In this free part of the ebook, I am a going to talk about the “Game” in a general way… then in the paying part, we will really totally focus on the online dating. Fair enough ?
A successful date aims to sleep with the girl
First of all, what is a successful date (your objective)? In my opinion, it is a date that ends with you sleeping with the girl. Not less.
– Sex is a huge investment for a woman. Once you’ve slept with her (of course here I suppose you’re not a bad fuck but it is not the subject of this book), you’re given more room to maneuver to design the kind of relation you wish. This is why many “good” girls get drunk with their friends to muster the strength to have sex and sleep with a guy just because he was there… then they continue to see him frequently. It’s the theory of commitment and coherence. Furthermore, coming back in the bed of a guy with whom she has already slept, it’s 100 times less social pressure for her (social pressure – – -)! Poor girls, we must understand her…
– Sex allows to break the ice and thus to quickly lead the interaction towards something more intimate. I often noticed that when I slept with certain girls after 10 minutes of conversation, the ice was more broken than after 2 or 3 formal dates with others. The post-sex relationship changes dimension : you became a close friend.
– Too much unresolved sexual tension kills any sexual tension. If there is a lot of sexual tension between both of you, and during too many dates in a row (too many = more than 3), it can make things awkward (and she will think that you have a small cock). It would even be possible that she stops seeing frequently because of frustration, and thus wanting to play it gentleman will make you lose everything. I know a lot of people who say that the best part is the game of seduction… just before sleeping with the girl or kissing her. I agree, it can be funny during a moment, but one day, it will be necessary to do something more concrete (besides people often say so because they are too scared to take action). I remember a girl who wanted to play this silly game with me then I decided to don’t sleep with her before the 10th date.. to experience. I can assure you that she did not love that (nevertheless she was a classy girl: a working girl from a good family) and I’ve never been able to get a 8th date. It is regrettable but it truly shows that the politically correct has limits. Then do not take literally everything people say.
However, the more you have options (i.e. you try to chase two doggy styles rabbits at the same time), the less you care if you sleep with her during at first date or not. And you will sleep with her more often at the first date. This is a paradox… But you will notice with time and experience that : success breeds success. You have my word !
How to make a success of a date ?
Here are things you should do during your date:
– Stimulate her with as much different positive feelings as possible. Use your words, the tone of your voice, your body language and your environment (music, etc.) The time spent with you will so have a real impact on her and will remain burnt in her head (as well as in her small panties).
– Acting in a more and more intimate way during the date. Too many dates finish with a strange, clumsy and inopportune kiss in front of her door or in the car because of a lack of physical escalation during the date. Why is it so important ? Because it clarifies things : you do not have the slightest intention of finishing in the friendzone. It underlines as well the fact that you are sexually confident… and an active person in your search (of sex or love: in other words, of women). Remember that a woman in general does not want to feel responsible for her own seduction. Besides, they love the men who assume themselves and take what they want (alpha characteristic).
– Making so you feel comfortable like if you knew each other more than superficially. Like if you were already in a more intimate relationship. You should try to create a feeling of familiarity, intimacy and confidence : it will distinguish you from the stuck and awkward dates she often went to (90 %). And she will feel like the connection between both of you is naturally (magically ?) really good.
– Sexualize to sow the seeds of your sexual relation. By making her comfortable with the sexual subjects, you set up the frame according to which “sex is amazing, and it is the most natural thing of the world“. It is one of the most important ingredients to make a success of your date and finally sleep with her just after.
Too many guys go on dates and agree to submit themselves to the common practices that don’t pressure their girls (far too formal thus not really adapter to the intimacy we were talking about). They go to the cinema, to the restaurant or do other things like that as a first date. Sometimes even, they pay everything for them : serious mistake (if you chase several doggy hares at the same time it’s going to be expensive & by paying for a girl, you make her feel indebted to you… thing that psychologically puts people off… it is not at all your purpose) ! These guys clearly have read too many novels or seen too many movies (that are made to make teenagers dream and give a wrong vision of what a good date should be). It is too much romanticized, old man-game and inappropriate. This legend according to which “nice guys” fuck “hot girls” that is taught as morality in the Hollywood movies feeds their fantasy (being loved “for what I am without needing to make any real effort”). Life is unfortunately not moral.
