Where to find women ? Seriously ? I would have been able to content with writing “everywhere” (to save time) and with going elsewhere doing other things like pulling my cat’s tail, watching Daredorm or sending naughty texts to all my female contacts. But well… I was told in first grade that it is always necessary to develop my answers.
There is one thousand one ways to meet the soul sister (or a fuckfriend)… then do not wait passively that the others introduce her to you (it would be a bonus). Certain men have more success in a type of meetings rather than in the other one : You do not know in advance with which method(s) you will be the most comfortable so try (who had believed it) ! Just like you will not know if you like the blanquette of tata Ginette before having tasted it. And just like you will ignore if you like doggystyle, licking her pussy or being suck on her kneels in a public place before having tried. Multiplying the means and thus the meetings = maximizing your chances…
– The classic meetings : We can meet women in the shops of clothes, bookshops, cafes, universities, laundries, grocer’s shops, department stores, banks, the public transports, parks, etc. Either with cold approaches, or by having had before a EC maintained some seconds. ( If she maintains more than three seconds, you have a moral obligation to go there (because yes they are more discreet than us but some assume all the same)).
– Dating sites (or even the social networks): the experimented PUA, generally, do not like this process (except me because I don’t give a shit for appearances): you will thus not be in competition with them. It is an easy way to meet women because the rejects will just be some words on a screen or an absence of answer and you can more easily seduce her because you will directly reach the first meeting. The problem is often the misleading advertising (I speak about photos) and the state of mind of the chicks (too much clamped, looking for love like in the movies, or then too much sexually crazy like “lick my feet”). The principle that the experimented PUA doesn’t like, in fact, it is to have to pay to seduce women (what is logical because it is them who win the most at it in that case because most of the others guys are just suckers…).
– In the street: the most difficult exercise because the target is in movement. Knowing if she is inclined to meet and to convincing her that you are interesting in some seconds requires a lot of competence and tact. Seducing her by speaking to her about her dog (or having a dog yourself) either an accessory or then take out an opener completely randomly. It is necessary to have a great deal of social freedom to manage to do that, and is needed a minimum of open-minding for the girl to accept, especially that where I live, when the fellows approach it is more often to rob than to give orgasms. The universe of the possible is infinite there according to on whom you fall, it is what makes the pepper of it.
– The speed dating : The pickup is a story of quantity and number, and it is not so important after all. It is necessary to target the kind of people which goes to this kind of things… There are often opportunities to fuck, but the eternal question is asked “why do they need this kind of things if they are quality chicks?” Because there are quality chicks (yes yes sometimes), like on the dating sites, some lost further to a coincidence.
– The marriages: easy line : “how did you meet the married ?” Besides, they are in the atmosphere. The problem is there are chances that everything is repeated and deformed to your common friends.
– At work: it is a common point, we are in contact every day during hours, sometimes in conditions of cooperation. Do not make too many efforts to meet women at work (harassing) but be susceptible in their calls (without letting them illusions if you do not want a couple otherwise attention on the bad atmosphere after… I remind that jerking at all costs is not a state of mind of Alpha). There are always some co-workers whom we would fill more gladly than the paper machine.
– Blind dates : it is when two persons who do not know each other but who are recommended by common friends go on a date. More intimate than the meals with three or four people where they would have the impression to hold the candle. It is cool especially if your friend in common recommended you as a good lover.
– The happy hours : A relaxed and quiet moment after work. They are often more opened than at night and then it is less late thus you have more time for the after in this case.
– The private parties : everybody was preset thus the girls are reassured, the music is not too strong (thanks to or because of the neighbors), we can thus have a conversation which leaves on good bases. A must if there is a good ratio M/W !
– Bars and nightclubs: day pick up > night pick up. Because at night, the girls are on the defensive (drunk guys). It will also be necessary to overcome obstacles: the BFF, the jealous friends, the other guys who like her (the AMOG for example). Well, the positive point, is that the alcohol (and the rest) succeeds in some who cannot disinhibit themselves without. Dancing on dancefloor or staying in a quiet corner and approaching? It depends, I prefer talking and provoking and I never go to dance without a girl (alone it is easy to be ridiculous).
– The associations of voluntary help: the woman-man ratio is interesting, besides, having a passion is attractive. For example, animals.
– The classes: going to places where there are more women than men for example “yoga”. The best way to open the conversation is to speak about the class that you chose to see how she reacts to your contact. No need to go too fast because you will see again each other every week but it is not an excuse to don’t act ! Inquire before about such or such activity to have interesting things to say : moreover, the women like that a man is an expert in something (and yet, even in not sexy domains like computers there are some sexy geek chicks)! Ideas: art, craft, kitchen, literature, psychology, foreign languages …
– The activities and the hobbies (not Frodon): for example: doing magic, singing, dancing, taking a hike, eco-tourism. Keep in mind to avoid the mainly male groups (video games, chess…)
– The conventions: for example nurse conventions are a nest with meetings, they group together into bars and hotels. Furthermore, they are on “holidays” thus more open. Moreover, the things like the Med club it, seems to be not bad too!
– Your social circle : enlarge your circle of friends with women… and men (but no coal nuts who would pull you downward) ! Call your old friends, meet new people. Go out with your co-workers. More you will know people, more they shall introduce you to new women. Do not always stay with the same closed group, drinking beers. Go out when you spend your nights between men but avoid being 15 fellows without girl, your value would fall!
Etc.
The morality is : do as you want but contact girls you like (and don’t use the excuse “they all are not good enough for me” to do nothing). Because even the worst approach has more chances of success than the inactivity (and a 7 in your bed in better than a 10 in your mind).
I – 20 obstacles which prevent you from taking action :
I AM BLOCKED BY “THE SOCIETY”
Obstacle n°1 : The school which prevents us from speaking freely (have to keep silent in class but at the same time if we are too introvert it is not good either, then we are lost).
Obstacle n°2 : The love stories which idealize gender relations (it is always magic while you say to yourself that if you approach hastily on a bar that will have nothing specially magic except the girls these cute beings which you adore deserve of course to live a fairy tale (in your mind)).
Obstacle n°3 : The pornographic sites which let you think that the girls are all bitches (thus when you approach on the street you will fall on a nasty bitch because you do not usually interest the girls and you have nothing of a porn actor).
Obstacle n°4 : The education and the “correct” way of approaching a girl (it is not good to approach, you will be thought of as a weird guy, it’s better to stay alone at home masturbating).
I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO NOR TO SAY
Obstacle n°5 : I don’t know what to do (remain simple, friendly, make new acquaintances) nor when to approach (randomly or detect IOI).
Obstacle n°6 : I do not know what to say (the words don’t really matter, cf. the ebook on the body language to be convinced of it).
I AM AFRAID FOR MY EGO
Obstacle n°7 : I am afraid of the rejection (nobody 100%succeeds but 100 % of the players who won at the bingo played).
Obstacle n°8 : I wait too much before acting (she then has too much importance in your head whereas she loses her respect for you who have not what it takes to approach her).
Obstacle n°9 : I am impressed by her (become used to the contact with beautiful women).
Obstacle n°10 : I think like if I was her thus I guess that I should not approach her (women all have different personalities and expectations, just like men).
Obstacle n°11 : I am not confident (if you do not believe in you, how could she believe in you?)
I AM AFRAID OF THE OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINION
Obstacle n°12 : The look of the unknowns (public place, she is going to tell that to her friends who will make fun of you (friends who maybe would to dare just like you)).
Obstacle n°13 : The look of my friends (who judge you or encourage you, that makes them feel ill-at-ease if you are not any more the passive and shy guy they liked because not dangerous).
Obstacle n°14 : The look of the other women (fear of being thought of as a weird guy, of disturbing them or even for some of frightening them).
I AM A VICTIM OF “PRECONCEIVED IDEAS”
Obstacle n°15 : I have negative faiths (adopt encouraging thoughts).
I HAVE NO MODEL ON THE SUBJECT
Obstacle n°16 : Nobody does that in my circle of acquaintances, it is not normal (then, in your circle of acquaintances, I don’t think there are a lot of PUA, and at first what’s the normality?)
I AM OBSESSED BY MY EX
Obstacle n°17 : I still think of my ex with whom everything happened naturally (yes, but why? Do not take the easy way especially if you can have better by moving your ass and fortune smiles to those who are audacious).
I AM A PROCRASTINATOR
Obstacle n°18 : I wait, for example to have learnt a maximum of theory before taking action (you will never learn as much as on the field on the condition of not doing anything and having a minimum of culture of the seduction to avoid the basic errors).
Obstacle n°19 : I invent excuses to don’t act this time (the girl is not cute enough for you, or then she looks busy, in brief you always wait for the next one).
I HAD A BAD EXPERIENCE
Obstacle n°20 : I had a bad experience one day (persevere).
II – The solutions which will allow you to enjoy a total freedom of action are:
The inner game (constructive faiths) :
– Adopt positive faiths (“that pleases her that a guy approaches her because she feels desirable) rather than “I am going to approach her and that is going to annoy her because I shall certainly be the hundredth today”).
