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The notion of Comfort Zone

The notion of Comfort ZoneA. The Comfort Zone…

…is a key concept when practicing the game.

CZ is reflected by the usual behaviors that a person uses to be maintained in a not or few stressful state (but not really stimulating state). We remain in what we know and what do not stress us, which reassures us …

It’s a kind of comfortable prison and it leads the person to build walls at multiple levels, which gives him or her a sensation of security… most of the time not real.

In this area, the person has set limits, stood guides and rules, established beliefs… to maintain a certain degree of comfort, he or she looks for routine and known situations that minimize risk taking.

Except that this comfort is far from optimal. But either he or she faces the resistance to change. Humans do not like that one shakes his habits or his way of seeing life.

People prisoners in their comfort zone do not dare to confront the new, the unknown and what seems to them uncertain or difficult to control.

They prefer staying home alone, even if it is annoying rather than going on an adventure. The problem is that the one who never finds the courage to leave his comfort zone may regret and miss many cool things, and they progresses more slowly than someone more daring (this concept applies in personal, love, working life, etc.)

Examples:
– This is you when you do not approach a girl.
– It is you again when you do not dare sexualization.
– It is she when she does not come over at your place while she wants to, she is turned on.
– Etc.

It can go very far, the comfort zone. When I had my anxiety attacks, leaving my house scared me. Playing sports as well. My comfort zone had become tiny: with myself in my room.

Fortunately, the game taught me to always seek to go further, to me always climb a step higher. It helped me to survive this.

That’s why I laugh when chicks fucking freak out and invent crappy excuses or insult me to ruin everything. The stress can make people incoherent. I think that these people did not understand life. Never lived anything. Always had it easy…

You should not always see evil everywhere, either we do nothing. So if there are more chances of making a cool experience than being pissed off when we have nothing better to do than watching TV, I suggest you to keep in mind the following quote:

“Life begins out of your comfort zone.”

You will never do anything extraordinary if you always stay in your comfort zone. There are those who are capable of (5% of the population) and the others. It often has a big connection with creativity, self-confidence, optimism…

“It is better to live with remorse than regrets.” Act, and you will see (but don’t do stupid things) ! Your CZ will become bigger.

 

B. Related Concepts:

Social pressure is the influence of a group whose result is to impose the dominant standards of attitude and behavior. This influence leads to behavioral changes, attitudes, beliefs, opinions or feelings of individuals. Thinking for yourself helps combat conformism and submission to authority.

Example: It is she when she does not sleep on the first date while her pants are wet and she does not plan to be in a serious relationship with you.

Avoidance strategies: This behavior is a defense to not be faced with a feared or anxiety-provoking situation. So if various strategies are not or no longer enough to maintain a sufficient self-esteem, the individual may have to resort to an avoidance strategy. We find among them the strategy of lack, leakage, aggression and many others…

Example: This is where from come the false excuses (female or male).

The term right-thinking is a term criticizing a conformist or moralistic point of view, who agrees without further reflection to the alleged values ​​of the established order. A do-gooder is someone whose ideas are conformist, traditional.

Example: it is those who insult me ​​because I am a womanizer while they would be happy to do the same in fact (conscious or unconscious frustration).

Political correctness refers primarily to denounce the attitude conveyed by politicians and the media, which is to soften excessively or change formulations that could hit a categorical public, particularly in terms of ethnic groups, cultures, religions, of equality, of disabilities, social class or sexual orientation.

Example: it is those who are shocked because I dare to write “doggy style” even if they like my ideas in fact.

“For getting girls like you’ve never got, you will have to do things you’ve never done before” … which also will take you to think differently.

Do not tell me that the quotes are Dolteau’s like an idiot said the other day PLZ… because translating English quotes (often consensual) to put them on photos of hot chicks to get likes on Facebook don’t make of someone a great author, a god nor a genius. The lack of culture of some people shocks me some day.

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The link between Comfort & Sexualization

The link between Comfort & SexualizationI have a reputation as aggressive player that follows me like a dog would follow a girl to sniff her ass. It means that I am one of those who sexualize the most… the and faster. Let’s say my overall message is that I recommend trying to be “offensive” with chicks to quickly realize if there is a way to fuck or not. I do not like when an interaction lasts too long.. and I never fall in the friendzone. I also have an easy “next”.

The basis of my technique is fast sexualization like in fast seduction method, the % of success is enhanced by personal development. Then when we fuck the girls, sex skills are used to give her a so great fuck that she wants to see us again and she becomes addicted to you or you simply achieve FuckCloses after fuckcloses.

It works well on some chicks, to go straight to the point. But sexualization works better with the girls when there is some comfort built before… rather than on an unknown caught on the fly and cold-sexualized. For example, when I’m with my friends, and a friend of friend I do not know is there : I first talk normally, and without transition, I send a big teasing (with a smile). If she responds with a smile in return, and says something like, “You’re an asshole” while giving me a punch on the shoulder, I continue my ride. I’ve already fucked chicks without much comfort (like in this FR) but it was not the best fuck of my life (not theirs I guess).

I like to do like if I was tactless. But in fact, I use this technique to test the waters. I try something and I observe the reactions. If good reaction, I sexualize, and in case of bad reaction, I next. And most of the time I have a good time… with the girl or at her expense. If my sexualization takes, I spend a speed (and then she will play with my shifter). This way, I do not even take “rakes” in the strict sense.

When the girl is shocked or outraged or whatever, that’s when it goes bad. In this case: either it comes from my teasing, that was a little too strong or bad taste, or it’s the girl who has a problem in her mind (lack of confidence, hyper-susceptibility, tight-ass morals , etc.)

If my teasing was poorly chosen, I would say her reaction is understandable. Need to go in her shoes a little. If a girl I do not know in a party tells me “fuck, you are very ugly you,” I do not think it would make me very hard nor that it would make me want to know her better nor to play with her. So be careful with the “negs”. I prefer light jokes and double meanings.

Teasing a girl, it works well in general (but they are people that have no humor). No matter who you are dealing with, if you want to conclude, you need that interaction remains “healthy” … it must be done like in a tennis match where everyone returns the ball in a cool atmosphere. This dynamic even if it is based on teasing and provocation is often conducive to a doggystyle in the toilet. But, being “too aggressive” and “shocking a girl,” if it is in a wrong way… it just make you being a stupid jerk. The limit is to wonder : if we behaved in the same way with a guy, would he punch us in the face?

Ideas that Work:
– Play a little “the alpha man” and see if she follows your frame ;
– Ignoring her a bit at times, showing a little less interest in her, to drive her crazy. A guy who ignores a girl, it can have a big impact. If she comes back to us, make out with her.
– Blowing hot and cold, it can work well. But she must be a minimum interested at first. Otherwise we would just be a weird guy who asks questions and who ignores her.

WARNING ! If a girl is afraid of us, it means that we have sent her a strange image (weirdo). Some girls are nervous when they are attracted, but that’s absolutely not an absolute truth. I do not like these generalizations! Some girls, especially when they are not in high school anymore and assume, stop being nervous virgins when they are attracted to a guy (just like you no longer jump around when you talk to a girl that you like. Well, I hope for you).

The ambiguity, confrontation, innuendo, hints, the game and all that, it is fun… it often amuses girls. But honesty, rationality, it does not necessarily bother them. A girl who is bored: this is the worst thing that can happen, of course, but that’s not why you should not be honest and sincere. Do not adopt binary reasoning! Not everything is black or white in life, it is usually a matter of shades of gray (almost 50).

