Category: Social dynamics

I was wandering on YouTube at lunchtime and I discovered this video of AndyRaconte: The True Meaning of the Breaking up sentences.

I thought it was well considered, frankly. Breaking up sentences (like most sentences to put nice rakes) are often indeed crappy excuses.

In her video, Andy had fun giving the true meaning of these excuses. What hides behind. She says it is based on real facts and a lot of research on forums of se… loveeeeee. It does not surprise me.

 

Below are my favorite ones:

1/ You deserve better! = I deserve better!

2/ I think it goes too fast … = You invaded me and you’re starting to scare me …
(needy)

3/ I love you, but as a friend. = You do not excite me at all.
(on the other hand there are friends who turn us on)

4/ I do not know what I want … = Can I keep you on hand in case?

5/ I know you’ll find someone good! = Anyone as long as it is not me…

6/ It cannot work but you’re someone great. = Do not kill yourself, I do not want to have your death on my conscience.
(this is often the case in most excuses)

7/ I’m still thinking about my ex … = You’re just a gap-filler…
We agree, getting back with an ex is like swallowing your vomit.
(I especially agree with the part about vomit : if it did not work the first time, it’s for a reason)

8/ I need to focus on my career. = I just want a sex.
(“but if a tall, handsome and rich guy wanted to marry me, I would say yes”)

9/ There is also the simplest technique, the technique of the coward : it’s just playing dead. There’s no one anyùpre, you will not answer to calls, text messages, messages on the answering machine or on FB and you will wait until the person finally understands after a few days or weeks that you are no longer together.
(sometimes cowardly person is so coward that she does not assume she is playing dead so occasionally she sends a message that basically says she is unavailable or too busy to meet up – must see roughly if the message communicates disinterest)

10/ The most devious excuses because can be done very easily: “I need a break.” = I fuck someone else and I just need time to know who I prefer.
(or so: I want to break up definitively but gently so one step after the other)

A. The Comfort Zone…

…is a key concept when practicing the game.

CZ is reflected by the usual behaviors that a person uses to be maintained in a not or few stressful state (but not really stimulating state). We remain in what we know and what do not stress us, which reassures us …

It’s a kind of comfortable prison and it leads the person to build walls at multiple levels, which gives him or her a sensation of security… most of the time not real.

In this area, the person has set limits, stood guides and rules, established beliefs… to maintain a certain degree of comfort, he or she looks for routine and known situations that minimize risk taking.

Except that this comfort is far from optimal. But either he or she faces the resistance to change. Humans do not like that one shakes his habits or his way of seeing life.

People prisoners in their comfort zone do not dare to confront the new, the unknown and what seems to them uncertain or difficult to control.

They prefer staying home alone, even if it is annoying rather than going on an adventure. The problem is that the one who never finds the courage to leave his comfort zone may regret and miss many cool things, and they progresses more slowly than someone more daring (this concept applies in personal, love, working life, etc.)

Examples:
– This is you when you do not approach a girl.
– It is you again when you do not dare sexualization.
– It is she when she does not come over at your place while she wants to, she is turned on.
– Etc.

It can go very far, the comfort zone. When I had my anxiety attacks, leaving my house scared me. Playing sports as well. My comfort zone had become tiny: with myself in my room.

Fortunately, the game taught me to always seek to go further, to me always climb a step higher. It helped me to survive this.

That’s why I laugh when chicks fucking freak out and invent crappy excuses or insult me to ruin everything. The stress can make people incoherent. I think that these people did not understand life. Never lived anything. Always had it easy…

You should not always see evil everywhere, either we do nothing. So if there are more chances of making a cool experience than being pissed off when we have nothing better to do than watching TV, I suggest you to keep in mind the following quote:

“Life begins out of your comfort zone.”

You will never do anything extraordinary if you always stay in your comfort zone. There are those who are capable of (5% of the population) and the others. It often has a big connection with creativity, self-confidence, optimism…

“It is better to live with remorse than regrets.” Act, and you will see (but don’t do stupid things) ! Your CZ will become bigger.

 

B. Related Concepts:

Social pressure is the influence of a group whose result is to impose the dominant standards of attitude and behavior. This influence leads to behavioral changes, attitudes, beliefs, opinions or feelings of individuals. Thinking for yourself helps combat conformism and submission to authority.

Example: It is she when she does not sleep on the first date while her pants are wet and she does not plan to be in a serious relationship with you.

Avoidance strategies: This behavior is a defense to not be faced with a feared or anxiety-provoking situation. So if various strategies are not or no longer enough to maintain a sufficient self-esteem, the individual may have to resort to an avoidance strategy. We find among them the strategy of lack, leakage, aggression and many others…

Example: This is where from come the false excuses (female or male).

The term right-thinking is a term criticizing a conformist or moralistic point of view, who agrees without further reflection to the alleged values ​​of the established order. A do-gooder is someone whose ideas are conformist, traditional.

Example: it is those who insult me ​​because I am a womanizer while they would be happy to do the same in fact (conscious or unconscious frustration).

Political correctness refers primarily to denounce the attitude conveyed by politicians and the media, which is to soften excessively or change formulations that could hit a categorical public, particularly in terms of ethnic groups, cultures, religions, of equality, of disabilities, social class or sexual orientation.

Example: it is those who are shocked because I dare to write “doggy style” even if they like my ideas in fact.

“For getting girls like you’ve never got, you will have to do things you’ve never done before” … which also will take you to think differently.

Do not tell me that the quotes are Dolteau’s like an idiot said the other day PLZ… because translating English quotes (often consensual) to put them on photos of hot chicks to get likes on Facebook don’t make of someone a great author, a god nor a genius. The lack of culture of some people shocks me some day.

I have a reputation as aggressive player that follows me like a dog would follow a girl to sniff her ass. It means that I am one of those who sexualize the most… the and faster. Let’s say my overall message is that I recommend trying to be “offensive” with chicks to quickly realize if there is a way to fuck or not. I do not like when an interaction lasts too long.. and I never fall in the friendzone. I also have an easy “next”.

