Author: Fabrice Julien PUA

I – How to make love to a woman ?

I write this introduction for the guys who are in the following state of mind “fucking her well or badly it is the same thing for me, the important is just to fuck her”. I want to become again an alcoholic to forget when I read things like that. First of all because if you know that you are one of the best fucks in town you necessarily convey more confidence. Then, because they tell it to their friends and it is advertisement for you héhéhé. Finally, because it is because of shitty mentalities like that that it is more and more difficult to have sex in France: the girls think by default that the dude doesn’t know how to fuck, thus to enjoy her body he has to show the money or other. What I want to say, it is that if it was “guaranteed orgasms every time”, the women would less be prayed and our value of man would raise. Capisch ? It is the state of mind I have and I can tell you that it is more constructive than the egoism and in addition when a girl put me a rake, I say to myself “go and get fucked by a fellow who doesn’t know how to do it and who we will lie to your to unlock your legs (95 % of chances) if it is what you prefer, you don’t even know what you miss when you do the malicious like that and you think you are clever :)… then you will say than men are all the same IE useless assholes!”

The second thing to know it is that the girls love sex but do not want to be denigrated (thought of as whores). The chicks are naughty but thus often give you advices to be artless, kind and submitted in long-term relationships. They will only very rarely admit what really turn them on and never confess that the bedtime they will remember till the end of their days, they did probably not have them with a shy and awkward man.”I love you as we like certain dark things, in a secret way, between the shadow and the soul.” Pablo Neruda

1) General state of mind

Being a good fuck, it is above all not being a bad fuck : you will be a lover at the same time bravely taking initiatives, comfortable and very sensual. I was inspired without having copied it by Eve O who gives very good advices in her book 267 conseils pour devenir le meilleur coup de sa vie as well as Nina Hartley.

2) The caresses

You have to caress them and kiss them often… and not only during the sexual act.

You can caress them with lips : vary the pressure, the rhythm and the opening. Have a good breath, so wash your teeth or take small fresh things full of mint. Avoid: cafe, cigarette, etc.

To caress them with your hands, have soft hands and thus hydrated. Rough hands will not optimize pleasant caresses. Be soft and sensual, do fluid movements and slide tenderly on the surface of her skin. Place your hand on hers when she caresses you to guide her… and she can do the same for you.

If you decide to make her a massage, you are not obliged to mass her only with your hands. More your body will be in touch with hers and more she will be warmed. You can even do it completely naked. You can improve this idea by using oils but try them before to be sure that they do not burn. Mass the thighs inside, outside and pass near her sex innocently. Take care of her butts then return towards her sex, then leave : turn her on until she begs you to take her! When hormones get the upper hand over the logical part of her brain, it is an extraordinary let go!

Be always on the lookout for her reactions: every woman is relatively different and according to the type of caress you use, you will meet more or less of success. You cannot guess!

As regards the caress of her sex: Begin by caressing her through underwear, you touch her, you turn all around, you cross your fingers around the clitoris. A thing which I also like to do to make them go nuts it is to lick them through their underwear and then when they cannot handle it any more move it a little to attack their sex. The saliva will be an excellent lubricant for your fingers which must be clean. She is then going to beg you to undress her (or will do it herself if the panties are too wet) ! Also play with the lips of her vagina, not only the vagina itself or the clit: watch her muscles contracting, it is funny. Vary the angles of attack and the speed and watch for her reactions. You have to judge what she likes most: breath, contractions, shivers, sighs, shouts (why not)…

To finger her, do not go as a horse there, anyway 80 % of the women are clitoral but that pleases them all the same (especially the association of both). Let’s go there slowly. Increase the number of fingers but not too much all the same to don’t hurt them. Small precision : your finger is not a penis (there are nails and everything thus attention). When you finger her, also try to stimulate the clitoris (thumb of the same hand or index+major of the other hand), this is the way you will totally drive her crazy. Do not be a pneumatic drill, it is not like that that they feel penetrated like by a penis: on the contrary, press downward, make a semicircle below as a swing … alternate all these techniques and be attentive to her reactions. This is key!