– Use a positive vocabulary (“I am going to give her a chance to have orgasms with me” rather than “I am going to approach her and certainly take one more rake”).
– Give a positive sense to your failures (every “no” move closer to a “yes”).
– Separate your behavior and your identity (it is not you that she will judge in a few seconds but your way of trying to pick her up (most of the time)).
– Surround yourselves with positive people (wingmen motivated, cute girls or alphas).
– Fill with positive energy (sport, music, radio, think again about your successes).
– Meet a maximum of people to be less affected and enter a dynamics of success (it is a issue of numbers!)
– Do not try to please her by losing your values. Resist the temptation to want to look like her ideal, and assume yourself such as you are, with your qualities, your defects, and especially your desires (and hers). It is against intuitive, and that’s why it is difficult to understand.
– Find a balance, between the necessity of taking initiatives, and of not going too fast at the risk of totally blocking her.
– Do not necessarily give up if she says that she has a boyfriend or that she is lesbian (feminine routine most of the time, sometimes a test). It is advised to say, in this case, that we are only looking for friendship because it sub-informs that we are not interested in her more than that and you can thus see her again without sexual barrier this time. Then, the motivation to cheat on her boyfriend can be purely sexual (the prohibition excites). Another motivation can be that it is bored in her relation (or that her guy is hopeless in the bed or that he pisses off her and she wants to punish him). The third possible motivation if she had a “crush” for you (or that she knew (tried in bed) nothing else than him and would want to diversify).
The outter game ( progressive exercises) :
– Master some simple lines for approaching, to begin. For example, to a foreigner, the classic : « where are you from ? »
– Do not forget that the main part is breaking the ice, then : she wants to speak to you or she doesn’t want to, you will see it thanks to her body language. Remember that the words are not that important… but if she says “fuck off” don’t insist. Her loss.
– Say “excuse me” to stop her in the street: if she continues walking, let her go, it was just a “excuse me”, it is so important finally… as if she had brought down a €20 bill of her pocket and if you wanted to tell her and because she snubbed you, you kept her fucking cash. Normally, she walks 1 or 2 meters and she stops then comes back to you. Apologizing (dominated) is not advised in principle but it works! Otherwise, say “please…”
– The keys are : Spontaneity, cool tone of voice, giving a rhythm to the conversation, not being too intrusive, setting up an exchange, listening to the other one… At the beginning you will probably have to do 90 % of the conversation and then the more she will get involved, the more the fish will be shod!
Finally here we are, stop finding excuses, leave your ego aside and stop believing that the girls do not go out for approaching/being approached (they are not pure and innocent as some claim it and seem offended when you do not behave as they want – while in fact that maybe even excites them this balance of power). If it is still your case, here is an electric shock which will make you open your eyes.
The bottom line : acting shy or playing the kid can be sexy on a girl, but it is not for what we expect from a man.
Diary of a French PUA has three main objectives :
– sharing my experience;
– improving my game, thinking and making people think about the other sex;
– challenging the limits of what most of people think possible in seduction.
If I claim I am a Pick-up Artist today (an artist of seduction), it is not only because I slept with more women than most of people. It is especially because I enjoyed doing it in original situations.
If I talk about you in this book, please don’t be mad at me… I did my best so nobody can recognize you.
Btw, I’m French, so… sorry for the grammatical mistakes (but I think my text is understandable).
The impact of clothes on the women can be felt on several levels. Just like certain birds are sexually attracted by a color of feathers, the human beings are sexually attracted by certain clothes. There are moreover a lot of guys who are not even turned on by the women in themselves but rather by objects (for example: high heels or glasses), associations of ideas or by what these women represent for them. Well, the women are made the same way and can be turned on by a look or a specific garment (for example: a girl who would have one idol could fantasize over you because you too have a leather jacket or because you have the same haircut or the same tattoo).
Link with the evolutionary psychology
In the nature, there are two manners to find sexual partners :
– Fighting against rivals (not really adapted to the current society);
– Charming the potential partners (totally adapted to our society).
The idea is thus to communicate “I am better than the other breeders because they don’t have a so beautiful plumage.” 4 characteristics emerge from it:
– The fact of being a dominant;
– The fact of belonging to an elite;
– The fact of being beautiful;
– The fact of having access to resources.
It is for what all the animals look at their partner’s. With the human beings, it works as follows…
Not sexy :
– Dressed like a nice guy ;
– Being dirty ;
– Being afraid of being noticed ;
– Wanting to be noticed at all costs ;
– Always doing too much ;
– Being afraid of the confrontation, of the other people’s opinion ;
– Assigning no importance to the clothes ;
– Being old-fashion.
Sexy :
– Being an Alpha ;
– Don’t care about the social pressure ;
– Having good taste ;
– Having access to resources ;
– Assuming the potential of attraction ;
– Paying attention on the way you get dressed ;
– Following a little bit the fashionable line ;
– Understanding the more subtle communications, like the women.
Don’t be a nice guy
Of course the women need certain characteristics the “nice guys” have. They remind it to us rather often. What they do not say, on the other hand, it is that they also have other desires, much less easily acceptable:
– The challenge;
– The excitement;
– Having some spare time;
– Being comfortable;
– Benefit from welfare benefits;
– Being able to speak about you to her friends and make them jealous;
– Having the feeling that you are special;
– Feeling in you the potential for a serious story one day ;
– Feeling in you the potential for a discreet and naughty relation;
– Having to do what you want because you are a leader;
– Being protected;
– Feeling many strong, positive and negative feelings;
– You are intriguing and mysterious.
What is good with the Nice guys:
– Being courteous and open the doors;
– Knowing how to listen but not becoming her personal therapist;
– Showing a vulnerable, human side.
What is not good but with what they are too often associated:
– Being submitted;
– Being easily dominated by the others;
– Making too many favors, always wanting to please the others;
– Being needy ;
– Waiting that the others guess what you want, not doing enough things for yourself.
The problems :
– No “not gay” guy would want to let think that he is gay. Yet, being fashionably interested can easily be confusing. You do not thus have to appear “gay” but you do not have to let the fear of seeming gay preventing you from being the best yourself.
– “I just want to be myself” is the excuse used by people who are scared to have to do better. It is an easy exit because we always tell to people that it is good “to be yourself”. But what is necessary to understand, it is that they do not get dressed in a way which looks like them but rather in the way people who are scared to assume what they are get dressed, as a kind of protection. Nobody believes it : “if I get dressed in a way which does not please the others I say fuck you because it is what I am in fact”. It communicates a profound sense of unease.
It is fears and stigmatization that are commonplace in our society. That prevents people from really expressing their identity through their look. These fears find their roots profoundly :
– At school, people laughed at those who stood out.
– At home, if you grew up with bad not sexy models who let you think that it is what you are too.
– …
The women are demanding:
The women are not quite stupid nor superficial, they are elitist. And their requests are justifiable, in a way, if they do the efforts to be up to their expectations. They do not want “average” guys, they want the best guys they can have. They will thus reject you if your look does not communicate that you are the best they can have. Most of people badly react to the “elitist” word simply because most of people are not part of the elite (thus it reminds them that they are not a member of it: bad reactions).
Now, being well-dressed communicates “I have a high social status, and I have access to the resources.” The women are programmed to choose a man like that to reproduce. One good reason : it assures their kids will be free from want.
Well, you should not believe everything you read in the fashion magazines : a lot of bullshit and ugly things. It is necessary to think by yourself of course and also take time to educate your taste.
The various types of men :
The men are programmed to feel attraction in front of sexy stereotypes. To realize it, feminine sexy stereotypes are :
– The stripper ;
– The young neighbor or baby-sitter ;
– The model ;
– The hotty in bikini ;
– The hot blond ;
– The sexy librarian (or secretary) ;
– The good girl ;
– The naughty porn actress ;
– The sexy nurse ;
– …
The women are not only programmed to react to money, they also react in front of male sexy stereotypes. And if they put you in the “sexy” category rather that “average”, that changes all the interaction.
The well-dressed guy and the sexy dressed guy
The look of the “well-dressed” guy is the most classic. It is commonplace but it’s OK. That will not make you miss a lot women but that will not particularly help you to excite them. If they like your face, your muscles or your personality, they will certainly let with you fuck them after several dates.
The problem is that the women put you very quickly in categories when you approach them. You thus have to show your talent quickly. If she puts you immediately in the “sexy” category that will go faster and it will be easier for you than if you are tidied up in “Nice guy” or “normal guy”. The sexy guys are, for example :
– The rockers ;
– The rappers ;
– The artists, the intellectuals ;
– The Hipsters ;
– The Tradders in a suit ;
– The lovers ;
– The metrosexuals ;
– The surfers ;
– The motorcyclists ;
– The maffiosos ;
– …
By comparison, this is what does not turn on the women:
– The yucky hippies who stink ;
– The Nice Guys ;
– The little mama’s boys ;
– Those who try to boast but who are ridiculous in fact ;
– The not sexy Geeks ;
– …
Why most of people don’t have a sexy look:
– You need to do an effort to go out of your zone of comfort;
– Maybe your friends and family would like that you remain very wise (IE “not dangerous”) like before…
Exercise: next time when you will see a guy, with a lot of girls who try to pick him up, look at how he is dressed and to which stereotype he belongs.