The basis of my technique is fast sexualization like in fast seduction method, the % of success is enhanced by personal development. Then when we fuck the girls, sex skills are used to give her a so great fuck that she wants to see us again and she becomes addicted to you or you simply achieve FuckCloses after fuckcloses.

It works well on some chicks, to go straight to the point. But sexualization works better with the girls when there is some comfort built before… rather than on an unknown caught on the fly and cold-sexualized. For example, when I’m with my friends, and a friend of friend I do not know is there : I first talk normally, and without transition, I send a big teasing (with a smile). If she responds with a smile in return, and says something like, “You’re an asshole” while giving me a punch on the shoulder, I continue my ride. I’ve already fucked chicks without much comfort (like in this FR) but it was not the best fuck of my life (not theirs I guess).

I like to do like if I was tactless. But in fact, I use this technique to test the waters. I try something and I observe the reactions. If good reaction, I sexualize, and in case of bad reaction, I next. And most of the time I have a good time… with the girl or at her expense. If my sexualization takes, I spend a speed (and then she will play with my shifter). This way, I do not even take “rakes” in the strict sense.

When the girl is shocked or outraged or whatever, that’s when it goes bad. In this case: either it comes from my teasing, that was a little too strong or bad taste, or it’s the girl who has a problem in her mind (lack of confidence, hyper-susceptibility, tight-ass morals , etc.)

If my teasing was poorly chosen, I would say her reaction is understandable. Need to go in her shoes a little. If a girl I do not know in a party tells me “fuck, you are very ugly you,” I do not think it would make me very hard nor that it would make me want to know her better nor to play with her. So be careful with the “negs”. I prefer light jokes and double meanings.

Teasing a girl, it works well in general (but they are people that have no humor). No matter who you are dealing with, if you want to conclude, you need that interaction remains “healthy” … it must be done like in a tennis match where everyone returns the ball in a cool atmosphere. This dynamic even if it is based on teasing and provocation is often conducive to a doggystyle in the toilet. But, being “too aggressive” and “shocking a girl,” if it is in a wrong way… it just make you being a stupid jerk. The limit is to wonder : if we behaved in the same way with a guy, would he punch us in the face?

Ideas that Work:
– Play a little “the alpha man” and see if she follows your frame ;
– Ignoring her a bit at times, showing a little less interest in her, to drive her crazy. A guy who ignores a girl, it can have a big impact. If she comes back to us, make out with her.
– Blowing hot and cold, it can work well. But she must be a minimum interested at first. Otherwise we would just be a weird guy who asks questions and who ignores her.

WARNING ! If a girl is afraid of us, it means that we have sent her a strange image (weirdo). Some girls are nervous when they are attracted, but that’s absolutely not an absolute truth. I do not like these generalizations! Some girls, especially when they are not in high school anymore and assume, stop being nervous virgins when they are attracted to a guy (just like you no longer jump around when you talk to a girl that you like. Well, I hope for you).

The ambiguity, confrontation, innuendo, hints, the game and all that, it is fun… it often amuses girls. But honesty, rationality, it does not necessarily bother them. A girl who is bored: this is the worst thing that can happen, of course, but that’s not why you should not be honest and sincere. Do not adopt binary reasoning! Not everything is black or white in life, it is usually a matter of shades of gray (almost 50).

Human relationships are too complex so it can be said that rationality and honesty create boredom. They are far too complex so one can say anything, anyway. Yes, a punchline attracts attention. Yes, it’s better to be ambiguous and to play… but in order to create a deeper connection we will probably have to go through a spiritual an opening spiritual/personal/psychological phase. In short, talking a little about our lives, our passions, what makes us up in the morning. And it’s nothing necessarily boring. It is also part of the game.

A tactical approach (a strategy as another but which illustrates what we just talked about):

1) To don’t be thought of as a pervert because of sexualisation, it is important to first show that we are socially accepted. When you approach her in a private party for example, may it be with a punchline or not, it’s good to talk about your friends in common so she is reassured.

2) Then you can tickle her on her lipstick, if we feel that the current flows smoothly: “This is the lipstick you put when you want to make out with a guy right?” If she laughs, it’s good.

3) After, we create comfort: We can laugh with complicity of a too drunk guy who dances like an epileptic earthworm. The discussion goes on drunk people, then on the parties. She talks about a party in Amsterdam where she saw a guy throw on himself before slipping on his own vomit. “Ah, you went to Amsterdam?
– Yes I lived there a year blah …
– I also love traveling blah (connection).”

4) Next, we isolate her and we can tease her again “I serve you another drink?
– Yes.
– Shit, your lipstick smeared on the glass. It’s disgusting ! We’ll just get another one in the kitchen!”

5) We continue to tease a little from time to time like that to spark the flame or taking another slap on our shoulder. Girls often tap my shoulder by calling me an asshole. That’s cool, I guess. Must say that I love to make a mess (on facebook or in bars) and then to make out chicks that are “fun.” Well, and once they have passed all these tests, we can try to kiss her with a low risk of failure.

The moral is that you can piss her off a bit for fun but you can also share sincere and profound things. This is perfectly compatible (it’s not boring at all on the contrary, but it’s your job to tell your story in an interesting way and to talk about interesting things) but it is especially DESIRABLE.

There is a theory that says we should not play it dirty like that because the more a girl perceives us as superior to her value, the more we can fuck without any game.

I partly agree with that. This is even why we invented DHV (demonstrations of high value), storytelling, etc. But I’m not a fan of these techniques, I prefer the natural game, empathetic and sincere.

As I often say, Ian Somerhalder probably does not need to make much effort to fuck. But, I’m not sure that being Ian Somerhalder but NEVER making jokes or any effort would allow us to keep a great girl for long. I would add one final subject: what the field has taught me is that if one is too far above or below the value of the girl, it will be difficult to conclude.