To give her the impression of penetrating into her like with your sex but just with your fingers, fold up the last two phalanxes as if you said “hey you come here” in her vagina. You will feel (normally) a kind of rough cavity, it is the place of the G-spot. To stimulate effectively the clitoris, make movements (rather circulars with your fingers or then with your tongue and maybe also a coming and going) faster and faster. When you feel she will come, slow down.

3) The cunnilingus

It is again something very subjective even if appears guiding common main lines. NB : some girls do not like that but the largest part THINK that they do not like that because no guy was able to do it in a correct and they were bored or had to feign pleasure. It is because I won several times the prize of the king of the cunni in Aix that I allow myself to develop this part.

If you have a doubt on your performance, ask her for the rhythm, the pressure when you play with the clitoris… some girls are really sensitive and that can hurt them or fear them especially when you start or at the approach of the orgasm. Attention with teeth like, just like she has to do it when she performs blowjob : respect. And do not blow in her vagina it may be dangerous: respect.

To begin: kiss her breasts, come down by kissing her small stomach, her navel then continue to come down to attack the point which interests us. It has to don’t be too easy for her, the anticipation is going to make rise her desire as in seduction. At the beginning, use your tongue to make the zone wet. By putting a pillow under her buttocks, you give her an ideal position. Do not blow in the vagina, it is very unpleasant. Explore the hidden recesses of her vagina and her lips with your tongue in mode “hard tongue”. Travel her sex of various manners, lick, penetrate, turn, lap, suck…

In fact, put your mouth as in duckface (it helps a little) and position it on her clitoris. Normally, you feel it under your tongue, as a small hard button… It is very rare that I had to go there blind because it was very discreet but by following the plan you know in which zone it has to be and that is enough (btw always being just on it is not optimal). I think that licking it is good but sucking is excellent too : suck her as she would suck your sex which would not be hard yet. No, that does not make you a fag. Mass her so as to make the blood come on her sex. You can tap above delicately (attention slowly). So that she gives you her rhythm, position your mouth on the clitoris and do not move, let her indicate you the angle. Put your fingers in her vagina (in mode “hey come here”) and move her body also while you suck her.

Continue: pay attention on the nonverbal communication which she sends back to you to know if she likes that. Continue what works! Place your fingers on her sex by making a V with the bottom towards buttocks and top towards the stomach: it is the zone of the cunnilingus.

At the end: if she approaches the orgasm, she can ask you to stop by tightening legs. I do not advise you to obey: make her enjoy like in a dream. If she does not return it to you, give all the same, for the pleasure to give (God will reward you). Do cunnis because you must show that you love your partner’s body. If the smell bothers you then breathe through your mouth but put out your nose so as you don’t stifle. Be careful if she is on her period, do not make me say what I did not say. If you have hair in the mouth, remove them discreetly… If really too much hair, remember that you do not HAVE TO lick.

Let her the choose to kiss you or not directly after your cunni (dry yourselves discreetly). It is an act of dominion because it is you who master her pleasure. Hold her firmly if she moves too much the legs because of the pleasure. If she ejaculates in your face during the cunni it is only some water, for information, that never happened to me thus don’t be afraid. Be resilient and successful: if you are bored, draw the alphabet on her sex. I advise you to put the condom during the cunni, neither seen nor known then you fuck her directly… Go down on her while she sleeps : queen’s alarm clock…

4) The penetration

2/3 positions, it is a good average. Turn her on before penetrating into her with your penis. Begin in penetrating into her slowly then push your sex. Start slowly then accelerate: There is a gradation. Idea : To turn by making circles with your sex in her vagina, that gives her some pleasure and that allows you to recover. Talk to her : steer her, share your pleasure with her. Laugh at pussy farts or pretend not having heard anything. Lead her by the hips. Try to stimulate her clitoris at the same time you penetrate into her : a good position is you on her because the pubis rubs the clitoris. Otherwise in doggy style for example, you can use one of your hands to do the same thing. Let her lead the penetration at her rhythm by giving her the commands in certain positions like doggystyle or side-saddle (mode “man object”). Alternate sweetness and firmness. Kiss her: neck, shoulders… Then, intensify your movements to lead her to the orgasm. It is difficult to know if what we did was appreciated if we have no feedback : talk (even if it is better if she congratulates you by herself just after like “that never happened to me before that it was soooo good” and I can tell to you that when that it happens regularly to you that gives you a fucking good inner game)! If you feel that she is going to come and that you are a player, stop and start again because the final orgasm will be multiplied tenfold! Stop everything while she has an orgasm, because she will enjoy it more than if you continue.