How does it work ?
All the girls are not attracted by all the stereotypes. But all the girls are attracted by at least ONE type of guy in a very powerful way. They then are so much excited that they lose their inhibitions and forget this fucking social pressure. It is about these looks that I’m talking : those which provoke hysteric and fanatical reactions on behalf of certain girls.
To don’t be thought of as whores, the women create rules they follow with the guys. For example, waiting for 3 dates before sleeping with a guy to don’t be thought of as an easy girl. But with the “sexy” guys, they forget these rules. Because with sexy guys, the society (in their mind) does not question the fact that they are “good” girls (even if they suck on their knees). The fear of the judgment disappears. They sleep with them because they are too much excited and because it is more socially acceptable to sleep with a sexy guy than with a “normal” guy or “nice guy” when they are not in a serious relationship.
Some will even say that they were lucky that these guys fucked them. You maybe already heard certain women telling their lives “the guitarist of the other night called me back” or “you will never believe what the sexy French did to me the other night!” The fact that these guys belong to “sexy” categories legitimize the fact that they have fun and prevents their friends, in a way, from judging them.
It’s your turn to be sexy
Choose a sexy profile which corresponds to you, which you are interested in. For example, a boss of a SME (SMALL AND MEDIUM-SIZED ENTERPRISE) is not going to get dressed as a rapper, that would be strange.
Find a model which corresponds to this stereotype and use it to understand how it works.
As long as you are not an expert, it is better to follow models. It is a question of copying the others, nor becoming a pale imitation, but it is a question of taking shortcuts towards success. According to me, things do not have to be more difficult than they already are then why always wanting to reinvent the wheel ? You will then personalize your look according to your progress.
Try to always get dressed well, because that helps to feel good. The chromotherapy is really something very interesting.
If you have not the results you hoped:
– Did you choose a sexy and easily recognizable category?
– Did you choose a good model…? or a mediocre one?
– Does this sexy category correspond to your personality?
– Did you mix too many stereotypes which do not work together?
– Did you go too far (in an environment where it would be a bad idea) ?
– Are you simply in your period of adaptation for your new look?
Most of people go in for sport for health and esthetics reasons only. But much more than your physical well-being, the sport also improves your mental strength because it teaches a certain rigor, how to set goals and to build up to a mental of winner thanks to the self-confidence which it allows to acquire. Health profits linked to the fact of having a sports activity are really too numerous to be quoted in a exhaustive way… The heart, the breath, etc. For the esthetics, the sport allows obviously to sculpture the body.
It is generally possible to find a physical activity adapted to every person. However, if you begin in sport, a medical examination will inform you about your capacities and the contraindications you can be the object of. If you are lucky enough to be physically capable of going in for sport, take advantage of this chance to feel the well-being which it gives you (in particular the liberation of endorphin in your body). Otherwise, walking is a good way to do it not violently.
Because 20-30 % of your capital of attraction depends on your physical appearance: more you will be good-looking, more you will notice a change in your interactions with women.
Good ideas
I recommend a subscription in a club, because it is more rewarding and more effective than working out alone and because that obliges to personally invest and to avoid big mistakes. I think that the atmosphere in the group is the most important. I speak about this atmosphere : we are all here to improve, not to kill or humiliate the others.
– A combative sport : Martial arts correspond well to the realities of the life of a modern man: we let off steam, it inculcates values, we meet interesting people, we work the mental. We all need to develop our confidence, our strength because we all have emotional and psychological weaknesses, hesitation or a lack of aggressiveness in a domain. What is good it is that it transfers in the studies, the work, in brief in the daily life. All the other things seem less grave by comparison with a fight with a big sturdy man: we are neither not intimidated anymore by the other men or the girls taller than us, nor by drunk and aggressive people who threaten us in the street. And this training of the body and the spirit is almost made without risk because the trainings are secured. I do not think that all the combative sports are equal, my personal experience with the tae kwon do nevertheless allows me to recommend it because very complete. The wrestling in string too.
– The Yoga: To discover and control our energies, to meet (a lot of) women, to be self-aware, to become supple, to learn how to meditate, to open to other ways of thinking, all this can appear to you a waste of time but learning how to use the breath of life is in fact very important. And how to keep it. Not only the expenditure of energy: learning and exchanging is important too.
– The dance: Dancing with a partner increases the self-confidence, increases the comfort in this discomfort that is an interaction or a contact with the other sex, especially if the dancers are extremely attractive… And quite finally without real risk of rejection.
– The swimming: it is good because there is almost no risk of physical wound. Attention on the hygiene of the swimming pool. Do not forget stretching.
– The running: Again, do not forget stretching. It is more annoying because you should not run in a bad way at the risk of finally doing more bad than good to yourself (like in many repetitive sports) but the good thing it is that we can easily have a contact with the nature.
How does it work ?
Testosterone, adrenalin and endorphin are hormones of your body which participate in the regulation of the effort because the muscular effort comes along with hormonal deep changes, which allow the realization of the performance. The increase of your rate of testosterone will make you more virile, whereas the adrenalin and the endorphin will get you pleasant sensations of well-being. Know that endorphins are also naturally released after an orgasm. It is what provokes the relaxation and the desire to sleep of the men after the sexual act. The sport thus allows to evacuate the stress and to fight against a possible depression. In fact, isn’t happiness a simple story of hormones?
If your body resists the hunger, it will defend itself by decreasing its spending in calories… Which is not interesting for us, thus you should not resist the hunger. More you will distribute the daily total of your intakes in a large number of meal and more your body is going to spend calories and is thus going to lose some fat: Favor several small meals rather than three big ones.
It is very important to drink some water to compensate for the losses in trace elements and mineral salts which causes a session of endurance. However, eating should not be done before one hour after the end of the effort.
The rest and the sleep are important factors for a sportsman almost as much as the exercise and the balanced diet. Give yourself 2-3 days without intense training so that your body can rest. So, try to sleep 8 hours a night. Try not to go to bed late every evening. Indeed, during the sleep, the body builds muscles, on the other hand if we do not rest enough, it increases the risk of hurting. The sleep also increases the production of testosterone in your body. A high level of testosterone leads you to produce pheromones of attraction of the other sex, favors the muscular growth, equalizes the humors and boosts the confidence and the dynamism.
If we are diligent, we shall be motivated by the improvements noticed from day to day. Anyway, we are not all equals in front of the muscle building. The supplements are not necessary of course because we can consume all the nutriments which we need from a good nutrition. The supplements are just supplements: They should not replace the normal food and cannot bring nothing more than a good nutrition => just annoy (cancers).
The intelligent women generally prefer the strong and powerful men rather than the attractive boys who took the winning ticket at the genetic lottery (effort > chance). However, it is necessary to develop the muscle with delicacy: develop the muscles without fat but not too much developed (do not to make more efforts for fewer rewards). Furthermore, it is necessary to be balanced, nothing is more ridiculous than a muscular trunk and little runt’s small legs or than abs on a not V trunk. Thus here are the muscles to work first and foremost (attention to also develop the muscle of the complementary muscles to avoid having troubles of imbalance like for example wounds) :
– Shoulders
– Arms
– Abs
– Pectoral muscles
– Buttocks
Stretching allows to calm muscular tissues and articulations, it increases the dynamism of muscles and our body then enjoys a better mobility. Stretching help to overcome small troubles (tensions daily accumulated in the work or in the house). Stretching after a sports activity allows a better physical recovering, stretch out muscles and tones up the silhouette. After the session, stretching avoid spasms and aches. It is necessary to avoid stretching when a muscle hurts. To avoid hurting, it is necessary to stretch also before practicing. Do not forget to breathe. To make a success of a stretching, the position is very important: you must not be too much bent. If the pond is badly positioned, you would risk to have a backache. It is also necessary to warm up to prepare the heart and the other muscles for what is going to follow.
Dressing well, going in for sport and having a healthy diet will help everybody but more particularly the 30 and more years old men. Indeed, we obtain a higher status and become naturally more dominant with the years, then, if in addition we have a flat stomach: the improvements are even more spectacular.
Keep in mind also that a guy who would be a 10 physically speaking but who would turn out to be a depressive dish mop remaining made limp all day long and trembling at the idea of speaking to a girl that he has just met, wouldn’t have a lot of success with women. A good attitude is essential!
I am not a doctor but I am long enough interested in the food to have understood its importance. If through this text, I manage to tempt you to make in-depth researches and to improve your lifestyle, I would be delighted. Moreover, if you wish to dig the question, two doctors seem to me particularly interesting: Kousmine and Seignalet. I insist on a point: We speak here about lifestyle, not about diet to lose weight. “Let food be your medicine, and medicine be your food“ Hippocrates
It is curious to notice that the western medical world saw itself during the last centuries facing new diseases, varied in their forms and their aspects, but having quite in common a direct link with a general and progressive reduction in the immunity of the man. As a consequence of the evolution of the civilization, the cancer and the psychic diseases more widely developed. In this end of century appear new diseases linked to the viruses and, developing at the same time, diseases said “of system” : The autoimmune diseases. Roughly, our body poisons itself and does not work anymore correctly: it is thus necessary to purge it. We are thus going to really go farther than a simple subtraction INTAKE – NEED = LOSS OR GAIN OF FAT. We shall go farther than the usual logic “IF I WANT TO GO ON A DIET IT IS TO BE THIN”.