Human relationships are too complex so it can be said that rationality and honesty create boredom. They are far too complex so one can say anything, anyway. Yes, a punchline attracts attention. Yes, it’s better to be ambiguous and to play… but in order to create a deeper connection we will probably have to go through a spiritual an opening spiritual/personal/psychological phase. In short, talking a little about our lives, our passions, what makes us up in the morning. And it’s nothing necessarily boring. It is also part of the game.

A tactical approach (a strategy as another but which illustrates what we just talked about):

1) To don’t be thought of as a pervert because of sexualisation, it is important to first show that we are socially accepted. When you approach her in a private party for example, may it be with a punchline or not, it’s good to talk about your friends in common so she is reassured.

2) Then you can tickle her on her lipstick, if we feel that the current flows smoothly: “This is the lipstick you put when you want to make out with a guy right?” If she laughs, it’s good.

3) After, we create comfort: We can laugh with complicity of a too drunk guy who dances like an epileptic earthworm. The discussion goes on drunk people, then on the parties. She talks about a party in Amsterdam where she saw a guy throw on himself before slipping on his own vomit. “Ah, you went to Amsterdam?
– Yes I lived there a year blah …
– I also love traveling blah (connection).”

4) Next, we isolate her and we can tease her again “I serve you another drink?
– Yes.
– Shit, your lipstick smeared on the glass. It’s disgusting ! We’ll just get another one in the kitchen!”

5) We continue to tease a little from time to time like that to spark the flame or taking another slap on our shoulder. Girls often tap my shoulder by calling me an asshole. That’s cool, I guess. Must say that I love to make a mess (on facebook or in bars) and then to make out chicks that are “fun.” Well, and once they have passed all these tests, we can try to kiss her with a low risk of failure.

The moral is that you can piss her off a bit for fun but you can also share sincere and profound things. This is perfectly compatible (it’s not boring at all on the contrary, but it’s your job to tell your story in an interesting way and to talk about interesting things) but it is especially DESIRABLE.

There is a theory that says we should not play it dirty like that because the more a girl perceives us as superior to her value, the more we can fuck without any game.

I partly agree with that. This is even why we invented DHV (demonstrations of high value), storytelling, etc. But I’m not a fan of these techniques, I prefer the natural game, empathetic and sincere.

As I often say, Ian Somerhalder probably does not need to make much effort to fuck. But, I’m not sure that being Ian Somerhalder but NEVER making jokes or any effort would allow us to keep a great girl for long. I would add one final subject: what the field has taught me is that if one is too far above or below the value of the girl, it will be difficult to conclude.

Indeed, once again, put ourselves in the shoes of the other to think : if we see a celebrity like Melanie Laurent, we would be stressed because her value would be much greater than ours. It does not put us very comfortable, and, as we all know: being comfortable is the basis of seduction. This suggests that the same goes for the ladies. A too high value would not necessarily make her wet outside the cinema. How would they react in front of the actor on whom they fantasize? They probably would get cold feet.

The ideal value is therefore a little above her value. At least, I speak about your perceived value, your projected value compared to the value she gives to herlseft in her mind. The purpose of the game is still to bang chicks better than us. To realize capital gains. Anyway, this is my vision of the thing. Always playing higher league. If you are already super handsome, super rich, super everything, sorry but you have no merit to fuck models. It is my vision of the thing too. The game is done so that no exceptional guys bang in exceptional circumstances great girls!

After it is sure that, Melanie Laurent, I would go without hesitation. But it’s because I worked on myself to have more nerves !!!

A + playboys!

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Beware of seducer’s clichés!

Image : Johnny Bravo

What is the image that one has of the “seducer” (in the collective unconscious)?

In a few words :
– A guy who is over-confident.
– A guy who has super classy look, or at least a studied one.
– A mysterious guy…
– A guy a little haughty, macho, sometimes a jerk or conversely a very polite guy.
– A guy who brags or conversely a very modest dude.
– Etc.

First of all, I would say that being comfortable in the company of women, being well in our sneakers, this is not necessarily a seducer’s cliché. It’s just that being relax tends to put others at ease. So we have more success : in discomfort, it is difficult to seduce.

The real problem is when these qualities are simulated or overplayed. In this case, it is reasonable to assume that they are not authentic. Playing a seducer’s caricature, that’s what is ridiculous! It’s a bit pathetic, in fact. For example, despite all the beautiful girls I’ve slept with, I am not “over-confident.” Most of the time, even the super-hot chicks are not hyper-confident, by the way. It’s like that. On the other hand, with the Game, I accepted my weaknesses (and my qualities) and I’m pretty good about myself. For example, at a time after I was assaulted I had anxiety attacks and I had trouble getting out of my house. Going back on the NPU field is a victory for me!

Remember: A man or woman who accentuates to excess certain qualities (or weaknesses too), definitely try to mask his or her vulnerabilities, sufferings and doubts. We all have some, but those who usually hide have much more than those who show and assume them.

Personally, I’m pretty lambda and it suits me very well. Because we have absolutely no need to play the womanizer to seduce women. My advice: do not fall into the cliché! Just be more serene with the girls and dare more than the average of other guys.

I feel like I’ll break a lot of myths but, for example, when I see a guy who plays the mysterious guy, I say that there is probably not much behind it (sorry but it is often the case). A guy who plays it too much H2G, I think he’s scared to conclude with chicks (inexperience, fear of women). This is not because a man is surrounded by many women that he is a big fucker, maybe he is a professional friendzoned. Besides, I’m not THAT surrounded by women, I have my circle, but often I do not become really friend or close with chicks I’ve fucked. Too bad, indeed, but well. It’s life ! Finally, it is not because a guy is very very muscled or handsome that he fucks a lot. My first padawan was at least HB9 yet he had difficulties. The physical appearance is not everything, even if it helps. This is thought the attitude that we can tell if a guy is a seducer or not. A guy who does not approach but claims that chicks fall on his cock by magic, personally, I don’t buy it. I know women too well to be fooled at this point. Or maybe it is just the case of 0.01% of the handsome guys. In any cases, it is because the physical is mixed with other qualities (power, money, social status …)

It is not written on my forehead that I fucked with a lot of women. I know guys who brag, who dress with very expensive clothes and everything, adopting a hyper assured body language but yet who have not touched girl for years (they compensate the blank). The girls I meet in bars cannot guess that, with only one finger, I would make them orgasm more than their last 10 guys together.

On the other hand, it’s written on my blog: it turns on some, it blocks some. Some are turned on but want to piss me off for the principle “I am not like the others, you will not have me so easily, I’m not like that, etc.” (between the last minute resistance and the shit-test, etc.) Sometimes I fucked them anyway (they just wanted to play), sometimes not (it scared them to fuck with me they probably think that I ‘had STDs or they were afraid that I compare them with other hotties – when I told you they do not have much confidence in them despite what some claim -? pff, couldn’t they just enjoy ?)

What makes me laugh is when I fuck a girl in NPU and then I add her on FB. She thus becomes aware of the existence of my blog and my life as a PUA. Reactions: some have never spoken to me again after because of that. They are people who like it. Even some have introduced me to their girlfriends. Yet, I’m the same. Also some invented me a life “yeah you make the apology of rape, etc.” Uh, really? Where ? There’s no more considerate, kind and respectful than me. She has not read anything the girl, but hey, she bullshits me.

In most cases, the chicks react badly when they face my blog. Why ? Because thinking for themselves, it is difficult. So just because I assume to be a little kinky, chicks associate me certain characteristics which we have spoken about above (jerk, arrogant, macho). Let’s get to the point: I’m not really an asshole, I’m rather a teasing dude. I guess I am someone simple, accessible. And I am honest unlike most guys. What often surprises the women who investigate further, it is that behind my facade of “serial-Fucker”, they discover a hyper-sensitivity. I’m not a robot, I don’t practice impersonal fucking.

