Year: 2015

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Approach procrastination : fear or motivation ?

Approach procrastination fear or motivation Most players would like to be able to approach the pretty girls in the street. Or in stores… in short, everywhere in daily life. But it’s harder than it seems. So they sometimes think that they’re lacking of motivation. I think, myself, that motivation is there but that fear paralyzes them.

The fear of social rejection is normal and, peak of the roof, it activates the same neurological mechanisms than physical pain. Who would voluntarily want to be hurt? So it is much easier to avoid it: in order to avoid potentially negative social judgments, we regularly develop avoidance strategies.

It’s a widespread phenomenon, this damned approach anxiety: but it is only by exposing to it regularly that you can tame it. It’s like a phobia, we can control and contain it, but I never managed to make it disappear.

The difference between the players who are motivated and the other is that the motivated players are actively seeking to fix this issue. The motivations: the desire for sex, to have a girlfriend, to know what is love, to have a better self-esteem, to brag in front of the friends, etc.

Social => Alert Rejection (possibility of a pain similar to physical pain) => avoidance strategies (lame excuses) => procrastination.

To keep some internal consistency, players often develop false excuses for not going to the front. Typical:
– she is not hot enough;
– I’m not in the mood ;
– I will go after my exams, there, I’m too busy;
– There are too many people around;
– I do not feel very good there;
– I’ll go later;
– I have not yet the level to be successful so why should I try? ;
– I’m not out for that;
– This is not the right place;
– Etc.

When you come out with your LAIR or with a coach, and the other guys approach: we will more easily dare to approach. “The others do it so I have to do it too”: it is a kind of demonstration effect. Within this group, the norm is to approach (unlike lambda people) so I go for it… in these circumstances! We thus feels more legitimate and social pressure is reversed. Moreover, there is less fear of social rejection because we are already part of a group. A group of people who understand us and will not judge us if we take a rake. Rather we will laugh together and it will be fun. If I approach alone, who are my audience?

It’s not bad to approach with a group but the ultimate goal is still to reach the “autonomous” phase. So, to reach the point when you’re able to make the move despite stress.

Three rules rules for this purpose:
– Go there just to see (“the game rather than the stake”) to make her smile, maybe it will result in a nice and spontaneous exchange of bodily fluids;
– Do not try to make perfect approaches (who cares ? therefore, it puts too much pressure on you, and then who can judge?);
– Make it simple: one idea per sentence, do not try to be TOO original, pay more attention on your BL than on anything else.

Indeed, there is not really any GOOD opener (nor bad – depending on the context). Take ideas where you want/can and recycle them. Work is already ready for you by the way: I made a collection for this purpose. Try to do not hesitate when you approach, do not show you’re too afraid of the pretty girl (intimidated), and talk to her like if you were talking to a longtime friend (girl). You will have already done the heavy lifting. There’s girls who are afraid of mice, these little beasts. And well, most guys are afraid of girls, the little beasts because they have power over them! We thus understand how it is ridiculous : people have a power on you only if you give them.

You probably know it already: we subcommunicate more than we communicate with our words. So: your posture, the way you move and your tone of voice is more important than the opener you will choose. Try to be relaxed or at least to seem relax. And know that she may criticize your opener, but it would be a “logical” response to an “emotional” feeling: she will try to verbalize her feelings. I have already approached with “hello are you the one who farted?” and “I love you” !!!

Momentum: When we approached many times, we are warm, and then we approach more easily. The most difficult, are the first ones. I call them “warming up”.

Pretty girls have their ass stared at all the time. Sometimes it turns them on, sometimes it repels. In the case of a sex-starved dude who has no female friends and has not touched a woman for several months, she will not like it : so never communicate that you are in mode “sex-starved”. In no way. Even if this is the case. ESPECIALLY if that is the case. An alpha has the choice of women, so he is not hungry. Do you want her to take you seriously or not?

In two words: step your foot into action first, the brain will follow and activate when you’ll open your mouth. These are often last-minute interference that come and block approaches. So introduce yourself in the set, for example, and you will see after what will happen. Why anticipating?

Staying mobile or waiting until they pass in front of you?
– In a club, in a crossing such as the bar or in a corridor, you can approach the girls passing before you. Assembly line. It saves your energy (not moving). It’s like when you’re waiting for your suitcase at the airport.
– You can also approach when you walk through the crowd to go to the toilet or elsewhere. In movement, we are by definition less needy. Then fuck her in the toilet 😉
– On the dancefloor, I rather recommend an approach based on the body language, take her hand or dance with her. Anyway, I’m not really a “dancer”, especially when I’m alone. But dancing with a girl in order to warm her, yeah, why not?