Indeed, once again, put ourselves in the shoes of the other to think : if we see a celebrity like Melanie Laurent, we would be stressed because her value would be much greater than ours. It does not put us very comfortable, and, as we all know: being comfortable is the basis of seduction. This suggests that the same goes for the ladies. A too high value would not necessarily make her wet outside the cinema. How would they react in front of the actor on whom they fantasize? They probably would get cold feet.

The ideal value is therefore a little above her value. At least, I speak about your perceived value, your projected value compared to the value she gives to herlseft in her mind. The purpose of the game is still to bang chicks better than us. To realize capital gains. Anyway, this is my vision of the thing. Always playing higher league. If you are already super handsome, super rich, super everything, sorry but you have no merit to fuck models. It is my vision of the thing too. The game is done so that no exceptional guys bang in exceptional circumstances great girls!

After it is sure that, Melanie Laurent, I would go without hesitation. But it’s because I worked on myself to have more nerves !!!

A + playboys!

What is the image that one has of the “seducer” (in the collective unconscious)?

In a few words :
– A guy who is over-confident.
– A guy who has super classy look, or at least a studied one.
– A mysterious guy…
– A guy a little haughty, macho, sometimes a jerk or conversely a very polite guy.
– A guy who brags or conversely a very modest dude.
– Etc.

First of all, I would say that being comfortable in the company of women, being well in our sneakers, this is not necessarily a seducer’s cliché. It’s just that being relax tends to put others at ease. So we have more success : in discomfort, it is difficult to seduce.

The real problem is when these qualities are simulated or overplayed. In this case, it is reasonable to assume that they are not authentic. Playing a seducer’s caricature, that’s what is ridiculous! It’s a bit pathetic, in fact. For example, despite all the beautiful girls I’ve slept with, I am not “over-confident.” Most of the time, even the super-hot chicks are not hyper-confident, by the way. It’s like that. On the other hand, with the Game, I accepted my weaknesses (and my qualities) and I’m pretty good about myself. For example, at a time after I was assaulted I had anxiety attacks and I had trouble getting out of my house. Going back on the NPU field is a victory for me!

Remember: A man or woman who accentuates to excess certain qualities (or weaknesses too), definitely try to mask his or her vulnerabilities, sufferings and doubts. We all have some, but those who usually hide have much more than those who show and assume them.

Personally, I’m pretty lambda and it suits me very well. Because we have absolutely no need to play the womanizer to seduce women. My advice: do not fall into the cliché! Just be more serene with the girls and dare more than the average of other guys.

I feel like I’ll break a lot of myths but, for example, when I see a guy who plays the mysterious guy, I say that there is probably not much behind it (sorry but it is often the case). A guy who plays it too much H2G, I think he’s scared to conclude with chicks (inexperience, fear of women). This is not because a man is surrounded by many women that he is a big fucker, maybe he is a professional friendzoned. Besides, I’m not THAT surrounded by women, I have my circle, but often I do not become really friend or close with chicks I’ve fucked. Too bad, indeed, but well. It’s life ! Finally, it is not because a guy is very very muscled or handsome that he fucks a lot. My first padawan was at least HB9 yet he had difficulties. The physical appearance is not everything, even if it helps. This is thought the attitude that we can tell if a guy is a seducer or not. A guy who does not approach but claims that chicks fall on his cock by magic, personally, I don’t buy it. I know women too well to be fooled at this point. Or maybe it is just the case of 0.01% of the handsome guys. In any cases, it is because the physical is mixed with other qualities (power, money, social status …)

It is not written on my forehead that I fucked with a lot of women. I know guys who brag, who dress with very expensive clothes and everything, adopting a hyper assured body language but yet who have not touched girl for years (they compensate the blank). The girls I meet in bars cannot guess that, with only one finger, I would make them orgasm more than their last 10 guys together.

On the other hand, it’s written on my blog: it turns on some, it blocks some. Some are turned on but want to piss me off for the principle “I am not like the others, you will not have me so easily, I’m not like that, etc.” (between the last minute resistance and the shit-test, etc.) Sometimes I fucked them anyway (they just wanted to play), sometimes not (it scared them to fuck with me they probably think that I ‘had STDs or they were afraid that I compare them with other hotties – when I told you they do not have much confidence in them despite what some claim -? pff, couldn’t they just enjoy ?)

What makes me laugh is when I fuck a girl in NPU and then I add her on FB. She thus becomes aware of the existence of my blog and my life as a PUA. Reactions: some have never spoken to me again after because of that. They are people who like it. Even some have introduced me to their girlfriends. Yet, I’m the same. Also some invented me a life “yeah you make the apology of rape, etc.” Uh, really? Where ? There’s no more considerate, kind and respectful than me. She has not read anything the girl, but hey, she bullshits me.

In most cases, the chicks react badly when they face my blog. Why ? Because thinking for themselves, it is difficult. So just because I assume to be a little kinky, chicks associate me certain characteristics which we have spoken about above (jerk, arrogant, macho). Let’s get to the point: I’m not really an asshole, I’m rather a teasing dude. I guess I am someone simple, accessible. And I am honest unlike most guys. What often surprises the women who investigate further, it is that behind my facade of “serial-Fucker”, they discover a hyper-sensitivity. I’m not a robot, I don’t practice impersonal fucking.

Conversely, there’s the “politically correct” clichés. Often from guys who are pissing off women because enclosing them in a wise and prude image. Their idea: The Seducer is gallant, romantic, polite, elegant, refined, respectful … There are guys, let’s call them “theorists of respect” who want to give a hyper-friendly guy image of the woman and all. .. and who will criticize fuckers like me … all that for what? To fuck the chicks. In a word, they think they embody the ideal of the lover in all its perfection. An ideal that the Hexagon’s women tend to question, either. Those guys don’t fuck but don’t understand why, they’re so frustrated.