Conversely, there’s the “politically correct” clichés. Often from guys who are pissing off women because enclosing them in a wise and prude image. Their idea: The Seducer is gallant, romantic, polite, elegant, refined, respectful … There are guys, let’s call them “theorists of respect” who want to give a hyper-friendly guy image of the woman and all. .. and who will criticize fuckers like me … all that for what? To fuck the chicks. In a word, they think they embody the ideal of the lover in all its perfection. An ideal that the Hexagon’s women tend to question, either. Those guys don’t fuck but don’t understand why, they’re so frustrated.

Respect, it is a matter of context. This is not at the time you take her doggy style that you respect her to excess. It’s a question of timing! In addition, they love it in general (with a spanking), so if you do not doggy style them because you respect them too much, it is in fact a lack of respect.

I prefer a woman who knows how to have fuck than a woman who is blocked and calls me a big pervert when I say a raw word. The normal chicks (not the extremist feminist nor the lesbians hating guys), it’s the same. Open your eyes ! Sorry to break one more myth. But if you want to fuck more, be less tight-ass. It was the final punchline.

Finally, keep in mind that there are several definitions of the concept of seducer. They are people who are happy with kissing chicks only (me that piss me off when there’s nothing behind), others are like by girls but don’t touch them (I prefer be liked by a minority and fuck a lot than being liked by majority but not touching much), and then there’s those like me who believe that fucking hotties (not priced) is the only truly reliable test to see if we have a good Game. There’s probably other categories of seducers.

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Nonviolent communication

It is a concept that I discovered by reading books to try to get me out of my depression, last year. It is in any case a good way to improve our interpersonal communication and understanding of others.

The idea

Nonviolent communication commits us to reconsider the way we speak and we listen to each other, fixing our attention on four elements: the observation of a situation, the feelings aroused by this situation, which needs are linked to these feelings, and finally what we could ask specifically to meet our needs. NVC raises quality of listening, respect and empathy, and created a reciprocal generosity current. Some people use NVC to better understand their own needs, other to deepen a relationship, establish effective working relationships or managing political situations. In many countries, people use it to resolve all kinds of disputes and conflicts.

It is in our nature to love giving and receiving. However, we have learned several forms of “alienating language” that lead us to express ourselves or to behave in an offensive manner with the others and ourselves. One of these forms of alienating communication is the use of moralistic judgments that imply that those whose behavior does not reflect our values ​​are wrong or are bad. Another is based on comparisons that can hamper kindness toward ourselves and towards others. The alienating communication also prevents us from being fully aware that everyone is responsible for his own thoughts, feelings and actions. Another bad feature of this type of communication is to communicate his desires as requirement.

In summary

I honestly express how I feel, without making any reproach or criticize :
1) what I observe (see, hear, remember, imagine and put no evaluation in it) that is not contributing to my well-being “when I see, hear, XXX”
2) how I feel (emotion or sensation rather than thought) compared to what I see “I feel XXX”
3) how this need affects my values ​​(rather than a preference or a specific action) that awakens my feelings “because I need / I attach importance to”
4) I clearly demand what could embellish/enrich my life without this being a requirement. The concrete actions that I would like “would you like to XXX?”

“When I see that you never suck me, I feel repulsive, because I need you to show me you love my body. Would you be willing to suck me after I licked you? “

I listen with empathy how you feel, without hearing blame or criticism :
1) what you observe (see, hear, remember, imagine without putting your feedback in it) or is not contributing to your well-being “when you see, hear XXX”
2) how you feel (emotion or sensation rather than thought) compared to what you observe “you feel XXX”
3) what you need that affects your values ​​(rather than a preference or a specific action) that arouses your feelings “because you need / you grant importance to”
4) I receive with empathy what could embellish/enrich your life without this being a requirement. Concrete actions would you like to see “would you/would you XXX?”

“If I understand when I tell you that I consider you as my best friend, you feel lousy because you need a good lover fucks you in doggy style. Would you like to come to my house tonight? “

In detail

The first component of NVC is to clearly separate observation and evaluation. When we mix observation and evaluation, our interlocutor risk to hear criticism and to resist what we are really saying. NVC is a dynamic language that discourages frozen generalizations and replaces them with circumstantial observations. We will so more willingly say: “In twenty matches I have never seen Ocampos scoring one single goal” than “Ocampos is a bad soccer player.”

The second component of NVC is to express our feelings. By developing an emotional vocabulary which allows us to clearly and accurately describe our emotions, we can more easily establish a link with others. Showing our vulnerability by expressing our feelings can help to resolve conflicts. Finally, NVC distinguishes the real feelings of words describing thoughts, judgments and interpretations.

The third component of NVC is to identify needs that our feelings stem. The actions and words of others can be triggers, but never the cause of our feelings. Faced with a negative message we can choose to respond in four ways:
– Judging us at fault
– Blaming others
– Identifying our own feelings and needs
– Identifying the feelings and needs that lie behind the negative message from the other

The judgments, criticisms, diagnoses and interpretations on the other are expressions diverted from our own needs and values. When the other heard a criticism, it tends to put all his energy to defend against or attack. Better we can combine our feelings to our needs, the other can better respond with empathy.

In a world where we are often judged harshly when we identify and reveal our need, this can be scary.

By learning to take responsibility for our feelings, we usually go through three phases:
– Emotional slavery where we believe responsible for the feelings of others;
– The execrable phase where we refuse to admit the feelings and needs of others matter to us;
– Emotional release where we hold ourselves our own feelings but not those of others, knowing that we can never satisfy our own needs at the expense of the other.

The fourth component of NVC draws our attention to what enriches our lives and the one of others, and invites us to mutually formulate clear demands. We try to avoid imprecise, ambiguous or abstract formulations and use positive action language by stating that we ask rather than what we do not ask.

The more precisely we express what we want, the more likely we are to get it. From the fact the message we send do not always coincide with what is received, we can learn about ways to know if our message has been correctly understood. When we speak to a group, let’s be particularly attentive to specify the precise nature of the reaction we want. Otherwise, we may initiate unproductive conversations, that make the group waste lots of time.

Requests are seen as requirements where the recipient is convinced he will be criticized or punished if he does not obey. We can help our partners to believe that indeed we express a request and not a requirement, we would appreciate that they access our desires if they are really willing to. The point of NVC is not to change others and their behaviors in order to get what we want. You cannot make someone do what he does not want in fact. That’s to establish relations based on sincerity and empathy which, ultimately, will satisfy the needs of everyone.

Empathy is an imprint understanding of respect for what others live. Instead of offering empathy, we often tend to give advice, to comfort, to give our opinion or expose our feelings. Empathy does require us to do the emptiness in our mind and that we totally listen to each other.

In NVC, whatever the words chosen by the other to express themselves are, we simply listen to his observations, feelings, needs and what he asks. We can choose to paraphrase his words, to show that we understood. Maintaining empathy leaves him a chance to fully express before our attention to find solutions or his comfort request.

We need to be ourselves “full” of empathy to be able to give to others. When we are on the defensive or unable to empathize, we need:
– Either to stop breathing and doing emergency return on ourselves;
– Or howling in CNV that is to say, to express forcefully what happens in us, by applying the principles of NVC;
– Or even to withdraw to give us time to think.

