Category: Social dynamics

The community of seduction develops in France, like almost everywhere in the world where people have nothing else in mind than dressing well and having sex. If you can make the difference between people who preach lousy advice and those who have a real knowledge to communicate: you can take advantage of it. Indeed, you can easily find wingmen who are going to help you to improve your Game : obviously, prefer motivated seducers instead of your buddies who would quit Call Of for the first time of the year. But it does not have to be the only factor… Even if they can teach you things, selfish wingmen tempt me to piss in their drinks.

There is however an alternative to wingmen: going out alone.

Going out alone is a major stage of your apprenticeship. Finally, it is an indicator of your true level. If you are not able to approach without your buddies : It’s a sign of lack of self-confidence. And it is not a good thing, of course !

Freedom of movement: alone, you are more opened, more reactive, more movable. It is also necessary to learn how to evaluate your own energy level and to boost it if necessary. The good side of the medal is you stop procrastinating … no choice, you’ve to go there. It also avoids you missing women because your friends are not for the taste of the friends of your target. One can actually be better alone than in bad company.

When you will cross the door of the bar, you will have to quickly socialize otherwise you will be thought of as an autistic. And yeah, pouting at the bar like James or Chuck will not help you to get laid : in real life, people go out to have a good time (and do some coke) not to exchange confidential data.

When you go out alone, it is sign of an independent and nonconformist character. It impresses, rightly, moreover. Do you imagine James going to the casino to kiss Eva Green « A  vodkatini, shaken not stirred… and two pastis for my not classy buddies but I had to go out with them ».

When you go out alone, it’s better to go to a nice place where the music is good and loud… and especially where people drink, dance and move : so, it will less be obvious that you are alone. Be in movement (you will seem less needy) otherwise your level of energy risks to decrease… and approach several groups without waiting even if the approach is fast (if you have an Eye Contact or if it seems to you that they are talking about you to her friends… then go without even thinking). If a girl touches you and that the movement seems to you lasting a little longer than necessary, let’s go there too. Last advice, if you want to make her forget her cockblock friend, approach her a little by the side so as to oblige her to turn to you.

Hot girls want cool guys, thus guys comfortable in any circumstances. Up to here, you maybe closed physically to protect yourself emotionally. But this closed posture prevents you in a sense from meeting new people. Stay open. And before analyzing the body language of other people, work on yours. The more you will wait before interacting with people, the more you will close yourself. It is a vicious circle and it will be harder and harder to go out of it as the night moves forward. Morality: if you are not capable of approaching, at least, open yourself.

When you’re going out alone, you’re often asked the fateful question at one time or another « where are your friends? » Then, is this case, it is necessary to answer something that puts forward your independent character « I too much love going out to lose my Friday evening in front of Loft Story with them ». Girls don’t want a lonely wolf nor one of these lost people who will be glued on them all night long. Be funny, quick, energetic: surf from group to group and gather nectar. That will make your value rise. Go back then to the groups you had the best interactions with.

A group that has adopted you :
– Offers you a drink ;
– Puts you in the confidences (why they laugh) ;
– Invites you to come with them when they go out to smoke (waaahh you’re lucky) ;
– Dance with you ;
– Suggests you taking pictures ;
– Invites you to come with them when they change bar…

Morality: going out alone is not a problem in itself and is often better than going out with suckers but less cool than going out with some GOOD company. However, it increases your chances to live unforeseen adventures. What do you think?

A) REFLECTION

The “bovarisme” is a feeling of dissatisfaction (mainly female, you will understand why) inspired by the character of Flaubert: Madame Bovary. In the novel, Emma Bovary read a lot in her youth, especially romantic works. Her married life, far from complying with her dreams, only brought her frustration and disappointment (she fucked Charles Bovary, poor guy, and a few other lovers, bad ones too, where from her dissatisfaction). The bovarysm is a state of dissatisfaction, on the emotional and social levels which translates vain and inordinate ambitions, a leak in the imagination and romance. Clearly, this is “the romantic ideal facing the small things of the reality” (Flaubert).

Women have great aspirations for men, and as we are only human: they are inevitably disappointed. In addition, they have the “sexual power”: that is to say that they just have to waddle two minutes in a club or register on a dating site in order to have sex that very same night, without more effort than that, and forget that they are just human like us. And besides, the dudes offer them glasses just for the one and only privilege they sit with them. So they allow themselves to be pain in the ass, arrogant, pretentious, to let themselves go, etc. It is a vicious circle: it is so easy for chicks to get banged that they get big-headed and become even more demanding. Basically, they feel growing wings. On the other hand, the biological clock works even at 16 year old (or is it all the Disney movies they watched), then they feel the need to be in a relationship (and I have not said envy). Like all men are disappointing, she says, I will anyway take a bad one (or at least a shit at my level for not being forced to move my ass). It’s sad but it is a drift of today’s society. And it is not ONLY the fault of women, but the fault of men TOO. All those who encourage or condone the system are guilty. At the same time, the alphas are preferred for being lovers, and the great mass of pussies fulfill perfectly the role of “husband” so it suits everyone in the end … except women whose husband is revealed as boring rain.

1 / Where are the men? Like Aurelian says “they like effeminate guys like if they were lesbians.” I read that guys are afraid to let themselves go to be manly because they are afraid of the label of “macho” just like women fear the label “whore.” Poor France: yeah you’re a macho & a good guy; yes she is a good girl & a whore!