Understanding the problem
The enzymes of the human body cannot digest numerous food stemming from the agriculture which dates only of 10 000 years. The modern farming perturbs even more the natural process of growth of vegetables by contributions of artificial elements, as the artificial fertilizers. It is obvious that more our body is poisoned (even if it has a natural capacity to clean itself) less it works well (because often we dirty it more that it can clean up itself)… but it is sometimes difficult to make a discernment between addictions led by our society, what seems beneficial and the vital necessity. Nevertheless, a return in the healthy and simple diet which we lost is thus beneficial against three categories of diseases:
– the autoimmune diseases (rheumatoid polyarthritis, stiffening spondylitis, rheumatism psoriasique, spread erythemic lupus, sclérodermie, multiple sclerosis, coeliac disease, etc.);
– the diseases linked to a “cellular accumulation of dirt” (cancer, acne, fibromyalgia, degenerative osteoarthritis, migraine, manic-depressive psychosis, nervous breakdown, type 2 diabetes, spasmophilia, etc.);
– the diseases of elimination (psoriasis, nettle rash, bronchitis chronicles, asthma, colitis, tiredness, etc.).
Stop poisoning
I start by speaking about what it would be necessary to avoid eating. Because it is what weakens us, tires us for nothing, and disorders us eventually.
– Exclude animal-derived milk (cow, goat, ewe) and their by-products (butter, cheese, cream, yoghurt, ice cream), as well as all the products containing among others ingredients : the powder of milk. The milk does not suit to the adults for several reasons: its first function is to make an animal baby get fat in a few months, its proteins are allergenic and its content in calcium is too high. It contains besides many hormones. So, several adults do not produce any more a lactase, the enzyme which decomposes the lactose (carbohydrate of the milk). So : either an inflammatory difficulty of digestion, or a total intolerance. At the level of plant milk, almond oil it is good (without added muck) but be wary of the soya.
– Exclude modern cereal : wheat, corn, rye, barley, oat, kamut and spelt. It is about cereal containing some gluten (except the corn) and from which the current forms were obtained by selection, transplantation, hybridization or genetic modification. Avoid these cereal as well as all the food which are diverted from it (bread, pastas, pizza, cakes) because they are difficult to digest. Cereal containing some gluten could give at certain people intolerances (or inflammations) and autoimmune reactions. Moreover, from a strictly scientific point of view, cereal are poor in nutriments, compared with other food as vegetables. They are also rich in a substance called acid phytique, which prevents the assimilation of essential minerals in the intestinal wall. Nowadays many people are certainly cereal intolerant without even knowing it. It would be preferable to use cereal which were not altered over time in term of hybridization: whole, Saracen rice, millet, and possibly the “big” spelt (grand épeautre) (which replaces the traditional wheat).
– Exclude products cooked in a temperature superior to 230 °F. Consume especially the raw food or, if necessary, cook them in a temperature lower than 230 °F to limit the denaturation of nutriments driven by the heat (among which vitamins, omega 3 and most of the antioxidants). In a higher temperature, chemical compounds which are not inevitably comparable by the body can appear. Avoid especially the oven cooking with microwaves which produces an extreme thermal motion.
– Exclude oil extracted under heat or cooked. The industrial processes of manufacturing of oil and margarines may distort them. Sophisticated and modified fats are it industrially for a long preservation. This process makes toxic these fats because the bowel and the body generally does not know how to manage them and stock them. No butter even organic in this logic which excludes dairy products… It would be necessary to replace the butter, the margarine and the oil refined by some virgin olive oil, some colza oil, some walnut oil and some oil of hazelnut stemming from the organic farming. Eat regularly fishes of the cold seas for their contribution in fatty acids omega 3 (and avoid the breeding).
– Consume organic food. Favor the biological certified food to take advantage of their nutritional quality, to limit the potential risks associated to pesticides and to avoid the pollution of the conventional agriculture with its chemical additives, its veterinary antibiotics and the very doubtful food of animals. Avoid also extremely toxic, industrial processes of the conventional agriculture and the conditioning for our body which submit it to an aggression which eventually overtakes it. Organic food eliminates largely, the component pollution of our modern food and it is something anyway won on the potential pathological grounds of our body. For fewer risks, choose food of seasons produced if possible the closest to our place of life.
– Unlearn the sugar taste. It is not natural for the man: what is pleasant to our senses is not always adapted for our enzymes. Our food too rich in sugar and in proteins modified the normal flora of the bowel and favored the development of a flora of pathogenic, aggressive decomposition for the body because of toxin which it contains. This state has repercussions on the general state and deteriorates the system by favoring the racing of the immune system. Finally, the chronic lack of certain vitamins and certain trace elements caused, in the long run, an acidification of the body (by blocking the catabolism at the level of certain acids, not being able to end in the terminal products due to the lack of catalysts) weakening the body and provoking a chronic fatigue, a bigger sensibility in the infections and aggravating the painful phenomena. Besides, sugar is a drug. Avoid thus the food which have a low report volume/calories like ice creams or candies. Also eliminate calories liquid as sweet sodas or fruit juices (or make it yourself). Drink rather some quality water (if possible filtered: reverse osmosis). Also avoid the alcohol which contains more calories than fats. Besides, for the sportsmen, it was proved that the alcohol slows down the muscular growth.
– Avoid drugs. I do not necessarily speak about hard drugs (it is an obvious fact that it is necessary to avoid them) but even the coffee, the alcohol, the medicine and the chemical food complements and the fucking cigarette.
– Decrease the consumption of animal products: Favor an alive food (walnuts and raw or germinated seeds, raw or dried fruits, fresh vegetables or lacto-fermented.) The animal products as for them, consumed too often, can according to Ayurveda drain the trace elements of bones and long-term muscles at certain people and in certain conditions.
– Eat to live, do not live to eat. You could be surprised discovering that you eat a lot or not enough without knowing it (force of habit).
What else ?
Your mood swings and your physical appearance depend on what you put in your body. We are what we eat because our body does not stop dying and being reborn thanks to the new intakes. Then, try to feed decently 80-90 % of time even if you are busy. For example, 30/35 meal a week. The will is the key.
“Pay attention on the way you feel more than your physical appearance and you will find even more reasons for following these dietary rules on the long term “ (Taylor Kitsch).
The body is a whole thing. Except the specificity which represents the nervous system, with its omnipresence of lipids and thus the necessary protection which it is necessary to bring to it, the good food for our cells stays the same, which they are in our cortex or somewhere else. Our bad habits thus have repercussions at every level… FORTUNATELY, our good ones too.
The results of numerous studies show that by taking care of our body, we can:
– Decrease the bad aggressiveness, the waves of tiredness, the memory lapses, the stress;
– Improve the capacities of socialization;
– Improve the school results, ideas, inspiration, concentration;
– Improve the quality of sleep.
We can imagine the good consequences which these improvements will have on your capacity to seduce. However, it is necessary to wait several weeks of modification of your lifestyle to obtain stable results on the long term.
“The structure and the functioning of the brain, as those of our heart, change, improve or deteriorate according to the food of the person, medicine which he/she takes and the exercise he/she does. It is a surprising organ which grows, shrinks and change according to circumstances.” Jean Carter, American specialist of nutrition.
It is thus a choice : the one of considering that our body can very well handle it alone and… come what may (it has of enormous capacity of adaptation). Or we can choose, more rational in my opinion, to give a little bit of help in our everyday life thanks to the food which plays an essential role at every level.
First thing to be known : There are the good and the bad fats. The bad, the saturated fats, damage the state of the body in particular the brain. It is thus necessary to avoid the junk food. It is also necessary to avoid all which contains trans fatty acids, saturated fatty acids and hydrogenated fats. If we eat some meat, rather white and not often (once a week). The question “but where can we find proteins then?! And I am going to have deficiencies” is a nonsense.
Antioxidants protect us from free radicals which attack the brain, they form a kind of biological armor under our polluted heavens. We can find some in the vitamin C (parsley, pepper, kiwi), the vitamin E (fishes, shellfish, eggs), carotene (carrots, tomatoes), the polyphenols (grape, red wine, tea)… It is thus recommended to eat : fruits and vegetables (especially fresh spinach and organic), onions, chive, parsley and thyme vineyards, curry and turmeric with the pepper, the cinnamon, the ginger, the artichokes, the family of the cabbage, the lamb’s lettuce, the avocados, the tomato puree, the kidney beans, the tomato especially cooks, garlic, eggplant, red berries (strawberries, raspberries) and purple (blueberry, blackberries, grape, plums, prunes, blueberries, raisins, wolfberries), the pink grapefruit. It was proved that a half-cup of blueberries every day increases the short-term memory and the capacities of coordination. The chocolate, to be good, must be dark, rich in cocoa, and low-fat added. Trick: eating a piece of chocolate before a DATE allows to be in a better mood. The tea must be chosen of quality, and infused at least 5 minutes for enjoying 85 % of its antioxidizing capacities, 10 minutes for 100 %. 10 portions of fruits and vegetables a day is a minimum.