The truth is that if you want to take out your pin of the game, you have to be ambitious during your dates. If “something magic” has to happen between you, it’s great… but do not wait that it happens alone, and rather give yourself the best possible odds.
Lousy preconceived ideas
Now, let’s talk about what is some shit (preconceived ideas and old lousy fantasies).
– The fantasy of the man who has to court the woman by singing the serenade under her window and by offering her flowers : one basically always assumes that it is the man who has to “hunt” (chase) the woman… who, she, has to play it hard to get. Even if it corresponds more or less to the laws of the evolutionary psychology (a woman looks for a man who has enough resources to take care of her children)… in the modern society, it creates lousy states of mind that do not help at all during the process of seduction. Women are in this logic seen as prizes to be won. Thus sleeping with her becomes a trophy she can give to the man who accepts the competition with the others to win her favors. It is according to this position of inferiority (hunter) that most of the guys agree to play the game. Attraction and intimacy are things difficult to obtain when you agree to communicate that you are the one who hunts the other one. To get more success, you have to change at first your state of mind on this point. You will thus attract more quality women, and you will sleep with them more quickly.
– The fantasy of the nice guy: the average man is afraid of being a man in our societies. He does not embrace his real nature of virile man who has needs… he does not act according to his deep instinct of male. It’s because of this fact that the notion of “nice guy” became so pejorative. I am not suggesting you to bang your chest by roaring out nor to drag her in the kitchen by catching her by her hair to seduce her. You are certainly a kind person, well-intentioned, who has a lot of love to be offered to a woman. Just like me. However, as previously said, the modern man lost this link with his deep nature and his sexuality :
* we are conditioned to respect the social standards, to make our needs come after those of others, to do not step out of line, to shut up in a general way about the injustices of the system;
* we are conditioned to think that the women who have fun in a sexual way are exciting whores but with whom you should not make any commitment and maybe not even sleep because they could give us a disease;
* we heard a lot about ideal models of lousy love: it’s what we can read in Fifty shades of Grey, or watch on TV (for example Briget Jones), what we lived when we were in the primary school and when we just held the hand to our lover. Ideals models that sometimes totally contradict the real world : I heard conversations between girls that were way more dirty than everything I’ve ever heard and said with my buddies.
Women in fact love men who are kind (they would be crazy otherwise), but only after they showed attractive alpha characteristics. A guy who is exciting (≈ alpha) is a guy who is in the contact with his man’s nature. The problem, it’s that “nice guys” adopt a too feminine attitude, waiting that she takes control of the relation (even sometimes for the first kiss) and put her on a pedestal. It puts too much pressure on her small feminine shoulders and place her in a male role she does not want. A normal woman likes feeling like a woman. And moreover, you too like feeling like a man and like that she is feminine, right ? Then, let’s stay in this configuration.
“Nice guys” are often poor guys neglecting themselves and seeing the love relation as an one-way road. In spite of their good intentions (pleasing people and especially women at all costs) she feels ill at ease if she is only receiving and never gives. If she has nothing to invest in the relation, the woman cannot completely touch her feminine nature. Acting like a AFC (average frustrated chump) it’s a little bit like offending her femininity… I exaggerate of course, but it is not exciting nor sexy. It is not what a well-balanced woman wants. What shows that the “nice guy” is a sucker, it’s the fact that many women admit they keep him waiting and make him pay before sleeping with him, whereas they fuck during this time with other guys (even if they know them for less time than the Nice guy and does not want to make a commitment with them).
If you are not seen as a lover (a man with whom she can explore her sexuality with impunity) you thus have the choice between :
1) falling in the friendzone;
2) Falling in the “kind-boy-perfect-as- a-husband-who-will-take-care-of-me-later” zone. What is not a bad thing for you… if want to undergo your sexual life and get married to the first girl who will agree to sleep with you.
In each of these two zones, on the sexual plan: you are fucked.
