2014 – Page 2 – French Pick Up Artist

Posted on 07/11/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

How to improve the way you communicate

How to talk to her effectively?

a) The chat

You must be able to improvise a little. The chat is very important. It is : to be funny, original and confident. This is avoiding boring topics (religion, politics, personal problems, money), and trying to see if you have points in common with her (education, interests, hobbies). Create a link as soon as possible! Observe the politicians!

b) The timetag

The technique is used in two stages. First, during the conversation, you must explicitly mention an activity that you can do together and watch her reaction which will indicate her level of interest in this activity. If she responds positively, then you know that this activity would be a good potential date if she reacts negatively: you have to try again later with another activity.

c) The sexualisation

You usewords like :sensuality,eroticism, desire, welfare, heat, momentout of time, violentattraction,desire, life, passion, fusionof the bodies…You aretactile.You makeinnuendo.You cannot beconfused with a”friend.”

d) The silences

The obsession of a man seducing a girl can be “especially avoiding the break in theconversation.” Focusing on it, means forgetting all the things that actually create attraction in the conversation. But when you are with your good friends, your family, friends, etc … a moment of silence is seen as normal.

e) The points of view

“Talking like her” is simply taking back to your account the ideas she likes the most. During your appointment, you will discuss many topics. Before giving your opinion on some of them, wait until she expressed her opinion, to resume it (rephrasing) a few minutes later.

f) The synchronization

1) The synchronization of the movements :

At first, you repeat her movements, then you do them at the same time until she is reproducing your gestures. You became the leader of the discussion: you have the possibility to choose a direct or an inverted synchronization!

Creating some rapport means that the target is comfortable in our presence: she is not on her guard. We must act in a certain order. If your target moves her foot with a regular frequency, repeat this rhythm like tapping on your thighs with fingers. To attract a partner, you should copy her body position. Your attitude should reflect hers. When you are experienced, you can even copy your breath, your voice, etc.

2) The verbal synchronization :

The verbal synchronization comes from the same synchronization acceptance than the synchronization of the movements. It covers both the rate of speech, the power of the voice and its height (rather severe or acute for example) and the formulation used.

If you synchronize at the verbal level, you speak the language of the other:
– Vocabulary based on the main system of the target (VAK)
– Level of language;
– Subjective vision of the world, you know the person.

I go into a store to buy a computer and because I do not understand much, I want it to be Windows XP like on my old PC.

A) Failed synchronization:
“Hello, I want a computer with a large disk space because I download a lot of movies.” Seller: “We have this PC 40GB with a HD player and a superb integrated webcam I personally use and it is awesome!”
“40 what? I do not speak this language … I would use XP because it is easier for me.”
Seller: “Wow, this is old-fashioned, take at least Windows Vista or Windows 7, it will be nice to browse!” What a mistake! Compare this with a successful synchronization.

B) Successful synchronization:
“Hello, I want to buy a computer with a good disk space for watching movies.”
“Hello, you want to buy a computer? I suggest this one, disk space is large and you so can download many movies.”
“Very good and I would like to use Windows XP because it is easier for me.”
“This computer comes with Windows Vista but XP also works on it, we have it in CD-Rom, and I agree with you: it is easier.”

Reformulation:
This helps the creation of trust.

Reformulation verbatim:
“Hello I would like some information on this offer …”
“Hello, you would like information about our offer …”

Reformulation questioning and reformulation word for word in question form:
“Hello, I would like information on this offer …”
“Hello, so you want information about our offer …?”

A point reformulation is to take only the last words:
“Hello, I would like information on your offer …”
“… information on our offer?”

Reformulation interrupted, your partner will finish the sentence:
“Hello, I would like information about your …”; “Hello, you want information …”; “Yes, it is about your offer …”

The reformulation reframing:
It slightly changes the game, using other words than the interlocutor in order to make him understand that we understood what he meant. This can amplify the positive elements and helps transitioning effectively.

By modifying the data:
“I would like information on …”
“You want to know more about …”

Amplifying the positive:
“Hello, I was not very happy with my second order, but the two last made me happy.”
“Soyou werevery happy withour last twoorders!Know thatwe have a newsystem for processingorders I’ll show you …”

3) The not verbal synchronization:

It is the fact of sync on other things than words or body language:
– The volume of breathing ;
– Speed, flow, volume, tone of voice (do not overdo it!)

g) Keywords

You must detect keywords in her speech, and then reuse them in your own phrases so she things that you understand her perfectly. Try to notice changes in her intonations – it will tend to focus on keywords. Locate her turns of phrase.

h) Creation of feelings

These are feelings or messages that you need to create and make your target feel, describing a situation (eg the pleasure one feels when listening to music or eating chocolate). Adaptable to the desire to have a relation with you.

i) Her wished values

You must go through three stages:
– Discover her Value Mask (eg tall boys).
– Questioning to discover her Desired Value (eg sense of security).
– Creating a link between you and DV.

j) Ears

If you want to touch the sentimental side of the girl, you must speak to her in the left ear. If you want to make her see reason, or persuade her, you should rather aim right ear.

k) No to « no »

If you ask her to go to the movies, for example, it is better to opt for “Wanna go to the movies?” Instead of “Oh, don’t you would like to see this movie?” Because in the second case, the message already contains a negation and this will influence her decision.

l) The bridge towards the future

By pretending that you still will see each other in many months, the one that you are interested in will feel much safer with you, like if you were already close.

m) The analogical marking

Ex: Did it ever happen to you to fall in love with a totally unknown man? Someone you just met? (with a hand gesture, you discreetly designate yourself.)

n) The words to be avoided

Using “yes but” cancels everything. It cancels what is after and puts tension in the interaction. The “but” cancels only the words before and highlights the words that come after. The “and” preserves everything. Words to be avoided are : negative terms and those related to a problem because the unconscious does not receive a denial because it receives every word you speak as a direct suggestion that will turn into action as a change in your feelings.

o) The metaphors

With these stories, which seem simple, you can send a message to the unconscious, without this solution is analyzed by the subject’s consciousness

p) The proximity bubble

Perhaps you have already noticed or felt that you have been suspicious when a stranger approached too close to you to ask information; you would have preferred that the other person respects your Proximity Bubble. Do not sit in front of the person but in front of and a little on his/her right or left, and in an appropriate distance defined by the nature of your relationship with the target (professional, friendly …).

q) Some other techniques of communication

Active listening:
To create a relationship of trust, we must be attentive to the information provided on both the conscious level and the unconscious level (verbal, non-verbal, para-verbal). We must calibrate IE observe to collect a lot of information. We must think and act accordingly to adapt the behavior and words. Must be consistent and convey the message effectively.

Indirect statements:
Do not make assumptions or statements that could be considered as such but rather admit that you do not know, or rather not yet… This is the low position “only those who are at the top of the mountain can fall!” The one who controls a situation is the one who knows how to adapt by showing behavioral flexibility!
“I was wondering if … I’m curious … Can you tell me … I would like to …” we ask for something indirectly!
“I was wondering if you could apply a discount on this item”
“I remind you that I have already applied a discount to your first product!”
“I was just sharing with you the question I asked myself, it was in no way a request but a personal question …”

The principle of positive intention:
“Everything has its purpose even if we do not always understand.”
It is a choice of map of the world. You will never know what the person in front of you really think so you can give the benefit of the doubt or better the one of the good intention. Life will so appear to you more beautiful.

Truisms:
State a truism to say something that is obvious “we feel better when we are well installed” or describe something undeniable “you have a red car”. The person cannot disagree. It puts him/her in good condition.

The yes-set:
This is a series of truisms, and then place a direct suggestion in an atmosphere of unconscious acceptance.
“You have changed your tie, black on this dark suit, it was red last week, you’re beautiful. Let’s sign this contract now!”
4 truisms and direct suggestion …

No-set:
This is the opposite of yes-set. A climate of denial is created in her mind.

Nominalizations:
They are vague and uncountable terms used to better speak the language of the other. Liberty, equality, fraternity, curiosity, knowledge, comfort, road, change, light, love, peace, emotion, life … are examples of nominalizations.

Links:
This allows you to link two sentences : interesting because the bonds are a method that facilitates the acceptance of a suggestion by a person : and, then, as well, so, while, …
“This steak is super good, we ate well, so now go and sign the order …” There is no direct link between the two things but hey it works!

The link between cause and effect:
“It is eleven o’clock so I will introduce articles that you like”

The dual-link
It is the choice between two proposals, but in fact it is only an illusion:
“You pay now or in one month?” doesn’t matter ’cause will pay for it.
“Do you prefer the black or the white computer?” doesn’t matter because will take one of the two.
“Want to rent the villa for the weekend or next weekend?” Same thing.

Presuppositions:
This is a subtext to maximize the chances of acceptance.
“When you will order one of our products, please call me before, I have something to tell you.” Here, we mean that the customer will order something. In addition, we play on the curiosity because we will explain something but only after the order… “When you will do this / please do that”

Omissions:
Here, in fact, we do not specify the object of the sentence. This is the other one who should imagine. For example: I think I would agree. Compared to what? Let the subconscious work.

Take a step back:
Put yourself in the shoes of someone who saw the scene from the outside. Get to the point!

Results of experiments :

– The look helps increasing the rate of acceptance of a request.

– The rarity of a promotion leads customers to take the proposed product.

– The physical appearance of the canvassers increases significantly their effectiveness in obtaining donations: in the minds of people, “what is beautiful is good.”

– The technique of “a little is better than nothing” works well.

– Atypical requests lead more people to seek a better justification therefore it’s a better idea to single out our request to maximize our chances.

– A transgression came true in situation of anonymity, with masks, but disappeared when we had beforehand asked them for their name and their address.

– Male students, who had to deal with the attractive girl interlocutor, have significantly changed their point of views about the educational reforms than students who had to deal with the same interlocutor, but unattractive (no makeup, badly dressed).

– The fear appeals do not have the efficiency that one could give them at first. The subjects who were exposed to messages with the least fear appeals changed the more their attitude.

– Everything is more successful to those who touch their fellows. Success, persuasion, seduction, social domination. Still better : touch reduces social conflict, raises more motivation among students and better management of medicines by patients.

– The rule book seems to be : the act of touching a person is exercised by people who are in a position of dominance. Initiate tactile contact is therefore a way to try to establish an implicit hierarchy. This requires to be confident, but the audacity pays because negative reactions are rare: studies between men and women showed that women always accept the tactile contact (courtesy) from a man and it is almost always the case between two men too, except in the special case of homophobic guys.

You understood, these techniques are widely used in the sale. But nothing prevents their use in the context of seduction, where you would sell YOURSELF.

Posted on 04/11/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

Feed the conversation

General remarks :

When the first contact is established, the girl is going to communicate with you. She is going to throw you some lines whom you should not miss. If you manage to seize these opportunities, you will have big chances to quickly communicate with her and interest her. Seize THE interesting subject which will inspire her or which will make her speak about herself. For it: a good listening and a lot of concentration. People adore speaking about themselves!

Favor the open questions because they will bring a person to get involved and to speak with you. We cannot answer it by yes or no and you thus can bounce.

Direct positively her answers « what did you like in ___ ? » rather than « did you like this ___ ? »

Don’t be afraid of not beginning with serious subjects, master the art of the commonness. It is certainly what I hate the most.

What makes your interest is not the subject in itself but the way you approach it, your way of handling it. It is the originality! To be original, start by being yourself. That is to say speak about things you like. It is in the expression of your passions and interests that will underline your natural freshness. In the same way, if you wish to seduce a woman, it will be necessary to you to make her speak about things that interest her.