To feel well, we need sugars. But the glucose in excess is as bad as if we were in deficiency. We shall thus be wary of carbohydrates: sweets, starchy foods, chocolate bars.
The reaction of yoyo caused by the contributions in sugar with high glycemic damages the brain. It is thus necessary to avoid: the sugar and the flours refined, the white bread, the mashed potatoes, sweets, alcohol, tobacco, coffee, certain medicine like the aspirin and the paracetamol, beta-blocking and certain antibiotics, heavy metals in vaccines, precooked products, cereal of the breakfast, the dehydrated potato flakes, the melba toasts, the yoghurts, the carbonated drinks, the jam, the cubes of white sugar which dirty the body. Avoid absolutely to have a bit of snacking. We shall eat rather some honey, some Basmati rice because the glycemic index is the lowest. If we are obliged to eat things with high glycemic index, we mix it with low glycemic indications to balance, salad and lemon juice can also help.
The studies showed that less we burn calories in our life, less our cells are damaged. Roughly more we eat, and especially more we eat badly, and more we age fast. A calorie limitation about 30 % compared with the needs which people generally believe they have is thus beneficial.
Avoid dyes and preservatives (that seems obvious but it is necessary to favor fresh and quality products).
Did you know that…
– Your tastes and your disgusts are “experience” and not “innate”? Roughly, you are conditioned by your experience of life. Those who believe that what is good for the health is necessarily bad to the taste and conversely are in fact distorted.
– When we have too many choices to feed, like in our current society, we have difficulties in seeing what is good for us.
– Even if we have no deficiencies strictly speaking, if we increase the rates of vitamins and antioxidants in the blood, we increase the intellectual faculties, we decrease the risks of depressions and diseases, we limit the degeneration due to the ageing, we are in a better mood, we increase our capacities of learning, memory, attention, response times.
– It would be very good for the health to clean up (diet, cure of clay and/or fast) at least once a year (the religions speak about it and it is not for nothing).
It is essential waiting to be thirsty. Drink rather some plain water at room temperature. Rather not during the meals (otherwise that complicates the digestion) and without nitrates (which decrease the oxygenation of the blood – look at the label).
The tea is a very good antioxidant on the condition of verifying that it does not contain aluminum. The green tea in particular, on the condition of letting it infuse ten minutes. We can put lemon inside but especially no milk nor sugar. Do not drink tea at the end of a meal if you don’t have enough iron in the blood otherwise it is good to do so.
The wine : Rather red, one drink at noon but if we can avoid it is better. Without sulphites.
Avoid : The sweet, sparkling drinks or the steps, the bottles, the sodas… Besides being bad, the brain has difficulty in counting calories absorbed in liquid form.
The case of the coffee: its effect depends on people but it makes addict and weakens bones. 1 cup a day if really we like that, it is OK. Attention not to take it in case of fears, of problems of sleep, osteoporosis.
Avoid at all costs:
– Hydrogenated fats, palm oil,
– Candies, sodas, corn syrups, white sugar cube,
– Sugars with high glycemic,
– The alcohol which destroys the intellectual cells,
– The glutamate (Chinese restaurants): neurotoxic risk,
– Pesticides, fungicides, additives, colouring agents and conservatives which give brain tumors “E-something” (we shall thus favor fresh and quality products),
– The addictions which favor the ageing of the body.
The oxygenation is essential: Get a breath of fresh air, walk calmly, go in for sport on the outside, be careful all the same on the too much polluted places.
I yet hear well-thinking people saying : “yeah but there are countries where fat people are considered as attractive because that evokes the wealth and everything”. I shall answer them: In the countries you’re talking about, the people are poor and are ravenous, that’s their biggest danger. In our countries, rich and intelligent people eat well and have the means to take care of them. They are attractive because are in shape, healthy. I do not think that the prehistoric man was obese: he was not confronted with the junk food and had to make efforts to get his food. In our society, sheeps, those who are not endowed with critical mind, the victims of the advertising, and the poor people love the junk food and have a potbelly. In two words: what is attractive, it is the possibility of being a good parent. A man in shape is one potentially better parent than a poor man suffering from malnutrition or who is on the contrary a big bacon full of saturated fatty acids.
The set of teeth
Our teeth have a big impact on our physiology. It is thus essential to have a correct oral hygiene and to visit your dentist in a regular way. We shall btw have less and less need of it when we eat better.
The critics
« His diet did not prevent him from having a cancer of the pancreas, the doctor Seignalet ». It is certainly the most just criticism, but it is easily understandable for whom knows the functioning of this gland which we do not respect enough because it is fragile. The fact of consuming almost exclusively raw food could force his pancreas. This is why he made enzyme tablets come from abroad which had to relieve him and help his digestion so much protein part of meats and more or less hidden fats which they contain are hard to digest. In reality, he certainly poisoned himself with pre-enzymes which tired his pancreas in the point to stimulate sleeper cells which multiplied in the excess, until spread towards the liver and the ganglions of the zone around the pancreas. We will avoid…
« It’s such a headache ». It is true that it is complicated to don’t be eaten by the society. But that is worth it, right? Be careful all the same not to fall in the inverse excess: the fruitarians and the crudivores. I respect Thierry Casasnova and his followers but I am well afraid that, as all the excesses, it is uncontrolled. Especially in society and for a man who wants to seduce. There are already problems : people there believe that if you are sick it can be because you ate two food which do not mix normally like the grapefruit and the tomatoes (it is true that mixing certain types of food perturbs the digestion but it is necessary to be reasonable… everybody does that). In brief, they explain everything by the food. It is a drift because they are people who feel superior (as long as they are healthy), who give lessons (because they are healthy and think that they will always be) and believe that they risk nothing (which is FALSE). Do not fall in this trap to give you good consciousness or to belong to a group. As always : think by yourself. For example, you should eat muck occasionally, because otherwise your body would unlearn it and you would become a sick person if you were obliged to eat it someday for a reason or another one.
It is imaginary to want to change the world and the others. Understanding that it is necessary to change at first is showing wisdom. Yet, starting to put some consciousness in your food is the beginning of a change. It is having responsibilities at the level of the health. Consciousness and responsibility have to become both watchwords of our time as regards our health. This is at first individual responsibility by a healthy diet, a healthy life, the taking of vitamins and trace elements in the changes of seasons to make counterweight for the pressures of the modern life. Teaching a healthy diet to his children, which will protect their health in the present and the future. And understand, please, that without the health, even in seduction, you would not do much.
Nails : Pay attention to have them always short and clean.
Hands : Pay attention to have them clean.
Hairs in the back : Few women appreciate them. Get rid of it. The nape of the neck, idem.
Hairs on the trunk: Do not shave your trunk, you can however crop it (hair clipper) slightly, particularly the long hairs around your nipples. Under arms and the “chemin des dames (way of the ladies)”: that doesn’t bother, it is sexy.
The pubic hairs : Intend to shave your testicles and pubic hairs which grow around your penis. If you do it, your penis will seem more clean, tastier and bigger. They will suck you more often.
Hairs on legs : We are lucky, for a man, it does not bother.
Do not stink : Wash yourselves. Use parfume.
Watch your weight : Furthermore, being thin improves the silhouette and the face.
Work your muscle structure : Thin and developed muscles (abs, trunk, arms, legs, buttocks). The striking veins are sign that you have developed your muscle and that you have few fat. It’s a good thing!
If you have physical defects (differentiate : non-qualities), it is possible to lead to forget them by working your clothing style and your personality.
A new haircut : Go through magazines for men and find a photo of a haircut which pleases you. Inquire with your hairdresser for the maintenance.
If you want to be sexy, it is recommended to go rather to a homosexual hairdresser. Indeed, they have the sixth sense of what will please the women. Look at the haircuts of the movie stars and the rock stars and find one which pleases you. If you observe the attractive girls, you will notice that their boyfriends in general have great haircuts. Find the fashionable haircut which suits you. Hair must be clean: avoid the gel which gives a too fat and not rather soft aspect, prefer the wax, the lacquer or the clay.
The purpose is to create a balance between the angles of the face and those of the hairstyle and to balance the face (height, width). We can realize the same thing with the beard. Faces in length will create volume on the sides and faces in width will create the volume on the top. So, we always try to slim down the face. The girls with their long hair have an advantage at this level there but we have the beard. For angles: if we have a round face, we shall create some square and if we are too much squared we shall round off angles. Here is grosso-modo for the theory!
The beard : Beards and mustaches can help to hide defects. A billy goat, for example, can work to lead to forget a receding chin. If you have scars due to the teenage acne on your cheeks, a beard can be the solution. However, the shaving is a rite as well as a necessity, it is useful for the elimination of cells died on the surface of the skin.
