Category: Social dynamics

Having FC on every field (street/Internet/club/bar/social circle), I want us to reflect on the differences between them today.

Are girls identical everywhere ?

It is obvious we can pick up a girl on the Internet one day and see her in the street or in a bar the other day. Or picking her up in a bar and then seeing that she is on Tinder. Or picking her up in the street, taking her Facebook and seeing there that we have friends in common. Besides, if you take her Facebook in one minute in the street and then you chat with her for a week before the fuck… is it really a FC from the street? Yes and no.

There is no “virtual girls,” no “street girls”, etc. There are girls. Period. What I mean is that they are whole persons. Some have tried to pick them up in high school, others in the street, others in a club, others on the Internet but they are still the same person.

But, the average profile of targets differs between fields. In bars, we will tend to find alcohol drinkers and smokers. While in a sports environment (eg if we pick up at the pool) they are less likely to drink and smoke. On the Internet, there is everything; there are those Party Girls and those who do not like to go out (in this case where could one meet them otherwise?) In the street there are any type of women, including those who do not like the dating apps and the clubs. The thing is, they are not likely to be in the same state of mind, they are not “sorted”, they are not necessarily open to meetings. Street pick up, in the end, it’s as hazardous as sending pokes on Facebook !!!

But, again, there is nothing absolute in there. There are healthy girls of mind and body that go clubs. There are nymphomaniacs are swimming in this very moment in a pool and will undress as soon as a guy will approach them (if they have time). There are girls shy and inexperienced everywhere too. They are girls who would like to enjoy your cock at this very moment somewhere.

For me, the only dangerous thing with online pick up is to practice only on it. That is to say not going out and losing contact with the ground. It’s easy to think we are a God if we do not take rakes in the face (with the virtual we do not really feel chicks ignoring us … they simply do not answer.)

A number taken is a number taken

Once we took the girl’s number, in the street, by night or online, we move to the stage of the phone game. This is where the different fields meet. Except for the online pickup because we have not necessarily seen the girl before the date. And there’s also a difference between the street and the night: sometimes in night we have already kissed the girl before taking her number. That said we said we have not seen her before with online but if you saw her in a club with lights and everything, you don’t know what she will look like with the light of day… this is not really better.

But is it really so important to have already seen her before or to have already kissed her before ? If she’s pretty and a good kisser, I mean. That’s why with online, it is important to be 99%sure she really is a hottie. And it’s important to test her relation with sex too. Note that you can also make quick kiss in the street. But it is rare and it really depends on the context (it works especially in holiday resorts or if we are really luck and fall on a girl to open to it in everyday life).

After the phone game logically comes the stage of the date. So there it is really the same, regardless of what field we took the number on before. Finally come the isolation step, the last minute resistances, and the sacrosanct doggy style with spanking.

The various fields therefore 100% meet during the date and 150% meet when you have your cock in her pussy.

So a guy who takes a lot of numbers in the street but fail all his dates should practice online to train to succeed his first dates. Or to practice online to work on his phone game too. He will quickly get experience that he will be able to reuse on every fields to get more results.

And about the instant dates now?

Sometimes we pick up in the street and we have a drink right away with the girl. But again, we reach the stage of date. It’s therefore sticking with my theory that all fields meet at this moment.

The only thing that may not stick, is that sometimes, in the night we go directly kiss her and bring her back home to have sex. Anyway, in theory this is also possible with the street and it happened to me online that a girl comes to my place and directly kissed me, fall on her knees and suck me without having really discussed before IRL . But hey, I put a lot of comfort and I had turned her on with my pen before, I have to be honest. All that to say that there are girls who are hungry for sex in all fields. Your job is to make them comfortable enough so they assume.

That said, to enjoy it, it is still necessary to have beaten your sexual anxiety and to outsmart potential obstacles that often come up at the last moment.

The street is perhaps the most prestigious field because you need big balls to approach during the day and because it is a little bit old school. I know guys who are comfortable in their social circle, they are very proud of it but they are not able to approach during the day (some can a little at night because everybody does but are a little frozen all the same). So that’s not good!

The online is perhaps the most criticized because supposedly it would be easier and everything. But actually no, I have Padawans who have no resultat nothing from online but it works for them by night. In fact, the real reason may be that people are afraid to say they have met their girl on the Internet. But hey, must not a PUA ASSUME ? Is it not one of the watchwords of the game?

Each his field?

My advice is to make your experience. Regardless of what field works best for you, practice it thoroughly. Your sexual confidence will can be reused on other fields ! And it will give you good morale to have results.

If it’s online it works best for you, so much the better! I know guys that had no result. I taught them how the online works and then they fucked a dozen chicks in a few months. But now, they spit on the online and they say is too easy and everything. They want to game in the street and by night at all costs! It is noble but why denigrating what suited them so far? Why would all this be incompatible?

Those who critic things like that, to show off or to reject their mentor or to feel good with themselves, I think that is just shows they are complexed and/or jealous. Each person has his/her own goals and means, that’s all. I bet I have readers who do not care about the “art” side of the game and who just want to have sex. So why should I deprive them of Tinder? Or medicine parties? Under the pretext that some think it is easier than elsewhere. So what ? It’s like chicks who want to fuck but do shit for the principle … why pissing off yourself (and annoying the others) willingly like this? This is not pragmatic.

I truly believe that some fields correspond more to some people (eg smoking alcoholics and the night). But it is important to continue to practice a little on the other fields, so as not to lose touch with the fact that the game is not a repetitive and boring thing.

But roughly speaking, the same things are to be understood. The same mechanisms are always behind the male/female interactions. Then, each personality is different and is a new adventure, a new land to explore, with its difficulties and its facilities. Sometimes it is easy, sometimes all shit. I do not think there is objectively a field easier than others. Each has quirks but the purpose is the same: enjoying life and making chicks dream.

It is like if you were playing Pokémon … red, blue or yellow version : at the end you still catch Mewtwo (sometimes with a Superball sometimes with a Masterball)!