To make her talk, imagine that every new meeting has to give rise to a short history. The woman to whom you speak always has to tell you her short history. You too have yours to be told. But you wil have to listen to hers if you want to be listened. Especially as her story will condition yours : We often answer an anecdote by other one of the same type. Who? When? What? Where? How?

Have a LITTLE OF culture and keep connected a minimum about the current events (newspaper, TV, etc.) : It is not necessary to spend hours on this, if the world collapses, one shall tell it to you…

During the sexual selection, if we tell something that she does not want to hear, no matter if it’s true, that kills the chances of the member of the male. By being completely honest or killjoy, we thus have fewer chances to succeed!

Do not swear as a truck driver. In any case not before knowing her better than that.
Show automockery, for example about your fat. That will make her laugh.
Do not spend your time to compare her with your ex (or worse with your mother).
Do not speak about yourself at the third person, except to make some humor.
Do not put yourselves in the center of all the subjects as if everything was related to you.
Do not get confused if she does not laugh in one of your jokes!
Do not imagine yourselves the date before being there, it is counterproductive!
Talking about sex is the first stage to make it, but use a sexual humor not needy. Use small nicknames creates a complicity, if you feel at ease. The seduction is not something which really puts into words …

About what not talking to a woman that you want to seduce?

What you speak about is not the most important, however, it is necessary to be very careful in what you do not have to speak about:

– Negative things on her (you have to change her mind, to make her have fun);
– Negative things on you (show nevertheless small weaknesses) ;
– What shows that you have a low status, that you are a loser;
– Controversial subjects (example, the gay marriage);
– If she speaks about religion or about politics: try to not disagree if not in agreement;
– The boring subjects for the women (soccer, technology, video games);
– The subjects technical or logical as the fact that your card has 1GO of RAM;
– The vulgar subjects (poo, fart, etc.);
– The offensive subjects (as liking mistreating animals or babies);
– Her ex or a guy who she could still like;
– The sex: do not put it into words. If she speaks about it, joke as if that had no importance, show that you feel at ease and change subject. Be excited but do not speak about it too much and wait that she is as excited as you;
– Not too many questions: you are the guy with whom it was a good match at once;
– What gives the impression of having been planned (the unforeseen is exciting);
– The romanticism before the sex;
– A little of humor but not too much: she has to take you seriously all the same. Etc.

About what talking to her ?

(Interesting) anecdotes, of what happened to you recently, TV programs, movies, music, celebrities, the food (places and dishes), the holidays (places where you went), your passions, the differences men/women, shoes (they are quite fascinated by shoes) Etc. Express your opinion, speak by affirmative.

Do as if you knew her for a long time and were in total confidence.

To excite her sexually, you have to excite her emotionally at first. When you tell something, make her feel the feelings which you felt over the moment with your words and your intonations.

If you say something hardly funny: she will laugh if you have a good connection together. Make some “spiritual” observations, from time to time!

Turn on the women, tease them on the answers which they give to your questions, the way they are dressed, their whims or their manners.

Give her a slap onto buttocks if she says a naughty thing or throw her a ball of paper with a player face. Consider her as a funny younger sister.

The person who has the strongest feelings can contaminate a group of people. Be relaxed and excited sexually thus, and prolong the interaction until she is in the same state as you. You will so create the conditions favorable to a sexual act.

An attractive man is a man who has sex thus that is not really important for him. So that a woman has her attention, she has to deserve it. It is not the opposite: he is a challenge and nothing is beforehand won for her.

The obstinacy can make you fuck even if you fucked up the rest. Wait that she puts into words the rejection before leaving frustrated instead of trying to interpret signals.

Leave the principle that she is attracted to you because most of the human relations are directed by what we would like they to be. She will then be influenced. Furthermore, you will thus not make any beta behavior error in this way.

Don’t try at all cost to say what is needed because you would look like seeking for her approval, and it is not a good thing. By having a good body language, a self-confidence, a good physical appearance and an interesting life: The women who are not ice-cold will find you fuckable.

If she asks: “what made you want to speak to me? Do you tell it to all the girls?” Don’t try to give the good answer, play the indifference because if you worry about what she thinks, you give her the control while you have to be the one who leads the game! You have no duty to amuse her, only to interact with her.

Anyway, if you are not any more a challenge for the girl, you will be less attractive! She has to make efforts for you! The key is your state of mind! You will maintain the sexual tension. For example, if you get ready to kiss her, you approach her lips, then you stop, you withdraw by smiling. Small test: tell her “you like me” in a condescending way, if she says that no by laughing at you, then she probably likes you. You are in control, thus do not especially say “what do you wanna do?” but rather do it by letting smooth a small mystery.

Surprise her with ideas, unexpected fantasies. Do not forget that you have the class, the culture, the discipline, the dominance, the brain, the happiness, the adventure, the voluntary, the expertise, the attention, the indifference (challenge), the charm (soft and polite), the imagination (artist), the sexual control…

Do not forget to affirm yourselves: you say YES (constructive attitude) or NO (childish or destructive attitude). You take a stand and punish her if she acts badly.

Notice the small details: it is not a coincidence if she has a sexy dress, if she is made up or if she has the clean hair. It is for YOU!

Try to sit down as close as possible to her: less than 40cm and both feel at ease with the fact of touching you… And this interaction could lead you in her bed!

Evoke the friendship: she will try to make you become sexual. If you evoke the sex, she will become afraid. It is you who decide if you want to go farther with her.

If you speak about your ex, do it in positive terms because you go out only with valuable girls and she will not say to herself that you will speak badly about her in her back like that.

Very important: THE GIRLS ADORE THAT YOU THINK OF THEM. By saying “I was thinking about you, thus I wrote to you”, the girl in question will have a kind of click. It seems that they like the small presents, not for their value, but because they imply that you think of them and that the present is only the symbol of that. But well…

You must be ready to leave her at any time, if you don”t like the girl any more. There is no obligation to conclude even if you are in a date. If she does not please you, too bad for her and then that’s it. It is always possible to leave! Keep it in mind!

Here is the standard sequence of human relationships:
1) The eye contact
2) The verbal contact
3) The face-to-face verbal contact
4) The contact hand over the arm / the shoulder
5) The contact mouth-to-mouth
6) The contact hand over genitals / breast
7) The contact mouth on genitals
8) The sexual intercourse

If your target shows you signs of relationship (synchronization of her language of the body, she touches you, laughs with you), then you are on the right way. From time to time, go away from her to show that you are not too needy.

Posted on 31/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — 1 Comment

Modestly, how to become the best fuck of her life

How to be a good lover ?

I write this introduction for the guys who are in the following state of mind “fucking her well or badly it is the same thing for me, the important is just to fuck her”. I want to become again an alcoholic to forget when I read things like that. First of all because if you know that you are one of the best fucks in town you necessarily convey more confidence. Then, because they tell it to their friends and it is advertisement for you héhéhé. Finally, because it is because of shitty mentalities like that that it is more and more difficult to have sex in France: the girls think by default that the dude doesn’t know how to fuck, thus to enjoy her body he has to show the money or other. What I want to say, it is that if it was “guaranteed orgasms every time”, the women would less be prayed and our value of man would raise. Capisch ? It is the state of mind I have and I can tell you that it is more constructive than the egoism and in addition when a girl put me a rake, I say to myself “go and get fucked by a fellow who doesn’t know how to do it and who we will lie to your to unlock your legs (95 % of chances) if it is what you prefer, you don’t even know what you miss when you do the malicious like that and you think you are clever :)… then you will say than men are all the same IE useless assholes!”

The second thing to know it is that the girls love sex but do not want to be denigrated (thought of as whores). The chicks are naughty but thus often give you advices to be artless, kind and submitted in long-term relationships. They will only very rarely admit what really turn them on and never confess that the bedtime they will remember till the end of their days, they did probably not have them with a shy and awkward man.”I love you as we like certain dark things, in a secret way, between the shadow and the soul.” Pablo Neruda

1) General state of mind

Being a good fuck, it is above all not being a bad fuck : you will be a lover at the same time bravely taking initiatives, comfortable and very sensual. I was inspired without having copied it by Eve O who gives very good advices in her book 267 conseils pour devenir le meilleur coup de sa vie as well as Nina Hartley.

2) The caresses

You have to caress them and kiss them often… and not only during the sexual act.

You can caress them with lips : vary the pressure, the rhythm and the opening. Have a good breath, so wash your teeth or take small fresh things full of mint. Avoid: cafe, cigarette, etc.

To caress them with your hands, have soft hands and thus hydrated. Rough hands will not optimize pleasant caresses. Be soft and sensual, do fluid movements and slide tenderly on the surface of her skin. Place your hand on hers when she caresses you to guide her… and she can do the same for you.

If you decide to make her a massage, you are not obliged to mass her only with your hands. More your body will be in touch with hers and more she will be warmed. You can even do it completely naked. You can improve this idea by using oils but try them before to be sure that they do not burn. Mass the thighs inside, outside and pass near her sex innocently. Take care of her butts then return towards her sex, then leave : turn her on until she begs you to take her! When hormones get the upper hand over the logical part of her brain, it is an extraordinary let go!

Be always on the lookout for her reactions: every woman is relatively different and according to the type of caress you use, you will meet more or less of success. You cannot guess!

As regards the caress of her sex: Begin by caressing her through underwear, you touch her, you turn all around, you cross your fingers around the clitoris. A thing which I also like to do to make them go nuts it is to lick them through their underwear and then when they cannot handle it any more move it a little to attack their sex. The saliva will be an excellent lubricant for your fingers which must be clean. She is then going to beg you to undress her (or will do it herself if the panties are too wet) ! Also play with the lips of her vagina, not only the vagina itself or the clit: watch her muscles contracting, it is funny. Vary the angles of attack and the speed and watch for her reactions. You have to judge what she likes most: breath, contractions, shivers, sighs, shouts (why not)…

To finger her, do not go as a horse there, anyway 80 % of the women are clitoral but that pleases them all the same (especially the association of both). Let’s go there slowly. Increase the number of fingers but not too much all the same to don’t hurt them. Small precision : your finger is not a penis (there are nails and everything thus attention). When you finger her, also try to stimulate the clitoris (thumb of the same hand or index+major of the other hand), this is the way you will totally drive her crazy. Do not be a pneumatic drill, it is not like that that they feel penetrated like by a penis: on the contrary, press downward, make a semicircle below as a swing … alternate all these techniques and be attentive to her reactions. This is key!

To give her the impression of penetrating into her like with your sex but just with your fingers, fold up the last two phalanxes as if you said “hey you come here” in her vagina. You will feel (normally) a kind of rough cavity, it is the place of the G-spot. To stimulate effectively the clitoris, make movements (rather circulars with your fingers or then with your tongue and maybe also a coming and going) faster and faster. When you feel she will come, slow down.

3) The cunnilingus

It is again something very subjective even if appears guiding common main lines. NB : some girls do not like that but the largest part THINK that they do not like that because no guy was able to do it in a correct and they were bored or had to feign pleasure. It is because I won several times the prize of the king of the cunni in Aix that I allow myself to develop this part.

If you have a doubt on your performance, ask her for the rhythm, the pressure when you play with the clitoris… some girls are really sensitive and that can hurt them or fear them especially when you start or at the approach of the orgasm. Attention with teeth like, just like she has to do it when she performs blowjob : respect. And do not blow in her vagina it may be dangerous: respect.

