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Self-esteem

What is this fucking self-esteem we’re talking about all the time? What is it and on what does it feed?

For Reasoner W.-R: “Self-esteem is the consciousness of the personal value that can be recognized in different areas.

In other words, is to appreciate your true value. And I stress the word TRUE. Not below as tend to do some of my readers. As to choose, perhaps a little bit superior to reality: it’s good for your mood.

Self-esteem mainly feeds on :
– Your material success (what you undertake)
– Your social success (recognition, feeling appreciated by others)

Obviously your level of self-confidence is related to your self-esteem. The above-mentioned elements reinforce the positive beliefs about yourself: they remind and reinforce it inside you.

All this makes sense … However, and this is a big however (like HOWEVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEER) : It is dangerous make your stability depend on external elements.

Our salvation and loss are in ourselves.” (Epictetus)
Let’s seek our goods in ourselves, otherwise we will not find them.” (Epictetus)

It is therefore necessary to make a short introspective work to find your freedom and well-being. Try to understand how you operate, your qualities, flaws, strengths, weaknesses, identify your fears in order to overcome them, etc.

The goal is that your confidence will do no more coming-and-going between the moments when you fuck a girl and when a drunk bitch put a rake and makes fun of you.

This introspective work will allow you to be more authentic with yourself and with others, especially women. Basically, you will see more clearly in your life.

Recess strategies and comparisons with other guys will no longer be needed. Most of your limiting beliefs will disappear. You will feel better about yourself…

According to you, what is your real level? Surely higher than what you imagine right now: you can bang more beautiful women! You can make threesomes too! You will no longer need to want to prove anything to anyone. Your interactions become more genuine. And that shit-test “do you say that to all the girls? / does it usually work with the girls that? “will no longer be needed. Maybe it will even make you smile.

The phase of “comfort” in the Mystery Method is neither more nor less than a phase of authenticity. It is therefore essential to please and seduce. At least, if you want to establish real relationships with women, relationships that can lead to healthy and fulfilling relationships. Why not preferring honesty and exchange to small grooming games?

The purpose of embarking on this little work:
– Developing your confidence with a solid foundation, which will be key to your success with women and in other areas;
– Enjoying your success because you have won, I mean the real you, and do not depend on success to feel good.

Why not living better with yourself and with the women who are part of your life? Everyone will be better off. What so tragic have you to hide, really?

 

Examples:

Some struggle against anxiety to approach a woman. If they took a step back on it, they would realize how ridiculous it is. They would say “I’m going for it, I’m not a weak boy!”

Some have been abused by an ex who took them for idiots. They then multiply the fuck-friends because they do not want to give women the control again. They are obsessed by jealousy when they see frequently a woman too. These behaviors disappoint themselves. By identifying them, they will better master them.

Some lie to their partners by having multiple “serious” relationships simultaneously. They therefore also have a lack of conviction and do not assume what they really want. It might be time to take stock of their life, it must be stressful to lie to everyone like that with the fear of being uncloaked.

Some base their pseudo-confidence of the day in alcohol or in a coach but the next day they become introverted again. They ruin their liver… when others go down to the basement bar with a strange and penetrating modjo, dark and terribly sensual. A sexual aura around them accompanies them when they approach women. If they had a history of timid, it is now a distant memory.

To be continued…

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How to become a chicks selector ?

How to become a chicks selector ?
NatiSythen — Travail personnel

“Would Leonardo Di Caprio chase a girl in the street to pick her up?”

The way the question is formulated is revealing: why comparing our situation to the situation of a movie star? Why thinking like a preselected selector ? Why, if we are in this case, making the effort to chace a girl?

What is a selector?

I’m taking about a confident guy who has the luxury of the choice in his love life. His sex life is rich, varied and fulfilling because women he likes like him in return. Women are seeking for his company in their life and in their bed.

How did he become a selector?

Perhaps thanks to his profession involving intense media coverage and a cult of personality like Di Caprio. In this case, many women would love to sleep with him even without having ever met up before. They want to know vicariously the thrill of a big bank account and celebrity. It’s not about feeling love.

Or he is a waiter in a famous club. These guys are not even necessarily handsome. But women may want to sleep with them to prove that they are beautiful (they chose them while they had a choice) rather than because he is really attractive. That said, by dint of being successful, these guys necessarily develop an alpha behavior that makes them a little sexy. But their success is often due to their work or art, so if they were deprived of it one day, I do not know if they would fuck a lot. Probably not, without this network…

For the others, I mean those who do not get wet underwear in their letter-box in the morning, we meet the women in our lives through our friends, during our trips or at work. Or on the Internet.

The important thing is to seize and create meeting opportunities. We must be active. Thus, this way we have the choice and the control. Moreover, picking up many girls, it eliminates the factor “personal taste” and we make out necessarily. This is one of the marketing concepts. We never sell to everyone, but the point is just to sell enough to be satisfied.

If you want to be the king of oil, I will not lie to your : it is necessary to provide the means. If you stay at home hoping that a pretty brunette with blue eyes will come in by your window and join you in your bed waking up with a magic pipe: it is not beforehand won! Do it as your want but initiate conversations with friendly people, especially pretty girls and make them want to see you again!