There’s so many pussies that it turns too often into a balance of power with chicks. If you win, you stay an alpha but their ego is bruised and as they are accustomed to submitted gays (it’s more comfortable even if they are not excited)… they try to put you back in your place reminding you that they can have sex when they want and even if you try to make them understand that having sex (or being in a relationship) with an alpha and fucking a wimp, it’s not the same level, they assume that “it’s too good to be true” and therefore necessarily that you lie and you’re a loser like the others. There we are entitled in the best case to three tons of tests to see if we are really so alpha, if really we do not judge the women who have fun, and if we are really that open-minded. If you lose the balance of power game, well then, you’re a beta so you are not that exciting anymore. In all cases, with stupid chicks whose brain was lobotomized, you cannot do anything and they ruin the sexual tension. As if it was something bad in itself. It is the inheritance of our catholic religion (or Protestant in England) that provokes this effect. If there had not been that to control people, it is true that it would have been a little mess, so much the girls are paradoxes: they watch our butts but do not assume, and then make the guys who do the same thing feel guilty. But on the other hand, if nobody watch their ass, they are sad because does not feel like attractive.

2 / Sexism is not only against women. You must realize that they have more lenient in court, for example (how many women get custody of their child to the detriment of their ex?) They just have to accuse a guy (harassment or rape) even if he has done nothing and he finds himself in trouble: the society assumes that those “poor little fragile beings” always tell the truth. It’s a bit the same principle with racism. We always accuse white people, but whites are also sometimes victims of racism sometimes. And they cannot say anything! Poor France!

In pick up, they have a fucking advantage but it is double-edged. In fact, they assume that a guy who does not approach them or do not dare to take initiatives is necessarily a guy who is not interested. Few assume it may be a loser who has no balls, since they worship the pussy who will be their husband. Thus, the fucking winners who take initiatives are mistreated, and the poor guys who do nothing (who are unhappy too if not more) make fun of them and remain quietly in their comfort zone. It’s convenient. The trick here is that a girl who would dare to take some initiatives, or even send feminine energy (not the fierce and tight-ass energy but sweetness and feminine sensuality) would come before all the hotter girls. Even alpha winner will not approach all the time, because sometimes, well he is bored by those almost automatic slutty reactions. So if the girls would approach, they could surely have this guy that they like but who has not seen her or does not have energy to go there now knowing that he has a 90% chance of approaching one more time an idiot. Sorry girls, but we are not soothsayers huh. Furthermore, when a guy does not sleep with a girl, the general opinion thinks that it is because SHE is not interested and thus finally that she is too good for him… While he would maybe have been more successful by being a little more inaccessible. But in the practice it is the same problem as when you let your girl invest much more than you in your relation: after a while, that is going to bother her to have this impression to be a stopgap and to not have enough rewards (Here if we play too much the inaccessible guy she is going to believe that we really are so, and she will save her time by investing for guys with whom she feels that she has a chance). Well, I finish on inequality in pickup by talking about Internet dating: the girls often do not answer and even complain when they receive a shitty message like “hello are you?”… And yet, when they see a HANDSOME and decide to try their luck, sometimes they send “hello are you?” Therefore you must stop asking fun when you are unable to give some.

I very often heard that I am a “sex maniac & disrespectful misogynist” and still I am soft, said by chicks who have not read my blog or “diagonally”. It is therefore unfounded and an automatic reaction aiming to defend their sexual power, to deride everything that touches this taboo and to prevent men from understanding women because they fear that we find out that there is nothing THAT glorious with them in fact. “You have a blog? Oh yeah about what?
– Seduction.” They sometimes run away calling me a psychopath then go to the nearest bookstore to buy a women’s magazine titled “how to seduce guys this summer” or “who is the best fuck in Secret Story 7?” That’s exactly the same hypocrite principle with the intimate pictures of Jennifer Lawrence that were uploaded on the net, everyone criticized in front of the others “ooh that’s a shame, that does not interest us, it is her privacy” and everyone watched them once back home. The single thought, well-thinking, call it how you want… it formats people and in the long-term, they feel that this dictatorship of the opinion, well, actually it is their own true opinion.

For the defense of chicks, there are actually “seduction coaches” who do that because they hate the woman in fact and because they are narcissistic and liars… and in this case, OK it’s unhealthy. But ultimately why did they get there? because women made them suffer. And why did those coaches suffer? So women finally go back home alone, touching themselves, thinking that eventually, it would have been better if it was a nice and a bit alpha guy who did it. I’m not trying to defend the guys who hate women, but just to make you understand that we are all human and we all have to build ourselves. And for some, well, it’s harder than for others (there are girls too, especially fat ones, for whom it is not easy life but btw I think that a lot of women hate men too).

3 / Me too, I would like that the girls I fuck all have Megan Fox’s body. So, should I be disappointed and refuse to consider any offers? Seriously, this shitty society bombards us with images but you have to realize that these girls do not exist. Megan Fox as we know her only exists in the pictures, it is made up, enhanced by lighting, the angle, etc. Well, I understand that chicks want to fuck Chuck Bass or Damon Salvatore, but know that in the same way that our sex symbols do not exist, yours neither. And even if they existed I do not think you could have them. Back on Earth everybody, please!