To begin: kiss her breasts, come down by kissing her small stomach, her navel then continue to come down to attack the point which interests us. It has to don’t be too easy for her, the anticipation is going to make rise her desire as in seduction. At the beginning, use your tongue to make the zone wet. By putting a pillow under her buttocks, you give her an ideal position. Do not blow in the vagina, it is very unpleasant. Explore the hidden recesses of her vagina and her lips with your tongue in mode “hard tongue”. Travel her sex of various manners, lick, penetrate, turn, lap, suck…

In fact, put your mouth as in duckface (it helps a little) and position it on her clitoris. Normally, you feel it under your tongue, as a small hard button… It is very rare that I had to go there blind because it was very discreet but by following the plan you know in which zone it has to be and that is enough (btw always being just on it is not optimal). I think that licking it is good but sucking is excellent too : suck her as she would suck your sex which would not be hard yet. No, that does not make you a fag. Mass her so as to make the blood come on her sex. You can tap above delicately (attention slowly). So that she gives you her rhythm, position your mouth on the clitoris and do not move, let her indicate you the angle. Put your fingers in her vagina (in mode “hey come here”) and move her body also while you suck her.

Continue: pay attention on the nonverbal communication which she sends back to you to know if she likes that. Continue what works! Place your fingers on her sex by making a V with the bottom towards buttocks and top towards the stomach: it is the zone of the cunnilingus.

At the end: if she approaches the orgasm, she can ask you to stop by tightening legs. I do not advise you to obey: make her enjoy like in a dream. If she does not return it to you, give all the same, for the pleasure to give (God will reward you). Do cunnis because you must show that you love your partner’s body. If the smell bothers you then breathe through your mouth but put out your nose so as you don’t stifle. Be careful if she is on her period, do not make me say what I did not say. If you have hair in the mouth, remove them discreetly… If really too much hair, remember that you do not HAVE TO lick.

Let her the choose to kiss you or not directly after your cunni (dry yourselves discreetly). It is an act of dominion because it is you who master her pleasure. Hold her firmly if she moves too much the legs because of the pleasure. If she ejaculates in your face during the cunni it is only some water, for information, that never happened to me thus don’t be afraid. Be resilient and successful: if you are bored, draw the alphabet on her sex. I advise you to put the condom during the cunni, neither seen nor known then you fuck her directly… Go down on her while she sleeps : queen’s alarm clock…

4) The penetration

2/3 positions, it is a good average. Turn her on before penetrating into her with your penis. Begin in penetrating into her slowly then push your sex. Start slowly then accelerate: There is a gradation. Idea : To turn by making circles with your sex in her vagina, that gives her some pleasure and that allows you to recover. Talk to her : steer her, share your pleasure with her. Laugh at pussy farts or pretend not having heard anything. Lead her by the hips. Try to stimulate her clitoris at the same time you penetrate into her : a good position is you on her because the pubis rubs the clitoris. Otherwise in doggy style for example, you can use one of your hands to do the same thing. Let her lead the penetration at her rhythm by giving her the commands in certain positions like doggystyle or side-saddle (mode “man object”). Alternate sweetness and firmness. Kiss her: neck, shoulders… Then, intensify your movements to lead her to the orgasm. It is difficult to know if what we did was appreciated if we have no feedback : talk (even if it is better if she congratulates you by herself just after like “that never happened to me before that it was soooo good” and I can tell to you that when that it happens regularly to you that gives you a fucking good inner game)! If you feel that she is going to come and that you are a player, stop and start again because the final orgasm will be multiplied tenfold! Stop everything while she has an orgasm, because she will enjoy it more than if you continue.

For the sodomy, speak about it with her : doggystyle or side-saddle advised.

5) Delay the éjaculation

– Make a break in the comings and goings ;
– Pressure on the perineum (area around between anus and testicles) ;
– Change position for a less exciting position for you ;
– Think of hard things like for example that she can twist your sex ;
– Catch yourselves the thigh discreetly (or the ear) ;
– Say to her that you will “cum” ;
– Contract your perineum, technique close to the tantric ;
– If you come before her, make her enjoy otherwise (cunni), do not leave your partner dissatisfied except when she is really blocked for specific reasons to her ;
– After having finished, take her a little in your arms.
NB : To be very hard strained and be able to reload easily, a good hygiene of life helps.

If you do not have orgasm when you ejaculate too much early it can be due to a lack of experience or relaxation. Orgasm and éjaculation are not necessarily connected. Thus, put in perspective your situation, even think of something else, do not take all this too seriously and you will do better next time… If she impresses you too much, here is craftiness: imagine her doing number two (try not to go limp all the same lol).

How to know if she enjoyed ? If she enjoys, observe the cramps on her stomach, observe her mouth for the shouts or the groans if she interiorizes, otherwise at the level of her sex, it opens more, becomes wetter and contracts a little. She can also catch hold of you or sheets.

6) Talk

Ask her what she would like to do next time.
What are her fantasies?
Tell her what you appreciated or not really liked.
Tell her that you need a small time of rest before being able to do it again.
Stay class: do not become vulgar like in a porn… except if she likes that.
On the other hand, be open-minded.

7) Other ideas

Savage :
– Use your nails (backs, buttocks) flat or edge, but short and filed ;
– Nibble her ;
– Maintain her wrists ;
– Grasp her neck ;
– Grasp the buttocks ;
– Catch her hair ;
– Stick her head to the pillow;
– Your warm breath in her ear;
– Put her small pats on buttocks (if she protests say to her that it is stimulating).

Sensitive places :
– Feet ;
– Hair, mass her hair by making small circles on the skull ;
– Hair, play with your fingers ;
– Brush her then intensify your movements on her back and buttocks ;
– Lob ear ;
– Hollow of the neck ;
– Approach your sex of hers or her butts then go back up casually ;
– The neck ;
– The breast (lick her or brush them) slowly and next to the navel ;
– To touch her sex, be careful to be wet (saliva) ;
– The folds of knees, elbows, ankles ;
– Ears, nape of the neck ;
– Thighs ;
– Shoulders.

Sexual games :
– Cover her eyes ;
– Attach her hands with her bra ;
– Write imaginary words in her back with your fingers ;
– Suck one of her fingers while you fuck her or put her one of yours in the mouth ;
– Look at you in a mirror ;
– Role-play ;
– Make love in improper places ;
– Make love with people next to you ;
– Make love on the ground or on the balcony in front of the street, or standing love ;
– Do quickies when you are in a hurry ;
– Make love in (appropriate) music ;
– Eat on her body;
– Use objects, watch a porn together ;
– Seduce without looking like it : after the shower do not get dressed at once, or stay topless on the terrace.

Accessories :
– Privilege the blue or sieved light ;
– Clean and not pierced boxer shorts: black will always be an excellent choice ;
– No bed which creaks, it is weird ;
– Candles can give a cool atmosphere ;
– Take a bath together or a shower ;
– No phone or do not answer ;
– Do not always make love with clothes : sometimes, just go under her dress.

8) Wide-spread feminine fantasies

– Being taken by a beautiful stranger that they will never see again ;
– The rape: passivity = loss of control = justification (but do not rape her but be persevering) ;
– The flagrante delicto: public place (parking, toilet, cinema) ;
– The uniform: policeman, serviceman, fireman… ;
– A love triangle with another man or with another girl for the most curious.

All this is not exhaustive, but practice it and you will become a better fuck than 95 % of the men. And they will thanks you for that ! In brief, that you look for a mother, for a girl or for a woman, fuck her well and she will ask for more of it ! Maybe that one day, the man “good fuck” will become as valuable on the market as the “hot girl”.

Posted on 30/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

How to kiss a girl ?

A lot of my readers want to know how to kiss a girl; how to bring and make a success of the kissclose. Moreover, more than a PUA beginner finds himself blocked in the stage of the Kissclose (The best example is Style in his early stages for those who have read The Game).

Let’s do things in the order. Before seeing HOW kissing a girl, let’s see WHEN to kiss her. You know it, to seduce a girl, everything is question of timing. It is not for nothing that Mystery created a method of seduction divided in so many small stages. A girl can leave you a window of shooting (a chance), but if you do not seize it, not leaving you a second one. So, you can come before more beautiful and sexier guys if they are pussies who do not dare to stick her to a wall and to eat her lips. Because knowing and daring to act is an alpha behavior.

The stage of the kissclose does not escape this rule and is a part of the seduction. You should not wait too much at the risk of becoming a Nice guy in the eyes of the young lady whom you desire, nor rush to don’t scare her off. (n.b. : The situation is always nevertheless easier to catch up if you acted too early than if you acted too late).

It will belong to you to estimate the situation according to the personality of your target, her body language, and the environment (place, persons present, atmosphere). Sorry but I can’t be more precise than that because every interaction is unique. It’s up to you to calibrate. But never forget that a kiss close has to be the continuation of a sexual tension: do not try cold kissclose. Except if it’s just to have fun (But for that is needed a fucking pair of corones all the same thus we will speak about it another time because we make bases here). A trick which helped well me in my early stages: I gave myself a purpose: I said to myself that come what may at the end of the date I would kiss her.

You thus have to create enough comfort and attraction so that miss is ready (at least unconsciously) for a physical proximity with you. If you wish to accelerate things, bet on a good conversation and control your touches (kinos). Kinos are essential to kissclose because they allow to test the reaction of the young lady to your contact, and to create an intimacy. If she reacts well to your kinos, in theory, you will kiss close more easily.

Kiss-openers : When to kiss

The question that many men have in mind, is: how to kiss the girl during the phase of seduction. There are very numerous possibilities, to be adapted according to your personality.

*The kissclose like Beigbeder. You : « I bet you a glass of champagne that I can kiss you without touching your lips » after some negotiations, she should accept, tell her to close eyes and…. Kiss her passionately without waiting for her reaction.
* After a dinner / drink: You : « you have a lot of chocolat (café,…) on the chin ». Remove delicately the imaginary tracks with your fingers, shake them in grumbling and say: « fuck, they are not working » and go next to her to kiss her.
*You : « Listen, I saw well that you want to kiss me, but I think that it is a little bit too soon » Her : « Hein, what ?! not at all » You : « Really, well after all you are right, why waiting more »
*You : « I spend a very good moment. I think that if you were a brunette/blonde (say the opposite of what she is) I would already have kissed you » Her : « ????? » You : « Yeah, unfortunately, the Brunettes/blonde women (what she is) are bad kissers » Her : « It’s not true » well, after that neg-hit, she will in theory be easier to kiss. Or then if she is not enough confident, she will be angry and you will lose everything. So pay attention on your calibration when you neg.
*The Mystery’s kissclose : You : « We are going to play a game about trust. You have to place your lips at 2 cms of mine, but, obviously do not try to kiss me ! ». Then kiss her.

Say it with a languishing body language (look at her straight in the eyes, half-smile), just what is needed to make miss wet. This game allows to invert the role and to be a little more the one who is desired (the “prize”). Make the first step, and get closer in 2cm to her. But let to the young lady the choice to finalize or not. We so learn more about miss (does she takes initiatives?)
*At the time of leaving: «We give each other a kiss on the cheek or we assume our attraction? ». « Cordial handshake or soft kiss? » (kiss opener you can try when you are really confident).
You : « So, what do you wanna do now? » Her : « IDK, and you? » (Here is a typical answer of women) You : « you’ll see » and kiss her.

They are only examples, but I think that they will give you an idea of the quantity of sentences and psychological approaches (playful, alpha, not interested,…) which can help to kiss close. There are ideas which suit to everybody !

