Category: Kissing and making love

In this article, I will reveal all you need to know to understand how to turn a woman on.

To sleep with a woman, especially if she does not like you more than that, she must be excited. But how to turn a woman on ?

This can be done through your physique, your attitude, your reputation, the context, the atmosphere, etc.

For example, in this field report, I managed to sleep with a girl without she likes me more than that, just thanks to the atmosphere of the party…

Yes, sometimes, it’s enough to be at the right time, in the right place, with a girl who wants to fuck!

Personally, I have already been “used” by girls who perfectly knew their body and I have loved it.

It is certainly not very romantic to say that for some “a cock is a cock” but it is always a pleasure to give orgasms.

 

How to turn a woman on : let’s play with sexual tension

It is necessary to emphasize the sexual tension between the woman and you

How to turn a woman on is a kind of badly asked question because, without doing anything special, there is a tension between a woman and you. It’s natural and automatic.

That means :
– that there is no need to do or say anything special;
– that most women are naturally attracted to you.

If you notice, just after you have asked a woman something, she will pause and look at you. She will want to know if you are sincere or if you are going to pretend that you are laughing while sketching an embarrassed smile.

She will also try to see how you handle the sexual tension during these few seconds. She wants to know if you are missing. If you are weak. Yes, your reaction will largely determine her answer.

In order to intensify the sexual tension, I recommend you learn to use the weapons that are your your look and your ability to touch. That’s how to turn a woman on!

If you are not familiar with the concept of sexual tension, I invite you to read this article that I dedicated to this concept.

 

How not to kill the sexual tension between a woman and you

I think it’s more important to know what not to do to dispel tension than to understand how to create it.

What kills the tension is:
– talking too much;
– laughing out loud ;
– reacting excessively;
– fidgeting;
– betraying embarrassment with facial expressions, etc.

I consider those things to be sexual tension killers because most seduction strategies usually focus on what you need to say or do. But there is nothing special to say or do.

However, all your life, you have done things to reduce this tension. You have tried to make the people around you feel comfortable.

You do it with your friends, your colleagues and the women you like: when things become intense or ambiguous, you play the clown that makes everyone laugh.

Even when girls reject you, you are more concerned about their comfort than yours. You do not want to bother them. Ah, what a nice boy! This is bad because these actions are perceived as a sign of weakness, of supplication.

A woman will never be attracted to a guy who cannot endure MORE sexual tension than she does. That’s what you need to know to understand to turn a woman on!

Finally, it’s a little battle : who endure the most sexual tension:
– eye contact: who will look elsewhere first;
– presentations: who will withdraw his or her hand first;
– silence: who will speak first;
– resistance: who will try to dissipate the tension first…

Who will break everything and feel the need to talk about “what is happening” ?!

For a full and detailed lesson on sexual tension, read The (Inconvenient) Truth about Gender Relations.

 

To turn a woman on, you must forget the illusion of feminine purity

Women love cock

You must stop believing that women do not like sex.

They are not small, fragile things either.

Men like to keep this illusion of purity of female sexuality because they think that it will prevent them from being cuckolds.

Indeed, if the girls are not nasty, then they have no reason to cheat on them.

Serious mistake! Not “fucking” a woman savagely like a little bitch is actually one of the best ways to get her seeking her sexual satisfaction elsewhere…

Forget also the idea that a woman needs to be in love to have pleasure, it is also a legend perpetuated by badly fucked women and bad legs !

In short, the message that you must remember here is “women love sex but can not shout it on all roofs because of social pressure.” Knowing how to fuck well, and even better, how to have a reputation as a good fucker: that’s how to turn a woman on !

 

Women also have sexual fantasies

Now that you know that saying that women fuck to please us is highly hypocritical, you can hear that women have a rich sex life.

And that can be good for you! Allowing a woman to realize one of her fantasies is, for example, a way to turn her on to the highest degree.

Here are the top female fantasies:
– Making love in nature;
– With a stranger;
– Making love in a public place;
– With a celebrity;
– Making an orgy;
– With a woman ;
– Making a threesome with two men;
– A threesome with two women and a man;
– The fantasy of the uniform;
– Being the favorite of a harem;
– Making love in the workplace
– Being compelled by force (with her consent anyway);
– A quick shot without preliminary;
– In the elevator ;
– Being watched while while making love;
– In a car ;
– Swinging;
– Making love with someone you do not have to, or maybe in a place you should not (forbidden).

 

How to excite a woman in bed?

How to excite a woman: the good attitude

Without seeming needy, show her that you desire her. This is about assuming your sexual desire. That’s how to turn a girl on in bed!

Do not forget to communicate that you are comfortable with your sexuality, sexualize, laugh and make her laugh, be teasing and especially avoid bragging.

Less is more: doing too much could well turn against you by dissipating a lot of sexual tension…

 

The right state of mind to turn a woman on

We all know that knowledge is power. When you do not know what makes women crazy, you do not have the sexual power needed to be the best lover you can be in absolute terms.

Women know that they are guided by their emotions, so they try to control them at best. But they do not want to control themselves all the time. They want you to dominate, tease and stimulate them mentally and physically. But they want to choose who will make them crazy.

You must learn the techniques and see what works best with your partner and in the right context.

So really, nothing is wrong in your body. What’s wrong with you is how you use your body because of a bad state of mind and false beliefs about your sexuality. My belief is “I can give orgasms to women whenever I want. ” And yours ?

 

The first sexual characteristic that excites women is AUTHORITY or DOMINANCE.

Women do not want another woman. If they were, they would be lesbians.

They want a man. You must be dominant in bed. You must show that you are taking things in hand. That does not mean you have to hit her like a sick person, or be physically aggressive with her. It is not the goal. You always want to treat women with respect, but in a dominant way. They want a man. You must be manly. You must be a sexually alpha male.

Show her that you are taking charge by leading the dance. “I’m going to do what I love and you’ll love it.” That’s how to turn a woman on!

It’s even more attractive for women, whether during sex or during a date, to be guided by the man.

That’s how things have worked since the time of the caves. Evolution has shown that men must be the strongest, the most dominant, and that women must follow the leadership of men. Being dominant is a state of mind and a way of behaving. So, without being misogynist, you have to show that you know how to take things in hand.

When you are in a state of authority, what will logically come to you is the dirty talk. Try saying things like, “baby, I love to fuck you,” or “I love fucking you like that. You’re mine. Do you like that? I’ll make you come until your cardio can not keep up.” And to just say piggy things, like “You like it when I fuck you, naughty girl.” A lot of stuff like that.

 

Start slowly with the dirty talk because when you have never done it before and you start, it can be a lot for her.

When I started out and did not know how to excite a woman yet, I thought I looked weird and just pervert by doing that… but in fact you can afford a lot of things in action. You would not call her “my little slut” in front of your children or when other people could hear you. So it’s a timing story, to be IN THE MOMENT.

The third part of authority is physical pain. I do not speak here of “pain” as some sado-masos do by whipping or pouring hot wax on it, but by “pain” I speak of some small stimulating spankings. For example, when you take her doggy style, give her a pat and see what it gives. You can grab her hands too, for example as a missionary, and hold tightly behind her head. But do not hurt her or insult her badly ever (the only ones who like that have problems, I think)!

Authority can also consist of: fucking stronger. Move faster, more powerfully and go deeper. A good way to show authority is by popping her clothes to show her how passionate you are (do not tear anything, eh).

It’s very dominant all that. Like pushing her slightly so that she falls on the bed. Then to climb on her…

Because, whether she knows it or not, she will be less attracted to you if she is always the one who decides everything, even if she thinks that you are just trying to be nice and romantic by leaving her the choice. I hope I answer your question better : how to turn a woman on ?

 

“Tell me you want my cock deep inside you!” This is called POSSESSION!

Possession can also be dangerous, so make sure that she does not turn out to be crazy outside the bedroom (for example if she asks you all the time you were with whom, in which case you will need to reframe her). But when you fuck her so much that she feels like your cock is part of her body and her pussy is yours, things become a TERRITORY story. It’s pretty good news but make sure you crop it if it becomes unhealthy for her. Same for you!

How to excite a woman in bed? You must learn to separate experience and real life.

Also, you must be able to – with dominance – start to caress her, and put her in a mood to fuck even when she had not planned to sleep with you. You must be able to get her excited enough to make it happen.

Doggy style is the best way to show that you are the boss of the interaction. Do not ask her if you can take her doggy style. Just guide her in position with your hands and go for it! Or tell her “turn around”!

 

The PRESENCE is to live the moment and not worrying about anything other than what is happening here and now.

It’s not just you who have to be totally present but she too. Because you do not want her to think about anything, but rather she feels. Women are creatures of emotions.

One of the signs that you are both in the moment is that there is no stress. Your muscles are not too tight, you do not think of things like, “Did I finish this file at the office? Or even “does she like that?” That’s one of the worst things, “does she like that?” If you ask yourself this kind of question during the act, then you are not in the present moment and in addition you are seeking for approval.

