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How to guess if she has a hairy pussy?

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How to guess if she has a hairy pussyI was talking with a friend the other day: we were looking for a girl for a threesome, so I showed her my conquests so she chooses one. She guessed almost every time which ones were shaved/shaven and which ones had hair between their legs. I was impressed! She explained her technique. I will teach it to you in my turn.

It’s a bit of a trick mentalism. In fact, it is based on the fact that she is a girl… and therefore she understands the other chicks.

It is based on the makeup of the girl. If she wears very few makeup, botched or old-fashion, she must have the tuft. If, however, she is very feminine, dolled, well made up, (scented,) then chances are she has a hairless pubis.

Basically, there are 6 possible configurations:
– Either she has the tuft, so hairs that even protrude from her swimsuit.
– Either she tamed the tuft, so she it is not visible in her underwear.
– Either she has a metro ticket more or less thick : this is the part that hurts the most to pull off.
– Either she is completely shaved.
– Either she is completely waxed, which removes entierely the hair opposed to shaving.
– Either she is shaved or waxed but it has grown back. I call it the carpet.
There even are girls who don’t want to have sex if they are not perfectly waxed, in this case it’s too bad, because we prefer a woman who has sex than a women perfectly waxed but who’s a pain in the ass. Just my opinion, btw.

When I talked about it to my mother, she told me that it was a shame to not have hair, that only sluts and other porn actresses have no hair… like a little girl. In her time, maybe, this might be the case. But the truth is that for aesthetic reasons, the coquettish Greek and Roman women already waxed. In Aristophanes’ comedy Thesmophoriazusae, played in Athens in 411 BC, a group of women proposed to remove the intimate hair of a guy disguised as a girl to teach him how to become a true Greek woman. “No waxing, no hair removal!” he cried once. It must be said that at the time they practiced it with burning ashes…

Today, most chicks below 25 years are shaved or depilated with wax (8000 hair on average that’s too much for the tweezers). Maybe not those who have not yet begun their sexual lives but others generally are. Nearing thirty, I’ve seen more girls with the metro ticket on their pussies. Is it already composted? This is the question.

As notorious fucker, as a libertine who is not fucking libertine chicks, I must say that I took a liking to any all clean, hairless pussy. Sometimes it’s funny: she has got no hair on her pussy, but has on her ass. Well, sweetie are you kidding me ?! In this case, the best idea is definitely fuck from the front! 😉

The hairs on the body just like the pubis serve to limit areas of friction. Pubic hair is useful especially during sex because they create an interface between the skin and promote a shift to a different skin.

A study showed higher scores of sexual satisfaction for fans of completely naked pubis, without the possibility of saying if the women who feel the more comfortable with their bodies and their private parts revealed are the ones who likes showing them or if the pubic deprivation promotes sexual fulfillment.

Social pressure and fashion phenomena also influence the girls about their intimate hygiene (although some hairs, it’s not dirty).

The full shaving is more common than full hair waxing. Certainly for practical or pain reasons.

For men, shaving or clipping the hair makes the penis look bigger. In any case, it’s better to avoid the Amazon forest at this place if you like blowjobs.

PS : To go further, do not hesitate to read my ebook “The awesome lover’s manual“.

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Problems with the TOO direct game

The good side of the direct game

I like using sexualization early in the interaction. I find it really fun and honest. And, strangely, that reassure some because it confirms them that they are about to be picked up. By a guy who assumes in addition, characteristic quite rare.

Indeed, people whose intentions are not clear often inspire fear. And there are a lot of guys who do not assume they try to pick up : they want to be regarded as “good guys” or I do not know what… in order to fuck the girl. I’m sorry but you can fuck chicks, enjoy it, and yet being a good guy.

Other interesting features of the direct game is, in my opinion, its powerful and surprising aspects … sometimes destabilizing. It can hit the mark and differentiate us from the masses! Thus, when we approach, for a greater impact we do not often say hello and directly go straight to the opener.

It can excite the chicks, but sometimes precisely: the fact to remove this ambiguity can cool those who do not assume they want to orgasm. So they apprehend (being naked in front of you, not being up to you the bed, feeling dirty after, what do I know …)

That’s why it works especially on adventurous girls, those who have strength of will, those that are not really lobotomized, those who are hot (no complex), those with experience in the bed or who assume the fact of not having experience and want to learn from you.

The direct game removes a lot of headaches from the game. I do not know many guys who practiced with me and who made a step back after. It’s quite liberating, it pays, and it allows to have fun. In addition, it highlights the weaknesses of some women, so we can laugh when we understand that if she did not sleep with us it is not necessarily that we have done something wrong or are not handsome enough for her. It is very comfortable to fuck hotties, most of the time without headache, sometimes even without leaving home …

 

The dangerous side of the direct game

The direct game, it has the reputation of being somewhat the “old-school” pickup. The one with the big balls. However, when we like it, we (me included) sometimes skip steps yet crucial to a clean game. And we eat a lot of rakes and flakes.

Let’s make no mistake: there are plenty of chicks that this particularly virile pushy pickup, turn on. But they are so conditioned that it intimidates them, and some would feel “dirty” “give up so easily,” even if they want it in fact. Where from an internal conflict, and some will even be mad at you for not having stayed in your soft dick role.