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How not looking like a weird guy?

How not looking like a weird guy

A weird guy, a weirdo in English, is anything but sexy. Well, me personally I’m weird sometimes but I still fuck a lot of chicks. Why ? This is because there are two types of “weirdos”. And it is against the bad type that I want to warn you today. Personally, I am certainly weird you but know my limits: I’m a good guy in fact, even I look very casual “I don’t give a fuck” and I assume that I want to make love to beautiful women.

Synonym of weirdo: worrying.

Just a few seconds of distraction are enough to be labeled “weirdo”… and then it is almost impossible to get back. The bad oddity is what scares a woman even before she spoke to a man. You’re less likely to move away from a woman for the same reasons. Although a really weird girl, would make me run away even if she is hot. Except if it is to get married, is it better a weird hottie or a balanced ugly? Again, arbitration and a compromise must be found.

In evolutionary psychology, we think that evolution has endowed women with a faculty to identify the men who will be a threat for them. To avoid physical, psychological pain and pregnancies to bear the child of an asshole. It is yet this same trend that makes a woman having difficulty saying “no” frankly to a man because she is too afraid he would get angry and hurt her. So they avoid, lie, etc. and it sometimes induces strange behavior in men.

That said, we can be a good guy but being labeled “weird”. Just like, chicks can bang guys who will beat them while for us it is obvious that they are bastards. It is a subjection notion, and it is not because she is a woman she’s always right.

What I mean is that you can be polite, clean, BUT shy and being relatively often thought of a weird guy by chicks. It is not really related. Some are tattooed, have dirty hair and are unshaven but still fuck four chicks per month while others wear suits, always prim and yet inspire women a shiver of distrust, disgust and fear.

Introverts men are the main victims of this negative discrimination. They seem disturbing because they make women feel uncomfortable (especially by being themselves uncomfortable since it is contagious). And it is only in the movies that women give the benefit of doubt. In reality, they rather say things like, “yeah’re surely a great guy, you will find a lot of girlfriends” … but not her, of course, do not dream!

What is weird and what is not, it is still quite objective and we have the right to be a damn weirdo if we want. After all, who makes the rules? If you are weird and fuck enough, after all, who cares ? However, for your information, here’s weird behaviors (non-exhaustive list):
– A fascination with violence, blood, weapons;
– A passion for hurting animals;
– Video games (especially violent);
– Heroic fantasy (except Game of Thrones) and other big geek stuff;
– Waiting fifteen minutes while staring at a chick before daring to approach her with an indirect excuse;
– Being needy, calling her or talking to her all the time on the Facebook chat, especially if she does not answer;
– Behaving like a guy in a couple when you just saw her a few times;
– Not knowing the line between persistence-that-can-pay and sociopathic behavior;
– Asking too many personal questions to the point she will wonder if you’ll sell that information to a hacker;
– An excessive and unhealthy politeness, apologizing all the time, hide too much your intentions;
– Etc.

A guy REALLY becomes alarming:
– When he seems trying to hide shameful thoughts and intentions ;
– When he so insistent that we do not even know if he speaks French and understands the word “no.”

So this is why girls avoid being alone with this kind of characters. They are too afraid of being raped, sequester and cut into pieces. Although, again, this is not necessarily the guys who look the most weird who are in fact.

So rather let’s see how to create a positive atmosphere of trust:
– Having friends of both sexes;
– Making social activities;
– Facing the person to whom we speak;
– Looking enough in the eyes (without thinking we are the snake in The Jungle Book;
– Being honest by assuming our intentions, but not TOO directly;
– Not take yourself seriously nor taking life in general too seriously;
– Having a little humor, second degree;
– Knowing how to smile;
– Learning self-talk (we more trust people who reveal A LITLE BIT about them);
– Asking questions, being interested in the other, but not in an “interview” mode;
– Letting the girls live, respecting their personal space, do not stifle them;
– Never harass a girl;
– Do not wear too badly, have a nice haircut ;
– Talk A LITTLE about your emotions (in a non-violent communication mode);
– Etc.

The woman should be in a climate of relative confidence to feel in a sexual mood. I believe that hard as rock. Like a 10 year old child believes in Santa.

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The overspeed pick-up artist

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It’s hard. It’s hard to get up on Monday morning to go to work. It’s even harder when we fucking a lot and that we went out during the weekend. The alarm may sound and sound, the body of the overspeed PUA is tempted to stay and rest, inert in this cozy bed perfumed with thelove juice of his conquests. “I could make one or two more erotic dream, if I had not this fucking boss who is pitiless waiting for me to exploit me”!