It is so obvious that everyone has problems or insecurities. Even Ian Somerhalder, it is obvious that he would like to be a little taller. Even Padawan, my handsome wingman, sometimes has doubts and has been often rejected. Sometimes chicks see that he likes my articles on FB and he receives messages like “I do not understand, you do not need any tricks you… because you’re very handsome and everything…” yet they do not sleep with him and take him for a idiot like the others… haha, QED.

Another example of the fact that the chicks have more imaginary problems in seduction than guys is an episode titled “I dunno what… pranks” in which a guy shows the Badoo profile of a dude to girls in the street. Because the dude in question is a model, women say “yes it is the man of my dreams for a date, I would kiss him right now if I saw him, etc”. And the joke is that he makes a rappelling and just appears in front of them. And we see their true reaction: there is even one girl who acted hottie for him in the abstract who JUST RAN AWAY when seeing him IRL. Others said he was even better looking in real life than in pictures but just gave him a kiss on the cheek. The reverse experiment was done with a hottie, and the guys kissed her huh and it was not fake French kisses. What does it show? It shows that most of the problems between attractive guys and attractive women, are that women are too often a headache (like some guys probably) and they want to prove “I do not know what and we will never know” so it busts the balls to everyone.

Thus here we are, this shitty logic which is propagated by the dykes of feminists who are in media mattering posts would push the average guy to lie every time to a girl he likes. “I want a serious relationship” he will have to swear that on the Holy Bible before trying to pick up a girl, otherwise of course, he would be demonized. Then, because this kind of blind arrangement works almost never or then because he would have consciously lied to try to get his own way and because it is easier than assuming what he really wants for the moment (with possibility of course if that goes well to have a serious love story then but why already signing the marriage contract?)… well, the chicks will conclude “They all are assholes, I knew that” (while sometimes it is them who want just to quench a drive, moreover there are more women out there who cheat on their husband than the opposite). In fact, it is them who urge most of the guys to act like that: it is maybe time to realize it.

 

B)    THE STORY

Once upon a time, I made a threesome. It was cool. Story: I was kissing again a girl with whom I had slept a few times and there was another one that came sticking us. So I a little motivated her and went having sex all three together. Except that on our way home, the redhead I had already banged kept saying stuff like “yeah I have theater class early tomorrow morning.
– The other girl: If you want I go back home huh.
– No, no.” And then when I warmed the other one on my couch, the redhead was sitting on a chair on the other side of the room. What was happening? She was freaking out, she did not assume…

Few months later, that same redhead got fat and then had sex with one of my buddies (he dared to be sexual because he knew what she had done with me otherwise he acted every time like an AFC but he will say never thank you, you see, in brief this is another story). She was haughty with him. Kind of horrible, and said unpleasant remarks. The kind of stuff I would not dare to say even the worst fuck of my life. What was happening? Nervousness, compensation, etc.

My point? Most of chicks are in this case. They do not have a perfect body, are arrogant, demanding, rude, traumatize the guys to compensate for their discomfort while trying to save face… But we fuck them so they continue. We accept this shitty frame! We should not, we should reframe them. Give me a bomb that kills sex-starved-to-death guys and I change the rules. If men stopped to behave this way, it may balance the sexual power and everyone would pay more attention to self recover.

In your opinion? It is increasingly easy for a woman to be banged, then what? They do not make any effort and they consider all of us by default as starved uninteresting and bad in bed. That’s why there are more and more fat girls, etc. It sucks. Poor France! I say it to you guys, let’s change the rules !!! But we must do it together for the good of future generations.

I want to develop the debate now. Ladies, if instead of being bitches, you were guys: know that you would not have sex. You’d be big chubby bacon, with a shitty personality, and an AFC attitude: the chicks would not like you. OK then, you would also have been born in a poor African country and we must thank God for what we have. But still, think about it: only one chromosome has determined that you are a woman and not a man. You would have had more chance to be born here in France with a pair of balls than to be born in Africa. When you are in that club and behave horribly with a guy who was finally addressing you a compliment, do not assume that he is a big shit and do not be offensive with him. It looks like it was an assault, seriously. Go a little in his skin and know he needed a lot of courage to make that step for you and he is not necessarily sex-starved (well if it’s a fucking AFC or a rude dude it is another deal). Keep in mind that the aggressiveness of a woman is whether she is uncomfortable in her own skin, or is not in the mood, or that she felt aggressed, or you arrive at the wrong time or simply that she takes you for a shit (it happens).

I think the attitude of some shitty chicks is due to the society and not to the woman in herself. We give them too much power. And these shitty fictions are encouraging them. If women were born men, I hope for them that they would behave differently. This is also why I laugh when I hear a guy saying “if I was a woman, I’d a bitch.” Nope Blockhead, if you were a woman you would undergo the pressure of the society and you’d be a pain in the neck before fucking. You’d probably be too stupid to see beyond the tip of your nose where is really your interest and stop worrying about conventions.

The game rules are like that, there’s nothing else to do than to try to improve the image of men… maybe women can understand us and know how to take their game (and no there I do not just talk about sex eh but to be honest wanting to build a relationship without sexual tension is as silly and uninteresting as going shopping at the supermarket and only buy stuff that we will never eat).