Take the initiative to kiss her

Apparently, at the time of kissing your target, it’s up to you to make the first step. But at the crucial moment, it is easy to be invaded by the fear of the failure… In the point to be paralyzed and do nothing… What always leads to the fiasco: a woman often prefers to let you die on-the-spot fear rather than to make the first step if she is not sure that it is mutual. She will certainly be disappointed that you didn’t found the courage, but never at the point of taking the initiative herself. Why? Well, because if you are incapable to assume your desires, then you are not the kind of man she is looking for. Consequently, when comes the moment to act, take your courage in two hands and make “the first step” : She will be very grateful to you for it…

Having said that, I sometimes take initiatives with other things than my mouth (especially my hands/words) to the point that it is her who kisses me first because she cannot handle it any more. Besides, it is good because we give them some validation when we kiss them, that way we give them less, and it is still better to do it at home to be then able to sleep with her. It is not rare, especially in a club, that a girl can “content” with having been kissed by a guy and with not trying to go “more deeply” in the relation.

Pure technique

It is impossible to describe a perfect kiss, because it results more from an alchemy between both partners than from a particular technique. Do not think, and forget yourself. A very effective technique to kiss a girl consists in approaching her to kiss her… and to pause for a moment before touching her lips. Look at her in eyes with a little smile… And kiss her. This ultimate tension should break all her barriers and activate a tsunami of hormones in the panties of the young lady. Make her dream, or live kisses of cinema, etc.

Besides, at first, do not put your hands on her buttocks or other too intimate places. Walk them in the hollow of the back and on the nape of her neck, zones of the feminine body which are very sensitive while staying on the territory of the gentleman…. And do not kiss only with your mouth, also use your hands, and not always in the same way (more passionately, more slowly, nibble, lick, kiss, with or without the tongue, in the neck, etc.) Imagine your are a vampire.

Bottom line : bottom line, kissing can be perceived like “not a big deal” or like a commitment. Attention ! Btw, what does it mean for you ?

Posted on 29/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

How to bring her over to your place

Walk her home

You interrupted the conversation at the café. Along the way to your place, continue to make her speak to maintain her excitement. She must have no time to call a friend nor to think too much: no silence at this moment.

The excuse you are gonna use to be alone with her (intimacy) has no importance. To do it like a spy, say “I have only some minutes because I have to get up early tomorrow but if you want to come over…” Support her emotional state (turned on after the date) and calm down her brain (she does not want to be thought of as a whore). With that said, if she expressly wants sex do not mention constraint, it could block her, do not be sado-maso! Show her your house then sit down on the sofa. If she lets you caress the extremity of her hair by speaking, it is because she follows you.

Wait for nothing, otherwise you would be put under stress and disappointed if nothing happens. Please make her understand, that whatever takes place “it is great”. (You will score points by not being thought of as a dead man of hunger.) Stay ready and take a little of step back. The girls are attracted by strength but you have to remain flexible. You thus remain dominant but not excessive. You are a player, you make her feel like a little girl. You are authoritarian but not threatening. You are sincere, you do not apologize and you do not hesitate… just that: it is persuasive and very powerful.

Otherwise, you can also attract her by inviting to have dinner (just the two of you). Pastas are easy to cook and get married very well to some wine and candles. Put the chick on the sofa with a glass of wine, otherwise she can come and talk with you in the kitchen. If you have a recipe of chocolate cake for the dessert, it is perfect! That a little goes against what I said on the food, but once from time to time, that has never killed anybody…

Accessories

If you go to her place, gaze upon her room, the knickknacks she has. Or show her yours: Your apartment is clean, remember that you are always ready for the action! Do not call it “the bedroom” nor “the baisodrome” but rather the relaxation room (avoid the alert to the pervert). It is nice to have a book like The secrets of the ecstasy by Nick Douglas and Penny Slinger or to know how to do some magic.

Turning her on

Sexually, the women warm more slowly than us. Touch slightly her shoulder with your hand, and withdraw to create some lack… Later, touch her but more firmly… If you interest her, she will come to snuggle up to you. Otherwise, you will try again later.

SEX = SHE APPRECIATES YOU + SHE FEELS COMFORTABLE + SHE FEELS SAFE + INTIMACY.

Act :
– hold her hand ;
– put your arm around her ;
– caress her hair, twist them around your fingers, breath them ;
– do what you have already done together until now.

Erogenous zones:
– hair ;
– skull;
– inside of elbows;
– skin between fingers;
– ears (blow slowly inside, touch the outline and the lobe);
– shoulders;
– feet;
– toes.

If she closes her eyes and opens her mouth while you approach your lips of hers: she thinks “kiss me, handsome”. Maintain the tension, kiss her, plunge your hand into her hair and accuse her of being too direct. You remain sensual by kissing her, (neck, ears, shoulders) until she is excited (fast breath, accelerated heart). Wait so that she applies sexually. Move back and let her come to you. Continue to smell her. You are patient… The anticipation is a very powerful weapon!

When you look at her in the eyes, slowly come to caress her lower lip which is slightly half-opened (do not kiss it directly) then, let her succumb. Do not put in the oven your tongue in her mouth, wait that she starts using hers then answer her. The kisses are maybe the only sexual practice when it is necessary to let her lead. Relax and follow her (imitate). After a while, it will maybe be necessary to unjam her by teasing her with your tongue.

Asking her before the kiss (indirect method) : “How much would you give to your kisses on 10”?

A way of caressing thanks to the NLP is to suppose that the person caresses you as she would like that one caresses her!

The girls of today still want as much sex as the girls before but there is a little more who assume it. The sex is a seller! Look at the youth who is inspired by exhibitionists like Lady Gaga either read the lyrics of the songs of Katy Perry (It is very sex-based generally). The fashionable songs are revealing as I make some good girls go bad or Girls just wanna have fun.

Knowledge on the excitement

The results of a study of Chivers et al. (2010) showed that the spirit and the body of the woman do not react necessarily in the same way as the man for who the sexual reactions of the body and the spirit are more in harmony. We can conclude from it that there is a kind of split between the body and the spirit of the woman.

Roughly, the guys when they are hard, they are hard… and that’s it. For the girls, on the other hand, a physiological excitement does not mean necessarily a psychological excitement. It is probably from there that the “last-minute resistance” comes : She is warm and then “oh darling, I am not ready”.

To reduce this gap, it is advised to expose the woman in more (in quantity) of sexual stimuli: the behavior, the voice, the decoration, the music (visual, hearing, kinesthetic…)

You hold her in your arms so as to be able to touch all the parts of her back. You remove slowly her top: you open one button then continue to kiss her. You unbutton the second then you mean caressing her hand by inhaling her neck then you caress her hair. Then her stomach, then you return to a previous stage as to French kiss her sensually. You have time because you are a dominant and then you like taking your time… In all the areas!

Caress her breasts then return to the stomach. Slide now your hands in her bra a moment then take it off. Return to a previous stage then kiss her tits, nipples… The following stage is the cunnilingus, indeed, if we insert a tongue or a finger, we are almost sure to be able to insert the penis. If she is wary, say ” I do not manage to be hard tonight, all what I want to do is licking you”. Do not go too fast with the preliminary. If she says that she does not want, disarm her verbally : abound in her direction with words but act differently “You are right, we are not going to take so much pleasure the first evening, it is not moral.” We demote ” We are going to content with what we did up to here”. We continue until have our way (and hers!) or until she seriously says “no”. Persist, it is virile and she will be satisfied. It is even very possible that she EXPECTS it from you. A real man knows what he wants !

YOU PERSEVERE BECAUSE YOU ARE DETERMINED.

Attention on the view of the condoms which can alert the part of her brain which tells her that she should not be so easy. Put it without making a story of it for example discreetly while you lick her and she will do the same (she will not pay attention to it). For that purpose, you can put it in the back pocket of your jeans.

When you kiss her, do not make the mistake of staying too long on her mouth. The neck, the shoulders, etc. Also use your hands to caress her or squeeze her! Finally, you can use other things than kisses: lick her briefly or nibble her friendly…

After sex

The next day, you have to phone her. Often, they want one-night stands but even if you want a serious relationship, sex is the best starting point which you can hope! If you are in “fuck friend”mode, avoid seeing her more than once a week, otherwise you would become a potential boyfriend (lesser risk). If you do not want to see her again anymore… well, call her all the same because you don’t want that she has what we call “the remorse buyer” (the impression of having being… fucked… but in the worst sense of the word). So, she can do it again with your flirty colleagues. We must show solidarity between PUA…

General lessons

The Resistances: always try to quickly understand where from come the resistances and to put it into words them. Ex : virgin ?

The sensualism and the feelings are always more important than the sex in itself. Do not overvalue the importance of effectively bedtime with her or not. It is more important to have a good emotional connection.

Do not trust what she tells and always test her sexual resistances.

A lot of women like being dominated.

A lot of girls say they are attracted by the girls.

Many girls like that we speak to them in a authoritarian way in the bed or even more dirty.

The use of the telephone (to warm her beforehand) to make the girl comfortable for a Xsome is redoubtable.

A girl can look very shy, and nevertheless be very warm in the bed.

To make a threesome, never ask for the opinion of the girl (because emotional > logic), agree with the guest, and test the reactions of the girl by putting her in front of the fait accompli. Some could say “no” if we put the idea into words but be very satisfied if the situation appeared “like that”.

A girl who says she doesn’t want to sleep the first night can be tempted all the same.

A woman who goes out of a break which she introduced may be more susceptible to be tempted by the novelty.

It is possible to put a frame of open-relationship from the beginning of the relation. It is even desirable. Indeed, establishing it afterward would be delicate.

The process of seduction is made step by step. When the stages were crossed, we can pass in the following stage directly without having to go back.

From the moment a woman invites you at her place, it is that she is motivated.

Do not go too fast and always try to put her comfortable. Don’t be too much in a hurry.

A girl who sets face at the time of the preliminary has few chances to come back.

Many girls are opened for Xsome.

The women are not always very faithful, even when they are in love.

Avoid going to girls who have animals because they are very jealous and aggressive if you have not a good feeling with animals.

Always indeed pay attention on the time you have to conclude.

Do not trust at once what she says when she says that she can’t do anything tonight.

After a long relation, and around thirty, certain women who suffocated in their couple do not especially look for a serious relationship.

Do not take her objections for ready cash.

Isolation is always important for passing of the social report in the intimate and sexual relation.

The preliminary are always very important for the women. The fact of kissing her tits allows to make her receptive and to give her urge to go farther.

The double massages with your wingman allow to introduce in a progressive way the Xsome (here 4some) while testing her sexual susceptibility.

The informal evenings between friends allow to get acquainted with the friends of your friends and to envisage more if respective affinities.

In spite of the fact that a woman is sexually very opened and freed, she can show herself very charming and loving.

Ideas of lines

What is a good lover for you ?

What are your favorite erogenous zones and positions?

Would you exchange your man for one night?

Do you like being kissed everywhere?

I kiss you everywhere, do you like it ?

How are you dressed today ?

I remove your trousers and then I start to kiss your legs, then I go back up. What do you feel?

I continue, and I approach your breeches, I remove it, and I start licking your clitoris with my tongue?

Posted on 27/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

The date in itself

For the date, avoid the moments when you cannot fuck her easily: after 8pm, it is good. Trick and cleverness : eat a little bit of dark chocolate before the RenDez-Vous, so you will be in a good mood. Make her spend a good time, make her want to know more about you. Share moments of laughter together, it creates links. Do not evoke possible quarrels “the past is behind us, I want to focus on the future”.

Where ?

Because it is her who has to enter your world (your reality), you choose the place. If the relationship progresses, it can change. Try to know her better before sleeping with her. Take the seat which is up against the wall, so, you will not have too much pain to get her attention. She will see you just you! Do not choose a too romantic place for the meeting, a coffee or a cheap brasserie. In the worst case, if you pay her something, that will not look very far and then with people around, she will feel safe.

Choose a place next to your place, like that, she will not too much have time to wonder if she is right to be along the way for the house of a man whom she has just met. Bring her in a place where people know you: at least she will see people who appreciate you (tips).