At first, it’s normal, you’re really going to ask yourself “does she like that?” But then, it’ll become obvious to you that she likes it, and you will not care if she likes it or not. It will be natural. You’ll know she loves to fuck with you.

And remember: the best way to not be too tense in life is to play on your breath. With this wonderful tool you will be able to last as much as you want in bed as well as staying hard.

 

Do not think too much about your cock or your performance. Nothing like, “Is my cock big enough? Am I hard enough? Did I last enough? Am I good in bed? “

As soon as you ask yourself these questions, “Am I hard enough? What happens often?” You soften. “Have I lasted enough? ” What is happening? You ejaculate or soften. “Am I good enough?” You put yourself in the validation position… what stresses you!

Sometimes she wants to feel wanted in a very loving way. Other times, she just wants to be a piece of meat. Women want to feel different emotions through sex.

Emotions also explain a lot of problems that guys face in bed. They will get married or take a new girlfriend, and in the beginning sex will be very good. And then it’s going to tire them. This is because, at the beginning, there is a lot of emotions between the man and the woman. They are madly in love or attracted. The bodies are new. Many things upset them at first. And then these emotions diminish with time and habit.

Did you know that teasing creates anticipation. Anticipation that in turn creates excitement… So, teasing = anticipation = excitement. Also use this tool. And the way to do it well to excite her is: kiss her passionately, blow in ears, until suddenly she clings to you, and then push her back. Play the “hard to get/push and pull”. Do what a woman does when you try to have her. Continue with the preliminaries, and then push her gently and provocatively… until she finally cannot handle more, and begs you to come inside her.

When you tell her things, be sure you really think them. Most guys have a hard time lying about their emotions. So, if you’re not with a girl you like, whether it’s sexually or otherwise, she’ll probably feel it and be mad at you.

 

Emotional variety is what really matters.

It consists in embodying different types of lovers so that things are constantly renewed and exciting. That’s how to turn a woman on !

Sometimes you will be the bad boy who fucks her like a bitch, and you really fuck her hard. In particular doggystyle. With a big spanking. You’re going to let you go completely, OK? Or you’re going to fuck her in a place and at a time when you do not have to, like at her parents or in a public place. It will cause new emotions in her.

Or you could tell her a story, a fantasy. Something worthy of a novel.

Other times, you can tell her how much you love her and how much you want to be with her. This type of very soft sex could allow you to be even more connected to each other… The trick to draw with these two examples is that the emotional variety engendered by the fact of being different types of lovers is very important.

Make different positions: it also helps because different positions generate different sensations. If you do different positions, telling her different things, you can have different interactions completely, and it will change the type of sex, because it will add emotional and physical variety.

But positions alone are not so different from each other. You only need to master 4 or 5 basic positions. You should be able to give them different emotions and have a variety of sexual experiences from these key positions. Which ones? It depends on your mood and your desires of the moment.

In missionary, you can make love to her. You can also fuck her. You can talk to her tenderly. Or use the dirty talk. There are so many different things you can do from the missionary: it can really change her feelings and the kind of orgasm she has.

 

Finally, another thing to add to the variety is the SPONTANEITY.

If you still fuck on Sunday night at 10pm, it’s not very spontaneous. You must fuck at different times. Sometimes in the middle of the day, if you can. Try to meet up somewhere in the middle of the day to fuck. Try different times to make love. Be spontaneous! You should never expect sex. If planned, there will not be enough emotional stimulation. Variety or surprise would be lacking. And in the long run it might seem to her monotonous, the sex with you.

So make sure the sex is as spontaneous, daring and surprising as possible. Yeah, you will often fuck in the evening before going to bed, and in the morning when you wake up, but try as much as you can not planning everything. Do it in the shower, or go for a little road trip and both fuck all along in all the motorway service areas.

You want sex with you to stay as spontaneous and exciting as possible (if you care about the girl of course). That’s how to turn a woman on !

The fantasies, as we have seen, are a great tool to add variety too, because it allows you to feel a lot of emotions, and it allows you to have fun at the same time, which is really good. It’s a good combination of emotions.

Once again, when you make her feel a lot of emotions, you give her a lot of orgasms. And she will tend to fall madly in love with you. And fantasies are a great way to give her lots of orgasms.

The main way to add variety is to change emotions. Change her feelings. It must stay fresh all this but be a different type of lover, be spontaneous and use the fantasies as a tool to spice up your sex life to never get bored (avoid the fucking routine).

Wow, I really developed how to excite a woman there !!!

 

How to turn a woman on with messages or SMS?

Writing has always had an erotic dimension. Just see the number of women who love erotic texts.

I have personally made more than one hundred women want to come to my house to make love just because with my erotic texts on Adopteunmec.

I had made an article some time ago to explain how to write a good erotic text.

And my erotic texts are available in Secrets for seducing on the Internet !

I also did a full course to learn how to flirt by texts.

 

How to make the desire of a woman come up once at home?

You can watch an erotic movie (or even a porn) together.

Otherwise, why not proposing to give her a massage in underwear?

How to excite a woman? There is also the solution to make a game whose pledge is to remove a garment.

There are plenty of ways to bring sex into the equation! And sometimes there’s no need to do anything special.

 

Sexual techniques to turn a woman on in bed

It’s good to promise a woman some wonders sexually speaking… but the best is still to ensure for real at the time of the act, otherwise you may be a little ridiculous!

For more on developing sexual techniques, I invite you to read The awesome lover’s manual !

There is also the page “how to make a girl enjoy” that can help you!

You will learn all there is to know about fingering, cunnilingus, effective sexual positions to lead a woman to orgasm, etc.

One of the things that surprised me the most when I started to frequent the libertine world was that many men had a fantasy of seeing me taking their wife.

The term “candaulism” and its English equivalent “cuckolding” were twenty times more searched on the Internet in 2016 than in 2004. But you shouldn’t think that this is a simple phenomenon of fashion since this libertine practice has existed since Cusaule (741 BC). Let’s say that the advent of the Internet has just facilitated the realization of this fantasy.

Definition

According to Wikipedia, Candaulism is a sexual practice related to the excitement of seeing your partner exposed to the looks of other men, or even having sex with another person.

In fact, this practice, which combines voyeurism and exhibitionism, is close to swinging. However, we are not talking here about swinging partners. In general, the guy who has this fantasy is not directly involved in the sexual act that takes place before his eyes. He only produces a personal satisfaction.

Do not think that the libertine man who practices candaulism with his wife does not love her. On the contrary, it is usually very loving men who, excited to observe the reaction of others in front of their partner, turn to this practice. Moreover, they are not jealous because they are sure that their wives love them in return.

The motivations of candaulism:

– The man is excited to see his partner making love with another (this is the fantasy of many guys to want to see their wife penetrated by another cock).
– He wants to see other bodies with his partner because it can revive the flame, especially after a few years of common life.
– He no longer feels able to fill his wife then want other men to deal with this task, because he loves her…
– He wants to better observe the enjoyment of his partner from the outside.
– He is proud to “lend” his spouse for a few hours or for an evening because it pleases him to see that his wife also excites other guys.
– He fills a homosexual fantasy by seeing another man naked and erect.
– He fulfills his desires as a voyeurist.
– Let’s specify that some men who love submission adore the fact of being humiliated by being cuckold. You have to respect that!

Attention, the voyeur man plays a big part in this practice, even if, a priori, he is only an interested observer:

– He participates in the choice of his wife’s partner(s).
– He often writes the script.
– He can interrupt the fuck at any time.

But you have to be careful because this practice can have negative effects on the couple. Indeed, if the lady is dissatisfied with the relationship and wants to take a lover, her partner opens the doors of adultery to her. For this to be beneficial to both people of the couple, that it spices up their sex life, they must:

– Have excellent communication.
– Both of them feel a sexual arousal in front of this opportunity.
– Make sure that they find good partners together.
– Determine the conditions of this adventure before even going to the act.
– Be comfortable with the nudity of a third.
– Determine if the experiment will be photographed or filmed.
– Protect against sexually transmitted infections.
– Talk after the experience, to evaluate the discomforts and the pleasure felt.

Other Warnings:

– The couple could live major conflicts once the fantasy realized, especially if the man is possessive. Jealousy could undermine the relationship after the act.
– The sex life of the couple can be transformed… for better or for worse.
– A certain resentment can be established if the woman accepts caresses or positions that she previously refused with her husband (sodomy, for example).
– The woman could be uncomfortable, facing her spouse, if she enjoys more than with him.
– The lovers of one evening might decide to see each other again in secret.
– The guest, for his part, may experience discomfort or even erectile difficulties due to the particular context.

Definition

Dirty talk is a form of verbal communication used as a sexual stimulant during preliminaries or sexual intercourse. The dirty talk is a role-play in which your partner and you forget your prudishness and let express your sexual desire and your animal side.