Sometimes I increasingly too much overstep the mark. I am completely empty. The nights end at dawn, different fuckfriends want to enjoy, chicks are waiting for their turn to have a date with me. I also have to take care of my apartment, my dishes, my shopping, do the cooking, sports, etc. But mostly, this fucking job because of which I work more than 45 hours a week paid 39.

Damn if every person who read this line gave me € 1 or could buy one of my ebooks, I could live quietly and go to Australia and write for you awesome field reports after having fucked surfers with my tanned cock!

The boundaries that should not be crossed to don’t end overspeed are fucking until 2am when you work the next day, going out late during the week, sacrificing your hobbies because of work and babes… such as sports. All this stuff is a mistake, is it really worth it after all? Also, do not always postpone your appointment with your family and friends. How your seduction life and your work/social/personal life can be combined? It’s very difficult and I have myself more and more difficult to follow the rhythm.

The best compromise I’ve found is to pick up on the Internet at work. To never date on the outside but to convince them to come to my place early, around 8pm. Then I fuck them until midnight and they return home! So I can sleep. I’m only going on the field at Saturday night (I do not even take public transportation I live next to my workplace) but I confess that fatigue and envy are rarely here when I go out. I’m missing my student life…

Going out can pose financing problems too. Paying for dates, paying for clubs, it’s damn expensive! Subscribing on dating sites is nothing compared to that. I advise you to stay of course in the free places and please do not systematically invite babes in paying dates. Me, I quickly did the math: Adopt it’s €20 per month and I stay warm during the winter. It does not really impinge on my free time, since it is like if I was answering text messages on my cell. And the chicks come to me directly by bringing something to eat or drink. Perfect!

Your state of fatigue inevitably attacks your modjo if you do this mistake : you are more irritable, you will less responsive and will lack of initiative on the field and at work, etc. And it will be obvious! And then your learning curve will be reversed! When you’re too tired, physically or psychologically, it is not a good idea to yell and gesticulate in all the directions to compensate. Take a break and put some order in your life for a fresh start.

The Fengshui will tell you: coming home in a clean, airy and pleasant place will help you to have a better image of yourself! And that makes sense! Also, when you invite a girl at home, it will be reassuring for you to know that she will not accidentally sit on a piece of stale pizza. So start from there!

Also note that only 5% of the population may be in good shape with less than 8 hours of sleep. If you violate this quota, it may expose you to risks of depression and other accidents or health problems more or less serious. It is also clear that by being in better shape, your times out will be more productive and you will more enjoy going out.

To be more successful, I logically recommend you to try to have a balanced life, but not too busy (take care of yourself) … and an interesting one. Continue to learn the art of seduction and fucking, but keep going out to play sports and see your friends who are not in the community of the seduction. Also see again the girls you like!

You can make a beautiful encounter at any moment, so do not overlook anything. The best would be that seduction is part of your life in an integrated way (except at work where it’s delicate anyway) and not compartmentalized.

Be hungry of pretty girls, it’s cool! But know how to recognize when you’re exhausted and you stir the air. Reframe yourself before doubting about yourself. The desire and energy are the main drivers of PUA therefore must be protected.

It is obvious that when I fucked two chicks the day before and the afternoon, I have no envy when I go in a bar after in order to try to pick up. Do you see what I mean?

Making 20FC per month is not a sign of good mental health. Like in everything, some moderation is necessary!

It’s not a contest, stop wondering who has the biggest dick (it’s your black friend).

See you later alligator !

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The trap of the comfort phase

The trap of the comfort phaseAt one point or another in your pick-up, you have to create comfort (or rapport) with your target. This is a must!

You’ll thus have to unveil a bit, to let her see some reassuring elements about you to no longer be a reckless unknown in her eyes. You will also have to show you’re interested in her, in her in life, to show that you are not a clown nor a narcissist.

The goal is not to make a phase of attraction where you’re being a mysterious badboy that makes her wet then switch in “comfort” mode to become as boring as a soap opera on FR3. No! It is better, of course, to establish proximity with your target without becoming boring.

Staying in the factual, the level zero of the game.

The questioning is the worst approach “What are you doing in life? Where do you come from? Do you come here often? What kind of music do you like? Do you enjoy double penetration?” Between tasteless and dangerous intrusive guy, her heart would swing! Be interested in her emotions rather than facts. For example, “What song would be the soundtrack of your life today?”

There’s subjects I advise against (but then everyone does as he pleases and then in the particular context as in a political rally it’s special): politics, money, religion, all this stuff . It can quickly get out of hand and that doesn’t help sexualization nor to be playful!