The window of opportunity, what is it?

This is the period of time during which a woman would agree that things go further with you. But as it is a girl, she is waiting that YOU take matters into your two hands. And this is where it goes bad !!!

What types of windows of opportunity ?

There are several kinds of windows of opportunity to address. For example, approaching directly after having an eye contact in a club. It is sure that if you do nothing and you approach an hour later like coming out of nowhere: your value will be seriously reduced in her eyes.

There are windows of opportunity to numclose, to kiss and to fuck. There’s periods or evenings when women want to have fun and sex. And others in which they prefer to be in a serious relationship or to sleep with their best friend.

Why are the windows of opportunity closing?

Most women quickly change their state of mind, mood and opinion.

When we talk of attraction, men are rather binary (that is yes or no). For women, it is rather some gradual thing, constantly evolving, changing.

And because they have the CHOICE among a lot of men, it’s okay for them to drop the matter with you if you do something that cuts them some envy.

How long does a window of opportunity last ?

The duration of a window of opportunity depends on the circumstances and on the patience the girl can demonstrate to you if you’re a AFC. But this is not really the time in minutes that counts… the important thing is to shoot when you have a window of opportunity. Like any good hunter!

Seriously, put yourself in the shoes of babes two minutes. If a girl you was warming you hard for several days, and that when you decide “Okay I let her suck me,” she did nothing more. How would you live it?

Understand that many women (like many men) are in lack confidence and are very sensitive. They will maybe be vexed if you give them the impression you make fun of them of that you’re not really interested: they will imagine that they are eventually not beautiful enough for you, that you were making fun of them, or I dunno what (they sometimes have strange ideas). They will be annoyed if they feel that you are a small dick unable to take action or who is afraid of women.

You do realize from that perspective that if you’re looking to give a good image of you by playing the over-respectful gentleman, it’s not a good idea! Avoid spending too many opportunities in the future…

In fact, it may happen that the window of opportunity never closes! But this is a very rare case, so do not really count on it. This is when:
– There is a great complicity between the man and the woman,
– They met without explicit seduction (they were introduced by a mutual friend, for example)
– If the girl idolizes the guy a lot.
And provided of course that in the meantime la girl did not couple and decided to be faithful.

How to recognize a window of opportunity?

Learn the reading of IOI (indicators of interest) and everything. Sharpen your social and relational intelligence to better identify the windows to opportunity, be (more) confidence to be able to act, and do not let your natural shyness paralyze you.

If you missed the window of opportunity, the interest of your target will seem screeching halt. For example, she was touchy and offered you many things and then suddenly she changes her attitude and becomes colder.

Why men miss opportunities?

There are any problems like “approach anxiety” and “sexual anxiety” to take into account of course. But not only.

There’s also a lot of guys who want to “do too much”. You can tell they put a little too much the girls on a pedestal. They want to wait to be ABSOLUTELY sure that all lights are green… but one is never sure of anything in life, so they do nothing, and that fucking perfectionism turns against them.

Even with experience, we are never 100% sure … So, when in doubt: put our egos aside, perform a presumption of interested girl and let’s go merrily !!!

The risk

The main risk if you miss a window is to have regrets. To regret chicks we did not take the number and therefore we will never see again, the women we have not kissed in clubs when we could have, the girls could we have fucked because in hindsight we realize we had a big chance of success… but we tried nothing.

The advantage

The advantage to recognize a window of opportunity is that we can have women we would never have had otherwise.

You should know that we are not obliged to please them a lot for fucking them if we’re in the right place at the right time with the right attitude. Even if they like “hmm he is just OK”, we can steal the priority of the handsome guy of the college who was busy getting drunk at the bar with his friends during that time.

“Yeah, but if I go too fast and she gets blocked after?”

From experience, I would say we have the best chance to make out with a girl in the early days after the meeting.

Because :
– Of a certain mysterious magic around us;
– We had not yet enough time to do too much shit;
– If she is hot and cool, she will not stay long on the market;
– If one tries quickly and takes a rake, it will hurt less.

Does it matter if we have just kissed her because we took the opportunity and we did not sleep with her after ? Or if you slept with her once, it was good but she does not want to meet again because doesn’t assume ? I do not think it’s a big problem. Let’s say that it’s something. We are happy with what we had. We should be a little philosopher in life, damn!

And anyway, nothing lets me think that you would have had more by taking your time (if ever you wanted more). You’d probably even had nothing at all. It’s one of the things I have the most difficulties making the beginners understand, this: “Women sometimes forgive whoever sudden occasion, but never the one who misses it. “Talleyrand

Let’s meditate together on this.

Between the pressure of society, conditioning that one undergoes and the enormous amount of information (sometimes contradictory) that exist in the game: it creates neuroses. There are a lot of guys who think that the game is something very complicated. That one must control everything to perfection to get results. This reasoning is crappy (this subject is taboo so we would like to believe that it is mystical or that it’s very difficult but actually not): I will explain to these guys why it does not pay for them despite their efforts.

1/ They often follow a protocol for reassurance

Among the beliefs that limit the results, there is the fact of thinking that one should always follow one type of protocol:

“Approach => numclose => phone game => date => kiss => phone game => date => Sex”

And even sometimes the protocol continues as follows:

“Sex => couple => saying I love you”

Big program …

The problem is that the guys I’m talking about already visualize all this when they approach … rather than letting it be. They have a too sacred relationship to women and/or sex and, indeed, it’s scary.

In terms of post-sex schema, why wishing a couple right away and saying “I love you” ASAP? Why putting the pressure? Why not just enjoying what we have without rushing things?

Sometimes women like to just fuck like that, from time to time, without having to put a label on the relationship. They do not necessarily want you to account nor to sleep only with you.

