Category: Social dynamics

A guy often begins in the community of seduction because of a woman, and then he learns how to seduce women. And then we realize that it’s better (I think it’s better to learn how to fish than eating one single fish).

If it is very difficult to make out with a girl in particular, but it is quite simple to make out with a girl… in general.

“Who ? What the fuck ? What does it mean ?”

This means that paradoxically, the less important it is, the easier it becomes, because not everything that is the emotional register does not hinder us.

The more you’ll seduce, the more women will like you. The more you enjoy and the more relaxed you are, the better in your shoes you feel and the easier it will be to seduce a specific girl (with why not even some emotional in the equation).

This is why bad boys are so successful when nice boys generally stay at home and masturbate.

I do not recommend to become insensitive, nor an asshole. I establish only what I call a “dynamic law”.

That is to say, I recommend observing how human relationships are established in reality (and this is far, far from the advice of women’s magazines…)

I know, it’s not necessarily brilliant. Because our education made us internalize a lot of lies.

Besides, one thing particularly struck me. While women are generally naturally much better off than men in terms of seduction, they almost never say the “truth” about what they’re likely to like in a potential partner. Some women lie, but I think a majority is simply not aware of the difference between what they think they are doing… and what they actually do. This is very disturbing for a man who would ask advice to women to seduce!

The first lesson is that if you want to be effective, you should not listen to what others are saying, rather look at what they actually do.

So do not take my word for it and begin to seriously observe your contemporaries without attempting to put a moral explanation on their actions. Try to understand the sequence (such fact causes such effect, which brings another fact or effect). Seek to analyze, not to judge.

For example, while most girls will tell you that they want above all nice and caring guys, you will notice that:
– or it is not the case;
– or other characteristics of the guys in question are much more pronounced than kindness.

Besides, it’s weird, but the guys who have learned to chat, to be popular, to be sexy or manly… are considered much more kind and attentive than the others… Everybody finds exquisite the vulnerable sensibility of a rock star, but not the one of a tramp. It’s weird, huh?

(There, normally, at least one of the girls in the audience says “Pfff, but it’s bullshit, you should not take a headache, you just have to act as you feel, we are not robots, you have to be available, nice and make small gifts… blablabla”)

(Bizarrely, it’s usually the same ones who complain about always being hurt by assholes. It’s weird, huh…?)

A guy a bit sensitive might also object “It’s true what you say there but it is not necessarily very fun to hang out with a girl for whom we do not feel anything. Besides, this is not the kind of story that could last very long.”

In fact, I do not necessarily recommend going out with girls for whom you do not feel anything. Though why do you necessarily link sex between consenting adults with love?

I simply recommend learning to be comfortable.

Because if you are as comfortable with the girl you want (which you may “love”) as during an allergy crisis you have no chance.

It is therefore necessary to desensitize to become enthusiastic, warm, charming, smiling, at ease, etc.

When one observes the “natural” seducers, this is what one notices. They are not necessarily extraordinary. They have just learned to be confident as far as the gender relations are concerned.

One wonders sometimes (feeling a point of jealousy) how do all these assholes to bang those hot chicks.

Often, they became confident thanks to a characteristic that is considered essential: a beautiful face, an athlete’s body, a fascinating voice, a great style…

But these “assholes” have all the same an essential merit: they go for it. They dare to confess their desire, uninhibited. And most importantly, they are comfortable and confident as they have experience for them.

They are often much more honest with themselves and with the women than the average men. But what they teach us about human relationships is generally judged as unbearable …

Hello! The woman is not more the magical creature imagined by the virgin than the demonic slut by the divorced recidivists and other suckers.

Women have desires, hopes, values, instincts. By knowing them, we can know them biblically. It’s as simple as that.

The problem here is that no woman is “standard” (Some believe to be universal references and give lessons but do not listen to them). One cannot foresee that a precise unknown will become mad about you.

On the other hand, if one frequents many young women, not only he will become more at ease, but it is then quite easy to find a girl who will respond favorably to his advances.

The most unfair is that the more experience you have with different randomly chosen women, and more easily you will find “openness” to seduce a specific girl (why not “THE” girl?). This is how it happens in real life… Depressing? No, not especially… It’s life, that’s all…

“What’s the use of getting tired for a girl you’re not in love with? “

Because before learning to play a duet at the concert, we train. And that one can learn to pick up/to laugh/to spend a good time with chicks without being necessarily in love. The more comfortable you are with the opposite sex, the easier it will be to approach and seduce the one you really like.

“Why do you want to submit to the desires and pleasures of a woman for whom you have no feelings?”

Precisely, one does not submit. We create flirting and assume our manhood. From the moment the meeting progresses, it is necessary to become the prize, the price that the other wants absolutely to obtain. This will lead to a curious turnaround (since it is necessary to show interest to catch her attention with the risk of being rejected, before taking the control of the situation).

 

 OBJECTION !

“When I read some field reports, I feel a lot of contempt in the girls’ description (notably the note of the girls’ physique, I find it questionable).”

Is there a question of contempt or “flattening”? For example the notes, it is a trick typically feminine. Long before I knew the community, the only time I heard about notes was in groups of girls noting their surroundings… especially the boys.

Many “techniques” of seduction are in fact a systematization of what girls “naturally” do: selection, mystery, blowing hot and cold, and so on.

I can not speak on behalf of others but the category of seducer to which I belong sincerely loves women, to the point of dedicating my life to them… so do not come and talk to me of contempt or misogyny, please!

Extract from : The basics of seduction

Unless you have a chance to gather more accurate and usable information, or if you are not in good shape, you have nothing to gain by delaying the encounter and attempting to seduce a desired person.

Rakes are rarely the problem. On the other hand, disappointment after a long uncertain wait is truly destructive… What then? Getting back in the saddle, of course.