Sideburns : Bounded well and of the same height. Not too much supplied.
Eyebrows : Avoid the mono eyebrow but keep male eyebrows.
Other hairs : Remove the hairs which go out of the nose and the ears and on the top of cheeks (possibility of discoloring the latter with some hydrogen peroxide.)
Teeth : Before putting some toothpaste on your toothbrush, brush your teeth with the dry brush. This helps to remove more plaque than with the wet brush. Brush your tongue (to eliminate the bad breath). Use some dental floss to eliminate bacteria between teeth and after use a mouthwash with an antibacterial solution. Make them whiter by brushing them with some bicarbonate of soda or some white clay. It will contribute to your beautiful smile. Even better with dimples?
The skin : Tan, and the women will find you sexy because a too pale skin gives the impression that you are not healthy. If problems of acne, use some make-up (foundation cream).
Ears : Clean your ears with a cotton bud…
Shoes : The women really pay attention to the shoes. Thus wear beautiful and elegant polished shoes, even a little more clairvoyants than the classic shoes which an average guy would wear. The women like the polished shoes. We say that when somebody cool compliments you, it is the sign which betrays that you reached the status of “cool” in your turn. At least, it would be necessary to have 4 shoes : brown and black relaxed shoes and brown and black elegant shoes. However, you can wear even red or green or white shoes… The thing is that they get married well to your style: classy or relaxed. Harmony is like everything, experience teaches you: it is necessary to do it by eyesight.
Clothes : Even if you get dressed in a relaxed way, choose clothes in your size, not too big. Your clothes have to move closer as much as possible your silhouette to the one of the perfect man… That is to say tall, with wide shoulders, a trunk V and a narrow waist. That’s what the women like. For that purpose, the short guys should avoid the horizontal stripes, which would make them look too wide. On the contrary, they have to choose waisted shirts and pants. Everything is question of proportions. Furthermore, go away from what is too commonplace, as the fine stripes or the university shirts. The girls prefer the men who distance themselves from the mass of those who concern advertising hoardings their T-shirt.
When you get dressed in a relaxed way, you try to give the impression that you got dressed after having made love to a woman. For that purpose, do not bring in your shirt, and leave the last two buttons open. You can intend to wear a suit and a tie from time to time, especially if you are in an environment where the men all get dressed simply. It is clothes of leader that thus convey a status and ambition. There is no disadvantage of wearing it. Another rule is that your clothes must be clean. The women are very sensitive to dirty clothes.
Attention on the choice of the colors which emphasize certain complexions and which choice has to depend also of your the color of your hair and the color of your eyes. No more than three colors because you don’t want to look like a Christmas tree. Personally, I look for actors, singers, etc. In brief, public personalities who look like me (style which suits me, age bracket…) and when they dress in a way which pleases me and that I could easily imitate, I adapt it : choice of the materials, the colors… Web sites about the celebrities abound in these photos especially in the sections “photoshots” and “candids”. Thanks to brands as Jules or H&M the fashion is adapted and proposed in affordable prices (or stores of destocking). Everything depends on your age bracket. It is a question of inspiration. It is useful also to see how it looks objectively onto the others. Roughly, we take advantage indirectly but free of charge of advice of their stylists.
To don’t make mistakes, stay simple, classy and classic. Don’t do « too much ». To please the largest number, stay simple. I disadvise to marginalize on the style because that would mean marginalizing on the girls.
Accessories : The colors of your accessories (belt, watch, etc.) have to be accompanied with your shoes. Your pants do not too much have to contrast with your shoes, but it is possible for the shirt. It is what will make the harmony of your style. Most of the men do not accessorize well, it is then easy for you to distance yourselves on this point. The general idea is that your accessories are at the same time discreet and intriguing (you don’t try to do too much). Look for cool accessories and which suit well with your personality. Like Julien Doré’s pin which made his success at the Nouvelle Star. A 30€ watch with a beautiful leather bracelet is more original and thus will attract more compliments than a 1000€ silver watch. And an old 15€ silver ring with a beautiful design will catch 100 times more the eyes than a 500€ signet ring. There is vast possibilities regarding accessories, as necklaces, the important is that they take you apart from the other men. Avoid the things which tons of the other guys have, as a tattoo boat on the forearm, or surfer’s pearls necklace. Be unique. The “peacocking” (Mystery) is reserved for those who already have a big confidence because it is necessary to be able to assume the other people’s opinion on your “difference”.
Underwear : The women appreciate the fanciful underwear: they often wear very colored things. Then, buy something with a text or a photo. In the doubt, the boxers of dark color are always an excellent choice. Wear socks matched with shoes. For swimsuits follow the fashion. And do not show your sweaters : “grandpa”.
Fragrance : The women have generally a better sense of smell than the men. It is thus necessary to smell good. And to do not smell bad: deodorant. An error can be to use too much perfume (1 or 2 pschit it is good). The women prefer the subtle smells. The purpose of a perfume is to give a pleasant surprise to the woman when she approaches you: stomach, neck, wrists… If you need inspiration here are my perfumes : « Light Blue » and « One Million », I noticed that they are generally successful!
The harmony of the style : To get laid, you have to find at first to which category of people you belong, then to observe how the “males alpha” of your category get dressed, and to copy them or be quite inspired by it at least. It is thus necessary to be inspired by what works.
On the other hand, do not be really cooler than all the others or you will seem weird, strange… or gay. Be just slightly better dressed than the other best dressed guy. Pay attention not to become too stylish and metrosexual because most of the girls do not want a guy who would have more style than them.
Pay attention on advertisements intended for 18-35 years old : those of the airline companies or for mobile phones. The models of those ads are generally dressed in a way which pleases the largest number. Otherwise get inspired by actors and fashionable models. So they coach and stylists work indirectly but free of charge for you again… Nice!
When you go shopping for clothes or fragrance, do not hesitate to ask for a feminine opinion. Or use it as an idea of original hangout with a date.
Try to avoid the too common and commonplace things. Choose things which will be at the same time unique and fashionable and which will suit well with your personality, without giving you a headache about your look. Because a good look will help you to get laid but it is your behavior and your mindset that will change everything. The women are not that interested in the beauty of a man, they also love the men with high statuses who will give them passion, pleasure and romanticism. They look for a man who will make them have a good time and feel good. Even with an elaborate look, it does not have to be obvious, it has to look natural for you to be well-dressed!
NB : « Fashion goes out of fashion, the style never ».
All the advice don’t suit to everybody. The changes which “disrupt” you the most will probably be the most profitable.
Glasses : Use contact lenses. If glasses are a part of your style, opt for creator’s model and assume it.
Manicurist and pedicurist : You will be thought of as a well-kept man, and understand that if a woman notices these small details with you, it is because she is very attentive to it with her.
Problems of skin : Buy the adequate products or see a dermatologist.
Teeth : Clear them or in any case eliminate marks! Book an appointment at the dentist’s if you didn’t for a long time!
Breath : Dental floss, scratch tongue, chewing gum or mint.
Lift weights : Reduce fats and create muscles.
Eat better : Watch your calorie intakes and eat fruits and fresh vegetables as well as thin proteins. In the worst case, see a nutritionist.
Sort out : Among your clothes, throw away what is too wide, too much tired and all which does not suit you. Give to charity for example.
If after all that, you still have a problem: Ungraceful mark, first name of an ex tattooed on the body, etc. It’s time to work on it ! Look for a solution on the net or consult a specialist.
NB : Don’t forget that we are not women : being sexy won’t make us fuck a lot! The attitude is more important (attitude 80%, physical appearance 20%)!
Principles: Do not take to heart comments on your complexes, do on the contrary like if they did not exist: do not take comments too seriously by avoiding commenting in return. Simply, do nothing. It is necessary to understand that what a girl can dislike can be perceived as a trump card by another girl. When you approach the subject before her, say the first one “eh well ! You are taller than me… so what ?” It implies two interesting things: you are confident and you assume by not being afraid of the subject (you would probably give her better orgasms than a stupid tall dude). You can go farther by saying “woaw ! You are a kind of monster. I think that 2 % of the girls are tall as you are. Isn’t it too hard to find handsome guys ? Most of the guys are intimidated by tall girls”.
The attraction is a combination of strong feelings which form a super-special new emotion. It is a natural process which stipulates that a man and a woman want to make love together. If you doubt, think about your thousand ancestors and become aware that no one died virgin. What I mean, it is that if a girl is attracted by a man, then nothing else matters… not the clothes, nor the age, neither the nationality, nor the size, nor the religion, nor the wealth, nor the pressure of the family! The only important question in seduction is thus “are we both attracted?”
The purpose is to emphasize your qualities by compensating for your “defects”. You should not say to yourself “I won’t seduce her because I have big ears”. But rather “I will succeed in spite of my big ears”. It is more a pure mindset of winner. Assume !
Examples :
“I lose my hair”
Do not flatten big locks to fill holes like some people do. Shave yourself if you really have few locks that looks like an octopus.
“I have a big nose”
It is very virile a nose. It gives charm to the face. Look at Tom Cruise : the sex-symbol with the big nose who banged Penelope Cruz and Nicole Kidman. And I know a lot of other examples!