2/ Alpha Protocol

I have, for my part, not really a Protocol but if I had one, it would amount to:

“Collision => having fun by testing her => offer to make her come => sex => after I see if I want to see her again”

It is very unfortunate to lock in complicated patterns because sometimes the chicks simply want to fuck … like us. And by complicating everything, we lose opportunities under our nose. Sometimes you can go directly from the approach to sex in less than an hour. Yes, yes, I swear. If both parties agree, why complicating ? Why wanting to follow certain formalities? Why believing that you need to do a lot of things so a bitch wants to suck your cock? This need, this attraction, we feel: it’s organic. And they also feel it. Do not forget that when you give pleasure to a beautiful girl, it’s a win-win scenario.

I’m not saying that one can always point blank offer a girl to come over and fuck her. But I’m saying that it is our right to try.

If she wants to have a drink in the city before, let’s go if we want to go out or if she motivates us enough, but at least will we had the balls to show that we are someone who has a simple relationship with sexuality.

And so she will know what to expect after “the drink”. In short, with this view: we make two steps forward, one step back.

3/ Dare and let go what you cannot control (the mindset of the girl)

I advise all players who know their theory and who regularly practice but do not fuck much, : simplify your game plan.

My advice: try to seem pretty normal to have a pretty look and ESPECIALLY have the nerve to propose some sex to girls. Go more straight to the point, straight to the F-close!

Do not say it like that, of course, set it a little in a context of beautiful words. Invite her to drink a glass of wine at your place, or at her place (if you can do home dates for sure that it is always better because after the conditions are favorable and you just have to warm her).

If she wants to go for a drink in a neutral site before being in an intimate place, accept on condition that it is not far from one of your places… to be able to go there easily if you both feel desire (specify these conditions in your offer “on the table”).

In conclusion: communicate more directly with the fair sex, while respecting them! And do not neglect personal development.

Assume further your desires and dare to ask what would make you happy. Relax on the headaches and everything…

Especially do not be discouraged if a girl makes you feel guilty by condemning your “direct” approach, for example by insulting you. This is because it returns her to her own limits, her glass prison, her all kinds of fears… It often happens to me, and I tell myself, that all the same, the conditioning hurt and frustrates a lot of people.

Repeat this large scale strategy for the results to match your expectations! Try my philosophy at least one time, what does it cost you? And it surely will please many of you.

Reminder: having the nerve is to be cheeky, have plumb, audacity, boldness, a nerve. Sometimes being a little cheeky and bluff wisely (if it does not turn against you after you pretend like if you say you are going to make her come ten times when you know very well that you will ejaculate in ten seconds ).

“In the field of wisdom, progress requires a good deal of nerve.” Hanif Kureishi

Today I wanna explain what I think of this question that some chicks ask “what kind of relationship are you looking for?” They ask it to me especially on the Internet, but I’ve also read it by texts after taking a number and heard in bars before going home.

It’s behind the question:

In general, the chicks who ask this question want to hear “something serious”. They want to feel reassured about the intentions of the guy and feel good. So only the victims of social pressure need it.

There is however a minority of girls who will next you if you start playing the “good guy” because they know very well that it is surely a lie. They appreciate honesty, and I I like them for their non-naivety. That said, if you were really sincere while saying that having sex with you would engage her in a serious relationship, they will surely next youanyway because they probably do not want a spineless wimp.

In my case, most of the time this shitty question ends the interaction. I do not like hearing platitudes like that. A girl who does not think for herself and does not see where her interest is make me flee. Especially because they often say “serious or SEXFRIEND (like it’s dirty vade retro one night stand)!”

Your reasoning:

Most guys make the following reasoning:
– If I say “sex” and that she does not want to hear this … she will next me
– If I say “sex” and that’s what she wants too … we take a shortcut
– If I say “serious” and that she wants it too… I’ll see her but it will be hard
– If I say “serious” and she wants to hear “sex”… we lose a lot of a time in the better or a good sex session

Lots of guys are trying to play it “romantic” but actually just want to fuck chicks. Which continues the tradition of the assholes.

Oh yeah, the lambda guys thinking they are very original, tend to write a long tirade to impress the girl, a pompous thing to clear themselves of the terrible label “pig who wants sex.” They do not assume their role. Result: a corny praline answer that stinks like a lie. But they do not want that either (except single-minded doves). If we talk of commitment after three mails, we risk scaring them off (except the foolish ones).

My advice is : don’t worry about losing an opportunity: above all, do not take a headache. Answer what you want to offer her, and next it she it is not happy with that. In the worst case, too bad for her if she prefers being alone and frustrated waiting the Charming Principle rather than fucking a good lover without consequence. It is by doing this that many women will never experience the true pleasure. But is it your problem since there are many other women less pain in the ass with their insecurity that will burn them priority with guys?

Why this is a ridiculous question:

It’s one of the questions that come up most often in the mouths of girls (more than my dick), and yet I find that it makes no sense. Or at least, it only shows the narrow-mindedness of those who ask.

Women do not realize that by eliminating systematically those who answer “I just want to have fun”, they actually miss meeting interesting people and goods guys.

Indeed, it is not because we are looking at first for a sexfriend that we are not a good person. And I have often seen one-night stands turn into a serious relationship. It even happened to me several times. But it is by choice, not by constraint, because we would commit to long-term in exchange of 10 minutes penetration.

I refuse to categorize my meetings because that would erase all the shades and all the magic that offer meetings. In my view, the dichotomy between sexfriends and serious relationship does not really exist, it’s much more subtle, Love. We can sleep with a girl at the first night without question and end up married to her two years later. While we did not envisage anything “serious” at the beginning… It even seems more sincere than signing a contract on the Internet even before having “tried” her.

Conversely, we can very well think during the first date that the person is made for us but realize a month later that it is not at all the case. We then lost time and have a drag on the foot. Simply, do simple: do not ask that kind of question too quickly and allow the interaction to evolve naturally.