This is exciting stuff but you do not want to expound on a topic… you want to go forwar in an interaction with a girl you like! You must choose your priorities in life! Also avoid talking about what can make you look like a dangerous guy: it makes sense, instead, to create a climate of confidence. She already has enough reasons to be wary of you! Dirty womanizer! 😉 No, just kidding, but rather talk about things that make you a human being: your dreams, your ambitions, your desires, your tastes, your fantasies, your memories, your job, etc.

Tell anecdotes, humorous stuff. But do not tell your stories as you would make a statement at the police station! Give rhythm, have flashbacks, etc. Avoid a maximum to be boring… but do not be too weird either. Some classical and some originality!

I find it vulgar to brag. And way too common among men! Remember what they say “a rich doesn’t need to say he is rich.”

Avoid speaking in a monotone tone, do not go flat out. Take the time when you talk, you will sub-communicate that you’re not afraid she leaves before you have finished your sentence. So it’s cool …

Assume to make eye contact when you speak!

Do not get lost in the details, in the factual, emphasize emotions. Talk about your mindset when you lived the anecdote. Make her visualize the story!

Avoid lambda adjectives. Replace them with original synonyms, metaphors, funny images or surprising comparisons. The stories could be about what you saw that night, crazy people you have met, or cool people. About the actual situations, about people around, etc. Your passions like : I love writing, but why?

Exercise 1: 5 identify themes that define you. Try to say why.

Exercise 2: Write in the comments, or in Word, a story telling of an event that marked you and let us live the scene. What about? What marked you. Life is a movie in fast forward but sometimes we make pause times, or we often want to see again some things in thoughts. That is your reserve ofinspiration, lively and precise.

When you tell something to a girl, it’s better if she does active listening: her imagination is running at full speed! She lives the story with you! She wants to know what happened! She is requesting … that’s the goal.

You can ask questions to get her involved, like “you know what you felt when you put the float in the pool while your friends doesn’t?
– Ah hahaha yesssss
– Well here, I felt like that. So, I no longer want to go swimming. ”

It’s better of course if the storytelling allows her to identify with the situation. Warning: we do not practice narcissism but the conversation must instead be a moment of sharing. One can, with care, give her a different light on her own stories…

Bouncing on a story about what she says, finally, allows to find good conversation starter!

Your turn to play !

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Self-esteem

What is this fucking self-esteem we’re talking about all the time? What is it and on what does it feed?

For Reasoner W.-R: “Self-esteem is the consciousness of the personal value that can be recognized in different areas.”

In other words, is to appreciate your true value. And I stress the word TRUE. Not below as tend to do some of my readers. As to choose, perhaps a little bit superior to reality: it’s good for your mood.

Self-esteem mainly feeds on :
– Your material success (what you undertake)
– Your social success (recognition, feeling appreciated by others)

Obviously your level of self-confidence is related to your self-esteem. The above-mentioned elements reinforce the positive beliefs about yourself: they remind and reinforce it inside you.

All this makes sense … However, and this is a big however (like HOWEVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEER) : It is dangerous make your stability depend on external elements.

“Our salvation and loss are in ourselves.” (Epictetus)
“Let’s seek our goods in ourselves, otherwise we will not find them.” (Epictetus)

It is therefore necessary to make a short introspective work to find your freedom and well-being. Try to understand how you operate, your qualities, flaws, strengths, weaknesses, identify your fears in order to overcome them, etc.

The goal is that your confidence will do no more coming-and-going between the moments when you fuck a girl and when a drunk bitch put a rake and makes fun of you.

This introspective work will allow you to be more authentic with yourself and with others, especially women. Basically, you will see more clearly in your life.

Recess strategies and comparisons with other guys will no longer be needed. Most of your limiting beliefs will disappear. You will feel better about yourself…

According to you, what is your real level? Surely higher than what you imagine right now: you can bang more beautiful women! You can make threesomes too! You will no longer need to want to prove anything to anyone. Your interactions become more genuine. And that shit-test “do you say that to all the girls? / does it usually work with the girls that? “will no longer be needed. Maybe it will even make you smile.

The phase of “comfort” in the Mystery Method is neither more nor less than a phase of authenticity. It is therefore essential to please and seduce. At least, if you want to establish real relationships with women, relationships that can lead to healthy and fulfilling relationships. Why not preferring honesty and exchange to small grooming games?

The purpose of embarking on this little work:
– Developing your confidence with a solid foundation, which will be key to your success with women and in other areas;
– Enjoying your success because you have won, I mean the real you, and do not depend on success to feel good.

Why not living better with yourself and with the women who are part of your life? Everyone will be better off. What so tragic have you to hide, really?