You will become selector as well as you improve your social and sexual abilities, you will one day or another be unable to find time for all the people who want to see you. You will then better choose the quality women for quality relationships. Your criteria will be according to your tastes: physical, intellectual, kindness, culture of the chick etc …

If you decide to remain single (or in an open relationship) to don’t lose your game, you will spend warm nights with beautiful girls BUT sexy women in the street still arouse your interest. Or in a bar with your fuckfriends: you will be preselected. With a huge modjo, it will be easier for you than for another to approach these girls before they disappear forever in a metro station. Hoping that the girl have more conversation than a handlebar.

Who are the bad selectors?

Those who are afraid of being thought of as “womanizers” (limiting beliefs) and deny their desire to approach beautiful women (avoidance strategy avoiding them to confront their fears).

Oh yes it is so important to don’t make a bed impression on girls that they do not know and will probably never see again : they want to give the impression of a guy who is not dog. But they are even more in heat now!

They thank heaven that no one had seen them taking a rake (nobody cares but well). Then they feel sad as they realize that every time they want to approach they invent crappy excuses. Because of stress, of course.

They reassure themselves by saying that the shortlisted men do not chase women. THEY ARE THE PRICE! They are therefore right to adopt strategies of denial and withdrawal. Not going for it! It is a bit shit and a full box of condoms reminds them every evening they have fucked only once this month. Take the critical distance of all that to overcome your bad habits (if you still have some : I’m talking about inventing shitty excuses).

What I find tasty it’s when politically corrects AFC believe harm me by saying that I sleep with lots of chicks while they actually make me a huge publicity. It’s a big problem to don’t understand women like that!

 

Confront your fears to reality

There’s really no contradiction between having women in your life and picking up chicks. Chicks often test me “why did you need to pick up if you’re really such a good lover? “Shut up, bitch. I love it, that’s it!

So, would Leo go out in a club with his wingmen to pick up chicks? I’ll ask him when I see him.

Approach chicks: If you always expect them to do the first step, the woman of your life may never be on your side. Give yourself the opportunity to have a choice between interested women!

One should always congratulate a guy who had the balls to approach correctly (I’m not talking about riffraff). He dared to confront his fears to reality.

 

Fake it up to you make it?

If you’ve got no chick and want to play the preselected alpha who don’t give a shit : you put the cart before the horse except they walk backwards.

Change your behavior by being more alpha but do not make your game rest on this device.
There’s super handsome guys and alpha who do not fuck much. They don’t create the opportunities. Between work, sleep, metro, sports, movies on their computer, etc. There’s also those that could be hot, like Ian Somerhalder, but do not have the appropriate coaches that push in their ass. They have the gene but we can see nothing. There’s a lot of guys like that with great potential who are doubled by opportunists like me. Not that it bothers me but I want to help! So: MOTIVATION! Work on your personal development to be more alpha and be active: go out, go for it!

 

If you start from scratch …?

Try to know yourself, to understand yourself. Change what needs to be changed to adopt ways of thinking and behavior that will make you live positive experiences.

Do not compare yourself to others. Envy is useless. Change your perspective on jealousy, don’t be jealous of your friends, you’ll love yourself. Personal development will help you fill your shortcomings, correct your flaws, and enhance your skills to become THE BEST YOURSELF POSSIBLE EVER. You will feel good and you’ll open to others. From there: alea jacta est.

Take pleasure in your life activities and share it with the people you meet.

Be interested sometimes in some chicks for anything other than their pussy or for the validation of your game. You will understand things that will make you more natural next time you will pick up.

Stay away from miracle cures and ready-made replicas create for magically fucking chicks. You need first a certain capacity for socialization and a proper look. Then we will talk of spontaneity and self-confidence!

You must reveal your personality! Consolidate it! Making out on dancefloor will not give you the keys of the female psychology nor of happiness. The day you’d be in a couple, you would pay dearly to have faked everything.

 

My conclusion : The economy of a personal development work is not desirable!

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Conversation-short ?

Conversation-short I have now here in Lyon several Padawans whose biggest problem is the fear of being conversation-short after two or three minutes of conversation.

Their problem is not even to really be short of it, but they always feel like they will not know what to say after the opener. Nor how to get her attention.

Their interactions that sometimes start at the speed of Usain Bolt often wind like an asthmatic in the Olympic games.

And you ? Have you ever felt frustration when an interaction ends because you do not know what to say? Do you find it embarrassing ?

Below, my advice to fix it. And no I do not limit myself to “if there’s a silence try to kiss her.” Lol.

1 / The Tortoise and the Hare

Most guys take as much pleasure to approach a girl as when they arrive late in the morning to work and are lectured in the office of their boss : they are eager to have done with that disturbing moment.

A natural reaction so : they vomit an opener learned by heart with a rate that could trigger an epilepsy crisis.

Although at first she answers with a smile, if they continue like that they’ll quickly be out of fuel. So: rather let the words come to you rather than talking at the speed of a Kalashnikov, which actually emphasizes your nervousness… certainly normal but communicative.

For example : The singers in the concert talk to the crowd as follows: SLOWLY!

When you kick a girl out of her occupations or her reveries, be intelligible, and do not talk too fast. Being comfortable is contagious too. Your bullets will so do a bigger impact.

2 / Make short

In reality, when we remember our past, we have no sense of time. Your last vacation at the beach might as well have lasted one, two or three weeks : you would absolutely keep the same impression about it.

You will have more benefits and be less likely to be eliminated by making things short and simple. By going straight to the point. Of course : if that is congruent with your body language.

3 / Keep it simple

I always liked simplicity. It has many advantages. In particular: you’re less likely to look like a weird guy like that (a weirdo). But also less likely to make a misstep.