Nevertheless possible answers:

“I let it be and see how it’s changing …”

“I do not take a headache. ”

“Why cutting corners? ”

” Isn’t a funny relationship better than a serious relationship? ”

“It is not decided in advance, a relationship is not a contract: it is depending on a lot of factors we do not control. But the idea is : I’m open to everything…”

“I take what life gives me.”

The road to redemption is long when you’re an AFC who wants to become a man sexually fulfilled (I’ve been there and I observe the guys I help). This road is long because once you start getting results, you meet new problems. Here are 5 pitfalls that you may have encountered during your beginning in the game or that you will meet.

1/ The guy who over-rates his targets

We all did, I think, in the beginning. “Oh guys, I made out with a 8
– No, that’s a 6, man.”

It is understandable : when one rarely touches chicks, every girl takes a heightened value in his eyes. In addition, it makes him feel proud to have touched a hottie. Also, you get used to beauty by running success, so you become more demanding.

But the problem is if you over-rate is that you are more likely to be addicted to a girl really under the level you might have. And you could think you’re good while you’re not yet. I think that as long as one has not fucked a real hottie (like a HB9) one cannos realize what it is like and is really naive.

There’s also the guy who under-rate all the girls for not having to move his ass during pickup sessions, for not having to try anything, or in order to justify the fact he did some shit, etc.

2/ The guy in a relationship with one of his first successes (they all think they had beginner’s luck)

This guy has thought for a moment he will never have a girl. He has narrow escape! Then, once he starts fucking one he relatively likes, he idealizes her.

Sometimes dominated by his hormones, he prefers to see his girl rather than his buddies. He spends his Saturday nights fucking her instead of picking up to find one better.

There’s no problem with being a couple, that’s not what I’m saying. What I am saying is that it is a mistake to be in a relationship by ease with the first girls who wants us, while we don’t know how it is elsewhere…

Well, then, this is a choice, the ease or the combativeness. With respective rewards that go with it. I do not advise to never be nice, to never to make a couple : The couple can be cool but it has to be a decision taken after reflection. I generally advise to wait at least three months before making an assessment to decide what we will do with this girl. Are we really in a relationship by choice? Or by default? Or she has forced our hand? Do we fantasize about many other babes we see in everyday life? If so, the couple is doomed to failure.

Be careful : when I talk about combativeness, I’m not saying we should be governed by our dick. A PUA is supposed to follow a code of honor : such as not trying to fuck at all costs, do not hit on the girl or the target of his buddies, etc. Respect, with men and women, is a value that must be impregnated. There are others, but let’s start with this one…

3/ The guy and the one itis

This unhealthy idealization leads:
– Or to deception (the guy who knows deep himself he can do better and stays with the girl for convenience) but is too much of a coward to break up;
– Either to the one itis (the guy is convinced he is in love with the girl while this is not love but a problem of ego… an unhealthy obsession). Victims of OI so much want to believe in love at first sight that they provoke it and then use it as an excuse EITHER to continue to see a girl that is not good for them (too lazy to go back on the field or they are feared of hurting the girl when he will break up) or to be whine during months and play the victim of unfair love.

It’s hard what I’m going to tell but I guess that cheating on the girl is healthier than sinking into depression because of the unhealthy obsession. I picked up a lot of guys with a spoon because of this problem so I know what I mean…

The danger with the OI, is that we may know that it is irrational, we may be warned … it is very bad anyway. To avoid this, like many other problems: avoid getting excited prematurely … when it comes to women, the situations often gets down as fast as it hot high.

4/ The guy who thinks AFC are always right

This kind of guy is still full of illusions about women, but he projects them on the success he has made through the game. He is interested in seduction community but do not assume it, he does not want to become “like that”.

Typically, this is the guy who starts kissing girls but that will not quickly go farther with his conquests because “he is a romantic” not like us : we are “poor dogs in heat who do not respect and women and do not understand life” in his eyes.

The thing is that while he his playing the gentleman, his target was was fucking another guy (I’ve been this guy)… or her ex (I’ve been this guy). Or, she will get bored of waiting his cock after four dates, will think he’s gay, and will not answer to him on the phone. Boom! Men are often more marshmallows than women…

This kind of guys will continue despite all our guards to say I love you too soon, to get excited too quickly, to behave like the dog of the girl, will too quickly imagine that she is the perfect woman for him and that he is her ideal, will suffocate her by one way or another (gifts, calls, texts, stress, etc.)

In general, a balanced bitch feels fear and flees when she is facing this kind of behavior. And anyway, your relationship is starting on a bad start for you, you would be the “submitted”. But the worst is that sometimes it could work: with LSE, chicks with problems, etc.

Warning: there are some girls who like pigeons because they make them feel good and because they will not need to make too much effort for them.

Thinking we are superior because we believe in love is a big bullshit. You have been warned! I’m not saying that love does not exist, just that it’s rare so those who fall in love every week should question it.

Feeling superior is a bullshit anyway: in the seduction community, we are here to help each other. To join hands. To understand. Not to judge or anything like that. Often the ego traps us so we don’t open our eyes, and we always say the others are wrong…

5/ The guy who prefers to give up and who claims that the game is shit

When we discover the game, our old beliefs are facing the reality of the field. No, the girls are not romantic little fragile princesses who only wants something “serious”. Yes, they sleep on the first night, sometimes with strangers, sometimes with women, etc.

Yes, even the one you’re trying to pick up for 6 months in mode “I take my time because I’m a nice guy” … I do not know how many cocks she hosted in her vagina since you’re playing the nice guy.

I’m not saying that to be cynical, but women lie a lot about their sexuality (they give a soft imageof it), and there are only pigeons to believe all their bullshit. I do not say this negatively, we are being brainwashed with this vision of the woman, but it is not good for us or for them. Women also suffer of being conditioned. Maybe not as much as the guys (because women’s balls are not cut) but still.

So yeah, the game is hard. Like life. Either you take the red pill and discover what is really behind the female, and it’s not always pretty. Either you take the blue pill and you stay in the world where girls are fairies. But in this case (denial), just do not give Puritan lessons to those who have chosen another way.