A guy she sees as a potential boyfriend will only see a single facet of her. And it’s often not the dirtiest. On the other hand, and sometimes at the same time as she tries to pick up a potential boyfriend, a guy she sees as a lover is doing a lot of naughty things every night with her… and it is even him who decides when they see each other or not, etc. It is the dark side of women. But you can be a boyfriend (or a husband) AND a lover: it is the complete man, the perfect man (or almost).
Thus the morality is : be at first an alpha lover, and then a “boyfriend” if you want. “Nice guys boyfriends” are fucked in 99 % of all cases. A small table to help you to find your way there (a balance between both lover/boyfriend, it’s very good)…
|The lover||The boyfriend|
Not always available
Like what is prohibed
Driven by passion
Share his resources
Predictable, almost needy
Doesn’t want to pressure her
Emotional and financial stability
Social conformity, no originality
– The fantasy “he / she is so special”: too many guys told me “this girl is different from others” or “your techniques won’t work with her because she is not like the others”… while they know her for 1 week or less. Many guys have too many illusions and fall in love too easily. The consequences of the fact that she is so special for them (because she is interested in them thus she stands out in their opinion) can be that they are going to want to do too much, to be too classy and too gentleman, and to pay too much for her… and finally scare her off (TOO MUCH OF EVERYTHING…) Then they will be disappointed and will conclude “all woman are whores”.
It is important for a woman to see how a man behaves with the waiters, the vendors, etc. 3 dates allow her in her opinion to get a good idea of who you are and of if you correspond to what she is looking for or not… if ever she knows what she is looking for. Often, they settle this rule to ease their conscience.
The problem for women, it’s that quite a lot of guys change their behavior when they’ve slept with them. They become less reliable, patronize her, answer very slowly to her texts, and do not pay any more as much as they did before sleeping with her. This change of behavior frightens women.
No matter how many dates you went on with this girl, the balance of the relation tilts very often in favour of men after sex. Because it is an important emotional investment for a woman, we have already spoken about it! Some people think that the simple fact of bedtime with a woman creates chemical substances in her brain that make that she becomes attached to the guy just because she slept with. Many women had unpleasant surprises with men after sex, thus they established rules for their next dates.
I am not here to be your moral guide, but I chose the road of the honesty and of the frankness for my future relations. Not only it protects everybody’s feelings, but it also helps us create more powerful connections… and stronger ones. During my quest, I often noticed that my frankness was often suspect even pushed away… so ironic !
Women should never criticize you because you are an alpha virile who knows what he wants and who assumes the fact he enjoys making love. Some do it, but it is them who are to be pitied, because it shows that they are conditioned, frustrated… In other words, in practice: badly fucked.
The most frequent errors
If you have for habit to take women on romantic dates (like candlelit dinners, cinema, etc.) it will be difficult for you to satisfy all the following criteria. Too bad for you…
Even for those who are good at doing the talking, this kind of date sets up a bad dynamics in the interaction and reduces your chances of developing a more physical relation.
When you go to the restaurant with her before having ever fucked her:
– she unconsciously puts you in the “nice guy” category that she is used to reject (bad association);
– you have difficulties to do some physical escalation (because of the table between both of you);
– too much social pressure because of the conversation that should be intimate and of people all around (walls have ears);
– by wanting to pay and to impress her with your money, you would risk looking “try too hard”, by refusing to pay and by obliging her to divide up the bill, you would be thought of as a “skinflint”. The only acceptable compromise here it is to pay one time in two (1/2 date).
When you go to the cinema with her:
– problem with having a conversation;
– any attempt of kinaesthetic escalation will be felt much more hardly because there will be no conversation to disguise it (your conversation is supposed to calm the logical part of her brain until the emotional part gets the upper hand) ;
– the movie will maybe be more interesting than you for her;
– if the movie is a shit, you will have to save the night, but she will be in a bad emotional state of mind;
– you once again fall into the trap of dates so “clichés” ! Thus creating attraction will be compromised from the beginning because of your lack of originality.