Precautions

Many women like to hear diary talk in bed (some even love insults… but in this case, we get dangerously close to BDSM!)

Besides, in doing research to write this article, I noticed that many female sites describe dirty talk as a common female fantasy. Good news : it’s a practice that also excites me a lot because it places me a little in a position of dominance (I’m not saying that a man must subdue a woman because we are equal… but the fact is, in bed, many women enjoy being dominated and many men love to be in a position of dominance).

Many men who are educated by feminism and are full of limiting beliefs think that talking to a woman like a bitch is a lack of respect (and it is because, said this way, it can be like aggression). Except that if it excites your partner and makes her orgasm, isn’t it rather the fact of depriving her of what she likes that is a lack of respect?

A survey corroborates my point: it showed that while 36% of people have difficulty expressing their sexual desires, 44% say they like dirty talk in bed.

Moreover, the Marquis de Sade would also agree with me about the importance of the art of dirty talk to drive your partners crazy with desire since he wrote « une femme bande par l’oreille (a woman gets hard with her ear) ».

Whispering naughty things to your girlfriend is therefore fun, exciting and very effective.

How to start with dirty talk?

Above all, you have to build a climate of trust with the woman to whom you want to talk dirty. Indeed, some not really open-minded chicks could confuse you (you, the expert in dirty talk) with an asshole who does not know how to talk to women: fuck ! So you need to prepare the ground a little before warming her.

For the shy people, one of the best ways to introduce naughty exchanges is to start with texts, because a written message puts less pressure (on you and women)!

This will increase the sexual tension between the two of you. But do not try to precipitate things if you begin : start with light messages… try to go farther and farther … as far as possible!

Be careful, you are not the only one who can transgress the limits and speak crudely… if she likes it, let the girl take the initiative and answer her either by playing the shy guy or the big pervert (depends on your own style).

What’s a good dirty talk?

The first important thing is to make it simple! The two most common mistakes are wanting to do too much or not to assume and inhibit. No need to think too much: just express your desire with the words.

You will also need to vary your words: a minimum of creativity is always welcome.

Finally, when you make love, the ice breaks and it becomes more and more easy to let it go! It is, for example, effective to whisper naughty things to her in the ear while you take her in a position like missionary or doggystyle.

“I’ve been waiting for you all day”; “Do you feel it, right there, my dick?” “; “Put away those thighs that I devour you”; “I’ll make you enjoy it until you’re exhausted…”

What is interesting with this form of flirting is that you might be surprised by your partner’s reaction. The more you tease and more some women react in a hardcore way. Some said to me “I want you to fuck me RIGHT NOW”; “You gonna give me that big cock, yes?” “; “I must suck you like your bitch to thank you!” ”

What if she reacts badly?

Do not be sexist but know that some women like to hear “You’re a big slut, you” or even “You love my cock, eh, slut.” Do not forget that this is a role-playing game to spice up the sex and that not all women go to that point.

The pleasure comes from going beyond the limits by surprising and provoking (dirty talk is a fantasy, so there’s any other meaning to your words than the obvious one). But the girl must understand it and agree with. Moreover each person has his/her own limits …

Some are more tight-ass than others: you may come across a chick who will get shocked and ask you to speak to her “correctly” (it’s quite rare) just as you can fall on a chick who’ll love to challenge you and excite you by playing the hottie.

If the girl seems rather shy, if you’re not sure how she reacts, then do some testing. The main idea to remember is that these words have a strong and sexual emotional charge in the girl’s brain. The art is to pack them well and use them gradually to achieve the desired effect.

Do not be afraid to fail : start soberly, improvise, create your own phrases and have fun together!

Anyway, be gambler and provocative and prefer to go with your gut. We are sometimes too afraid to lose the girl by going too hard when it is often the best thing to do.

Nevertheless, if a woman asks you to stop talking to her like a bitch, which rarely happens when it is well drafted, do not argue and stick to it.

To go further, know that I speak of many female and male fantasies in The awesome lover’s manual ! 😉

Here, in picture, the 10 best positions of the kamasutra (in my opinion).

You absolutely need to test each at least once in your life (you have no excuse because I selected some rather easy ones)!

1/ Normal doggy style

Perfect for those who love their little bitch.

 

2/ Standing doggystyle

Much more power (the girl can be in doggy position in front of you on a bed).

 

3/ The lying down doggystyle

There you can even stroke her clit at the same time.

 

4/ The spoon

Perfect for Sunday morning. You can sodomize her too (spoon anal).

 

5/ The missionnary

Classic but effective. For weeknights when you are tired but with a hard cock.

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6/ The missionnary with elevated legs

It turns her pelvis and you fall directly on her G-spot!

 

7/ The Andromaque

If you like to get fucked ride. After all, you’re a stallion, right?

 

8/ The rodeo

This way, you can watch her ass…

 

9/ The lotus

Perfect if you wanna eat her boobs !

 

10/ The kneeling blowjob

What a sense of dominance in this position! I love finishing like this…

 

And you, what is your favorite position in bed (or elsewhere)?

It’s hard, however, to select the best positions in bed and to find photos (not censurable now I mistrust) to illustrate …

See you soon !

PS = do not forget to take a look at The awesome lover’s manual ! 😉

I – How to make love to a woman ?

I write this introduction for the guys who are in the following state of mind “fucking her well or badly it is the same thing for me, the important is just to fuck her”. I want to become again an alcoholic to forget when I read things like that. First of all because if you know that you are one of the best fucks in town you necessarily convey more confidence. Then, because they tell it to their friends and it is advertisement for you héhéhé. Finally, because it is because of shitty mentalities like that that it is more and more difficult to have sex in France: the girls think by default that the dude doesn’t know how to fuck, thus to enjoy her body he has to show the money or other. What I want to say, it is that if it was “guaranteed orgasms every time”, the women would less be prayed and our value of man would raise. Capisch ? It is the state of mind I have and I can tell you that it is more constructive than the egoism and in addition when a girl put me a rake, I say to myself “go and get fucked by a fellow who doesn’t know how to do it and who we will lie to your to unlock your legs (95 % of chances) if it is what you prefer, you don’t even know what you miss when you do the malicious like that and you think you are clever :)… then you will say than men are all the same IE useless assholes!”

The second thing to know it is that the girls love sex but do not want to be denigrated (thought of as whores). The chicks are naughty but thus often give you advices to be artless, kind and submitted in long-term relationships. They will only very rarely admit what really turn them on and never confess that the bedtime they will remember till the end of their days, they did probably not have them with a shy and awkward man.”I love you as we like certain dark things, in a secret way, between the shadow and the soul.” Pablo Neruda

1) General state of mind

Being a good fuck, it is above all not being a bad fuck : you will be a lover at the same time bravely taking initiatives, comfortable and very sensual. I was inspired without having copied it by Eve O who gives very good advices in her book 267 conseils pour devenir le meilleur coup de sa vie as well as Nina Hartley.

2) The caresses

You have to caress them and kiss them often… and not only during the sexual act.

You can caress them with lips : vary the pressure, the rhythm and the opening. Have a good breath, so wash your teeth or take small fresh things full of mint. Avoid: cafe, cigarette, etc.

To caress them with your hands, have soft hands and thus hydrated. Rough hands will not optimize pleasant caresses. Be soft and sensual, do fluid movements and slide tenderly on the surface of her skin. Place your hand on hers when she caresses you to guide her… and she can do the same for you.

If you decide to make her a massage, you are not obliged to mass her only with your hands. More your body will be in touch with hers and more she will be warmed. You can even do it completely naked. You can improve this idea by using oils but try them before to be sure that they do not burn. Mass the thighs inside, outside and pass near her sex innocently. Take care of her butts then return towards her sex, then leave : turn her on until she begs you to take her! When hormones get the upper hand over the logical part of her brain, it is an extraordinary let go!

Be always on the lookout for her reactions: every woman is relatively different and according to the type of caress you use, you will meet more or less of success. You cannot guess!

As regards the caress of her sex: Begin by caressing her through underwear, you touch her, you turn all around, you cross your fingers around the clitoris. A thing which I also like to do to make them go nuts it is to lick them through their underwear and then when they cannot handle it any more move it a little to attack their sex. The saliva will be an excellent lubricant for your fingers which must be clean. She is then going to beg you to undress her (or will do it herself if the panties are too wet) ! Also play with the lips of her vagina, not only the vagina itself or the clit: watch her muscles contracting, it is funny. Vary the angles of attack and the speed and watch for her reactions. You have to judge what she likes most: breath, contractions, shivers, sighs, shouts (why not)…

To finger her, do not go as a horse there, anyway 80 % of the women are clitoral but that pleases them all the same (especially the association of both). Let’s go there slowly. Increase the number of fingers but not too much all the same to don’t hurt them. Small precision : your finger is not a penis (there are nails and everything thus attention). When you finger her, also try to stimulate the clitoris (thumb of the same hand or index+major of the other hand), this is the way you will totally drive her crazy. Do not be a pneumatic drill, it is not like that that they feel penetrated like by a penis: on the contrary, press downward, make a semicircle below as a swing … alternate all these techniques and be attentive to her reactions. This is key!