I’m not saying that all girls are whores. But I’m not saying all girls are good girls either. And it does not matter. But, what is serious and bothers me : it’s the guys who are willing to fuck chicks uncultured, vulgar, stupid, etc. just because those girls are dressed sexy. If one practices the game, one is not supposed to be sex-starved to death. Only looking after the physical and talking about love, it’s a fucking nonsense…

If you have recognized yourself in one of these cases, know that you will surely take some big slaps in the face again before being good with women.

Other errors in bulk to finish : the one who will buy all the products about seduction, the one who will never buy anything, the one who thinks he knows everything about women and can advisemen after only one year of game (or even sometimes less and even sometimes he wants to be “coach”), the one seeking a couple for the couple for the principle, the one who hates the women and wants to take revenge on them, the one who lies about his “exploits” (often to the point that it does is not even sound realistic), and many others…

It is quite difficult for me to explain to guys that they should not date a girl at any cost, at any time. I’ll explain why in two pages on Word.

I speak here only of girls who are not your girlfriend: of course you can make sacrifices for a girl once you are in a relationship with her, or in any case once she deserved you give her more value than your routine.

The other exception is if you did not have sex for a long time, if you are sure that the girl is open, and you cannot place her on another time slot.

It communicates bad things

First, why would I cancel my Thursday evening swimming session for dating a girl instead… so that it is precisely the only niche that we could meet up BECAUSE she does not want to cancel her sports sessions nor her slumber party?

You would communicate that you are really a sex-starved ready to anything for her by doing that. And since you hardly know her, she will not feel flattered unless she’s stupid, she will just lose respect for you.

If you were always available when she wants, you would communicate that your life is meaningless and you do not do anything interesting.

If it goes wrong

If it goes wrong, you would regret your workout in addition to the girl. Double disappointment, in addition of the fail with the girl: the one of having been ruled by your cock. Like a virgin !

Besides, you know very well that a lot of girls do flake… so if you have canceled everything on your side and that eventually she flakes (date canceled at the last moment), you are doubly fucked.

The balance of power

There’s more chance that that she is a pain in the ass for you if she makes no sacrifice to see you when you make a big one for her.

In this situation, she has invested nothing in you, while you really invested in her. The balance of power is so clearly in her favor. She will be tempted to abuse and break you. Give your hand to a woman and she eats you arm. No, frankly, taking a step towards the girl first, yes, but she has to make efforts too: remember that you are a chance for a girl (positive belief).

Do not put pressure on the girl

You need to communicate some cold blood. Your impatience can put pressure on the girl, put her uncomfortable and it will be tempting for her to say no, by ease, even if she likes you.

If you cancel something for her, you will put her necessarily some pressure to come and indeed (you will stress a bit like when you put money in a game of chance): she may feel it, not feel at ease, and therefore not come.

Do not be a spare wheel

Oh yeah the girl was not available but finally the guy she wanted to see canceled… ?! She therefore re-contacts you to occupy her free evening… you’d be stupid to accept if you had something else planned now on that time slot.

Women should not be a priority at the expense of your gym workout, your friends, your family, these things…

On the other hand, they may be a priority at the expense of a night alone with your TV…

But put yourself five minutes in the shoes of your friends if you cancel your football match for a pussy that you barely know … “He has lost his balls” they will think out loud!

The only hole that you can patch is… oh no there are three, but none is her schedule !!! 😉

Do not cancel a girl for another one

One should not cancel a girl for another one (even if she is better). Or you must use a very good excuse. The girls are not stupid … vex a girl like that in her ego and she will not give you a second chance.

Sometimes I dated two girls on the same day at the same hour, praying that one of the two cancels by herself, feels guilty and makes a counter-proposal. If it doesn’t happen and that my favorite confirmed, I so canceled the one I liked the less a priori. But it is only in cases of extreme urgency that I allow myself to do that. It’s about respect !

Finally, it regularly happens anyway since my free evenings for dates are quite rare (1 or 2… maximum 3 per week). And, in addition it has to be free for the girl too, so it’s not very easy.

The conclusion : do not cancel anything to see a girl who has not deserved this favor yet. Date her when it suits your. If after a while, it’s really impossible to do otherwise and you really want to see the girl: you can make a minor sacrifice. But … alpha male forever!

In my opinion, the question of logistics is what shows that most that the pickup is inseparable from personal development.

If one has not good logistics, it will be harder. Logistics is a reflection of the lifestyle, so it makes sense.

Living in an apartment in the city center, close to cool stuff to do, a nice bar at least, will greatly simplify your life.

Flatshare

In Aix, I lived at 5 minutes walk away from La Rotonde (for those who know it). So it was easy to bring chicks home. Easy access for them to come directly to my place too. In short, easy to fuck.

I was in a flatshare. With guys and girls. The guys understood that I bring chicks. Girls, oddly, did not care too. Must say that from the fourth in one month, they were jaded.

But to avoid uncomfortable feelings, I went straight to my room with the girls… and then that’s it. It even made an excuse to sit immediately on my bed with a drink.

In this way, my ephemeral beloved did not meet my roommates. It was like if they were my neighbors. Chicks could keep a sense of anonymity too. Which prevents feeling any judgment…

Then, I think it depends on the apartment anyway. Mine was well insulated, large enough, you could not hear their cries of pleasure.

In addition I spent nice evenings that turned into crazy parties there. My roommates were cool but I imposed from the start it would be like that, that I was a PUA and that’s it. It was better than frustrating myself and blaming them for that…

With your parents

When I lived with my parents, everything was more complicated. I had to wait until they are not there or then go to the girl’s place. If she lived with her parents, we also had to wait until they are not there.

But, when a couple is “official” one can fuck with the parents there if official owners of the place say it’s OK. But admit it’s difficult and it makes one feel uncomfortable, especially for a one-night stand. Seduction requires privacy…

In short, if you still live with your parents, think long-term. And it’s not sexy for a man to be a “mama’s boy.” Having a place communicates independence, maturity, resourcefulness, etc.