I think that it is better to keep this kind of dates for the girls with who you already go out, or at least with whom you make out, if and only if really want to go to the restaurant or to watch a movie in good company. In phase of seduction, if ever you invite her to eat or to watch a movie at your place, it changes everything of course. In this case, it becomes a daring thus exciting date, because anything can happen. I’m not saying that she cannot shake you in the cinema into the darkness, but for a first time and according to the kind of girls you date, it will be delicate. It’s a good idea to make it easy for her, at least at the beginning.
When sexual tension is not released, it is sometimes funny over the short-term, but in the long run, it plays negatively on your relation. So, fuck her ! I sincerely think, by experience, that it is better to sleep with her too early than too late ! Because it is what she expects from you + because you will take in a way control of the relation and do what you want then. In addition, acting sexual as fast as possible accelerates the process of seduction, whereas being frustrated, thinking about sex but not assuming, hinders the development of a healthy relation. Calibration is key in this case too : according to the woman and according to the situation, timing won’t be the same.
Certain women have rules defined in their head, and even Ian Somerhalder would not make them break it. At least in theory… Every lock has a key as they say, you can thus choose to model at her convenience, to wait 3 years just to sleep with her… so putting aside your personality, your ambitions and your cojones. It is obviously not what I suggest. There is thus a sorting that must be done and you will learn in this ebook how to avoid this kind of girls who offer finally more problems and frustration than solutions and pleasures. And you will more assume your intentions!
The rule of the three dates before kissing/fucking a girl became public domain, but it is an enormous shit. You can sleep with a girl after 10 minutes !!! And no, she is a whore!!! It is rather because you did it well. And thanks to you, both of you will have fun…
When a woman uses the rule of the 3 dates (or 10) with you :
– understand why she does that (certainly a way of protecting herself… It is then interesting to understand against what she wants to protect herself) ;
– always be the exception to rules in your mind, rules are made to manage the sheeps which intelligence is limited, but you are a pioneer ;
– make her want to sleep with you, first of all thanks to the rapport created between both of you, then by making her understand that you admit that her situation is delicate when it comes to sex (social pressure, other guys who were jerks or bad in bed…) and finally turn her on a little to see how she reacts.
By clearing at once up that you are not the basic guy, you won’t any more fall into the “clichés” of the trying to pick up. What immediately makes you become somebody interesting. And by underlining the fact that she tries to pick you up too in return, you create a dynamics that works in your favor.
The key points of the Mystery Method
The Mystery Method provides sequences : attraction before comfort, comfort before seduction (sex). All this by physically escalading and by leading her towards an intimate place where you can feel enough at ease to sleep together. I do not generally like methods, because I reached a quite good level so I’m able to enjoy freestyle, but I have to admit that methods are very useful, all the same, to know where we are in the seduction process. They give a frame that can be useful… especially for beginners! I am thus going you to develop a little more on this reference method which is the basis of the community of the seduction…
To bring your mission to a successful conclusion, you must be good at :
– stimulating her feelings and demonstrating a high value (attraction) ;
– making so that she shows you her value… to make her understand that you appreciate her for something else than her physical appearance (qualification) ;
– creating a rapport and an intimate connection (comfort) ;
– turning her on and undressing her (seduction).
If you follow grosso-modo this progress, you will probably be able to sleep with her and start a relationship. You will optimize your chances. It should be noted that the phase of qualification is included in the comfort phase.
You have (to seem) to be someone funny, because this way you can more easily break rules. The excitement so created, or euphoria, inhibits the logical part of her brain and allows to deal with her emotional brain which is finally more free and more sincere.
For that purpose :
– tease her ;
– misinterpret what she says in a player tone (first of all imply that she is attracted to you, then later, that she wants to sleep with you – it’s daring but nerve pays) ;
– play games (riddles, battles of thumbs, reading the lines of the hand, playing the mentalist with people around, etc.) ;
– show that you are not a dead man of hunger who wants to sleep with her at all costs… but rather that you are someone all the same sexual who assumes. This nuance is extremely important, she does not want to feel that any girl could be on her seat or might do as well as her for you. Roughly, it is necessary that they cannot think they are exchangeable.