“I am very sad… my heart is in trouble… I loved this girl, I was thinking of her every day! I wanted to be with her, to hang out with her… but after our first date, she preferred to tell me, kindly by mail, that she did not want to go further with me !! ??? What did I do? Why do not she likes me ? It’s hard to get refused by a girl you love, it hurts in my heart…”

In fact, the girl was very nice to tell this guy what she thought rather than leaving him in ignorance by ease until he gets tired… Uncertainty is even worse than failure… believe me !

Who knows the reasons for this failure? Not the right place? Not the right way? Too many people aware?

The only valid thing to do is to approach a woman and try. Without trying to complicate everything. It is through this attitude that we will all find THE one, one of these days.

And for now? This guy suffers, he had so much bet on this girl … THE ONLY RIGHT THING THAT HE CAN DO now is to go out and empty his mind with his friends and meet other women.

Of course, some will advise him to write letters of love with his blood, to make suicide attempts or to scream naked under the window of the girl, but it is a very bad idea, in practice.

It is better to move on, even if the ego does not like this idea.

Next time, this guy will not wait several weeks before approaching or showing his interest… and one of the following times he will meet a person who will be delighted by his attentions. This misadventure was only a step towards his success. But he does not have the necessary distance to see it.

In fact, it is not the girl who makes him suffer, we must not blame her. He suffers from the love obsession he has imposed to himself by imagining what it would have been like if…

If you are in a similar case, do not depress in your corner. You have to get back into the saddle and in a while, like this guy, you will not feel any pain and will be able to use this rejection as a useful experience.

In the community of seduction, this pseudo-loving state is called the “One It Is” (the One and Only). It is a self-inflicted love obsession which leads one to think that only the coveted girl can give meaning to the void of his life, etc.

When we advise beginners to approach right away, or as quickly as possible, it is also to avoid getting into this kind of pitiful state…

It is a sort of pathology of feelings. Not only does it make you sick, but it usually makes impossible a vaguely effective approach to seduction.

I am going to give you a confidence that hurts: hardly anyone likes ashore people. And those who love them are often even more worrisome than others (Savior’s syndrome, manipulators, followers of the race to the bottom who will resent you to death if you start to succeed one day…)

Unfortunately, it’s almost mathematical: feeding a love obsession for a girl means losing ground and missing the target while failure is obviously not an option you want to consider. Whether we like it or not, finding and seducing the woman of your dreams requires knowing how to keep your cool : one must learn how to think clearly. But obviously, this is not enough: to lucidity, we must combine the safety of gestures.

 

 OBJECTION !

“I think a guy who acts as you describe has a huge ego. “

For my part, I believe that a man who does what I describe does not depend on the goodwill (not to say the whims) of a woman to have a satisfying sexual life and can be happy with ONE woman only if he chooses this option.

It is not an exaggerated ego, in my opinion, to learn to respect each other and to do finish K.O. because of a woman (on who one’s would have focused by mistake).

Learning to pick women up is not going out in the street and playing the sex-starved dude by thinking that all women must be under our spell. It is an apprenticeship that makes it possible to find a partner without depending on the good will of society towards you. While doing experiments that make us grow, during the time we are waiting to find her…

And these experiments, on the contrary, require to silence your ego, because it is your ego that most often prevents you from going over. It is the ego that is afraid of the rejection, it is still the ego that begs you to don’t learn seduction, etc.

« More the knowledge lesser the ego, lesser the knowledge more the ego. » Albert Einstein

By playing on statistics and having a bit of audacity / assurance, you can do pretty much what you want in life!

Extract from : The basics of seduction

Dolorism, the passion for moral and physical suffering, the inability to question the cards that have been distributed, are absolutely detestable things.

Aspiring to live as happy as possible and giving yourself the means should be the ultimate goal. But happiness has a price. Are you ready to leave your uncomfortable but reassuring life to pay for it?

Many of us are ready to face unimaginable suffering to avoid an effort a bit piquant but able of giving them joy, self-confidence and a fulfilling sexual life. This is madness!

No one dies of being rejected by a chick. Neither by 20. On the other hand, we can die of loneliness.

“I prefer to die than to realize that life is not in accordance with my dreams and hopes…” this kind of sentence deserves a big kick in the ass!

Life can be more terrible than the worst of your nightmares and more wonderful than the most fabulous of your dreams. It all depends on what you do with it.

Seduction is not a purely intellectual skill because it forces you out of your inner little world. Seduction puts you at the foot of the wall. It forces you to stick to reality. To the other.

And it’s a truly exciting challenge. Especially if, until then, life has not given you gifts.

What do you learn by approaching strangers under a variety of pretexts? Whether one gets rejected or welcomed, one does not die. We sometimes get shamed. We sometimes have meet wonderful people that make us forget the bad days. It’s the game. We have fun. We do not control everything.

Then, one learns finally to be comfortable. Or how to pretend to be so until it is really the case. “Fake it until you make it”, advise some people…

A true pleasure of seducer is to give birth to a smile in a unknown woman. Then, all the art of seduction consists in amplifying the positive reaction that one provokes. The whole thing, without insisting like a weirdo.

Men and women are quite different on this point. In general, male desire can ignite very quickly, like a button that is pierced. The feminine desire can be just as intense, but generally rises more slowly (imagine the knob that adjusts the volume of a TV).

One turns the first notches by showing attention and interest to the other (and by “emitting well-being”). It is the base of everything. Then, it is just as simple but there’s a range of possibilities that you will learn to master only little by little. From the most direct to the most refined way to proceed.

The simplest is the frankness. It’s very stupid, but a cool guy who tells a girl he likes her and would like to see her in another context, it has the advantage of courage… in short we are fr away from the asshole weirdo who make proposals more or less salacious things and from the slobbery who usually beat about the bush.