There are chicks that will eliminate you just because you have no apartment. They will say you are not a man. There more we grow old, the more it becomes true.

When we cannot take an apartment we still can bet on alternative solutions (which still complicate the game) or we can do our best to provide the means (investment).

Alternatives

You can always try to go to the girl. And some like that, they like playing at home. But I noticed that most prefer to come to you. So you do not penetrate their privacy for a one-night stand (paradoxical, I agree).

The solution may be to warm them and tempt them so they will drop their principles and invite you to their homes so much they will want to “know you better.”

Otherwise, the solution remains neutral places.

I’ve already fucked in the street, cinema, or in my car for a first time with a girl. One of my friends without logistics did it in the toilets of a bar. I also was sucked in the high school of a girl.

I also did in the forest, in a park, the sea, in a hall, in an elevator, at the workplace, etc. I even touched a girl on the tramwau once with people around who were seeing nothing.

In short, you have to be imaginative if you have not logistics, and pray that the girl is a little adventurous !!! One can bet on it too: like, we will realize a fantasy.

But yes, it complicates everything. That’s why I say that the game, it’s not only fucking chicks, but also it’s improving your lifestyle.

At home

In Lyon, I have an apartment located next to a metro stop of line D (easily accessible). In a quiet neighborhood … but known.

I have a clean place, a little Feng Shui, in a new building … chicks like it. They feel comfortable there. I even have some decorations that show that I’m a good guy, like a Buddha. It facilitates the F-close.

For K-closes, please note that this is not really a problem for them to do it outside.

Living alone, in addition, can motivate to practice pickup, to do not feel lonely (even if sometimes it’s nice to be quiet). But living alone is also the obligations we have not at mom and dad’s place: pay rent, do laundry, shopping, housekeeping…

With that said, if you have no home, you do not have to tell them and you can play on the sexual tension in order to fuck in a neutral place or at her place, saying that it is closer or whatever. But in general I guess it’s better to talk about it before the date.

Why don’t we talk about sex in the same way between men and when there are members of the opposite sex with us?

“GUYS WANT TO PRESERVE THEIR IMAGE.”

This is the first thing I said when I heard some men say as an absolute truth that we speak better and in amore sincere way about sex when we talk between men.

Not only this is not always the case but I have often observed the opposite. And nights with balls talking about sex… it’s good when we are 18 years old, seriously.

It’s always this latent hypocrisy I guess that comes into play.

The guys are also afraid of being ashamed if they say something wrong about sex and to be judged. For women it is a little bit similar, too.

Is it sexism?

After all, filtering our words is treating girls differently just because they are girls.

This seems quite symptomatic of the difficult gender relations in our time. We are torn between modernity, diversity and yet still full of prejudice and gendered stereotypes. We struggle to give a sense to things.

Some girls feel compelled to play the offended as soon as it’s about sex and there are guys in the place (even if they talk blithely alone with their girlfriends and full of crispy information read in magazines female).

Many men, wanting to be thought of “good” guys, feel compelled to do the same as soon as there are chicks around.

Synergies creative & mixed groups

In light of studies on the subject, synergies in mixed groups are creative, even higher compared to groups composed of just one sex.

It could be instructive to discuss more often about that with the fair sex (I’m not speaking of mine).

Differences between men and women

By focusing on more than 120 properties ranging from empathy to sexuality through the interest in science and introversion, a statistical analysis conducted on a sample of over 13,000 individuals did not confirm that men and women belong to two identifiable groups.

This study suggests that, outside of certain physical criteria, the categorization of humans on the basis of gender is not pertinent because the similarities are more numerous and important than the differences.

The differences between brain of man and woman exist, certainly. For example, the male brain is larger and the female brain matures one or two years younger than ours. But as stated earlier, the psychological differences between men and women are not significant. The differences between the brain of a man and a woman are really exaggerated in popular culture.

Most of the distinctions we make, stereotypes, have therefore no reason to be. I like winnowing and teasing as I would do with male mates (with a stronger sexualization). I do not like the attitudes of divas nor the preferential treatment if she does not suck me like a queen. But I will not tolerate in guys neither. I do not pay all the drinks at the bar when I booze with a girl. Once it’s me, once it’s her, it seems fairer. Like with my bros. At the taekwondo, I don’t care if I fight against a woman or against a guy in training. Simply because there is nothing personal there.

Is it a matter of trust, intimacy, modesty?

We adapt our behavior to the link that we have with the person in front of us. I speak more easily of my STD to a doctor or a friend than with a stranger. Matter of trust.

I’ll talk more easily about my dick problems with my friends that my girlfriends. Just as I prefer to talk about it to my father than my mother. Although both they have wiped my ass when I was young.

This brings me to a question … Does intimacy develops more easily with people of the same sex? Do we think that they can better understand us?

Is it not ultimately a matter of intimacy, all that? Like if a woman entered a locker room full of men at the gym : general malaise. Is it modesty, to be right?

It absolutely does not bother me to get naked in front of the guys in the locker room when leaving the sport. Although I would find it weird that a dude watches my cock insistently. In front of a group of women, it would surely be different. I might be hard. Is not the purpose nevertheless not to show them our cocks so that they suck it?

With what I’ve written, one might conclude that the average straight man seems to have a homoerotic vision for intimacy. What man has never lived these intense moments, side by side with a stranger, dick in hand, standing at the urinal of a restaurant?

However, the game teaches us to think otherwise. To assume more. In the book, a guy gets to pee in a urinal with people around thanks to the game when he was blocked his entire life. If a girl comes into my locker room, will I try to fuck her? Would I be a little exhibitionist and should I have my hair shower in front of her anyway? Will there happen an orgy with my friends?

Because of a seductive report?

In society, we all carry a mask. We are not the same alone than with someone. We also adapts to different people. We do not talk like to a child the same way than with an old woman. We do not talk to a bitch we fucked twice like with our girlfriend for two years. Even if we should perhaps because people don’t like be patronized nor that we relax in general.