Basically, this kind of approach or man, it’s been the dream in movies but in reality they are not going to try their luck. Some will say that they do not assume their sexuality. Further they are well conditioned to a boring life. The gossips say they are frustrated and pain in the ass. I do not think we are here to judge, too bad for them, after all. Me, the only things that annoy me is when they warm us, but after get cold feet and then blame it on us like, “you’re not enough this or that / finally I have no more desire.” This way, they streamline their own cowardice (me, I always do what I say and say what I do I call it respect). They are afraid of leaving their comfort zone (where the magic happens), but will not admit it (they are maybe not even conscious of this). This is normal, it would call into question their belief system. Go on and tell a jihadist it is impossible that there are70 virgins waiting for him after his death, or that if it’s a woman or a guy who kill you it’s the same thing : you’ll see his reaction. Sometimes, by texts, they will use shitty excuses just one hour before the date like “finally I cannot come over I’ll go get vaccinated.” The most hypocritical even say stuff they do not measure the scope “I’m not a girl like that me but in the party you will find easily”: it’s like “look, all the girls are sluts but not me “. What a ridiculous vilification … “Me I can resist my urges, but it’s hard, so I’m sure others cannot do so !!! I am sooo proud!” When in fact, these are all the chicks in the mold who use crap like that and I can tell you that those who think for themselves have a different speech. It does not take me long to recognize them!

Beautiful women use more sexual avoidance strategies than men because they need to make less effort to get fucking opportunities.

Sorry but all the chicks are not worth investing time and energy in them (much less money or sperm). When they start bullshiting me, I see them as chicks that have failed the test. It is true, I admit, I am not very tolerant, I ask them a lot and make fewer concessions but … we both lose. Her orgasms, and me a hot girl. All that complemented by a memorable adventure that will be remembered (because of the adrenaline that is precisely what prevents many from taking action – it pisses me off because of my anxiety attacks I had to learn how to manage imaginary fears so much that now I laugh when I see what stresses some girls and I really wonder how they would have done if they had gone through what I went through).

Anyway, back to the point: if we really want to increase our chances, it is advisable to put an intro before the pushy direct game. When I say an intro, I speak of a rapid exchange or a story-telling including DHV.

The temerity of the direct game too often dessert even if it allows banging hot babes, without many complications. But you have to be strong in your head because sometimes the flames back hurts a lot. Some bitches want to put you back in place, we do not know why, it looks like it is their mission on Earth to spoil the joy of others. Some you’ll fuck them, but only once, they will be too good for you, and you’ll think of them your whole life being jealous of the guy who married them (OI).

There’s chicks who believe we use very direct game because we are afraid of a conversation… or we cannot handle a conversation! That we are so anxious, we prefer jumping into the water, closing our eyes. It is true that it is logical if we see evil everywhere. However, for me, it is rather a test, the proof: a girl who laughs to my cocky-funny opener, I would be happy to have a conversation with her after. More willingly than a frustrated bitch who rebelled because you have not offered her a drink. I prefer to break the ice like that, I cannot help it…

Sometimes I abuse. I’m not focused. For example: “Hi, would you like to kiss me?” Here, I zap a little the comfort phase by practicing like that. I play double or quits. The opener is also VERY generic. Chicks (like us) like feeling a bit special. Some do not take us seriously, think that we are making fun of them. It does not mean that it doesn’t work sometimes… but it’s nice to add a little calibration. With that said, this kind of approach is very funny when we see the face of the girls when they hear this: they often do not believe their ears. Moreover, it helps to desensitize, because when we approached like that, we can do soft approaches more easily after! Ashamed of anything now, we are free… you can do it in a huge scale : and playing on the number, it pays. It is statistically better to make 20 generic cold approaches than two highly targeted approaches. Especially, if it is to learn after 2 hours of conversation that the girl is sleeping with her friend or has a boyfriend to whom she will remain faithful… well thank you but no thank you! You can have more targets with this kind of game !

By making pushy direct game, be ready to sometimes suffer from strong returns. So a beginner who is still seeking his self-confidence may be destroyed with this little game. They can be very arrogant and hurtful ESPECIALLY if they are people around (cf. social pressure, feels uncomfortable because believe you just call whore since that is her biggest fears seen how she is sexy dressed, is in trouble because torn between temptation and education). I know that this logic is quite disconcerting because besides that they will say that a confident guy who knows what he wants excites them. Finding a balance is delicate. But do not forget the saying “a good fisherman must learn how to think like a fish.”

 

My conclusion

An alpha guy who has the choice of women likes to know in what he sailed before spending two hours with a green plant. Where from the point of the test before taking her seriously and investing in her. Well, in my opinion. Be ready to date any girl is a kind of DLV. It’s a good thing that she proves her value before. That she makes efforts. It shows that she is a bit more clever than average. But the cute girls are not really used to it, usually 15 guys flock to them as soon as they walk into a bar. Inevitably, it distort men/women relationships and makes them lose touch with reality. And since you do not do like others, he average stupid girl is going to think you’re the idiot.

Finally, note that sometimes there’s times when the most daring game will work and times when whatever you do it’s not working. I guess that there are cycles then I do not know where it comes from if it’s the moon, the seasons, or our state of mind … Well, I have often noticed that phenomenon. There are times when all my buddies FuckClose and others when we all feel bad because luck does not smile us. In this case, my advice is to apply a basic game to return to success and so making a fresh start.

I like putting my foot in it!

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How to positively handle the AMOG

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The AMOG, what is it?

This term refers to “alpha male other guy”. So, he is by definition an alpha male. If you consider all the guys on Earth as credible AMOG, you will bit your nails all your life!

Well, sometimes it is really a serious contender for the pickup. But you’re far less likely to meet one than to fall on an AFC. Keep that in mind before ejecting yourself whenever a guy tries to hit on your target! (This is for shy guys).

Most of the time, I let him crash, I observe him even encourages him, then I resume to where I was and I’m thought of as a fairplay guy by the girl. I even often seize this opportunity to tease the girl “well then, you didn’t like him?”

 

Amog or friend? Cooperation or confrontation?

In the case of a true AMOG, there’s a number of possible configurations. Basically, is he hateful or not ? If he is hateful to you, he’s likely to lost points in the eyes of his/your target. You just have to push him to fault! Only biatches like hate and violent rude assholes.