To give her the impression of penetrating into her like with your sex but just with your fingers, fold up the last two phalanxes as if you said “hey you come here” in her vagina. You will feel (normally) a kind of rough cavity, it is the place of the G-spot. To stimulate effectively the clitoris, make movements (rather circulars with your fingers or then with your tongue and maybe also a coming and going) faster and faster. When you feel she will come, slow down.

3) The cunnilingus

It is again something very subjective even if appears guiding common main lines. NB : some girls do not like that but the largest part THINK that they do not like that because no guy was able to do it in a correct and they were bored or had to feign pleasure. It is because I won several times the prize of the king of the cunni in Aix that I allow myself to develop this part.

If you have a doubt on your performance, ask her for the rhythm, the pressure when you play with the clitoris… some girls are really sensitive and that can hurt them or fear them especially when you start or at the approach of the orgasm. Attention with teeth like, just like she has to do it when she performs blowjob : respect. And do not blow in her vagina it may be dangerous: respect.

To begin: kiss her breasts, come down by kissing her small stomach, her navel then continue to come down to attack the point which interests us. It has to don’t be too easy for her, the anticipation is going to make rise her desire as in seduction. At the beginning, use your tongue to make the zone wet. By putting a pillow under her buttocks, you give her an ideal position. Do not blow in the vagina, it is very unpleasant. Explore the hidden recesses of her vagina and her lips with your tongue in mode “hard tongue”. Travel her sex of various manners, lick, penetrate, turn, lap, suck…

In fact, put your mouth as in duckface (it helps a little) and position it on her clitoris. Normally, you feel it under your tongue, as a small hard button… It is very rare that I had to go there blind because it was very discreet but by following the plan you know in which zone it has to be and that is enough (btw always being just on it is not optimal). I think that licking it is good but sucking is excellent too : suck her as she would suck your sex which would not be hard yet. No, that does not make you a fag. Mass her so as to make the blood come on her sex. You can tap above delicately (attention slowly). So that she gives you her rhythm, position your mouth on the clitoris and do not move, let her indicate you the angle. Put your fingers in her vagina (in mode “hey come here”) and move her body also while you suck her.

Continue: pay attention on the nonverbal communication which she sends back to you to know if she likes that. Continue what works! Place your fingers on her sex by making a V with the bottom towards buttocks and top towards the stomach: it is the zone of the cunnilingus.

At the end: if she approaches the orgasm, she can ask you to stop by tightening legs. I do not advise you to obey: make her enjoy like in a dream. If she does not return it to you, give all the same, for the pleasure to give (God will reward you). Do cunnis because you must show that you love your partner’s body. If the smell bothers you then breathe through your mouth but put out your nose so as you don’t stifle. Be careful if she is on her period, do not make me say what I did not say. If you have hair in the mouth, remove them discreetly… If really too much hair, remember that you do not HAVE TO lick.

Let her the choose to kiss you or not directly after your cunni (dry yourselves discreetly). It is an act of dominion because it is you who master her pleasure. Hold her firmly if she moves too much the legs because of the pleasure. If she ejaculates in your face during the cunni it is only some water, for information, that never happened to me thus don’t be afraid. Be resilient and successful: if you are bored, draw the alphabet on her sex. I advise you to put the condom during the cunni, neither seen nor known then you fuck her directly… Go down on her while she sleeps : queen’s alarm clock…

4) The penetration

2/3 positions, it is a good average. Turn her on before penetrating into her with your penis. Begin in penetrating into her slowly then push your sex. Start slowly then accelerate: There is a gradation. Idea : To turn by making circles with your sex in her vagina, that gives her some pleasure and that allows you to recover. Talk to her : steer her, share your pleasure with her. Laugh at pussy farts or pretend not having heard anything. Lead her by the hips. Try to stimulate her clitoris at the same time you penetrate into her : a good position is you on her because the pubis rubs the clitoris. Otherwise in doggy style for example, you can use one of your hands to do the same thing. Let her lead the penetration at her rhythm by giving her the commands in certain positions like doggystyle or side-saddle (mode “man object”). Alternate sweetness and firmness. Kiss her: neck, shoulders… Then, intensify your movements to lead her to the orgasm. It is difficult to know if what we did was appreciated if we have no feedback : talk (even if it is better if she congratulates you by herself just after like “that never happened to me before that it was soooo good” and I can tell to you that when that it happens regularly to you that gives you a fucking good inner game)! If you feel that she is going to come and that you are a player, stop and start again because the final orgasm will be multiplied tenfold! Stop everything while she has an orgasm, because she will enjoy it more than if you continue.

For the sodomy, speak about it with her : doggystyle or side-saddle advised.

5) Delay the éjaculation

– Make a break in the comings and goings ;
– Pressure on the perineum (area around between anus and testicles) ;
– Change position for a less exciting position for you ;
– Think of hard things like for example that she can twist your sex ;
– Catch yourselves the thigh discreetly (or the ear) ;
– Say to her that you will “cum” ;
– Contract your perineum, technique close to the tantric ;
– If you come before her, make her enjoy otherwise (cunni), do not leave your partner dissatisfied except when she is really blocked for specific reasons to her ;
– After having finished, take her a little in your arms.
NB : To be very hard strained and be able to reload easily, a good hygiene of life helps.

If you do not have orgasm when you ejaculate too much early it can be due to a lack of experience or relaxation. Orgasm and éjaculation are not necessarily connected. Thus, put in perspective your situation, even think of something else, do not take all this too seriously and you will do better next time… If she impresses you too much, here is craftiness: imagine her doing number two (try not to go limp all the same lol).

How to know if she enjoyed ? If she enjoys, observe the cramps on her stomach, observe her mouth for the shouts or the groans if she interiorizes, otherwise at the level of her sex, it opens more, becomes wetter and contracts a little. She can also catch hold of you or sheets.

6) Talk

Ask her what she would like to do next time.
What are her fantasies?
Tell her what you appreciated or not really liked.
Tell her that you need a small time of rest before being able to do it again.
Stay class: do not become vulgar like in a porn… except if she likes that.
On the other hand, be open-minded.

7) Other ideas

Savage :
– Use your nails (backs, buttocks) flat or edge, but short and filed ;
– Nibble her ;
– Maintain her wrists ;
– Grasp her neck ;
– Grasp the buttocks ;
– Catch her hair ;
– Stick her head to the pillow;
– Your warm breath in her ear;
– Put her small pats on buttocks (if she protests say to her that it is stimulating).

Sensitive places :
– Feet ;
– Hair, mass her hair by making small circles on the skull ;
– Hair, play with your fingers ;
– Brush her then intensify your movements on her back and buttocks ;
– Lob ear ;
– Hollow of the neck ;
– Approach your sex of hers or her butts then go back up casually ;
– The neck ;
– The breast (lick her or brush them) slowly and next to the navel ;
– To touch her sex, be careful to be wet (saliva) ;
– The folds of knees, elbows, ankles ;
– Ears, nape of the neck ;
– Thighs ;
– Shoulders.

Sexual games :
– Cover her eyes ;
– Attach her hands with her bra ;
– Write imaginary words in her back with your fingers ;
– Suck one of her fingers while you fuck her or put her one of yours in the mouth ;
– Look at you in a mirror ;
– Role-play ;
– Make love in improper places ;
– Make love with people next to you ;
– Make love on the ground or on the balcony in front of the street, or standing love ;
– Do quickies when you are in a hurry ;
– Make love in (appropriate) music ;
– Eat on her body;
– Use objects, watch a porn together ;
– Seduce without looking like it : after the shower do not get dressed at once, or stay topless on the terrace.

Accessories :
– Privilege the blue or sieved light ;
– Clean and not pierced boxer shorts: black will always be an excellent choice ;
– No bed which creaks, it is weird ;
– Candles can give a cool atmosphere ;
– Take a bath together or a shower ;
– No phone or do not answer ;
– Do not always make love with clothes : sometimes, just go under her dress.

8) Wide-spread feminine fantasies

– Being taken by a beautiful stranger that they will never see again ;
– The rape: passivity = loss of control = justification (but do not rape her but be persevering) ;
– The flagrante delicto: public place (parking, toilet, cinema) ;
– The uniform: policeman, serviceman, fireman… ;
– A love triangle with another man or with another girl for the most curious.

All this is not exhaustive, but practice it and you will become a better fuck than 95 % of the men. And they will thanks you for that ! In brief, that you look for a mother, for a girl or for a woman, fuck her well and she will ask for more of it ! Maybe that one day, the man “good fuck” will become as valuable on the market as the “hot girl”.

II – How to give orgasms to a girl ?