We do not talk to a girl that we would like to fuck like to a family member. Is the problem there that a man and a woman not related genetically are by default and sometimes despite themselves in a latent seductive report, at different levels depending on the context (even if the desired purpose is not always sex)?

I think so, and so most people want to maintain their social character. Although the report is unconscious seduction, sexual words would echo in the imagination of the other. When our friends would maybe laugh, maybe our girlfriends are going to repeat the thing to their friends, etc.

There are standards to be respected but do not abuse

If I hold the door to a girl, that I help to carry her shopping, if I leave my place in bus for a pregnant woman, does it makes me an horrible sexist?

It’s stupid to want at any costs do not meet the standard, until eliminating the “good” stereotypes and friendly uses… I will continue therefore to do not fart in front of the chicks I want to fuck. Not because it’s not natural to drop a fart, but because it could block her and delete me from her list of contenders.

A girl who comes naked in a locker room guys can turn us on, but we will also say that she is crazy. That’s the thing.

Do not break our idealization dreams

Toilets are often separated, and it would bother me that a woman hear me shitting. Just like that would bother me to hear someone shitting and it is a pretty young woman who goes out the crapper. Perhaps as much as her by the way.

The girls poo and emit smelly farts, certainly, but color rainbow sky with glitter, right? Oh, right?!

Do not cook (too much) rules

When I play a game with a girl and she wins, I applaud but neither more nor less than if she was a guy. I do not play either below my level to make it easier for her. I hate to see guys cooking with the rules in their favor to avoid vexing women (hoping to fuck them).

The reports are thus healthier. More authentic. More genuine. Everyone feels respected, and it is not uncommon in these conditions, that we then start flirting in a more uninhibited and speaking of sex or other stuff we usually are not supposed to in a group mixed. A girl who can speak without hypocrisy of those subjects that inspire us (they are like us) becomes even sexier in my eyes anyway.

And that’s why I try hard to do it in front of women. I often surprise them or sometimes refers to their own blockages and thus puts them uncomfortable. But never mind, I feel more free. More real. The real ones will enjoy !

It would be damaging to limit our originality because of the thing we have between the legs. Why not becoming Human, and looking beyond the roles that we were given at birth ? The relationship with the opposite sex would so become less problematic, less anxiety. And the reason is because we would not only talk to a representative of her sex, but to a whole person.

Conclusion

Let’s say that in general (there s always some counter-examples blahblahblah): Girls do not understand guys as well as other guys, because they are not guys, they have not been raised as boys (sociology) and because they have no dick (biology). In sum, because small differences between us matters and are hindering us.

But we are maybe (probably) wrong. From my experience, a girl who is happy to talk to me about sex without too many obstacles is often cool and open later.

Assume your sexuality. That is the watchword of my game. And it works pretty well.

I have desires, pulsions, fantasies. And I assume them. That’s it.

The thing is that women have too. And the fact that I am “worse than” or “like” them, reassures them. It puts them comfortable. They do not feel judged. That’s why it works showing your cards the first one.

Moreover, they feel a certain sexual confidence coming from me, so they say to themselves “Well, for once he will surely be a good lover, him. In addition, he bangs a lot of beautiful girls, will he want me? If he fucks me it means that I’m pretty.”

I do not like routines, lines… I do not like the game based on a physical appearance that requires an enormous work or an extreme social proof. I like the simple game, based on a state of mind. I love being an alpha male that gives them pleasure and makes women orgasm like crazy.

My advice ? I suggest that you make your interactions more sexual. I suggest you to go faster right in her pu… I do not want you to be stuck in too polite interactions, social interaction… (damn who said frustrating friendzone?)

Sexual prizing also works if you just want to find a girlfriend. Indeed, by training to fuck good, it is women who want more and some would pear so that I become their boyfriend. Being a good lover can retain! Not only men who can be held back by what they have between their legs.

I see myself as a pretty simple guy. I do not look like a womanizer. I am not trying to convince the girl I’m a good lover so she sleeps with me. I do not seek validation. I give her a chance to experience something unusual. I choose her, be careful, but she must proves she has the level and deserves to have caught my attention. I do not like stupidity either. I like girls, thin, firm, slightly muscled, with beautiful long hair, very feminine, fragrant with love and with some strength of character.

I want to see her reach orgasm. I want to give her orgasms. I told her. The naked truth … and if she doesn’t believe me (because most guys are bad in bed or because she is totally sexually inhibited and full of blockages), too bad for her. I’m not her shrink. But, I try a little to explain her the concept of comfort zone and everything. So she understands where her interest is and why she feels stressed. This way, I can see if she is prone to avoidance strategies too. We never change a person. Let’s give her a chance or two, maximum three. And if not, leave her in her shit. You cannot open the field of possibilities to people who are not receptive at all.

Thus, the reaction of the girl to my proposal (enthusiastic or rejection) is not personal. This is her relation with sex that is involved. I am absolutely not tied to the result, even if the chicks who deflate piss me off a little. But I know I will have others.

I do not either get big headed because I’ve fucked a pure hottie after only two hours of conversation.

The difference between most guys and me is that I don’t care about indicators of interest, having “a hypothetical shot” with a girl. Ultimately, I do not give a shit as long as she stays when I am pushy, when I am taking initiatives. I work just in time.

I do not try to please her before trying to sleep with her. My approach is not prudent. It is courageous ! Even bold, sometimes. And she, is she? I love bold women. It makes me hard. And there are more than one might think in reliance on appearances.

I do not dwell on trying to convince her that I’m an exceptional guy, that, she must feel it (or she will notice in doggy style). I’m not convinced that we have to seduce for hours before in order to get the right to try to sleep with the girl (frame of too romantic girls). I play by my rules. Does she play with me? No woman will decide on my sex life. If the proposal does not suit me or she pisses me off a little too much with her fucking doubts, I next.