The touch

If the body of a woman demands the carnal pleasure, then her spirit will be emotionally involved. To touch her :
– The games like rock/paper/scissors;
– That one : you try to touch the hand of the opponent before he/she removes it;
– Touch her shoulder when you bend towards her ear to whisper a bullshit;
– Touch the hollow of her loins to lead her;
– If you feel that you can hold her hand, go on.

Some errors :

=> Do not come to a date with a friend

=> Do not join a girl who is with her friends

A – If they do not appreciate you, you would be blocked.
B – If they do appreciate you:

1) You could be perceived by her friends as a potential danger and they will not hesitate to put a spoke in the wheel to you. Other interested men are jealous and try to protect their territory (competition).

2) You could be perceived as a danger by her possessive friend, who is afraid that you monopolize her friend with whom she spends all her time. The women very show solidarity (hardship).

=> Do not join her if she has something planned one hour later

When the women have something planned after the date, it is not a very good sign. It means, that in advance, she does not give a lot of importance to you, and especially, that prevents you from having time to escalate afterward.

=> Do not wait if she is doing something before

It is a very bad plan to wait, even though she looks very confident on the phone, very motivated and very enthusiastic to see you. If she is not completely available to see you, it is better to postpone the meeting. It will avoid you having dates with several friends where you would be judged, dates botched for lack of time because she has something planned after, as well as waiting desperately that she calls you because she already has something planned, but that she does not know at what time it is going to end. Take advantage of the time which you will have released to see girls more available.

The objectives :

It is a question of going have a drink with your target to get acquainted, learn to better know each other. The RDV aims at presenting you with her, as well as at testifying of your sincere interest for her… Except sex (because yeah, it is better if there is at least one).

Preparation:

You go to your date well-dressed, you put a little bit of perfume, and you get ready to use all your trump cards of seduction.

Some rules to be followed:

=> Make an appointment with her next to your or her place

Think of the continuation. The logistics is very important. Give yourselves the possibility of suggesting her taking a last drink at your home with you. If she finds it too fast, she will not forget to tell it to you, and most of the women expect that you take initiatives. It is not « bad » ! Well, some would try to persuade you that it is, this is so a basic reaction of a girl totally uncomfortable in her own skin who doesn’t assume at all (hot in your back (in the mind everybody is) and cold in front of you).

=> Do not try to impress her

Take her rather in a place you know well, where you already know the card, even the staff, what will allow you to feel more comfortable. A simple and pleasant place is enough. It is especially a question of feeling at ease to be able to exchange and get acquainted. The place doesn’t have to be the center of interest of the meeting. It is your relation with her that you want to estimate first and foremost. Besides, it will allow you to invite her without too much having to make suffer your purse.

=> Control the atmosphere: music and lights

Choose a place where you can hear each other without having to shout. You have to feel at ease to speak. If you notice an element of atmosphere which can damage your conversation, choose another place. Put yourselves in a place where the light is flattering and convenient to the seduction. Avoid the whitish lights, and think of exposing yourselves in a place where the light is soft and will emphasize you.

=> Take place in your advantage

If there is a couch, be a gentleman, and suggest her sitting down first and foremost on. If you have the choice, prefer positioning back to the wall. It will limit her field of vision during the meeting, and she will not be perturbed by the other customers or the comings and goings of the other people behind you. Note that by experience, we make more easily a success of a RDV when we are one facing the other than one next to the other one.

=> Create some comfort

Contrary to the approach where you have to draw her attention and interest her enough so that she wants to see you again, the date has for objective to know each other. The conversation can thus be balanced in 50/50 (or 10-90 in her favor). On the other hand, you will have to remain a leader on the contents of the conversation, propose subjects, move on, and give a rhythm to your date to don’t be friendzonned.

Kiss at the first date if it is possible,
During the second it is good,
During the third, you are slow.

« The one who does not kiss in the first meeting is a gentleman, the one who does not kiss in the second is homosexual. »

Attention :
– One single ticket “standing you up”, not two.
– Do not wait for more than 20 minutes without news from her, have some self-esteem.
– If an interested girl cancels, she has to make a counterproposal.
– Don’t be a spare wheel on condition that she have nothing better to do that day! Do not become dependent on the goodwill and the humors of a single girl (they will sometimes try to persuade you that it is bad to keep their power).

The conversation

=> Classic questions: danger

The classic questions have maybe already been asked during the approach, but often we like to remember them during the first meeting. « How old are you? What do you do for a living? Where do you live? What are your origins ?» those classic questions are a part of what everybody is wondering when they meet an unknown. Then “Where do you work/study ?” Have you got brothers and sisters, if yes how many? And how old are them?”, and possibly for the mystic, the astrological sign, the Chinese sign, etc.. These small questions look harmless but can disqualify you straightaway.

How old are you ?

Ask how old she is first. The women do not generally love the too young or too old fellows with regard to her. To don’t take risk, estimate the margin of age which you have in more or less to move closer to what is on the right track and do not answer if that does not match (lying is on the other hand not ethic even if certain would deserve it: being obliged to lie to them for having sex… I prefer to try to be honest but it is true that some really look for it : that the guys become jerks… fuck them when they play their saintly hypocrites while they want to have orgasms. A strategy to don’t answer is to make her guess.

What do you do for a living ?

If you are unemployed, do not say it. The women do not like it generally. If you have a small job, embellish it a little. Give yourselves a little more status than you really have, without too much. It is a question that it remains credible. You just arrange a little the reality. Everybody does it, even her.

Where do you live ?

Through this question, she is going to know if you live alone or with your parents (outch) and where she will possibly spend her next weekends. The other questions are not really dangerous (except maybe things like politics, religion, etc.)

=> Personality’s questions

These questions are a little funnier and aim at knowing better the person and her personality. The objective is to learn to know each other while having fun. These questions are not questions of disqualification, but aim rather at establishing rapport with the person. There, you can leave free access with your imagination and ask more impertinent questions.

Examples:
– “Have you already dreamed erotic ? If yes, tell me…”
– “What did you want to do when you were a kid?”
– “How many men did you know in your life?”
– “How long lasted your last relation? How long was your longest relation?”
– “Did you already had fuckfriends ?”
– “Where did you travel yet?” Where you would want to go?”

Cold reading (speaking about her without asking her some questions).

The common interests are important for a chick: she has to imagine doing things with you, not each from his part (even if finally you will maybe just sleep with her). There is a desire of projection.

The sex

Find an innocent excuse to go at her place or yours. Once arrived safe and sound, make the technique of “one step back for two steps forward”. Make sure that she is relaxed and comfortable, it favors sex. Do not hesitate to use bad faith: “ouah who spoke about sex there?” and act like a sexual guy. Let’s go slowly, she has to realize that she has dirty ideas in mind and natural envy and that it is not a bad thing. Put into words nothing about your relation. No ultimatum like “either we are together, or nothing” or “either we have sex, or we never see each other again”.

Your Cyprinecave

Clean your house, make your bed. Create a selection of background music, invest in a sieved light (why not?) In brief, it is necessary to be ready for the action!

Spit-balling here

Always coming with a bottle in case the girl would have nothing at her place… A little drink of wine if she invites you at her place and she will be in a better mood (Muscat or rosé).

The hottest girls (or the most beautiful) are not necessarily the most venal.

From the moment, we have already gone in an instant date with a girl, it is useless to redo some comfort during the following date : in the second one, suggest her coming directly to your place.

Do not hesitate to get invited to have dinner.

Monday is a good day for the first dates (seriously, who has something better to do?!)

The passage by a neutral place to get acquainted is less justified for neighbors for example, given that you already know each other. We can thus mutually invite directly at home. It is sure that it is better to know a little bit the people before bringing them home, well, on the other hand we have more chances to be attacked by somebody that we already know than by somebody who don’t give a shit about us (statistics) But well, a minimum of distrust is a mother of security.

If you speak with a girl you like about cinema, suggest naturally going to see a film together the next day, for example. It would be necessary whether she is jolly acting in very bad faith to claim not having understood that it was a date.

Posted on 25/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

Why, when and how to call her back

Taking her number

It would be necessary that it doesn’t look too formal nor too serious ” I would like to drink a coffee, that would be nice that you come with me” (you are a cool dude). It would also be necessary that she has the impression that the Rendez-Vous will not last for a long time (lesser commitment at first then we see). “It was very nice to meet you but I have to go now, we could see again each other one of these days”. Approach rather the women alone in the street, and if they answer positively, take the number. It is you who dominate: if you do not seem to give it too much importance, she will do the same because she will think “this one does not look like a weirdo who is going to harass me every day during 3 months”. Avoid scheduling a date when you cannot have sex after… It is not to trap her, only to avoid frustrating both of you if the desire appears !

Utility to take her number (or her FB):

– To agree on a date (it is the official purpose) ;
– To test her (discover her level of interest for you according to her answers);
– To excite her to simplify the continuation (doing sex by telephone).

When to pick up the phone ?

Contrary to the ideas receipts, there is no rule on the subject. It is necessary to take into account the fact that you should not be thought of as excess applicant (needy), but also that she does not forget you, and that she can think of you and wonder why you did not call her back yet. The rule is however: it is better too early than too late (but attention “being excessive” can make you appear as “starved”)!

More we move forward towards the end of week, and the more the meetings tend to be postponed to the following week, because most of the time, she will have planned things the weekend with her friends, because you date only super popular girls. 😉

It is a good thing to take into account the rhythms of her days and weeks… but it is very subjective ! Cleverness is to call them back more or less at the same moment as when we took their number : they were available, there are chances that they still are.

After a date, two days seem a good compromise, because we can so see if it is not her who is going to call us meanwhile (she would so reveal a big interest for you and it would be won unless saying a bullshit).

How to call her back ?

Mindset : You impose nothing, you just do her the incredible honor to speak to her. Cleverness is to do something else while we call her to do not look too needy. Be friendly if you fall on one of her friends and don’t leave a message. Do not force the conversation, return naturally on what you spoke during your meeting (the cool things). That will put her back in the atmosphere!

As virile man, it is not necessary to remind her who you are nor where from you know her: she has to remember you (otherwise it is necessary to punish her)! Speak a small moment and fix a date “I am very busy at the moment especially with work and sport, but it would be nice to meet you around a drink. When are you are free ?”; “It was a pleasure talking to you”.

Do not say “call me when you want”. It is not good to look too available! ” I shall call you when I shall have time, we shall go to have a coffee”.” I am with somebody (mysterious), we watch a DVD, I call you soon and we talk again of it”. Or then if you want to lick her boots (if she is a little a LSE) try something like “call me / Propose me something and I shall make myself available”.

“It is too soon to say if I like you, we have to see again each other”.
” We should meet, we could become “friends””.
There is no way for her to refuse to be your friend even if she has a guy. And then, you seduce her…

If you do not know what to say in the first seconds, scan her quickly, to create some rapport with her. Example: “Hello, it’s ___, whatareyoudoing ?” It allows you to know if she is alone, or accompanied and if she is in a situation in which she can speak to you calmly (why not about sex). By text, that can be more discreet but well if she has a friend in front of her who distracts her, there are few chances that she touches herself and thus that she imagines “you giving her some pleasure”… rather than she shows your messages to her friend and that they make fun of you (thus be wary if she sends hot things in a disproportionate way).

