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Performance Anxiety in Bed: How to Overcome Fear, Guilt, and Sexual Pressure. How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Problems ?

Introduction

Performance anxiety affects millions of men. It can show up as premature ejaculation, difficulty maintaining an erection, or even complete avoidance of intimacy. The truth is: you are not broken. Sexual anxiety is a fight-or-flight response triggered by stress, conditioning, and negative self-talk.

This guide will help you understand the root causes of performance anxiety, how to overcome them, and how to build confidence in the bedroom.

The Psychology of Performance Anxiety

• Fear of judgment: Men worry about not lasting long enough or not being “hard enough.” Women may interpret this as “I’m not attractive,” when in reality it’s stress.

• Negative conditioning: Early experiences of coming too quickly or failing to get hard can create lasting fear.

• Fight or flight response: Stress diverts blood away from arousal. The mind dissociates from the body.

Common Emotional Triggers

1. Guilt: Feeling ashamed of natural sexual reactions.

2. Fear: Worrying about “failing” or not satisfying your partner.

3. Pressure: Seeing sex as a performance rather than a shared experience.

The Female Side: She Has Anxiety Too

• Women also wonder: Will he respect me? Will he hurt me? Will he call me again?

• Understanding her insecurities helps you relax about your own.

• Anxiety in intimacy is human, not weakness.

Shifting the Mindset

• Allow yourself to be human: You’re not a machine.

• Intimacy over perfection: Sex is about connection, not flawless execution.

• Positive self-talk: Don’t dwell on past failures—treat each encounter as discovery.

Communication in the Bedroom

• Be honest, not defensive: Instead of “I’m tired,” admit: “I feel nervous, but I want to take my time with you.”

• Don’t blame: Never say “It’s your fault I’m not hard.”

• Offer solutions: Suggest trying different forms of intimacy—massage, oral, sensual touch.

Lifestyle Factors That Affect Libido

• Smoking: Damages circulation and erection quality.

• Excess caffeine: More than 6 cups can spike anxiety (though a little caffeine may help delay ejaculation).

• Exercise: Push-ups and squats improve blood flow and confidence.

• Porn habits: Overstimulation trains your body away from real sex.

Practical Tips to Reduce Anxiety

1. Slow down: Focus on foreplay and connection, not performance.

2. Change the script: Instead of “If I fail, it’s terrible,” think “We can enjoy this together in many ways.”

3. Mix it up: Not every session has to be penetration—massage, oral, and teasing reduce pressure.

4. Solo detox: Masturbation habits shape your arousal. Too much porn = unrealistic expectations.

5. Pre-game relaxation: Watch a movie together, give a massage, or simply cuddle before sex.

When Things Don’t Go Perfectly

• Don’t panic: Losing an erection once doesn’t define you.

• Use teamwork: Guide her during oral or mutual touch to stay aroused.

• Respect yourself: If a partner mocks or disrespects you, it’s not the right person.

Breaking the Cycle of Negative Conditioning

• Retrain your body: Less porn, more real intimacy.

• Balance frequency: Don’t over-masturbate compared to actual sex.

• Work through blocks: Admit challenges, don’t deny them. Improvement comes step by step.

Conclusion

Performance anxiety is not weakness—it’s a human response to stress and pressure. By shifting your mindset, communicating honestly, improving your lifestyle, and retraining your arousal patterns, you can rebuild confidence and intimacy.

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Erotic Communication in Bed: How to Speak, When to Speak, and What Never to Say… How to be manly expressive in bed ? How to be more dominant during sex ? And how to give a command to a woman ? We’ll also speak about DIRTY TALK here.

Introduction

Physical touch is only half of intimacy. The other half is verbal communication. What you say during sex—and how you say it—can make the difference between an ordinary encounter and an unforgettable experience.

In this guide, you’ll discover:

• How to communicate verbally during intimacy.

• Why timing and intention matter more than words alone.

• What to say, what not to say, and how to keep her aroused with sensual dominance.