There is a foreigner who told me that her French friends had recommended to her to “do not sleep easily” and “behave badly” with the men here because French are too often seducers. Thus, she is sexually frustrated seen that she is a not bad-looking East girl with another culture and that a lot of charming guys tried to pick her up. The truth is that her French friends told her it because they were afraid of the competition and wanted at the same time to weaken both her and the men by lowering their self-esteem and thus to keep them untouched (certainly for them later). If she knew how to think by herself, she would have been able to find a good guy here! Too bad for her…

Carpe diem !

Walk her home

You interrupted the conversation at the café. Along the way to your place, continue to make her speak to maintain her excitement. She must have no time to call a friend nor to think too much: no silence at this moment.

The excuse you are gonna use to be alone with her (intimacy) has no importance. To do it like a spy, say “I have only some minutes because I have to get up early tomorrow but if you want to come over…” Support her emotional state (turned on after the date) and calm down her brain (she does not want to be thought of as a whore). With that said, if she expressly wants sex do not mention constraint, it could block her, do not be sado-maso! Show her your house then sit down on the sofa. If she lets you caress the extremity of her hair by speaking, it is because she follows you.

Wait for nothing, otherwise you would be put under stress and disappointed if nothing happens. Please make her understand, that whatever takes place “it is great”. (You will score points by not being thought of as a dead man of hunger.) Stay ready and take a little of step back. The girls are attracted by strength but you have to remain flexible. You thus remain dominant but not excessive. You are a player, you make her feel like a little girl. You are authoritarian but not threatening. You are sincere, you do not apologize and you do not hesitate… just that: it is persuasive and very powerful.

Otherwise, you can also attract her by inviting to have dinner (just the two of you). Pastas are easy to cook and get married very well to some wine and candles. Put the chick on the sofa with a glass of wine, otherwise she can come and talk with you in the kitchen. If you have a recipe of chocolate cake for the dessert, it is perfect! That a little goes against what I said on the food, but once from time to time, that has never killed anybody…

 

Accessories

If you go to her place, gaze upon her room, the knickknacks she has. Or show her yours: Your apartment is clean, remember that you are always ready for the action! Do not call it “the bedroom” nor “the baisodrome” but rather the relaxation room (avoid the alert to the pervert). It is nice to have a book like The secrets of the ecstasy by Nick Douglas and Penny Slinger or to know how to do some magic.

 

Turning her on

Sexually, the women warm more slowly than us. Touch slightly her shoulder with your hand, and withdraw to create some lack… Later, touch her but more firmly… If you interest her, she will come to snuggle up to you. Otherwise, you will try again later.

SEX = SHE APPRECIATES YOU + SHE FEELS COMFORTABLE + SHE FEELS SAFE + INTIMACY.

Act :
– hold her hand ;
– put your arm around her ;
– caress her hair, twist them around your fingers, breath them ;
– do what you have already done together until now.

Erogenous zones:
– hair ;
– skull;
– inside of elbows;
– skin between fingers;
– ears (blow slowly inside, touch the outline and the lobe);
– shoulders;
– feet;
– toes.

If she closes her eyes and opens her mouth while you approach your lips of hers: she thinks “kiss me, handsome”. Maintain the tension, kiss her, plunge your hand into her hair and accuse her of being too direct. You remain sensual by kissing her, (neck, ears, shoulders) until she is excited (fast breath, accelerated heart). Wait so that she applies sexually. Move back and let her come to you. Continue to smell her. You are patient… The anticipation is a very powerful weapon!

When you look at her in the eyes, slowly come to caress her lower lip which is slightly half-opened (do not kiss it directly) then, let her succumb. Do not put in the oven your tongue in her mouth, wait that she starts using hers then answer her. The kisses are maybe the only sexual practice when it is necessary to let her lead. Relax and follow her (imitate). After a while, it will maybe be necessary to unjam her by teasing her with your tongue.

Asking her before the kiss (indirect method) : “How much would you give to your kisses on 10”?

A way of caressing thanks to the NLP is to suppose that the person caresses you as she would like that one caresses her!

The girls of today still want as much sex as the girls before but there is a little more who assume it. The sex is a seller! Look at the youth who is inspired by exhibitionists like Lady Gaga either read the lyrics of the songs of Katy Perry (It is very sex-based generally). The fashionable songs are revealing as I make some good girls go bad or Girls just wanna have fun.

 

Knowledge on the excitement

The results of a study of Chivers et al. (2010) showed that the spirit and the body of the woman do not react necessarily in the same way as the man for who the sexual reactions of the body and the spirit are more in harmony. We can conclude from it that there is a kind of split between the body and the spirit of the woman.

Roughly, the guys when they are hard, they are hard… and that’s it. For the girls, on the other hand, a physiological excitement does not mean necessarily a psychological excitement. It is probably from there that the “last-minute resistance” comes : She is warm and then “oh darling, I am not ready”.

To reduce this gap, it is advised to expose the woman in more (in quantity) of sexual stimuli: the behavior, the voice, the decoration, the music (visual, hearing, kinesthetic…)

You hold her in your arms so as to be able to touch all the parts of her back. You remove slowly her top: you open one button then continue to kiss her. You unbutton the second then you mean caressing her hand by inhaling her neck then you caress her hair. Then her stomach, then you return to a previous stage as to French kiss her sensually. You have time because you are a dominant and then you like taking your time… In all the areas!