Note: You may not be aware of this, but the girls are much more approached than us, and most of the time by suckers. A cool and frank guys, it is enjoyable, in general. It is not victory assured every time, but for a girl with whom there’s a feeling, it is enough. Why making it complicated when it can be simple ?…

“I will never dare,” retorted some, as a defense shield preventing them from moving their ass. If your ideal in life is to die by having loved in secret, free to you… Personally, making this kind of confession freed me. When I became aware of this, I stopped wasting opportunities by not trying anything…

 

 OBJECTION !

“All this stuff just to bring a poor woman into your bed…! “

Yes, it is supid to have to work so hard on yourself to please women who are by nature so generous, so pure, so solidarity and so frank…

Women are so much better than men… so much more understanding… Fuck that bullshit! It’s a thought of foolish nonsense who must put women on a pedestal and believe that the guys in the community of seduction are horrible manipulators.

Women are strictly no better than men. They may even be even more cruel. The worst enemy of a girl is usually another girl, younger, more intelligent, different…

I can tell you, women are not even less cruel than men. They are, for the most part, less violent directly but are the first in terms of, for example, psychological violence, violence against children or against elderly…

A Canadian study, conducted in 2001 by the Government of Canada’s Department of Health using the WHO definition, shows the following results for child domestic abuse:

– Physical violence 31%
– Sexual abuse 10%
– Negligence 40%
– Psychological abuse 19%

The perpetrators of all these acts of violence are:

– Biological mother 61%
– Biological Father 38%
– Stepfather 9%
– Mother-in-law 3%
– Host family 1%
– Other family member 7%

In France, the National Child Abuse Reception Service also publishes very reliable statistics. The organization, which receives 700,000 calls annually to report abuses, conducts audits and transmits to the General Councils only in the most credible cases, requiring social and judicial monitoring: 9,000 per year. In its 2006 report, the statistics, which confirm those of previous years, show that the perpetrators of reported maltreatment are as follows: mother (52.3%), father (29.6%), stepfather (7.8%), all other categories being less than 2%. And by gender: women (56.3%), men (43.2%), the other cases being not defined.

For information, here is my opinion on what a Pick-Up Artist is (and I am in a good position to talk about it I think): there will always be people here to say that PUAs are not, basically, balanced people And that they seek to escape a profound discomfort. This is true and false depending on the case. Some PUAs are not models of inner peace, others are more than the majority of people. The ideal of a real PUA is, however, to continually improve, to find a way of balance and respect in his sexual and social relations. Seduction goes beyond the mere fact of adding women to your hunting bag : it is a way of finding one’s own identity, of locating oneself in relations with others and of becoming more mature. For many, it is a quasi-therapeutic way to overcome shyness and to become assertive in society. Being a pick-up artist, in my opinion, is finally respecting an ethical code: we are not heartless assholes… and those who behave in this way are still far from having finished their apprenticeship.

I repeat: seduction is a school of personal development. This involves taking power over one’s own life, and using seduction as a tool for reflection.

In light of these elements, I really do not understand why so many people criticize the community of seduction. Or rather, I understand it too well… jealousy!

Extract from : The basics of seduction

I would like to share with you a little experience that sums up the difference between men and women in terms of seduction.

Here is the link to see the whole experience: in the ebook.

I summarize it below.

A journalist had fun creating 10 false profiles on a dating site: 5 men and 5 women.

The only difference between these profiles: the photos (which range from “ugly” to “hot”)… for the rest, the profiles are identical, they have the same descriptions. In addition, the profiles are inactive: no solicitation, the journalist let people make their lives without influencing.

Of course, we see that the most beautiful girls receive far more proposals than the others. But the surprise is that over a period of 4 months, the “ugliest” girls receive as many solicitations as the most “handsome” guys. As for the other guys… almost nothing.

This tends to confirm an old observation: for a woman, unless she is suffering from physical or psychological problems, finding a partner is a matter of choice (accepting to be available, agreeing to make a choice in a panel of proposals, etc.)

But for a guy, except if he is very favored by nature: he will not receive any proposal unless fighting to stand out from others.

You can lament, you can stay in denial, you can use this little experience as an excuse to say that women are “all bitches who only want stupid hot guys”…

But if you look around you: in fact, most people who get laid, who seduce, are far from all being models.

They just not remained passive waiting for something to happen. They took control of their desire. They have worked and learned (sometimes without the help of the seduction community). They moved their ass.

And you ? Which option do you choose?

The disproportion between the ability to attract a partner is thus unfair between men and women. And, even more unjust, people generally enter into complicity with people belonging to their to social, physical or ethnic circle…

Exception: the social mobility of a beautiful woman will be superior to the mobility of another woman (and her children, because they will be beautiful, will receive more care and attention than the others).

The statistical studies show that being a beautiful blonde counts as much as a good diploma to meet the soul mate in a framework of executives…

Social rules are not very romantic, sorry… And if you break them… watch out… your own friends can turn against you. But luckily, you can also use those rules to your advantage. In particular, those that have a strong influence but are not well known.

 

 OBJECTIONS !

 “It’s pathetic” & “Does not seduction give a degrading vision of woman? “

 It’s well known, the future belongs to those who masturbate on their mum’s La Redoute catalog, not to the courageous ones who act… Let’s be clear: I do not give a damn about the lessons of uneducated idiots. I help those who want to learn. Too bad for the others.

“Mundus vult decipi, ergo decipiatur” (The world wants to be duped, let it be), said the rhetors of antiquity. Not me. I want the real truth, but it is only in what works and in the knowledge of the true nature of women, not in their idealization. To know a little, you have to study a lot, experiment a lot. That’s what I did. And that is why I am now legitimate to teach seduction. That’s why I love women, for what they really are!

Extract from : The basics of seduction

An unknown energy

Many people think that the universe is made up of atoms… Yet, this is not quite right! There are particles of the atom.

We are not able to perceive them directly but it is possible to act on a certain number of particles. And that does not mean that there is not yet something even less noticeable behind…

According to the researchers, the universe consists of 4% matter, 23% dark matter imperceptible, and 73% black energy.