Respect, it is a matter of context. This is not at the time you take her doggy style that you respect her to excess. It’s a question of timing! In addition, they love it in general (with a spanking), so if you do not doggy style them because you respect them too much, it is in fact a lack of respect.

I prefer a woman who knows how to have fuck than a woman who is blocked and calls me a big pervert when I say a raw word. The normal chicks (not the extremist feminist nor the lesbians hating guys), it’s the same. Open your eyes ! Sorry to break one more myth. But if you want to fuck more, be less tight-ass. It was the final punchline.

Finally, keep in mind that there are several definitions of the concept of seducer. They are people who are happy with kissing chicks only (me that piss me off when there’s nothing behind), others are like by girls but don’t touch them (I prefer be liked by a minority and fuck a lot than being liked by majority but not touching much), and then there’s those like me who believe that fucking hotties (not priced) is the only truly reliable test to see if we have a good Game. There’s probably other categories of seducers.

The pickup science is too depended on “Human” : we cannot write absolute truths. Indeed, no attitude works everywhere, all the time.

Snipe explains why it’s normal and why that’s a good thing in our podcast.

However, one cannot infer that this discipline is totally submitted to the subjectivity of every one: it is not only a matter of context. Indeed, there are attitudes that are statistically more attractive than others. In other words: there are characteristics that allow to have sex more than others… maybe not a particular girl and certainly, but on average, we can significantly improve our social, love and sex life through the game. And that is an observable fact that one can quantify.

Plastic

If I was Ben Affleck, I would not need to act funny or charming for licking a pussy. Chicks would throw on my cock as soon as they would see me on the other side of the street. Not all chicks of course, but a lot of girls though. I would so be responsible for many road accidents. I prefer to be responsible for underwear accidents.

This is not because Ben Affleck is cute that I say what I said, but mostly because he is famous and recognized as a fuckable guy (preselection).

I’m not to the taste of all the chicks (like everyone else). Some I met thought I was ugly and did not want to fuck me. Others found me ugly too but I have doggystyled them anyway. The difference between those that I have fucked and those I have not fucked? I don’t know. Charisma or attitude has probably attracted those with whom I had sex. That said, they are women who found me handsome but I did not sleep with them either.

There’s just too many parameters to consider, and some depend on the girl herself : like, if she is afraid because she never goes out of her comfort zone, if she has no experience in bed and freaks if she knows you’re a womanizer or if she is afraid of the comparison with the other girls with whom you’re sleeping. In this case, there will be conflict between her, herself ans she and except reassuring her, you can do nothing about that. Even trying to convince her is not always enough, sometimes it will definitively block her.

The physical appearance is not essential but it helps, let’s not be hypocrites. Your clothing style has to be taken care of. It’s always easier when you’re a little bit elegant. Although I’m often too lazy to change clothes before going and I fuck anyway… do not take me as a model in this domain!

Work and Culture

With a good job and a future, that’s even better. About culture, if we do not include the stupid bitches of northern Marseille it is better to write without spelling mistakes (for picking up on the Internet or by texts) and to have a little (of culture, huh). But no need to spread it like jam.

The power also helps. The more influence you have, the more you’ll have facilities to have hot babes in your bed. I’m sure Norman fucks a lot thanks to his popularity on YouTube, even if it is obvious that he’s a fucking AFC and that without it he would still be virgin. Each one has his technique; the important is that it works!

Be soft, gentle

A silent look is worth a thousand nervous speech. This is the concept of not breaking the sexual tension developed in this book. To learn how to avoid nervous movements and the importance of being or seeming at ease, I recommend rather this ebook.

The girls (and the guys) do not like being pissed off. Me, in any case, I like what is out of the ordinary, fresh, what distracts me for a moment of everyday chores. For example, a threesome !!!

Being soft, it is an attitude that leads to success. Straight to the goal, like the OM team. Do not overdo, do not do too much shit (do not talk too much, do not be too brittle, derogatory, invasive, attentive). People take enough headaches like that, sometimes (often) where there’s no place … so, let’s be cool, and do not voluntarily surround you with sources of problems (even if they are hot).

To seduce, let’s not play it weird, do not brag, unless it is some second degree humor (in this case she much understand it it’s not beforehand won). Rather rely on listening, empathy, daring, teasing and active listening.

Do not prohibit clichés: the evidence often leads to originality. In improvisation, it is recommended to go from a trite trick and to embroider. Wanting to be 100% original from the beginning to the end of the interaction is taking the risk of finding nothing to say but also the risk of looking like a weirdo. Before breaking a social convention, it is necessary to master it first.

Show her some interest

I know a few authors recommend to never show your interest first. But ignoring a girl all night because we are a pseudo-H2G-alpha-male which who does not approach and does not try his luck unless he is 100% sure… is a bad idea.

Do not hunt down like a dog guy, but show a little genuine interest in her and her life. Adapt to her, calibrate (we cannot make dance a paralytic girl) and use kinos.

Make her compliments, when it is sincere.

Talking about sex

Sexualization is double-edged. It must be done, but in a good way! Not being thought of as a pervert is an art, passing her shit-tests (she wants to see if you are not an evil man or a sex-starved) is sometimes difficult. Do not be too vulgar, disrespectful, do not get upset even if it’s the hundredth time you hear the same shit-test “does it work, that line, it with the girls usually?”.

It is a question of social intelligence. There’s times and places to talk about sex… even if I like to do shit and it’s funny, again, do not take me as a model! But yeah, when it’s done right, she dips her panties. She may not admit, she may not fuck with you, but there’s a chance that it makes her feel something anyway.

There’s also a fairly common mistake which is to ask for sex directly. Certainly you would lick her pussy like a God and she would enjoy like crazy but she will surely say no anyway. I noticed that it works rather better when I invite them for a massage, for a glass of wine or for watching a movie (although we both know what will happen because we have talked a lot about sex before and she has been receptive).

