Category: Seduction techniques

When we want to approach a girl, when we are with a chick and hesitate to kiss her (or simply to sexualize the interaction), a little voice in our mind almost always whispers apologies to tempt us to do not act.

These excuses make people hesitate, procrastinate and sometimes even cause unpleasant physical sensations in some people (stress rises, heartburns, febrile legs, trembling voice) because of the internal conflict they create: basically, you wanna take action, but at the same time, you prevent yourself from doing it.

Thanks to these shitty excuses, the man can do nothing without too much remorse. Yes, it is much simpler to invent apologies than to confront fears … but it is not satisfactory. When we do this, somewhere in us, we realize that we are lying.

Where do these excuses come from?

Because we are a rather “intelligent” race, we tend to think and find excuses instead of following directly our first thought. This is the bad side of an evolved brain. My dog and my cat, for example, when they want to see someone, they go straight and jump on him or her without asking themselves many questions. To overcome your blockages, it would therefore be necessary to stop thinking too much and act!

Examples of excuses:

– I do not have time to go out and pickup right now, I’m too busy (when in fact… no…)
– I will not approach this girl, I’m already talking to another girl by texts on my phone, it would not be polite…
– Well… I’ll talk to her later, when she will no longer be with her friends who could judge me…
– I can not try to kiss her, I did not wash my teeth at noon…
– I have not showered since last night, I can not fuck her… and then, anyway, I jerked yesterday so I do not really have desire…

How can this silly little inner voice be silenced?

1/ Unfortunately, we can not silence our inner voice. On the other hand, we can don’t give a shit about what she tells or even take some malicious delight in contradicting her. Frankly, between us, it’s up to the girl to decide if she wants to kiss you or not, whether you have your teeth clean or not, so try your luck and you’ll see !!! Do not decide for people based on what you think they think…

2/ Another solution is to replace this inner voice which finds excuses by a voice that says more constructive things, for example “put one foot in front of the other, walk towards this beautiful blonde, look at her in the eyes and talk to her.”

3/ One can also sing or talk to a buddy so that the small inner voice can not express itself by saying negative things. It is in fact easier to control your inner voice than your external voice… and, fortunately, the two are struggling to express themselves at the same time!

How to dare?

At first, it is normal to sometimes be afraid to take action and seek to justify it afterwards. But to progress in seduction and move on in life, it is imperative to take a positive step.

The best solution is to decide something and do it. Set rules and stick to them, whatever the situation. In any case, the perfect situation does not often exist, so it’s better to adapt to a present situation rather than to fantasize on better conditions. However, because self-discipline often isn’t often enought, other avenues must be considered.

1/ One solution is to practice until you get sick of not getting there. Then, to get angry with yourself because you still do not dare to do what you want to do. Most men make the mistake of giving up when they get upset while it is a very powerful source of energy that can be exploited. Sometimes I force myself to approach at the beginning of the session (because the fear of the approach is and will surely always be there) but I do not expect anything from the chicks to whom I speak (I am in the game more than in the stake ). I do my act, I get rejected and I see it as a warm-up. Then I get upset because I realize that the fear of approach is useless. And it is often once warm that I no longer feel social fear and that I try some very daring things that sometimes work. Note that desensitization to social rejection also works with alcohol but I do not advise you to drink because it is very bad for health. And because a drunk guy is not very sexy.

2/ Some people overcome their fear of approach through small rituals or fetishes that allow them to motivate themselves and find enough courage to overcome their fears. Personally, I like to calm down before so I start playing on my breath, taking long inspirations/expirations.

3/ Frequenting and going out with people who are in the community of seduction can also help you get started. Indeed, with them, the social pressure is reversed and it is the fact of not approaching that becomes unacceptable. With my friends, sometimes we go out and slap every time we do not dare to approach a sexy chick. Sometimes, too, we give our money to a guy, and he gives it back to us little by little when we approach or kiss a girl. I can guarantee you that it motivates to move your ass!

4/ Another solution is to use the 3 seconds rule that Mystery has developed in The Game : to approach within 3 seconds when one sees a girl so as not to have time to have negative and parasites thoughts.

5/ You can also try to think differently. Instead of wanting to get something from the chicks (their validation or their pussy), tell yourself that you offer them the opportunity to meet an alpha guy and a good lover. You will be more confident with such a state of mind…

6/ You may very well choose not to think about the interaction. Do not try to imagine what might happen. Your philosophy would be to always try your luck “I wonder what would happen if I did this… ah well I will try…” This way is very instructive, we learn a lot about the possibilities by doing so (know that most people feel limited by a glass jail)!

7/ To finish, a technique that I have used for a long time is to systematically try to kiss or take the number of all the girls I approached and that I liked a little. So, I did not even do it really for the girl, but for me. As a challenge on myself. Who knows ? It could work for you too…

Anyway don’t forget that when one tries to repress the feeling of fear, it is increased. Then acknowledge that you are afraid and accept this fear. It’s normal to be afraid… But if you do nothing, this fear will NOT disappear as if by magic! Accepting to have been afraid once or twice, it’s OK. On the other hand, accepting to undergo this fear all your life, NO!

I advise you to try different things until you find what works for you. Do not get discouraged and do not forget that, as I often say “the most beautiful adventures take place outside our comfort zone…”

If you are really blocked, you can start by approaching a girl by asking her for the time or whatever (or a drink if it’s a waitress in a club). Not to pick her up but to warm you up. Do this several times, and when you are “hot”, approach chicks to really seduce them more frankly. By dint of approaching, you will end up enjoying a certain momentum and you will be more or less uninhibited. But beware, disinhibition does not last long and the fear of approach comes back to different degrees!

Daring to approach chicks is easier when we have a good mentality, when we say that if we do not go it is that we are a fag. Thinking “upside down” in relation compared with the mass of people (who think it is unthinkable to approach unknowns) by convincing yourself that many chicks would be delighted to be approached by a seductive guy as you helps a lot… Well, accept to being perfect and … go!

Is there valid excuses?

Finally, do not make me say what I did not say. There are still valid excuses: for example, if you are really late for work, if she is holding a guy’s hand, for example… or if she has a penis… you have to be discerning! Be scandalous if you want but do not do anything either. Be reasonable but courageous and open-minded !

Are there truly pick-up techniques or do you just have to work on yourself to improve your lifestyle and communication skills?

To try to see more clearly, I have listed 10 (recognized) techniques of seduction and I will analyze them.