A study conducted by researchers from the Harvard Business School shows that we tend to look for dissimilarities among our interlocutors after only a few minutes of interaction. And since we like what we are, it’s better to do not leave her much time to count our “dissimilarities”. Also, the brains of most people have a certain bad habit to remember more the negative than the positive.

 

Women too

Sometimes I approached the girls and I left a silence. Often, those who are interested try to fill it and there you see all the faults of the AFC. Women are often shy and not used to make efforts. So even if it’s an IOI and we appreciate the effort, it is sometimes a little ridiculous when they do that.

Sometimes they criticize our stuff (to do not have sex with us) but they would do worst if they had to pick up men. What an injustice!

Sometimes after they feel too stupid and send a text message with a little better quality (a little more daring). AFC !!!

 

Damn, it’s almost snowing outside here, windy dehorners a cuckold and the night now falls before the time of going out of work. So you better get right to it than staying in the cold chatting in the street.

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Facebook vs Phone

There are plenty of players who refuse to use Facebook. Or to upload their picture on it. For me, Facebook is yet a good source of fuck-closes. And not being on this market, makes these guys more marginal than anything else. Warning : of course, use Facebook to your advantage, because there are many pitfalls! But the game is worth the candle. This is only my opinion. Anything that can make you get in touch with chicks is good for your game.

Why should you use Facebook?

– To remember the girls that we took contact. By typing their phone number into the search bar, you can easily find their profile (a lot have given their number to FB). You can take directly their FB too, which is less intrusive than phone number (they so give it more easily) but it’s the same in practice as they receive notifications on their mobile. For alcoholics, it can be used to realize that they actually have kissed a yucky chick last night in a bar and do not recall her.

– No need to take more than one contact to find and close the whole group to whom we spoke. Then you can make a batch invitation in an event, something like “big orgy for Fab’s birthday.” Convenient ! It’s also a good way to be easily invited at private parties!

– It allows to stay in touch with chicks who live far away from you. It prevents their numbers rot at the bottom of your phone, exceeding the expiration date because the calls abroad are expensive! In addition, they can meanwhile fantasize about your life and your photos! Then one day, if they come back in your town, maybe they will send you a message!

– It helps for making a large-scale social proof. I do not suggest you to take your picture surrounded by bottles of alcohol at 100€ the bottle at the back of a nightclub as some do. But rather to let ostensibly visible messages of girls on your wall, post holidays pictures that can make them wet, which will of course be commented by a lot of people!

– It allows you to fill information: I do not suggest you become a cyber stalker! But knowing who your friends in common with your target or when she goes “single” on FB is always useful information that help you to better calibrate!

How to use Facebook?

– Use it as a tool to create an identity. What you want to communicate with chicks! Be your own community manager! As explained in my ebook about online pickup, the goal is to work on the marketing of yourself!

– Be active! Post simple and fun stuff (it avoids going creepy). If it goes up in smoke delete it or leave it sink into the history of your page (in I don’t care mode and I assume I don’t give a shit about your tight-ass opinion).

– Do not deprive yourself of posting images and videos. Or songs! Interact with people, even if it is not about you or something you’ve done, it can start conversations!

– Be active on the pages of others and they will be more likely to be active on your page!

– Keep your contacts: just like in an IRL interaction when you expect to be rejected, you do not eject yourself alone on FB. Here, do not delete your contacts (except the spammers and other fake profiles) but keep them under wraps. We never know. It happened to me that chicks talk to me more than a year after I added them. And I ended up making out with … I would have been a little stupid anyway to delete them! You can intelligently sort your contacts with the “lists” (Security Settings / more personalized visibility).

How to avoid that Facebook turns against you?

– Do not complain about your boss, your income, your taxes, your other personal concerns… Also avoid racist, misogynist, messages causing damage to human or animal dignity or promotion of illegal stuff … Your potential employers can fall over at any moment and even then it’s not very good for your image.

– Life is no shortage of reasons to depress us. Anyway, try to stay positive and fun on FB. Otherwise you might scare everyone (except depressed and depressing people). Also avoid messages that the only point is to draw attention to your spleen, like “how awful what just happened to me” and when people are worried about you answering “come on private message my best friend I do not want to tell everybody about it”. Why not talk to her in private directly to your BFF? Personally, I want to distribute slaps to such people.

– Avoid sham. Avoid clichés pictures with strangers. It’s a bit ridiculous and it only highlights the fact that you complex and need to prove that you can make out with girls… we all know that ¾ of the time you don’t make out with these girls, btw.

– Do not become a fan of cyber-babes. Do not like all their photos, not commenting with “waw beauty! “You are not a AFC, fuck! Your likes must have a value. Your comments even more.

– The chat is a good pickup tool but do not do shit with it. I mean that if you talk two minutes to chicks in a party and take their FB then once comfortably at your place you start your game. It’s a bit counterproductive! You will not fuck by interposed computer! Also avoid sending the same message to two friends … otherwise they could make fun of you, like both answering the same things or falsely warming you.

– It’s better to ask the FB of chicks instead of adding people who you did not dare to speak in the party. I mean, you still have to show that you have balls if you have not dared to approach this party for sure it’s easier on FB but that does not necessarily communicate good things about you! In case it is a girl with whom nothing links you (like a dummy profile found by chance in a group on FB), you have nothing to lose by trying … but the odds are low!