 

This article aims to make everyone happier in bed. In other words, I will give you my secrets, as Cyprineman. Orgasms guaranteed!

To follow this tutorial, you need:
– fingers ;
– a tongue ;
– a cock;
– a woman.

1) The power of your fingers (G-spot and clitoris)

Before fingering her, you have to warm up. I had already made two articles-videos:
– How to kiss a girl;
– The erogenous zones.
Feel free to watch it (again) !

Now, let’s go in the thick of it.

First, take the entire genital area with your hand (everything is important) but go easy… because everything is sensitive. It is later that you will specifically attack Mr. Clitoris.

First, pat the area over her jeans to tame her. Then open her pants and do it over her string. Then, when she will start to get wet, go under the last underwear.

You will be in contact with her most intimate skin, it is necessary that your fingernails are short and clean (it’s called respect). The first touch may be accompanied by a SMALL cringe, it is instinctive and normal : you know the privacy and extreme sensitivity of the area. Warning, if she says “NO”, it is a NO and stop everything : do not take the risk of being labeled a rapist.

The move to caress there… it’s either rub up and down or in a circular manner. Or around the clitoris or REALLY ON THE SPOT : all depends on the sensitivity of the girl!

To help, here are two little diagram to help you find the clitoris and the G-spot:

Once she is really wetted and open, you can finger her without hurting her. Do not hesitate to lubricate your fingers with your saliva a little more if necessary.

Start by using two fingers (index and middle). It’s most of the time enough. Some want 3 or 4 fingers but it is better to wait that women say they want more before trying it. When they guide us, that’s cool!

Do not completely take your fingers out of her vagina for up-and-coming but rather do a “hey come over here” type of movement. It’s a bit like scratching… To do well, always leaves at least two phalanges in the pussy and you can make back-out movements with the length of the third.

When fingering, we will try to tickle the G spot. If the girl is lying on the back, it is up, on the top of the vagina, a few centimeters away from the entrance only. You will recognize this area because the texture is different from the rest of the vagina, rougher. It is this stimulation that make some women ejaculate.

One can very well combine stimulation of the clitoris and G-spot: either by taking it with both hands or by using the thumb of the same hand. After a vaginal orgasm, a woman is often too sensitive to be touched up again, contrary to point G that can endure multiple consecutive orgasms. In fact, both orgasms give different sensations.

For details, watch the video demonstration:

 

2 / The power of your tongue (everything about cunnilingus)

Put one hand on her stomach with your thumb which pulls the skin up to release the clitoris (useful for girls who are not VERY sensitive). In addition, it will show you if the girl simulates because with one hand on her belly you will be able to feel her spasms during orgasm.

Lick, do like a cat drinking, with the tip of your tongue a bit hard.

We can also add fingers for the ultimate combo. This way, you will also see if her pussy tightens on your fingers (she contracts very strong at the moment of orgasm) and thus, again, we can find out if she really orgasmed or if she has simulated.

You can put a pillow under her buttocks for a more comfortable position.

Average time to come with something like this: 10 minutes.

Some women at the time of orgasm, have a kind of flight reaction, you will have the “force” them to enjoy, for their own good. It is the loss of control fear ! Themselves do not control this reaction…

After oral sex, you can wipe on her legs by kissing her, or on the sheets.

Ladies please do not hesitate to return the favor, especially if it’s just shyness that hold you back. There’s nothing worse than licking a selfish girl. Just as exciting is licking, sucking will make you really wet ! If you feel like it, of course…

Gentlemen if you think that licking is being subjected, it is a bad state of mind. To seduce: it’s better to love women, to love their bodies and want to give them orgasms. There’s no place for taboo : we do what makes us happy and pleases the others. The important thing is to give pleasure and take some!

Gender equality is that blowjob and cunnilingus, it’s equivalent. Too few women know that they can come with a cunnilingus. Too much believe that sex without love is zero. We need you to prove them wrong by being good lovers!

For details, see the demonstration video:

 

3 / The power of your cock (let’s fuck like a god)

Here we will see how to give orgasms with your cock. But it’s cool if she had some before you take her, with preliminary.

Some think 5 minutes of preliminary followed by a selfish penetration, it’s cool for a woman. Obviously not, you need to be a better lover than that! With you, women must have the chance to take off like crazy. It will give you a great value and you will really be confident…

Sex is not something men snapped to women who are nice enough to say yes. Good sex is a privilege that you accorde to some lucky girls : this is a good state of mind!

Some essential positions:

– The missionary with the lifted pelvis. She must take a position to make your dick slap her G spot.

– She on you, let her fuck you or fuck her. There’s the feeling of penetration and rubbing her clit.

– The doggystyle (with spanking if she likes it). She must arches her back, again to touch the right area.

You can stroke her clitoris and/or breasts while you take her. Buttocks too. You can also kiss the women. Women love the overall touch.

For details, see the demonstration video:

 

All my tips to make world a place of sexually fulfilled fuckers are grouped in The awesome lover’s manual ! Inside, I detail a lot more things, and there are several diagrams of the anatomy to better find your way. And numerous studies (including one on the real fantasies of women).

If it shocked you, too bad for you, but someone must do your sexual education and take your broom out of your ass. I’ve seen too many girls over 20 years who had never orgasmed… So gentlemen, it is your responsibility !!!

Sincerely,

Fabrice (the king of cunnilingus)

I – When should you kiss a girl ?

A major problem when we want to kiss a girl, but we don’t dare, is that we let our inner monologue govern us. Do not cut off from your feelings because of doubts and other questions. Our feeling should be our guide.

Our emotions are indicators of what is happening inside of us BUT ALSO are the keys to understand the person in front of us. We must let ourselves go a minimum to feel a little desire (which is contagious). And to do not get eaten by the pressure that we often put on ourselves unnecessarily.

The challenge should not take precedence over the game … The light and playful aspect of seduction should not disappear. Never a romantic date should be as dull and tight-ass as a job interview (and a job interview is not a romantic date so there’s a different behavior to be adopted).

It is better to go there with a clear idea of what you expect from the interaction : a good time with one or more pretty chicks, and don’t forget to create conditions conducive to flirt intimacy. Everything else will flow from that.

FUNDAMENTAL POINT – Once isolated with a girl: did she made you want to kiss her? It matters, that, too. You’re not so desperate that kissing any girl is a goal in itself, right? Kissing, it’s nothing seriously. If you are still counting the number of chicks you have kissed, then you are far awayyyyyyyyyyyy in your game. (Desecrate the kissclose please). Seriously, it’s good to go on a date with the idea, the objective to make out with her, but if in the meantime she shows she doesn’t deserve you it’s better to abandon the mission (if you’re sure that you’re not inventing false excuses to duck). Just as one begins his day with what pisses him off the most, you end your date with what requires the greatest effort.

It is important to communicate with your target on an empathic mode too. Do not only communicate on the explicit mode (meaning of words) but also a lot on the implicit mode (gestures, cum facial expressions, posture, tone of voice). Why is it important too? Because you will unconsciously or consciously both send to each other nonverbal signs of invitation to carnal pleasure. I refer in particular to prolonged glances, delicious silences, touches, smiles … so focus your attention on those little things that tell so much…

Wonder for example :
– Are you both in a bubble off of the world? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
– Is the tone of her voice soft? Is it becoming even softer? => YES? KISSCLOSE.
– How does she react to innuendo? Compliments? => OK? KISSCLOSE.

Instead, does she try to avoid proximity and why? Does she seems distracted or elsewhere? => Warning! (but it costs nothing to try anyway, but perhaps it is better calibrate and wait until later). Do not confuse speed with haste.

If you miss scoring chances, do not cut your veins. We all miss some. We all had a chance to initiate a first kiss but yet we did not. With or without having invented false excuses, either. However, let’s not kill ourselves and do not spend our time regretting the past. Let’s rather and seize the next opportune moment. Unfortunately, we remember more the negative than the positive, but if she gives a sign of disinterest interest for 10 signs it’s good nonetheless. It’s worth a try!

Do your eyes fall on the contour of her lips? Do you perceive in her a palpable disorder. A heat wave travels you. Damn: what is stopping you from taking a step toward her, moving a hand behind her neck and approaching your own lips? You are not even really listening to her now. The seconds pass, as long centuries.

If you did not kiss, you can have fun and recreate that magical moment. Or at least, the same conditions. Like “do you remember, earlier? We talked about […] and I felt […] I stopped listening to you, I do not know if you felt the same. I couldn’t take my eyes off of your bright eyes, your pretty lips and I wanted to”………………………… kissclose. Or, “earlier you maybe felt I really wanted to do that” ………………………………. kissclose.

Speak slowly and maintain her eye contact while doing that. Normally, if she wanted you 5 minutes before, she still wants. I say NORMALLY because they are people who are blocked by those guys “who did not have the balls to try”. But hey, in Top Gun, Tom Cruise purposely gets close of his target without trying to kiss her just to bring up sexual tension, and it works well, but he did it with a a playful and confident face. So never let her think you’re not in control nor confident.

