Author: Fabrice Julien PUA

Having FC on every field (street/Internet/club/bar/social circle), I want us to reflect on the differences between them today.

Are girls identical everywhere ?

It is obvious we can pick up a girl on the Internet one day and see her in the street or in a bar the other day. Or picking her up in a bar and then seeing that she is on Tinder. Or picking her up in the street, taking her Facebook and seeing there that we have friends in common. Besides, if you take her Facebook in one minute in the street and then you chat with her for a week before the fuck… is it really a FC from the street? Yes and no.

There is no “virtual girls,” no “street girls”, etc. There are girls. Period. What I mean is that they are whole persons. Some have tried to pick them up in high school, others in the street, others in a club, others on the Internet but they are still the same person.

But, the average profile of targets differs between fields. In bars, we will tend to find alcohol drinkers and smokers. While in a sports environment (eg if we pick up at the pool) they are less likely to drink and smoke. On the Internet, there is everything; there are those Party Girls and those who do not like to go out (in this case where could one meet them otherwise?) In the street there are any type of women, including those who do not like the dating apps and the clubs. The thing is, they are not likely to be in the same state of mind, they are not “sorted”, they are not necessarily open to meetings. Street pick up, in the end, it’s as hazardous as sending pokes on Facebook !!!

But, again, there is nothing absolute in there. There are healthy girls of mind and body that go clubs. There are nymphomaniacs are swimming in this very moment in a pool and will undress as soon as a guy will approach them (if they have time). There are girls shy and inexperienced everywhere too. They are girls who would like to enjoy your cock at this very moment somewhere.

For me, the only dangerous thing with online pick up is to practice only on it. That is to say not going out and losing contact with the ground. It’s easy to think we are a God if we do not take rakes in the face (with the virtual we do not really feel chicks ignoring us … they simply do not answer.)

A number taken is a number taken

Once we took the girl’s number, in the street, by night or online, we move to the stage of the phone game. This is where the different fields meet. Except for the online pickup because we have not necessarily seen the girl before the date. And there’s also a difference between the street and the night: sometimes in night we have already kissed the girl before taking her number. That said we said we have not seen her before with online but if you saw her in a club with lights and everything, you don’t know what she will look like with the light of day… this is not really better.

But is it really so important to have already seen her before or to have already kissed her before ? If she’s pretty and a good kisser, I mean. That’s why with online, it is important to be 99%sure she really is a hottie. And it’s important to test her relation with sex too. Note that you can also make quick kiss in the street. But it is rare and it really depends on the context (it works especially in holiday resorts or if we are really luck and fall on a girl to open to it in everyday life).

After the phone game logically comes the stage of the date. So there it is really the same, regardless of what field we took the number on before. Finally come the isolation step, the last minute resistances, and the sacrosanct doggy style with spanking.

The various fields therefore 100% meet during the date and 150% meet when you have your cock in her pussy.

So a guy who takes a lot of numbers in the street but fail all his dates should practice online to train to succeed his first dates. Or to practice online to work on his phone game too. He will quickly get experience that he will be able to reuse on every fields to get more results.

And about the instant dates now?

Sometimes we pick up in the street and we have a drink right away with the girl. But again, we reach the stage of date. It’s therefore sticking with my theory that all fields meet at this moment.

The only thing that may not stick, is that sometimes, in the night we go directly kiss her and bring her back home to have sex. Anyway, in theory this is also possible with the street and it happened to me online that a girl comes to my place and directly kissed me, fall on her knees and suck me without having really discussed before IRL . But hey, I put a lot of comfort and I had turned her on with my pen before, I have to be honest. All that to say that there are girls who are hungry for sex in all fields. Your job is to make them comfortable enough so they assume.

That said, to enjoy it, it is still necessary to have beaten your sexual anxiety and to outsmart potential obstacles that often come up at the last moment.

The street is perhaps the most prestigious field because you need big balls to approach during the day and because it is a little bit old school. I know guys who are comfortable in their social circle, they are very proud of it but they are not able to approach during the day (some can a little at night because everybody does but are a little frozen all the same). So that’s not good!