 

Examples:

Some struggle against anxiety to approach a woman. If they took a step back on it, they would realize how ridiculous it is. They would say “I’m going for it, I’m not a weak boy!”

Some have been abused by an ex who took them for idiots. They then multiply the fuck-friends because they do not want to give women the control again. They are obsessed by jealousy when they see frequently a woman too. These behaviors disappoint themselves. By identifying them, they will better master them.

Some lie to their partners by having multiple “serious” relationships simultaneously. They therefore also have a lack of conviction and do not assume what they really want. It might be time to take stock of their life, it must be stressful to lie to everyone like that with the fear of being uncloaked.

Some base their pseudo-confidence of the day in alcohol or in a coach but the next day they become introverted again. They ruin their liver… when others go down to the basement bar with a strange and penetrating modjo, dark and terribly sensual. A sexual aura around them accompanies them when they approach women. If they had a history of timid, it is now a distant memory.

To be continued…

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How to become a chicks selector ?

How to become a chicks selector ?
NatiSythen — Travail personnel

“Would Leonardo Di Caprio chase a girl in the street to pick her up?”

The way the question is formulated is revealing: why comparing our situation to the situation of a movie star? Why thinking like a preselected selector ? Why, if we are in this case, making the effort to chace a girl?

What is a selector?

I’m taking about a confident guy who has the luxury of the choice in his love life. His sex life is rich, varied and fulfilling because women he likes like him in return. Women are seeking for his company in their life and in their bed.

How did he become a selector?

Perhaps thanks to his profession involving intense media coverage and a cult of personality like Di Caprio. In this case, many women would love to sleep with him even without having ever met up before. They want to know vicariously the thrill of a big bank account and celebrity. It’s not about feeling love.

Or he is a waiter in a famous club. These guys are not even necessarily handsome. But women may want to sleep with them to prove that they are beautiful (they chose them while they had a choice) rather than because he is really attractive. That said, by dint of being successful, these guys necessarily develop an alpha behavior that makes them a little sexy. But their success is often due to their work or art, so if they were deprived of it one day, I do not know if they would fuck a lot. Probably not, without this network…

For the others, I mean those who do not get wet underwear in their letter-box in the morning, we meet the women in our lives through our friends, during our trips or at work. Or on the Internet.

The important thing is to seize and create meeting opportunities. We must be active. Thus, this way we have the choice and the control. Moreover, picking up many girls, it eliminates the factor “personal taste” and we make out necessarily. This is one of the marketing concepts. We never sell to everyone, but the point is just to sell enough to be satisfied.

If you want to be the king of oil, I will not lie to your : it is necessary to provide the means. If you stay at home hoping that a pretty brunette with blue eyes will come in by your window and join you in your bed waking up with a magic pipe: it is not beforehand won! Do it as your want but initiate conversations with friendly people, especially pretty girls and make them want to see you again!

You will become selector as well as you improve your social and sexual abilities, you will one day or another be unable to find time for all the people who want to see you. You will then better choose the quality women for quality relationships. Your criteria will be according to your tastes: physical, intellectual, kindness, culture of the chick etc …

If you decide to remain single (or in an open relationship) to don’t lose your game, you will spend warm nights with beautiful girls BUT sexy women in the street still arouse your interest. Or in a bar with your fuckfriends: you will be preselected. With a huge modjo, it will be easier for you than for another to approach these girls before they disappear forever in a metro station. Hoping that the girl have more conversation than a handlebar.

Who are the bad selectors?

Those who are afraid of being thought of as “womanizers” (limiting beliefs) and deny their desire to approach beautiful women (avoidance strategy avoiding them to confront their fears).

Oh yes it is so important to don’t make a bed impression on girls that they do not know and will probably never see again : they want to give the impression of a guy who is not dog. But they are even more in heat now!

They thank heaven that no one had seen them taking a rake (nobody cares but well). Then they feel sad as they realize that every time they want to approach they invent crappy excuses. Because of stress, of course.

They reassure themselves by saying that the shortlisted men do not chase women. THEY ARE THE PRICE! They are therefore right to adopt strategies of denial and withdrawal. Not going for it! It is a bit shit and a full box of condoms reminds them every evening they have fucked only once this month. Take the critical distance of all that to overcome your bad habits (if you still have some : I’m talking about inventing shitty excuses).

What I find tasty it’s when politically corrects AFC believe harm me by saying that I sleep with lots of chicks while they actually make me a huge publicity. It’s a big problem to don’t understand women like that!