Why Communication Matters in Bed

• Avoiding silence: A silent lover feels cold and mechanical.

• Animal instinct: Sounds, moans, and words trigger primal arousal.

• Trust and clarity: Communication helps avoid confusion around rough play (like spanking).

Don’t Be a “Silent Assassin”

Some men behave like “ninja assassins” in bed—completely silent, expressionless, disconnected. This kills arousal. Instead:

• Express yourself: Show desire through voice and body.

• Moan with intent: A deep, masculine moan can electrify her.

• Let her know she excites you: Simple words like “You drive me crazy” are powerful.

Sounds of Pleasure: The Power of Vocalization

• Impact on physiology: Studies show vocalizing increases arousal and blood flow.

• Mirror effect: Your arousal fuels hers.

• Keep it authentic: Don’t fake porn-style noises—stay natural.

Timing: When to Speak

• During escalation: Whispering “I want you” while kissing.

• During peak arousal: Direct commands heighten intensity.

• Aftercare: Gentle affirmations when it slows down.

What to Avoid Saying

• Questions in bed: “Can you turn around?” sounds timid.

• Overly complicated instructions: Keep it short and simple.

• Criticism: Never comment negatively on her body.

Erotic Commands: How to Lead Verbally

Dominant seduction uses clear, concise commands. Examples:

• “Take off your clothes slowly for me.”

• “Ride me harder.”

• “Touch yourself—it’s sexy when you do that.”

• “Look at me while you do it.”

These are statements, not questions. The tone should be confident and sensual.

Reward and Reinforcement

Erotic language is also about reinforcement. Reward her compliance with sexy nicknames or affirmations:

• “Good girl.”

• “My princess.”

• “You’re so sexy when you do that.”

This builds psychological arousal and creates a loop of dominance and submission.

Creative Erotic Scenarios

Verbal dominance is not limited to commands—it can also be about setting the scene:

• “Sit on the couch and close your eyes. I have a surprise for you.”

• “Touch yourself, but don’t touch your clit until I’m back.”

• “Straddle me and move the way you like.”

This blends sensuality with control, keeping her mind engaged as much as her body.

Addressing Insecurities

All women have body concerns. Erotic language can reassure her:

• “You’re irresistible.”

• “Your body drives me crazy.”

• “You’re perfect for me.”

Confidence in your words helps her relax and surrender fully to pleasure.

The Psychology of Erotic Language

• Intention matters: Your tone conveys whether it’s loving, dominant, or playful.

• Continuity: Keep a flow—don’t jump randomly between topics.

• Calibration: Adjust based on her reactions, arousal level, and personality.

Conclusion: Communication = Connection

Mastering verbal communication in bed is about intentional language, timing, and tone. Don’t stay silent, don’t overcomplicate things. Speak with sensual dominance, reinforce her pleasure, and create a shared rhythm of intimacy.

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How to Touch a Woman’s Breasts with Sensual Dominance (A Complete Guide)… So, how to caress her breasts ? How to touch her nipples ? This is a free boobs tutorial !

Introduction

When it comes to intimacy, few gestures are as symbolic as touching a woman’s breasts. Yet, many men still approach this with the subtlety of a teenager rather than the mastery of a lover. The difference between fumbling and caressing lies in sensual dominance: the ability to lead, to be confident, and to make her feel desired without being crude.

This article explores the art of breast touch—not as a juvenile act, but as a dance of seduction, respect, and pleasure. You’ll learn techniques, psychology, and communication tips so your partner feels aroused, safe, and deeply connected.

Why Sensual Touch Matters

• Breasts are erogenous zones: Nerve endings around the nipples and skin make them highly sensitive.

• Psychological impact: Gentle yet dominant touch makes a woman feel desired and protected.

• Connection builder: Breast play should flow with kissing, eye contact, and emotional intimacy—not stand apart from the rest of the body.

The Mindset: From “Boys” to “Seductors”

• Not grabbing, but guiding: Boys “grope.” Men “caress.”

• Confidence over hesitation: Touch with purpose, not as if you are testing the waters.