In short, there are chicks who love fuck and to talk about sex like guys with guys, others pretend to be shocked and then go talking about sex with their girl-friends. I think if the girl is normally constituted, it stimulates her a minimum to talk about doggy and spanking.

Respect yourself

Do not tolerate more than one flake (who has flaked will flake). Do not tolerate being the spare wheel of a girl. Do not ever try chicks that have already rejected you. This attitude amounts to stir the air. When I have no plan, I appreciate the tranquility. You must be full of illusions to believe that if she said “no” 9 times she will say “yes” at the 10th.

That was for the girls in your contact list. Now, when a girl rejects you please learn how to difference a real rejection and a simple resistance. And in consequence, go on or give up.

Being healthy-minded

You know I have been depressed so I know this: being well in my mind, it’s super important. If you do not feel well in your life, you will not be good with girls. When things are not going well, we pick up less chicks. When things go really well, it works almost by itself. There are days with and days without.

The girls too, there’s times when they are more or less receptive. Take the same situation, the same actors: the result can vary a lot from one week to the next. You cannot influence too much the availability of the other (emotional or physical). All chicks that you come across in the street don’t want to be picked up. But let’s do our part, let’s try and remain available. That’s all we can do.

Conclusion

A smile, a punchline, a nice shirt, not giving importance to fails because it was understood that 95% of chicks (people too) are idiots and having a local … that’s enough in itself.

Otherwise… one becomes what one is. You learn to express yourself without being too afraid of what other people thing, you dare more, you assume more, etc. In other words, you come out of the mold. Not everyone wants to become a womanizer and I respect that. But it is still necessary to have the choice and the opportunity to be a womanizer before saying that you do not want to be it. Otherwise, it’s called bad faith.

Well, there would be a lot of other things to say, but the point here was to publish a summary of what works. When in doubt, keep it simple.

I wish you a good contribution to female pleasure!

Last weekend, I went to the Eroticism Show in Lyon.

I was aghast: first of all in this stuff, they make you pay the entrance. But you pay for what? They make you pay to access the stands where you can buy things (sextoys, fluorescent condoms, accessories, clothing, lingerie).

Frankly, isn’t it a big joke? Anyway, whatever, I’m not a sucker. Basically, I went there (not by curiosity as would say a girl who does not assume) but to approach libertine girls. There were actually not much to approach: only couples and men. There was all the same two or three groups of girls that I have approached but they were lesbians.

Then there were free shows : strippers dancing, playing with fire, undressing. Downside: most are smashing but not handsome. By the way, strippers are still often prettier than porn actresses anyway. That’s what I noticed.

There was a guy stripper too, who made his show, he wanted to warm the ladies: a guy, a fucking bodybuilder (too muscular for an ordinary mortal). Not beautiful, not tall, just very muscular. He pretended to undress but we never saw his cock. It’s a little bit ridiculous, I think. Does he have a small cock or what? In any case, to warm a woman through photos on Snapchat or anything: you have understood, never show your gun unless you can use it. This is how the professionals do. For the girls who want to strip, it is based on slow and anticipation. Like, before removing their string, they make a break then take it down completely!

For the modest sum of € 10, you could attend a filming of a porn movie scene. So I was pretty “curious” to see that. There was the actress Kelly Pix (apparently she is famous in the world of porn but I know no one except Jacquie and Michel). At least she has not fake boobs, that’s something!

In this show: she arrives on stage disguised as a policewoman and begins to touch roughly her pussy with her baton. Then comes a prisoner, Tony Caliano. She made him sit down and abruptly pulls out his big cock (something huge it’s really excessive) and begins to suck it greedily (he was hard yet does it take drugs?). Then he fucks her (still without hug, kiss, nothing) in several positions and she cums (not him). Frankly boring. Zero. A waste of time. A purely mechanical sex. Not what I like! It was impersonal. I have not even felt the beginning of an erection, rather a vague sense of unease.

The funniest was the leader: a real cartoon of a guy who works in porn (porn producer). A guy with no hair, short, fat, vulgar loudmouth. His punchline “ass, it is not only useful to sit down.” Lol! I was wondering if these guys really fuck the hotties from the world of the X (like in the cliché) or not.

In the alleys, I have been approached several times by girls. In fact, the concept is that fucking sex-bombs smile you. They do like sluts. And if you smile back, they approach you “do you want a lapdance?
– Fuck yeah, what’s the price?
– €60 for two dances ie 7mn, €100 for a sextoy show. ”

Damn !!! She must be very hot so it worth it. I’m talking about the sexy dancing, because the show with dildos, it’s not my cup of tea. Chicks try to make you feel guilty when you say no, “I am not to your taste, right?” Frankly, they all are not beautiful. And when you propose them to meet up outside or give to give you their number “it’s forbidden by my boss.”

I toured all the stands, sometimes it was the pimp who approached me “you seem timid
– Yes very.
– Do you want a young novice in the world of porn? a future star? for € 80 she give you a show and then because you’re young and not aggressive who knows what can happen…” Seriously! The guy hopes I’ll believe that. Like if the girl was going to shake you and suck you. He sells dreams. There’s not written pigeon on my forehead! I’m not a guy missing in lack of sex led by the end of his dick!

The guys who bought a strip then waited that the girl is done with her previous customers. I remember the usual prices of prostitutes: €30 a blowjob, € 50 sex. So, for that matter, I’d rather buy a pure hottie prostitute at the Spanish border for fun.

Finally, there was a Jacquie et Michel stand that had put an ad like what they were looking for actors/actresses. I asked how much it was paid €200 for guys and €300 for women for a scene which lasts on average between 1 and 2 hours. By cons, they take only single women or couples … how surprising . Bis repetita, I wonder if these guys do fuck the hottie we can see in the movies while they are old and ugly.

A thought for the girl of the body painting who, since she tasted the joys of striptease in Australia, continues to practice in Paris. Despite her psychology degree, she has a strong character! At least, I can say that I banged a stripper.