 

Confront your fears to reality

There’s really no contradiction between having women in your life and picking up chicks. Chicks often test me “why did you need to pick up if you’re really such a good lover? “Shut up, bitch. I love it, that’s it!

So, would Leo go out in a club with his wingmen to pick up chicks? I’ll ask him when I see him.

Approach chicks: If you always expect them to do the first step, the woman of your life may never be on your side. Give yourself the opportunity to have a choice between interested women!

One should always congratulate a guy who had the balls to approach correctly (I’m not talking about riffraff). He dared to confront his fears to reality.

 

Fake it up to you make it?

If you’ve got no chick and want to play the preselected alpha who don’t give a shit : you put the cart before the horse except they walk backwards.

Change your behavior by being more alpha but do not make your game rest on this device.
There’s super handsome guys and alpha who do not fuck much. They don’t create the opportunities. Between work, sleep, metro, sports, movies on their computer, etc. There’s also those that could be hot, like Ian Somerhalder, but do not have the appropriate coaches that push in their ass. They have the gene but we can see nothing. There’s a lot of guys like that with great potential who are doubled by opportunists like me. Not that it bothers me but I want to help! So: MOTIVATION! Work on your personal development to be more alpha and be active: go out, go for it!

 

If you start from scratch …?

Try to know yourself, to understand yourself. Change what needs to be changed to adopt ways of thinking and behavior that will make you live positive experiences.

Do not compare yourself to others. Envy is useless. Change your perspective on jealousy, don’t be jealous of your friends, you’ll love yourself. Personal development will help you fill your shortcomings, correct your flaws, and enhance your skills to become THE BEST YOURSELF POSSIBLE EVER. You will feel good and you’ll open to others. From there: alea jacta est.

Take pleasure in your life activities and share it with the people you meet.

Be interested sometimes in some chicks for anything other than their pussy or for the validation of your game. You will understand things that will make you more natural next time you will pick up.

Stay away from miracle cures and ready-made replicas create for magically fucking chicks. You need first a certain capacity for socialization and a proper look. Then we will talk of spontaneity and self-confidence!

You must reveal your personality! Consolidate it! Making out on dancefloor will not give you the keys of the female psychology nor of happiness. The day you’d be in a couple, you would pay dearly to have faked everything.

 

My conclusion : The economy of a personal development work is not desirable!

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Conversation-short ?

Conversation-short I have now here in Lyon several Padawans whose biggest problem is the fear of being conversation-short after two or three minutes of conversation.

Their problem is not even to really be short of it, but they always feel like they will not know what to say after the opener. Nor how to get her attention.

Their interactions that sometimes start at the speed of Usain Bolt often wind like an asthmatic in the Olympic games.

And you ? Have you ever felt frustration when an interaction ends because you do not know what to say? Do you find it embarrassing ?

Below, my advice to fix it. And no I do not limit myself to “if there’s a silence try to kiss her.” Lol.

1 / The Tortoise and the Hare

Most guys take as much pleasure to approach a girl as when they arrive late in the morning to work and are lectured in the office of their boss : they are eager to have done with that disturbing moment.

A natural reaction so : they vomit an opener learned by heart with a rate that could trigger an epilepsy crisis.

Although at first she answers with a smile, if they continue like that they’ll quickly be out of fuel. So: rather let the words come to you rather than talking at the speed of a Kalashnikov, which actually emphasizes your nervousness… certainly normal but communicative.

For example : The singers in the concert talk to the crowd as follows: SLOWLY!

When you kick a girl out of her occupations or her reveries, be intelligible, and do not talk too fast. Being comfortable is contagious too. Your bullets will so do a bigger impact.

2 / Make short

In reality, when we remember our past, we have no sense of time. Your last vacation at the beach might as well have lasted one, two or three weeks : you would absolutely keep the same impression about it.

You will have more benefits and be less likely to be eliminated by making things short and simple. By going straight to the point. Of course : if that is congruent with your body language.

3 / Keep it simple

I always liked simplicity. It has many advantages. In particular: you’re less likely to look like a weird guy like that (a weirdo). But also less likely to make a misstep.

A study conducted by researchers from the Harvard Business School shows that we tend to look for dissimilarities among our interlocutors after only a few minutes of interaction. And since we like what we are, it’s better to do not leave her much time to count our “dissimilarities”. Also, the brains of most people have a certain bad habit to remember more the negative than the positive.

 

Women too

Sometimes I approached the girls and I left a silence. Often, those who are interested try to fill it and there you see all the faults of the AFC. Women are often shy and not used to make efforts. So even if it’s an IOI and we appreciate the effort, it is sometimes a little ridiculous when they do that.