Developing our ability to be empathetic keeps us honest, vulnerable, defuse the risk of violence, a refusal to hear without seeing a rejection, revive a conversation, and even to hear the feelings and needs of a silence. We often manage to overcome the paralyzing effects of psychological pain when maintained a fairly strong connection with someone who can get along with empathy.

It is perhaps in the way we treat ourselves that NVC plays its most important role. When we make mistakes, we can use the grieving process of NVC (ie to satisfy what need we have done this or that mistake) or forgiveness to learn to grow up, instead of imprisoning us in moralistic judgments on ourselves . If we evaluate our behavior in terms of our unmet needs, this is not the shame, guilt, anger or depression that lead us to change, but the genuine desire to contribute to our well-being and the others.

We also cultivate compassion toward ourselves by making the conscious choice every day of our lives, to act solely in the service of our own needs and values ​​rather than duty, for an extrinsic reward or to escape the shame, guilt and punishment. In reviewing all the things we undertake to do without any joy and by changing the words “I need” into “I choose to” : we find more game and integrity in our lives. In seduction, we MUST not do anything. You can make the best game of your life and it’s not going to work. Or the worse, and it will work. The trick is to maximize your chances. So coaches that make you feel guilty by saying that you MUST DO THAT and otherwise it will not work, well, they piss me off.

Criticizing and punishing others are all superficial expressions of anger. If we want to fully express the anger, the first step is to discharge the other from liability, in order to bring our full attention to our own feelings and needs. We have more chances to get what we want expressing our needs than in judging, criticizing or punishing the other.

The expression of anger is done thought four stages:
1 – pause and deeply breathe;
2 – identify the judgments that come to mind;
3 – be aware of our needs;
4 – express our feelings and unmet needs.

Maybe that, between steps 2 and 3, we will choose to show empathy to the other to allow to better listening to us when we express our demand 4. But we are never really angry because of the act of another one, since the feelings are in ourselves. We can be angry only if one is predisposed to it, if it is the straw that broke the camel. Often one is angry against each other because one is mad at himself for something.

It is necessary to take time to learn the process of NVC, and also to apply it.

In situations that leave no room for communication – in case of imminent threat for example – we can sometimes be persuaded to use force in a protective purpose. The intention is then to avoid injury or injustice, never to bring individuals to suffer, to repent or to change. The repressive use of force tends to generate hostility and build resistance to the behavior that one seeks to generate. The punishment begins the accuracy of reporting and self-esteem, and focuses our attention on the consequences of the act by forgetting the original intention. Blame and punishment do not elicit the motivations that we would like to inspire the other.

NVC fosters a new relationship to ourselves by helping us to translate our negative thoughts into feelings and needs on which one can act. Our ability to identify our own feelings and needs, and to consider them with empathy can free ourselves from depression. We have then to realize that, in any circumstances, we always have a choice. As we learn to focus on what is close to our heart rather than our failures or those of others, NVC gives us the means and clarity necessary to maintain a calmer state of mind. Finally, professional psychological counseling or psychotherapy may also use NVC to establish a genuine and reciprocal relationship with their patients.

The usual compliments often take the form of judgments, as favorable as they are, and are sometimes spoken to influence the behavior of others. NVC invites us to share what we appreciate, just for fun. We state:
– 1) the action that has contributed to our well-being;
– 2) the particular need we felt and that was satisfied;
– 3) the feeling of contentment born of the satisfaction.

“When you took the time to suck me until the end and you’ve swallowed my cum, I felt fully satisfied because I needed to feel totally desirable, so I flat in a nirvana like Kurt Cobain . “

When we receive a thank this way, we can accommodate without experiencing feelings of superiority and without false modesty, we rejoice with the person offering her gratitude.

For going further

To learn more about this concept, I advise you: Words are windows (or they are the walls) and Healing: stress, anxiety and depression without drugs or psychoanalysis.

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The very essence of pick-up

The very essence of pick-upThe pickup science is too depended on “Human” : we cannot write absolute truths. Indeed, no attitude works everywhere, all the time.

Snipe explains why it’s normal and why that’s a good thing in our podcast.

However, one cannot infer that this discipline is totally submitted to the subjectivity of every one: it is not only a matter of context. Indeed, there are attitudes that are statistically more attractive than others. In other words: there are characteristics that allow to have sex more than others… maybe not a particular girl and certainly, but on average, we can significantly improve our social, love and sex life through the game. And that is an observable fact that one can quantify.

Plastic

If I was Ben Affleck, I would not need to act funny or charming for licking a pussy. Chicks would throw on my cock as soon as they would see me on the other side of the street. Not all chicks of course, but a lot of girls though. I would so be responsible for many road accidents. I prefer to be responsible for underwear accidents.

This is not because Ben Affleck is cute that I say what I said, but mostly because he is famous and recognized as a fuckable guy (preselection).

I’m not to the taste of all the chicks (like everyone else). Some I met thought I was ugly and did not want to fuck me. Others found me ugly too but I have doggystyled them anyway. The difference between those that I have fucked and those I have not fucked? I don’t know. Charisma or attitude has probably attracted those with whom I had sex. That said, they are women who found me handsome but I did not sleep with them either.

There’s just too many parameters to consider, and some depend on the girl herself : like, if she is afraid because she never goes out of her comfort zone, if she has no experience in bed and freaks if she knows you’re a womanizer or if she is afraid of the comparison with the other girls with whom you’re sleeping. In this case, there will be conflict between her, herself ans she and except reassuring her, you can do nothing about that. Even trying to convince her is not always enough, sometimes it will definitively block her.

The physical appearance is not essential but it helps, let’s not be hypocrites. Your clothing style has to be taken care of. It’s always easier when you’re a little bit elegant. Although I’m often too lazy to change clothes before going and I fuck anyway… do not take me as a model in this domain!

Work and Culture

With a good job and a future, that’s even better. About culture, if we do not include the stupid bitches of northern Marseille it is better to write without spelling mistakes (for picking up on the Internet or by texts) and to have a little (of culture, huh). But no need to spread it like jam.

The power also helps. The more influence you have, the more you’ll have facilities to have hot babes in your bed. I’m sure Norman fucks a lot thanks to his popularity on YouTube, even if it is obvious that he’s a fucking AFC and that without it he would still be virgin. Each one has his technique; the important is that it works!

Be soft, gentle

A silent look is worth a thousand nervous speech. This is the concept of not breaking the sexual tension developed in this book. To learn how to avoid nervous movements and the importance of being or seeming at ease, I recommend rather this ebook.

The girls (and the guys) do not like being pissed off. Me, in any case, I like what is out of the ordinary, fresh, what distracts me for a moment of everyday chores. For example, a threesome !!!

Being soft, it is an attitude that leads to success. Straight to the goal, like the OM team. Do not overdo, do not do too much shit (do not talk too much, do not be too brittle, derogatory, invasive, attentive). People take enough headaches like that, sometimes (often) where there’s no place … so, let’s be cool, and do not voluntarily surround you with sources of problems (even if they are hot).

To seduce, let’s not play it weird, do not brag, unless it is some second degree humor (in this case she much understand it it’s not beforehand won). Rather rely on listening, empathy, daring, teasing and active listening.

Do not prohibit clichés: the evidence often leads to originality. In improvisation, it is recommended to go from a trite trick and to embroider. Wanting to be 100% original from the beginning to the end of the interaction is taking the risk of finding nothing to say but also the risk of looking like a weirdo. Before breaking a social convention, it is necessary to master it first.

Show her some interest

I know a few authors recommend to never show your interest first. But ignoring a girl all night because we are a pseudo-H2G-alpha-male which who does not approach and does not try his luck unless he is 100% sure… is a bad idea.