Is seduction a “dark matter”? We only know that it is there, that it is acting upon us, but we do not know much more about it. So we have to work empirically to unravel its mysteries.

If we gave up our ability to reflect, to draw practical and applicable lessons from our experiences, then we would submit totally to the “laws of the universe” of life in society. Now, according to these laws: 80% of the male should not have a sex life worthy of the name, that’s all! Is that acceptable? No, let’s do not give up!

 

Transgressive activity

Even a very experienced seducer never has all the women at his feet (it’s a legend). But he has found empirically a way to have success… a success usually reserved for stars, and powerful or very handsome men!

Seduction is not a science, but rather a discipline or even an art that one learns by the practice and the testing of the theory.

That is why pick-up is a transgressive activity… That is why we try to dissuade you from learning to seduce: you would take what the elites had reserved for themselves.

This is also why most guys find it hard to assume publicly that they read my blog and my ebooks: there are few comments, for example, when my articles are read by thousands of people and many people contact privately to thank me for the positive impact that my knowledge had on their lives (I will publish proofs of this one of these days on my blog because we all like evidence).

 

A denigrated activity

Rather than creating a dynamic working relationship (questioning, comparison, proposition, exceptions, tests and conclusions), most people react in the French way when it comes to seduction, that is to say they try to shine with criticism and jokes, while they have a sex life that is actually not good. But they pray that it will not be known. In addition, it would piss them off to realize that other people have a better one. This is called the race to the bottom.

Even if we don’t talk about that, there exists in France a real sexual misery. The message that scream our society is “if you can not seduce, it’s not your fault. You are a nerdy because you do not consume fashionable places, good clothes, good food, good skin cream, and so on.”

You can try if you want but these things do not work (or rather badly) to seduce… and sometimes even make people aggressive with themselves or others!

If you are excluded from the private circle of womanizers, you must learn to truly seduce, without going through the consumer society. It’s a vital necessity to get out of this infernal circle and feel better. But do not delude yourself: learning is also putting your hands in the sludge.

 

The stigma associated with learning seduction

Ask yourself this question: would you accept to torture an unknown person for no reason ? No…? Are you sure ? Yet Milgram’s experience (if it just vaguely means anything to you, see below) has shown that 90% of a population would, if asked correctly.

I’m not saying that you’re a monster. What must be understood is that we ALL live on certainties which are nothing more than automatisms of thought. To identify these automatisms and to question them for a better life is what I call “opening your eyes”, “thinking for yourself”. Of course that seduction can be is learned, like any discipline… even though most people think it’s not the case.

 

Women’s opinions

“I like handsome boys (but who do not know that they are beautiful), kind, attentive, shy, sensitive with a great sense of humor,” girls generally tell us before having sex with machos, daddy’s boys or riff-raffs… “The others yes, but I am different” may they answer this statement. Of course ! It reminds me some girlfriends, psycho students, laughing and explaining that they would never have fallen into the trap of the Milgram experiment nor into the trap of Leyens (google that). Yes, yes, if you like to believe it…

For information, the Milgram experiment is a psychology experiment carried out between 1960 and 1963 by the American psychologist Stanley Milgram. It sought to assess the degree of obedience of an individual to an authority and to analyze the process of submission to authority, especially when it induces actions that raise consciousness problems.

In the first experiments conducted by Stanley Milgram, 62.5% of the 40 subjects carried out the experiment in the long term by inflicting 450 volt electroshocks (which were fatal, fortunately they were fictitious) three times. All participants accepted the principle, and, after encouragement, reached 135 volts. The average of the so-called maximal shocks (levels at which subjects stopped) was 360 volts. However, each participant had at one time or another interrupted to question the authority. Many showed signs of extreme nervousness and reluctance in later stages (verbal protests, nervous laughter, etc.)

Milgram described these results as “unexpected and disturbing” at the time. Preliminary surveys of 39 psychiatrists had predicted a rate of subjects sending 450 volts on the order of 1 per 1000 with a maximum trend close to 150 volts. And yet… 62.5% were very cruel!

What I want to emphasize here is that most people are strong to lecture and criticize by playing it politically correct but offer nothing constructive for you. They will tell you to “be nice” and that is how you will find “someone”. Meanwhile, Milgram’s experience has revealed their profound nature. Do not allow yourself to be stopped in your personal development by their bad faith or by their shirry lessons in morality!

Seduction can be learned!

Seduction is a discipline that can be learned and taught, like any skill, even if skeptics do not like this idea. But attention, seduction is not easy: it is the result of a long process, largely unconscious, become a quasi-automatism in some and a phobia in others.

I would say that, despite the difficulty, learning to seduce is not the most difficult. The most difficult part is to handle the light that his learning throws on yourself and on the relationships between human beings. Many people cannot handle this and prefer to cover their faces by pretending that it is bullshit. It is a matter of choice, denial… but these losers should not try to dissuade those who want to educate themselves!

 

How it works ?

As a human being, the more you have experience in the field, the easier it is. The more you understand how the world works, the easier it is. The more comfortable you are with women, the easier it is.

If you stay nicely in your corner, you will have what others want to leave you, that is to say usually not much. Or, “good friends” who tell you for hours that their ex is a bitch but want to sleep with him again. Thank you !

There are rules in seduction because there are rules in society since humanity exists. Since the time we were prehistoric men and lived in tribes. This does not mean that they must be complied with. On the other hand, it is absolutely necessary to know the rules otherwise you will always take the same doors in the teeth.

It’s important to note that when I talk about not following the rules, it does not mean you have to be a cheater, an asshole, a misogynist or a serial fucker. It simply means that if you have no success, there are reasons for this. And if you just do the same thing (and complain that it does not work), nothing will change.

Realizing that women are not innocent, fragile and benevolent beings will poke your ass. Again, opening your eyes and bringing women down from their pedestals will upset your vision of the world. Yet this will help you to sleep with them and see them again. Do you really want to live in the land of the unicorns and stay with your utopian vision of woman (or love) which, however, until now has only disappointed you?