For a serious relation, it will be necessary for you to create more comfort than if you just wanted to sleep with her. A woman must know enough about you so she has good reasons for thinking that you are the one you’re claiming you are. I’m not saying here that you’re suspected of impersonation, but she has to feel relatively safe and enough trust you to invite you at her place or to agree to come to your place.
I am not a medium but I can tell you that you’ll be tested, more or less consciously, more or less finely, during your meetings.
She will want to see if :
– you really are the attracting guy that you claim your are since the beginning;
– she will really feel comfortable with you in the bedroom in the point to get naked, what she has to win with it and how you will manage the “after sex”;
– you can enter her life, and which role you could play in it (lover, one shot, husband, etc.) Roughly, if you can be of any interest for her or if you are a coal nut more than something else (I’m kidding, it is not as dichotomous as that, but it is so that you better understand).
The rule says that, more you will create comfort, more you will make tilt the balance in favour of “potential boyfriend” and thus more you will need time and efforts to sleep with her. It is thus not necessarily good to create too much comfort.
To create comfort quickly, effectively and in good dose, a good way is to reveal your passions and your purposes in life. These things that make you wake up in the morning. When you speak about it, put some passion in your voice… not for good measure, but because if there is no passion, it is because these things do not fascinate you. This is called genuineness.
Be spiritual and enthusiastic. They like mystery and intrigue… any personality is seemingly full of it. For that purpose, let your emotional side speak. You will thus communicate on a channel that they get well.
Make her understand how you see the world. We all see the world through the prism of our own reality. This is called “faiths”. But also show that you can stand up on that. With that said, for your personal comfort, I advise you to adopt positive faiths and to see a little life through rose-colored glasses as much as possible… on one hand, because anyway it changes nothing to the facts : thus it’s always better to be happy (even if it means contenting yourself with few) and on the other hand, because few people are really positive in fact thus it is soothing and attractive (more than a killjoy or a guy who sees plots everywhere… I know some).
Fear (approach, social or sexual anxiety) can paralyze you and prevent you from doing many things in your life. But it is necessary to say to yourself that fear doesn’t remove danger. That the life is an adventure, or a game. The more you will have a vision alpha of the life, the more you will see yourself as winner and the more you will be charming. Except for the eyes of the girls who are programmed to like losers (for example the LSE – low self esteem). But it’s a different story and because I want that you aim high (the top of the basket), this problem is not supposed to happen even if there is a lot of LSE on the Internet. Something else: certain people who will read this free part will think that I am a monster and that I have probably a lot of problems to be interested in the seduction and especially to see it as a science. It is another kind of faiths… I can assure you, even with more than 5 years of experience, that my vision of things is so much, otherwise more, acceptable and constructive than the one of these people (no counter-example).
We can also create comfort in a passive way. For that purpose, you have to seize the opportunities that will offer themselves to you during the meeting. Like opening the door for her or guiding her somewhere (leader). Make so that she feels safe, for example by putting your hand at the bottom of her back when you cross the street, in a protective way.
Do guy’s things. Holding her hand in the crowd : it doesn’t only mean that you do not want that she gets lost. It also communicates that you pay attention on her while you’re having a walk on the way of life. It is subtle but women are very sensitive and emotional beings. Way more subtle than us. They are very good in sub-communication. Always wonder what you sub-communicate (and not only what you communicate with your words).
Then, you try to do so that things become sexual. The problem with the phase of comfort, it’s that you will maybe be tidied up in her “potential boyfriends” mental category. By sexualizing things, you appear more sexually concrete and you go away from the image of the future-but-hypothetical-extraordinary-boyfriend (that you will never be except if you are the prince of Monaco… but she is going to fantasize). Sow the seeds of a fast kinesthetic escalation (roughly, warm her tactilely)!
I can hear you asking me : but in this case, why getting bored creating comfort if we just want to fuck her? Because without comfort, the cold sexualization would be unlikely to work.
Soft ways of sexualizing :
“Tell me more. Why do you like XXX ? I am sincere, even if I did not want to sleep with you, I would ask you for it.”
“When you talk about that, I can feel your passion in your voice, it’s sexy. Tell me more… or rather don’t, we should speak about something else because it gives me not really Catholic ideas (sex).”