It happened to me having sex with women just because I had touched them the right way, I had turned them on. They confessed to me after I was not their type but they enjoyed like crazy.

I would say that contrary to the strategy of most guys, we will fuck more and faster by declaring lover rather than future boyfriend. Note that I do not fuck sluts. I even deflowered girls like that. I had “serious” relationships that started like that too. Sometimes the chicks want a breath of fresh air or is looking for simplicity. They are not angels. They are curious, most love this sex a little hard little that guys do not dare to give them (the doggy style is not so widespread as we might think).

However, this does not prevent you from (and I mean it’s a DUTY) winning her trust. I rarely slept with a woman as soon as she walked in my door. We mostly discussed before, they tested my story (she’s right, but it should not be excessive either), reassures herselft (so she sees that I’m nice) and so it makes up the sexual tension. And I also need to be won, it is not a foregone conclusion for her because she has a pussy and I have a dick (basic frame of the guy ready to anything to have sex, widespread in our society). Even if her pussy is wet and my dick is hard.

It is during this phase of trust building that it is important to do not ruin the sexual tension with nervousness, keep it simple and humble, and tease her. Your communication and body language must be good (not need to be exceptional either). And you must dare. You must assume in front of her too.

I often talk directly about sex. In fact, I start most of my interactions speaking of sex. And then I reveal myself if I feel like it. It’s a strategic choice and being clear about my intentions avoids me friendzone. I first test the women, their relation with sex. If it is bad (often in today’s society) I do not fuck with her because I know from experience that 99% chance are she pisses me off. If it is good, we can have an interesting conversation that will surely lead to good sex.

Women love good sex, the thing is that many do not even know what it is. Too few guys are able to procure it. Raising her sexual desire, OK, but you have to be good after. Otherwise, it would be ridiculous. The guide of good lover is here for that purpose, don’t worry!

The isolation, the atmosphere is also important. That is why the dates in a bar piss me off. They do not help to raise the sexual tension thoroughly. Since we know we will have to move anyway before fucking. And it surely will cool us a bit. It’s still easier if we are sitting on a bed together. Intimacy helps keeping it a secret too.

I’ll get you in the opposite position to explain better sexual prizing: you talk to a girl. You do not really like her, she is a 6/10. But she describes you very subtly how she sucks, that she knows how to make some guys come in less than 4 minutes with only her mouth, and she tells you how a guy told her that her ass doggy style was the best in Lyon. As you begin to imagine the scene, you will be cooked. It sparks your sexual desire. And if she then invites you to come (if you are sure that this is not a trap to kill you or rob you), you surely would go fucking her. She won (you too).

The thing is, we’re trying to do them the same thing. It works pretty good too to send erotic news to the chicks to describe a fuck session with you (speed seduction). The thing is that it must be imagined, in her mind. You put her the idea in mind.

Ideas:
– Bet on your pussy licking, and you will fuck more and more! Few men are able to make a woman orgasm with only their language (and/or their fingers) but I swear they love it!
– Make her understand that you are not an amateur nor a sex-starved. That she will not be frustrated after a penetration of only two minutes while she imagines and hoped she would enjoy like a little crazy. Emphasize that you attach a great importance to the orgasm of your partner, even after having finished.
– Show a little value and that you are not a pervert (humor, social intelligence, teasing, etc.)

What’s difficult is to communicate your expertise in the bed without seeming to brag nor anything. As if it was completely normal. And unfortunately we must respect some basic conventions (we should not mention sodomy in front of strangers, for example).

Discretion is paramount too. A girl I fucked in another life told me that the chicks were not scared to warm me, sending me crap by texts or anything because they knew that I am very respectful and discreet. It’s probably not obvious with my blog but know that it is impossible to recognize a girl that I fucked. I am very careful to detail.

Indeed, socially, it is hard for a woman to take initiatives with a lambda guy. They do not want to have a bad reputation in their chest or work because they behave like guys (what an injustice when we think about it). So again, do not judge. And make them understand that we do not judge. That it is not deemed makes the girl more confident. They dare more under these conditions. And above all, if you are an “unknown stranger” for her, she will be better able to let it go in the bed. And you too. It’s been a good egg! It’s a win-win scenario.

Please do not act like a needy. She must realize that she has as much to win in sleeping with you as you do.

I advise no man to wait until the woman offers sex for free or come and seduce. It does not work if you’re not Bradley Cooper or the hot waiter in a famous club, I guess. Warning eh, I would love they usually come picking me up by displaying their desire to fuck me that same night. But doing that would require it to be written on my forehead “exceptional lover.” Yeah … it’s not really the role of a woman to do our work for us. They will dress sexy, will make prolonged eye, yes, maybe … but for the rest…

The girls are the “price” because there are plenty of guys as sexy as us (sorry) outside. But the good guys in bed, it does not run the streets. So become the prize, sexually speaking. Classic scenario: you kiss a chick in a club and one hour later she is kissing another guy (which does not mean she will sleep with someone that night: too many inhibitions and social pressure) . On the other hand, fuck her like a God and she will have eyes only for you.

There will be not more resistances or shit like that, in this situation.

Offer her first sex with no consequences, just to test the sexual connection between both of you. This will facilitate your fuckcloses. And then nothing will prevent you to continue to see her. But they do not all want a couple (and it does not question that they are good girls rather it shows they think and do not put the cart before the horse despite the pressure exerted on them by the society).

That was the moral of the story.

Note that many still refuse sex without consequence or anything even if it would make them feel good. Too much fear in them. Too much social pressure around them. Negative imagination probably too. Too many past disappointments. Religion (even if some take it in the ass) ? Too much shit so we’re all happy and fulfilled (there’s not only sex in life gnagnagna assholes will say and I agree, but it’s important for our balance so it is not surprising that we all are neurotic in today’s society). You know the drill. Now that you know the rules, your turn. For you and for them.

May the God of game helps our rehabilitation approach.