 

Everything is based on evolutionary psychology

The genetic difference between chimpanzees and us, humans, is less than 2%.

By studying them, it can be observed that all chimpanzee females can have a sex life easily, but that few males do.

The strongest, the most powerful, those who can fight predators and repel the attacks of enemy tribes (war and murder also exist among chimpanzees, a common point with us) can. They quickly become leaders and attract almost all females.

Other example, those who learn techniques to improve the life of the tribe (eg hunting meat chimpanzees are fond of). They also quickly attract the ladies.

Finally, the “smart little ones” also play their part. They are the ones who develop their communication skills with females. They create a bond of familiarity with them, which they would normally develop only with those who would enable them to raise their children in the safest possible way (in other words, the powerful or the competent ones).

Just like one cannot not communicate (even silence and eloquent), one cannot not influence, said Paul Watzlawick. This is why I advise you to learn how to communicate the right messages to be part of the “smart ones” (this is what the community of seduction teaches and that is why it bothers the dominant as well as the submissive conditioned to defend the interests of the dominants in the hope of obtaining their approval).

One of the reasons for the development of communication may have been access to sexuality. Its consequences have in any case been the construction of complex societies, the transmission of knowledge acquired… But if our intellects have evolved, our deep desires remain the same: security, belonging to a group, reproduction… the instinctive desires of women always concern the same archetypes: the powerful man and the competent man.

And the others ? That is to say, 80% of the guys? Well, they pick up the crumbs if they do not know how to communicate well.

If you want to have the choice in your sex life, you must take power. Either by embodying a certain social legitimacy (the president, the famous actor, the rock star, etc.), or by satisfying a social need (being safe near a macho, expressing her rebellion with a riff raff, etc.), or by learning to decipher and elicit the processes of attraction and attachment through the Game.

 

Tools of the community

A theory is rarely horny. Moreover, even we, members of the seduction community, do not have a blind faith in our theories. We are trying to systematize what works. We are looking for concrete tools.

Of course, the term “tools” (or techniques) concerning human relations could be called into question, we could say that such consideration should be deleted.

But then, most of the “human sciences” should be suppressed in the wake, the others that just seek after all to make human behavior understandable.

If you think about it well, how would it be different when it comes to seduction? Except because it’s scary and it’s a little taboo?

 

 OBJECTION !

“You must be natural, that’s it…”

It does not mean anything “being natural”. One can be comfortable, tact like if he doesn’t give a damn, but: “to be natural”, what does it mean, seriously?

The “nature” of an anxious person is to frighten, but this is precisely what must be avoided. The “nature” of an insecure guy is to be easily aggressive, but it’s rarely a good idea… And I do not even talk about the “nature” of a shy or a social phobic…

The problem is that we usually cling with the last energy to what makes us suffer… like our traumas, our bad habits, our aberrant reflexes, and so on.

Creating a virtuous circle systematizing our small victories to gradually rebuild the perception of our reality and success takes time but it is worth it. I can guarantee you!

Whether you like it or not, if you do not emit well-being, calm, a certain strength… you will not attract anyone interesting. Or, it will work by chance, 1 time out of 1000…

However, one can perfectly integrate his anxiety, aggressiveness or shyness in the practice of seduction. Because in any case, one must integrate it in his work on himself (seduction is for me a personal development work).

In any case, if you just start, you’ll certainly not escape a serious work on yourself… So, pretending “it is enough to be yourself”, it is choosing the bad way of the ease and denial, if you want my opinion!

Extract from : The basics of seduction

There is no magic formula in seduction: the ideal solution, easy, in three pages, does not exist. Too bad but that’s the truth !

The Game will not satisfy your desires with any power or revenge… but it will allow you to better know yourself and better understand others. More than words, it is therefore the spirit conveyed by the Game that must govern.

To create interest, then desire and envy : beyond the techniques, seducing is above all a state of mind, a “science of the other” that require deploying treasures of psychology and communication…

However, this knowledge can be used simply. It has already improved the sex and love life of thousands of people. Now it’s your turn.

Even if, of course, all the following is not efficient for 100% of the people you will approach because exceptions still exist (it is said that they confirm the rule).

I promise you many successes if you are serious in your learning!

The other day, I was writing for you and I thought back to my beginnings in the community of seduction. Several years ago, to initiate myself, I had copied and pasted on the big sites of seduction of the time, more than one thousand pages. I had read everything, analyzed and classified with motivation… like a true passion, yet.

I say to myself today that it would be very good if the people who arrive in the world of seduction can find an ebook recapitulating the bases of seduction, organized in the most pedagogical way possible. And, if possible, not in a 100-page plus document…

This would prevent them from getting lost in the mass of information available (God knows that there is a lot of bullshit on the web about seduction… but even good advice is scattered, so it is not easy to find things at the beginning). What you have in front of you will save you a lot of time and a lot of energy… that you’ll reinvest directly in the field with women.

My goal in writing this book is that you learn at the same time that the terms (the jargon of the Game), the principles and the techniques of seduction. Basically, I want to introduce you both effectively and in depth: you will know what words means, what is useful and why we do this or that. In short, I will not stay on the surface of things or ask you to stupidly recite your lesson at the end. My goal is that your sex life and love improves concretely!

I will also discuss the various obstacles that can be encountered along the way and which could slow down your way towards excellence in seduction.

I must admit that it was good for me to review the basics, even though I now have the rank of pick-up artist. It allowed me to take a step back and dust off some of the knowledge that I had left aside for a while, to see things from a new angle, and so on.

I wish you as much success as I have thanks to the game, and even more (why not)!

Extract from : The basics of seduction

Many guys (who believe in Santa Claus – but especially who understand nothing about the game) are looking for lines, routines and techniques that would work all the time, everywhere… and with every chicks, while we’re at it!