“My beard is incomplete”
Same principle than for hair: shave it and in addition it will make it come faster.
“I have a bad skin”
It is a problem which can be often adjusted by a better food. Otherwise, seek a treatment.
“I have dark eyes”
Is it a joke ?! Beautiful eyes = squinty eyes… It is not the color which makes their beauty. Look at our feminine equivalents Penelope Cruz or Julia Roberts which have brown eyes : their glances are nevertheless awesome. The beauty of the look also comes from lashes, eyebrows… Look at people in the eyes !
“I am too short”
The average French is 5’9. There is not tall sex-symbols like Al Pacino or Gaël Garcia Bernal (5’6). However you can always opt for compensated shoes (invisible internal heel). If I talk to you about that, it is because it was established that in communication, tall people are perceived as more dominant thus persuasive. But eventually, that risks to make you doubt about the fact that you can seduce without heelpieces. Is it really important to be taller…? Only superficial idiots can reject you for that. You could also adopt a hairstyle which makes you look taller! Be creative!
“I am too tall”
Is it a joke ?! There are many tall sex-symbols like Josh Hartnett or Ashton Kutcher (6’3).
“I am fat”
Go in for sport and eat better.
“I don’t feel good, I am depressed, etc.”
Go in for sport and eat better or pursue a therapy, you should not stay like that until it finishes alone (because it maybe won’t).
“I have a bad voice”
Fortunately, the voice and the way of speaking can be improved by work (working on it).
“I think I am not beautiful ”
Often, one does not realize his potential. Ask people on hotornot : you upload your photo and the girls give you a rank from 1 to 10, you could be surprised in a good way.
“I think I am not an interesting person”
If it is not innate, you can learn it.
“I have a small penis”
You just need 1.57 inches to make a girl come. Otherwise, there are the other techniques to give her orgasms.
” I have white hair ”
It is no big deal you can if you really want cut them or dye them. Look at Georges Clooney who became sexier by aging. In fact, it is a sign of maturity, it can stress your charm, some men are improving with the age just like the wine! Btw, more we grow old and less there is competition (fat, married men, etc.) It is necessary to hold on the length-term!
“I am shy”
You should work on it.
“Women don’t like me”
Me neither. All the girls don’t like me. It is necessary to distrust absolute, you certainly not seduced no girl and you will never seduce all the women. However, if the girls you like never like you, then there yes, it is time to change something.
“I’m precocious”
You have to work on it.
“I never kissed a girl”
You are here to learn how to seduce, it is a logical request. Do not forget that the girls are human beings just like you but with two X chromosomes : don’t put them on a pedestal for that. It is thus not because a girl in a bad mood told you that you were ugly or whatever that it is the truth… she is maybe just a frustrated idiot!
“I am still virgin”
Being successful and fucking girls is the logical outcome of your personal fulfillment. Persevere!
To try to reassure you:
The beard:
– 52% of women prefer the men totally shaved
– Three-day beard for 44%
– 59% women of less than 25 years like a short beard
Hairs on the body:
– 44% women prefer the man without hairs or almost
– 63% of women under 25 prefer the man without hairs at all
– 49% of women opt for a pilosity on certain parts of the body (trunk)
– On the back : to be banned (5% only followers for the grizzly bear)
The hair :
– The women prefer the short hair (81%) and without gel (78%)
– The 25/34 years old women are more tolerant with the gel (38%) and the shaven head (20% but 11% only women in any categories)
– 8% only of long hair addicts
– No coloring, 99% prefer the natural hair and authorize the white hair
– 11% of followers for the baldness
The ideal size of a man is :
* – 5’7 (3%)
* 5’7 (16%)
* 5’9 (29%)
* 5’11 (32%)
* 6’1 (14%)
* 6’3 (5%)
* + 6’3 (1%)
Muscle structure :
– 83% prefer a natural and not intrusive muscle structure (rather developed)
– 3% only like very huge muscles (very developed)
– No muscle at all 3%
– Rather not developed 10%
– 51% want you to watch your waistline but 48% accept that their man get fat.
– Love handles are acceptable for 33%
The skin :
– 63% do not forgive the self-tanner
– 89% are sensitive to the sweetness of the skin
– 93% the smell (fragrance)
– Wrinkles are acceptable for 36%
– 25% of followers for scars
The parts of the body they prefer:
– 53% the face
– 36% the trunk
– 20% the hands
– 11% the abs
– 13% the eyes
– 11% the shoulders
– 6% the back
– 4% the legs
– 3% the mouth, the smile
– 3% willy
He uses feminine cosmetics :
– 6% like
– 39% pissed off
– 55% don’t care
He uses a ultraviolet light or self-tanner :
– 3% like
– 63% pissed off
– 34% don’t care
Sources : GQ and TNS Soffres institut
RULE : YOU SHOULD NOT BET EVERYTHING ON YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE, IT IS RATHER YOUR PERSONALITY WHO WILL MAKE YOU HAVE SEX.
I would like to show you a small survey which I conducted : I asked 10 girls to rate actors on a scale of 1 to 10 (/10). Here are the results!
But, do not focus on the too highly rated : between the fact that their photos are photoshoped, that they are emphasized in movies, by their make-up, their personal coaches, and the fact that they are stars, etc.. It would be necessary to see them in the awakening or on the crappers to be objective. Or better, it would be necessary to find their double but who would not be famous and to watch how he manages his life. Even if, of course, the celebrity of a double reflect on those who look like them “waaah I succeeded ! I slept with the guy who looks like Johnny Depp” ! Corollary: if you have a resemblance with a sex symbol, it would maybe not be stupid to stress it.
Note nevertheless that even the international sex symbols like Brad Pitt are not approved unanimously. The thing is that, the girls grew up watching handsome boys through movies/series/novels, so they become far too demanding (for the greater part)… well, if they are too stupid to open eyes, it is not our problem … And also, it is necessary to know who they fuck in the real life, I mean, a girl can claim she has very high criteria to look difficult and then going out with a average guy.
You should not try to be approved unanimously because nobody is perfect. Even if Ian Somerhalder is only highly rated, I know (at least) one girl who finds him ugly because of sticking-out ears (because yes he had his ears tucked back meanwhile). The conclusion, it is that being hot, it is just “to please” (between 6 and 10/10) a certain category of girls.
On the other hand, it is useless to compare with the other guys because it demonstrates insecurity and a lack of confidence. It is necessary to do your best on the other hand to become a better yourself. It is healthier.
Important : this study does not take into account the fact that these people are famous, because they all are, so they are in theory on an equal footing. But in spite of the “bad grade” which are attributed to him, I know more than one girl who would feel wet if she saw Romain Duris in a bar. What I mean, it is that they are “stars” with a strong “feminine preselection” and a lot of “money” thus, just for that, they already awaken the feminine interest (even if they were less good-looking). But we don’t care, it is another world, or rather a world of illusions and fantasies.
I noticed during another experience that the grades attributed to the actresses are much more homogeneous. The men are thus more attracted by the physical appearance or at least more capable of judging their level of attraction according to a body, and the women are more attracted by the “charisma” (can include the lifestyle). Well, we already knew that !
It is not because the importance of the physical appearance is in theory relative that you should not try to optimize it. Because I see more and more girls who try to act like men and thus want “to bang” us, etc.. (and it is obviously not a bad thing, I guess).
I do not think that we are just a body. I mean, there is a mental, a physical appearance but I believe that there is at least a third dimension: the energy. And this possible sexual aura increases the attraction of a girl compared with a simple cute physical appearance.
First example, Chuck Bass is the most famous character in the successful TV show Gossip Girl. Nevertheless, he is in competition with two hot guys : Nate Archibald (Chace Crawford) and Dan Humphrey (Penn Badgley). However, the actor Ed Westwick has more fans on Facebook than his counterparts who have a more advantageous physical appearance. I quote envy.fr : “We cannot say that the physical appearance of Ed Westwick is very advantageous but it is his Chuck Bass’ role in Gossip Girl which makes him be considered as a sex symbol.” What turns the girls on with Chuck, except for the fact that he is stinking rich, it is that he has a total sexual freedom. He is very sexual. He is unpredictable and very “hot”: he would be the last one to judge a girl. By his side, in their imagination, they would be free to have fun with impunity and would enjoy life by realizing their fantasies.
Second example, Ian Somerhalder had important roles… but it is by embodying the dark Damon Salvatore in the TV show The Vampire Diaries that he became really famous. We were able to see him in the season 1 of the famous show Lost, but few people noticed him at that time. Furthermore, he supplants his sexy counterparts (they are all handsome in the show) thanks to the attitude of his character. For example, Paul Wesley who embodies Stefan Salvatore has the leading part but is nevertheless less popular. Why ? Damon is much funnier, more exciting, a little bit the same style than Chuck… he has something very sexual too.
Third example: Robert Pattison.
Public : Do you pay attention to your look?
Robert Pattinson : It’s funny. Before Twilight, I never thought about it, then people started judging me and then, that really made me think. And the strangest, it is that before Twilight, I was never casted for the roles of handsome guys ! Nobody found me beautiful and now it is the opposite !