A frame, it’s the underlying and emotional context of any interaction. It exists everywhere in the society : in any communication, there is a frame. Imagine, for example, when you talk to mister Dupont, your philosophy teacher. Imagine now that this mister Dupont is a lieutenant, either a psychologist. See how with the same person, the context would be different, thus your attitude would change. The attitudes of the protagonists adapt themselves to the frame of the underlying communication.
If we apply it to pick up:
– you can choose to be a kind boy, considerate, who patiently waits that the girl decides that it’s time to let you sleep with her, and dependent of his girlfriend to be happy in life. You often send her texts or phone to her, and buy her very expensive presents. It sets up the frame according to which you are not exciting. Roughly, you can see her as a hardly accessible girl for whom it will be necessary to you to make a lot of efforts;
– otherwise you can also choose to act in a daring, exciting way, to be ambitious and unpredictable and to never say “no” to an adventure. You surprise her and so test her limits and realize her fantasies. Her emotional state when she will be with you will be totally different. There will be this special spice. You set up the frame according to which you are exciting. Here you choose to see her as a girl with whom you’re certainly going to sleep, unless she is too tight-ass to see what is her interest (sexually speaking).
If you do not set up a frame in your favor then the others will choose one for you, at their convenience, rather one easy for them and one that does not disturb them too much. You will lose very often if you are passive. Anyway, a frame of kind boy will never be favorable to a fast kinesthetic escalation as far as it would be perceived by her as something strange. A little bit like a passive-aggressive: when he gets excited, it surprises everybody and we do not understand what is happening. By quickly clearing things up, by imposing that you are a sexual man, you completely transform the dynamics between both of you. And if she is not happy with that, she leaves : bravo, you saved time and saved some energy. The cherry on the cake is that with such an attitude you will influence her psychological state, and thus improve your rate of success.
For example, if you are clear with the fact that you are not someone who judges, she will more be tempted to have fun in the bed with you. Fear and social pressure in a relation : you can limit them even delete them if you put a good frame in your interaction. She will certainly test you to be sure that you are who you claim you are, thus do not start telling that your ex is a whore because she banged 3 guys since you broke up. Be positive : rather say that “good for her if she has fun, if she has orgasms, it’s something cool taken on life anyway” and that moreover you have for principle to never leave your partner not satisfied, etc.
Your purpose is to fix frames that help you (she wants to sleep with you) rather than to let her fix what she wants (she wants to test you to see if you deserve to make out with her in a few weeks). Claim you are the prize in the interaction, and you will maybe become the prize. In any case, you will more be it than if you did nothing and passively accept your fate.
How to fix such a frame ?
– Interpret things she does as an attempt to seduce you. But do it in a relax, funny way. If you are not credible or too authoritarian or if you are not comfortable yourself when you do that, you will meet some resistance and rejection. Because they have an ego too: when somebody accuses them too extravagantly of trying to impress him, they often react by putting him back in place.
– Find things she has or does that please you, and link them with sexuality. For example, “I like the smell of your lip balm, if you continue to put it on you, I guess that I could not refrain from kissing you everywhere… everywhere…
– ah well so I will put more of it right now!”
You can do it in the form of a game or a challenge too. But funny and with second degree. Me, who am a notorious womanizer, I like saying “ah you know, many girls before you tried to take my virginity”. If she is from the beginning or was put in the good state of mind, she could answer “yes but, me, I am going to succeed“.
Sometimes, they will try to impose their frame. Something saying that you have to pay for everything to deserve possibly-maybe-one-day their sexual favors. This is all good for them, in a sense: they stay in their zone of comfort and you pay for her (sucker !). If their frame is too strong in their mind (I call this kind of girl “princesses spoiled by their parents”) it is possible that there is nothing else to do to sleep with her than complying with their requirements of neurotics (but in this case run away otherwise she will maybe be a pain in your ass during a loooooong time). Otherwise, it can be a test and you can try to reframe to see if that works… Anyway trying does not cost anything. The one who has the strongest frame will so influence the other one.
Women are programmed to like alpha attitudes such as protection, etc. Even the most feminist one. Except the neurotics sometimes. I’m talking about emotional, physical and financial protections, in an ideal world.