Sometimes they criticize our stuff (to do not have sex with us) but they would do worst if they had to pick up men. What an injustice!

Sometimes after they feel too stupid and send a text message with a little better quality (a little more daring). AFC !!!

 

Damn, it’s almost snowing outside here, windy dehorners a cuckold and the night now falls before the time of going out of work. So you better get right to it than staying in the cold chatting in the street.

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Facebook vs Phone

There are plenty of players who refuse to use Facebook. Or to upload their picture on it. For me, Facebook is yet a good source of fuck-closes. And not being on this market, makes these guys more marginal than anything else. Warning : of course, use Facebook to your advantage, because there are many pitfalls! But the game is worth the candle. This is only my opinion. Anything that can make you get in touch with chicks is good for your game.

Why should you use Facebook?

– To remember the girls that we took contact. By typing their phone number into the search bar, you can easily find their profile (a lot have given their number to FB). You can take directly their FB too, which is less intrusive than phone number (they so give it more easily) but it’s the same in practice as they receive notifications on their mobile. For alcoholics, it can be used to realize that they actually have kissed a yucky chick last night in a bar and do not recall her.

– No need to take more than one contact to find and close the whole group to whom we spoke. Then you can make a batch invitation in an event, something like “big orgy for Fab’s birthday.” Convenient ! It’s also a good way to be easily invited at private parties!

– It allows to stay in touch with chicks who live far away from you. It prevents their numbers rot at the bottom of your phone, exceeding the expiration date because the calls abroad are expensive! In addition, they can meanwhile fantasize about your life and your photos! Then one day, if they come back in your town, maybe they will send you a message!

– It helps for making a large-scale social proof. I do not suggest you to take your picture surrounded by bottles of alcohol at 100€ the bottle at the back of a nightclub as some do. But rather to let ostensibly visible messages of girls on your wall, post holidays pictures that can make them wet, which will of course be commented by a lot of people!

– It allows you to fill information: I do not suggest you become a cyber stalker! But knowing who your friends in common with your target or when she goes “single” on FB is always useful information that help you to better calibrate!

How to use Facebook?

– Use it as a tool to create an identity. What you want to communicate with chicks! Be your own community manager! As explained in my ebook about online pickup, the goal is to work on the marketing of yourself!

– Be active! Post simple and fun stuff (it avoids going creepy). If it goes up in smoke delete it or leave it sink into the history of your page (in I don’t care mode and I assume I don’t give a shit about your tight-ass opinion).

– Do not deprive yourself of posting images and videos. Or songs! Interact with people, even if it is not about you or something you’ve done, it can start conversations!

– Be active on the pages of others and they will be more likely to be active on your page!

– Keep your contacts: just like in an IRL interaction when you expect to be rejected, you do not eject yourself alone on FB. Here, do not delete your contacts (except the spammers and other fake profiles) but keep them under wraps. We never know. It happened to me that chicks talk to me more than a year after I added them. And I ended up making out with … I would have been a little stupid anyway to delete them! You can intelligently sort your contacts with the “lists” (Security Settings / more personalized visibility).

How to avoid that Facebook turns against you?

– Do not complain about your boss, your income, your taxes, your other personal concerns… Also avoid racist, misogynist, messages causing damage to human or animal dignity or promotion of illegal stuff … Your potential employers can fall over at any moment and even then it’s not very good for your image.

– Life is no shortage of reasons to depress us. Anyway, try to stay positive and fun on FB. Otherwise you might scare everyone (except depressed and depressing people). Also avoid messages that the only point is to draw attention to your spleen, like “how awful what just happened to me” and when people are worried about you answering “come on private message my best friend I do not want to tell everybody about it”. Why not talk to her in private directly to your BFF? Personally, I want to distribute slaps to such people.

– Avoid sham. Avoid clichés pictures with strangers. It’s a bit ridiculous and it only highlights the fact that you complex and need to prove that you can make out with girls… we all know that ¾ of the time you don’t make out with these girls, btw.

– Do not become a fan of cyber-babes. Do not like all their photos, not commenting with “waw beauty! “You are not a AFC, fuck! Your likes must have a value. Your comments even more.

– The chat is a good pickup tool but do not do shit with it. I mean that if you talk two minutes to chicks in a party and take their FB then once comfortably at your place you start your game. It’s a bit counterproductive! You will not fuck by interposed computer! Also avoid sending the same message to two friends … otherwise they could make fun of you, like both answering the same things or falsely warming you.

– It’s better to ask the FB of chicks instead of adding people who you did not dare to speak in the party. I mean, you still have to show that you have balls if you have not dared to approach this party for sure it’s easier on FB but that does not necessarily communicate good things about you! In case it is a girl with whom nothing links you (like a dummy profile found by chance in a group on FB), you have nothing to lose by trying … but the odds are low!