Pick-up Technique 1: Frame and reframing

This is about mastering communication in general and living in a reality of male alpha to try to be happy and attract women in this reality that highlights you. For me, it’s mainly NLP and communication.

Pick-up Technique 2: the prizing

It is a question of not accepting the status of a man who is sex-sstarved and who must do everything to obtain the favors of women. You must understand that you are a man who has value and you must respect yourself. It is a story of communication with yourself.

Pick-up Technique 3: storytelling

It is a matter of learning how to tell the stories in such a way as to give emotions to your interlocutors. This is especially important when you tell erotic stories to the chicks to warm them. 100% communication.

Pick-up Technique 4: the kino

Touching a person makes you look more sympathetic in her or his eyes, this has been proved many times by numerous studies. This is again a story of interpersonal communication.

Pick-up Technique 5: Make her feel unique

Even if you bet a lot on the statistics and you pick-up a lot of women at the same time… it is important to make them feel unique to maximize your chances of concluding! This is a simple understanding of the opposite sex.

Pick-up Technique 6: Invite the girl at home and raise sexual tension

To do this, one must already have a “home” (question of lifestyle), have the nerve to invite a chick (so you need a little nerve that you can acquire by working on yourself) and make a kinesthetic escalation. This is about understanding what sexual tension is and learning to play with, not being destabilized by it and exciting the woman in the good way. Above all, it is a question of understanding the world around us.

Pick-up Technique 7: Sexy humor

I dedicated an entire ebook to sexy humor. It’s a question of communication!

Pick-up Technique 8: The relax body language

I dedicated an entire ebook to body language. This is obviously a question of communication!

Pick-up technique 9: Ttwo steps forward, one step back

Learning to do double-edged compliments, to practice two steps forward, one back to make things easier to accept, it’s a communication skill. We find the same techniques in psychology, sales, marketing, etc.

Pick-up Technique 10: Having the nerve and assuming

To attract women like light attracts butterflies, you must have a good lifestyle (or be very sexy). Nevertheless, it is useless to attract girls if we cannot conclude with. So it takes nerve and assume your sexuality to get to have the sex life of your dreams.

To finish, I leave you with the video “Seduction = manipulation?“

What about the behavior of a person who tends to move away when you get closer and get closer when you get away from her?

Many men and women use the “Treat ’em mean, keep ’em keen” voluntarily as a method of seduction… But, moving away from the person desired to attract her, is it really an effective seduction technique?

Bad state of mind

The widening gap between men and women is due to this kind of behavior that blurs communication and makes it impossible to understand the other one. Personally, if my accomplice had not shown me any interest when I met her, I would have gone away to find another girlfriend.

People think that the technique works because it pricks the ego of the person (his pride) and that is what makes him go out of his way to get the attention of the person who flees.

But it does not count with three things:

1) Sometimes people are not confident and will not insist on women or men who pretend to be indifferent. So if the guy is an interesting guy but a little shy, the girl who plays this petty little game risks discouraging him and losing big. Same thing for a guy who would like to seduce a shy girl. This kind of misunderstanding can give rise to comic or dramatic situations…

2) Only the sex-starved guys who do not respect themselves and the men who have no choice in seduction are ready to lick the boots of a girl who ignores them or does not treat them at their true value.

3) The fact that a balanced guy will probably try to avoid the balance of power in a loving relationship (this is the principle of prizing: you must remain a challenge and not put the girl on a pedestal).

This technique can only work in some cases

Warning, if the person is confident but is not at all interested in you, the technique will not work, whatever you do… It will not change her mind and she may even be glad that you stop clinging on to her (relief). Such is taken who believed to take, that is what I call the “flee me, I don’t give a shit!”

This is exactly like the technique of the fridge (the freeze-out or “silence radio”) that only works when the chick is already interested.

“Follow me, I run away from you, run away from me, I’ll follow you” is a classic of French seduction, which is true only when the person is confident and is already interested in you (or when the person is not very balanced but I do not wish you to have a relationship with someone desperate or disturbed).

Nevertheless, it remains cult because mentalities evolve less quickly than the world around us. In the days of Moliere and Marivaux, when one always saw the same people in the same circles, it was obviously more effective than today when one can disappear on the Internet. You must know that we owe this expression to Alfred de Musset, who wrote in the 19th century: “A woman is like your shadow, run after, she runs away from you; flee her, she runs after you!”

Anyway, keep in mind that nothing is foolproof: even the most effective seduction techniques fail by bad luck… the the worst shit can work by chance.

What is the advantage of this technique?

It is interesting to use it in moderation to raise sexual tension. Generally, the more one desires the person before bedtime, the better is sex. The anticipation (when we know that we will probably make love with this person) is a fucking awesome aphrodisiac!

It’s also interesting to use it when you’re ready to roll the dice. One must always be ready to lose the girl in order to win her without too much headache : it is the other side of the coin and that is why it is necessary to have the choice and not to get attached too quickly (one should never say “I’m in love” with a girl with whom he has not even slept… LOL!)

There are people who do realize the value of what they had (or could have had) only when they lost it or it become inaccessible. But do you really care about those people who have not recognized your value in time?

Conclusion

For me, playing a game at the beginning of a relationship does not help much. I would even say that it is mostly counterproductive because being natural makes it possible to make a good sorting and to move away from people not interested as well as from those with whom there is no future. But that does not mean that you can do or say anything under the pretext that you want to “yourself”.

My advice is to be frank and to show (or let guess) your interest in the other. However, be careful, do not make me say what I did not say: avoid frightening her by saying “I love you” at the first date or by becoming too needy too fast. It must be realized that emotional dependence, when it happens too quickly, often reveals bad things and can constitute a reason for rupture (unless it is reciprocal, of course).

I am convinced that it is a bad idea to force people to love or desire us. I am absolutely against the stuff like “5 infallible tricks to make her fall in love with you” (it stinks too much despair). There’s a time when you just have to optimize your chances by doing personal development, giving time to time and letting nature do it… it’s called letting go.

To be able to apply this seductive acceptance: learn to fight against jealousy, show the limits to women or men who have a borderline behavior with you and continue to become always more attractive…

A lot of the rules of seduction are identical in closed environments (high school/university) and in open environments (street/clubs). However, there are big differences, such as the fact that in a closed environment, the emphasis is on personal development and a magnetic attitude, whereas in an open environment, the emphasis is on pure and hard pickup!

The state of mind

The first thing to know is that in high school and college, there are already sluts: I have already slept with high school girls and these were not the most difficult of my life.