Do not hunt down like a dog guy, but show a little genuine interest in her and her life. Adapt to her, calibrate (we cannot make dance a paralytic girl) and use kinos.

Make her compliments, when it is sincere.

Talking about sex

Sexualization is double-edged. It must be done, but in a good way! Not being thought of as a pervert is an art, passing her shit-tests (she wants to see if you are not an evil man or a sex-starved) is sometimes difficult. Do not be too vulgar, disrespectful, do not get upset even if it’s the hundredth time you hear the same shit-test “does it work, that line, it with the girls usually?”.

It is a question of social intelligence. There’s times and places to talk about sex… even if I like to do shit and it’s funny, again, do not take me as a model! But yeah, when it’s done right, she dips her panties. She may not admit, she may not fuck with you, but there’s a chance that it makes her feel something anyway.

There’s also a fairly common mistake which is to ask for sex directly. Certainly you would lick her pussy like a God and she would enjoy like crazy but she will surely say no anyway. I noticed that it works rather better when I invite them for a massage, for a glass of wine or for watching a movie (although we both know what will happen because we have talked a lot about sex before and she has been receptive).

In short, there are chicks who love fuck and to talk about sex like guys with guys, others pretend to be shocked and then go talking about sex with their girl-friends. I think if the girl is normally constituted, it stimulates her a minimum to talk about doggy and spanking.

Respect yourself

Do not tolerate more than one flake (who has flaked will flake). Do not tolerate being the spare wheel of a girl. Do not ever try chicks that have already rejected you. This attitude amounts to stir the air. When I have no plan, I appreciate the tranquility. You must be full of illusions to believe that if she said “no” 9 times she will say “yes” at the 10th.

That was for the girls in your contact list. Now, when a girl rejects you please learn how to difference a real rejection and a simple resistance. And in consequence, go on or give up.

Being healthy-minded

You know I have been depressed so I know this: being well in my mind, it’s super important. If you do not feel well in your life, you will not be good with girls. When things are not going well, we pick up less chicks. When things go really well, it works almost by itself. There are days with and days without.

The girls too, there’s times when they are more or less receptive. Take the same situation, the same actors: the result can vary a lot from one week to the next. You cannot influence too much the availability of the other (emotional or physical). All chicks that you come across in the street don’t want to be picked up. But let’s do our part, let’s try and remain available. That’s all we can do.

Conclusion

A smile, a punchline, a nice shirt, not giving importance to fails because it was understood that 95% of chicks (people too) are idiots and having a local … that’s enough in itself.

Otherwise… one becomes what one is. You learn to express yourself without being too afraid of what other people thing, you dare more, you assume more, etc. In other words, you come out of the mold. Not everyone wants to become a womanizer and I respect that. But it is still necessary to have the choice and the opportunity to be a womanizer before saying that you do not want to be it. Otherwise, it’s called bad faith.

Well, there would be a lot of other things to say, but the point here was to publish a summary of what works. When in doubt, keep it simple.

I wish you a good contribution to female pleasure!

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Why and how to relearn manhood?

It’s not Man and Woman, but women and men. No generalities but only special cases. There’s feminine in the man and masculine in the woman. Men and women are not identical, undifferentiated or interchangeable but complementary.

To male behavior-oriented competition, intense pleasures, respect for traditional roles, rationality, women oppose emotion, sensitivity, caring in society, quality of life, the desire to give a meaning to her life. Feminist totalitarianism versus male tyranny. Is there a possible compromise… a win-win scenario…?

Relations between men and women are the central subject of literature and history of ideas since the dawn of humanity.

 

Why relearning manhood?

– The single worldview hurts many people, but they do not admit it (to themselves). Lambda guys have an attitude submitted to the whims of women who do not do anything because they do not dare.

– The Church did not try to change men, but handle their appetites. To put it away from view to pretend they did not exist. Modernity believes eminently superior. It does not demonize sex. It assumes it very well. It is released. It even no more requires marriage. It respects individual freedom, human rights, etc. This is why it less tolerates delinquency, evil, sex without love, tariffed sex, horror, sex for sex, sex drive repeatedly without specific purpose, without feeling, no past, no future. I think the release in surface serves to compensate, to offset the fact that the guys have no balls anymore and that girls no longer wet for manly guys. The fantasies of most people, which brain was well washed, are now satiated on the big screen, not in the bedroom. And besides, it’s good for trade.

– One source of the problem is those who decide the fashion trends: they lead humanity to consenting bodies of women without breasts or buttocks, without roundness or softness, to body of men, long and dry. In other words, fashion designers (mostly gay) transform women into men, and force men to love women who look like men. Do you see what I mean?

– Men have, on statistical average, lost masculine energy. While women adopt more and more manly behaviors. Unfortunately this is the reality of the field: men send more feminine energy, women more masculine energy. And often, when a guy takes his balls, he is looked like a UFO. Guys are becoming more feminine, they adopt feminine behavior: they One Itis too quickly, want love at any cost, do not want one night stands, etc.

– By feminizing, men are sterilized, they prohibit all boldness, every innovation, every transgression. Fortunately, my blog is there to train a generation of alpha males who act as if they were masculinity islets in a feminized world. They are called macho, they do not care.

– Women are caught between the “doctrine” that told them to frustrate themselves and their envy, their instincts, which lead them to taste a real hard cock. Will they see for themselves where their interest is?

– Powerful women push away men from them. If we refuse to see the troubled relationship between money, power and phallus, we voluntarily wear blinders. Everything happens indeed as if women were investing the scene that power and money deserted, as if the unconscious link between phallus, money and power remained steadfast, despite rehabilitation campaigns we regularly experience in the media. Power is no longer where it was. It is now in finance and in the upper echelons of the industry. Where there are no women. The power is evil, death, phallus, man. Nobody in the young generation of our country wants to take on this burden. Because power is the capacity to kill the opponent at the ultimate moment. It is, ultimately, the death instinct. This is why power is the biggest taboo of our times.

– There is a discrepancy between the acts and words of men: their bodies, their instincts, their cells still speak, the old man is still there without the brain of the new man who tries to put words, a sense to that he did. And women are gobbling anxiolytics. And men are rushing to sexologists to talk about their impotence problem. Men do not understand what happens to them. Women either. They do not realize that their obsession with “respect” send them back to the Puritan starting point from which they come. The sacrosanct respect works like a machine that destroys the desire of men. Faced with this feminizing pressure, undifferentiated and egalitarian, the man lost his bearings. The lambda man is too afraid to dare to tell the woman how much he desires her… and in every position! Symptomatic: Porn takes the opposite of the society and is sinking in a raging violence. The men take revenge of a reality where they feel more and more dominated.

– They blithely cover their impulses, their male desires with a sentimental speech worthy of women’s magazines. They don’t want to feel guilty : they do not fuck, they love. They cannot control anything, it is love that carries them on its winged horse. They often are not even aware of their duplicity, as they are alienated by the predominant rhetoric (= social pressure).

– The society is facing a major contradiction: advocating an exclusive individual freedom, it promotes divorce in self-service. But to manage the devastating effects of this massified divorce, it accumulates constraints to frame the excesses of male sexuality. MALE only.

– This creates demographic problems: for thirty years, we are happy of the perfect control, between contraception and abortion, of fertility by women. We never realized that the end of this story is sad, it is precisely combined with the end of the story, with the phasing out of European peoples.