For the sodomy, speak about it with her : doggystyle or side-saddle advised.

5) Delay the éjaculation

– Make a break in the comings and goings ;
– Pressure on the perineum (area around between anus and testicles) ;
– Change position for a less exciting position for you ;
– Think of hard things like for example that she can twist your sex ;
– Catch yourselves the thigh discreetly (or the ear) ;
– Say to her that you will “cum” ;
– Contract your perineum, technique close to the tantric ;
– If you come before her, make her enjoy otherwise (cunni), do not leave your partner dissatisfied except when she is really blocked for specific reasons to her ;
– After having finished, take her a little in your arms.
NB : To be very hard strained and be able to reload easily, a good hygiene of life helps.

If you do not have orgasm when you ejaculate too much early it can be due to a lack of experience or relaxation. Orgasm and éjaculation are not necessarily connected. Thus, put in perspective your situation, even think of something else, do not take all this too seriously and you will do better next time… If she impresses you too much, here is craftiness: imagine her doing number two (try not to go limp all the same lol).

How to know if she enjoyed ? If she enjoys, observe the cramps on her stomach, observe her mouth for the shouts or the groans if she interiorizes, otherwise at the level of her sex, it opens more, becomes wetter and contracts a little. She can also catch hold of you or sheets.

6) Talk

Ask her what she would like to do next time.
What are her fantasies?
Tell her what you appreciated or not really liked.
Tell her that you need a small time of rest before being able to do it again.
Stay class: do not become vulgar like in a porn… except if she likes that.
On the other hand, be open-minded.

7) Other ideas

Savage :
– Use your nails (backs, buttocks) flat or edge, but short and filed ;
– Nibble her ;
– Maintain her wrists ;
– Grasp her neck ;
– Grasp the buttocks ;
– Catch her hair ;
– Stick her head to the pillow;
– Your warm breath in her ear;
– Put her small pats on buttocks (if she protests say to her that it is stimulating).

Sensitive places :
– Feet ;
– Hair, mass her hair by making small circles on the skull ;
– Hair, play with your fingers ;
– Brush her then intensify your movements on her back and buttocks ;
– Lob ear ;
– Hollow of the neck ;
– Approach your sex of hers or her butts then go back up casually ;
– The neck ;
– The breast (lick her or brush them) slowly and next to the navel ;
– To touch her sex, be careful to be wet (saliva) ;
– The folds of knees, elbows, ankles ;
– Ears, nape of the neck ;
– Thighs ;
– Shoulders.

Sexual games :
– Cover her eyes ;
– Attach her hands with her bra ;
– Write imaginary words in her back with your fingers ;
– Suck one of her fingers while you fuck her or put her one of yours in the mouth ;
– Look at you in a mirror ;
– Role-play ;
– Make love in improper places ;
– Make love with people next to you ;
– Make love on the ground or on the balcony in front of the street, or standing love ;
– Do quickies when you are in a hurry ;
– Make love in (appropriate) music ;
– Eat on her body;
– Use objects, watch a porn together ;
– Seduce without looking like it : after the shower do not get dressed at once, or stay topless on the terrace.

Accessories :
– Privilege the blue or sieved light ;
– Clean and not pierced boxer shorts: black will always be an excellent choice ;
– No bed which creaks, it is weird ;
– Candles can give a cool atmosphere ;
– Take a bath together or a shower ;
– No phone or do not answer ;
– Do not always make love with clothes : sometimes, just go under her dress.

8) Wide-spread feminine fantasies

– Being taken by a beautiful stranger that they will never see again ;
– The rape: passivity = loss of control = justification (but do not rape her but be persevering) ;
– The flagrante delicto: public place (parking, toilet, cinema) ;
– The uniform: policeman, serviceman, fireman… ;
– A love triangle with another man or with another girl for the most curious.

All this is not exhaustive, but practice it and you will become a better fuck than 95 % of the men. And they will thanks you for that ! In brief, that you look for a mother, for a girl or for a woman, fuck her well and she will ask for more of it ! Maybe that one day, the man “good fuck” will become as valuable on the market as the “hot girl”.