– Couples: Avoid sugary crap messages to your girlfriend. And avoid photos that spread your love to light (especially if she do not do the same). It sucks, and then you would be thought of a jealous pussy! Do not become paranoid by interpreting all the news on her wall as a threat to your relationship!

– Please, do not pollute the FB pages of your contacts by posting crap, inviting them to shitty games, by tagging them on stupid publications … etc. Even if you are a hottie, I could refuse to fuck you for that.

– Do not make FB become a full time job. It can quickly become addictive and time consuming! This must remain a communication tool.

– FB is less intrusive than phone calls (just like text messages). Though now there’s calls on FB that personally piss me off! In short, I find it’s better to manage your response time than being pressurized and sounded like Nestor by Captain Haddock when he wants his whiskey! Personally, it’s just the people lost to come to my place or who have something to tell me urgently who phone to me… everything else is organized by FB or texts.

Text messages type or prepared message on FB can help to warm chicks and set dates. Being a supporter of the least effort does not make you a man without balls as some claim on seduction forums (the anachronistic weirdos)! The calls, me and it pisses me off and in addition it is often bad news! So I sympathize with chicks and send them an texts or a message on FB. And I remain alpha because I’m not doing this out by cowardice but because I prefer.

Last warning : take good care of your spelling, if you prefer this option, you too! Unless you like picking up illiterate bitches.

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My opinion on Mathieu Valbuena’s sextape

I don’t like gossips but I will make an exception.

I just attended to a preview of the dissemination of the sextape of Mathieu Valbuena in Pathé Plan de Campagne with the entire team of the movie. I brought my little camcorder so I filmed everything in the room (sorry for the quality). In exclusively, I suggest you to download the sextape of Mathieu Valbuena………………….. I’m just kidding.

Seriously, I’ll tell you briefly what I think of this case.

I think that’s going a bit too far to be just a promo shot. Benzema will surely be fired from the soccer team of France. And I don’t see what interest he would have to do that: his international reputation will take a hit. He can no longer aspire to the same salary expectations. In the worst case, he will even go to jail.

Seriously, tell me why this guy needed to participate in the blackmail of Mathieu Valbuena? He does not make enough money already like that or what? That’s the image he wants to give to all young people who take him as a model?

Personal grudge against Valbuena? Jealousy crap? Pure bullshit? What to create another Zahia affair? Mathieu has banged Benzema’s girl ? Or the contrary ?

When I lived in Aix, one of my girlfriends made out with Mathieu Valbuena. Well, she slept with him. She was a waitress in a bar/club at 20-minutes from the city center by walking (for those who see what I’m describing). He had decided to use his fame and money to bang this chick.

Anyway, she told me that he was not very good in bed. Well then, it is of course subjective, and then it goes back to a few years but … Nevertheless this is what she had told me.

After sex, she showed me the SMS he sent to her … and I must say that he was quite needy. It was almost ridiculous. He, a footballer of the team of Marseille, famous yet at the time and rather fit had problems to bang a waitress? It’s hard. These guys must have all bitches at their feet.

With that said, she did not say anything about the size of his penis. She was respectful. I forgot to ask her if they did weird things in the bed.

So now, can we say that Valbuena freaks like that because he is scared that all France realizes that he is not good in bed while watching his sextape? It’s just a theory, but the question is worth asking.

Seriously, me if I had a sextape, I’d be proud of it. It would make me some free publicity. We would see how much I’m not bad and even more chicks would contact me via my blog to orgasm with me.

Besides, she was filmed how and by whom, this sextape? And how did she get into the hands of Benzema’s friends?

Anyway, don’t worry too much, Mathieu. It’s been years since I want to see the sextape of Leighton Meester (Blair Waldorf) and I have not found it yet. So well…

No, seriously, just a review to finish. If the choice is between Benzema and Valbuena for the French soccer team, I prefer Valbuena. More regular. I hope this story will end well. But I hope I will understand one day why did he leave Russia so fast ? An orgy that turned badly ?

But in any case, such a grudge in the France team would be too harmful. The balance of a team is more due to the atmosphere than to individual talents. So if we really come to this extreme, we will have to do without Benzema. That’s what I think, anyway.

Oh well. And maybe we will get even better.

The good point for him, it will leave him free time to bang Rihanna. I’m sure she makes him hard since she wrote him a tweet.

Look, I’m also sure that I’m a better lover than him. Sextapes contest when you want, guys! Rihanna to decide between us.

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Convict vs Casual in seduction

Convict vs Casual in seductionHe got a date on the Internet.

Scenario 1: The galley of the pickup

He comes a little early. Stressed, it is obvious: he is impatient. And he apprehends.

However, she comes after the appointed time. She vaguely apologizes “sorry I’m a bit late.”
He is quick to get up to kiss her on the cheek (without the hug) and says “it doesn’t matter” many times so he makes sure she doesn’t take him for an asshole.

There he sat in front of a pure beauty. He did not think she really would come to the date. He can not believe she is even got dressed pretty for the special occasion. Would he have a chance?

She orders a glass of wine and continue “I cannot stay long I have to go to comfort a friend who had just broken up with her boyfriend.”

He stresses, he says to himself he’ll have to take the high road to impress her and make her want to meet up again.

His minutes are counted, the phone will ring.

“So what do you do for a living” Fuck, he realizes that it’s a little shit as a question. After she answered, he continued, “do you love to travel? ” Oh yes, that’s good, the travel. He read it on ADS.