However, these babes probably will not fuck the first night with a guy in their school… because they will be afraid for their reputation if it happens to be known (everything tends to be known in a closed environment because people love gossip). They may also be afraid of their first time, or have “principles” that they have seen on TV or in women’s magazines…

In addition, these girls are generally less experienced than older women and therefore are less confident. The less sexually confident women are, the less likely they are to let go in bed.

Then, it should be borne in mind that girls who sleep do not necessarily want to bang half-virgin guys who idealize too much women and won’t make them orgasm : exit the myth of the woman who likes to educate ! So forget the cowardly techniques like asking the friend of the girl you like to help you seduce her. All shy guys do that but it only works very rarely. In the trash also the technique of becoming her buddy to try to seduce her (friendzooooooone).

Do not go see a girl who does not know you at all by saying « I’m in love with you ». For a loser for whom it works, there are a thousand who are violently rejected. Why ? Because it’s scary, unrealistic and fucking needy.

In any case, stay somebody positive and do not forget that even if you are rejected, it does not matter. That’s how we learn!

Above all, do not let your friends fall for a chick because if ever one day she suddenly dumbs you, it is they who will be there for you… (friend before girls!)

Finally, understand that young girls, in closed environments such as college or high school, seek above all serious relationships to make their first experiments.

The look and attitude

In high school more than elsewhere, a good look can make the difference because teenagers are often superficial and hate marginals. But above all, do not become a detestable boaster.

Do not over-play the “dominant male who has been doing prizing since he discovered the community of seduction”, that would be ridiculous. Play it on the contrary humble and accessible, especially at first. The same rules that make the alpha sexy male in an open environment work in a closed environment. Make it simple with sexual humor as with clothes: do not use too elaborate stuff otherwise you risk receiving for only answers puzzled glances. Especially do not take the risk of being thought of as a weirdo.

The reputation

Much of the seduction in high school and college is done in a passive way: you need a reputation that seduces for you. You do not have to be “the sex-starved dude who picks up everyone but does not fuck anyone.”

I advise against picking up like a nuisance in closed environment: no crash & burn, no direct game… except perhaps in the parties at the end of the year or in very special festive contexts.

Indeed, when it does not work in this type of environment, it is a disaster. Now, you take a lot of rejections when you start: you do not need a reputation of loser with people you see every day.

And even when it works, it often turns badly a posteriori. That is why it is often said “no zob in job”.

In high school or college, the guys who get laid the most are generally not the most beautiful but rather those who have the best “social proof”. In my time, it was those who went already out in clubs, those who were part of the association of the students, and so on. It is a story of social dynamics.

How to proceed ?

To meet chicks, work on your social circle. In concrete terms, if you have friends in common with girls you like, make sure to be with them when they see one of these girls (for example during the recess) and they introduce her to you.

You can test the terrain with the girls you see regularly… but be subtle and let them get involved before you take initiatives! If they show interest in return, if they send you indicators of interest, go ahead, of course!

Do not start telling yourself “I will change after school holidays” or this kind of crap… because this is the best way to procrastinate and never get started. In any case, continue to cultivate yourself in seduction until you can apply more your seduction skills.

All tips that are personal development will help you be a cool guy: body language, how to communicate better, how to make girls laugh, and so on. On the other hand, forget the advice of pure pick up that is only adapted in open environment: for example, do not apply the rule of 3 seconds by approaching all the girls you meet.

However, in high school or college, you can of course dance several babes at the same time, but go soft and make sure that this is not obvious.

Where to find girls when you’re young?

If you are young and you cannot go out to meet the girls, you can always approach, on Facebook or Instagram, babes your age (not necessarily to fuck but only to kiss). Do not harass on social networks, do not publish stuff that could make you ashamed all your life and do not harbor negative gossip about people.

If there are parties with people from high school or college, try also to go there. Let yourself go on vacation in the summer camps or stuff like that.

To approach in a closed environment, it is better with a contextual approach. Do not wait for the perfect situation to get started and be as interesting as possible.

Once a girl seems receptive, you can take her number (or her Facebook) and propose her to go to the public garden, go swimming at the pool together or go for a drink on a terrace…

Above all, do not wait too long before trying your luck with a chick you like because the worst risk in closed environment is to waste your time and fall into the friendzone.

How to seduce during the back-to-school season ?

For the back-to-school season, the most important is to make a good impression. Let the most timid reassure: there are tricks, techniques that have proved themselves. For this purpose, I recommend a book, a soft one (for once), but relevant on the subject: Comment plaire en 3 minutes by Patricia Delahaie. And no, it’s not a product placement!

Some advice from this book to finish: you have to well choose your first words, ensure your voice, have a firm handshake, no inability to maintain eye contact, and have your back in a straight position.

Definition of sexual tension

Sexual tension is a kind of connection necessary for the perpetuation of the species that tries to attract two individuals into each other. It is this moment when two people look at each other and know inevitably what is going to happen because they feel a strong desire for each other (there is therefore a notion of reciprocity, contrary to the sexual drive). This magical feeling is the simple manifestation by which nature makes two people understand that they are compatible. Often, the sensations provoked are disturbing and close to the nervousness (that explains the choice of the word “tension”).

 

The power of sexual tension

The little secret we all know but nobody wants to talk about is that the sexual tension between the two sexes is so powerful that if we were still wild, free, and if we let ourselves go, then everyone would have sex with almost everyone.

It would be a mess outside… that’s why the society wants to condition us to reduce the sexual tension. That is why men invented religions, clothes, burka, non-mixed schools and so on. To protect themselves… because each sex has power over the other, and that’s what scares us. How many men or women have lost money or ruined their marriages because of an affair, for example?

 

How sexual tension works

Sexual attraction is based on automatic responses and is natural. In other words, there is not much more to do, sexual tension is underlying almost every interaction between a man and a woman. There is almost always tension between a man and a woman (to varying degrees – sometimes it is lurking in the shadow, sometimes it is very obvious, but it usually only needs intensification). And, by definition, this tension is sexual. Of course, girls do not want to sleep with all the guys they meet, but if a man interferes skilfully in their perimeter of intimacy (for example if they found themselves in underwear in front of a guy, and if this guy gave them a great massage on a bed), the idea would surely cross their minds. Moreover, often as soon as one person is conscious that she is liked by the other, she changes her gaze on the person and the relationship changes (that’s why you should manifest it more or less subtly soon enough).