Caress her breasts then return to the stomach. Slide now your hands in her bra a moment then take it off. Return to a previous stage then kiss her tits, nipples… The following stage is the cunnilingus, indeed, if we insert a tongue or a finger, we are almost sure to be able to insert the penis. If she is wary, say ” I do not manage to be hard tonight, all what I want to do is licking you”. Do not go too fast with the preliminary. If she says that she does not want, disarm her verbally : abound in her direction with words but act differently “You are right, we are not going to take so much pleasure the first evening, it is not moral.” We demote ” We are going to content with what we did up to here”. We continue until have our way (and hers!) or until she seriously says “no”. Persist, it is virile and she will be satisfied. It is even very possible that she EXPECTS it from you. A real man knows what he wants !

YOU PERSEVERE BECAUSE YOU ARE DETERMINED.

Attention on the view of the condoms which can alert the part of her brain which tells her that she should not be so easy. Put it without making a story of it for example discreetly while you lick her and she will do the same (she will not pay attention to it). For that purpose, you can put it in the back pocket of your jeans.

When you kiss her, do not make the mistake of staying too long on her mouth. The neck, the shoulders, etc. Also use your hands to caress her or squeeze her! Finally, you can use other things than kisses: lick her briefly or nibble her friendly…

 

After sex

The next day, you have to phone her. Often, they want one-night stands but even if you want a serious relationship, sex is the best starting point which you can hope! If you are in “fuck friend”mode, avoid seeing her more than once a week, otherwise you would become a potential boyfriend (lesser risk). If you do not want to see her again anymore… well, call her all the same because you don’t want that she has what we call “the remorse buyer” (the impression of having being… fucked… but in the worst sense of the word). So, she can do it again with your flirty colleagues. We must show solidarity between PUA…

 

General lessons

The Resistances: always try to quickly understand where from come the resistances and to put it into words them. Ex : virgin ?

The sensualism and the feelings are always more important than the sex in itself. Do not overvalue the importance of effectively bedtime with her or not. It is more important to have a good emotional connection.

Do not trust what she tells and always test her sexual resistances.

A lot of women like being dominated.

A lot of girls say they are attracted by the girls.

Many girls like that we speak to them in a authoritarian way in the bed or even more dirty.

The use of the telephone (to warm her beforehand) to make the girl comfortable for a Xsome is redoubtable.

A girl can look very shy, and nevertheless be very warm in the bed.

To make a threesome, never ask for the opinion of the girl (because emotional > logic), agree with the guest, and test the reactions of the girl by putting her in front of the fait accompli. Some could say “no” if we put the idea into words but be very satisfied if the situation appeared “like that”.

A girl who says she doesn’t want to sleep the first night can be tempted all the same.

A woman who goes out of a break which she introduced may be more susceptible to be tempted by the novelty.

It is possible to put a frame of open-relationship from the beginning of the relation. It is even desirable. Indeed, establishing it afterward would be delicate.

The process of seduction is made step by step. When the stages were crossed, we can pass in the following stage directly without having to go back.

From the moment a woman invites you at her place, it is that she is motivated.

Do not go too fast and always try to put her comfortable. Don’t be too much in a hurry.

A girl who sets face at the time of the preliminary has few chances to come back.

Many girls are opened for Xsome.

The women are not always very faithful, even when they are in love.

Avoid going to girls who have animals because they are very jealous and aggressive if you have not a good feeling with animals.

Always indeed pay attention on the time you have to conclude.

Do not trust at once what she says when she says that she can’t do anything tonight.

After a long relation, and around thirty, certain women who suffocated in their couple do not especially look for a serious relationship.

Do not take her objections for ready cash.

Isolation is always important for passing of the social report in the intimate and sexual relation.

The preliminary are always very important for the women. The fact of kissing her tits allows to make her receptive and to give her urge to go farther.

The double massages with your wingman allow to introduce in a progressive way the Xsome (here 4some) while testing her sexual susceptibility.

The informal evenings between friends allow to get acquainted with the friends of your friends and to envisage more if respective affinities.

In spite of the fact that a woman is sexually very opened and freed, she can show herself very charming and loving.

 

Ideas of lines

What is a good lover for you ?

What are your favorite erogenous zones and positions?

Would you exchange your man for one night?

Do you like being kissed everywhere?

I kiss you everywhere, do you like it ?

How are you dressed today ?

I remove your trousers and then I start to kiss your legs, then I go back up. What do you feel?

I continue, and I approach your breeches, I remove it, and I start licking your clitoris with my tongue?

The date in itself

For the date, avoid the moments when you cannot fuck her easily: after 8pm, it is good. Trick and cleverness : eat a little bit of dark chocolate before the RenDez-Vous, so you will be in a good mood. Make her spend a good time, make her want to know more about you. Share moments of laughter together, it creates links. Do not evoke possible quarrels “the past is behind us, I want to focus on the future”.

 

Where ?

Because it is her who has to enter your world (your reality), you choose the place. If the relationship progresses, it can change. Try to know her better before sleeping with her. Take the seat which is up against the wall, so, you will not have too much pain to get her attention. She will see you just you! Do not choose a too romantic place for the meeting, a coffee or a cheap brasserie. In the worst case, if you pay her something, that will not look very far and then with people around, she will feel safe.

Choose a place next to your place, like that, she will not too much have time to wonder if she is right to be along the way for the house of a man whom she has just met. Bring her in a place where people know you: at least she will see people who appreciate you (tips).