The online is perhaps the most criticized because supposedly it would be easier and everything. But actually no, I have Padawans who have no resultat nothing from online but it works for them by night. In fact, the real reason may be that people are afraid to say they have met their girl on the Internet. But hey, must not a PUA ASSUME ? Is it not one of the watchwords of the game?

Each his field?

My advice is to make your experience. Regardless of what field works best for you, practice it thoroughly. Your sexual confidence will can be reused on other fields ! And it will give you good morale to have results.

If it’s online it works best for you, so much the better! I know guys that had no result. I taught them how the online works and then they fucked a dozen chicks in a few months. But now, they spit on the online and they say is too easy and everything. They want to game in the street and by night at all costs! It is noble but why denigrating what suited them so far? Why would all this be incompatible?

Those who critic things like that, to show off or to reject their mentor or to feel good with themselves, I think that is just shows they are complexed and/or jealous. Each person has his/her own goals and means, that’s all. I bet I have readers who do not care about the “art” side of the game and who just want to have sex. So why should I deprive them of Tinder? Or medicine parties? Under the pretext that some think it is easier than elsewhere. So what ? It’s like chicks who want to fuck but do shit for the principle … why pissing off yourself (and annoying the others) willingly like this? This is not pragmatic.

I truly believe that some fields correspond more to some people (eg smoking alcoholics and the night). But it is important to continue to practice a little on the other fields, so as not to lose touch with the fact that the game is not a repetitive and boring thing.

But roughly speaking, the same things are to be understood. The same mechanisms are always behind the male/female interactions. Then, each personality is different and is a new adventure, a new land to explore, with its difficulties and its facilities. Sometimes it is easy, sometimes all shit. I do not think there is objectively a field easier than others. Each has quirks but the purpose is the same: enjoying life and making chicks dream.

It is like if you were playing Pokémon … red, blue or yellow version : at the end you still catch Mewtwo (sometimes with a Superball sometimes with a Masterball)!

The window of opportunity, what is it?

This is the period of time during which a woman would agree that things go further with you. But as it is a girl, she is waiting that YOU take matters into your two hands. And this is where it goes bad !!!

What types of windows of opportunity ?

There are several kinds of windows of opportunity to address. For example, approaching directly after having an eye contact in a club. It is sure that if you do nothing and you approach an hour later like coming out of nowhere: your value will be seriously reduced in her eyes.

There are windows of opportunity to numclose, to kiss and to fuck. There’s periods or evenings when women want to have fun and sex. And others in which they prefer to be in a serious relationship or to sleep with their best friend.

Why are the windows of opportunity closing?

Most women quickly change their state of mind, mood and opinion.

When we talk of attraction, men are rather binary (that is yes or no). For women, it is rather some gradual thing, constantly evolving, changing.

And because they have the CHOICE among a lot of men, it’s okay for them to drop the matter with you if you do something that cuts them some envy.

How long does a window of opportunity last ?

The duration of a window of opportunity depends on the circumstances and on the patience the girl can demonstrate to you if you’re a AFC. But this is not really the time in minutes that counts… the important thing is to shoot when you have a window of opportunity. Like any good hunter!

Seriously, put yourself in the shoes of babes two minutes. If a girl you was warming you hard for several days, and that when you decide “Okay I let her suck me,” she did nothing more. How would you live it?

Understand that many women (like many men) are in lack confidence and are very sensitive. They will maybe be vexed if you give them the impression you make fun of them of that you’re not really interested: they will imagine that they are eventually not beautiful enough for you, that you were making fun of them, or I dunno what (they sometimes have strange ideas). They will be annoyed if they feel that you are a small dick unable to take action or who is afraid of women.

You do realize from that perspective that if you’re looking to give a good image of you by playing the over-respectful gentleman, it’s not a good idea! Avoid spending too many opportunities in the future…

In fact, it may happen that the window of opportunity never closes! But this is a very rare case, so do not really count on it. This is when:
– There is a great complicity between the man and the woman,
– They met without explicit seduction (they were introduced by a mutual friend, for example)
– If the girl idolizes the guy a lot.
And provided of course that in the meantime la girl did not couple and decided to be faithful.