The good side of the direct game

I like using sexualization early in the interaction. I find it really fun and honest. And, strangely, that reassure some because it confirms them that they are about to be picked up. By a guy who assumes in addition, characteristic quite rare.

Indeed, people whose intentions are not clear often inspire fear. And there are a lot of guys who do not assume they try to pick up : they want to be regarded as “good guys” or I do not know what… in order to fuck the girl. I’m sorry but you can fuck chicks, enjoy it, and yet being a good guy.

Other interesting features of the direct game is, in my opinion, its powerful and surprising aspects … sometimes destabilizing. It can hit the mark and differentiate us from the masses! Thus, when we approach, for a greater impact we do not often say hello and directly go straight to the opener.

It can excite the chicks, but sometimes precisely: the fact to remove this ambiguity can cool those who do not assume they want to orgasm. So they apprehend (being naked in front of you, not being up to you the bed, feeling dirty after, what do I know …)

That’s why it works especially on adventurous girls, those who have strength of will, those that are not really lobotomized, those who are hot (no complex), those with experience in the bed or who assume the fact of not having experience and want to learn from you.

The direct game removes a lot of headaches from the game. I do not know many guys who practiced with me and who made a step back after. It’s quite liberating, it pays, and it allows to have fun. In addition, it highlights the weaknesses of some women, so we can laugh when we understand that if she did not sleep with us it is not necessarily that we have done something wrong or are not handsome enough for her. It is very comfortable to fuck hotties, most of the time without headache, sometimes even without leaving home …

 

The dangerous side of the direct game

The direct game, it has the reputation of being somewhat the “old-school” pickup. The one with the big balls. However, when we like it, we (me included) sometimes skip steps yet crucial to a clean game. And we eat a lot of rakes and flakes.

Let’s make no mistake: there are plenty of chicks that this particularly virile pushy pickup, turn on. But they are so conditioned that it intimidates them, and some would feel “dirty” “give up so easily,” even if they want it in fact. Where from an internal conflict, and some will even be mad at you for not having stayed in your soft dick role.

Basically, this kind of approach or man, it’s been the dream in movies but in reality they are not going to try their luck. Some will say that they do not assume their sexuality. Further they are well conditioned to a boring life. The gossips say they are frustrated and pain in the ass. I do not think we are here to judge, too bad for them, after all. Me, the only things that annoy me is when they warm us, but after get cold feet and then blame it on us like, “you’re not enough this or that / finally I have no more desire.” This way, they streamline their own cowardice (me, I always do what I say and say what I do I call it respect). They are afraid of leaving their comfort zone (where the magic happens), but will not admit it (they are maybe not even conscious of this). This is normal, it would call into question their belief system. Go on and tell a jihadist it is impossible that there are70 virgins waiting for him after his death, or that if it’s a woman or a guy who kill you it’s the same thing : you’ll see his reaction. Sometimes, by texts, they will use shitty excuses just one hour before the date like “finally I cannot come over I’ll go get vaccinated.” The most hypocritical even say stuff they do not measure the scope “I’m not a girl like that me but in the party you will find easily”: it’s like “look, all the girls are sluts but not me “. What a ridiculous vilification … “Me I can resist my urges, but it’s hard, so I’m sure others cannot do so !!! I am sooo proud!” When in fact, these are all the chicks in the mold who use crap like that and I can tell you that those who think for themselves have a different speech. It does not take me long to recognize them!

Beautiful women use more sexual avoidance strategies than men because they need to make less effort to get fucking opportunities.

Sorry but all the chicks are not worth investing time and energy in them (much less money or sperm). When they start bullshiting me, I see them as chicks that have failed the test. It is true, I admit, I am not very tolerant, I ask them a lot and make fewer concessions but … we both lose. Her orgasms, and me a hot girl. All that complemented by a memorable adventure that will be remembered (because of the adrenaline that is precisely what prevents many from taking action – it pisses me off because of my anxiety attacks I had to learn how to manage imaginary fears so much that now I laugh when I see what stresses some girls and I really wonder how they would have done if they had gone through what I went through).

Anyway, back to the point: if we really want to increase our chances, it is advisable to put an intro before the pushy direct game. When I say an intro, I speak of a rapid exchange or a story-telling including DHV.

The temerity of the direct game too often dessert even if it allows banging hot babes, without many complications. But you have to be strong in your head because sometimes the flames back hurts a lot. Some bitches want to put you back in place, we do not know why, it looks like it is their mission on Earth to spoil the joy of others. Some you’ll fuck them, but only once, they will be too good for you, and you’ll think of them your whole life being jealous of the guy who married them (OI).

There’s chicks who believe we use very direct game because we are afraid of a conversation… or we cannot handle a conversation! That we are so anxious, we prefer jumping into the water, closing our eyes. It is true that it is logical if we see evil everywhere. However, for me, it is rather a test, the proof: a girl who laughs to my cocky-funny opener, I would be happy to have a conversation with her after. More willingly than a frustrated bitch who rebelled because you have not offered her a drink. I prefer to break the ice like that, I cannot help it…

Sometimes I abuse. I’m not focused. For example: “Hi, would you like to kiss me?” Here, I zap a little the comfort phase by practicing like that. I play double or quits. The opener is also VERY generic. Chicks (like us) like feeling a bit special. Some do not take us seriously, think that we are making fun of them. It does not mean that it doesn’t work sometimes… but it’s nice to add a little calibration. With that said, this kind of approach is very funny when we see the face of the girls when they hear this: they often do not believe their ears. Moreover, it helps to desensitize, because when we approached like that, we can do soft approaches more easily after! Ashamed of anything now, we are free… you can do it in a huge scale : and playing on the number, it pays. It is statistically better to make 20 generic cold approaches than two highly targeted approaches. Especially, if it is to learn after 2 hours of conversation that the girl is sleeping with her friend or has a boyfriend to whom she will remain faithful… well thank you but no thank you! You can have more targets with this kind of game !