BUT IF she refuses my kiss? The fear of embarrassment that would follow a refusal petrifies most men. It is the phobia to end up helpless without knowing where to hide or what to do nor say to regain capacity and credibility that often prevents men from giving it a try. The guys start by thinking about consequences, fuck who saw us? And to who will she tell it, this whore? They will laugh at me (or other paranoid delusions).

Detach yourself from it, guys. It happens to everyone… at least to those who have the balls to take action. BE PROUD BECAUSE YOU’VE TRIED YOUR LUCK (AND HERS)! It’s really more exhilarating than having tried nothing and coming back home with regrets in the pockets!

Why not just smiling at rejection, after all? Why not asking her if it had already happened to her and why? Most girls would like to kiss the first one but are scared to get rejected. So: they say that it is the role of the man to do so. So why not challenging her, “Listen if you want later, it will be your turn to try to kiss me, and maybe you’ll see how you feel when you try to kiss someone who likes it… you feel like high ! It gives you a crazy energy! ”

(Take of course the ideas but change the words, I typed it as it came.)

The reaction to the rejection is paramount. Any PUA will tell you that. I speak well about it in The inconvenient truth about gender relations : for some women, rejecting you once is a test, and they will accept later if you do not get cold feet nor insult her, don’t call her “bitch”.

I think flirting is an act of cooperation. I do not like the girls who play the “man” and like confrontation. I prefer it to be played by the two of us and that we go together until the orgasm, each one making an effort. I understand the shit-tests and tolerate them if they are not excessive but after it pisses me off and I have the impression that the girl is trying to find excuses to avoid spending a good time. I think the bitches who are waiting for me to do all the work or play it like a princess while they are not Kate Middleton do not deserve me. I love the girls who have will and strength of character.

In a nutshell: let’s not forget to be present in the moment in order to pay attention to the little signs that reveal an invitation. Then, only remains to pick the ripe fruit (I speak of course of her apricot).

Let’s trust ourselves. Let’s abandon ourselves to our feelings rather than construct disaster-scenarios. I like kissing chicks anytime too, even when they expect it the least. I find it funny (game rather than issue). And there are people who cannot show their interest or are too shy/tight-ass to do so. I would say: the best time to kiss a girl is when you feel like it.

A good kiss with sexual tension can even make you hard. Especially if you fiddle her in the same time. If you’re hard, it’s okay, I think she will be flattered!

Go now, and do not forget to tease her: that tough love!

II – How to be a good kisser ?

A lot of my readers want to know how to kiss a girl; how to bring and make a success of the kissclose. Moreover, more than a PUA beginner finds himself blocked in the stage of the Kissclose (The best example is Style in his early stages for those who have read The Game).

Let’s do things in the order. Before seeing HOW kissing a girl, let’s see WHEN to kiss her. You know it, to seduce a girl, everything is question of timing. It is not for nothing that Mystery created a method of seduction divided in so many small stages. A girl can leave you a window of shooting (a chance), but if you do not seize it, not leaving you a second one. So, you can come before more beautiful and sexier guys if they are pussies who do not dare to stick her to a wall and to eat her lips. Because knowing and daring to act is an alpha behavior.

The stage of the kissclose does not escape this rule and is a part of the seduction. You should not wait too much at the risk of becoming a Nice guy in the eyes of the young lady whom you desire, nor rush to don’t scare her off. (n.b. : The situation is always nevertheless easier to catch up if you acted too early than if you acted too late).

It will belong to you to estimate the situation according to the personality of your target, her body language, and the environment (place, persons present, atmosphere). Sorry but I can’t be more precise than that because every interaction is unique. It’s up to you to calibrate. But never forget that a kiss close has to be the continuation of a sexual tension: do not try cold kissclose. Except if it’s just to have fun (But for that is needed a fucking pair of corones all the same thus we will speak about it another time because we make bases here). A trick which helped well me in my early stages: I gave myself a purpose: I said to myself that come what may at the end of the date I would kiss her.

You thus have to create enough comfort and attraction so that miss is ready (at least unconsciously) for a physical proximity with you. If you wish to accelerate things, bet on a good conversation and control your touches (kinos). Kinos are essential to kissclose because they allow to test the reaction of the young lady to your contact, and to create an intimacy. If she reacts well to your kinos, in theory, you will kiss close more easily.

Kiss-openers : When to kiss

The question that many men have in mind, is: how to kiss the girl during the phase of seduction. There are very numerous possibilities, to be adapted according to your personality.

*The kissclose like Beigbeder. You : « I bet you a glass of champagne that I can kiss you without touching your lips » after some negotiations, she should accept, tell her to close eyes and…. Kiss her passionately without waiting for her reaction.

* After a dinner / drink: You : « you have a lot of chocolat (café,…) on the chin ». Remove delicately the imaginary tracks with your fingers, shake them in grumbling and say: « fuck, they are not working » and go next to her to kiss her.

*You : « Listen, I saw well that you want to kiss me, but I think that it is a little bit too soon » Her : « Hein, what ?! not at all » You : « Really, well after all you are right, why waiting more ?! »

*You : « I spend a very good moment. I think that if you were a brunette/blonde (say the opposite of what she is) I would already have kissed you » Her : « ????? » You : « Yeah, unfortunately, the Brunettes/blonde women (what she is) are bad kissers » Her : « It’s not true » well, after that neg-hit, she will in theory be easier to kiss. Or then if she is not enough confident, she will be angry and you will lose everything. So pay attention on your calibration when you neg.

*The Mystery’s kissclose : You : « We are going to play a game about trust. You have to place your lips at 2 cms of mine, but, obviously do not try to kiss me ! ». Then kiss her.

Say it with a languishing body language (look at her straight in the eyes, half-smile), just what is needed to make miss wet. This game allows to invert the role and to be a little more the one who is desired (the “prize”). Make the first step, and get closer in 2cm to her. But let to the young lady the choice to finalize or not. We so learn more about miss (does she takes initiatives?)

*At the time of leaving: «We give each other a kiss on the cheek or we assume our attraction? ». « Cordial handshake or soft kiss? » (kiss opener you can try when you are really confident).

You : « So, what do you wanna do now? » Her : « IDK, and you? » (Here is a typical answer of women) You : « you’ll see » and kiss her.

They are only examples, but I think that they will give you an idea of the quantity of sentences and psychological approaches (playful, alpha, not interested,…) which can help to kiss close. There are ideas which suit to everybody !

Take the initiative to kiss her

Apparently, at the time of kissing your target, it’s up to you to make the first step. But at the crucial moment, it is easy to be invaded by the fear of the failure… In the point to be paralyzed and do nothing… What always leads to the fiasco: a woman often prefers to let you die on-the-spot fear rather than to make the first step if she is not sure that it is mutual. She will certainly be disappointed that you didn’t found the courage, but never at the point of taking the initiative herself. Why? Well, because if you are incapable to assume your desires, then you are not the kind of man she is looking for. Consequently, when comes the moment to act, take your courage in two hands and make “the first step” : She will be very grateful to you for it…

Having said that, I sometimes take initiatives with other things than my mouth (especially my hands/words) to the point that it is her who kisses me first because she cannot handle it any more. Besides, it is good because we give them some validation when we kiss them, that way we give them less, and it is still better to do it at home to be then able to sleep with her. It is not rare, especially in a club, that a girl can “content” with having been kissed by a guy and with not trying to go “more deeply” in the relation.

Pure technique

It is impossible to describe a perfect kiss, because it results more from an alchemy between both partners than from a particular technique. Do not think, and forget yourself. A very effective technique to kiss a girl consists in approaching her to kiss her… and to pause for a moment before touching her lips. Look at her in eyes with a little smile… And kiss her. This ultimate tension should break all her barriers and activate a tsunami of hormones in the panties of the young lady. Make her dream, or live kisses of cinema, etc.

Besides, at first, do not put your hands on her buttocks or other too intimate places. Walk them in the hollow of the back and on the nape of her neck, zones of the feminine body which are very sensitive while staying on the territory of the gentleman…. And do not kiss only with your mouth, also use your hands, and not always in the same way (more passionately, more slowly, nibble, lick, kiss, with or without the tongue, in the neck, etc.) Imagine your are a vampire.

Bottom line : bottom line, kissing can be perceived like “not a big deal” or like a commitment. Attention ! Btw, what does it mean for you ?

III – 5 things you should avoid when kissing a girl

First, we must know and admit that a good kiss is more dependent on the chemistry between the two partners who kiss than on a pure technique.

However, even if there is no real connection between you and the girl you kiss, which can happen from time to time, it does not matter. You can still make this moment a pleasant one.

For this, what you’ll do is you’ll lead. You will impose your way of kissing enough time to better know each other. Then the two of you will be adapt a little bit to the other.