How to recognize a window of opportunity?

Learn the reading of IOI (indicators of interest) and everything. Sharpen your social and relational intelligence to better identify the windows to opportunity, be (more) confidence to be able to act, and do not let your natural shyness paralyze you.

If you missed the window of opportunity, the interest of your target will seem screeching halt. For example, she was touchy and offered you many things and then suddenly she changes her attitude and becomes colder.

Why men miss opportunities?

There are any problems like “approach anxiety” and “sexual anxiety” to take into account of course. But not only.

There’s also a lot of guys who want to “do too much”. You can tell they put a little too much the girls on a pedestal. They want to wait to be ABSOLUTELY sure that all lights are green… but one is never sure of anything in life, so they do nothing, and that fucking perfectionism turns against them.

Even with experience, we are never 100% sure … So, when in doubt: put our egos aside, perform a presumption of interested girl and let’s go merrily !!!

The risk

The main risk if you miss a window is to have regrets. To regret chicks we did not take the number and therefore we will never see again, the women we have not kissed in clubs when we could have, the girls could we have fucked because in hindsight we realize we had a big chance of success… but we tried nothing.

The advantage

The advantage to recognize a window of opportunity is that we can have women we would never have had otherwise.

You should know that we are not obliged to please them a lot for fucking them if we’re in the right place at the right time with the right attitude. Even if they like “hmm he is just OK”, we can steal the priority of the handsome guy of the college who was busy getting drunk at the bar with his friends during that time.

“Yeah, but if I go too fast and she gets blocked after?”

From experience, I would say we have the best chance to make out with a girl in the early days after the meeting.

Because :
– Of a certain mysterious magic around us;
– We had not yet enough time to do too much shit;
– If she is hot and cool, she will not stay long on the market;
– If one tries quickly and takes a rake, it will hurt less.

Does it matter if we have just kissed her because we took the opportunity and we did not sleep with her after ? Or if you slept with her once, it was good but she does not want to meet again because doesn’t assume ? I do not think it’s a big problem. Let’s say that it’s something. We are happy with what we had. We should be a little philosopher in life, damn!

And anyway, nothing lets me think that you would have had more by taking your time (if ever you wanted more). You’d probably even had nothing at all. It’s one of the things I have the most difficulties making the beginners understand, this: “Women sometimes forgive whoever sudden occasion, but never the one who misses it. “Talleyrand

Let’s meditate together on this.

Between the pressure of society, conditioning that one undergoes and the enormous amount of information (sometimes contradictory) that exist in the game: it creates neuroses. There are a lot of guys who think that the game is something very complicated. That one must control everything to perfection to get results. This reasoning is crappy (this subject is taboo so we would like to believe that it is mystical or that it’s very difficult but actually not): I will explain to these guys why it does not pay for them despite their efforts.

1/ They often follow a protocol for reassurance

Among the beliefs that limit the results, there is the fact of thinking that one should always follow one type of protocol:

“Approach => numclose => phone game => date => kiss => phone game => date => Sex”

And even sometimes the protocol continues as follows:

“Sex => couple => saying I love you”

Big program …

The problem is that the guys I’m talking about already visualize all this when they approach … rather than letting it be. They have a too sacred relationship to women and/or sex and, indeed, it’s scary.

In terms of post-sex schema, why wishing a couple right away and saying “I love you” ASAP? Why putting the pressure? Why not just enjoying what we have without rushing things?

Sometimes women like to just fuck like that, from time to time, without having to put a label on the relationship. They do not necessarily want you to account nor to sleep only with you.

2/ Alpha Protocol

I have, for my part, not really a Protocol but if I had one, it would amount to:

“Collision => having fun by testing her => offer to make her come => sex => after I see if I want to see her again”

It is very unfortunate to lock in complicated patterns because sometimes the chicks simply want to fuck … like us. And by complicating everything, we lose opportunities under our nose. Sometimes you can go directly from the approach to sex in less than an hour. Yes, yes, I swear. If both parties agree, why complicating ? Why wanting to follow certain formalities? Why believing that you need to do a lot of things so a bitch wants to suck your cock? This need, this attraction, we feel: it’s organic. And they also feel it. Do not forget that when you give pleasure to a beautiful girl, it’s a win-win scenario.