– In practice, it involves the settlement immigration: they fuck our women. They come from a world where men are not feminized, they behave according to their instincts, but where their impulses are contained by a rigid frame, family and religion. Now they live in a country where the rigid frame exploded. They are conquerors in an open city. And women love that. It is sexy !

– The feminization of men causes immense distress, unbearable frustration for them, intolerable misery for children. How to respect men who cannot even fuck their wives?

 

How to relearn manhood?

– “Casanova rather than the Princess of Cleves“. The alpha male wants to breed with as many females as possible. And he is not ashamed!

– Tolerance has its limits because it means losing the respect. So I do not tolerate any behavior, and a lot of chicks like when we show them the limits. We are no longer in their eyes, a “sex-starved” like the others. In the 1970s, we were called macho, but it was the girls who insulted us! So reframe the submitted effeminate guys who call you macho.

– Women’s magazines love effeminate men reconfigured by plastic, aesthetics, gay refinement. The man who pleases them is the one that looks like them. The difference, physical, social or psychological, is now equated with inequality, new mortal sin of the time. We are far away from the truly virile man (by the way : masculinity is mostly an attitude), the alpha male. That’s why a guy should never have more style than his girl. I’ve seen guys with a mono-brow or long hair on the top of the shoulders that exceed their shirt and I find it very ugly. But a beardless guy and too neat, in addition, it’s laughable.

– It is not about becoming violent, but it would be nice to have the balls and the drive to defend when one is attacked in the street.

– I describe the ridiculousness of a generation wisely coupled at 20 like one would be at 60, I lampooned boys submitted to a sentimentality of girls. People are lost in the desire to be a couple. The couple, now, is the way to go. While it is ephemeral. All the more ephemeral it is sacred. My brother, for example: we have never seen him alone since he met his fat girl on the Internet. He only moves with his girl and lately with his stepmother too. They are then cut to his family (on my side but also his cousins ​​from his mother’s side) to chain bullshit on bullshit and now they are almost be ruined. This is how the principle of coherence leads in a couple when we marry the bad woman (my brother’s wife is a first class asocial and he is has not enough balls to reframe her).

– From an early age, people are encouraged to be a couple. They cannot conceive life, desire, encounter, in another way than in a frame immediately installed. Sometimes the elements of the couple change, but regardless, these are not people that count, it is the couple. Love is the sacredness of the time. But words lie to us: the more we love, the more it is hard to make love. The more one worships, the more one feels respect, the less one fucks well. Love is associated with the mother, and therefore prohibited sex that goes with it. The old dichotomy between mother and whore, modernity rejects this horror. Let’s be aware of it!

– If love is classically considered as a guarantee of solidity, we know that there are lasting relationships even after the disappearance of the love impulse; that in couples therapy what is called attachment is far from negligible value. Besides, what is love? I think there are many people who are more in love with the idea of ​​love than with the person they say they love. And you ?

– The man must now be a predator of desire. He should no longer flirt, seduce, shoving, attract. Every seduction is assimilated to a manipulation, violence, constraint. The lambda man finally gave up on it. It is him who must heal. Who must be transformed. Who should bind desire and feeling, sex and family, drive and loyalty. But this is not a problem when practicing fast seduction for example, pickup with only “the cock and the knife.” All cards are laid on the table. And we respect the choice of the wife to go home and touch herself alone while she might have enjoyed ten times more with an alpha male. We think it’s stupid, but hey, what can we do at our level? Except giving a lot of pleasure to them that take the leap so they will want to do it again?

– The man has no right to desire, no more the right to appeal, to pickup. He must love, only love. That’s why when ordinary people see that my blog is about pickup and seduction, they demonize me and stigmatize me without trying to see beyond the tip of their nose… personal development. Do not do it !

– For years, it was decreed that women could also act like men, separate desire and love… everything happens today like if women acknowledged without saying that they had tried, they even had fun, for a moment, not long, but they could not assume. Encourage them to assume!

– A study has shown that young people today no longer know how to fuck. They make love. No wonder, then, why chicks have less and less interested in sleeping without love… as most of boys are bad lovers. I guess, most do not even know what a good fuck is! Women should thank men to fuck bitches : they are less pitiful lovers after. It’s good to try some girls before getting a couple.

– Women can finally realize their unifying, totalizing or totalitarian dreams, they want everything together: love, desire, status. Marriage and fun, children, romance. Everything. Most of the time, they have nothing. You cannot have everything, that’s not how life is. Men have now adopted this female speech. They want to love too. Formerly, it was an artificial speech that they served to women to have sex. Too many guys are actually a couple by default or convenience, just to get laid once in a while. And too many girls are a couple just because they were told that this it is what was expected from them, too.

– Sincerity: I practice and it is sometimes disarming… so much women are no longer accustomed to it.

– Formerly, to ward off their fear of women, men were playing superman; now, they mimic the woman. We can still play superman. Cyprineman !!!

– I encourage you to listen to rap music: rap singers admit and assume a joyous don-juanism without complex and sometimes violent. Our lobotomized children do not admit they would like to imitate them.

– This is the US that was born the feminized man. The castrated man. But this is also from the United States that came a vigorous masculine reaction, with these groups of men who are relearning their manhood in forests. It’s also there that was born the Game. 😉

– I want to give you the ability to say “no” or “stop”, to women and other abuse of everyday life.

– In these circumstances, it is not surprising that a PUA, an auto-proclaimed libertine, multiplies the gains with such ease: would we, the guys in the seduction community, be the last hard phallus? That should piss off some lobbies!

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I went to the Eroticism Show in Lyon

I went to the Eroticism Show in LyonLast weekend, I went to the Eroticism Show in Lyon.

I was aghast: first of all in this stuff, they make you pay the entrance. But you pay for what? They make you pay to access the stands where you can buy things (sextoys, fluorescent condoms, accessories, clothing, lingerie).

Frankly, isn’t it a big joke? Anyway, whatever, I’m not a sucker. Basically, I went there (not by curiosity as would say a girl who does not assume) but to approach libertine girls. There were actually not much to approach: only couples and men. There was all the same two or three groups of girls that I have approached but they were lesbians.

Then there were free shows : strippers dancing, playing with fire, undressing. Downside: most are smashing but not handsome. By the way, strippers are still often prettier than porn actresses anyway. That’s what I noticed.

There was a guy stripper too, who made his show, he wanted to warm the ladies: a guy, a fucking bodybuilder (too muscular for an ordinary mortal). Not beautiful, not tall, just very muscular. He pretended to undress but we never saw his cock. It’s a little bit ridiculous, I think. Does he have a small cock or what? In any case, to warm a woman through photos on Snapchat or anything: you have understood, never show your gun unless you can use it. This is how the professionals do. For the girls who want to strip, it is based on slow and anticipation. Like, before removing their string, they make a break then take it down completely!

For the modest sum of € 10, you could attend a filming of a porn movie scene. So I was pretty “curious” to see that. There was the actress Kelly Pix (apparently she is famous in the world of porn but I know no one except Jacquie and Michel). At least she has not fake boobs, that’s something!

In this show: she arrives on stage disguised as a policewoman and begins to touch roughly her pussy with her baton. Then comes a prisoner, Tony Caliano. She made him sit down and abruptly pulls out his big cock (something huge it’s really excessive) and begins to suck it greedily (he was hard yet does it take drugs?). Then he fucks her (still without hug, kiss, nothing) in several positions and she cums (not him). Frankly boring. Zero. A waste of time. A purely mechanical sex. Not what I like! It was impersonal. I have not even felt the beginning of an erection, rather a vague sense of unease.