Twenty minutes of winded conversations ensue, then her phone sounds and she smiles. She offers to pay her drink but he pays for her. She leaves officially to join her friend. “Sorry
– It’s nothing. See you next week?
– Maybe, I tell you”

He never got a second date. He simply lost sight of the essential. He forgot the essential component of a good game: fun.

He will type on google “how to make a success of my first date? “; “How to have an interesting conversation? “; “How to seduce her? ; “How to make her want me? “; “How to see her again after a date? ”

He’ll find the answers to his questions about Diary of a French PUA.

Scenario 2: The casual player

He comes five minutes late. Normal, he fucked another girl the day before and he is tired. She still turns up after him. She apologizes, he replies that he was late too, so it’s okay! She feels comfortable this way.

He gives her a kiss on the cheek, she turns her head waiting for a second kiss, he teases her “ah but you want one second kiss? “And he kisses her a little closer to the lips. He set arm around her shoulders to greet her. She appreciates his body language.

He tells her to sit where she wants. She puts herself in front of him, with the thighs that time from time temp to caress his legs. He asks her what she wants to drink, calls the waiter to order both drinks.

He makes her talk. He casually give her occasions to sexualize. Then he says she has a dirty mind. That’s it, it’s fun, she accepts the frame like what it is sexualized between them, he teases her, it’s fluid. It is comfortable, she speaks.

She is very cute and she do not look stupid. Quite apart and open-minded. That’s why he gives her some of his time in a bar.

He teases her, she gives him a pat on the shoulder. He asks how she will be forgiven for having sexual assaulted him, she says she has lots of ideas with stars in her eyes.

Drinks happen. They clink glasses. A spark circulates them at the moment of the contact of the two glasses. A shiver routes. It is sexual energy. He acknowledged: he likes and knows how to play with tension. He masters his subject. He is comfortable when other guys would be uncomfortable. He has a good game.

After a while she strums on her phone. He can see from the corner of his eye she told her friend, “it’s good he is nice.” He grabs her hand like to see her ring or something and stroked a little. She sees through his game but pretend to not. It amuses them both to flirt like that.

He is never short on fun conversation topics and is distributed foolproof. A man with such a sexy humor makes her feel like she’s dreaming. She believes she is in a TV show.

He goes to the bathroom. Once back, after of course washed and dried his hands, he put one on her shoulder. She sat turns around, a little surprised. He looks like saying something stupid to her ear and kissed her. She gets off! He stops the kiss “enough, you’ve enough jumped on me like that;)”

She giggles of nervousness and says she did not expect it … they speak a little and take advantage of it to slip into the conversation that he doesn’t live very far from the bar. He has a cute cat, surely she would love to meet it. He offers to introduce them. She’s OK. They walk hand in hand to his house. In the hall, there, he pushes her against a wall and warms her like a master of foreplays.

Then arrived home, she laughs because there is no cat. And he makes fun of her gently to have truly believed him, saying that it is the most fucked up excuse in the world. He continues casually to warm her and they fuck. She did not even want to resist because she’s flooded. He has already put on a condom by giving her a cunnilingus. The best oral sex of her life.

She enjoyed it o much that she recommends him to her friends and they make a threesome the next week.

Congratulations!

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The 2 cunnilinguist categories

The 2 cunnilinguist categoriesIn my view, we can divide all cunnilinguists into two categories, but first, let’s have a look at the issue of cunnilingus!

Cunnilingus is an oral sex act performed by a person on a female’s genitalia (the clitoris, other parts of the vulva or the vagina). The clitoris is the most sexually sensitive part of the human female genitalia, and its stimulation may result in female sexual arousal or orgasm.

Cunnilingus can be sexually arousing for participants, and may be performed by a sexual partner as foreplay to incite sexual arousal before other sexual activities (such as vaginal or anal intercourse), or as an erotic and physically intimate act on its own. Like most forms of sexual activity, oral sex can be a risk for contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs/STDs). However, the transmission risk for oral sex, especially HIV transmission, is significantly lower than for vaginal or anal sex.

Oral sex is often regarded as taboo, but most countries do not have laws which ban the practice. Commonly, heterosexual couples do not regard cunnilingus as affecting the virginity of either partner, while lesbian couples commonly do regard it as a form of virginity loss. People may also have negative feelings or sexual inhibitions about giving or receiving cunnilingus, or may refuse to engage in it.

“Eating pussy” redirects here. If you’re not Chienese, you know what it means…

The term cunnilingus is derived from the Neo-Latin words for the vulva (cunnus) and tongue (lingua). Additionally, there are numerous slang terms for cunnilingus, including drinking from the furry cup, carpet munching, and muff-diving. Several common slang terms used are giving lip, lip service, or tipping the velvet; the latter is an expression that novelist Sarah Waters argues that she “plucked from the relative obscurity of Victorian porn”. A person who performs cunnilingus may be referred to as a cunnilinguist.

The women would rather guide her partner in terms of movements, pressures and pace they prefer.

According to a 2006 study (CSF survey), 85% of men and women have already experienced cunnilingus.

 

Cunnilinguist categories:

Those who like it and those who do not like it.

Those who know where the clitoris is and those who do not know.

Those who lick the clit and those who lick around.

Those who dismiss the skin that protects the clitoris and those who let it there.

Those listening to the reactions of the girl and those who eat it always the same way.

Those who put fingers while they lick and those who do not put fingers inside.

Those who always lick lying on the bed and those who experiment different positions (standing, front, back).