• Control with respect: Dominance means leading, not forcing.

Step 1: Start with the Whole Body

Before your hands even reach her chest:

• Kiss slowly: Create anticipation.

• Explore the skin: Neck, shoulders, stomach—connect it all.

• Over the clothes first: Brushing lightly over her bra builds suspense.

Step 2: Positioning and Access

• Earthly grounding: Hold her with your whole body, not just your hands.

• From behind: Sliding your hands forward from her waist to her chest creates a protective, dominant feeling.

• Leaning in: In missionary, distribute your weight carefully so your chest contact feels intimate, not crushing.

Step 3: The Technique of Holding

• Cupping: Slide your hands underneath and lift gently, as if they were dancing in your palms.

• Control vs. playfulness: Avoid childish squeezing—think sensual control.

• Size matters: Larger breasts may respond better to firmer pressure, while smaller ones can be extremely sensitive to light caresses.

Step 4: Nipple Play

• Start gradually: Brush lightly with fingertips before applying pressure.

• Pinching delicately: Increase intensity only if she responds positively.

• Mouth technique:

  • Lick around the areola slowly.

  • Take the nipple gently into your mouth, alternating suction and release.

  • Avoid clumsy or rushed licking—it should feel intentional, not random.

Step 5: Variations of Pressure

• Soft sensuality: For slow, romantic sessions.

• Firm dominance: Grasping and pressing to amplify intensity during passionate moments.

• Advanced play: Gentle slaps or firmer grabs—but only when she’s fully aroused and open to it.

Step 6: Communicate and Read Signals

• Nonverbal cues: Breathing changes, moans, arching of her back.

• Ask indirectly: “Do you like that?” or “Tell me what feels best.”

• Adapt: Every woman’s sensitivity differs—there is no universal formula.

Mistakes to Avoid

1. Rushing in: Don’t pounce straight on her chest.

2. Focusing only on breasts: Keep the whole body engaged.

3. Childish gestures: No “honking” or clownish squeezing.

4. Ignoring feedback: If she pulls away, change your approach.

Dominance and Sensuality: Finding Balance

• Too soft → risk of seeming timid.

• Too rough → risk of discomfort or rejection.

• The sweet spot: Confident touch, gradual build-up, reading her arousal.

Why Communication Is Key

• Breasts are symbolic of femininity and vulnerability.

• A woman opens up more when she feels understood.

• Open dialogue turns physical pleasure into emotional intimacy.

Beyond Technique: The Psychology of Breast Play

• Symbolic connection: They represent nurturing, intimacy, and sexuality.

• Erotic charge: Many women report nipple stimulation alone can bring them close to orgasm.

• Dominant energy: When you lead confidently, she feels both safe and desired.

Conclusion

Touching breasts with sensual dominance is not about tricks but about mindset. Approach with respect, patience, and confidence. Combine soft caresses with moments of firmer control, always tuned into her reactions.

A true seducer doesn’t just touch; he makes her feel wanted, safe, and ignited.

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In this article, I will explain how to make love and more specifically how to make love to a woman. Word of sexpert!

FYI, I already wrote an article on how to make a woman orgasm, which completes the present text.

 

How to make love: the positions

The modified missionary:

 

This is the best position for small sexes. She has the impression of banging a guy with a big cock (longer and wider). She is much more likely to enjoy than with the normal missionary (even if your sex is normal size).

How to make love in an improved missionary? Put a cousin in the lower back. Return to her as a normal missionary. Then put your legs on your shoulders…

Thanks to the angle in which you will fuck her, she will have the sensation that you have a bigger cock (an optical illusion in the pussy).

You can then put your head close to hers…

What type of sex do you want to give her? Emotional? Kiss her mouth and her neck. Dominant? Use the dirty talk…

You do not have to pound her all the time but move all the time even if it’s slow.

 

The lying down doggystyle:

 

The doggy lying down it’s not too much time to tell her romantic words, it’s more time to be dominant… the moment to fuck her hard. To understand how to make love doggy style, you must integrate that.