Try to become a man who knows what he wants, where he goes and with what kind of women. And who does not have a change of mind as a weather vane. The more you will have a strong virile presence, the more you will be an emotional protection for her. Also try to be emotionally positive. Somebody funny, informal and funny. Sometimes it’s difficult, but in this case, why not following a therapy : if really you have things that haunt you and prevent you from being happy even when you’ve just fucked a HB10 (if you feel you need to get it off your chest) ?
If you are strong, confident and a leader during dates, you will maybe break the rule of 3 the RDV(Rendez-Vous) because she will be more likely to be guided by you in a bed, without feeling guilty because she will not feel responsible for her own seduction.
Most of women are programmed to don’t assume their own seduction. This is why they settle rules. They do not want to feel as being a whore who manages the trying to pick up. In such a case, they can feel this feeling like if they were a male, if they take control, and so… feeling uncomfortable then losing their attraction. Once and for all : making them comfortable without “too much” will allow you, statistically speaking, to screw more and faster.
It is not easy for the most part of us to act as a leader. Because alpha are rare by definition and dominate the masses of the beta males : there is much more beta males than alpha males in the nature. But we can work on it, and we can improve our Game. Especially that an alpha is not necessarily alpha in all the domains (even never) and a beta is not a useless person (well, normally).
How to train to become a better leader :
– place your hand at the bottom of her back, take her hand when you cross the street either enter somewhere or cross the crowd. As a general rule, be the one who introduces the physical contact and the first one who stops it. If she feels a lack, it is BINGO.
– be emotionally positive, funny, humour in a light manner. See yourself as the master of her emotional and in particular sexual state.
– the responsibility for managing the conversation lies with you. That does not mean that you have to speak all the time and boast. On the contrary, you have to make her talk a lot. You have to manage the conversation and direct it to interesting/exciting subjects. Avoid subjects that generally do not help in seduction, in particular all that is negative and that can make you appear as a loser. You can play (to guess, to make her guess) to games or practice your cold reading. A woman wants to see, among others, if you are socially intelligent. Talk about her passions, yours, what she likes, her fantasies, hobbies, her challenges in life, her dreams… and yours !
– decide where to go and what to do. Have a backup plan in case she would not like what you had in mind. Get closer to the bed : If it starts raining, to be cold and that you are outside, or if the conversation starts to sink, change place (why not suggesting going to your place?).
A woman will test you. She will want to test your limits and estimate your strength of character. In the same way as YOU, you stare at her tits and ass to estimate her. They generally know what they look for and on what they are ready to make concessions (no one is perfect).
If you fail her tests or if you let her exceed the limits, you will meet more resistance (encounter more difficulties to have a possible sexual relation). The more you will be soft, weak and influenced, the less you she will feel attraction for you.
By showing that if she pisses you off too much, you can leave and that you will find others women you’ll screw (but that it would be too bad FOR BOTH OF YOU), you show that you are a valuable man who has other options (and that she had caught up to here your attention). That you have criteria and requirements (you are not a submitted pussy). That the first silly bitch you meet cannot suck your cock. And thus that you do not put her on a pedestal like most of the guys certainly do especially if she is a very pretty girl. This change will affect her.
The only reason why a guy would not assume to put limits on a behavior that disturbs him, it’s the fear of losing the girl (submission). It is all the more ridiculous if he hardly knows her. We say that a rare horse is expensive : that’s what is going to make your value, and that’s a good thing because you are a stud. Not only you have to remain a challenge for her, but she also has to feel an emergency, otherwise she will put you on waiting list. It’s her motivation to act (experts in marketing know that playing on the competition urges to the purchase). But so that it works, she must be attracted, interested, and recognize in you a sexual potential.
How to do so?
– If you walk together and if she goes into a shop, you can leave her a few moments and go to see something else. It communicates that you are not needy and that you are independent.
– You can move forward without waiting for her… or let her walk in front of you if something catches your attention. Don’t do that in a dark and dangerous street all the same.
– Be firm on your limits, but do not become a big idiot (too much badly placed arrogance communicates an ill-being, what is not attractive).