Those who do not care that there are hairs and those it blocks.

Those that smell bothers and those who know how to position their nose.

Those who eat the girl out after intercourse if the woman did not orgasm and those who don’t give a shit as long as they ejaculated.

Those who have experienced female ejaculation and those who have never make a woman squirt.

Those who know when the woman is faking orgasm because is bored and those who don’t.

Those who recognize the symptoms of the orgasm and those who don’t.

Those who stop when the girl says “stop” and those who continue to make her orgasm.

Those who stop when she came and those who continue, irritating her.

Those who stop just before she comes so the pleasure is greater and those who don’t know this trick.

Those who catch cramps: tongue, jaw, etc. and those who are well-trained.

 

For more information about the oral sex and how to make chicks orgasm like crazy bitches, read my ebook on the subject.

Sincerely,

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15 movies you must see about seduction

15 movies you must see about seduction

#1 Roger Dodger

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I liked this movie. Legendary quote : “sex is everywhere” !

 

#2 Spread

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This movie is cool, full of good lines to improve your game.

 

#3 Confession d’un dragueur

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This film is a bit old but realistic and especially well considered!

 

#4 Alfie

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Some good advice in this movie, but I find the character deserves slaps in the face!

 

#5 L’homme qui aimait les femmes

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How to put romance in pickup! Too bad the atmosphere of the film is a bit old-fashioned!

 

#6 Hitch

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There are good things to learn from this movie (Ross Jeffries was a consultant on the film) … but it’s really too politically correct for me!

 

#7 Vicky Christina Barcelona

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This movie must be watched for the character played by Javier Bardem : very alpha and good understanding of women !

 

#8 Match Point

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This movie must be seen for the sexual agressivity of the main character !

 

#9 Serge Gainsbourg (vie héroïque)

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Great movie about an ugly legend of seduction.

 

#10 Top Gun

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To be watched for the body language of Tom Cruise which is THE legendary model of the seduction community.

 

#11 Crazy Stupid Love

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Another film on the theme of seduction coaches who gives some good advice… but it’s still too politically correct for my taste.

 

#12 Magnolia

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For the character played by Tom Cruise, it seems he was inspired by Ross Jeffries! Without much other interest…

 

#13 We Need To Talk About Kieran

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Watch it just for Gambler (a famous PUA) aka Richard La Ruina.

 

#14 The Mentalist

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Only one episode to watch : season 1 episode 14. He explains why and how the game works.

 

#15 Castle

 

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I like Castle and there, in the episode 11 of the season 4, he investigates the murder of a PUA.

PS : Interested in seduction ? Don’t hesitate to find out my ebook “The basics of seduction“…

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How to face rejection ?

How to face rejection I watched Ted 2 this weekend. At a given moment in the movie, John tried to pick up a redhead nurse in a sperm donation clinic (as class as picking up in a AIDS detection center): he asked her out, and she answered “no I have a boyfriend”. And he replied “too bad, you’ve missed a nice guy.” It made me want to write an article about rejection.

How to handle rejection? How to react to rakes? And for who is it “too bad” in the end? Him or her ?

If ever you want to call it rejection. We can also use the word “refusal”. This is less negative. For me a rake it is when a girl I want to fuck doesn’t want me, not when an unknown I do not know does not want to fuck me. It makes no sense to take it personally.

There are several types of reactions :

A. The guy takes a rake and is broken. It doesn’t approach anymore for weeks and cry over his fate. Women have power over him. They have broken him.
B. The guy takes a rake and go on the next one without being affected. He said nothing, he ignored it and turns away. The girl then realizes that she is not that important.
C. The guy takes a rake and says something to have the last word and then leaves. So the girl knows what she misses. It shows a certain level of confidence. But, some stupid girls will think “who does he think he is, this one is a braggart.” But well…
D. The guy takes a rake and nailed the beak to the girl. He explains her what she missed and why she doesn’t deserve him. It can be funny to see their faces decompose during the argument but hey, it’s a waste of time. Few, very few are those who will change their minds. They will rather steer.
E. The guy takes a rake and cannot handle it. He became aggressive with the girl. It is intolerable because when you play, you have to accept you can lose. Because if we cannot lose, each victory is an illusion (like at the carnival).

From a profitability perspective, the reaction B is the best one, I guess. But it’s not realistic to think you can always nervously stick out like this: sometimes it feels good to vent. Especially when they are nasty with us but we have done nothing else than approaching them. Reactions C and D may be justified in some cases, but I do not think they help a lot in practice.

The reactions A and E are prohibited. A minimum of inner game is requested please!

Be aware that, sometimes, direct rejection are just a test. We must therefore learn to differentiate a “no” from a shit-test! For this, there is the reaction F: humility…

Below, a part of what I wrote about rejections in The (Inconvenient) Truth about Gender Relations (click to read the full text):

Relativize

You can do exactly the same thing on two girls, one will find you sexy, the other will find you repulsive. Which one is right? None.

Afraid of what ?

You will try to be sensual and will, of course, sometimes be rejected. For example, you will maintain eye contact with a woman who will give you back just a look in response making you understand that she finds you disgusting. Then she will turn and will not deal with you anymore. Ouch, that hurts. But there is nothing to fear. This is not so different from a verbal rejection. It is even rather better, in fact. More direct! And keep in mind, that one day or the other she probably fucked a less handsome guy than you …

I like the quirkiness. I like to put pressure on girls. To see women blushing or becoming nervous amuses me. I know you are afraid of being labeled as a “weird guy” and that’s why you do not dare to move faster physically. So you stay in a friendly mode and waste your time.