Moreover, at first do not put your hands on her buttocks or boobs (that’s boorish). Stroll in the small of her back, her hips, her neck, take her face in your hands… These are territories that remain the domain of the gentleman but that still are very erotic and erogenous.

Do not use your hands and do not always kiss the same way. You can kiss her more or less passionately, with or without tongue, more or less tighten your grip while you kiss, nibble his lips or her ear lobe, you can lick her neck… so many ways to make your kiss a preliminary!

A good kiss, in general, it’s one lip over the other. It’s not like that (we are not in a comic):

 

Once you’ve kissed a bit like that, you can open a little bit more your mouth to see if the girl will follow you. And once the mouth is a little more open, you can try to go and play with her tongue. Do not put directly it in the back of her throat, you will see gradually if she follows. It is useless to turn your tongue during 107 years, it is better to give several short kisses.

Top 5 of things you should avoid when you kiss :
– The knock of teeth in a hurry (that’s often front teeth that hit);
– The soup of tongue (oral rape) : washing machine 1200 rpm (not including spin) + drooling;
– Blowing while you are kissing (true story);
– Eating her lower lip like a wild sometimes up to leave scars there (they are people who love but that well);
– The kiss of the two who keep their eyes open and who look at each other in the eyes with the eyes of a Tarsier.

 

You must know that spanking has a literary dimension: it is found in literature for men and women throughout the ages. From the Confessions of Jean-Jacques Rousseau to Fifty Shades of Gray…

You should also know that, like the dirty talk, many women love spanking. It is not because they want to protect their image and be thought of as whores that we must lie to ourselves: a good spanking, it spices up the sex.

Moreover, even if a spanking establishes a kind of relationship of dominance between the man and the woman, it is not a hardcore BDSM practice.

How to successfully spank a women?

First of all, during sex, do not ask a woman for permission to spank her. If you want to talk about this topic with her, for example in order to ask her for permission, do not do it in the middle of the action at the risk of breaking the atmosphere (I think it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission). Do as if it was something normal, natural… we are not there to make her feel that she is a deviant or none of all that.

Also demonstrate adaptability: feel the ground, put your hand on her buttocks, give a little pat during the action… and, if she reacts well, increase in intensity. If you go very strong from the start, your partner is likely to get scared, feel humiliated and it can cut everything off.

If your girl seems closed to the idea of ​​being punished by your powerful hand, if she says “no”, it is no. We must respect women and the sexuality of each one.

Then, from the moment you start, assume your pat on her rump completely. A good spanking stimulates the blood, it’s bestial and it shows that you know how to let go. Aim for the fleshy part of the buttocks… and do not tap on the bone, otherwise you risk hurting yourself.

By the way, remember that you are not spanking your kid: it must remain something exciting and not incestuous. A good spanking can transmit an enormous amount of sexual energy.

If you tap with the fingertips, you will whip it. It’s going to hurt her. The best thing for a woman is to go with the palm of your hand. You can then release your grip or grasp the buttock in full hand. It’s something very animal (and yet animals do not do it in nature so it also differentiates us from them).

Finally, know that you can spank your woman in other positions than doggy style (for example when she is on you), but that this remains my preferred position because a doggy without spanking is like a rap without a dirty word.

Erectile dysfunction: this is a very sensitive subject but that concerns many men, especially over age 40. It is also an almost taboo subject, because loss of erection rhyme for many people with loss of virility (sometime people talk about “sexual impotence”).

Let’s agree from the start : it can happen to everybody, from time to time, to do not be able to get hard or to keep it hard. It may be because of special circumstances, a partner’s fat ass, and so on. But if you notice a persistent decrease in your erectile power (more than three months), it should be checked that this is not the result of a heart problem. For this, consult your general practitioner. Besides, if the doctor is a hot girl, naked under her blouse, chances are you’ll quickly find your hard dick back!

Once you know that this is not a “serious” problem, you can look into the most likely causes of this problem. Most of the time, the difficulties to get hard are due to an anguish, a malaise. Its treatment usually does not require medication nor even to consult a urologist. The professionals probably most likely to help you are therefore a sexologist… and Cyprineman.

I will now do my part of the job by giving you tips for a better, a harder, a more powerful erection. It’s up to you whether you want to use them or not!

 

Physiologically

First of all, you have to know that the cock gets blood (like a sponge) when the vessels relax… and that’s what makes it big and hard.

1/ Bodybuilding

It is important to muscle your cock by getting it hard regularly… understand, by fucking often. As it is a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it is.

It may also be appropriate to muscle your PC muscle to increase the pressure in the dick and make it harder (and also a little bigger). I have already spoken of this muscle in my article about the ejaculatory control: have a look there for more information.

2/ Physical fitness

We do not fuck with the same energy at any moment of the day. Indeed: when we wake up, we are a bit pasty; After the meals, we are digesting; And in the evening we are exhausted. At night, when we get home from a club at 5am, it is rarely the moment when we are the most valorous. The best times of the day to have sex are actually: late morning or in the afternoon after digestion.

Lack of sleep, hunger and physical fatigue are two (fuck, three) enemies of the hard erection. So do not workout in a hardcore way before a fuck because you’ll need energy to get it very hard. On the other hand, some sports raise testosterone levels and are sexually exciting. I assume that the effect of sport is to be assessed on a case-by-case basis.

On the other hand, there is no doubt that having a good diet, especially avoiding alcohol and drugs, contributes to good health and therefore a good erection (I only recommend the small blue pill as a last resort).

3/ The cold

One stimulation technique is to pass a cold stroke on the perineum before having sex to cool the balls, which stimulates the whole area… including the penis. But I rarely do it because it’s not logistically easy.

4/ The clothes

It is also important not to over compress your cock. For example, sleep naked instead of wearing a boxer that squeezes it.

Personally, when I have problems to get hard, it is enough that the girl sucks me so that I get hard like a bull. It makes wet and hot sensations that remind the pussy and that’s what turns me on the most… it works every time. Like what, there is indeed a physiological AND a psychological dimension to the erection.

 

Psychologically

The whole mechanism of the erection is orchestrated by the brain. At each moment, the state of the penis is the result of a balance between excitatory and inhibitory signals.

5/ Visualization (imagine a hot girl blowing you)

One technique you should test to improve your erection is to practice positive visualization. To imagine fucking like crazy the ass of a hot chick. Basically, to excite yourself thanks to thought.

In any case, do not cut the visual excitement if you have erection problems, such as being shy and fucking in the dark (unless you have to fuck with an elephant).

6/ Stress

Avoid stressing or thinking about not horny things. For example, if instead of thinking about your friend’s ass, you are thinking about your problems at work, it may remain soft.

We must not stress too much, thinking that if we cannot get hard, it will be a drama. Anyway, you can always give pleasure with something other than your cock : your fingers, your tongue. Besides, ladies, I suggest you adopt a reaction similar to the one you should adopt in case of premature ejaculation: do not stress the guy, it will not help him. I refer you again to this article to know how to react if it ever happens to you.

7/ The routine

Finally, excitement does not like routine. So, try some original tricks to put some spice in your couple or change your wife if you have not yet built serious things together… and do not masturbate too much!

 

In conclusion, put all the chances on your side physiologically speaking to be in shape. And find what turns you on psychologically to have a powerful libido. With me, the threesomes with two girls, it works well! 😉

The foursomes with three girls too !!! Have a look there 😉

1. Definition

“Squirting” or female ejaculation refers to the liberation of a woman’s fluid at the moment of her orgasm.

This can range from a tiny bit of liquid to a great abundance. This fluid is different from cyprin (“wet”) but is not just piss (it is a secretion of Skene’s glands and very diluted urine).

 

2. What kind of women can ejaculate?

Squirter is not an anomaly or a disease. Many people ignore it but ALMOST every WOMEN are potentially a FOUNTAIN. Some make this experience regularly, others exceptionally, the latter never do.

Just like for a man who wants to become multi-orgasmic, the mind has an important place. But the physical also matters, and more precisely, the strength of the muscles of the pelvic floor (the “PC muscles”).

Thanks to a set of relaxation exercises, anatomical recognition and sensation training, it is possible for almost all women to master their ejaculation.

For the anecdote, last year, I went to an erotic show and attended the filming of a porn movie. The actress ejaculated in front of the crowd with a “simple” stimulation of the clitoris. This is what makes me say that there is a great psychological part in female ejaculation.

 

3. How to make a woman ejaculate?

A. The Mind:

I met a “real” fountain woman in Lyon a few months ago. She told me that she became one overnight.

Before becoming one, when she had an orgasm with a man, she felt that something did not come out completely, and that it remained like a desire to pee. To put it another way, she felt that the process of orgasm was incomplete. In fact, many women have a retrograde ejaculation at the moment of orgasm (these are the ones that will immediately pee after sex)… but with work, they can become “fountains”.