On the other hand, if the guys is friendly AND alpha: why not make an ally to pickup chicks? I’m serious. Being two alphas together, your value increases. You will be chicks magnets!

Imagine you’re hitting on a girl at a bar then a guy shows up, he knows her, and kisses her on the cheek. Why sulking and immediately constructing a strategy to get rid of the intruder? It just would communicate some insecurity…

Why not shaking his hand warmly instead? If he’s a cool guy, you’re maybe going to make a friend. Then maybe fucking your target + her girlfriend in a foursome with this guy !!! It’s maybe a little like swearing in a church but it’s to make you understand that it can be a win-win scenario! Warning: I’m not saying that this is possible every time, far from it.

Maybe, he’s a guy of the community who has a great social network and who’s looking for a wingman. Why not starting the conversation on women, pickup, parties, etc. You will perhaps mutually boost your modjos !!!

In addition, by being focused on the guy, you will make the girls think. I remember once in party of I showed disinterest to an American and so she started to shake her ass in front of me to get my attention back. It was pretty fun when you think about it. I had kissed her but the fact is that after I had kissed another girl on her bed and she was a little angry. Well, this is another story.

My conclusion: making friends with guys can bring you more chicks than crossing swords with all the dudes just to try to get a particular girl. I’m here talking about a rational approach rather than an emotional one (the instinct of the not educated and sex-starved man is rather often to “defend his territory” even if he has not yet planted seeds in the fertile soil).

My motto: I love women and some pay me off well.

 

The disturbing AMOG

There are basically three types of AMOG who can piss you off well:
– The drunk idiot;
– The cocky player;
– The sociable handsome and funny guy.

My advice :
– Stay close to the girl, implying that you are close, it will dissuade more than one;
– Kino : it creates attraction and the comfort;
– Push him but not aggressively rather like an alpha eg a little tap on the shoulder;
– If he starts to speak directly to the girl ignoring you, you can answer like “you have beautiful eyes you know (to the girl)
– Thank you (you answer). ”
– Isolate the target “it was a pleasure talking to you see you soon bro” and take her by the hand. Otherwise the conversation may become boring, the girl be pissed off and leave both of you together.
– It’s a bit naughty to use your body language, turning back and placing yourself between him and the girl, but hey, sometimes you have to.
– If he does as if you did not exist “honestly guy I respect you for having the balls to approach her but she is with me so … good night!“A little bit rude, but hey if he is… works rather he is weird or if the girl is attracted to you.

Do not fight for a girl, seriously. Fight only if he does something stupid against you or her.

If the guy who AMOG is a friend of you (jealous type) or a (bad) wingman, here is the best solution: dominate the conversation and extract the target at the right time. According to the rules of the wingman : normally the one who open is the one who has priority to try his luck. After if the girl doesn’t like him, the other can go… In any case, never attempt to discredit or whatever one of your wingmen. Ethics, damn it!

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Better understanding our emotions

Better understanding our emotions“A real man doesn’t cry.” Have you ever heard this phrase? What do you think about it?

Some say a too sensitive man is not really a man. It is a cliché to say this, but this image dies hard. Take the example of our dear friend James Bond: some think that a real man must do like him and not feeling (or showing) emotions.

This is wrong, of course. Emotions have an important role in the lives of women and men. Trying to turn off your feelings would generate many problems. Although the idea seems attractive, it is not necessarily a good one. And crying, except cleaning the eyes, it is also useful to set yourself free from negative emotions buried in you : some are liberating tears.

What are emotions?

The emotions we feel have an impact on our physiology. Emotions are, simply put, related to the levels of certain hormones. An emotion alone can speed up your heart beat even if the rest of your body doesn’t move! Via adrenaline, for example. Another example: breathing speed up under stress, some even hyper-breakdown in case of huge stress. Some even have dizziness or even vanish due to a strong emotion. More positive: pupils dilate when feels interest or pleasure, etc. These signals help us to survive. Fear, for example, puts us in a state of flight or fight. Emotions allow our bodies to get in condition to react to a given situation.

The big problem is that sometimes, just imagining, thinking again about, or dreaming of a situation is enough to trigger the corresponding emotions and sometimes the physiological responses. For example: my anxiety attacks. It’s mostly in preconscious I imagine a catastrophic situation. I start feeling bad without really understanding why, then I say to myself that I have a health problem, and here we go : anxiety attack.

Emotions also help making not obvious (or easy) decisions. E.g. they make you feel smothered in a toxic relationship. Even if you do not manage to put the words on why you “feel” there’s probably still something wrong. If you act against your values ​​or your happiness, emotions sound in one way or another tje alarm to tell you it is time to redress the balance.

Whether we wanted it or not, verbally or not, we express things. You cannot not communicating. We communicate through our emotions. That’s why it is so difficult to bluff when we play poker. There are too many muscles on the face, some of them very difficult to control (you do not even know that most of them exist), which only serve to transcribe our emotional state. There are dozens of micro-expressions as, for example, those that The Mentalist tries to recognize to see if someone is lying or not (yet need to know what to look for).

We are all equipped with unaware sensors that allow us to understand if our partner is angry, happy, sad, scared, excited, etc. Sometimes even we react without consciously saying to ourselves “hey, he is scared him”… but we still adapt. We just adapt our behavior in the most profitable way to our interests. The communication of emotions is two-way, the control is very delicate, and we all react to emotions that are communicated. Where from the principle of contagion of emotions: being sexually aroused, being relaxed and confident, or simply being happy: it is unconsciously on your face. And it influences the chicks reactions ( more often positively).

How to manage our emotions?