You can go deeper into this position (orgasm by the G-spot): lie down, the pillow is optional, and take her so that your sex touches the wall at the top of her pussy (always this same G-spot), lie on her, put an arm around her neck, or put her head in the pillow or bring her head to hers to make dirty talk. By the way, it’s also an extra position for anal sex.

Whether in this position or in others, know that at any time you can asked her to touch (caressing the clit as she likes) or touch her yourself with one of your hands WHILE you penetrate her. This double stimulation contains all the elements to make come any girl!

 

The normal missionary:

Nothing more to say, just watch it on Google.

 

The normal doggystyle:

How many positions should you do? Focus on one for a long time… but make at least three. That’s how to make love to a woman.

Know that women need to be constantly stimulated. So kiss her or caress her while you fuck her. It will contribute to your success in your quest to answer the question how to make love.

 

Standing Doggy: Use the Power of Your Entire Body

 

It gives you more power, it gives her more orgasms, so feel your manhood and your bestiality in this position. But the size difference between you can be a problem here. In this case take something (a support) to get you up (or to raise her).

 

The cross: you take her with a good angle for her

 

A unique angle of penetration: she will feel much more open. It’s good for the dirty talk too. Good for the eye contact. You really connect to your lover in this position.

 

The screw: the missionary by the side

 

How to make love to a woman? You can do it on the edge of the bed: it is a technique for G-spot. It is also a good position because it is not made for longevity. You are in this position, so it is possible to make sex more dominant.

 

The scissor : the four legs are crossed

 

A unique angle of penetration. You have to be flexible a minimum. One of your legs under hers. She can control the rhythm. That’s how to make love when you want the woman to control a little.

 

The lotus: intimate position

 

Very high level of sharing emotions: it is a position to make love in the literal sense. She straddles you, gets on your feet, stands on your back. You can support her from behind too (the lower back will be her center of gravity, so to speak). There, for the time, it is a good position to tell her romantic things. It is a very romantic position, often very popular with women.

 

How to make love to a woman, what if you let her go in amazon?

 

In this position, you can get fucked by your girlfriend. But you can also lift your legs and fuck her as you have decided.

 

How to make love: The bad lovers

The goal is to be hard, stay hard, and give her orgasms. The bad lovers are like: 2 back and forth and hop they ejaculate because too excited, those who ejaculate even before entering her, those who finish as soon as they go doggy style… you must also give her vaginal orgasms. That’s how to make love to a woman!

 

Sex makes the relationship

Why learning how to make love? Remember, if you are too bad, she will go elsewhere. Good sex = good relationship. Bad sex = bad relationship.

I know it’s humiliating to see her go with another man because we’re not good enough in bed (= we give him less pleasure than the other).

You must train to keep as much as you want and thus create more sexual alchemy between you.

 

The soft cock

If you’re the type to have a soft cock: there is a problem in your head… maybe you do not really want her? Or you think too much, too nervous, anxious, etc.

Do not become a mechanical robot: you must understand that they are fucking with the whole man, not just with a dick. You are not a removable penis.

Do not worry TOO MUCH about satisfying the girl.

 

Women love sex

If you think that women do not like sex, that they prefer dinners and trips… YOU ARE WRONG! THEY LOVE SEX! THE GOOD SEX! Sex is life!

Whether your cock is big or small, wide or narrow, it does not matter much. That’s the truth about how to make love.

 

Training

You can train in front of a porn: masturbate, excite yourself more and then stop. Take a deep breath and relax to do not come. Do it ten times in a row and let it out. When you are ready, you can do the same thing in a girl.

If you do not last between 25-45 minutes, she probably will not have time to orgasm vaginally and may simulate. Always try to do at least 2 or 3 positions.

How to make love longer? If you think you will come then stop the shelling and make small circles with your sex time to go down a little.

 

Sharing pleasure

How to make love? Share your pleasure with her by grabbing or clawing her back, buttocks or neck.

One last thing: do not make fun of “pussy farts”. A lot of girls complex on it when it’s nothing in fact.

