number. “

Result: he loses even today hours talking with chicks to finally be told “oh no sorry I would have liked but I have a boyfriend” (or any other variant). And except that day, that was maybe blessed, he is always coming back empty-handed.

He is still convinced that this is how he will have the best results. Period. He is blinded by the fact that the only time he fuckclosed thanks to a number taken in the street, it was by doing it that very indirect way. Suddenly, he no longer sees the downside of his processes (huge loss of time).

At that same session I did with him, I was very direct. I have not taken a lot of numbers, that’s true. But I fucked one of the chicks I had numclosed… and yes, she was hot! Isn’t it stupid to talk about everything and nothing with a girl not interested when, thanks to the numbers, we could talk about sex with an interested girl.

Instead of understanding me and to question his ways, he criticized me and told me that I JUST had a fluke. Well, sure, luck played… but still! Him, it was for more than six months he was hitting the streets… and he got one street-FC in Lyon. Me, I did a session and I got one street-FC too. I do not say it enough: be pragmatic and make your time profitable. I had the chance to exchange on the subject with people who are knowledgeable in SPU (Snipe for example) and I KNOW it is by being direct that we maximize our results.

Seeing links where there is no link can therefore turn you, like my friend, to methods that do not bear so much fruits and block you into dead ends for years (principle of consistency). So beware: put things in perspective before jumping to conclusions!

Another thing: sometimes, guys do not think for themselves and take for granted things that a person they consider objective and good said. For example, a woman (usually their mother, sister or an ugly friend) told them with a peremptory tone that they must behave in such a way to have success (eg “be patient and pay for everything”). Since that day, they reject any advice from “competent” people (by that I mean people having concrete results and knowing how to transmit their knowledge) even if they their efforts did not pay so far. It’s stupid, not wanting to be “alpha”!

My opinion about seduction tips from women: “If you do not fuck her, do not listen to her.”

First, because maybe the girl who gives you her opinion is sincere but does not match the type of girls you would like to fuck. So, since there is nothing absolute in seduction, it directs you in the wrong direction: how to seduce the women that you do not want.

Furthermore, because the social pressure must be taken into account and that women who have not slept with you have often more difficulties to talk frankly about these things. They are more interested in maintaining their image of “purity.” It will be harder for them to do so if you just banged them in doggy style with some little spanking !!! The ice will also be broken: they will less feel shy.

On the contrary, some say that all the girls are sexually hardcore and everything. But as you do not see it in the life of every day, you will be in misunderstanding and think you’re ugly. But no, it’s only because they describe their reality when they say that … because with their girl-friends they talk a lot about sex (like us). Some will even exaggerate about their sex life to look smarted : but if you talk about the fact that it can become real with you, they may get cold feet because they do not often assume the fact of having oversold themselves. How to cope with all this shit? Make your own opinion and talk about gender relations with your conquests on the pillow! You will discover the reality for yourself and it will be even better (if you want you can read my ebook to take a shortcut).

I do not even talk about those who do not even know what turn them on nor about those that teach you how to be a good but submitted HUSBAND (not a good lover nor a good one-night) to better manipulate you.

In short, you can not imagine with the human: read the advice of competent people, experience to make your own opinion and draw YOUR OWN measured and thoughtful conclusions from repeated empirical facts. And finally, we do not forget that hazard controls our lives a little bit.