The funniest was the leader: a real cartoon of a guy who works in porn (porn producer). A guy with no hair, short, fat, vulgar loudmouth. His punchline “ass, it is not only useful to sit down.” Lol! I was wondering if these guys really fuck the hotties from the world of the X (like in the cliché) or not.

In the alleys, I have been approached several times by girls. In fact, the concept is that fucking sex-bombs smile you. They do like sluts. And if you smile back, they approach you “do you want a lapdance?
– Fuck yeah, what’s the price?
– €60 for two dances ie 7mn, €100 for a sextoy show. ”

Damn !!! She must be very hot so it worth it. I’m talking about the sexy dancing, because the show with dildos, it’s not my cup of tea. Chicks try to make you feel guilty when you say no, “I am not to your taste, right?” Frankly, they all are not beautiful. And when you propose them to meet up outside or give to give you their number “it’s forbidden by my boss.”

I toured all the stands, sometimes it was the pimp who approached me “you seem timid
– Yes very.
– Do you want a young novice in the world of porn? a future star? for € 80 she give you a show and then because you’re young and not aggressive who knows what can happen…” Seriously! The guy hopes I’ll believe that. Like if the girl was going to shake you and suck you. He sells dreams. There’s not written pigeon on my forehead! I’m not a guy missing in lack of sex led by the end of his dick!

The guys who bought a strip then waited that the girl is done with her previous customers. I remember the usual prices of prostitutes: €30 a blowjob, € 50 sex. So, for that matter, I’d rather buy a pure hottie prostitute at the Spanish border for fun.

Finally, there was a Jacquie et Michel stand that had put an ad like what they were looking for actors/actresses. I asked how much it was paid €200 for guys and €300 for women for a scene which lasts on average between 1 and 2 hours. By cons, they take only single women or couples … how surprising . Bis repetita, I wonder if these guys do fuck the hottie we can see in the movies while they are old and ugly.

A thought for the girl of the body painting who, since she tasted the joys of striptease in Australia, continues to practice in Paris. Despite her psychology degree, she has a strong character! At least, I can say that I banged a stripper.

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Why denigrating online pickup?

Why denigrating online pickupIs online dating effective ?

I do often read crap like these:
* “Real pickup is much better (street, work, sport, college etc.) than on the Internet …”
* “If there are so many people on the applications/dating sites it’s because they do not have the motivation/balls/skills to go SPU/NPU and meet people. ”
* “This is for the guys who do not have the courage to step out of their comfort zone and confront reality.”
* “In terms of results and personal satisfaction, the OD and the NPU/SPU have nothing to do.”
* “It requires less balls, and it is less euphoric.”
* “Seduce is a SOCIAL and HUMAN skill that is learned by confronting to the REALITY of gender relationships.”
* “When you pickup online, you cannot say you know the entire seduction process, so you cannot claim you’re a real seducer.”
* “The OD brings me much disillusionment and reinforce my behavior of supporter of the least effort, the more time passes the less I am good IRL.”
* “The virtual is a waste of time.”
* “Girls are easier online”; “There’s online ugly chicks online.”
* “These companies are capitalizing on the desperation of people shamelessly, and it disgusts me. So I refuse to give them my money and my time and contribute to make them live, just a question of ethic…”
* “I would not look for a serious relationship there. But for a FC if the 2 are OK…”

SPU = street pickup
NPU = night pickup
OD = online dating
IRL = in real life
FC = fuckclose (sleeping for the first time with a chick)

There’s a little intellectually limited guys who think the chicks they are fucking thanks to online dating are not real in real life. If I meet a girl on a dating site, she also meets me on a dating site. Now, I have a full life next door so she does too. QED.

There’s guys who think the online pickup is a brake on the development of the seducer. I do not agree. Indeed, a dating site removes a lot of barriers and allows direct access to the first date (but you still have to get it). But precisely, it helps to learn to be good on the first dates. Moreover, if we fuck the chicks after, it enable you to become more confident and thus to shine more in all other types of pickup. Finally, the first date or the sex are IRL therefore we must also like each other: BL and communication aspects come into play. These are not date in which we throw each one on the other when we meet: it happened to me a few times and it was not the coolest dates of my life.

Dating sites are only a tool to put two people in touch. Just like, the nightclubs. But, a month on a dating site is often as expensive as only ONE good night in a club. We can criticize companies that capitalize on singles but we can also criticize the mafia of the night that does exactly the same thing. The trick is to don’t fall in commercial drifts like offering virtual flowers to babes for the modest sum of $ 5, pff (they don’t care about virtual gifts lol)…

We have taken a number in the street, in a bar or on a dating site : then, phone game. Then we get, if all goes well, a first date. And finally, the rest happens IRL. Period. We also confronts the reality if we pickup on the internet, keep it in mind.

Why online dating would require less effort? To make a profile, etc. Granted: it’s easier to click on a mouse than finding HB in a particular place and a particular time. However, isn’t it a return on time and effort? And is it not therefore a form of intelligence? “Pragmatism”.

I also grant you that there are many girls (and guys) who are very unattractive, on dating sites, but neither more nor less than IRL. For those who are just looking for a sexfriend, and found a partner on the same wave length: this is perfect and the net can sometimes allow to be frank where there might be some misunderstandings IRL and therefore a heart broken in the end. For those looking for something else, a girl to carry their child, people with conversation, there is also stuff in stock. I have not only met chicks for a one night stand online.

The danger of online, it is losing touch with reality. Congratulations to those who draw their game with the online pickup but I give a yellow card to those who do only it by default. My opinion is you should include it to your whole game: we will always need a sms/chat game, but we must not forget reality because it inevitably comes back… and a few rakes in a bar allow to keep your feet on the ground. It must be used in addition to the real pickup! But “real” = ? the only not real pickup it’s the fake FC, right ?

But it is no different from SPU, or NPU, in the sense that if a player practices only it, he has not a complete game. It is not miraculous either, the OD, if you just come up and say “do you want to fuck?” You will not go far.

Picking up on the Internet, it is neither an act of cowardice or weakness, or even ease. This is the opinion of those who are not in and observe from afar those for who it works. The girls are not easier, but some of assume more online than in front of a stranger in the street. Why a solution nof ease? Because it generally works better than SPU? This is common sense, especially seen the climate with the attacks, terrorists and everything. Why weakness, because the legend says that girls are fat, ugly, full of problems? Stereotype, idea received, a red card.

Then, never believe the legends (my blog can be confusing): the net does not allow to get laid as soon as a girl visit our profile. There’s not on one side chicks of the bars/clubs and on the other side chicks who are registered on a dating site.

Seriously, can’t I smell a slight whiff of jealousy ? Those who succeed online and fuck a lot are just efficient. At one time, I read “yeah but in the night it’s easy it is cheating, the SPU is the only real thing.” This was already the exact same problem. These people do not assume so denigrate. It’s always a little bit a shame to be on a dating site, but a PUA must be better than that and assume.

Let’s keep in mind that the point of the pickup is still to meet and fuck beautiful women. Not to stir the air for the sake of art. However, the time invested for dates got from the OD cannot be carried over the SPU/NPU and if in addition we fuck the chicks: envy when we go out on the field has inevitably diminished.

There’s also people for whom it is a matter of common sense to practice on the Internet:
– Those who have a job and no time (or a good schedule) to do SPU nor too much NPU except on Saturday night;
– They can pickup at the same time they do something else on the computer or on their phone;
– They like to write, it is their strong point;
– To screw the married women;
– If they are suffering from school phobia or agoraphobia (this was my case);
– Etc.