The actor Robert Pattinson, sexy as hell according to Ladies, has not too many illusions on love which carry him his fans. He declares that his fans are not in love with him but with the character of Edward Cullen whom he embodies in the movie Twilight. But he admits that sometimes he would like to think the opposite because he was when he was young not very appreciated by the girls. Source : melty.fr
In this case too, it is thus the sexual energy, the aura of the character (strong and wild vampire) that makes the girls wet. Then, they are rationalizing by saying “he is so hot”. Got it ?
Then what ?
The girls are not concerned by techniques: they look for a character who pleases them, they don’t care why. They look for the result. So, no matter what you say if it corresponds to an exciting character. It is thus necessary to build up an attractive character. The idea is that at the beginning, you will remodel your current mindset to change it by the one of a pure winner. And then, little by little, your “character” and “real yourself” are going to overlap to give birth to a “better you”. Then, success calling success, it is about a vicious circle.
How to create a sexual aura
* Stay a gentlemen.
*Say “no” : “Can we sit down here ?
– No, let’s sit down rather here”.
* Tease her : “I hate when you say that!
– And well, you would better leave me because I often say it.”
* Control, do not obey without thinking.
* Discuss with a girl about kisses and embraces (in detail). Read sentimental novels and take note of descriptions. Even if it seems stupid to you, the girls adore, thus use it! By discussing with a girl, if you speak about kisses or touches and if you develop details (“I would like to touch your shoulders with the fingertips and to go along your neck”), she is going to start imagining the scene. And because the unconscious has difficulties to make the difference between the imagination and the reality, that should create some desires in her.
* Be “cool” : A cool guy is not overexcited, a cool guy is not affected, a cool guy is not reactive emotionally, a cool guy keeps control of himself…
You act as if you had:
– The (mysterious) confidence
– The (daring) humor
– The spirit (player)
– The charm (heat)
– The control (sophisticated)
– The leadership (volunteer)
– The class (say things in the eyes but with gallantry)
– The style
– The grace
– The comfort
– The composure
– A ceaseless sense of humor
– An insensitivity in the opinions of others
A real man :
– Knows that a girl who has an experience with him will never forget it
– Accepts things without judgment, then try to change them if really it is needed
– Agrees to show his “weapon” without using it
– Doesn’t need to threaten
– Is a pillar of strength, security, protection… in all situations
– Authorizes, encourages and has fun when the others win or shine
– Needs nothing else to be happy
– Gets dressed “cool”
– Is not obsessed by the grammar, likes the modern words, the tendencies
– Has the confidence, the peace, the composure
– Can laugh at himself
– Does not act according to the others
– Is independent and encourages the independence of others
– Says « hey »
– Clarifies the limits as soon as possible!
– Establishes a leadership and especially values of virility!
– Puts borders in a funny way, even when it is really serious!
– Says when he wants or likes something!
– Pushes her away from time to time when she kisses him then kisses her back with more passion!
RULE : NEVER FORMULATE THAT YOU ARE “KIND” BECAUSE IN THEIR MIND IT WOULD BE ASSOCIATED WITH “NOT SEXY”.
The best would be that she says to herself “he is not kind in appearance but when we dig a little we discover his lovely personality!” And then she will feel the excitement of the “bad boy” + the stability of the “nice boy”… Good…
According to a study of Whitchurch, Wilson and Gilbert (2011), a woman is more attracted by a man when she is not sure to what extent he likes her. Often A likes B as much as A thinks that B likes her. The women who think that such man like them a lot are more attracted by him than the women thinking that he likes them just averagely. It confirms the principle of reciprocity (you like me, then I like you in return). But the women who do not know to what extent a man likes them (averagely or a lot) are the ones who are the most attracted… it confirms the principle of the pleasure of the uncertainty. You should thus act “hard to get” but she must know that she can have you.
RULE : ASSUME YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES BUT WITH CLASS.
Below, some sources of inspiration to boost your sexual energy:
The bad boy (represent the danger): It is a dangerous person with whom you live sensations. The bad boys are the gangster, the motorcyclist, the rocker… They behave with hardness and are dressed, generally, dirty. They drink, smoke, are tattooed, and show that they are not submitted to the society. Dad would hang himself if she came back home with one! Why the women like them? The danger! It is an emotional race to be next to a guy who would do anything. Often, these guys beat their girlfriend and spend their time in jail. Then, the girl will say that he made a mistake, but that she loves him. Do not fall in the extreme. Wear a tattoo, buy a motorcycle and behave occasionally as a bad boy if you want but do not become a criminal. They flirt with the prohibition and it is what is exciting …
RULE : DO NOT BECOME A CRIMINAL, AND IN A GENERAL WAY, DO NOT FALL IN EXTREMES. STEP BACK A LITTLE!
The adventurer (represent the amusement): It is a nice person with whom you live in the excitement. The adventurers look ceaselessly for the next funny experience. They love surfing, the ski, the race or the parachute jumping. Have a look to Indiana Jones and James Bond… They are not afraid, they do crazy things to find some hot pepper and adrenalin. The aroused attraction is similar to the one of the bad boys, but they don’t have for nasty habit to beat their girlfriends. The girls love them because they drive fast, because they go to interesting places and because they have a common sense of the adventure in all what they do. They always wonder which adventure waits for them even when they just go out for shopping. They have a nice way of exaggerating every story by underlining the adventurous parts. The adventurers are like the bad boys because they like cars and women… especially when it is fast. The girls are attracted because with them, it is the adventure and because they have more than one woman at the same time. They accept such a behavior because they are very funny and because that frees them from the social pressure. They have fun easily and are always happy of what happens to them. They are very optimistic, the girls love it. To conclude, the adventurers are generally the master of their relationships and cannot be tamed.
RULE : GO OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND LIVE YOUR LIFE COMPLETELY WITHOUT REGRET NOR REMORSE. IT CAN STOP WHENEVER…
The seducer (represents the sex) : It is a sensual person who makes the girl feel sexy. The seducers do everything for the women: they can understand them. Sometimes, the seducer seems to have a feminine nature. For the most part of the other guys, the seducers seem strange even homosexuals. Watch the movie Don Juan de Marco with Johnny Depp because it is about a seducer. Don Juan sees the world only under the romantic angles, it is very attractive for a girl. The seducers are often submitted (they constantly satisfy the women by paying attention on their needs). The bad side of a seducer, it is that as soon as he has a sexual relation with a girl: he leaves her. Of course, they can come back for occasional nights, but they are not really interested in long-term relationships.
The artist (represents the emotion): it is the person who moves his feelings and stay enigmatic and complex (musician, poet). Why the girls love tortured and introvert people? The girls like the challenges and helping people. The personality of the artist is complex but he needs help and understanding. Most of the artists see the world very differently from the other guys. They admire a tree and its leaves, they see a color and can feel it. Some people have their perceptions and their senses combined in an unusual way. The girls, thanks to the dominating activity of their right emotional brain, can often understand the expressions of the artists better than the guys. It is the reason why they are very attracted by them. On his side, the artist needs an open person capable of understanding him.
RULE : YOU DRIVE EMOTIONS.
The artists control nothing, because they do not absolutely control themselves. They are, most of the time, shambolic, unconscious of time, etc. If you want to develop this personality, work on the other parts of your life to remain somebody balanced.
Don’t forget that your character must have weaknesses because perfection is a defect.
NB : YOU DO NOT NEED TO RESPECT ALL THE RULES TO BE SUCCESSFUL.
The conclusion : you maybe need a starting point to become more sexual. Then, you will convey it naturally.
Where to find women ? Seriously ? I would have been able to content with writing “everywhere” (to save time) and with going elsewhere doing other things like pulling my cat’s tail, watching Daredorm or sending naughty texts to all my female contacts. But well… I was told in first grade that it is always necessary to develop my answers.
I – 20 obstacles which prevent you from taking action :
The impact of clothes on the women can be felt on several levels. Just like certain birds are sexually attracted by a color of feathers, the human beings are sexually attracted by certain clothes. There are moreover a lot of guys who are not even turned on by the women in themselves but rather by objects (for example: high heels or glasses), associations of ideas or by what these women represent for them. Well, the women are made the same way and can be turned on by a look or a specific garment (for example: a girl who would have one idol could fantasize over you because you too have a leather jacket or because you have the same haircut or the same tattoo).
How to work on your body to be more attractive ?
Principles: Do not take to heart comments on your complexes, do on the contrary like if they did not exist: do not take comments too seriously by avoiding commenting in return. Simply, do nothing. It is necessary to understand that what a girl can dislike can be perceived as a trump card by another girl. When you approach the subject before her, say the first one “eh well ! You are taller than me… so what ?” It implies two interesting things: you are confident and you assume by not being afraid of the subject (you would probably give her better orgasms than a stupid tall dude). You can go farther by saying “woaw ! You are a kind of monster. I think that 2 % of the girls are tall as you are. Isn’t it too hard to find handsome guys ? Most of the guys are intimidated by tall girls”.
The sexual aura exists