You can pinch your ear or other part of your body so you do not ejaculate or use the perineal technique (it’s a really advanced thing that I only partially master so I will not talk about it anymore but you you must know that you have muscles under your sex and that by training you can contract when ejaculation will rise and so you will stop it: you will have orgasm but stay hard.That’s the goal.) Finally well there we’re not even talking of another level but of another type of sexuality… perhaps too disconnected from the common man.

 

How to make love: Become a sexpert

All the guys want to be good in bed, they want to know how to make love, but most do not know how to do it (because of a lack of knowledge and know-how). They do not even know what the “standards” are when you talk about sex. How to become a god in bed? Read The awesome lover’s manual and look at module 8 of my training Cyprine.

 

How to make love?

When you are a sexpert, you should be able to give orgasms to 95% of women. What do you still need at this reading level? Practice. And to reread me once to fully assimilate.

You must remove this thing that ruins everything in bed: the lack of confidence in you. Below, a brief summary of the essentials…

 

The time

If you are too bad in bed, she will forget you: sex must be good.

How to make love? You must last at least 20/25mn. If you think you’ve come too fast, or if you’re wondering if you came too fast, then sorry but that’s surely the case.

 

Fingers, tongue, sex

You can totally give her orgasms before sex with your fingers or through oral stimulation. Eat her pussy, use your tongue and fingers to touch her everywhere. Pull her hair, kiss her neck, play with her breasts. All this is welcome!

How long should foreplay be ? At least 30mn.

 

The massage

Make sure she is relaxed… otherwise use the stroke of the massage to relax before initiating sex (they will initiate very rarely so assume that you must take initiatives). They must be relaxed to orgasm. Your affection will relax them.

Massage: do not be too sweet. Use the right pressure that suits her. Massage to the shoulders. Elbows. Why not even a foot massage? In any case calibrate and adapt to your partner! After the massage, warm her up!

 

You have control

How to make love? Take control, push her gently, manage to get down between her thighs, get her wet, the outside of her pussy must be stimulated, do not be too aggressive too quickly.

If at first you do not succeed, try again: sex education is important. Spontaneity in sex is important, so stay clear and surprise her. And above all do not get discouraged !!!

When you get better in bed, you will gain more confidence, and you will fuck more because you will have a better game.

 

The size

The size of the penis may matter, but it is a story of personal preference. It takes at least 4 centimeters to give her orgasms. And an emotional connection. But bigger does not mean better.

The better she gets into sexual action, the better for you and for her.

Women are subject to nature. Sorry but it’s a little bit true…

 

Show your animal side but not too much

When you kiss her, do not be a total animal, do not put too much tongue. Do not wash too much everywhere…

Study her reactions a bit to see if you are doing this well.

Do not have dry hands.

How to make Love ? Rub her clit a bit & go slowly at first.

How to make love? Dual action = stimulate the clitoris + put fingers in her pussy.

 

What is appropriate or not in dirty talk?

What is really important is the timing… some girls get upset if you treat them sluts in front of people. Ask “do you like it when you are dominated?” ; “How do you like that, naughty girl?” Introduce it alone at home, you do not try to humiliate her. She must understand it: it’s just for fun. It’s a romantic story into dominance.

 

Routine

Girls love surprises, they love sex in the morning too. Many girls are willing to fuck in the morning.

Change the routine sometimes, do not fall into unhealthy habits. They want variety so they do not get bored.

The sextoys, it’s funny. A toy should not intimidate you. It’s not at all the same as a guy… it’s more like a therapist.

 

Relax her

About the one night stands : plan a drink or two before to relax well. We less talk of romance in this case.

 

Conclusion

How many orgasms should she have? Some women enjoy little so one is already good. Others easily enjoy so for them 1 orgasm it will be the minimum. Sometimes I give 12 orgasms to some girls…

It is urgent that I write an article to explain how to make a woman orgasm. Read on and you will understand why!

I had already written a more technical article on how to make a girl come, with videos and everything, I advise you to go take a look!