I’m not saying that one can always point blank offer a girl to come over and fuck her. But I’m saying that it is our right to try.

If she wants to have a drink in the city before, let’s go if we want to go out or if she motivates us enough, but at least will we had the balls to show that we are someone who has a simple relationship with sexuality.

And so she will know what to expect after “the drink”. In short, with this view: we make two steps forward, one step back.

3/ Dare and let go what you cannot control (the mindset of the girl)

I advise all players who know their theory and who regularly practice but do not fuck much, : simplify your game plan.

My advice: try to seem pretty normal to have a pretty look and ESPECIALLY have the nerve to propose some sex to girls. Go more straight to the point, straight to the F-close!

Do not say it like that, of course, set it a little in a context of beautiful words. Invite her to drink a glass of wine at your place, or at her place (if you can do home dates for sure that it is always better because after the conditions are favorable and you just have to warm her).

If she wants to go for a drink in a neutral site before being in an intimate place, accept on condition that it is not far from one of your places… to be able to go there easily if you both feel desire (specify these conditions in your offer “on the table”).

In conclusion: communicate more directly with the fair sex, while respecting them! And do not neglect personal development.

Assume further your desires and dare to ask what would make you happy. Relax on the headaches and everything…

Especially do not be discouraged if a girl makes you feel guilty by condemning your “direct” approach, for example by insulting you. This is because it returns her to her own limits, her glass prison, her all kinds of fears… It often happens to me, and I tell myself, that all the same, the conditioning hurt and frustrates a lot of people.

Repeat this large scale strategy for the results to match your expectations! Try my philosophy at least one time, what does it cost you? And it surely will please many of you.

Reminder: having the nerve is to be cheeky, have plumb, audacity, boldness, a nerve. Sometimes being a little cheeky and bluff wisely (if it does not turn against you after you pretend like if you say you are going to make her come ten times when you know very well that you will ejaculate in ten seconds ).

“In the field of wisdom, progress requires a good deal of nerve.” Hanif Kureishi

Today I wanna explain what I think of this question that some chicks ask “what kind of relationship are you looking for?” They ask it to me especially on the Internet, but I’ve also read it by texts after taking a number and heard in bars before going home.

It’s behind the question:

In general, the chicks who ask this question want to hear “something serious”. They want to feel reassured about the intentions of the guy and feel good. So only the victims of social pressure need it.

There is however a minority of girls who will next you if you start playing the “good guy” because they know very well that it is surely a lie. They appreciate honesty, and I I like them for their non-naivety. That said, if you were really sincere while saying that having sex with you would engage her in a serious relationship, they will surely next youanyway because they probably do not want a spineless wimp.

In my case, most of the time this shitty question ends the interaction. I do not like hearing platitudes like that. A girl who does not think for herself and does not see where her interest is make me flee. Especially because they often say “serious or SEXFRIEND (like it’s dirty vade retro one night stand)!”

Your reasoning:

Most guys make the following reasoning:
– If I say “sex” and that she does not want to hear this … she will next me
– If I say “sex” and that’s what she wants too … we take a shortcut
– If I say “serious” and that she wants it too… I’ll see her but it will be hard
– If I say “serious” and she wants to hear “sex”… we lose a lot of a time in the better or a good sex session

Lots of guys are trying to play it “romantic” but actually just want to fuck chicks. Which continues the tradition of the assholes.

Oh yeah, the lambda guys thinking they are very original, tend to write a long tirade to impress the girl, a pompous thing to clear themselves of the terrible label “pig who wants sex.” They do not assume their role. Result: a corny praline answer that stinks like a lie. But they do not want that either (except single-minded doves). If we talk of commitment after three mails, we risk scaring them off (except the foolish ones).

My advice is : don’t worry about losing an opportunity: above all, do not take a headache. Answer what you want to offer her, and next it she it is not happy with that. In the worst case, too bad for her if she prefers being alone and frustrated waiting the Charming Principle rather than fucking a good lover without consequence. It is by doing this that many women will never experience the true pleasure. But is it your problem since there are many other women less pain in the ass with their insecurity that will burn them priority with guys?