I know, what a dream a priori (and this is the stock in trade of many swindlers)… but such a power does not exist. Moreover, even if a magic pill you could give it to you, you would not want it.

Why ?

Because for most guys, looking for something that works 100% just proves they are afraid. They are shitting on themselves. However, women can smell fear. This is absolutely not attractive and is often one of the main problems of the guys still struggling in seduction. Once you’ll get rid of fear, you’ll royally don’t give a shit about if it works every time or not… you will have fun, that’s all!

For other guys, the utopian dream of never being rejected simply demonstrates that their ego is huge. They are not actually present in their interactions with women, they are instead trying to prove things. It’s like those who are bulging torso like baboons when they see a woman, trying to impress the girl and the other guys in the room, trying to seem interesting… it’s not good. It is too self-centered and intelligent women feel that these guys are not sincere. Now the goal of game is not to have a big ego and make a perpetual contest of who has the biggest dick… but to move away from it, to live a better life!

Accept?

There are lots of women out there… some are compatible with you and others are not. You must accept this first thing.

The aim of the game is not to fuck 100% of girls you approach. The goal is to quickly see if the girl you have in front of you meets your expectations or not.

You want to push her into a corner so that she shows her true colors.

Your intention should be to test the girls and get away as quickly as possible from those who do not match your expectations, or your research (two different things).

What I mean is that you should force women to tell you quickly to go to hell if ever they should do so, instead of wasting 20 or 30 minutes in a conversation that would go nowhere.

You would save 20 or 30 minutes… and God knows many things could happen during that time. For example, finding a hot girl, maybe even a threesome WWM… You never know. We cannot know.

And even if you do nothing during that time, it will be better to prepare the rest of your life in your mind than to get bored with chicks who are not interested but who have not the courage to tell you to go to hell.

We’ve all experienced this kind of shitty interaction: when you’re struggling, and the girl does not help. Often the guys still stay and do the show, hoping for a reaction. They ask questions and tell funny stories but the girl only gives one word answers.

The problem in this case, it’s not you, it’s HER! Contrary to what many ignorant crooks would like to make you believe: when you have done your best and that it does not work with a girl, it’s not always your fault.

Some girls are very useless. Stay away from them! The worst are the cunts who would like it to work with a guy but who are not doing their part or who do everything to knock him off course.

What do you expect from a woman?

Of course, you need to test and sort chicks according to your criteria, your personal research. Some guys like slack and tight-ass girls, everyone’s taste is different!

Personally, I’m looking a woman full of humor, intelligence, openness, guts and with good sexual energy. Let’s say I put pressure and give babes 1 minute to do not show me otherwise. Online, I give them 2/3 messages. Often less… If the girl does not pass my tests, I disappear or I troll her (depending on my mood). I do not want to waste time and energy with a girl who doesn’t know how to talk, laugh and fuck.

In addition, you can say what you want, but even if no test is foolproof, this selection process is attractive in itself. Much more than the one of most other guys because you are not motivated by fear or embarrassment. Nor by your ego…

You are motivated by a constructive belief i.e. there are are many women out there on the same wavelength than you, and you only have to test a few to find one. Moreover, it is with this kind of guy that women want to have sex, not with sex-starved dudes. Think about it: when you invest time, energy and money in a girl who makes no effort, you only demonstrate that you are not a guy who has the choice, and that you’re not confident enough to don’t tolerate such unhealthy behaviors. If you want to give a second chance to these girls, try at least to reframe them, to tell them to don’t take you for an idiot, to don’t play the princess with you… but especially don’t tolerate passively they treat you like shit, build respect! Don’t buy their bullshit!

It’s nothing else that I teach in my various ebooks, and particularly in The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations. This book will help you to acquire the most important belief, this mindset that is THE secret that actually will make you more attractive to beautiful women.

See you soon,

Fabrice

I do not say that without the game, you’ll necessarily end your life alone. What I am saying is that it can allow you to get a woman even cooler than you would with no practice.

Many people get discouraged quickly because it is difficult to understand and master the game. But if it was easy, any guy would ! Are you a man with real goals or just a big mouth, a supporter of least effort?

Yes, it necessitates effort and personal investment (it’s harder to catch chicks than Pokémon)! But it is an option that we then acquire for life: once mastered, you will never ever a be dog in heat looking for hot babes! You’ll also learn a lot about yourself and about other people around you. I think the game is really worth the candle… What does your instinct say?

Do you really want to be the king of oil or is it just words in the air? Is this a passing fancy (because you did not masturbated last night) or a real desire? Will you let your comfort zone ruin your life (you do not know what to say nor where to catch your problem then your mind will find millions of excuses to paralyze you by ease)? Will you let fear paralyze you or will you give love? Are you determined to succeed?

Nothing great has ever achieved by contenting with ease! I sincerely believe that the worst thing to do is to regret on your deathbed having never take the plunge! To have missed golden opportunities. Any PUA will tell you the real loose is to do not try. I remind you that many life philosophies encourage you in that direction: Carpe diem, YOLO, etc.

Personally, I like sometimes to rethink all the hot chicks that I fucks doggystyle (damn at 27 I already had a more fulfilling sex life than most guys in a lifetime). If it ever happened to you, tell yourself that if you were able to cause your luck once, you are necessarily able to do it again. And anyway if I was able to do it, then so are you! One of the main mistakes is to see that something works and stop doing it by laziness (respect yourself)!

Stop anticipate negatively, stop making excuses… to succeed, you need audacity, not perfection, and much less playing the security card. But the audacity is accessible to everyone! Get out of your comfort zone (this conditioning that keeps you stationary watching others having an extraordinary life while you feel bad), stop procrastinating! Successful people (regardless of the domain) are those who give themselves the means! Miracle solutions, we only see it in the movies!