II – How to give orgasms to a girl ?

 

This article aims to make everyone happier in bed. In other words, I will give you my secrets, as Cyprineman. Orgasms guaranteed!

To follow this tutorial, you need:
– fingers ;
– a tongue ;
– a cock;
– a woman.

1) The power of your fingers (G-spot and clitoris)

Before fingering her, you have to warm up. I had already made two articles-videos:
– How to kiss a girl;
– The erogenous zones.
Feel free to watch it (again) !

Now, let’s go in the thick of it.

First, take the entire genital area with your hand (everything is important) but go easy… because everything is sensitive. It is later that you will specifically attack Mr. Clitoris.

First, pat the area over her jeans to tame her. Then open her pants and do it over her string. Then, when she will start to get wet, go under the last underwear.

You will be in contact with her most intimate skin, it is necessary that your fingernails are short and clean (it’s called respect). The first touch may be accompanied by a SMALL cringe, it is instinctive and normal : you know the privacy and extreme sensitivity of the area. Warning, if she says “NO”, it is a NO and stop everything : do not take the risk of being labeled a rapist.

The move to caress there… it’s either rub up and down or in a circular manner. Or around the clitoris or REALLY ON THE SPOT : all depends on the sensitivity of the girl!

To help, here are two little diagram to help you find the clitoris and the G-spot:

Once she is really wetted and open, you can finger her without hurting her. Do not hesitate to lubricate your fingers with your saliva a little more if necessary.

Start by using two fingers (index and middle). It’s most of the time enough. Some want 3 or 4 fingers but it is better to wait that women say they want more before trying it. When they guide us, that’s cool!

Do not completely take your fingers out of her vagina for up-and-coming but rather do a “hey come over here” type of movement. It’s a bit like scratching… To do well, always leaves at least two phalanges in the pussy and you can make back-out movements with the length of the third.

When fingering, we will try to tickle the G spot. If the girl is lying on the back, it is up, on the top of the vagina, a few centimeters away from the entrance only. You will recognize this area because the texture is different from the rest of the vagina, rougher. It is this stimulation that make some women ejaculate.

One can very well combine stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot: either by taking it with both hands or by using the thumb of the same hand. After a vaginal orgasm, a woman is often too sensitive to be touched up again, contrary to point G that can endure multiple consecutive orgasms. In fact, both orgasms give different sensations.

For details, watch the video demonstration:

 

2 / The power of your tongue (everything about cunnilingus)

Put one hand on her stomach with your thumb which pulls the skin up to release the clitoris (useful for girls who are not VERY sensitive). In addition, it will show you if the girl simulates because with one hand on her belly you will be able to feel her spasms during orgasm.

Lick, do like a cat drinking, with the tip of your tongue a bit hard.

We can also add fingers for the ultimate combo. This way, you will also see if her pussy tightens on your fingers (she contracts very strong at the moment of orgasm) and thus, again, we can find out if she really orgasmed or if she has simulated.

You can put a pillow under her buttocks for a more comfortable position.

Average time to come with something like this: 10 minutes.

Some women at the time of orgasm, have a kind of flight reaction, you will have the “force” them to enjoy, for their own good. It is the loss of control fear ! Themselves do not control this reaction…

After oral sex, you can wipe on her legs by kissing her, or on the sheets.

Ladies please do not hesitate to return the favor, especially if it’s just shyness that hold you back. There’s nothing worse than licking a selfish girl. Just as exciting is licking, sucking will make you really wet ! If you feel like it, of course…

Gentlemen if you think that licking is being subjected, it is a bad state of mind. To seduce: it’s better to love women, to love their bodies and want to give them orgasms. There’s no place for taboo : we do what makes us happy and pleases the others. The important thing is to give pleasure and take some!

Gender equality is that blowjob and cunnilingus, it’s equivalent. Too few women know that they can come with a cunnilingus. Too much believe that sex without love is zero. We need you to prove them wrong by being good lovers!

For details, see the demonstration video:

 

3 / The power of your cock (let’s fuck like a god)

Here we will see how to give orgasms with your cock. But it’s cool if she had some before you take her, with preliminary.