Everything men need to increase sexual tension (sometimes you start from almost zero with a girl and it is difficult, sometimes there is something strong by default without having anything to do and it is enough not to spoil) is:
– using a seducing visual contact;
– getting closer to the girl;
– touching her.

Most of the time, the simple fact of getting closer to a girl automatically creates attraction between you two. Something happens with your internal chemistry (pheromones, energies or God knows what) and you interact with one another at an unconscious level. There is nothing you can say or do that is more important than that. It is not sorcery, it is what our ancestors, the prehistoric men, did already before a doggy standing up against the wall of the cave. And yet, they had not any diploma.

Even if you are not especially cool, the good news is that these women can still be attracted to you because you are a human being with balls (compatible with a uterus). I first noticed this phenomenon when I was hanging out with women who did not attract me sexually (not my type) but we always ended at one time or another by touching (elevator, car) and I felt this power of attraction acting on me. For a moment, I wanted to fuck them and then everything was normal again (if they had opened my pants at that time, I would probably have let them do).

More tools to create sexual tension:
– being sincere and humble;
– apologizing sincerely when you have crossed the limits;
– pretending that you are shy while taking initiatives (blowing hot and cold);
– making compliments and a naughty smile;
– keeping quiet and letting her talk;
– being in a situation of logistical intimacy (just the two of you with a bed);
– touching her, making innuendoes, etc.

 

A problem of compatibility

If yourself, can not feel this bestial sexual connection with a girl, this is not good. Because everyone is not really compatible with everyone. Would you have a good sexual connection with such and such a girl? God alone knows this, but the answer is more often yes than no.

Coming closer to her, therefore, is also to gauge her. If I get closer to her and feel nothing, neither the desire to take her hand nor the desire to feel her hair nor the desire to kiss her neck… so we do not have enough complicity (and probably never will). This is why you have to save time, get closer and quickly see if it will work or not. Moreover, when the current does not pass, it is often reciprocal and it is useless to force.

 

The traps

Let’s just keep in mind that there’s nothing special to say or do. Sexual tension exists naturally between a man and a woman. It’s already there. Most of the time, sleeping with a woman is the logical next step if you do not break this tension. If you do not break the tension, the attraction naturally increases (and vice versa).

Laughing too much, speaking only to furnish the conversation, reacting exaggeratedly, wiggling in every direction, looking elsewhere, showing your embarrassment by your facial expressions, not assuming that you are a man, are some things that can break the tension. Concretely, if there was only one thing to do, it would be merely to get closer, take her hand and assume your sexuality.

You can create all the tension you need by being sexual and with some kinesthetic escalations. In seduction, never use a tool supposed to create tension if it sacrifices some rapport. Beware, for example, of the following techniques that create tension (good) but break the rapport (bad) :
– being too cocky & funny (being too arrogant);
– being too sarcastic “hey, you’re place is clean, it’s cool”;
– debating on bullshit “I am vegetarian and if you eat meat you are a monster” (I have no problem with vegetarians but it is stupid to fail because of a dispute like that);
– teasing in a bad way (“you put high heels today, it’s to better be a bitch”);
– making awkward comments (“it’s funny you make a weird face when I’m fingering you”).

 

Sexual tension and beauty

Girls are all the time fucking guys they do not find particularly handsome. For example, guys who were tactilely enterprising. Or guys who have proposed sex without guilt, or to realize their fantasies. Their kinesthetic escalation and their perseverance enabled them to overcome the blockages of girls.

Adopting a confident posture, keeping silent and maintening the eye contact of a woman, then getting closer to her… it’s not just for the handsome guys. No need to be Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt to act like that. Everyone can do it. Still need to dare…

If a girl invited me to her place and started to warm me for example by proposing a strip-poker, even if she was not very beautiful, it would be difficult to resist the temptation. And even if I would not be really interested in her, I might fuck with her. It’s the same for girls: I’ve already slept with babes who did not particularly like me (often late in the evening) simply because we found ourselves in an adequate situation and I had done nothing bad to spoil the sexual tension in the air.

 

Sexual tension can make you uncomfortable

Understand that if a woman tells you “you are weird” when you are silent and you maintain her eye contact, it just means that she tries to break the tension because she is excited but feels guilty (or because she does not know how to manage herself and confuses all her sensations). Somewhere in her, she feels this powerful sexual tension, which makes her a little scared and tries to lower this level to regain control (it’s a little panic on board).

When you find yourself isolated with a woman (even if she did not resist yet), she can still try to break the rapport. She can search your room, give signs of impatience or anxiety, act or speak in a weird way. Stay cool, and remember she’s just nervous. This is the moment to be sincere, to put her sexually comfortable. In other words, stay calm despite the tension in the air. You are the man, it is up to you to show a good example!

Reassure her while warming her. Then motivate her to participate (if she says “no it’s no”, do not insist because you should not be assimilated to a rapist). If she allows herself (it is easier to don’t say no than to say yes), it is kinda good but she must participate. Facilitate the task of touching you. It’s bad when you’re the one who constantly tries to caress and kiss her because it locks her in the role of the one who “resists”. In a few minutes, she may lose the little attraction she has for you and the tension you have built may fly into smoke.

Now you must be able to put words on those strange feelings that you may have already felt with some members of the opposite sex. So learn how to control sexual tension, how to make it rise and explain to the girls what they feel to reassure them and sleep with them.

What is the secret to succeed in seduction ?

By discovering my blog and the science of seduction, people react by:
– Rejection outright: “It’s bullshit … and if there really was a way to become more seductive, everyone would know it and would do it for a long time.”
– Or a polite curiosity: “really? There may be something interesting in there”, without going any further.
– But some people have a motivated interest: they dig the question and test it for themselves.

If you try to find opinion on the game on the Internet, you will come across people who find it amazing, others who say it is absurd and others who say it is a scam (it would be the same for anything a bit innovative).

And in fact, among the thousands of people who came to my blog or on my Youtube channel, many unfortunately (for me and for them) :
– Had this reaction of rejection more or less violent.
– Or only read or watch a small part of my content diagonally and get a hasty opinion.
– Or find it interesting, test one or two concepts then forget about it.

It’s a pity that very few people get a real benefit from what the game (yet at the click range) could bring them. There may be two reasons for this behavior:
– The human tendency to postpone things that are not urgent to the next day (that is yo say, often to “never”).
– Skepticism: and if Fabrice Julien was lying, even partially? And if he was mistaken, if he took his dreams for realities?