 

The touch

If the body of a woman demands the carnal pleasure, then her spirit will be emotionally involved. To touch her :
– The games like rock/paper/scissors;
– That one : you try to touch the hand of the opponent before he/she removes it;
– Touch her shoulder when you bend towards her ear to whisper a bullshit;
– Touch the hollow of her loins to lead her;
– If you feel that you can hold her hand, go on.

 

Some errors :

=> Do not come to a date with a friend

=> Do not join a girl who is with her friends

A – If they do not appreciate you, you would be blocked.
B – If they do appreciate you:

1) You could be perceived by her friends as a potential danger and they will not hesitate to put a spoke in the wheel to you. Other interested men are jealous and try to protect their territory (competition).

2) You could be perceived as a danger by her possessive friend, who is afraid that you monopolize her friend with whom she spends all her time. The women very show solidarity (hardship).

=> Do not join her if she has something planned one hour later

When the women have something planned after the date, it is not a very good sign. It means, that in advance, she does not give a lot of importance to you, and especially, that prevents you from having time to escalate afterward.

=> Do not wait if she is doing something before

It is a very bad plan to wait, even though she looks very confident on the phone, very motivated and very enthusiastic to see you. If she is not completely available to see you, it is better to postpone the meeting. It will avoid you having dates with several friends where you would be judged, dates botched for lack of time because she has something planned after, as well as waiting desperately that she calls you because she already has something planned, but that she does not know at what time it is going to end. Take advantage of the time which you will have released to see girls more available.

 

The objectives :

It is a question of going have a drink with your target to get acquainted, learn to better know each other. The RDV aims at presenting you with her, as well as at testifying of your sincere interest for her… Except sex (because yeah, it is better if there is at least one).

 

Preparation:

You go to your date well-dressed, you put a little bit of perfume, and you get ready to use all your trump cards of seduction.

 

Some rules to be followed:

=> Make an appointment with her next to your or her place

Think of the continuation. The logistics is very important. Give yourselves the possibility of suggesting her taking a last drink at your home with you. If she finds it too fast, she will not forget to tell it to you, and most of the women expect that you take initiatives. It is not « bad » ! Well, some would try to persuade you that it is, this is so a basic reaction of a girl totally uncomfortable in her own skin who doesn’t assume at all (hot in your back (in the mind everybody is) and cold in front of you).

=> Do not try to impress her

Take her rather in a place you know well, where you already know the card, even the staff, what will allow you to feel more comfortable. A simple and pleasant place is enough. It is especially a question of feeling at ease to be able to exchange and get acquainted. The place doesn’t have to be the center of interest of the meeting. It is your relation with her that you want to estimate first and foremost. Besides, it will allow you to invite her without too much having to make suffer your purse.

=> Control the atmosphere: music and lights

Choose a place where you can hear each other without having to shout. You have to feel at ease to speak. If you notice an element of atmosphere which can damage your conversation, choose another place. Put yourselves in a place where the light is flattering and convenient to the seduction. Avoid the whitish lights, and think of exposing yourselves in a place where the light is soft and will emphasize you.

=> Take place in your advantage

If there is a couch, be a gentleman, and suggest her sitting down first and foremost on. If you have the choice, prefer positioning back to the wall. It will limit her field of vision during the meeting, and she will not be perturbed by the other customers or the comings and goings of the other people behind you. Note that by experience, we make more easily a success of a RDV when we are one facing the other than one next to the other one.

=> Create some comfort

Contrary to the approach where you have to draw her attention and interest her enough so that she wants to see you again, the date has for objective to know each other. The conversation can thus be balanced in 50/50 (or 10-90 in her favor). On the other hand, you will have to remain a leader on the contents of the conversation, propose subjects, move on, and give a rhythm to your date to don’t be friendzonned.

Kiss at the first date if it is possible,
During the second it is good,
During the third, you are slow.

« The one who does not kiss in the first meeting is a gentleman, the one who does not kiss in the second is homosexual. »

Attention :
– One single ticket “standing you up”, not two.
– Do not wait for more than 20 minutes without news from her, have some self-esteem.
– If an interested girl cancels, she has to make a counterproposal.
– Don’t be a spare wheel on condition that she have nothing better to do that day! Do not become dependent on the goodwill and the humors of a single girl (they will sometimes try to persuade you that it is bad to keep their power).

 

The conversation

=> Classic questions: danger

The classic questions have maybe already been asked during the approach, but often we like to remember them during the first meeting. « How old are you? What do you do for a living? Where do you live? What are your origins ?» those classic questions are a part of what everybody is wondering when they meet an unknown. Then “Where do you work/study ?” Have you got brothers and sisters, if yes how many? And how old are them?”, and possibly for the mystic, the astrological sign, the Chinese sign, etc.. These small questions look harmless but can disqualify you straightaway.

How old are you ?

Ask how old she is first. The women do not generally love the too young or too old fellows with regard to her. To don’t take risk, estimate the margin of age which you have in more or less to move closer to what is on the right track and do not answer if that does not match (lying is on the other hand not ethic even if certain would deserve it: being obliged to lie to them for having sex… I prefer to try to be honest but it is true that some really look for it : that the guys become jerks… fuck them when they play their saintly hypocrites while they want to have orgasms. A strategy to don’t answer is to make her guess.