What are you afraid of, seriously? That jealous people make fun of you because you are interested in seduction? Do things for yourself, not for others! Do not listen to jealous people (it’s a safe bet they wish they had the courage to start too)! Do not apologize for wanting what you want, because it’s healthier to assume that to be frustrated! Show them your balls and they will respect you. Do not allow chicks to tell you that it was better when you were an AFC in the Friendzone! You must be a sexual threat (not in the sense of rapist), you should be taken seriously, be regarded as a sexual guy!

All the personal development work is aimed only at achieving one goal: becoming more happy! Who could condemn you for that? Whether we are talking pickup or weight training, we pretty much have the same problems of motiva(c)tion (ask his opinion to Tibo InShape if you do not believe me)!

The seducer is not unhealthy, get rid of that fucking limiting belief. Connecting with another person to see if an exchange of love is possible or not, it is not unhealthy! Whether actively or passively, when we have not, we’re all looking for a partner. The challenge is not to please her at all costs, but rather to see if your intentions are compatible. The goal is even being alpha without being an asshole (we respect women).

Come on, do not make me believe that you prefer staying home watching TV rather than going out, meeting and kissing chicks. However, if you do nothing, you will get nothing! You probably think too much… and it’s not this way you’re going to put your tongue in the mouth of the beautiful Sarah, I guarantee you. Be honest with yourself ! And prove yourself that you are capable!

Certainly, you never can be sure it will work with this particular girl… but you should not let doubt invade you, because the process will bear fruit in the long term! The game will make you optimistic! Moreover, even if a girl rejects you firmly, if the girl tells you she does not want you, it’s still the logical conclusion of a history between you two in which you acted like a real man, this will make you grow and must make you proud of yourself. This is still better than living in denial like a virgin, you will easily agree.

Approaching a woman usually makes guys afraid because we fear a negative reaction, and no one likes to be rejected. But you’ll learn to cut your ego off from your results and to adopt an approach that does not challenge yourself in every interaction. You will, with hard work and determination, enjoy the ultimate power: the power of not giving a fuck! Besides often women by giving their bitches’ opinion think they are saying a general truth (just because they are women they imagine they know and understand women in general) but these are only disparaging thoughts that say more about the cunt they are than on you.

Trust, you’ll learn how to free yourself completely of the issue, to get a shield, to let you go! By stopping to want to be perfect, you can pickup effectively! Saying obscenities or being the perfect gentleman, everything is a question of style, and this is not what really matters. Because you should not flirt with the aim of getting something (as opposed to 100% of the sex-starved), but just for fun.

Do not try to make it complicated, say anything with a fucking mojo. Just start with something that will actually just be a test to see her reaction. Is she smart enough to understand the second degree humor?

And at worst, in the worst case she’ll reject you. But in this case, it will be exactly as if you did not approach her. The game is a game we can win the jackpot but we cannot lose. Put things into perspective, we all fail sometimes but we eventually only remember success. Before I went out a lot with a handsome dude, and he got rejected way more than me, thanks to this fact I became really uninhibited!

Theories of the game are made to increase your chances of making out with girls. Not to tinker an unstoppable shot against a particular girl, supposed to subdue her the point of being 500% sure of fucking her. That’s a novice fantasy, maybe the worst one. This is not a question of manipulation nor a contest to see who has the biggest dick… but a work on oneself, a work on the understanding of others and empathy.

Get out of the mold, let your complexes aside, see what happens with strangers. Do not try to think for them nor to imagine in advance what they might think of you (it is useless to torture yourself in this way).

As said Snipe (very good French PUA) in an article about motivation: “It is today that emerges tomorrow. If you do not act today, you will have nothing tomorrow.”

Follow the rules of the game and you will not be thought as a loser, you will be classy and you will have sex. Not with all chicks on Earth (in seduction, you are a specific product in a niche market) but still quite a lot. Enough to enjoy an overbooked penis. And too bad if then a lot of people are jealous, you’ll learn how to handle it!

That’s it, I hope I have helped you, and I really hope you will help yourself thanks to your awesome force of will.

Your wingman,

Fabrice Julien

It seems that Paris is the capital of fashion, but is Paris the capital of pickup too?

First, at the international scale, it is obvious that no. Sorry but the capital of pick-up would clearly be in the United States. Besides, the best resources to improve are generally in English.

At the French scale now, it is true that all the famous “coaches in seduction” are based in Paris. From this perspective, yes, Paris is the capital of the pick-up in France. Why ? Surely because there is easy access to the media. Moreover, it is good for the pickup because it is huge, there are many people (statistically easier to fuck), and there are many foreign (the population is renewed). It’s also good because it is deemed to be the “city of love”… so the travelers come with the ulterior motive of getting banged.

However, there are many very good players and PUAs who do not live in Paris. We must not believe that there is only in Paris that we can make interesting things (don’t be snob). There is a huge potential in Lyon, for example!

I think it is a pity that the other cities are abandoned like that. There are good things to do there! Why do French people who want a coaching or personal advice would be forced to go to Paris?

The problem is that elsewhere, eg in Aix-en-Provence and Lyon (I speak of what I know), there is no real solidary community. There are groups of guys who meet on forums to go picking up together and who sometimes become friends. In Paris, there is the CCP, the closed circle of Parisian players, but that’s it! There is neither real assistance nor real feeling of belonging to an underground organization, as it may be the case in the United States. The game there is really a kind of fight club!

Moreover, the coaches talk about each other: they do not hesitate to advertise when a guy is good, allowing everyone to move on (the social mobility of fucking works). In France, the market is locked by some well-referenced sites which nevertheless offer no real quality (sorry but it’s true).

I have contacted all of them, and they clearly all refused to talk about me or my product as long I I would not affiliate myself in their distribution platform network. Basically, they want to play “who has the biggest (audience)” and keep the monopoly! For people supposedly trying to help their readers, keeping secret the best work, it is not glorious! My personal conclusion is that these people do that for the money and know very well that if the general public had access to real quality work (not grassroots articles), people would see a difference. Their solution is to silence us! Because, honestly, they would just talk about The (inconvenient) truth about gender relations in their newsletter by putting their affiliate link, and they would make hundreds or even thousands of euros for no work !