Some emotions are repressed by the socio-cultural environment, or the fixed ideas of our parents or friends. It is often difficult, but it is most of the time useful to put into words our feelings to be able to act in the best way to feel good. Why keeping buried in us something that eats us from the inside? But on the other hand, how to get rid? Sometimes it’s repressed; too, we do not even know why it is like that. Sometimes we reproduce a diagram. Well, I am not a psychotherapist so I cannot tell you more about how to heal emotions that hurt us. Instead, I will tell you about how to use them constructively in your game.

I prefer using the “emotional contagion” to motivate, charm, excite, help and even make shameless people around me. When I give a fuck about people, I try to pay attention to the signals they send me and to my feelings during interactions. Exchange is always more beneficial to both parts. In addition, it is better calibrated and more sincere.

I remember when I started to conclude at most of my dates, I had a simple technique. I did not try to talk about me. Nor to sell myself. I was just trying to get them talking about them, get them talking about light stuff, without fuss. I was trying to avoid the nervous movements and all the stuff that breaks sexual tension. From time to time, I handed a sexual perch to see how they react. If it did not work, I told them they had a dirty mind. If it took, I did it again a little later to put their minds salacious ideas and dirty desires! They often reproached me for not talking enough about me, then: they asked me a question, just listened to the answer and started again talking about themselves. And in the end, they said they felt very comfortable with me and wanted to sleep with me.

Can we always feel “good”?

Well, finally, I’m going to destroy a myth (one more). Would you like to be happy every day? Know that this is impossible. And it would not be a good thing, anyway. We NEED negative emotions (of course not excessively but wisely). We need them because they warn us, warn us of danger and keep us alive as prepare us to react. People who do not feel pain, for example, can burn their hand without even noticing it. Those who do not experience fear (eg if the amygdala is removed) less enjoy security and will be tempted to take unnecessary risks. Thus, their life expectancy is shorter.

Imagine if you were watching the weather and they say that it will be fine tomorrow, when in fact there will be a hurricane: it would not be very useful. And even worse it does not allow you to prepare yourself. You might even be surprised and hurt by the storm.

What is true, on the other hand, is that it is interesting to shield a bit if we are very sensitive. Or working on your empathy if you have a heart of stone. It is important to have a balance. Not being too cold but not too weak either. I have always been a sensitive boy, even VERY sensitive. Like: I love animals, I even save ants in the pool, etc. I have also a lot of empathy, I sometimes suffer with the people for things that hardly affect me. At first the girls have continually disappointed me, hurt me, etc. But with time and experience, I shielded, and now it is them who often get addicted before me. Finally, I am far from being a rock either, a small heart beats under my PUA shield. And it’s not always easy, but I’m proud of it. Proud of keeping this human side, this romantic side, this fragile side. I guess that I will never become arrogant nor contemptuous jerk (some people think I am) I hope someone I’ll stay simple and accessible. All this to say that yes, it helps to shield a little, when one is too sensitive, it helps to regain control. But using the game (or any power) to make people suffer ways means a lot : people who do that are to be pitied because they feel pains and subconsciously want your to suffer and feel as bad as them. Or they are psychopaths. I react differently to my pain and I hope I’ll inspire some : why not rather doing our best making so that others have a little joy? Especially if it does not cost much to us. And then, who knows …? Karma you may pay you back.

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The best time to kiss a girl

“When should I kiss the girl?”… Have you got others shitty questions like that?

A major problem when we want to kiss a girl, but we don’t dare, is that we let our inner monologue govern us. Do not cut off from your feelings because of doubts and other questions. Our feeling should be our guide.

Our emotions are indicators of what is happening inside of us BUT ALSO are the keys to understand the person in front of us. We must let ourselves go a minimum to feel a little desire (which is contagious). And to do not get eaten by the pressure that we often put on ourselves unnecessarily.

The challenge should not take precedence over the game … The light and playful aspect of seduction should not disappear. Never a romantic date should be as dull and tight-ass as a job interview (and a job interview is not a romantic date so there’s a different behavior to be adopted).

It is better to go there with a clear idea of what you expect from the interaction : a good time with one or more pretty chicks, and don’t forget to create conditions conducive to flirt intimacy. Everything else will flow from that.

FUNDAMENTAL POINT – Once isolated with a girl: did she made you want to kiss her? It matters, that, too. You’re not so desperate that kissing any girl is a goal in itself, right? Kissing, it’s nothing seriously. If you are still counting the number of chicks you have kissed, then you are far awayyyyyyyyyyyy in your game. (Desecrate the kissclose please). Seriously, it’s good to go on a date with the idea, the objective to make out with her, but if in the meantime she shows she doesn’t deserve you it’s better to abandon the mission (if you’re sure that you’re not inventing false excuses to duck). Just as one begins his day with what pisses him off the most, you end your date with what requires the greatest effort.

It is important to communicate with your target on an empathic mode too. Do not only communicate on the explicit mode (meaning of words) but also a lot on the implicit mode (gestures, cum facial expressions, posture, tone of voice). Why is it important too? Because you will unconsciously or consciously both send to each other nonverbal signs of invitation to carnal pleasure. I refer in particular to prolonged glances, delicious silences, touches, smiles … so focus your attention on those little things that tell so much…

Wonder for example :
Are you both in a bubble off of the world? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
Is the tone of her voice soft? Is it becoming even softer? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
How does she react to innuendo? Compliments? => OK? KISSCLOSE.
Instead, does she try to avoid proximity and why? Does she seems distracted or elsewhere? => Warning! (but it costs nothing to try anyway, but perhaps it is better calibrate and wait until later). Do not confuse speed with haste.

If you miss scoring chances, do not cut your veins. We all miss some. We all had a chance to initiate a first kiss but yet we did not. With or without having invented false excuses, either. However, let’s not kill ourselves and do not spend our time regretting the past. Let’s rather and seize the next opportune moment. Unfortunately, we remember more the negative than the positive, but if she gives a sign of disinterest interest for 10 signs it’s good nonetheless. It’s worth a try!