– Have fun wrongly breaking the rapport, “When I will know you better, I will tell you a secret“. Then, you can say any bullshit when she will have insisted a lot to know what is this fucking secret. Something like “I’ve been told I am king of the cunnilingus“. It is called push&pull (two steps forward, one step back).
– You have minimum criteria, you are demanding with women (they like that a man has standards, this is why they are demanding with themselves, generally).
– Enjoy disqualifying her in a player way, like “You and I, it will never work, because you watch “Les Reines du Shopping” (French stupid TV show for women)…………………………………..no I’m kidding, I watch it sometimes too, it’s funny“. I remember a girl I disqualified too hardly (a smocking hot 17 years old hottie when I was 24) and thus I’ve lost her. I had said something like “you are too young for me” and she took it literally then starting a relationship with a guy as old as me.
Plan little in advance if you want to fuck her at her place, at your home, or in your car. When you go on a date, always have an idea of what you could do with the girl and where, in an ideal world. Then wonder sincerely why it would be impossible. Often you will realize that it is about a glass prison. It is an audacious world map (breaking this imaginary wall) but the nerve pays ! Otherwise you can sometimes enjoy walking in the street with her then “ah ! it’s funny ! we are in front of my apartment ! what coincidence… do you wanna come over ?”
Invisible sexual tension (weird reactions, clumsiness) is present in any interaction between the people who are attracted. Do not waste it! It is normal and natural, then assume it and play with it. Feel at ease in the sexual tension (it requires some training). Start with the touch: for example when you give a kiss to her to say hello, put your hand on her shoulder or her hip. Then, escalate the interaction as I speak about it in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations.
The feelings of women are very powerful, once they’re stimulated. It can urge them to make decisions (positive or negative – she’ll slap your face or suck you on her knees) that they would not necessarily have made without pressure. My philosophy has always been that being fixed is always better than staying in the inactivity. It’s another interesting world map that allows to move on quickly and without too many damages if the girl is not on the same wavelength as us.
By awakening her sexual desire, you stimulate her emotional side and not her logical side. You so take away her objections and the social pressure. In one second, she can be taken by a tsunami of hormones in her panties and do not be able to think anything but being fucked by the beautiful guy in front of her, and too bad if usually she does not sleep at the first date! She will just think about pleasure over the moment… and about consequences later!
You should develop your skill/talent to warm women. With your words (we will study it in this ebook), with your body language (read How to sublimate your body language). Creating sexual attraction, evolution (like a Pokemon) of the latent sexual tension, does not depend on the logic (way that us, men, are nevertheless used to think). Practicing the language of women needs knowledge and practice, but it’s more than powerful once integrated and applied. It can even become a second nature ! Of course, every woman is different, but knowing a whole arsenal of techniques to turn women on and quickly escalate tactilely will help you in any case. Even more if you play on the statistics!
The only way to make love with a lot women a lot is to lead them. It can appear as an advice at the same time obvious and doubtful for an average guy who does not practice a good type of Game… but a woman will almost never do your work of man for you.
If you follow the stages suggested in this book, you will have many dates, and you will fuck with most of them. And it is not called “cheating”. If you have a good approach, a good profile, if you prepare her on-line by telling her the good things, and then that if you confirm this attitude during an exciting date, she will want to sleep with you very quickly. You will have the impression that it happened magically, and both of you will love that!
Know that the trying to pick up and especially online dating puts a lot of pressure on the protagonists of the interaction: if you thought you had a lot the pressure, then know that she doubtless feels even more than you. Women undergo a non-natural pressure (social pressure) way more powerful than us. However, if you adopt a not judgemental approach, you can set the most intelligent women free from their glass prisons. And you will enjoy in peace together !
Come on, let’s go ! Now that we are more clear on the principles of the Game, let’s adapt all this to the Game on the Internet. What follows is a COMPLETE AND CONCRETE book (50-50% between theory and application). No matter if you are a sniper or a horse that likes bumping against them (it’s a metaphor), you will find what you are looking for in this ebook about online dating. See you…
Extract from “Secrets for seducing on the Internet“