What do you do for a living ?

If you are unemployed, do not say it. The women do not like it generally. If you have a small job, embellish it a little. Give yourselves a little more status than you really have, without too much. It is a question that it remains credible. You just arrange a little the reality. Everybody does it, even her.

Where do you live ?

Through this question, she is going to know if you live alone or with your parents (outch) and where she will possibly spend her next weekends. The other questions are not really dangerous (except maybe things like politics, religion, etc.)

=> Personality’s questions

These questions are a little funnier and aim at knowing better the person and her personality. The objective is to learn to know each other while having fun. These questions are not questions of disqualification, but aim rather at establishing rapport with the person. There, you can leave free access with your imagination and ask more impertinent questions.

Examples:
– “Have you already dreamed erotic ? If yes, tell me…”
– “What did you want to do when you were a kid?”
– “How many men did you know in your life?”
– “How long lasted your last relation? How long was your longest relation?”
– “Did you already had fuckfriends ?”
– “Where did you travel yet?” Where you would want to go?”

Cold reading (speaking about her without asking her some questions).

The common interests are important for a chick: she has to imagine doing things with you, not each from his part (even if finally you will maybe just sleep with her). There is a desire of projection.

 

The sex

Find an innocent excuse to go at her place or yours. Once arrived safe and sound, make the technique of “one step back for two steps forward”. Make sure that she is relaxed and comfortable, it favors sex. Do not hesitate to use bad faith: “ouah who spoke about sex there?” and act like a sexual guy. Let’s go slowly, she has to realize that she has dirty ideas in mind and natural envy and that it is not a bad thing. Put into words nothing about your relation. No ultimatum like “either we are together, or nothing” or “either we have sex, or we never see each other again”.

 

Your Cyprinecave

Clean your house, make your bed. Create a selection of background music, invest in a sieved light (why not?) In brief, it is necessary to be ready for the action!

 

Spit-balling here

Always coming with a bottle in case the girl would have nothing at her place… A little drink of wine if she invites you at her place and she will be in a better mood (Muscat or rosé).

The hottest girls (or the most beautiful) are not necessarily the most venal.

From the moment, we have already gone in an instant date with a girl, it is useless to redo some comfort during the following date : in the second one, suggest her coming directly to your place.

Do not hesitate to get invited to have dinner.

Monday is a good day for the first dates (seriously, who has something better to do?!)

The passage by a neutral place to get acquainted is less justified for neighbors for example, given that you already know each other. We can thus mutually invite directly at home. It is sure that it is better to know a little bit the people before bringing them home, well, on the other hand we have more chances to be attacked by somebody that we already know than by somebody who don’t give a shit about us (statistics) But well, a minimum of distrust is a mother of security.

If you speak with a girl you like about cinema, suggest naturally going to see a film together the next day, for example. It would be necessary whether she is jolly acting in very bad faith to claim not having understood that it was a date.

Taking her number

It would be necessary that it doesn’t look too formal nor too serious ” I would like to drink a coffee, that would be nice that you come with me” (you are a cool dude). It would also be necessary that she has the impression that the Rendez-Vous will not last for a long time (lesser commitment at first then we see). “It was very nice to meet you but I have to go now, we could see again each other one of these days”. Approach rather the women alone in the street, and if they answer positively, take the number. It is you who dominate: if you do not seem to give it too much importance, she will do the same because she will think “this one does not look like a weirdo who is going to harass me every day during 3 months”. Avoid scheduling a date when you cannot have sex after… It is not to trap her, only to avoid frustrating both of you if the desire appears !

 

Utility to take her number (or her FB):

– To agree on a date (it is the official purpose) ;
– To test her (discover her level of interest for you according to her answers);
– To excite her to simplify the continuation (doing sex by telephone).

 

When to pick up the phone ?

Contrary to the ideas receipts, there is no rule on the subject. It is necessary to take into account the fact that you should not be thought of as excess applicant (needy), but also that she does not forget you, and that she can think of you and wonder why you did not call her back yet. The rule is however: it is better too early than too late (but attention “being excessive” can make you appear as “starved”)!

More we move forward towards the end of week, and the more the meetings tend to be postponed to the following week, because most of the time, she will have planned things the weekend with her friends, because you date only super popular girls. 😉

It is a good thing to take into account the rhythms of her days and weeks… but it is very subjective ! Cleverness is to call them back more or less at the same moment as when we took their number : they were available, there are chances that they still are.

After a date, two days seem a good compromise, because we can so see if it is not her who is going to call us meanwhile (she would so reveal a big interest for you and it would be won unless saying a bullshit).

 

How to call her back ?

Mindset : You impose nothing, you just do her the incredible honor to speak to her. Cleverness is to do something else while we call her to do not look too needy. Be friendly if you fall on one of her friends and don’t leave a message. Do not force the conversation, return naturally on what you spoke during your meeting (the cool things). That will put her back in the atmosphere!

As virile man, it is not necessary to remind her who you are nor where from you know her: she has to remember you (otherwise it is necessary to punish her)! Speak a small moment and fix a date “I am very busy at the moment especially with work and sport, but it would be nice to meet you around a drink. When are you are free ?”; “It was a pleasure talking to you”.