By making pushy direct game, be ready to sometimes suffer from strong returns. So a beginner who is still seeking his self-confidence may be destroyed with this little game. They can be very arrogant and hurtful ESPECIALLY if they are people around (cf. social pressure, feels uncomfortable because believe you just call whore since that is her biggest fears seen how she is sexy dressed, is in trouble because torn between temptation and education). I know that this logic is quite disconcerting because besides that they will say that a confident guy who knows what he wants excites them. Finding a balance is delicate. But do not forget the saying “a good fisherman must learn how to think like a fish.”

 

My conclusion

An alpha guy who has the choice of women likes to know in what he sailed before spending two hours with a green plant. Where from the point of the test before taking her seriously and investing in her. Well, in my opinion. Be ready to date any girl is a kind of DLV. It’s a good thing that she proves her value before. That she makes efforts. It shows that she is a bit more clever than average. But the cute girls are not really used to it, usually 15 guys flock to them as soon as they walk into a bar. Inevitably, it distort men/women relationships and makes them lose touch with reality. And since you do not do like others, he average stupid girl is going to think you’re the idiot.

Finally, note that sometimes there’s times when the most daring game will work and times when whatever you do it’s not working. I guess that there are cycles then I do not know where it comes from if it’s the moon, the seasons, or our state of mind … Well, I have often noticed that phenomenon. There are times when all my buddies FuckClose and others when we all feel bad because luck does not smile us. In this case, my advice is to apply a basic game to return to success and so making a fresh start.

I like putting my foot in it!

Most players would like to be able to approach the pretty girls in the street. Or in stores… in short, everywhere in daily life. But it’s harder than it seems. So they sometimes think that they’re lacking of motivation. I think, myself, that motivation is there but that fear paralyzes them.

The fear of social rejection is normal and, peak of the roof, it activates the same neurological mechanisms than physical pain. Who would voluntarily want to be hurt? So it is much easier to avoid it: in order to avoid potentially negative social judgments, we regularly develop avoidance strategies.

It’s a widespread phenomenon, this damned approach anxiety: but it is only by exposing to it regularly that you can tame it. It’s like a phobia, we can control and contain it, but I never managed to make it disappear.

The difference between the players who are motivated and the other is that the motivated players are actively seeking to fix this issue. The motivations: the desire for sex, to have a girlfriend, to know what is love, to have a better self-esteem, to brag in front of the friends, etc.

Social => Alert Rejection (possibility of a pain similar to physical pain) => avoidance strategies (lame excuses) => procrastination.

To keep some internal consistency, players often develop false excuses for not going to the front. Typical:
– she is not hot enough;
– I’m not in the mood ;
– I will go after my exams, there, I’m too busy;
– There are too many people around;
– I do not feel very good there;
– I’ll go later;
– I have not yet the level to be successful so why should I try? ;
– I’m not out for that;
– This is not the right place;
– Etc.

When you come out with your LAIR or with a coach, and the other guys approach: we will more easily dare to approach. “The others do it so I have to do it too”: it is a kind of demonstration effect. Within this group, the norm is to approach (unlike lambda people) so I go for it… in these circumstances! We thus feels more legitimate and social pressure is reversed. Moreover, there is less fear of social rejection because we are already part of a group. A group of people who understand us and will not judge us if we take a rake. Rather we will laugh together and it will be fun. If I approach alone, who are my audience?

It’s not bad to approach with a group but the ultimate goal is still to reach the “autonomous” phase. So, to reach the point when you’re able to make the move despite stress.

Three rules rules for this purpose:
– Go there just to see (“the game rather than the stake”) to make her smile, maybe it will result in a nice and spontaneous exchange of bodily fluids;
– Do not try to make perfect approaches (who cares ? therefore, it puts too much pressure on you, and then who can judge?);
– Make it simple: one idea per sentence, do not try to be TOO original, pay more attention on your BL than on anything else.

Indeed, there is not really any GOOD opener (nor bad – depending on the context). Take ideas where you want/can and recycle them. Work is already ready for you by the way: I made a collection for this purpose. Try to do not hesitate when you approach, do not show you’re too afraid of the pretty girl (intimidated), and talk to her like if you were talking to a longtime friend (girl). You will have already done the heavy lifting. There’s girls who are afraid of mice, these little beasts. And well, most guys are afraid of girls, the little beasts because they have power over them! We thus understand how it is ridiculous : people have a power on you only if you give them.

You probably know it already: we subcommunicate more than we communicate with our words. So: your posture, the way you move and your tone of voice is more important than the opener you will choose. Try to be relaxed or at least to seem relax. And know that she may criticize your opener, but it would be a “logical” response to an “emotional” feeling: she will try to verbalize her feelings. I have already approached with “hello are you the one who farted?” and “I love you” !!!

Momentum: When we approached many times, we are warm, and then we approach more easily. The most difficult, are the first ones. I call them “warming up”.

Pretty girls have their ass stared at all the time. Sometimes it turns them on, sometimes it repels. In the case of a sex-starved dude who has no female friends and has not touched a woman for several months, she will not like it : so never communicate that you are in mode “sex-starved”. In no way. Even if this is the case. ESPECIALLY if that is the case. An alpha has the choice of women, so he is not hungry. Do you want her to take you seriously or not?

In two words: step your foot into action first, the brain will follow and activate when you’ll open your mouth. These are often last-minute interference that come and block approaches. So introduce yourself in the set, for example, and you will see after what will happen. Why anticipating?

Staying mobile or waiting until they pass in front of you?
– In a club, in a crossing such as the bar or in a corridor, you can approach the girls passing before you. Assembly line. It saves your energy (not moving). It’s like when you’re waiting for your suitcase at the airport.
– You can also approach when you walk through the crowd to go to the toilet or elsewhere. In movement, we are by definition less needy. Then fuck her in the toilet 😉
– On the dancefloor, I rather recommend an approach based on the body language, take her hand or dance with her. Anyway, I’m not really a “dancer”, especially when I’m alone. But dancing with a girl in order to warm her, yeah, why not?