And: yes, we can make a girl orgasm the first time we fuck her.

Women’s sexual misery

The FIFG has conducted a survey on female orgasm. According to this survey, conducted among 1006 women representative of the French population, orgasm is something rare.

Only 33% of women report reaching orgasm in their last sex session. Only 25% of women have an orgasm once a month or more. 7% of women say they never enjoyed.

Very sad reality, which justifies why I must explain to you how to make a woman enjoy.

 

Enjoying, getting a kick out and orgasm

First of all, what is the difference between “enjoying”, “getting your feet” and “having an orgasm”?

To enjoy means to feel pleasure (not necessarily sexual).

To take one’s foot is to have a lot of pleasure (mainly sexual).

To have an orgasm is to reach the last stage of pleasure. Attention, by abuse of language, I sometimes say that I enjoyed or that the girl enjoyed to say that she had an orgasm.

But the thing is that sometimes sex can be very good without having orgasm. The woman can find it very good, so gets her foot, but do not reach orgasm.

When I tell you that I will explain how to make a woman come, I want to say that I will explain how to give her much pleasure… until orgasm!

 

The state of mind: generosity

I know that many people think of their own pleasure first. It is above all a common state of mind among men.

But we must understand that it is really rewarding and exciting to see the other take his or her foot!

So, a good state of mind is to give and receive. Get a lot of fun and give as much if not more. That’s how to make a woman come!

 

How to make a woman orgasm… The atmosphere is important

How to make a woman enjoy? The mind is of enormous importance to make a woman enjoy. So much that some girls can even orgasm through a simple mental stimulation, as in erotic hypnosis sessions. Or thanks to a good phone game.

But a girl too stressed, or who does not know her body, could block even with the best stimulation (physical or mental) of the world.

To accept to have an orgasm is to accept the loss of control… and that, all women are not capable. However, with an orgasm accompaniment, you can increase your chances of getting a woman to enjoy.

An accompaniment to orgasm is to encourage the girl to enjoy, reassure her, teach her to relax, tell her that you understand but you will not let go until she has come, etc.

You can also help the woman to forget herself through an exciting atmosphere. Why not give her an erotic massage? Why not watching an X movie together? There are so many exciting things you can do to clear your head, relax her and make her want to fuck.

What is the link with “how to make a woman enjoy”? Well, the more she will be receptive to the idea that you take her, as when realizing a fantasy, the more likely she is to enjoy easily.

 

Preparation of the penetration

Caress her hair… Kiss her. Then, kiss her neck, lick her belly, her breasts. Why not even her buttocks. How to make a woman enjoy? Take care of her whole body, she must be totally stimulated.

Then you can consider leading her to orgasm during foreplay.

Thanks to the techniques of fingering and cunnilingus that I explain in The awesome lover’s manual, you should without problem be able to make enjoy a woman before even penetration.

The sexual act

How to make a woman come? Regarding the sexual act, prefer positions that allow your sex to tap on her G-spot G. Or to rub her clitoris.

These are the two keys to make a woman enjoy by sexual stimulation but I can not guarantee you what will be most suitable for the woman you are going to fuck tomorrow: each has her own specificities.

 

The after-sex

After sex, your work is not finished. Ask the girl what would make her want to next time. Ask her for a little feedback on the sex session you just had together.

Attention all the same, do not let yourself be devalued by a bitch who would hate you and try to belittle you.

After your orgasm, take her a few seconds in your arms.

Offer to lick her if you are done but she has not orgasmed yet.

After sex you can hug for a minimum of 5/10 minutes… just stay connected.

Ask her what are her fantasies? Ask her to share her secrets with you, “What are your secret fantasies? 2 guys for you alone? With another girl? ”

How to make an woman come even stronger next time? Ask her what she would like to do/try next time?

If you did not like something, tell her.. tell her what you liked. Be a pedagogue, emphasize the positive!

Ask if she liked watching you lick her (in the eyes or not). Or that you look her in the eyes while sucking.