Some think 5 minutes of preliminary followed by a selfish penetration, it’s cool for a woman. Obviously not, you need to be a better lover than that! With you, women must have the chance to take off like crazy. It will give you a great value and you will really be confident…

Sex is not something men snapped to women who are nice enough to say yes. Good sex is a privilege that you accorde to some lucky girls : this is a good state of mind!

Some essential positions:

– The missionary with the lifted pelvis. She must take a position to make your dick slap her G spot.

– She on you, let her fuck you or fuck her. There’s the feeling of penetration and rubbing her clit.

– The doggystyle (with spanking if she likes it). She must arches her back, again to touch the right area.

You can stroke her clitoris and/or breasts while you take her. Buttocks too. You can also kiss the women. Women love the overall touch.

For details, see the demonstration video:

 

All my tips to make world a place of sexually fulfilled fuckers are grouped in The awesome lover’s manual ! Inside, I detail a lot more things, and there are several diagrams of the anatomy to better find your way. And numerous studies (including one on the real fantasies of women).

If it shocked you, too bad for you, but someone must do your sexual education and take your broom out of your ass. I’ve seen too many girls over 20 years who had never orgasmed… So gentlemen, it is your responsibility !!!

Sincerely,

Fabrice (the king of cunnilingus)

I – When should you kiss a girl ?

A major problem when we want to kiss a girl, but we don’t dare, is that we let our inner monologue govern us. Do not cut off from your feelings because of doubts and other questions. Our feeling should be our guide.

Our emotions are indicators of what is happening inside of us BUT ALSO are the keys to understand the person in front of us. We must let ourselves go a minimum to feel a little desire (which is contagious). And to do not get eaten by the pressure that we often put on ourselves unnecessarily.

The challenge should not take precedence over the game … The light and playful aspect of seduction should not disappear. Never a romantic date should be as dull and tight-ass as a job interview (and a job interview is not a romantic date so there’s a different behavior to be adopted).

It is better to go there with a clear idea of what you expect from the interaction : a good time with one or more pretty chicks, and don’t forget to create conditions conducive to flirt intimacy. Everything else will flow from that.

FUNDAMENTAL POINT – Once isolated with a girl: did she made you want to kiss her? It matters, that, too. You’re not so desperate that kissing any girl is a goal in itself, right? Kissing, it’s nothing seriously. If you are still counting the number of chicks you have kissed, then you are far awayyyyyyyyyyyy in your game. (Desecrate the kissclose please). Seriously, it’s good to go on a date with the idea, the objective to make out with her, but if in the meantime she shows she doesn’t deserve you it’s better to abandon the mission (if you’re sure that you’re not inventing false excuses to duck). Just as one begins his day with what pisses him off the most, you end your date with what requires the greatest effort.

It is important to communicate with your target on an empathic mode too. Do not only communicate on the explicit mode (meaning of words) but also a lot on the implicit mode (gestures, cum facial expressions, posture, tone of voice). Why is it important too? Because you will unconsciously or consciously both send to each other nonverbal signs of invitation to carnal pleasure. I refer in particular to prolonged glances, delicious silences, touches, smiles … so focus your attention on those little things that tell so much…

Wonder for example :
– Are you both in a bubble off of the world? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
– Is the tone of her voice soft? Is it becoming even softer? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
– How does she react to innuendo? Compliments? => OK? KISSCLOSE.

Instead, does she try to avoid proximity and why? Does she seems distracted or elsewhere? => Warning! (but it costs nothing to try anyway, but perhaps it is better calibrate and wait until later). Do not confuse speed with haste.

If you miss scoring chances, do not cut your veins. We all miss some. We all had a chance to initiate a first kiss but yet we did not. With or without having invented false excuses, either. However, let’s not kill ourselves and do not spend our time regretting the past. Let’s rather and seize the next opportune moment. Unfortunately, we remember more the negative than the positive, but if she gives a sign of disinterest interest for 10 signs it’s good nonetheless. It’s worth a try!

Do your eyes fall on the contour of her lips? Do you perceive in her a palpable disorder. A heat wave travels you. Damn: what is stopping you from taking a step toward her, moving a hand behind her neck and approaching your own lips? You are not even really listening to her now. The seconds pass, as long centuries.