Do your eyes fall on the contour of her lips? Do you perceive in her a palpable disorder. A heat wave travels you. Damn: what is stopping you from taking a step toward her, moving a hand behind her neck and approaching your own lips? You are not even really listening to her now. The seconds pass, as long centuries.

If you did not kiss, you can have fun and recreate that magical moment. Or at least, the same conditions. Like “do you remember, earlier? We talked about […] and I felt […] I stopped listening to you, I do not know if you felt the same. I couldn’t take my eyes off of your bright eyes, your pretty lips and I wanted to”………………………… kissclose. Or, “earlier you maybe felt I really wanted to do that” ………………………………. kissclose.

Speak slowly and maintain her eye contact while doing that. Normally, if she wanted you 5 minutes before, she still wants. I say NORMALLY because they are people who are blocked by those guys “who did not have the balls to try”. But hey, in Top Gun, Tom Cruise purposely gets close of his target without trying to kiss her just to bring up sexual tension, and it works well, but he did it with a a playful and confident face. So never let her think you’re not in control nor confident.

BUT IF she refuses my kiss? The fear of embarrassment that would follow a refusal petrifies most men. It is the phobia to end up helpless without knowing where to hide or what to do nor say to regain capacity and credibility that often prevents men from giving it a try. The guys start by thinking about consequences, fuck who saw us? And to who will she tell it, this whore? They will laugh at me (or other paranoid delusions).

Detach yourself from it, guys. It happens to everyone… at least to those who have the balls to take action. BE PROUD BECAUSE YOU’VE TRIED YOUR LUCK (AND HERS)! It’s really more exhilarating than having tried nothing and coming back home with regrets in the pockets!

Why not just smiling at rejection, after all? Why not asking her if it had already happened to her and why? Most girls would like to kiss the first one but are scared to get rejected. So: they say that it is the role of the man to do so. So why not challenging her, “Listen if you want later, it will be your turn to try to kiss me, and maybe you’ll see how you feel when you try to kiss someone who likes it… you feel like high ! It gives you a crazy energy! ”

(Take of course the ideas but change the words, I typed it as it came.)

The reaction to the rejection is paramount. Any PUA will tell you that. I speak well about it in The inconvenient truth about gender relations : for some women, rejecting you once is a test, and they will accept later if you do not get cold feet nor insult her, don’t call her “bitch”.

I think flirting is an act of cooperation. I do not like the girls who play the “man” and like confrontation. I prefer it to be played by the two of us and that we go together until the orgasm, each one making an effort. I understand the shit-tests and tolerate them if they are not excessive but after it pisses me off and I have the impression that the girl is trying to find excuses to avoid spending a good time. I think the bitches who are waiting for me to do all the work or play it like a princess while they are not Kate Middleton do not deserve me. I love the girls who have will and strength of character.

In a nutshell: let’s not forget to be present in the moment in order to pay attention to the little signs that reveal an invitation. Then, only remains to pick the ripe fruit (I speak of course of her apricot).

Let’s trust ourselves. Let’s abandon ourselves to our feelings rather than construct disaster-scenarios. I like kissing chicks anytime too, even when they expect it the least. I find it funny (game rather than issue). And there are people who cannot show their interest or are too shy/tight-ass to do so. I would say: the best time to kiss a girl is when you feel like it.

A good kiss with sexual tension can even make you hard. Especially if you fiddle her in the same time. If you’re hard, it’s okay, I think she will be flattered! I talk about how to kiss in the manual of the good lover, and in this article too.

Go now, and do not forget to tease her: that tough love.

XXX.

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Understand this fucking procrastination

Understand this fucking procrastinationIt’s been several weeks that I wanted to write about procrastination. But I always found an excuse to do something else: I procrastinated like a bastard. This tendency to postpone what we could do on the spot is one of the most serious obstacles to success.

In other words, whatever you wanna do, your tendency to procrastinate (or not) will help you succeed (or fail).

However, “wanting to do something” is not enough, there are deeper causes for procrastination. Lack of confidence in one of them. We often prefer to hope the problem goes away by itself rather than treating it. However, avoidance strategies always make you still a vague unease. While a saving efforts would help you improve your wellbeing. Otherwise, I would not piss you off with that.

If you are a beginner player and it pisses you off to never make out with chicks, you know you should go out and pick up, to train. However, if you do not, you will try to find excuses to keep internal consistency. The excuses will help you to don’t go for it, with consciousness more or less quiet.

There are three kinds of excuses:
– The lack of time and other non-renewable resources;
– The lack of money and other renewable resources;
-the lack of personnal talent, stuff like “I do not feel good enough to do that.”
Conclusion: “this is not the right time, too bad.” But does exist really a good time to start a better life? Or that the perfect time is… “now”?

If you think you suffer from a lack of personal talent, know that you’ll improve with practice and by eating theory. Yes, in socialization and seduction like in other areas! We all have things to learn and talents to develop! But never be discouraged: you are surely the most severe judge about yourself … so why not judging you able to do what you is think possible for one another guy? Be patient and sympathize with yourself!

I will now address the problem of the lack of money. I rarely spend more than €2 or €3 when I go out practicing pickup. Although now I have a job, I enjoy playing “broke” and construct limited money plans! I find it exhilarating, creative and rebellious. One of our most important resources in life is our resourcefulness! Survival instinct: ON. Seriously, I would surely fuck more chicks if I bought bottles, drink or fags. SHIT NOW ! I prefer the old barter: the girl does something for me and I reward her with lots of orgasms. In any area, offer your services to those who need it and dare to ask for the help of those who can lend you a hand.