It happened to her for 2 years when I met her and she told me that her sex life has been totally revolutionized thanks to it! She now enjoys a lot more when she sleeps with guys, the orgasms are faster to come, more powerful and she can have several orgasms in a row more easily. According to her, it’s very psychological, this squirt story. She told me she could even ejaculate just by caressing her breasts.

She may have exaggerated a bit but I do not think she told me bullshit: when I fucked her, she asked me to go out just before she ejaculated so that it was optimal for her! It is a relatively transparent liquid, and a little hot, that I saw spring (there was not as much pressure as in a fire lance but it squirts a little in fits and starts). And she orgasmed like that a dozen times a few minutes apart before smoking a cigarette and falling asleep.

To achieve this, according to her, the three main psychological pitfalls are:
– let go, go beyond the impression that the girl is going to urinate (this is not the case but the sensation is kinda similar);
– be comfortable, don’t afraid of being considered a fairground beast because of this ability;
– relax (sometimes a good massage is required) and prepare a towel or another protection for the sheets.

 

B. Physics:

To ejaculate, the girl must be excited, have muscular PC muscles and receive adequate stimulation.

It will be necessary to stimulate the G-spot, which will not be satisfied by a simple pressure or a vibration but which will require slight reciprocating movements in addition to the pressure.

We begin by caressing the clitoris, because it is super nice for the girl, and it gently awakens the entire vaginal zone, it titillates the thousands of nerve endings of the vagina that will become reactive to every stimulations.

Then we slip a certain number of fingers (depending on the tastes and preferences of the woman – two or three in general) that we put on her G-spot. Then, gently circle all the G-spot.

Finally, always with our fingers, we tap the G-spot, put pressure on it, slowly first then we accelerate the rhythm. We can stimulate the clitoris with the other hand at the same time, if we want. We tap and press fast on the G-spot, with fingers hooked inside.

 

When she feels that the orgasm is coming with force and crash, the girl must push hard. If she feels like a urge to urinate, it’s normal, it’s the imminence of gushing that does this: she must know she will not urinate, she will just squirt. But if she does not make a pretty fountain, don’t worry, she will piss this liquid safely into the toilets. The squirt, in fact, it’s learning how to expel this fluid at the moment of orgasm. It is a kind of liberation for women.

If you do not succeed in (making) squirting the first times you try, do not waste your time worrying and try again. It’s not easy, but the good side of the deal is that it does not hurt anyone to try (it’s even good for women).

 

4. The Porn

Be careful, do not be fooled by the image that the porn movies give of squirt. I suppose that, just like for a man, orgasm and ejaculation are not inseparable: for women, orgasm does not necessarily result in this emission of liquid, and this emission is not either necessarily linked to an orgasm (although this is usually the case).

Moreover, it must be said that some relatively impressive squirt effects in porn movies are perhaps just the result of a fake (they do this because it is a fantasy for some men).

The last thing to know is that some women can be “fountains” but do not squirt. Some simply flow…

Regarding the amount of ejaculated fluid, it depends on the woman and the context. This is usually around 50ml.

Feel free to comment if you’ve lived a fountain experience!

So that a girl likes having sex with you, she must have enough time to enjoy. We will talk today about the solutions to premature ejaculation, about what attitude to adopt (for the man like for the woman) if you find yourself in this situation and about ejaculatory control.

We’re only going to talk about male ejaculation here because it’s a huge subject, but maybe I’ll talk about female ejaculation another day (because there’s a lot to say too).

 

Premature ejaculation

Not all sexologists agree on the definition of premature ejaculation. In general, it is said that a guy is premature ejaculator if he ejaculates in less than 2 minutes whether there is penetration or not. In any case, it will be said that it is a question of premature ejaculation when the ejaculation happens before that one or the other of the partners wishes it.

The problem of premature ejaculation is common: it affects 20 to 25% of men at some point in their lives. We talk about premature ejaculation when the man has always ejaculated uncontrolledly, since his first sexual intercourse, despite a long experience and repeated sexual intercourse, with stable partners. Another type of premature ejaculation is when a man who had no problem controlling his ejaculation suddenly finds himself confronted with this problem repeatedly. Often, this kind of premature ejaculation is as a result of an emotional shock. When it happens once in a while, exceptionally, it does not matter, it can happen to everyone depending on the situation and the state of health. For example if you have fantasized your whole life on a chick and you finally fuck her, I do not give you much of a chance.

Very few people talk about their problems with their cock because it’s a taboo subject, directly related to our pride as a man… and yet it’s very important! If you are early or you do not last enough to your taste, I will suggest some solutions. In any case, know that the average time of a penetration is between 5 and 7 minutes (it varies according to the studies that were conducted).

Before the action:

– try to have a healthy lifestyle because fatigue and/or stress are responsible for a lot of sexual problems (such as coming too fast or not getting hard) ;
– some masturbate before seeing a chick, in my opinion it helps a little to last longer but it is not a viable solution in the long run. I happened I fucked two chicks in a row and yet if the second one turned me on more, I could come faster in the second than in the first chick. So, I think masturbating before has to help a little because it can help you decompress but I do not think it really influences the ejaculatory mechanism ;
– it seems that that taking certain medications such as serotonin reuptake inhibitors (a certain type of antidepressants) may help to last longer but it is not a solution that I recommand you because it is neither good for health nor a viable solution over the long term;
– get used to fuck beautiful chicks in order to do not be too excited when you’ll find yourself in situation (you will thus become more confident and be more relaxed).

During the action:

– try to play on your breath to calm down your body and prevent the whole mechanism from racing;
– I have never tried condoms special for premature ejaculators so I cannot talk about it;
– warn the girl you are going to orgasm, it can help to de-dramatize and therefore paradoxically sometimes to last longer;
– take breaks: when you feel that you are approaching the point of no return (the moment when ejaculation is inevitable), let yourself go down. While you “save time”, you can continue to stimulate her with your fingers or your tongue (to release the pressure without destroying the atmosphere). Then you can take her again for a little while! ;
– focus your attention on something other than her ass: for example by pinching an ear or buttocks or thinking of something not horny at all (like your grandmother naked). That said, I am not really fan of this technique because I find it is still a pity to don’t appreciate what we have before the eyes when it is a pretty naked and wild girl;
– fuck in positions that put your body in physical difficulty (we ejaculate more easily in missionary/doggy style than in acrobatic positions like when we are back to a wall and we carry the girl);
– you can delay the cumshot by pressing the point to a million dollars, pulling on the scrotum, compressing the tip of the penis or just using your mind to exert this compression;

– finally, you can tie a knot with your cock (no, do not try I was joking).

If ever you come too quickly, communicate to reduce the tensions due to discomfort! Reassure the girl by saying that you will take care of her during the second round. You can also lick her or finger her G-sport/her deep spot, so you have time to reload.

The best are the understanding babes who do not make derogatory comments (it can happen to everyone and we would like to see them there) and wait a few minutes that the guy get hard again without putting pressure on him (that would be counterproductive). Do not say “oh I do not understand it’s the first time” (even if it’s true) because it’s a cliché! To get hard again faster, recharge your batterie if you need to (eat, drink, take a shower), do not hesitate to touch yourself a bit, think of exciting things you want to do to the chick and/or you want her to do to you.

 

Ejaculatory control

What if I told you now that orgasm and ejaculation are not necessarily linked? Yes, it is possible to orgasm by keeping your erection and without ejaculating! This has the potential to make a man become multi-orgasmic (like women are who  can often have several orgasms one just after the other).

I know well that popular belief is that ejaculation = orgasm. But, in fact, orgasm is triggered in the brain while ejaculation is only the consequence of a physical reflex. And, like any reflex, one can learn to control it. I have already lived this kind of experiments and I have a friend who uses this technique: it does not work every time for him, but it works most of the time and it is impressive. Sex sessions invigorate him instead of tiring him.

Preparation for injaculation (non-ejaculatory orgasm):

– training to recognize your point of no return approach by masturbating;
– work your PC (pubo-coccygeal) muscle so that it is powerful enough to prevent ejaculation at the moment of orgasm.

In the moment :

– when you are reaching the point of no return, contract as much as you can your PC muscle for 10 seconds and open your eyes;
– breathe deeply then resume your movements back and forth. Your body will then reach orgasm but you won’t ejaculate (if you have succeeded).

If you want a list of exercises to train yourself to become multi-orgasmic and more explanations about ejaculatory control, I suggest you read:
– The Multi-Orgasmic Man, Mantak Chia & Doublas A. Arava
– How to make love all night, Barbara Keesling

As always, do not forget that we are all different and that it is up to you to experiment until you find what works for you.

To conclude, ejaculation is not always synonymous with orgasm. Especially in case of premature ejaculation, the man suffers as much as his partner. It is not a matter of egoism: the less understanding a woman will be with man, the less he will be able to satisfy her. On the other hand, this does not mean that men are exempt from seeking solutions to their problem, for a better harmony in their relationships.