If you did not kiss, you can have fun and recreate that magical moment. Or at least, the same conditions. Like “do you remember, earlier? We talked about […] and I felt […] I stopped listening to you, I do not know if you felt the same. I couldn’t take my eyes off of your bright eyes, your pretty lips and I wanted to”………………………… kissclose. Or, “earlier you maybe felt I really wanted to do that” ………………………………. kissclose.

Speak slowly and maintain her eye contact while doing that. Normally, if she wanted you 5 minutes before, she still wants. I say NORMALLY because they are people who are blocked by those guys “who did not have the balls to try”. But hey, in Top Gun, Tom Cruise purposely gets close of his target without trying to kiss her just to bring up sexual tension, and it works well, but he did it with a a playful and confident face. So never let her think you’re not in control nor confident.

BUT IF she refuses my kiss? The fear of embarrassment that would follow a refusal petrifies most men. It is the phobia to end up helpless without knowing where to hide or what to do nor say to regain capacity and credibility that often prevents men from giving it a try. The guys start by thinking about consequences, fuck who saw us? And to who will she tell it, this whore? They will laugh at me (or other paranoid delusions).

Detach yourself from it, guys. It happens to everyone… at least to those who have the balls to take action. BE PROUD BECAUSE YOU’VE TRIED YOUR LUCK (AND HERS)! It’s really more exhilarating than having tried nothing and coming back home with regrets in the pockets!

Why not just smiling at rejection, after all? Why not asking her if it had already happened to her and why? Most girls would like to kiss the first one but are scared to get rejected. So: they say that it is the role of the man to do so. So why not challenging her, “Listen if you want later, it will be your turn to try to kiss me, and maybe you’ll see how you feel when you try to kiss someone who likes it… you feel like high ! It gives you a crazy energy! ”

(Take of course the ideas but change the words, I typed it as it came.)

The reaction to the rejection is paramount. Any PUA will tell you that. I speak well about it in The inconvenient truth about gender relations : for some women, rejecting you once is a test, and they will accept later if you do not get cold feet nor insult her, don’t call her “bitch”.

I think flirting is an act of cooperation. I do not like the girls who play the “man” and like confrontation. I prefer it to be played by the two of us and that we go together until the orgasm, each one making an effort. I understand the shit-tests and tolerate them if they are not excessive but after it pisses me off and I have the impression that the girl is trying to find excuses to avoid spending a good time. I think the bitches who are waiting for me to do all the work or play it like a princess while they are not Kate Middleton do not deserve me. I love the girls who have will and strength of character.

In a nutshell: let’s not forget to be present in the moment in order to pay attention to the little signs that reveal an invitation. Then, only remains to pick the ripe fruit (I speak of course of her apricot).

Let’s trust ourselves. Let’s abandon ourselves to our feelings rather than construct disaster-scenarios. I like kissing chicks anytime too, even when they expect it the least. I find it funny (game rather than issue). And there are people who cannot show their interest or are too shy/tight-ass to do so. I would say: the best time to kiss a girl is when you feel like it.

A good kiss with sexual tension can even make you hard. Especially if you fiddle her in the same time. If you’re hard, it’s okay, I think she will be flattered!

Go now, and do not forget to tease her: that tough love!

II – How to be a good kisser ?

A lot of my readers want to know how to kiss a girl; how to bring and make a success of the kissclose. Moreover, more than a PUA beginner finds himself blocked in the stage of the Kissclose (The best example is Style in his early stages for those who have read The Game).

Let’s do things in the order. Before seeing HOW kissing a girl, let’s see WHEN to kiss her. You know it, to seduce a girl, everything is question of timing. It is not for nothing that Mystery created a method of seduction divided in so many small stages. A girl can leave you a window of shooting (a chance), but if you do not seize it, not leaving you a second one. So, you can come before more beautiful and sexier guys if they are pussies who do not dare to stick her to a wall and to eat her lips. Because knowing and daring to act is an alpha behavior.

The stage of the kissclose does not escape this rule and is a part of the seduction. You should not wait too much at the risk of becoming a Nice guy in the eyes of the young lady whom you desire, nor rush to don’t scare her off. (n.b. : The situation is always nevertheless easier to catch up if you acted too early than if you acted too late).