Ask sparingly how many times she has orgasmed (attention to seeking approval)…

Important: ask her if she likes girls too. So you sow the seeds of your future threesome in her mind. All participants will have to be part of something organized like this.

Even married with her, you can invite girls for a limited time in your relationship… if she likes them too (reserved for special occasions).

How to bring the subject to make a threesome?

During movies, ask her if she thinks the actress is sexy. Whisper in her ear, tell her (when she is in a good mood) that you would like to kiss her by watching her licking a pussy. If she looks up, gear up!

How to make your threesome go well?

Your girlfriend wants your attention, she should not feel sidelined… so do not be selfish during a threesome.

Do not look only the most beautiful or the new woman. Remember, it’s a privilege that she agrees to do that and do not take a big head, otherwise it will never happen again.

It can be a fantasy for her too to fuck a girl but keep in mind that she wants in any case that you take care of her.

Well, that’s how to make a woman come. I hope you enjoyed it, and women too! 😉

You will find here a file on the first time. With whom and how to do it for the first time? Are there differences between boys and girls for the first time?

Personally, I think I made the first time of 5 or 6 girls. So I think I can give you relevant advice to help you and guide you.

 

My first time

To put you in the mood, I suggest you read this article where I tell my first time.

My first time was a bit disastrous but I made the first few times of a lot of girls for whom it went really well. I think it is among others because my first time went wrong that I made a point of honor to make it a pleasant moment for others.

 

First time: With her boyfriend or with a guy like that?

I’m sometimes asked “how do I know if it’s the right one?” And I never understand what it means to be the right one.

I do not think that girls necessarily need to marry the guy who defecates them, we are no longer in the Middle Ages… and we live in France!

Then, to know if you can go or not, it’s up to you, but I advise you to gauge the guy a little: ideally, you need a respectful guy, not selfish in bed, who is able to reassure you while encouraging you to get out of your comfort zone, etc. It’s a bit of luck, because you never really know people. I think back to writing these lines to the adventure I had with this young Marseillaise who used me as a man-object to discover carnal pleasures.

Be careful, this is not a reason to do anything and with anyone!

Legend or reality?

It is often advisable to make one’s first time with a boyfriend, with whom we have been for several months. But the truth is that a stranger with a good mind can do just fine. Question of luck, again.

I have already deflowered girls the day I met them. I am thinking in particular of a little Arab who bore her virginity as a burden at age 25 and who explicitly asked me to deflower her. I did it. She wanted on her terms: in the shadows and without much talk before.

I warmed her well, we took our time, I licked the time it took for her to open well so it doesn’t hurt. Because the first time, it can hurt… but if you go slowly and prepare well the ground, it can be only a formality and do very little harm.

Regarding boys: do it at least with a girl you like, do not ruin it with the first fat ass came. Love is at the center of everything in our society, so it is certain that if you have feelings for the girl it is always better but if there is only physical attraction, it may be enough . Indeed, sex is something very animal. Just do not say “I love you” just to sleep: it would be acting like an asshole and then break hearts.

 

The positions

I recommend not to neglect the preliminaries, even for a first time. Licking the girl and touching the guy’s cock, getting lots of kisses everywhere, on the breasts, on the chest, etc. All of this helps to build trust and prepare the body for action.

When we are in the situation, instinct and nature take over and it is a little alone. But do not over stress and don’t start asking 1000 questions at the last moment.

The basic position is the missionary (girl lying on her back, boy lying on her). But if it does not fit in this position (sometimes the girl contracted her vagina enormously without realizing it), it is better to lay the boy on the back and the girl gets on top to sink his cock as she wants.

It is often said that guys are ejaculating very fast for their first time. In fact it is the stress that can do that: he can either come quickly or soften. But I think the girl can be understanding for the first time. If you want advice on sex, I refer you to the The awesome lover’s manual rather than porn. In short, play with your breath to relax and succeed your first time!

What I want to emphasize here is that, for the first time, do not put too much pressure on yourself, no one expects from you an extraordinary performance.