I am not lying, one of them answered me “I do not make any partnerships” and he made one month later a common video with a sportive Youtuber (no competition in this case). Worse, I had written an article to another site to propose a link exchange, but they just changed a few words and published my text keeping my punchlines… without my link, of course… I’m really fed up with these dishonest people! Is it obligatory to be a real asshole to succeed in life?

Frankly, I do not want. I won’t stoop to that. But I am sure that all together we can do something.

This is a call to all the seduction bloggers, and more broadly, to all those who have a blog or a vlog about personal development: unity is strength!

We would gain so much from creating a quality personal development network in France! Comedians on YouTube already do that, btw. They talk about each other, make videos where they invite each other to share their networks. So why not us? We have a common cause too: making French people fuck like gods!

Feel free to contact me if you are interested in this project! The only conditions (guarantee of serious) are to have quality content updated regularly and a network of at least 15,000 monthly visitors!

Anyway, if you have a network, be aware that by registering on 1TPE (free) and using your affiliate link (easy), you can receive 50% on each of my products you will sell!

I kiss you.

Introduction

A reader wrote me that that the game is something really complicated! He asked “why not just going to prostitutes?” It’s a good question.

 

1/ The game is an investment

The first thing to understand is that if you go to prostitutes, it’s in order to have sex. Whereas if you learn the game: it is to have sex, to improve yourself and to have a great girlfriend.

When you know that it is about 50 € per hour if you want to fuck a professional (time-clock), the purchase of any ebook allowing you to pickup chicks will quickly be profitable. The game is an INVESTMENT while the whore is a sumptuary expense.

Currently, if I want to kiss a girl, it does not cost me anything. I do not pay in general not even a drink or anything since I’m making them come over directly and they bring a bottle.

 

2/ You cannot kiss them

Do not forget that you cannot kiss a prostitute. While with girls we pick-up through the game, we can!

There are plenty of things you cannot do to a whore but that you can do to a lambda girl picked up in a bar. There is thus a much greater freedom of action when you do not pay you intercourses… and, in addition, there is no risk of getting punched in the face by the pimp (the guy who abuses the whore and takes almost all her money – I refuse to encourage such a trade).

 

3/ We do not really feel wanted

Because one pays, he does not feel what it’s like to be truly desired. Orelsan sums up the situation: “no matter what she does with her mouth, she doesn’t give a fuck.” So, yes, it satisfies a need but I do not think it really gives a good mood. Banging a chick who will not remember us the next day, it’s nothing flattering.

 

4/ This is not really exhilarating : it’s beforehand won

We do not feel the stress of uncertainty: is she going to reject at the last moment? Is she going to let me do things that no guy has done to her before? Will I be the only one in her life to make her come like crazy? “It’s stronger than me, I always want to feel special in their eyes.”

 

5/ An increased risk of STDs

The advantage of prostitutes is that they do not give us a headache, unlike an hysterical girlfriend. No tantrums, no whims, etc. €50 is the price of the peace of mind in a sense.

But there is always the possibility that the condom cracks or does not protect us (not 100% reliable). By going to see a whore, we have more “chances” to catch STIs, herpes or any sexually transmitted shit. We do not leave so serene at that level.

I have a friend who was banging whores in Argentina. One day, the condom has cracked, he panicked. He had to tell the situation to his mother who ordered him to take the plane to come in France to access to triple therapy! It’s still a fucking lose story!

 

6/ We are forced to put on a condom

In addition, we must always fuck with a condom (which will be accounted by a pimp). Whereas if we develop a relationship with a nice girl who takes the pill, we will be able to directly feel the heat of her pussy around our cock : it is priceless.

 

7/ We are not the price

This is not a very alpha state of mind to want to queue (wait your turn) in order to pay a woman to have sex with her. An alpha male is, however, supposed to be the price in the interaction. This logic seems unnatural to me. “I do all the work, it is her who should pay me!”

 

8/ They are not all pretty

There are prostitutes who are classy and pretty, but it is not the cheapest. So if I can get better, I do not want to pay to put my dick in a fat hairy girl smelling like shit and speaking a broken French.

 

9/ The environment is unhealthy

If it is to go cheap whores, smelling like sweat and who have not washed their sheets soiled with the semen of all the customers of the day, no thank you! All this for a stoic and impassive girl or a crazy that simulates… Fuck, the game is supposed to prevent guys from being sex-starved. One could say that whores are for desperate people, while the game is for those who still have hope and will.

 

10/ A sex therapy

As Gringe said, “whores is like a session with a shrink.” Even better : because they listen and suck. Anyway, the game is also a form of therapy then if we follow this logic. And it is much deeper because relationships are much more sincere because disinterested. Also, it meets more our hunger for affection.

 

Conclusion

For the record, my brother once went to the whores in Figueras, Spain. It seems they were sexy, and that hygiene was respected. He kept a good memory, but hey, he is not used to fuck sex-bombs. In Amsterdam too, it seems it’s not bad, the prostitutes in the shop windows.

It can be a rewarding experience to do, to go to whores, once in a life. I will maybe if I have the opportunity to do it in good conditions and with a girl who works for herself. The chick will be banged so hardly that she will understand why we talk about priced sex! After all, it is the oldest profession in the world, must be respected.

Moreover, before, the young men were initiated into sex by an experienced prostitute. It was socially accepted. I critique here those who make it a habit, not those who go there once or twice for fun. What I question it’s : those who prefer to pay to go to whores instead of working their game to attract more and sexier women.

That said, there are rich people who regularly hire call girls (or luxury whores) and fuck them. After all, if they are beautiful, experienced, willing, if they do not have 10 customers in the same night, and there is no pimp behind … why not? But hey, you have to pay the price. It is still a privilege of rich people to orgasm in the pretty young girl at the age of 80.