It will belong to you to estimate the situation according to the personality of your target, her body language, and the environment (place, persons present, atmosphere). Sorry but I can’t be more precise than that because every interaction is unique. It’s up to you to calibrate. But never forget that a kiss close has to be the continuation of a sexual tension: do not try cold kissclose. Except if it’s just to have fun (But for that is needed a fucking pair of corones all the same thus we will speak about it another time because we make bases here). A trick which helped well me in my early stages: I gave myself a purpose: I said to myself that come what may at the end of the date I would kiss her.

You thus have to create enough comfort and attraction so that miss is ready (at least unconsciously) for a physical proximity with you. If you wish to accelerate things, bet on a good conversation and control your touches (kinos). Kinos are essential to kissclose because they allow to test the reaction of the young lady to your contact, and to create an intimacy. If she reacts well to your kinos, in theory, you will kiss close more easily.

Kiss-openers : When to kiss

The question that many men have in mind, is: how to kiss the girl during the phase of seduction. There are very numerous possibilities, to be adapted according to your personality.

*The kissclose like Beigbeder. You : « I bet you a glass of champagne that I can kiss you without touching your lips » after some negotiations, she should accept, tell her to close eyes and…. Kiss her passionately without waiting for her reaction.

* After a dinner / drink: You : « you have a lot of chocolat (café,…) on the chin ». Remove delicately the imaginary tracks with your fingers, shake them in grumbling and say: « fuck, they are not working » and go next to her to kiss her.

*You : « Listen, I saw well that you want to kiss me, but I think that it is a little bit too soon » Her : « Hein, what ?! not at all » You : « Really, well after all you are right, why waiting more ?! »

*You : « I spend a very good moment. I think that if you were a brunette/blonde (say the opposite of what she is) I would already have kissed you » Her : « ????? » You : « Yeah, unfortunately, the Brunettes/blonde women (what she is) are bad kissers » Her : « It’s not true » well, after that neg-hit, she will in theory be easier to kiss. Or then if she is not enough confident, she will be angry and you will lose everything. So pay attention on your calibration when you neg.

*The Mystery’s kissclose : You : « We are going to play a game about trust. You have to place your lips at 2 cms of mine, but, obviously do not try to kiss me ! ». Then kiss her.

Say it with a languishing body language (look at her straight in the eyes, half-smile), just what is needed to make miss wet. This game allows to invert the role and to be a little more the one who is desired (the “prize”). Make the first step, and get closer in 2cm to her. But let to the young lady the choice to finalize or not. We so learn more about miss (does she takes initiatives?)

*At the time of leaving: «We give each other a kiss on the cheek or we assume our attraction? ». « Cordial handshake or soft kiss? » (kiss opener you can try when you are really confident).

You : « So, what do you wanna do now? » Her : « IDK, and you? » (Here is a typical answer of women) You : « you’ll see » and kiss her.

They are only examples, but I think that they will give you an idea of the quantity of sentences and psychological approaches (playful, alpha, not interested,…) which can help to kiss close. There are ideas which suit to everybody !

Take the initiative to kiss her

Apparently, at the time of kissing your target, it’s up to you to make the first step. But at the crucial moment, it is easy to be invaded by the fear of the failure… In the point to be paralyzed and do nothing… What always leads to the fiasco: a woman often prefers to let you die on-the-spot fear rather than to make the first step if she is not sure that it is mutual. She will certainly be disappointed that you didn’t found the courage, but never at the point of taking the initiative herself. Why? Well, because if you are incapable to assume your desires, then you are not the kind of man she is looking for. Consequently, when comes the moment to act, take your courage in two hands and make “the first step” : She will be very grateful to you for it…

Having said that, I sometimes take initiatives with other things than my mouth (especially my hands/words) to the point that it is her who kisses me first because she cannot handle it any more. Besides, it is good because we give them some validation when we kiss them, that way we give them less, and it is still better to do it at home to be then able to sleep with her. It is not rare, especially in a club, that a girl can “content” with having been kissed by a guy and with not trying to go “more deeply” in the relation.

Pure technique

It is impossible to describe a perfect kiss, because it results more from an alchemy between both partners than from a particular technique. Do not think, and forget yourself. A very effective technique to kiss a girl consists in approaching her to kiss her… and to pause for a moment before touching her lips. Look at her in eyes with a little smile… And kiss her. This ultimate tension should break all her barriers and activate a tsunami of hormones in the panties of the young lady. Make her dream, or live kisses of cinema, etc.