You took her number and you know nothing about her. It is the moment to have a fast idea of you are going to meet again. On the menu, the classic questions, “You do you do for a living?”, “How old are you?”, and to tease her a little over the end, why not, “do you often give your number to unknowns in the street? ” As for myself, I don’t like the phone, and I don’t like the interrogations, thus I often ask a question then I make her talk and if she is interested it is often her who asks the boring questions. But it is convenient when we take a number hastily (in the street or on the Internet) to behave “normally” at first so that she sees that she does not have to deal with a “weirdo”. Indeed, if we act like a crazy guy, even if it is to have fun, she can be suspicious, and we cannot even really be mad at her. Let’s put ourselves a little in her skin!

Be attuned to all the elements in the conversation, and do not hesitate to introduce them into the conversation if they appear to you to have an importance. For example, if she answers you, and if she has a soft and tired voice, ask her if you do not disturb her and if she does not prefer that you call her back later. If she looks very satisfied and happy, tell her that you did not expect such a warm welcome, but that you like it.

If you hear one or more voices behind her, ask her if she is with a friend (do not forget that you are a confident alpha and not a jealous person and that you encourage her to have fun because then it will be with you héhé). Interacting in a global way in the conversation allows to create more rapport, and to better synchronize with her. According to her availability on the phone, the way she answers, it can be more or less relevant to propose her a date by text message later. The advantage to get her on the phone is to be able to feel directly in the tone of her voice if she is motivated, hesitating, or not at all interested (in this case, she can even not answer), and thus anticipate the last minutes cancellations, most of the time linked to a lack of motivation and concealed by a phony excuse. It will be necessary to calibrate or if it is too much effort for the reward which is not worth it you can give up and proudly break the interaction! Attention, there are also those who want to urge you to do so to don’t feel guilty for putting you a rake.

Some traps:

“Who r u ?” At this moment, it is not your humor which is going to change much (“toys r us”), she just wants to know if she is in touch with somebody she wants to see again or not, and you are certainly already on one of the two list (or will be soon).”

“She cannot answer! ” There are lots of reasons why she could not answer when you call her, among which the purely logistic reasons : her telephone has low battery, she is in class or at work…

“She does not want to answer you!” She knows that you want to propose her a date, but her personal situation is not clear. She finds you nice, but she still makes out in an unofficial way with her ex. She can also avoid answering or diverting the conversation as soon as you ask intimate questions or take initiatives… Either she is afraid for her image of good girl, or she is shy, or she is an attention whore, and does not dare, or it is dead for you and she is too kind to tell you so.

“No voicemail at the first call !” Give some time to yourself before leaving a message on which you could let show that her absence of answer affects you. Some like making the guys suffer, it is sad but that is the way the human being is, some have a little of power and that makes them freak out.

“Wait at least one hour !” If you call her back several times in a row, you risk to be perceived as very sticky and attached to her answer. If you decide to leave a message, do not prejudge reasons why she does not answer (the aggressiveness can call the submission but often calls the aggressiveness in return).

“Organize your contacts!” Place for example a Z in front of the first names taken hastily. All the girls who do not answer you for the moment will so be placed at the end of your telephone book, and you will not be tempted to try to call them back frequently (that would be making them too much honor and make you depreciate for them… at least they will not knock you too much down if you try to pick up one of their friends one day).

“Certain girls take time to answer and are very difficult to contact.” Always stay calm and think that they certainly have a logistic problem. Do not taking things personally allows to keep control and to do not depreciate pointlessly (Zen attitude).

“Always re-confirm the date that very day by leaving an exit to the girl to show her that she can cancel at any time.” Never suppose that everything is beforehand won. It allows to stay humble and to do not put her the pressure. Anyway nothing is beforehand won with the human being, and the flake is frequent.

“Do not worry if until the last moment, she does not answer her phone.” She is maybe simply busy, or missed the call… As for me, I am very difficult to contact with the telephone, because I don’t like that, and nevertheless I am rarely against an interesting meeting or an adventure out of the ordinary.

The fact that she is not contactable does not necessarily mean that she is not motivated or that she does not want you in fact. But all the same, we can well ask her this small effort! So, that is not useful to harass a girl, a motivated chick will call back you except force majeure and otherwise it would finally be too much a headache.

The texts

You can play with words (ambiguity) and on the waiting time between your messages.
Respect the same rules as previously studied in the class on the state of mind.
Evitez de laisser plus de trois messages sans réponse (amour propre).

My other article on the subject: here.

Posted on 23/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

The rules of the wingman

The interest of wingmen ?

Learning : if your Game still doesn’t work, stay positive and continue to learn. A good thing is to meet the other good “seducers” of your city. Remain humble and cool and learn by practicing with a wingman.

Complicity : good routines with an accomplice allow to feed a nice conversation, to bring some positive energy, etc.

The social proof : the social network is important during a phase of seduction. Your friends will have a positive or negative impact depending on their behavior.

When we arrive in a bar (except the HQ bar), we do not generally know either the population or the place. People who are new in a place are going to trust the behavior of the group which surrounds them : in the doubt, “we think what everybody thinks”.

A good PUA can play with that by showing to a woman that he is already recognized as somebody interesting by the other persons around him.

Why a man leaned alone at the bar will convey at once the image that he has no friends? The bar becomes the universe and because he is lonely in this universe, we think that he is all the time alone even outside. Principle of association. Nevertheless, it is possible that he is very nice but seen by far, we have the impression that he would better make be friends, this poor guy.

It is the same thing which makes that the barman or the waiter become stars of the place : everybody speaks to them or smiles to them.

Choose people who respect you because more they will respect you and more they will strengthen your social place in the places where you will go. And you will bring your value with you.

The pivot: he or she is useful for getting into a group (thus by using a person who will not be the final target). We can use for example a co-pilot girl (beautiful, and you will thus become interesting by default – preselection (an interesting dude hangs out with hotties and not with fat girls)) either somebody who is in no way in the confidence.

Technique of the co-pilot : “did you meet my friend ___ ?” to break the ice.

The rules of the wingman :

Rule n°1 : The pilot approaches the group and invites the co-pilot in the conversation.

Rule n°2 : The pilot chooses his target and there is no competition. Only if it is dead for him with the girl, the wingman can attack.

Rule n°3 : You mutually make rise your value by saying positive things about the other one. You try to neutralize the cockblock threat.

Posted on 22/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

Simple, direct and fast seduction

Simple, direct and fast seduction Interest: The pleasure is in the suspense which can happen between the moment there when we try an approach and the results which we obtain from it… It is a game at which we can only win!

10 errors relative to the approach

There is not really a way of approaching which works better than the others (except using the touch or other techniques of persuasion), however some errors must be avoided :

1) You should not not approach : « she is in a hurry, you are badly dressed… » : The report is there, the men are afraid of approaching the women. That it takes 3 seconds or 3 minutes, the important is to become used to speak to unknowns in a natural and relaxed way to develop a social ease. The important is to convey the image of somebody reassured and to show that we are not dangerous, that we are not a beggar and that we are not here to annoy the person. Approaching is not disturbing at all if it is done in a subtle way. It works more than we would want to believe it. It is not rude. It is necessary to dare!

2) You should not approach from behind: like the traitors and the murderers. It is a social and conditioned reflex. You meet a beautiful woman, you have a eye contact, you go back on your steps, you will not especially run and you put yourselves next to her to be able to approach her in a correct way.

3) You should not run after her : It is necessary to stop after having “approached” her. It is going to reassure her, she is not going to say to herself : that one is going to pursue me, etc. And, it is also interesting because it allows to break off momentarily and to bounce at once on what we have to tell her. Do not forget to smile: you are here for the pleasure and to have a friendly social interaction.

4) You should not be heavy or insistent: It is not because we took our courage in two hands to approach her that she owes us something. If she spends her way, leave her and attend to our activities. To whistle for the women and go out in a group of 15 do not work, and the famous “I wondered if your father was a thief because he took all the stars of the sky to put them in your eyes”, either. It is necessary to know how to persevere but not be heavy.

That reminds me the Coach of Marseille who had approached a girl on the street, she had answered “I have a boyfriiiiiiend, classic) and he had pursued her “yeah but if you had no boyfriend would you want? some say that I have beautiful eyes, do you confirm? “…

5) You should not recite a text by heart: That would only serve to be thought of as the weirdest man of the year. There is no magic formula: every situation must be taken with a minimum of spontaneity. For example, simply tell her that she has something out of the ordinary and suggest her verifying that around a coffee.

6) You should not speak too fast, too hardly, to falter and eventually be incomprehensible: The key is the breath. Do not hesitate to lower the flow of the words. The silences are useful to support ideas, they are moments when it is necessary to strengthen the atmosphere which emanates from the discussion. Use these whites and make it trump cards.

7) You should not not assume: We are here to seduce her, you try to get her number, to see again her and more if affinity. Never apologize for having had the boldness to have come approaching her even if you made one of the 10 mistakes. Especially, do not hide behind an a little bit conceited character by trying to impress her : it is old-fashioned, while the approach is anyway already rather impressive in itself.

8) You should not not take her number but giving yours: A woman who gives you her number is a woman who wants to know a little more about you. If she takes your number, it is a polite phrase to say that she will not call you back, that you were not effective enough over the moment. If she is interested, she will give you her number. Idea of answer: “according to a study carried out, unfortunately 90 % of the women who take your number will not call you back”.

9) You should not verify the number: It would show that we are not confident and that we doubt that one can give us a real number. But that can be funny also to confront her with a false number. We can feign a small error on certain numbers: “it is 79 well at the end?”, “no, it is 89”. To consume in moderation because the purpose is to detect them before, these false numbers.

10) You should not not accept the refusal: Good news, the studies are unanimous, there is more than 3 billion women on Earth. Furthermore, a woman approached on the street who rejects you does not reject YOU but the images you conveyed. A woman who rejects you: do not take it personally, she cannot know your values, what makes that you are “you”, in 30 seconds. Laugh at it. To please everybody, it is to please whoever. It is impossible to reach a 100 % success rate. Make your own experience and enrich your culture of the seduction by the practice.

How to take the number of a woman

The direct proposal: Suppose that the meeting was great : interaction without tear and woman who waits that we take her number. Ask her or take out your mobile and give it to her, she will understand that it is necessary to put her number in it.

Do not take her number and do as if we had already taken it : If the interaction took place very well “we shall go drinking a coffee next week or see such exhibition.” If we leave from the principle that it is already won “Oh, but you don’t have my number?!”

The alternative: If we feel her feverish as for the choice to give or not her number: “I suggest you going to drink a coffee in a terrace or to drink a cappuccino and to see an exhibition”. The fact of leaving her two choices is going to encourage her to select what arranges her (feeling of freedom).

The regret : Make her understand that it would be a pity that she does not give you her number: “this kind of situation manages little and meeting the good person rarely happen”. ” You know how it works: if no affinity, no affinity, thus that sincerely commits to nothing”.

The supplement: The interaction took place well and cherry on the cake: tell her at the time of taking her number « btw, I didn’t tell you yet, I am a very good masseur or a cook or I have a jacuzzi ». It is a funny bonus. It will encourage her to give you her number.

The conditional conclusion: If she goes out of a difficult break and is not ready for a new relation, make her understand that we shall not ask for her in marriage nor will put her constraints. You do not oblige her to undertake to do something with you : “well, listen, we should see again each other because we have fun together, we foresee nothing, we simply try to see again each other and to enjoy a good moment”.

The recapitulation: Recapitulate the moments which took place well : « Usually I do not take the number of the violent girls (if she pushed you aside during the evening, for example) but with you it is different. What I am going to do it is that I am going to take your number and we shall go to drink a coffee next week. »

The yes successive: “Yes” engender positive. « Did you like this party? Yes. Do you like having fun? Yes. Are you bored and laugh at weird guys who approach you badly on Saturdays evenings? Yes. Do you like chocolate? Yes (99 % of the women). Then all this is very well, we shall go drinking a coffee next week ». If she answers “no” to provoke us, ignore it and take out all the same the mobile as if she had said ‘yes’ because anyway, she is in a positive emotional state which will encourage her to give you her phone number.