Do not say “call me when you want”. It is not good to look too available! ” I shall call you when I shall have time, we shall go to have a coffee”.” I am with somebody (mysterious), we watch a DVD, I call you soon and we talk again of it”. Or then if you want to lick her boots (if she is a little a LSE) try something like “call me / Propose me something and I shall make myself available”.

“It is too soon to say if I like you, we have to see again each other”.
” We should meet, we could become “friends””.
There is no way for her to refuse to be your friend even if she has a guy. And then, you seduce her…

If you do not know what to say in the first seconds, scan her quickly, to create some rapport with her. Example: “Hello, it’s ___, whatareyoudoing ?” It allows you to know if she is alone, or accompanied and if she is in a situation in which she can speak to you calmly (why not about sex). By text, that can be more discreet but well if she has a friend in front of her who distracts her, there are few chances that she touches herself and thus that she imagines “you giving her some pleasure”… rather than she shows your messages to her friend and that they make fun of you (thus be wary if she sends hot things in a disproportionate way).

You took her number and you know nothing about her. It is the moment to have a fast idea of you are going to meet again. On the menu, the classic questions, “You do you do for a living?”, “How old are you?”, and to tease her a little over the end, why not, “do you often give your number to unknowns in the street? ” As for myself, I don’t like the phone, and I don’t like the interrogations, thus I often ask a question then I make her talk and if she is interested it is often her who asks the boring questions. But it is convenient when we take a number hastily (in the street or on the Internet) to behave “normally” at first so that she sees that she does not have to deal with a “weirdo”. Indeed, if we act like a crazy guy, even if it is to have fun, she can be suspicious, and we cannot even really be mad at her. Let’s put ourselves a little in her skin!

Be attuned to all the elements in the conversation, and do not hesitate to introduce them into the conversation if they appear to you to have an importance. For example, if she answers you, and if she has a soft and tired voice, ask her if you do not disturb her and if she does not prefer that you call her back later. If she looks very satisfied and happy, tell her that you did not expect such a warm welcome, but that you like it.

If you hear one or more voices behind her, ask her if she is with a friend (do not forget that you are a confident alpha and not a jealous person and that you encourage her to have fun because then it will be with you héhé). Interacting in a global way in the conversation allows to create more rapport, and to better synchronize with her. According to her availability on the phone, the way she answers, it can be more or less relevant to propose her a date by text message later. The advantage to get her on the phone is to be able to feel directly in the tone of her voice if she is motivated, hesitating, or not at all interested (in this case, she can even not answer), and thus anticipate the last minutes cancellations, most of the time linked to a lack of motivation and concealed by a phony excuse. It will be necessary to calibrate or if it is too much effort for the reward which is not worth it you can give up and proudly break the interaction! Attention, there are also those who want to urge you to do so to don’t feel guilty for putting you a rake.

 

Some traps:

“Who r u ?” At this moment, it is not your humor which is going to change much (“toys r us”), she just wants to know if she is in touch with somebody she wants to see again or not, and you are certainly already on one of the two list (or will be soon).”

“She cannot answer! ” There are lots of reasons why she could not answer when you call her, among which the purely logistic reasons : her telephone has low battery, she is in class or at work…

“She does not want to answer you!” She knows that you want to propose her a date, but her personal situation is not clear. She finds you nice, but she still makes out in an unofficial way with her ex. She can also avoid answering or diverting the conversation as soon as you ask intimate questions or take initiatives… Either she is afraid for her image of good girl, or she is shy, or she is an attention whore, and does not dare, or it is dead for you and she is too kind to tell you so.

“No voicemail at the first call !” Give some time to yourself before leaving a message on which you could let show that her absence of answer affects you. Some like making the guys suffer, it is sad but that is the way the human being is, some have a little of power and that makes them freak out.

“Wait at least one hour !” If you call her back several times in a row, you risk to be perceived as very sticky and attached to her answer. If you decide to leave a message, do not prejudge reasons why she does not answer (the aggressiveness can call the submission but often calls the aggressiveness in return).

“Organize your contacts!” Place for example a Z in front of the first names taken hastily. All the girls who do not answer you for the moment will so be placed at the end of your telephone book, and you will not be tempted to try to call them back frequently (that would be making them too much honor and make you depreciate for them… at least they will not knock you too much down if you try to pick up one of their friends one day).

“Certain girls take time to answer and are very difficult to contact.” Always stay calm and think that they certainly have a logistic problem. Do not taking things personally allows to keep control and to do not depreciate pointlessly (Zen attitude).

“Always re-confirm the date that very day by leaving an exit to the girl to show her that she can cancel at any time.” Never suppose that everything is beforehand won. It allows to stay humble and to do not put her the pressure. Anyway nothing is beforehand won with the human being, and the flake is frequent.

“Do not worry if until the last moment, she does not answer her phone.” She is maybe simply busy, or missed the call… As for me, I am very difficult to contact with the telephone, because I don’t like that, and nevertheless I am rarely against an interesting meeting or an adventure out of the ordinary.

The fact that she is not contactable does not necessarily mean that she is not motivated or that she does not want you in fact. But all the same, we can well ask her this small effort! So, that is not useful to harass a girl, a motivated chick will call back you except force majeure and otherwise it would finally be too much a headache.

 

The texts

You can play with words (ambiguity) and on the waiting time between your messages.
Respect the same rules as previously studied in the class on the state of mind.
Evitez de laisser plus de trois messages sans réponse (amour propre).

 

My other article on the subject: here.