Besides, at first, do not put your hands on her buttocks or other too intimate places. Walk them in the hollow of the back and on the nape of her neck, zones of the feminine body which are very sensitive while staying on the territory of the gentleman…. And do not kiss only with your mouth, also use your hands, and not always in the same way (more passionately, more slowly, nibble, lick, kiss, with or without the tongue, in the neck, etc.) Imagine your are a vampire.

Bottom line : bottom line, kissing can be perceived like “not a big deal” or like a commitment. Attention ! Btw, what does it mean for you ?

III – 5 things you should avoid when kissing a girl

First, we must know and admit that a good kiss is more dependent on the chemistry between the two partners who kiss than on a pure technique.

However, even if there is no real connection between you and the girl you kiss, which can happen from time to time, it does not matter. You can still make this moment a pleasant one.

For this, what you’ll do is you’ll lead. You will impose your way of kissing enough time to better know each other. Then the two of you will be adapt a little bit to the other.

Moreover, at first do not put your hands on her buttocks or boobs (that’s boorish). Stroll in the small of her back, her hips, her neck, take her face in your hands… These are territories that remain the domain of the gentleman but that still are very erotic and erogenous.

Do not use your hands and do not always kiss the same way. You can kiss her more or less passionately, with or without tongue, more or less tighten your grip while you kiss, nibble his lips or her ear lobe, you can lick her neck… so many ways to make your kiss a preliminary!

A good kiss, in general, it’s one lip over the other. It’s not like that (we are not in a comic):

 

Once you’ve kissed a bit like that, you can open a little bit more your mouth to see if the girl will follow you. And once the mouth is a little more open, you can try to go and play with her tongue. Do not put directly it in the back of her throat, you will see gradually if she follows. It is useless to turn your tongue during 107 years, it is better to give several short kisses.

Top 5 of things you should avoid when you kiss :
– The knock of teeth in a hurry (that’s often front teeth that hit);
– The soup of tongue (oral rape) : washing machine 1200 rpm (not including spin) + drooling;
– Blowing while you are kissing (true story);
– Eating her lower lip like a wild sometimes up to leave scars there (they are people who love but that well);
– The kiss of the two who keep their eyes open and who look at each other in the eyes with the eyes of a Tarsier.

 

You must know that spanking has a literary dimension: it is found in literature for men and women throughout the ages. From the Confessions of Jean-Jacques Rousseau to Fifty Shades of Gray…

You should also know that, like the dirty talk, many women love spanking. It is not because they want to protect their image and be thought of as whores that we must lie to ourselves: a good spanking, it spices up the sex.

Moreover, even if a spanking establishes a kind of relationship of dominance between the man and the woman, it is not a hardcore BDSM practice.

How to successfully spank a women?

First of all, during sex, do not ask a woman for permission to spank her. If you want to talk about this topic with her, for example in order to ask her for permission, do not do it in the middle of the action at the risk of breaking the atmosphere (I think it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission). Do as if it was something normal, natural… we are not there to make her feel that she is a deviant or none of all that.

Also demonstrate adaptability: feel the ground, put your hand on her buttocks, give a little pat during the action… and, if she reacts well, increase in intensity. If you go very strong from the start, your partner is likely to get scared, feel humiliated and it can cut everything off.

If your girl seems closed to the idea of ​​being punished by your powerful hand, if she says “no”, it is no. We must respect women and the sexuality of each one.

Then, from the moment you start, assume your pat on her rump completely. A good spanking stimulates the blood, it’s bestial and it shows that you know how to let go. Aim for the fleshy part of the buttocks… and do not tap on the bone, otherwise you risk hurting yourself.

By the way, remember that you are not spanking your kid: it must remain something exciting and not incestuous. A good spanking can transmit an enormous amount of sexual energy.

If you tap with the fingertips, you will whip it. It’s going to hurt her. The best thing for a woman is to go with the palm of your hand. You can then release your grip or grasp the buttock in full hand. It’s something very animal (and yet animals do not do it in nature so it also differentiates us from them).

Finally, know that you can spank your woman in other positions than doggy style (for example when she is on you), but that this remains my preferred position because a doggy without spanking is like a rap without a dirty word.