Taking the number or the e-mail ?

The results are appreciably the same. The e-mail is less intrusive and she will give it more easily because when they give their number to a stranger, they are afraid of being harassed night and day; taking the email (or the FB) during a night out is less connoted “pick up” whereas the number is more symbolic.

Planning to see again or meeting on the spot?

It is very exciting to go out with someone we’ve just met: everything can arrive! To privilege thus but it depends especially on possibilities of the one and on the other one. Taking several numbers can be interesting also because those who will release themselves easily to see you again will clearly be interested: it allows to make a sorting!

How to avoid most of the rakes ?

Ask for the number only if you have her immediate assent: you suggest doing something and if she does not look like “yessss good idea” or if she does not talk about taking your number, the situation looks complicated. She can also be shy. When you have the number, chat even some seconds and then you leave to do not spoil everything! My thing it is to give them my number, like that, I know that those who call me back are motivated. The bad thing is that it obliges them to make an effort to send the first message, thus I lose some along the way but well I so less complicate the things for me.

Lessons of trying to pick up :

The direct approach in a store is effective, if the girl is alone.

The foreigners who have just arrived are safe bets.

The age is often a criterion of disqualification: attention to calibration.

Do not hesitate to approach a girl who waits, even if it is for a date.

The personality tests allow to make the shiest and the most reserved girls talk.

Tell her that her answers let think that she has no barriers on her sexuality, that she likes making ceaselessly new meetings, and that she is willing to share. If she does not deny, the night is going to take a form which will suit you.

Always qualify her on grounds where she does not feel at ease. Example: “I speak 5 languages”; “Ah yes, and do you speak Russian?”; “No, I tried to learn”. Always urge her to justify, to put her in a frame of qualification.

When we go night-clubbing, the probability to fall on set of 2 is strong. In this case, opt for the jealousy between the friends by alternating conversation with the one, then with the other one. They will agree to part if each finds some benefit there.

If a girl tells you for example that she was a model, pretend to be used to it and don’t to be impressed.

The fact of being a little bit distant and sometimes to try to pick up openly the friend can also amplify the attraction. The probability is strong in a seduction of two girls at the same time that the girls agree at a moment or another on who will have the priority on the other one. The double game cannot last eternally.

We can meet and sleep with the friends of our friends from the moment everybody agrees, from the moment we assume from the beginning what we want and what we don’t want.

When there is competition, like during a party with friends, do not hesitate to be very reactive to not be doubled.

A girl who stays in a social circle can very well be opened for several adventures in the same circle from the moment she does not feel judged as an easy girl.

The dance is always a way to make rise the temperature to seduce.

The most attractive girls are not the most difficult. The beautiful and sexy girls are not the most difficult but the most unavailable on the other hand, often yes!

The direct approach is effective in big cities. Do not hesitate to put into words the state of mind in which we are when we approach her and to say why we approached her.

The fact that she has free time always justifies to spend some time with her.

Efficiency of the routine: “how could we seduce if we could not speak ?”

The approach asking feminine opinion on the affairs, her emotional past or the meetings in a general way is adapted to approach groups, and when we are with a wingman. It allows to create a little debate and to make react on subjects which directly affect them.

Talking about the way we pick up during a meeting is well perceived and allows to create an immediate rapport. The fact of putting into words what we think, and what we do allows to justify the approach as well as to show our intentions, without necessarily showing too much interested, while remaining funny.

In nightclub, we can approach by simply testing her reactions to touches.

A woman can very well be very motivated over the moment, and rationalize the next day and don’t be anymore in the same state of mind. And conversely, insisting in the trying to pick up can lead you far if you are ready to wait one month, or one year or more..!

The problem of emotional availability is very important and is to be taken into account in the seduction.

Always look relaxed and positive whatever is the situation. Don’t showing yourself emotionally affected by indicators of indifference allows to keep in touch with her.

Approaching at the end of the party just before leaving a place is very effective.

Attention on the game of the assumed womanizer. Generally, it tends to make the conclusion more difficult.

Do not hesitate to approach whatever is the situation.

Always look for the simplest logistic solution when the girl is attracted: try to return her at your place if you can.

The first girl approached is not necessarily the definitive target of the party.

The number 1 obstacle in “night pick up” remains by far the competitors. For example, the jealous persons who act like if they were her friend.

The sense of observation is crucial when we want to seduce a girl.

It is very important to know how to approach at the right time, to avoid useless resistances.

Approaching at the end of the night is often paying, because there is a certain shape of tension (from the moment there were eye contacts) and create, besides, a certain shape of mystery.

Certain women are easier than others.

The fact that she can take you for another one can be an advantage in the approach.

The errors to be avoided during a quick taking of numbers (assembly-line work) :
– No compliments on the physical appearance (to justify the taking of number).
– No conversation on the sex to begin (alert to the pervert = risked).
– Do not approach women you don’t like (spontaneity, body language).

Even if she phones, approach her and if she hangs up it is good.

Suggest going have a drink or explain her that you cannot in fact and exchange your phone numbers.

The approaches have to be done quickly.

If you exchange eye contacts, it has to give you confidence.

Let’s go with self-assurance, straight ahead towards her.

Touching slightly her arm is a way of making her turn around.

When the previous approaches did not work, try again. They can be stupid, gays, upset over the moment, etc..

When you approach, accelerate the walk but avoid seeming too breathless.

Shaking hands with her or giving her a kiss starts a dynamics according to which you can touch each other.

With the foreigners, you can and sometimes even must continue in English.

If she is alone, settle down with her.

Do not stare too much at her tits, etc.

Suggest showing her places to go out.

If you wait for her for example at the exit of a store, she does not have to see that you wait for her.

If the girls work, contact them only when they are alone (bothered?). Say that there will be no problem for the work.

If you see the time go by, it is a very good sign.

Being attracted by a girl and feeling a part of reciprocity in a context where it is very difficult to take action, is something at the same time very attractive and very frustrating.

We are often confronted with this type of situation where we would like to take action, but where the context is not adapted because of the social consequences and of the other people’s opinion. On the other hand, where there is a critical and crucial point in the interaction, it is that you should not miss the moment when there is this possibility of action which appears.

It is not because she has a boyfriend, that she is going to not cheat on him.

In a park (and in a general way) position strategically between two groups of attractive girls, and look at them from time to time…

Approach before her friend arrives.

If for example she speaks in a loud voice to say that there are not available tables anymore. Jump at the opportunity and say that it is going to empty.

Ask for what she drinks and go to the bar to order the same thing. If she invites you to come back speaking to her, let’s go.

A girl does not use consciously techniques of seduction but knowing some can allow you to spot the girls who are in attitude of seduction.

She dances with a friend on the floor. Pass in front of her and take her hand, if she hangs on it: let’s go.

Indirect approach: ask her what she thinks about the party.

Breaking the ice: say that there is a lot of people, that it is warm, etc. The commonness is your friend in this context.

Talk to her in the ear, and at the same time take her hand. Pull her towards you to isolate her, but if she hangs on as by gravity to the attraction of the group, stay near the group and dance with her.

If she is motivated, to such a point that when you put her a finger in the mouth, she sucks it strongly: intend then to conclude on the same evening.

Touching her by chance or making touches with pretexts will strongly help you: dare.

Attention if you present a girl whom you have just approached to a guy, he can compete with you.

If the happy hours goes well, invite her to come to have dinner later.

Taking photos can draw the attention of a group, do not hesitate to strike up a conversation. Taking a photo with somebody can also be an excuse to ask for her Facebook and phone number or boost the conversation.

Reading the lines of the hand and other games are useful (buy a specialized book).

Eye contact is essential, do not come out from nowhere.

If a guy takes initiatives and that she rejects him friendly, the way is clear…

Take advantage of public transportation to sit next to the attractive girls.

If there are people all around, make a sign discreetly to say that you want to talk to her.

Problem of perception- womanizer = involuntary everyday acceptance of the interaction. If you overplay the habit, she will not feel unique any more.

If she has earphones (alone, bored?), make a sign to tell that you want to speak to her.

Simple and direct = you assume = original.

If she seems to read over your shoulder or to look at what you are doing, imply her “it is NLP, do you know it?”

Invite your neighbours.

Tease them if they do or talk nonsense.

When we approach a girl on the street, we know very quickly into what is going to turn the meeting on the other hand when we see the girl every day, we can take our time.

If you do not stop her, there are chances that she disappears forever.

Girls on a bench can be bored. Approach them!

You can wrongly disqualify your desires for sex, do as if that came from her. That she has a dirty mind.

A kind is only a preference because the attraction is independent, it is a physical and emotional answer to your personality.

You have to find your style, and if you change it, it is because YOU want it.

No technique works with all the girls. But ask for her first name!

Because of a misunderstanding that can happen, only because you dared!

The simplest catch phrases (openers) are probably the best.

Ideas of lines :

Hello, I just wanted to speak to you.

Would you like to go having a drink later ? (showing her your phone)

Would you like to go having a drink now?

Would you like to prolong the night with my friend and me ?
Well ! What did you do tonight ?
What will you do now, except going to bed alone and contemplate your walls. Would you like to have a drink elsewhere ?

Hello, Do you recognize me ?
Listen, now, I have not a lot of time, because I have to join a friend (do not say “a girl friend”), but if you want, we can have a drink later.

Would you like to come eating with us ?

We’re leaving, but I noticed you, and that would please me to have a drink with you later.

Hello, could you remove your sunglasses please?
Sunglasses are annoying, we cannot know if the person likes us, and in addition I heard that everything passes through the eyes.

Hello, I find you attractive (if the time is really counted in seconds.) A number?

No, I cannot, I have to see a friend.
=> All right, we can see each other later if you want.

Hello, I found you nice, would you like to go having a drink?
Ah well, because it would be nice. Where are you going? We could have a drink and discuss…

What are you doing tonight ?

You give me your number ?
All right, but on a single condition…
You call me tonight…

(Game of the oracle) Mobile, oh mobile, tell us who is a very good lover in the bed?

(Opinion – chat) Hello, I think that the women lie more than the men.

Hello, my girlfriend has just left for Egypt with her ex. What do you think about it, girls ?

Posted on 19/10/201415/06/2023 by Fabrice Julien PUA — Leave a comment

Strategy of seduction (inspired by the Mystery method)

Because there are many different methods of seduction, and sometimes complementary . Because we cannot become a PUA without having heard, at least, of the 3 main ones (the fast seduction which is the one I practice in my diary, the seduction through communication like Ross Jeffries and the Mystery Method). Because my “feeling” method does not correspond to the needs of everybody, some needing to follow “rules”. I am thus going to speak to you about the approach and about its “rules” (that I do not like respecting but it is necessary to know that they exist) established by the community of the seduction.

Definitions :

Direct approach: We assume directly our interest for the target.
Indirect approach: We do not assume directly our interest for the target.
Passive seduction: the way you seduce with your appearance.
Active seduction: what you are doing in an aware way to seduce.

The objective :

The objective is to conclude, not to pick up just for the act of picking up.

Maximize your chances :

Pick up everywhere: in the street, in the subway, in nightclub, on the Internet, at the office, in the plane, on the beach…

You can date every kind of women of any origins (according to your tastes): students, working, who live with their parents or alone, idealists, venal, adorable, selfish, independents, solitary persons, sociable and especially in every kind of context. However, be careful, their intellectual level can influence the interaction.