– Couples: Avoid sugary crap messages to your girlfriend. And avoid photos that spread your love to light (especially if she do not do the same). It sucks, and then you would be thought of a jealous pussy! Do not become paranoid by interpreting all the news on her wall as a threat to your relationship!

– Please, do not pollute the FB pages of your contacts by posting crap, inviting them to shitty games, by tagging them on stupid publications … etc. Even if you are a hottie, I could refuse to fuck you for that.

– Do not make FB become a full time job. It can quickly become addictive and time consuming! This must remain a communication tool.

– FB is less intrusive than phone calls (just like text messages). Though now there’s calls on FB that personally piss me off! In short, I find it’s better to manage your response time than being pressurized and sounded like Nestor by Captain Haddock when he wants his whiskey! Personally, it’s just the people lost to come to my place or who have something to tell me urgently who phone to me… everything else is organized by FB or texts.

Text messages type or prepared message on FB can help to warm chicks and set dates. Being a supporter of the least effort does not make you a man without balls as some claim on seduction forums (the anachronistic weirdos)! The calls, me and it pisses me off and in addition it is often bad news! So I sympathize with chicks and send them an texts or a message on FB. And I remain alpha because I’m not doing this out by cowardice but because I prefer.

Last warning : take good care of your spelling, if you prefer this option, you too! Unless you like picking up illiterate bitches.

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My opinion on Mathieu Valbuena’s sextape

I don’t like gossips but I will make an exception.

I just attended to a preview of the dissemination of the sextape of Mathieu Valbuena in Pathé Plan de Campagne with the entire team of the movie. I brought my little camcorder so I filmed everything in the room (sorry for the quality). In exclusively, I suggest you to download the sextape of Mathieu Valbuena………………….. I’m just kidding.

Seriously, I’ll tell you briefly what I think of this case.

I think that’s going a bit too far to be just a promo shot. Benzema will surely be fired from the soccer team of France. And I don’t see what interest he would have to do that: his international reputation will take a hit. He can no longer aspire to the same salary expectations. In the worst case, he will even go to jail.

Seriously, tell me why this guy needed to participate in the blackmail of Mathieu Valbuena? He does not make enough money already like that or what? That’s the image he wants to give to all young people who take him as a model?

Personal grudge against Valbuena? Jealousy crap? Pure bullshit? What to create another Zahia affair? Mathieu has banged Benzema’s girl ? Or the contrary ?

When I lived in Aix, one of my girlfriends made out with Mathieu Valbuena. Well, she slept with him. She was a waitress in a bar/club at 20-minutes from the city center by walking (for those who see what I’m describing). He had decided to use his fame and money to bang this chick.

Anyway, she told me that he was not very good in bed. Well then, it is of course subjective, and then it goes back to a few years but … Nevertheless this is what she had told me.

After sex, she showed me the SMS he sent to her … and I must say that he was quite needy. It was almost ridiculous. He, a footballer of the team of Marseille, famous yet at the time and rather fit had problems to bang a waitress? It’s hard. These guys must have all bitches at their feet.

With that said, she did not say anything about the size of his penis. She was respectful. I forgot to ask her if they did weird things in the bed.

So now, can we say that Valbuena freaks like that because he is scared that all France realizes that he is not good in bed while watching his sextape? It’s just a theory, but the question is worth asking.

Seriously, me if I had a sextape, I’d be proud of it. It would make me some free publicity. We would see how much I’m not bad and even more chicks would contact me via my blog to orgasm with me.

Besides, she was filmed how and by whom, this sextape? And how did she get into the hands of Benzema’s friends?

Anyway, don’t worry too much, Mathieu. It’s been years since I want to see the sextape of Leighton Meester (Blair Waldorf) and I have not found it yet. So well…

No, seriously, just a review to finish. If the choice is between Benzema and Valbuena for the French soccer team, I prefer Valbuena. More regular. I hope this story will end well. But I hope I will understand one day why did he leave Russia so fast ? An orgy that turned badly ?

But in any case, such a grudge in the France team would be too harmful. The balance of a team is more due to the atmosphere than to individual talents. So if we really come to this extreme, we will have to do without Benzema. That’s what I think, anyway.

Oh well. And maybe we will get even better.

The good point for him, it will leave him free time to bang Rihanna. I’m sure she makes him hard since she wrote him a tweet.

Look, I’m also sure that I’m a better lover than him. Sextapes contest when you want, guys! Rihanna to decide between us.