Why this is a ridiculous question:

It’s one of the questions that come up most often in the mouths of girls (more than my dick), and yet I find that it makes no sense. Or at least, it only shows the narrow-mindedness of those who ask.

Women do not realize that by eliminating systematically those who answer “I just want to have fun”, they actually miss meeting interesting people and goods guys.

Indeed, it is not because we are looking at first for a sexfriend that we are not a good person. And I have often seen one-night stands turn into a serious relationship. It even happened to me several times. But it is by choice, not by constraint, because we would commit to long-term in exchange of 10 minutes penetration.

I refuse to categorize my meetings because that would erase all the shades and all the magic that offer meetings. In my view, the dichotomy between sexfriends and serious relationship does not really exist, it’s much more subtle, Love. We can sleep with a girl at the first night without question and end up married to her two years later. While we did not envisage anything “serious” at the beginning… It even seems more sincere than signing a contract on the Internet even before having “tried” her.

Conversely, we can very well think during the first date that the person is made for us but realize a month later that it is not at all the case. We then lost time and have a drag on the foot. Simply, do simple: do not ask that kind of question too quickly and allow the interaction to evolve naturally.

Nevertheless possible answers:

“I let it be and see how it’s changing …”

“I do not take a headache. ”

“Why cutting corners? ”

” Isn’t a funny relationship better than a serious relationship? ”

“It is not decided in advance, a relationship is not a contract: it is depending on a lot of factors we do not control. But the idea is : I’m open to everything…”

“I take what life gives me.”

The road to redemption is long when you’re an AFC who wants to become a man sexually fulfilled (I’ve been there and I observe the guys I help). This road is long because once you start getting results, you meet new problems. Here are 5 pitfalls that you may have encountered during your beginning in the game or that you will meet.

1/ The guy who over-rates his targets

We all did, I think, in the beginning. “Oh guys, I made out with a 8
– No, that’s a 6, man.”

It is understandable : when one rarely touches chicks, every girl takes a heightened value in his eyes. In addition, it makes him feel proud to have touched a hottie. Also, you get used to beauty by running success, so you become more demanding.

But the problem is if you over-rate is that you are more likely to be addicted to a girl really under the level you might have. And you could think you’re good while you’re not yet. I think that as long as one has not fucked a real hottie (like a HB9) one cannos realize what it is like and is really naive.

There’s also the guy who under-rate all the girls for not having to move his ass during pickup sessions, for not having to try anything, or in order to justify the fact he did some shit, etc.

2/ The guy in a relationship with one of his first successes (they all think they had beginner’s luck)

This guy has thought for a moment he will never have a girl. He has narrow escape! Then, once he starts fucking one he relatively likes, he idealizes her.

Sometimes dominated by his hormones, he prefers to see his girl rather than his buddies. He spends his Saturday nights fucking her instead of picking up to find one better.

There’s no problem with being a couple, that’s not what I’m saying. What I am saying is that it is a mistake to be in a relationship by ease with the first girls who wants us, while we don’t know how it is elsewhere…

Well, then, this is a choice, the ease or the combativeness. With respective rewards that go with it. I do not advise to never be nice, to never to make a couple : The couple can be cool but it has to be a decision taken after reflection. I generally advise to wait at least three months before making an assessment to decide what we will do with this girl. Are we really in a relationship by choice? Or by default? Or she has forced our hand? Do we fantasize about many other babes we see in everyday life? If so, the couple is doomed to failure.

Be careful : when I talk about combativeness, I’m not saying we should be governed by our dick. A PUA is supposed to follow a code of honor : such as not trying to fuck at all costs, do not hit on the girl or the target of his buddies, etc. Respect, with men and women, is a value that must be impregnated. There are others, but let’s start with this one…

3/ The guy and the one itis

This unhealthy idealization leads:
– Or to deception (the guy who knows deep himself he can do better and stays with the girl for convenience) but is too much of a coward to break up;
– Either to the one itis (the guy is convinced he is in love with the girl while this is not love but a problem of ego… an unhealthy obsession). Victims of OI so much want to believe in love at first sight that they provoke it and then use it as an excuse EITHER to continue to see a girl that is not good for them (too lazy to go back on the field or they are feared of hurting the girl when he will break up) or to be whine during months and play the victim of unfair love.