Guys have to overcome that fear. Starting conversations with strangers, this is not “weird”, being tactile and sensual is not “disgusting” and pushing things sexually doesn’t directly makes you a “perverse”. All this are just beliefs …

If you are sociable and you start conversations, women will test you by saying that it is strange to do that. Or they will give this stupid skeptical look we all know. All the other guys do not have enough balls to approach women, but it is not weird that… Phew. And they want us to believe that it’s better to stay wise … but where is the world going?

When you are sensual, women try to make you feel “dirty”.

When you are sexually aggressive women test you by saying that you are evil (as if it was a bad thing…) Most guys are afraid of the label “perverse” because it refers to the image of an old man who masturbates in a sex shop.

But it’s not that at all, and you want to be “perverse” because you do not want to be asexual. Do not let social pressure having so much power over you that it has on these people stuck in their conditioning.

Not getting rejected, that does not mean you’re good

Most guys think they were good because they were not reject … at least, not yet. This is actually a bad thing. And they are not really good. Being rejected early in the night should be your goal. Before the first rejection, you will be tense and shy. After, you will be free and ready to perform feats.

When I’m snub for the first time of the night, it annoys me. It drives me crazy. Anger rises in me … but this is not an anger against women. Hate is there because I just realized that releases and critics are a big joke, and I cannot believe that I was scared and it stopped me from doing what I wanted in life until today…

After realizing this, nothing can stop me. Basically, I need the first rake to put me on track and have a fun night (and we do not make an omelet without breaking eggs; there will always be waste).

A woman is laughing at you? Makes fun of how she rejected you ? That’s funny. That’s what you were afraid of? Yet it is nothing … You will know you have improved when you can laugh at rakes and that you can even shut up the mouths of babes who respond badly. Remember that for some, going out and playing the bitch, well it’s funny. The best solution is to laugh in their face “thank you, it was really funny.”
People who get angry easily and make scandals are trying to manipulate you emotionally. They want to intimidate you. I’m sure you know people like that. The best strategy is to take the wrong way. They want you to perceive them as important; you see them just as entertainment. In addition, this casual attitude seems to piss them off. When girls understand they are not so important for you (individually speaking, at least), it drives them crazy. Then, each responds differently (some are less stupid than others).

Some are even worse after being rejected. I’m ten times better. I know myself. I need to be rejected to feel free. Loose. That’s why I quickly need social rejection and physical rejection before being awesome.

I have a friend who does not approach women. He’s handsome and cool but he hopes that women come to him like mosquitoes attracted to light. Thus, if they approach him, they have done all the work and are hopelessly attracted to him because have invested a lot. It’s bogged him down in long relationships where he is the prize.

The only problem is that it is too passive. He can stay a long time without meeting anyone even by going out twice a week. It may take months before he finds a new girlfriend.

The other guys are the opposite. They approach everything that moves anyhow hoping for a positive answer. Even if they have to suffer violent rejections and talk for hours to women without interest, they stay. This attitude fucks up you confidence in the long term and you can catch the phobia of starting conversations.

The compromise is to quickly select women but only invest time in those excited that you contacted them. Those who smile, laugh and feed the conversation. If you do not get a positive response right away, leave. This is not an excuse to do anyhow, discuss the best way possible, stack the odds in your favor but you invest only for those who understand how lucky they are that you approached them.

One way to avoid scandals, preserve your confidence and maximize your results socializing is to limit the time spent with foolish and wicked stupid bitches. Do not spend with them a second longer than they deserve. You can only do this if you allow yourself to leave the conversation on a bad note.

We don’t give a shit, but with class

This means you do not look for the perfect exit. You can go away in the simplest way. Even if it looks strange. Just as you came, you leave.

I think most guys do not approach enough women because they think that once the conversation is started, they must stay and make sure that it works with the girl. They feel trapped.

It is sure that if you see things like that and suffer the pickup more than you live it, approaching can quickly become a hassle.

You start a conversation with a sexy woman on the right. She’s cute, but sarcastic and not at all playful. She makes fun of your pink shirt. Then she contradicts you on a bunch of silly topics. You clearly do not like her personality so why staying with her? Turn heels and ignore her, she will not understand what happened. These girls were not enough rejected by guys in their lives. Or have been too much rejected and take revenge. In any cases, they have a problem to do so … We can even say that they overcompensate! Their nasty attitude refers to their own problems.

If someone must be under pressure, do you prefer it is you or the others?

When you go out, and you behave in a sociable way, you do not need to try to save face. You do not try to have the last word. You don’t care about leaving on a good note.

And better yet, if you’re not afraid of weirdness, you do not even need to go away, let people get bored and leave… and take their place.

If the girl you’re talking to is a bitch, or if the interaction does not appear well enough started to be productive, leave without further ado. Have some character, fuck!

Most guys are afraid to push the envelope too far because they are happy with just small successes. They want to rethink the interaction and keep a good taste in the mouth.

“A handjob would make me very happy but I’m too afraid of being hurt in my ego if I ask you, and you say no.”

You know very well my views. Make her say no. Press her like a lemon. My credo “Suck me or insult me, but do not stay in inaction.” The problem is that you are most of the time not actually looking for being sucked nor insulted. It suits you to be there, to smile and watch her laugh listening to your jokes. It makes you feel good. You want to go head high so you do not push the thing up.