Time is a real constraint, on the other hand. We must use it wisely. Select the most important things, those that would provide you the best welfare. Finding one hottie (or more) and having a regular sexual activity, is it important to you? At what point ? Up to you. Tackle what will make a real difference in your life, and go after things.

Make a decision, let’s say … tonight, not next year.

Anyway BRAVO for reading this article until the end. It proves that you feel that something is wrong and you want to change it. It is a very noble goal, wanting to move your ass. So you’re now faced with a choice:
1/ save my blog in your bookmark and take care of your game WHEN THE IDEAL TIME WILL COME. That is to say, probably never. Or come back in six months with a bitter taste in the mouth: you lost a lot of time and sex-opportunities. Or worse, you will lose the contact information of the blog and will try to find me but it will be too late. You will end up on a site full of politically correct advice that will not significantly help you. Remember the truth will piss you off at first, but it will also set you free. Why closing your eyes?
2 / NOW, take the decision to DRAMATICALLY change the course of your love life. For that, I advise you of course my collection of ebooks that is not bad. Give yourself the means to succeed, if you like my conception of the game!

For my part, I finally wrote this article so I am happy and I feel better (like after ejaculating when you’ve been hard all day long). And you, where are you with that?

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Approach procrastination : fear or motivation ?

Approach procrastination fear or motivation Most players would like to be able to approach the pretty girls in the street. Or in stores… in short, everywhere in daily life. But it’s harder than it seems. So they sometimes think that they’re lacking of motivation. I think, myself, that motivation is there but that fear paralyzes them.

The fear of social rejection is normal and, peak of the roof, it activates the same neurological mechanisms than physical pain. Who would voluntarily want to be hurt? So it is much easier to avoid it: in order to avoid potentially negative social judgments, we regularly develop avoidance strategies.

It’s a widespread phenomenon, this damned approach anxiety: but it is only by exposing to it regularly that you can tame it. It’s like a phobia, we can control and contain it, but I never managed to make it disappear.

The difference between the players who are motivated and the other is that the motivated players are actively seeking to fix this issue. The motivations: the desire for sex, to have a girlfriend, to know what is love, to have a better self-esteem, to brag in front of the friends, etc.

Social => Alert Rejection (possibility of a pain similar to physical pain) => avoidance strategies (lame excuses) => procrastination.

To keep some internal consistency, players often develop false excuses for not going to the front. Typical:
– she is not hot enough;
– I’m not in the mood ;
– I will go after my exams, there, I’m too busy;
– There are too many people around;
– I do not feel very good there;
– I’ll go later;
– I have not yet the level to be successful so why should I try? ;
– I’m not out for that;
– This is not the right place;
– Etc.

When you come out with your LAIR or with a coach, and the other guys approach: we will more easily dare to approach. “The others do it so I have to do it too”: it is a kind of demonstration effect. Within this group, the norm is to approach (unlike lambda people) so I go for it… in these circumstances! We thus feels more legitimate and social pressure is reversed. Moreover, there is less fear of social rejection because we are already part of a group. A group of people who understand us and will not judge us if we take a rake. Rather we will laugh together and it will be fun. If I approach alone, who are my audience?

It’s not bad to approach with a group but the ultimate goal is still to reach the “autonomous” phase. So, to reach the point when you’re able to make the move despite stress.

Three rules rules for this purpose:
– Go there just to see (“the game rather than the stake”) to make her smile, maybe it will result in a nice and spontaneous exchange of bodily fluids;
– Do not try to make perfect approaches (who cares ? therefore, it puts too much pressure on you, and then who can judge?);
– Make it simple: one idea per sentence, do not try to be TOO original, pay more attention on your BL than on anything else.

Indeed, there is not really any GOOD opener (nor bad – depending on the context). Take ideas where you want/can and recycle them. Work is already ready for you by the way: I made a collection for this purpose. Try to do not hesitate when you approach, do not show you’re too afraid of the pretty girl (intimidated), and talk to her like if you were talking to a longtime friend (girl). You will have already done the heavy lifting. There’s girls who are afraid of mice, these little beasts. And well, most guys are afraid of girls, the little beasts because they have power over them! We thus understand how it is ridiculous : people have a power on you only if you give them.

You probably know it already: we subcommunicate more than we communicate with our words. So: your posture, the way you move and your tone of voice is more important than the opener you will choose. Try to be relaxed or at least to seem relax. And know that she may criticize your opener, but it would be a “logical” response to an “emotional” feeling: she will try to verbalize her feelings. I have already approached with “hello are you the one who farted?” and “I love you” !!!

Momentum: When we approached many times, we are warm, and then we approach more easily. The most difficult, are the first ones. I call them “warming up”.

Pretty girls have their ass stared at all the time. Sometimes it turns them on, sometimes it repels. In the case of a sex-starved dude who has no female friends and has not touched a woman for several months, she will not like it : so never communicate that you are in mode “sex-starved”. In no way. Even if this is the case. ESPECIALLY if that is the case. An alpha has the choice of women, so he is not hungry. Do you want her to take you seriously or not?

In two words: step your foot into action first, the brain will follow and activate when you’ll open your mouth. These are often last-minute interference that come and block approaches. So introduce yourself in the set, for example, and you will see after what will happen. Why anticipating?

Staying mobile or waiting until they pass in front of you?
– In a club, in a crossing such as the bar or in a corridor, you can approach the girls passing before you. Assembly line. It saves your energy (not moving). It’s like when you’re waiting for your suitcase at the airport.
– You can also approach when you walk through the crowd to go to the toilet or elsewhere. In movement, we are by definition less needy. Then fuck her in the toilet 😉
– On the dancefloor, I rather recommend an approach based on the body language, take her hand or dance with her. Anyway, I’m not really a “dancer”, especially when I’m alone. But dancing with a girl in order to warm her, yeah, why not?