It’s hard what I’m going to tell but I guess that cheating on the girl is healthier than sinking into depression because of the unhealthy obsession. I picked up a lot of guys with a spoon because of this problem so I know what I mean…

The danger with the OI, is that we may know that it is irrational, we may be warned … it is very bad anyway. To avoid this, like many other problems: avoid getting excited prematurely … when it comes to women, the situations often gets down as fast as it hot high.

4/ The guy who thinks AFC are always right

This kind of guy is still full of illusions about women, but he projects them on the success he has made through the game. He is interested in seduction community but do not assume it, he does not want to become “like that”.

Typically, this is the guy who starts kissing girls but that will not quickly go farther with his conquests because “he is a romantic” not like us : we are “poor dogs in heat who do not respect and women and do not understand life” in his eyes.

The thing is that while he his playing the gentleman, his target was was fucking another guy (I’ve been this guy)… or her ex (I’ve been this guy). Or, she will get bored of waiting his cock after four dates, will think he’s gay, and will not answer to him on the phone. Boom! Men are often more marshmallows than women…

This kind of guys will continue despite all our guards to say I love you too soon, to get excited too quickly, to behave like the dog of the girl, will too quickly imagine that she is the perfect woman for him and that he is her ideal, will suffocate her by one way or another (gifts, calls, texts, stress, etc.)

In general, a balanced bitch feels fear and flees when she is facing this kind of behavior. And anyway, your relationship is starting on a bad start for you, you would be the “submitted”. But the worst is that sometimes it could work: with LSE, chicks with problems, etc.

Warning: there are some girls who like pigeons because they make them feel good and because they will not need to make too much effort for them.

Thinking we are superior because we believe in love is a big bullshit. You have been warned! I’m not saying that love does not exist, just that it’s rare so those who fall in love every week should question it.

Feeling superior is a bullshit anyway: in the seduction community, we are here to help each other. To join hands. To understand. Not to judge or anything like that. Often the ego traps us so we don’t open our eyes, and we always say the others are wrong…

5/ The guy who prefers to give up and who claims that the game is shit

When we discover the game, our old beliefs are facing the reality of the field. No, the girls are not romantic little fragile princesses who only wants something “serious”. Yes, they sleep on the first night, sometimes with strangers, sometimes with women, etc.

Yes, even the one you’re trying to pick up for 6 months in mode “I take my time because I’m a nice guy” … I do not know how many cocks she hosted in her vagina since you’re playing the nice guy.

I’m not saying that to be cynical, but women lie a lot about their sexuality (they give a soft imageof it), and there are only pigeons to believe all their bullshit. I do not say this negatively, we are being brainwashed with this vision of the woman, but it is not good for us or for them. Women also suffer of being conditioned. Maybe not as much as the guys (because women’s balls are not cut) but still.

So yeah, the game is hard. Like life. Either you take the red pill and discover what is really behind the female, and it’s not always pretty. Either you take the blue pill and you stay in the world where girls are fairies. But in this case (denial), just do not give Puritan lessons to those who have chosen another way.

I’m not saying that all girls are whores. But I’m not saying all girls are good girls either. And it does not matter. But, what is serious and bothers me : it’s the guys who are willing to fuck chicks uncultured, vulgar, stupid, etc. just because those girls are dressed sexy. If one practices the game, one is not supposed to be sex-starved to death. Only looking after the physical and talking about love, it’s a fucking nonsense…

If you have recognized yourself in one of these cases, know that you will surely take some big slaps in the face again before being good with women.

Other errors in bulk to finish : the one who will buy all the products about seduction, the one who will never buy anything, the one who thinks he knows everything about women and can advisemen after only one year of game (or even sometimes less and even sometimes he wants to be “coach”), the one seeking a couple for the couple for the principle, the one who hates the women and wants to take revenge on them, the one who lies about his “exploits” (often to the point that it does is not even sound realistic), and many others…