This form of doubt is healthy and quite normal, much more than the immediate rejection in any case. In fact, I encourage you to be skeptical. But there are good and bad skeptics:
– The bad skeptics: when they discover a new theory that questions their conception of things, they reject it “that goes against all that I think I know, and if it really was possible to have the results described, if it was so simple, everybody would know!”
– The good skeptics: they are the ones who, by discovering a new theory that questions their conception of things, say “it is interesting and the results described are motivating, but is it true ??? What simple experience could I use to test one or two principles and see if it suits me?”

In all areas, there are methods that work better than others for the majority of people (some of them are ignored by this majority)… and those that are most used are not necessarily the best. Yes, there are methods that work better than others in those areas that are important to you, such as “seducing” and “making love” (if you are still there, probably you are concerned).

I am particularly interested in motivated people (even passionate people like me), who are ready to use their intelligence to open their minds and apply concretely what in the Game works for them. By adopting constructive skepticism, you can multiply your capacity for action. To continue without this motivation, without this will for success, would serve only to increase your general culture… but not to have concrete results (you have to know what you want).

Concretely this means that instead of looking at the average results that lambda people get in seduction, telling you that this is probably all you will get, you have to ask yourself “what methods do the PUAs practice to have such results?”

Then go in search of these methods. As a beginner in a domain, you will sometimes fall on quacks and maybe you will not realize it until it’s too late. These are the risks of gambling (keep in mind that scam artists who last in a domain without being spotted are extremely rare). But by using your common sense and good skepticism combined with an active search for what works best, you will easily detect methods that will give you a decisive advantage in life. This is also why I am an expert in relationships between men and women and that I can be useful: I know what works in general and what is pure shit… so I can quickly draw a line between a quality product and a wacky product or with no added value in seduction.

“As to methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Maybe it’s too good to be true? Just powder for the gullible? And if I told you that you can, for example, double your chances that a girl finds you attractive and gives you her phone number in two seconds, easily and without spending one single € ?

Well, know that it is possible: just touch briefly (one to two seconds) her shoulder or her forearm. This secret has been public for a long time (you can find a lot of scientific investigations) and yet many people are still unaware of it. And many people who read this will say “wow awesome” then forget it and move on without having taken the time to integrate this technique into their everyday life. Do not be like these people. Be an intelligent winner!

You might object that all women are different (as all men are) and therefore the Game could not function universally. This is partly true but we also have a lot of similarities and some that distinguish us from other animal species on Earth. We share many physical and psychological characteristics. Despite what we like to think, we all have more in common than differences with other human beings, often it is determined by our genes. If we follow this logic, the Game has more chances to work than not to work for you.

It may be profitable for you to discover this kind of methods. And since these methods are much more effective than most people use, they give you a much higher ROI than others get for the same amount of time, energy and money. Do you think this will give you an advantage in life? Or do you imagine that it is enough to count on luck by simply doing what you have always done until today, even if your situation does not suit you?

“Luck is the meeting of preparation with opportunity” Oprah Winfrey

The sucker, in my opinion, is not the one who pays to have the service he needs to unlock and help him moving on in his life. The sucker is the one who does not believe that he can have a better life than he has, who does not try anything, and who ends his life frustrated, all this to save €25 by thinking he is smarter than the others. And then, of course, when we put things in front of him, such as regular threesomes with two chicks, the loser manages to maintain his denial: to turn it into derision, to be in bad faith or to criticize, etc. But no one is duped and it is well known that these people are frustrated in fact. It is a shame for them because I am actually ready to stretch out my hand and help them.

One of my readers wrote to thank me for everything I give for free and then asked me if some people are actually buying my ebooks because he told me he has only two pick-up ebooks on his computer, that he Illegally downloaded (not mine – it’s DeAngelo – I find it very disrespectful for David DeAngelo because I know it’s hard to write ebooks).

Some people buy my products because what I propose resonates especially in them, or because they have applied tips that I have given and have had results that have changed their lives (for some buying me something is a way to thank me). This money is very useful: it helps me and motivates me to continue to write my blog and to create my videos you like, I hope (because all this is not free; blog hosting and for my newsletter are kinda expensive). I prefer to be honest and transparent with my readers. Thank you if you buy my products! You help me to continue the blog! It encourages me and makes me want to continue!

Another of my readers told me about one of my books “It’s good! I wonder how you find the time to do all this, because when I take a look at the free extract that you propose I find that you offer quality, good work. But to be frank, €30 for an ebook, even if powerful, I think it is too expensive.”

In fact, this guy has not yet realized (like many people) that we’ve switched to a new economy for a long time. An economy of knowledge where knowledge is exchanged. An economy where knowledge is valued commercially.

Imagine that you are a young single man and that you are trying to seduce more girls and more interesting ones… but that it is a calvary for you because your friends give you tips that do not work and that you do not know how to do it alone. What value has then for you a regular and quality information that will help you? An information that will transform the way women look at you and will prevent you from making costly mistakes (such as long relationships with chicks that do not suit you or losing money in dates that will lead you nowhere) ?

When you look for online information on this topic, you come across a lot of sites, articles, videos, which lavish billions of tips for free. Great… how do you get into that? The good information is drowned under the mass of poor quality information or information that is not relevant to you at the stage of your learning. And they are all disconnected without a clear pedagogical line. How much would you be willing to pay for a book that sums up the essential concepts for you by articulating them into a coherent and step-by-step method? It is in these terms that we must think. This is the value of information.

My clients are those who want to go even further than those who just enjoy the free content (even if it is already good to get through better than average). In general, these people are the most motivated and therefore those who have more chance to succeed.

There are people for whom anything below €5000  is like a metro ticket. If I sell at €30 or €2000 it is the same for them. Or in any case they are willing to pay €2000 for a service that interests them. If I only sold products at €5, I would not allow people to spend more even if they love what I do.

Why would there be sports coaches that we would pay, but we would not pay a guy to give us tips to have better sex or to pick-up more and more interesting chicks ? Why would we pay people to teach us how to eat better, how to dress better, but not to teach us how to improve ourselves in these areas of sex and seduction? It does not make sense. If you are intelligent, you see further than these old taboos. And you will go far in life! If you give yourself the means!

If you have money, invest it to make progress in areas that matter to you, it’s not when you’re dead that your money will come in handy. There is no shame, I have already bought seduction ebooks and it helped me. By paying, you will also have a contract with yourself and you will make more spectacular progress in less time because you will feel more obliged to make profitable your investment (it is not for nothing if it is the principle in psychoanalysis too, paying to have a deal towards healing). And this will give you a considerable advantage over all others!