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How not looking like a weird guy?

How not looking like a weird guy

A weird guy, a weirdo in English, is anything but sexy. Well, me personally I’m weird sometimes but I still fuck a lot of chicks. Why ? This is because there are two types of “weirdos”. And it is against the bad type that I want to warn you today. Personally, I am certainly weird you but know my limits: I’m a good guy in fact, even I look very casual “I don’t give a fuck” and I assume that I want to make love to beautiful women.

Synonym of weirdo: worrying.

Just a few seconds of distraction are enough to be labeled “weirdo”… and then it is almost impossible to get back. The bad oddity is what scares a woman even before she spoke to a man. You’re less likely to move away from a woman for the same reasons. Although a really weird girl, would make me run away even if she is hot. Except if it is to get married, is it better a weird hottie or a balanced ugly? Again, arbitration and a compromise must be found.

In evolutionary psychology, we think that evolution has endowed women with a faculty to identify the men who will be a threat for them. To avoid physical, psychological pain and pregnancies to bear the child of an asshole. It is yet this same trend that makes a woman having difficulty saying “no” frankly to a man because she is too afraid he would get angry and hurt her. So they avoid, lie, etc. and it sometimes induces strange behavior in men.

That said, we can be a good guy but being labeled “weird”. Just like, chicks can bang guys who will beat them while for us it is obvious that they are bastards. It is a subjection notion, and it is not because she is a woman she’s always right.

What I mean is that you can be polite, clean, BUT shy and being relatively often thought of a weird guy by chicks. It is not really related. Some are tattooed, have dirty hair and are unshaven but still fuck four chicks per month while others wear suits, always prim and yet inspire women a shiver of distrust, disgust and fear.

Introverts men are the main victims of this negative discrimination. They seem disturbing because they make women feel uncomfortable (especially by being themselves uncomfortable since it is contagious). And it is only in the movies that women give the benefit of doubt. In reality, they rather say things like, “yeah’re surely a great guy, you will find a lot of girlfriends” … but not her, of course, do not dream!

What is weird and what is not, it is still quite objective and we have the right to be a damn weirdo if we want. After all, who makes the rules? If you are weird and fuck enough, after all, who cares ? However, for your information, here’s weird behaviors (non-exhaustive list):
– A fascination with violence, blood, weapons;
– A passion for hurting animals;
– Video games (especially violent);
– Heroic fantasy (except Game of Thrones) and other big geek stuff;
– Waiting fifteen minutes while staring at a chick before daring to approach her with an indirect excuse;
– Being needy, calling her or talking to her all the time on the Facebook chat, especially if she does not answer;
– Behaving like a guy in a couple when you just saw her a few times;
– Not knowing the line between persistence-that-can-pay and sociopathic behavior;
– Asking too many personal questions to the point she will wonder if you’ll sell that information to a hacker;
– An excessive and unhealthy politeness, apologizing all the time, hide too much your intentions;
– Etc.

A guy REALLY becomes alarming:
– When he seems trying to hide shameful thoughts and intentions ;
– When he so insistent that we do not even know if he speaks French and understands the word “no.”

So this is why girls avoid being alone with this kind of characters. They are too afraid of being raped, sequester and cut into pieces. Although, again, this is not necessarily the guys who look the most weird who are in fact.

So rather let’s see how to create a positive atmosphere of trust:
– Having friends of both sexes;
– Making social activities;
– Facing the person to whom we speak;
– Looking enough in the eyes (without thinking we are the snake in The Jungle Book;
– Being honest by assuming our intentions, but not TOO directly;
– Not take yourself seriously nor taking life in general too seriously;
– Having a little humor, second degree;
– Knowing how to smile;
– Learning self-talk (we more trust people who reveal A LITLE BIT about them);
– Asking questions, being interested in the other, but not in an “interview” mode;
– Letting the girls live, respecting their personal space, do not stifle them;
– Never harass a girl;
– Do not wear too badly, have a nice haircut ;
– Talk A LITTLE about your emotions (in a non-violent communication mode);
– Etc.

The woman should be in a climate of relative confidence to feel in a sexual mood. I believe that hard as rock. Like a 10 year old child believes in Santa.

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The overspeed pick-up artist

Image : Shining

It’s hard. It’s hard to get up on Monday morning to go to work. It’s even harder when we fucking a lot and that we went out during the weekend. The alarm may sound and sound, the body of the overspeed PUA is tempted to stay and rest, inert in this cozy bed perfumed with thelove juice of his conquests. “I could make one or two more erotic dream, if I had not this fucking boss who is pitiless waiting for me to exploit me”!

Sometimes I increasingly too much overstep the mark. I am completely empty. The nights end at dawn, different fuckfriends want to enjoy, chicks are waiting for their turn to have a date with me. I also have to take care of my apartment, my dishes, my shopping, do the cooking, sports, etc. But mostly, this fucking job because of which I work more than 45 hours a week paid 39.

Damn if every person who read this line gave me € 1 or could buy one of my ebooks, I could live quietly and go to Australia and write for you awesome field reports after having fucked surfers with my tanned cock!

The boundaries that should not be crossed to don’t end overspeed are fucking until 2am when you work the next day, going out late during the week, sacrificing your hobbies because of work and babes… such as sports. All this stuff is a mistake, is it really worth it after all? Also, do not always postpone your appointment with your family and friends. How your seduction life and your work/social/personal life can be combined? It’s very difficult and I have myself more and more difficult to follow the rhythm.