It’s enjoyable to hang out with a girl and smile blissfully. Most gus merely that. They prefer the sweet, platonic relation with a woman to a rapid physical escalation because it runs the risk of brutally breaking the interaction.

The same can occur when you caress each other’s hand. The caress of the hands is so enjoyable that you forget to push things more sexually. But the problem is that this feeling of well-being does not last. And it does not last because she will break up with you as soon as she met a guy with whom she has a sexual connection. Now, is what the point? Talking to her for 10 hours or penetrating her for 30 minutes?

The illusion you can fuck them all

A guy strikes up a conversation with a cute girl in the street. They walk together to a small bar. They exchange names and flirt a little. It goes well. He would ask her out : to go for coffee but he freakes out then does nothing. Later in the day he self-flagellates and wonders what she would have said if he had invited her out. Fuck. The bitch was very hot. However, despite his regrets, he is still happy, he draws some form of satisfaction. The memory of that interaction will remain nice: he dealt with her successfully in the street and made a pretty girl smile… Good.

The truth is that he did not seek for more because he was afraid that the interaction ends badly. He did not want his last memory to be a deplorable rejection.

“Let’s have a coffee.
– Sorry I have to go somewhere to do something with someone. Bye.”

Now he sees things differently. He has been rejected. The interaction was a failure from the beginning but he did not get it (it is better to know right away, no?)

Passive interactions often end as follows: she ignores you or your texts or stand you up. Or you had a strong connection but because you have never pushed things sexually you’re now mired in a very strange relationship. Sometimes you feel the urge to ignore her or tell her you do not want to fuck her. This is called FRUSTRATION.

Guys want it to end well, having a little story to tell their friends “how I got the number of a bitch in the street or simply flirted with but it’s still good.” It’s just a matter of ego. They do not escalade physically because they are not sure it will be fine.

The light is red

I see guys approached and being outraged when they get a reaction type “red light”. I see guys be ready to end the interaction when it starts softly with a shy girl and fall in love with a girl who just tries to be polite in answering briefly in a detached way.

Some will probably treat you like crap. We don’t care, it’s totally NORMAL. If all the girls were smart, we would know it, and the world would be a better place (this judgment also applies to the guys). Being rejected is expected and even hoped … It’s the routine … If this does not happen it means that you do not do things properly. Nobody pleases everyone, and if that was the case, well it would not even be fun to game (= practicing the game of seduction).

Understand that you will feel anxiety whatever her reaction is. Even if it works like clockwork, you feel tension because she likes you. If it takes softly, then you feel that tension called “social anxiety”. If she ignores you or tells you something nasty, you’ll probably be upset. Whatever her reaction in fact, approaching will make you experience strong emotions.

  1. Red: she ignores you or rejects you through body language … without a word;
    2. Red: she reacts aggressively or in a very haughty way.

If you get rejected by her body language, it does not give you a lot of material to work and improve. The only thing you can do in this case is to smile and laugh with / of her. Remember that women are funny. Any verbal rejections is a trap to get you to break the report. Take the opposite way by being humble.

Idea:
– Most girls are not really bitches.
She hopes:
– call me WHORE and leave.
Solution:
– Laugh with her. Women are funny. Especially when they want to reject guys. Be genuine “I wanted to meet you.” Give her a second chance to be cool. Otherwise “it was a pleasure to meet you” and go to the next.

Sociability vs Sexuality

You have crossed the stage of social, now you can do what you want. Have fun. Try new things. Be rejected. The social part has nothing to do with your seduction potential.

This is not an excuse to act like a clown or a weirdo but do not take the “sociability” part too seriously. You would become paralyzed with fear.

This will be quite counter-intuitive to discover what works and what does not. As if the success with women was random. I’m taking about techniques (the craziest can work) and results. For example, you can have a super hottie in your bed the day before and getting rejected by a fat ugly woman today. It’s a joke. Seduction and even more pickup are big jokes.

Life is an absolute joke…

I award for the night pick up… the medal of the biggest joke in the world. As if the girls did their best to make us have the most difficult task ever… But then, why do they do surgery, why do they wear makeup and all this stuff? To have sex, obviously.

This requires more confidence to approach them in person than on the Internet. However, the same guy they send to hell in the bar in front of their girlfriends, they could agree to meet him from the Internet just because he would have sent a cocky message.

It does not make sense. I think all the women do not give us bonus points for having the nerve to approach them. They do not realize… This is why we must not take the night pickup too seriously. There are too many stupid women who do not understand anything to life.

At night, the defenses are activated: the women go as far as claiming that they do not want to fuck. All the cockblocks and amogs are out, ready to intervene at the fateful moment. It’s hilarious. A Belgian joke. If you take seriously a nocturnal rejection then you are a fool. In the long term, you would become mad. Accept that it’s just a comedy.

Some marketing managers reward salespeople for every NO obtained. Knowing that each NO moves you closer to a YES, it’s understandable. For us, seducers, it’s the same…

We all know that perseverance is an important part of the seduction game. But in my head, all perseverance is not always worth it. Your stress level should be linked to what you will potentially get back.

For example, I will not be too persistent if a band I have just met rejects me. I could make fun of the a girl who answer like a bitch or I could give a second chance to be part of the conversation to a nice cute girl. But I will not do it for too long because I have nothing much to gain.

Oh yeah, for all this work, my only reward would be that she talks to me. I don’t care, seriously.