The prize is the award in the sense of “the prize at the end of a competition”.

In the community of seduction, prizing is a very criticized concept because it is misunderstood (like many things).

However, your attention please: prizing is not a beginner exercise, but an advanced concept that must be used with caution at the risk of burning your wings.

The definition of prizing

Prizing is a game approach that involves reversing the roles and making the girl see you as a “challenge”. The purpose of prizing is to do not put women on a pedestal. It is a concept popularized by Swinggcat in his ebook “Real World Seduction”.

The trick, in my opinion, is to consider yourself as the equal of a woman in an interaction: show her that you like her, but at the same time, show her that she likes you too. Even consider yourself slightly above her if you are a sportsman, healthy, who has a good diploma and who is not stupid while she is a little girl who enjoys the money of her dad and who is a little fat. I’m exaggerating, but it’s for you to understand better.

It may sound stupid, but it must be understood that most men live in a reality where the woman is the price. This is why there are many sex-starving men but few sex-starving women : a woman who wants to have sex can, in the absolute, easily find a cock to jump on.

I know women do not like me to say that so I will explain my point of view:
– women can register for free on most dating sites, because if there are women, men are willing to pay to come and try their luck;
– in a club, it is common to offer the champagne to the women to make them come, because they will bring the men… who are ready to pay;
– a woman not very beautiful will always find the way to be picked up by a guy if she goes out in a bar, while an average man who does not move his ass will return alone ;
– When I match on Tinder with my girl account, I have practically 1 like every time I put a heart… but when I do it with my own account I have 2 or 3 likes every 50 hearts.

Becoming the prize in your head serves to avoid being constantly needy and seeking approval. And many guys need such rehabilitation because, yeah, if you’re not a popular guy, you usually live in sexual misery (unless you have a good game).

A solid inner game

Know that seduction is like a sport: without a good mind you have nothing. Now the mind, the inner game, is the key to success in seduction. If you have a solid inner game, you will succeed. If you do not have one, the game can help you acquire one.

Many guys have a feeling of inferiority towards girls that they find attractive. So know that contrary to popular belief, prizing is not about wanting to make her believe that you are the prize, but to understand it yourself, that you are a prize.

Prizing means esteem and respect. It is a match for value. It is to think that one deserves to be treated in a respectful way and to refuse any abject behavior. This is a totally different approach to most guys who constantly try to prove that they are up to the girl they try to pick up and who lick her ass.

Unlike many politically correct coaches, I’m not against using techniques like negs or prizing. These coaches reject all that is “technical” by saying that if you use techniques it is that you are a weak one who is not confident. In fact, they are a bit right, but your confidence will not come out of nowhere: it takes success to gain confidence… and the techniques will allow you to have these first successes, then you will become more “natural”.

The goal of the game is to develop an inner game such that everything you do today by considering it as “techniques” is actually no more than the expression of your alpha personality! You must become confident enough to think that girls want to sleep with you and that they will only have this privilege if they meet your expectations.

Basically, I agree if you want to use techniques at the beginning, but I want you to be genuine in the long run. I want you to become a better yourself compared to today! The real goal of the game is that self-confidence settles in you and that everything I teach you appears natural: it will be much more effective than all the techniques combined (except the technique of the GHB in her drink).

 

Sexual prizing

Personally, I’ve fucked so many chicks and made experiences that now I know I’m better 95% than the guys in bed. My strength comes from this belief, so I can “sexually prize” the chicks and it is sincere. I know that part of my value comes from there, that I have this added value to propose to a girl that I like, and I express it more or less directly…

Sexual prizing works if you want to fuck a lot of chicks but also if you want to find a girlfriend. Indeed, now I’m trained to be good in bed, it is the women who ask for more and some would make the pear tree so that I become their boyfriend. Being a good lover (cf my book on the subject) therefore makes them want to fuck but also to stay with you! Not only men can be held by what they have between their legs.

 

Drifts

The first trap is that if you calibrate poorly while wanting to be prize, you risk triggering a conflict, an unhealthy and unsuccessful balance of power with a girl… the goal is not that she wants to put you down ! Avoid the extremes: so do not be too submissive but do not be too inaccessible, otherwise, she might think you are NOT AT ALL interested, be mad a at you and leave. In practice, there are a lot of guys, so if you play the precious who is waiting to be seduced because he is the price, you will masturbate very often.

The second trap is that the prizing is only a technique and that by digging a little, the girl realize that the guy is in fact a poor puppy who is trying to play in the top league.

The third trap is that I have seen guys not fully understanding the techniques of prizing nor the concept of alpha male. So, it can be a disaster: these stupid guys even begin to try to dominate their friends, their family and to make dick contests constantly. In short, they are completely wrong and lost…

To avoid these pitfalls, practice light prizing, and again, only when you are in a seduction phase. Do not act like a needy, communicate that you have value and dare to take initiatives (prizing should not be an excuse so the girl do all the work for you).

 

I already explained in two previous videos the concept of frame (LPUF# 2 and LPUF #16), so you can watch those videos to complete this one on the prizing because these notions are intimately related.

Often, women tell men when they reject them “but you are nice, you inevitably will find someone who matches you.” As a result, some people conclude that kindness is an ugly defect.

Women are sincere when they say they want nice men (I guess few women would want a guy hitting his wife). On the other hand, they do not want nice guys.

If you suffer from nice boy syndrome (women are not interested in you but they find you “nice”), the problem is not that you are a nice person but that you are probably behaving in a coward and somewhat hypocritical way with women. Your “kindness” is then only a mask of circumstance behind which you hide your inability to say no, or even that you use to try to buy the girls. What is a hard sell…

In fact, girls generally say the nice boy that “he is nice” to speak politely about the fact that he lets himself be subdued. In essence, this reflects a sense of condescension towards a person who has difficulty assuming himself, or even who is incapable of asserting himself.

In reality, being nice, if that’s not what creates attraction, is not a handicap in seduction; Provided it does not take away manhood. It depends on what concrete you put in this term (for etymologically it is meliorative, it means “people chosen by God.” For example, I would say that I am a nice peson… and yet I fucked a lot of chicks.

I would say that this is how nice I am: I love animal, I have made donations, I love the idea that I help guys to become sexually fulfilled, I am very interested in women and I like above all to give them a lot of pleasure in bed.

 

Where does the problem come from with “kindness”?