The best compromise I’ve found is to pick up on the Internet at work. To never date on the outside but to convince them to come to my place early, around 8pm. Then I fuck them until midnight and they return home! So I can sleep. I’m only going on the field at Saturday night (I do not even take public transportation I live next to my workplace) but I confess that fatigue and envy are rarely here when I go out. I’m missing my student life…

Going out can pose financing problems too. Paying for dates, paying for clubs, it’s damn expensive! Subscribing on dating sites is nothing compared to that. I advise you to stay of course in the free places and please do not systematically invite babes in paying dates. Me, I quickly did the math: Adopt it’s €20 per month and I stay warm during the winter. It does not really impinge on my free time, since it is like if I was answering text messages on my cell. And the chicks come to me directly by bringing something to eat or drink. Perfect!

Your state of fatigue inevitably attacks your modjo if you do this mistake : you are more irritable, you will less responsive and will lack of initiative on the field and at work, etc. And it will be obvious! And then your learning curve will be reversed! When you’re too tired, physically or psychologically, it is not a good idea to yell and gesticulate in all the directions to compensate. Take a break and put some order in your life for a fresh start.

The Fengshui will tell you: coming home in a clean, airy and pleasant place will help you to have a better image of yourself! And that makes sense! Also, when you invite a girl at home, it will be reassuring for you to know that she will not accidentally sit on a piece of stale pizza. So start from there!

Also note that only 5% of the population may be in good shape with less than 8 hours of sleep. If you violate this quota, it may expose you to risks of depression and other accidents or health problems more or less serious. It is also clear that by being in better shape, your times out will be more productive and you will more enjoy going out.

To be more successful, I logically recommend you to try to have a balanced life, but not too busy (take care of yourself) … and an interesting one. Continue to learn the art of seduction and fucking, but keep going out to play sports and see your friends who are not in the community of the seduction. Also see again the girls you like!

You can make a beautiful encounter at any moment, so do not overlook anything. The best would be that seduction is part of your life in an integrated way (except at work where it’s delicate anyway) and not compartmentalized.

Be hungry of pretty girls, it’s cool! But know how to recognize when you’re exhausted and you stir the air. Reframe yourself before doubting about yourself. The desire and energy are the main drivers of PUA therefore must be protected.

It is obvious that when I fucked two chicks the day before and the afternoon, I have no envy when I go in a bar after in order to try to pick up. Do you see what I mean?

Making 20FC per month is not a sign of good mental health. Like in everything, some moderation is necessary!

It’s not a contest, stop wondering who has the biggest dick (it’s your black friend).

See you later alligator !

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The trap of the comfort phase

The trap of the comfort phaseAt one point or another in your pick-up, you have to create comfort (or rapport) with your target. This is a must!

You’ll thus have to unveil a bit, to let her see some reassuring elements about you to no longer be a reckless unknown in her eyes. You will also have to show you’re interested in her, in her in life, to show that you are not a clown nor a narcissist.

The goal is not to make a phase of attraction where you’re being a mysterious badboy that makes her wet then switch in “comfort” mode to become as boring as a soap opera on FR3. No! It is better, of course, to establish proximity with your target without becoming boring.

Staying in the factual, the level zero of the game.

The questioning is the worst approach “What are you doing in life? Where do you come from? Do you come here often? What kind of music do you like? Do you enjoy double penetration?” Between tasteless and dangerous intrusive guy, her heart would swing! Be interested in her emotions rather than facts. For example, “What song would be the soundtrack of your life today?”

There’s subjects I advise against (but then everyone does as he pleases and then in the particular context as in a political rally it’s special): politics, money, religion, all this stuff . It can quickly get out of hand and that doesn’t help sexualization nor to be playful!

This is exciting stuff but you do not want to expound on a topic… you want to go forwar in an interaction with a girl you like! You must choose your priorities in life! Also avoid talking about what can make you look like a dangerous guy: it makes sense, instead, to create a climate of confidence. She already has enough reasons to be wary of you! Dirty womanizer! 😉 No, just kidding, but rather talk about things that make you a human being: your dreams, your ambitions, your desires, your tastes, your fantasies, your memories, your job, etc.

Tell anecdotes, humorous stuff. But do not tell your stories as you would make a statement at the police station! Give rhythm, have flashbacks, etc. Avoid a maximum to be boring… but do not be too weird either. Some classical and some originality!

I find it vulgar to brag. And way too common among men! Remember what they say “a rich doesn’t need to say he is rich.”

Avoid speaking in a monotone tone, do not go flat out. Take the time when you talk, you will sub-communicate that you’re not afraid she leaves before you have finished your sentence. So it’s cool …

Assume to make eye contact when you speak!

Do not get lost in the details, in the factual, emphasize emotions. Talk about your mindset when you lived the anecdote. Make her visualize the story!

Avoid lambda adjectives. Replace them with original synonyms, metaphors, funny images or surprising comparisons. The stories could be about what you saw that night, crazy people you have met, or cool people. About the actual situations, about people around, etc. Your passions like : I love writing, but why?

Exercise 1: 5 identify themes that define you. Try to say why.

Exercise 2: Write in the comments, or in Word, a story telling of an event that marked you and let us live the scene. What about? What marked you. Life is a movie in fast forward but sometimes we make pause times, or we often want to see again some things in thoughts. That is your reserve ofinspiration, lively and precise.

When you tell something to a girl, it’s better if she does active listening: her imagination is running at full speed! She lives the story with you! She wants to know what happened! She is requesting … that’s the goal.

You can ask questions to get her involved, like “you know what you felt when you put the float in the pool while your friends doesn’t?
– Ah hahaha yesssss
– Well here, I felt like that. So, I no longer want to go swimming. ”

It’s better of course if the storytelling allows her to identify with the situation. Warning: we do not practice narcissism but the conversation must instead be a moment of sharing. One can, with care, give her a different light on her own stories…

Bouncing on a story about what she says, finally, allows to find good conversation starter!

Your turn to play !