The plan of classic trying to pick up (inspired by the Mystery method)

The initiation of the rapport (pre-required) :

During a meeting it is the woman who introduce the communication in 90 % of the cases, but in an informal way: by her way of being, her posture, her eyes.

Instinctively, the man is afraid and prefers coming by the side or from behind to approach a woman. He skips into her back and dances behind her in the club, it is the failure, generally.

The very beautiful girls frighten the men.

The ideal discussion, it is you who start it, you manage to be pleasant for her then you give her the relay. When she speaks finally more than you, it is won. At first it is M90-10W, then 50-50. A woman appreciates afterward to be listened even if it will very often belong to you to strike up a conversation.

One of the keys here is to use the body language to detect the women who are free and opened for a meeting. A single woman often looks around her to watch the beautiful men, she is bent on her chair, smiling, she does not focus only on her group of friend. She eyes during a few seconds the men in the room.

Etc.

The emotion :

Three emotional levers which can make the woman answer favorably:
– The sensation that your value is equal or superior to hers :
– The sensation that she is unique for you, that she deserved your attention ;
– The sensation of comfort and connection with you.

The basic plan :

1. Attraction => 2. Comfort => 3. Seduction

1 – The attraction :

1.1 Approach or opening = > 1.2 Demonstrate a higher value + show an indifference for the target + the target shows indicators of interests for you = > 1.3 The target is more engaged in the interaction + reward her efforts with indicators of interests

Do not approach only the women alone but also the groups (feeling of security for them). The attractive girls are rarely alone…

Before opening have a good time, have a confident body language.
Use your body to convey confident signals.

The simple opening (approach to attract and hold attention) :

– The opening (opener) by the advice (authority + advice) ;
– The opening by the opinion (make the woman invest + no demonstration of interest) ;
– The opening by the drama (emotional statement + short story) ;
– The opening by the compliment (not physical + authentic) ;
– The opening by the destabilization (fake compliment + authentic) ;
– The opening by the humor (funny + subject which strikes up a conversation) ;
– The opening by the context (open according to the present situation, the reactivity).

Remember that it is not so much what you say which matters but how you say it. Then have a strong presence (body language). Be spontaneous (wait for no more than 3 or 5 seconds before approaching a girl you like and if you can maintain her EC while approaching).

The opening of a group (to attract and to hold attention + acceptance by the group) :

If your target is in a group, open all the group. Do not then show signs of interest, be indirect in your opening. Be captivating, people have to feel involved in your opening.

In a group, you will have to be validated by all the group because the others are obstacles which will slow down you or will totally block you.

Demonstrate a high value to everybody + indifference for your target = > she should give you indicators of interest

Two rules:
– Never approach your target in 1st.
– Talk to the “leader of the group”. Idea: it is often the man… Not necessarily a competitor, it can be her roommate, her brother, etc.

In summary:
– Find a group ;
– Determine your target ;
– Determine the obstacles ;
– Determine the leader ;
– Approach the leader ;
– Be accepted ;
– Open on the target.

High value + indifference = interest of the woman for you :

Mix the demonstrations of high value and the destabilizations by being the most neutral and authentic possible. Demonstrate a high value to the group while showing a temporary indifference for the target. By way of result, the target is going to show indicators of interest to you.

Destabilize her :

Certain men persist in playing the nice boys to try to seduce. But if we observe from a feminine point of view it does not sub-communicate dominance but a seek for approval: It is typical, boring, predictable, monotonous …

To destabilize her (creating a curiosity), tease her on something (be careful with that):
– Use her appearance (ex: her shoes).
– Tell her that she sputters, that she has something in the nose.
– Tell her that she talks a lot.
– Ask her to pay you a drink.

It is going to invert the roles IE she is going to wonder if you have a good impression of her or not. Be as neutral and authentic as possible (be sincere, natural and nonchalant) in your destabilizations, do not overdo it and avoid doing them on a provocative tone or with a woman who is not confident enough to handle it. This is why with this method it is necessary to aim at the beautiful girls otherwise at the time of the indifference she is going to say to herself “another jerk who is not interested in me” rather than “but why that one doesn’t try to have me”). Do not especially settle a frame of conflict (not easy), just try to prick in lively her curiosity so that she lowers her defenses and wants to speak with you. It is powerful, it can turn a “neutral” behavior into “interested”.

Demonstrations of high value :

Do not beg the women, do not brag, it would demonstrate you try to bridge the negative gap there is between you and a beautiful woman (you < her). You have to demonstrate on the contrary a higher value, for example by sub-communicating protection, some security and power (confidence, social power, preselection)

Having a lot of money, for example, can increase your value if she discovers it on her own, but not if you use your money to try to impress her. Keep in mind that only a person of lower value tries too hard to impress.

Demonstrations of high value:
-Be preset by other women ;
– Be a leader of men(people) ;
– Be interesting and funny ;
– Encourage and protect those who are close to you ;
– Be non-affected negatively and little positively (not too much enthusiasm) ;
– Have a social intelligence ;
– Demonstrate some indifference for beautiful women who have not deserved you yet ;
– Have a sense of humor and know how to stimulate emotionally ;
– Know your limits and when to break a report.

The frame :

The frame of the woman if you buy her a drink in a bar for example sub-informs that SHE is the reward (prize). On the contrary, you have to redefine the sense of the interaction:
– You are the prize ;
– She tries to win you ;
– You will sleep together if she(it) corresponds to your criteria.

Make the target more committed :

The importance of introducing several threads of discussion and to not stay always on the same subject : create a sensation of familiarity, like if you were old friends.

At first: speak, lead the interaction, stimulate…

You have to stop the boring threads of discussions like her ex.

Use the stories to convey good feelings: funny and interesting, not necessarily extraordinary. Take advantage of it to inform subtly that you are a social leader, etc. When you tell a story, keep in mind that women use mainly their right brain, siege of the sensations and the feelings while for the men it is the left which dominates (analytical and rational). Scientifically, it is not sure, but it helps in seduction to keep it in mind. Use adjectives, silences, expressions, your interlocutor has to express interest otherwise do not go on. Trick : insist on how you felt over the moment. Attract by showing your humanity (reactions to the life). Put details, try to determine her favorite system of representation (visual/auditory/kinesthetic). To improve, train to tell commonplace events in an interesting way!

Role plays (short and funny).

Make false disqualifications (“You are too kind to me” or “Our relationship will not work, you are too kind”).

Qualification: you are a valuable man thus she has to validate for you. Be curious about her but subtle. The dominant male is selective!

Connection :

We cannot create connection alone. She has to play the game. Make her focused on the present moment, she has to get involved and listen carefully.

Make her speak and listen: encourage the woman to show yourselves that she is worth it. She has to make efforts! Remain silent and do not show your feelings. Be quiet and serene: ask a question and let her fill the “space”. Ask her a question which will bring a validation: her effort will urge her to play the game with you, and your act will generate an attraction because only a confident person can ask something.

Be authentic : When you ask “how are you?”, your language of the body must not communicate “you don’t mind if I speak with you ?”.

The smile : She has to win your smile. “What is your name?” ” Julie! ” (Smile) : if we smile before she answers, it is because we are needy.

The true meaning : If you tell a story about your “friend”, she will wonder if it is not you in fact. Do not tell negative things to don’t be associated with.

Do not show desperate interest :

Especially, do not force the conversation (interrogation, series of questions), do not ask closed questions for which you would obtain just one word in return; wait rather that she says something who deserves a real interest.

Either, do not try to force common points for example: “I go in for sport”, “me too”. Use rather the humor “do you never want a good pizza after? Yummy”.

Something else, do not overdo it at the beginning of an interaction: you should rather joke, tell stories and she has to make an effort there. Establish a unique interaction.

Your interest for the obstacles (AMOG or COCKBLOCK) or for the women has to be a sincere interest otherwise you would demonstrate a low value. Best is to be sociable and nice with everybody.

Instead of approaching the women by asking questions which answer does not interest you, ask for interesting things or be a little provocative. No need to have a deep philosophic but original, different, interesting conversation…

Ask her questions on the sensations she feels.

Be indirect in what you say, but direct in what you do : do not lose sight of your objective. Alternate the warmth and the cold: indicators of interest and indifference.

The kinesthetic escalation :

We start at the very beginning by touching her and we escalate little by little. While you stimulate emotionally, while you control the frame, while you create a connection, you will see appearing opportunities to tactilely escalate. If you miss them, you will communicate a lower value. Take the initiative: decide where and when the physical contacts will happen. Brake or break the contact the first one if possible.

Bulk ideas: hands which touch, hand in hand, smelling her hair, kissing her, hand on the knee, the arm around hips, etc. Take initiatives…

Touching the hand is essential: squeeze it to get acquainted, read the lines of the hand, the battle of thumbs, make her turn on herself, etc. She so becomes used to your touch which must seem natural and normal for her. She has to believe that it takes place without you tried something. Trick is to do so that it is her who introduces the contact: by putting her hand on your arm instead of putting your hand on the arm. Control the duration of the touch, manage the intensity, find the point of resistance. Do not concentrate either your attention or hers on touches. Giving an indicator of indifference before a touch will help it to be more favorably received.

In the highest levels of the escalation, the women are programmed to give signs of resistance. It is a reaction to avoid feeling “easy”. She wants that things take place but she wants that they happen in a right way. So, if for a test, you caress with your finger along the thighs and remove it suddenly, she can feel a disappointment or a need but will not object because the touch left (and it’s good enough for her because she so doesn’t look like a whore who is touched by a guy).

The compliance tests :

– Take her hand and drop it to see if she will take it back.
– Touch her and observe if she touches you in return.
– Put her hand on your knee to see if she removes it or not.
– Put her between your legs while you speak with her.
Etc.

If you ask to a woman to get up and that she does not want: she is not attracted by you. In this case: signs of indifference + demonstration of high value; then try again!

(1) Indicator of indifference => Demonstration of high value
=> if she shows some indifference => (1)
=> if she shows interest => compliance test
=> if positive test => you give indicators of interest and indifference at intervals
=> if negative test => (1)

Reward her efforts by showing your interest : You have to qualify her from time to time, in particular when she does something to try to seduce you, that she feels that you like her. Qualify her by the body language or by the words. The state of mind is “I guess that you are nice you, I am curious about you”.

2 – The comfort

Creation of the Comfort = > 2.1 Conversation = > 2.2 Connection = > 2.3 Intimacy

Conversation and connection :

Even if you were mutually interested, you know each other since justa few minutes. Have a funny, natural conversation, on several threads of discussion. She will have to remember later how much it was pleasant. So that she wants to see you again, she has not only to be invested a lot, but to feel a real connection between the two of you.

If she does something which disturbs you, at this moment do not disqualify her like in the attraction: remove temporarily your attention and you will return towards the comfort by showing a sign of interest when the situation will appear. She will regret having knocked you, will see that you can also not return the knocks, and will be in position of weakness…

Put into words the idea of kissing her then disqualify it: she has to realize that she is more comfortable with your touches than without. If she comes back, you can kiss her.

Intimacy :

The place where you meet her is not maybe the ideal: too many people, or music, etc. If the place is not good enough, lead her towards a place of creation of the comfort. Find a pretext so that she follows you and isolate her, do as if this change of place was not so important for you (bring her for example in a dark corner where her friends cannot see you). When it will be rather comfortable, you can decide to take her towards an even more private place. Trick : put your hat on the head and ask her to follow you. She will have to follow you to give you the hat back.

You can then use tests of conformity: take the hand and release a little to see if she tightens it.

The first zone of comfort: not very far, possibility of having a dialogue in peace.

Try to arrange an appointment before leaving her; take her number or her email.

3 – Seduction

It is when the woman feels enough comfortable to make a commitment in a more sexual behavior (after the kiss).