The problem is that many men do not know (or dare) to set up a real sexual connection with a woman they want to seduce: they say to reassure themselves that if it does not work, it’s because they are nice and that women are too stupid to like it… which can start feeding a kind of hatred towards the fair sex.

It should be known that one of the common mistakes that beginners make in seduction is to try to please a girl by being TOO nice. Because being too nice translates and betrays a lack of self-confidence: too many people confuse their kindness and their need for validation. It is then the lack of confidence that is to be eliminated, not the kindness. Moreover, when one is TOO nice, one is considered as a sucker… which does not attract because a sucker has little chance of succeeding his life.

Many guys are only kind in a seduction purpose, because they think (because of social conditioning and what they have heard and live being younger) than it is by totally submitting, and by giving to women a lot of attention, that they will seduce. Of course, it does not work, but it is not once again the fact of being nice that is the problem, it is the fact of being a “submissive” person.

When you were a child, for example, you might be “nice” with your parents to GET something, such as a new toy or pocket money. Adult, if you behave in this way, a girl thinks that is hiding behind your “kindness” something weird and not natural. Today, when you pay a lot of things to a girl (like for example meals or drinks) she thinks that you do this to get her sexual favors. Not only is it often the case (so it’s manipulation), but it communicates that YOU + MONEY = SHE (so you are inferior).

 

The solution ?

The solution is to carry out a self-improvment process, to don’t confuse kindness and weakness: one can be strong and firm in his choices, polite and respectful, while being nice (cf non-violent communication). The goal is to assume your condition of sexual being and no longer try to “hide” it for fear of being judged and rejected just like you probably judge yourself and repress yourself.

 

Kindness and Alphaness

Raj of La Gouaille says that it is useless to be an alpha male to seduce because he meets success by being very nice, very soft and slightly effeminate. In fact, I think there is a misunderstanding in the definition.

In fact, to seduce more girls, the alpha features are very effective. And even Raj has some, even if he does not notice it. However, where he is right is that being an alpha is not being a Rambo. I hate guys who make dick contests and yet it is commonplace in the community of seduction.

I now recall the alpha features: assurance, popularity, authority in a domain, serenity, combativity, being exciting emotionally (Raj has these features). There is also the beauty, the strength, the dynamism, the fact of being fun…

People must stop blaming the pick-up artist, the true PUA are not big assholes. And even if they were initially, they have changed in a good way through their personal development process. Those that I like are those who have an ethic, who remain humble, because that means that the game has been beneficial and healthy for them.

 

To conclude on the kindness

Forcing yourself to be nice usually ends up rotting relationships because the person who forces to be kind does it to get something. If this person does not get this thing, he or she accumulates frustration. If this person gets it, it may change his or her behavior after… 🙁

When one is nice, people are often bastards in return. I noticed it by helping for free guys with their game. Once they become kinda good, many get big-headed and bite the hand that launched them. I think it’s a reaction to do not having to feel grateful. Fortunately, it is not the case of all but it happens regularly… That’s why I work less and less for free, although I continue to give a lot of things on my blog. In any case, I was quite disappointed by the human in general.

All this brings me to an interesting question: are people who look nice, really nice? Or is it because they can not afford to be “nasty”?

If you want to learn pick up and meet a lot of women, you must accept to undergo a lot of rejections. Because there is no foolproof method to seduce all girls, not even dark seduction (this branch of the game based on hypnosis, NLP and manipulation in general).

Yes, we still are rejected even when we fucked 215 chicks. Why ? Because we can not please everyone… on the other hand, where everything is played, it is that when we are liked by girls we like, we must be able to provoke chance and conclude.

 

Constructive beliefs

Many guys approach in underwater mode, discreetly and indirectly, so as not to feel bad in case of rejection. It is a very bad idea: it is not what will help them to progress. In addition, it just communicates that they do not have the balls to assume their interest, which is a hard sell. Accepting the reality of the rejection and overcoming the fear of rejection is the solution that makes it possible to harden off, take good life lessons and develop your social intelligence.

Besides, the rejection is not necessarily something unpleasant. It’s like everything, it depends on our reality, how we see things. A rake can and should make us proud, because it means that we have taken action, which is a big step towards success. You should prefer a fail to not approaching, because being rejected means you have overcome all the excuses that guys usually invent to try nothing!

We read a lot on the Internet that when we are rejected, it is not we who are rejected but the image that we give when we approach. And so, if we take rakes is that we must have a bad game. It makes sense but it’s stupid. This is only partly true in part but it makes it possible to guilt guys and make them buy 3000 € a week coachings… then this legend persists. To remain sane, it is absolutely necessary to rationalize the thing and to understand that the problem can come from the woman who was approached. If she lacks of sociability skills, you have nothing to do with her. She could be in a hurry, in a couple and faithful, ill-bred, tired, annoyed by the 10 weirdos ones that came before you, lesbian … or just too closed-minded. Anyway, it is not you that she rejects but your proposal : it does not mean that you have necessarily badly approached her or that she finds you too ugly, it is just that she is not interested.

Your self-esteem should therefore not diminish with rejection (because it is not a fail). On the other hand, it should grow with success, which will make you in a sens invincible. “If it works so much better, if not I dont give a shit”: with such a state of mind, we are immediately more confident and relaxed. This means that you have to get away from the look of the others: if you need their opinion to prove that you are great, you have not yet acquired the good mindset.

 

The definition of the « rake »

What is a rake? Again, it depends on your reality. I personally take very few rakes but there are girls who do not give me their phone number or do not want to kiss me in a club. Because, for me, a rake : it would be a chick I really want, in whom I invested time and energy (even money), who I thought I could fuck but who in fact does not want me. A rake would be a rejection from a girl I do care about, in fact. I take one a year, something like that …

And for you, is a rake a sweetie left swipe on Tinder? A girl who does not want to give you her number? A girl who does not want to kiss you? One that does not want to sleep with you? One that tells you « go away asshole » ? Or worse, one that puts you in the friendzone? Choose a reality that helps you thrive…

 

How to react ?

It is never pleasant to be rejected, especially when you have the best intentions in the world. So, to keep up with time, you have to detach yourself a bit from the result and be casual.

In a respectful interaction, we must not be affected by (social, tactile or sexual) rejection, not feel hurt, and especially we must not be mad at the girl (never insult).

On the other hand, if we approach respectfully but the chick is disrespectful (for some, going out and playing the bitch, it’s funny): here I am sorry but we have the right to laugh (anyway we always have the right to laugh because the Game is a game), even to make fun of her and to troll her. It’s better to react like that than to accumulate frustration and beat the homeless like the guys in the movie Confession d’un dragueur.