“Would Leonardo Di Caprio chase a girl in the street to pick her up?”

The way the question is formulated is revealing: why comparing our situation to the situation of a movie star? Why thinking like a preselected selector ? Why, if we are in this case, making the effort to chace a girl?

What is a selector?

I’m taking about a confident guy who has the luxury of the choice in his love life. His sex life is rich, varied and fulfilling because women he likes like him in return. Women are seeking for his company in their life and in their bed.

How did he become a selector?

Perhaps thanks to his profession involving intense media coverage and a cult of personality like Di Caprio. In this case, many women would love to sleep with him even without having ever met up before. They want to know vicariously the thrill of a big bank account and celebrity. It’s not about feeling love.

Or he is a waiter in a famous club. These guys are not even necessarily handsome. But women may want to sleep with them to prove that they are beautiful (they chose them while they had a choice) rather than because he is really attractive. That said, by dint of being successful, these guys necessarily develop an alpha behavior that makes them a little sexy. But their success is often due to their work or art, so if they were deprived of it one day, I do not know if they would fuck a lot. Probably not, without this network…

For the others, I mean those who do not get wet underwear in their letter-box in the morning, we meet the women in our lives through our friends, during our trips or at work. Or on the Internet.

The important thing is to seize and create meeting opportunities. We must be active. Thus, this way we have the choice and the control. Moreover, picking up many girls, it eliminates the factor “personal taste” and we make out necessarily. This is one of the marketing concepts. We never sell to everyone, but the point is just to sell enough to be satisfied.

If you want to be the king of oil, I will not lie to your : it is necessary to provide the means. If you stay at home hoping that a pretty brunette with blue eyes will come in by your window and join you in your bed waking up with a magic pipe: it is not beforehand won! Do it as your want but initiate conversations with friendly people, especially pretty girls and make them want to see you again!

You will become selector as well as you improve your social and sexual abilities, you will one day or another be unable to find time for all the people who want to see you. You will then better choose the quality women for quality relationships. Your criteria will be according to your tastes: physical, intellectual, kindness, culture of the chick etc …

If you decide to remain single (or in an open relationship) to don’t lose your game, you will spend warm nights with beautiful girls BUT sexy women in the street still arouse your interest. Or in a bar with your fuckfriends: you will be preselected. With a huge modjo, it will be easier for you than for another to approach these girls before they disappear forever in a metro station. Hoping that the girl have more conversation than a handlebar.

Who are the bad selectors?

Those who are afraid of being thought of as “womanizers” (limiting beliefs) and deny their desire to approach beautiful women (avoidance strategy avoiding them to confront their fears).

Oh yes it is so important to don’t make a bed impression on girls that they do not know and will probably never see again : they want to give the impression of a guy who is not dog. But they are even more in heat now!

They thank heaven that no one had seen them taking a rake (nobody cares but well). Then they feel sad as they realize that every time they want to approach they invent crappy excuses. Because of stress, of course.

They reassure themselves by saying that the shortlisted men do not chase women. THEY ARE THE PRICE! They are therefore right to adopt strategies of denial and withdrawal. Not going for it! It is a bit shit and a full box of condoms reminds them every evening they have fucked only once this month. Take the critical distance of all that to overcome your bad habits (if you still have some : I’m talking about inventing shitty excuses).

What I find tasty it’s when politically corrects AFC believe harm me by saying that I sleep with lots of chicks while they actually make me a huge publicity. It’s a big problem to don’t understand women like that!

 

Confront your fears to reality

There’s really no contradiction between having women in your life and picking up chicks. Chicks often test me “why did you need to pick up if you’re really such a good lover? “Shut up, bitch. I love it, that’s it!

So, would Leo go out in a club with his wingmen to pick up chicks? I’ll ask him when I see him.

Approach chicks: If you always expect them to do the first step, the woman of your life may never be on your side. Give yourself the opportunity to have a choice between interested women!

One should always congratulate a guy who had the balls to approach correctly (I’m not talking about riffraff). He dared to confront his fears to reality.

 

Fake it up to you make it?

If you’ve got no chick and want to play the preselected alpha who don’t give a shit : you put the cart before the horse except they walk backwards.

Change your behavior by being more alpha but do not make your game rest on this device.
There’s super handsome guys and alpha who do not fuck much. They don’t create the opportunities. Between work, sleep, metro, sports, movies on their computer, etc. There’s also those that could be hot, like Ian Somerhalder, but do not have the appropriate coaches that push in their ass. They have the gene but we can see nothing. There’s a lot of guys like that with great potential who are doubled by opportunists like me. Not that it bothers me but I want to help! So: MOTIVATION! Work on your personal development to be more alpha and be active: go out, go for it!

 

If you start from scratch …?

Try to know yourself, to understand yourself. Change what needs to be changed to adopt ways of thinking and behavior that will make you live positive experiences.

Do not compare yourself to others. Envy is useless. Change your perspective on jealousy, don’t be jealous of your friends, you’ll love yourself. Personal development will help you fill your shortcomings, correct your flaws, and enhance your skills to become THE BEST YOURSELF POSSIBLE EVER. You will feel good and you’ll open to others. From there: alea jacta est.

Take pleasure in your life activities and share it with the people you meet.

Be interested sometimes in some chicks for anything other than their pussy or for the validation of your game. You will understand things that will make you more natural next time you will pick up.

Stay away from miracle cures and ready-made replicas create for magically fucking chicks. You need first a certain capacity for socialization and a proper look. Then we will talk of spontaneity and self-confidence!

You must reveal your personality! Consolidate it! Making out on dancefloor will not give you the keys of the female psychology nor of happiness. The day you’d be in a couple, you would pay dearly to have faked everything.

 

My conclusion : The economy of a personal development work is not desirable!