There’s plenty of chicks that will connect online because do not like bars/clubs (do not drink alcohol/do not use drugs) are practicing chicks sports, studies where there are only girls and gays, have a taking work. So, remains the street and the internet to fuck them… what is the probability to cross them in the street? Low. But are they worse than women met IRL ? No. Clearly not.

Furthermore, I see no reason why the percentage of fuckable chicks would be higher in the street or the subway than on the Internet? I observed around me the other day and my conclusion is: there’s not much fuckable woman if you take away the old, ugly, fat, chicks in a relationship and faithful, etc. I like to venture outside the circle (which I always find too small) but between fucking a 6 met in the subway and a 9 met on the Internet, the choice is quickly made!

Communicating by networks, virtual message and conveying emotions, communicating in writing, it is a part of the social dynamics that is playing an increasingly important role in today’s society. It would be stupid to don’t use it. It’s easier to develop an idea by writing than to repeat it all the time if you want to use it in a big scale. Additional argument: all times, humanity has written kinky letters. Although this written communication is different from the rest of the game and still a minority, do not denigrate it because it basically communicates the same messages than the other Game schools. Rather denigrate those who took refuge in a particular segment of these dynamics but who claim to know everything (which is right of course for the online, but also for the NPU and SPU).

I know here in Lyon people who practice only SPU (you do not know why they do not even come to NPU). They have no job and do that all day. The guy I know has done it since September and has just got 1FC (in 4 months). Yeah, he’s good in the street… so what? During this time they are out of breath in the street, I have FC 18 girls and have been good at work.

I’d say these guys criticize opportunistic guy like me because they are jealous (just like the guy who says a HB8 is a 6 if she doesn’t want him but is she wants him she is a 10 it is bad faith). They want to play and the cocky men but they do alone a dick contest: I’m the strongest even if I fuck less because I approach “for real” (because me, of course, I approach “for wrong”). That’s their problem if they want to find shitty excuses for their failure.

There’s chicks that make a profile on the Internet only to feel desired. OK, but they are people in the street that will take your number with kindness too. And you’ll never meet them again! There’s not only fakes and sluts. There’s it’s true a lot of sites where there are hostesses (fake profiles) but hey need to sort before registering, it’s like when you go to a bar where there’s only balls.

This should be beneficial to the moaners who practice in the street because they have less “competitors” on the field. So I do not see where is the problem for them …? Must explain to me … that’s where we understand that their reaction is irrational, like hatred is in general. They may be afraid that we fuck the chicks online and then in the street they don’t want them anymore? Must move with the times, too. I know guys who pride themselves to have no phone. It is ridiculous too.

It’s a bit like those who make their living on the net. Why criticizing? Good for them (they earn €, I fuck HB7/8/9/I never give 10). They may be smarter than us, we, the idiots employed by an asshole.

Snipe in the interview I recorded, talks about online dating. So if one of the best PUA of France says it’s good, it’s not lamdbas guys on a well known forum that will have the last word and that will make me change my mind. Cajun and David de Angelo agree too. Personally, I’ve until 6 FC in a month online, it’s good. Call me liar, if you want, we will good laugh during my third diary when I will publish the evidence! Meanwhile, here are my tips and routines to get laid online!

The bottom line. Denigrating the online pickup is in my view the same level of false beliefs than “ugly girls are easier to fuck than beautiful ones.” It would be logical but wrong because when you say so you think like if we could remove everything that is fear, complexes, principle of coherence, etc. Online, theoretically, we should be able to fuck more than we do but the fact is they are ashamed to be on a dating site too, they are afraid, etc. You need a high level of persuasion to bring a chick directly are your place. In terms of quality, you have to learn too, first of all the rule of the 10kg (always at least 10kg of difference between her size and weight – 1m70 60kg okay, 1m70 55kg she is very hot 1m70 70kg noooooooo), several photos are needed too or try to find her FB.

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When sexual desire fades…

My father visited me last weekend in Lyon. We, as often, had philosophical talks about sex. Among them: “when we age, are we still warm?”

He was warm, my dad, in his time. I also still surprise him from time to time, starting at the ass of sexy chicks in the street. It’s only natural! It makes me laugh!

According to his testimony, one thinks less about sex for sex after 60, and more about the beauty of women. Where from the interest of having pretty wife (you must see how aged her mother) and daughter. (I’m not talking for Playboy’s boss).

It’s a bit the answer to the question I often get: “will you be a player all your life?” I hope not, honestly. I am already tired. I always said I would stop soon to start a strong family and have balanced children.

Sex for sex with hot babes we like, it’s awesome at the beginning. So I do it now in order to don’t feel the desire to cheat on my wife during a fucking midlife crisis.

But above all, I learn many things through the Game. About me, about communication, about how to be respected and how to use my charm on women. Among others.

I do a lot of experience that I would have regretted having not made, I think, if I had a youth of tight-ass. I do not like living in frustration or in ignorance. This is especially why I love the game : I am more motivated by the understanding of how seduction works than sex-addict (sex is not only useful to pie).

However, it’s not because fucking chicks in a mess (and not all the women I want) thanks to psychological communication tools has become a second skin that I can never get rid of it. I am not Neil Strauss!

Indeed, in his book The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships, Neil tells the crisis which followed his life of Pickup Artist. He wrote what happens when a guy wants a LTR but cannot control his superpower of seducer (or when he fails to properly lock his Efficience belt).

I recognize myself in him a little, when he speaks of his mother, in this book. He said she was a little stuffy. Like mine (and my father too). He had a rather boring childhood, without realizing it at the time, just like me.

After his life of PUA, he went in sexual detox (or rehab). They identified him emotional incest. Seriously, I hope it’s not my case.

In my fantasies, I want to live with two women who would love each other as they would love me and who would bear my children. But this is just a dream and I will content myself with a pretty, healthy, slim, sweet, intelligent, courageous, not too much a pain in the ass girl.

I want a healthy relationship. I want to be really transparent and honest with my wife and my children. I do not necessarily want them to be players, what I want is that they are good in communication to understand the world, protect themselves, dominate others and succeed in life!

To the question: would I enjoy an open relationship until my penis is no longer able to get hard? On one side, I like the moment between the opener and penetration: I love the Game for the game. On the other hand, it would piss me off, I guess, that someone else fucks MY WIFE. The fantasy of purity and all that shit, when it applies to your wife, is not necessarily the same thing that when it applies to a fuckfriend. With that said, if I’m the only one with who she fucks without a condom, it may be enough… maybe. To be tested ! What I want is to have special privileges.

That said, I do not know if it would be very healthy for my children that their parents are libertines.

In his book, Neil discusses the delicate issue “once I’m in a serious relationships, how can I make it work?”

It’s a good question. So far, almost every relationship I’ve built fell apart. In The Truth, the author wonders whether we would not be the victim of a former trauma, maybe we repeat the same things again and again? It’s a bit like what plays in our mind when we always want to get our ex we idealize back or when repeated endlessly the same patterns that leads to nothing good and we are emotionally desperate!

I do not want to be, in my turn, an ignoring or stuffy a parent. I do not want my children to suffer, to devalue constantly, to feel depressed, anxious, etc. I do not want that, like me, my children need affection, but quickly feel stifling and therefore never attach themselves to people for too long.

The conclusion of the book is that the marriage of love is not what corresponds to our wild bodies! Wedding is a cultural thing, we must make sacrifices for it to work. The greatest biologists and psychologists agree to tell so. Our body says “why looking for our soul sister ? I don’t like incest.”

“Do not trade long-term happiness for short-term pleasure.” Rick Rubin
“Masturbate once and you will feel better!” Fabrice Julien