What I’m saying is not easy to apply for a beginner and I’m sorry (if it was easy everybody would do that). But one must have a good philosophy of life to don’t go mad: be humble, strive to remain positive, just go and dare. If your wingman (pick-up teammate) dared to approach but was rejected, do not hesitate to encourage him, do not make fun of him. We, the players, should be in solidarity with each other.

You have to approcach a lot, it’s important because the results of social gatherings are statistical. The anxiety of approach will always be a bit there, but the first approaches (the warm up) allow to disinhibit… everything is based on a momentum : you can be a God with the women for one night but it does not mean you will be magic the other days.

Once warm, you become a Sith Knight of the pick-up (not a Jedi because I guess they are virgins!) It’s adrenaline that should keep you alive, soldier! You must love the challenge. Above all, talk to the chicks who seem to be inaccessible to you. Sometimes, in the night, I turn into Dark Vicious, my evil double, and I approach girls in any way. « Did you go out tonight to find a guy ? » ; « Wanna kiss me, sweetie ? »… once I even succeeded with a chick while amusing myself to imitate Mr. Merdocu. It’s TRUE! When I see a truly hot girl and my inner little voice tells me “give up, she is too beautiful for you”, I force myself to go there and to be very direct. I do not necessarily go so it works, I go there just to go, and I am very pleasantly surprised when I fuck hotties. Read my books Diary of a French PUA to find out more.

That makes it possible to understand that the game in an open environment (street, bar, Internet) is like playing in a free casino: you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. The key is to have fun by sorting between the interested girls and the others. If possible, you should like the process (the pick-up) as much as the results (the KC, the FC)! In any case, the approach must remain associated with positive emotions: you should be excited to go out, not frightened… but because one is more often rejected than sucked, one often forgets that the game is not just a succession of rakes. So, above all, never lose sight of the fact that it is not the 10 girls who put you in a rake that are important… but the girl you are going to romantically fuck doggy style. And keep in mind that sometimes even with the best game in the world you wouldn’t succeed with a girl, and sometimes with an average game you can pick-up chicks (but statistically it’s more profitable to have a good game). Never give up!

I recently devoted a 140-page book to sexualization and how to avoid the Friendzone. Here’s the link if you want more details.

Today, we are particularly interested in kinesthetic escalation (kino escalation), which is an important stage of sexualization and helps to avoid the FZ.

 

Definition

The term kino comes from the community of seduction and designates touching. The word escalation refers to the steps involved in creating a sexual connection with a girl.

The so-called “kino escalation” corresponds to the physical escalation of the kinos with a woman, from the first touch on the shoulder (for example) to the finger into her pussy.

 

The concept

Kinesthetic escalation has the advantage of making you more concrete in the eyes of the girl. As soon as a contact (even a simple touch) is made between two bodies, they become more familiar. Numerous studies have shown that contact makes people who touch us more sympathetic and make us more likely to trust them, to want to please them.

In fact, touch (in the broad sense) can turn her on, which would also increase your chances of fucking her. Basically, even if she does not like you more than that, touching helps creating sexual tension and can make her want to kiss you.

Finally, it must be understood that each touch is a test in itself, which allows you to appreciate the progress of your game at any moment: calibrate, adapt to her reactions.

 

Sexual anxiety

Some guys have trouble with the idea of touching a girl. But touch is paramount in your seduction game if you want to kiss a girl and take her to bed (not to sleep). One of the keys to success in seduction is thus to overcome this sexual anxiety.

The best is to physically escalate quickly, to be fixed on what you can expect from such girl. If after 30 minutes she is not receptive to your tests… she won’t probably be more receptive 2 hours later. In such a case, you should save time and energy by attacking another target.

 

How to touch her?

You must touch a girl you have just met in a progressive way because any contact with a person makes you enter her privacy. To better visualize the idea, imagine that an appropriate contact is equivalent to knocking on the door of the girl’s apartment, while a touch made too early on an area of her body more intimate (breasts, buttocks , pussy) is similar to pushing her door.

You should use kinos as soon as possible, from the beginning of the interaction. This helps to make her understand that you are someone touchy and so it won’t sound weird when you’ll initiate new touches a little later. Your first kinos should be on non-intimate body areas: hands, arms, back, hips and shoulders. Finally, they must be fast, light and intermittent so as not to be too pressing.

There is kino and kino. Some touchs will show her that she attracts you. This will then correspond to a sign of interest sent from you. These are the ones to be mastered. For example, when you meet a girl, shake her hand when you introduce yourself. And when you remove it, gently slide your fingers over the palm of her hand.

Assume each of your touchs so that the girl does not feel any discomfort that could make her feel uncomfortable (because of the contagion of emotions). Stay relaxed and make your touch feel like something natural. Put your hand on her body with slow and short movements. So you will also communicate that you are confident.

But for me, the real escalation (the real challenge) begins when you assume to caress her. When you take real initiatives. For example, stroking her hand, back or thigh. You can do this nonchalantly by talking about something else or you can reassure her so that the touch passes better if dared.

You must see if she is comfortable with your touchs: does she leave her thigh against yours? Does she let you stroke her hand without removing it?

If you see that she is comfortable, receptive (and the best it’s when she touchs you as an answer), go! Depending on the context, you can kiss her on the cheek, neck, etc. You can even totally turn her on!

 

If she is not comfortable

Stop or interrupt the contact yourself, if possible. Then, restart by reassuring her and/or dismantling her resistances. Dredramatize the thing and try to understand what is blocking her. If it’s just stress, make her understand that what she feels is actually sexual tension.

When it starts to get hot, women are “programmed” to give signs of resistance. It is a reaction to avoid feeling “easy girl”. So if for a test, you go up your finger along her thighs and suddenly remove it, she will feel a disappointment or even a lack but will not object because the touch has disappeared (and so much better because she will not be thought of as a whore who gets fiddled). So it is better to do and to interrupt … then to start again, rather than go there without moderation.

 

The massage

It is a technique of seduction very classic, but diabolically effective. Few women refuse a massage and it has the advantage of exciting them. It is also relatively okay to offer a massage to a woman but she knows implicitly, if she accepts, what to expect. I always fucked a woman I had massaged. On the other hand, few have massaged me in return: it is better to do it yourself because often, the chicks are too shy to massage. You have to know what you want! 😉

Do not forget that it will be all the same be up to you to provoke your chance by making this massage “slip” … 😉