 

When one has done it yet and the other has not

Two beginners together is even more difficult!

So, if one of you did it, it’s cool, but it must be understanding and caring. Or understanding and caring. It’s a team effort and I find it an honor to make someone’s first time!

When I met Virginie, she was a virgin and I taught her everything, for her pleasure and mine. But we took our time, because that’s what she needed.

In this text, Virginie tells how she lost her virginity with me.

Here, I tell the first time of Virginie, how complicated it was, and our first meeting.

 

What is the average age of the first time?

The average age of the first report is 17 years and 3 months for boys and 17 years and 6 months for girls. It has not changed in 20 years.

Nearly half of people choose the family roof for their first time.

40% say they are disappointed with their first time. Which does not stop them from loving sex afterwards.

 

What are the things to avoid?

The rules

If possible, avoid making her first time during her period, it’s already complicated enough like that, no need to add!

The derogatory remarks

Also avoid criticizing or commenting on the body or how does the other. I know it’s a stressful moment and that stress sometimes makes us say or do bullshit… but in these circumstances, it’s particularly vexing and it can traumatize for life. Prefer to shut up rather than say offensive bullshit.

The preservative

Far be it from me to remind you that we have better feelings and that “it fits better” without a condom. Indeed, it is better to take good habits from the beginning of your sexuality to avoid catching diseases and therefore use contraception.

 

Other questions ? The comments are there for that…

I guess that I am not the first pretentious who wants to give advice on how to do a cunnilingus … but I am Cyprineman, sexpert famous for his gift: being the king of pussy-licking in Lyon and Aix-en-Provence.

 

Cunnilingus preliminaries

Cunnilingus is an act of domination

The cunnilingus is an act of domination because you control the pleasure of your partner. Hold her firmly if she moves her legs too much and you will feel even more than you have control!

Cunnilingus has long been considered humiliating for humans in some cultures, but today, it’s all over, equality between men and women forces, morals change!

I personally set the example by performing a sextape for my training Cyprine with my accomplice where I really show you what a good cunni is and gathering testimonials of many girls with whom I slept who testified that my cunnis had made them a hell of an effect !!!

 

Kiss her erogenous zones to warm her up

Know that there are never too many preliminaries. Excite her until she begs you to take her (verbally or not).

Start slowly. Lick her neck. Get closer. Put a hand on her pussy. Do not fool her or anything crazy: just touch her, caress her gently… and go forward.

Attack her back, her hips, her shoulders, the top of her pussy. Continue the stimulation. Create sexual tension. Make want to suck you. Until she can not handle more.

Do not comment what you are doing “ohlala what is happening to us I’m going to fuck you”: it could wake up the logical part of her brain and block her. We address the emotional part of the girl’s brain!

Go finally between her legs but do not rush on her pussy!

First lick the inside of her thighs, near her pussy.

Go down again and heat her legs, then her lips gently then gently spread the lips of her pussy. Kiss and lick her tits, her lower abdomen and her thighs before you get interested in her sex.

To begin: kiss her breasts, go down kissing her little belly, her belly button and then continue down to attack the point that interests us. This should not be too easy for her, the anticipation will raise her desire, just like in seduction.

At first, use your tongue to make the area wet. By putting a cushion under her buttocks, you give her an ideal position. Do not blow in the vagina, it’s very unpleasant. Explore the recesses of her vagina and lips with your tongue in “hard tongue” mode. Browse her sex in different ways, lick, penetrate, turn, lap, suck…

 

Different ways to make a cunni

In fact, some like to put their mouths like a duckface (it helps a little at first) and position it on her clit. Normally, you feel it under your tongue, this damn clitoris, like a little hard button…

It is very rare that I had to go blind but it happened because it is very discreet in some. That said, by following the different diagrams that I included in this article: you know in which zone it must be and it is enough to lick there (being always just on it is not always optimal).

I think licking is good but sucking is excellent too: suck it as she sucks your cock that would not be hard yet. And no, it does not make you a fag. For her to give you her rhythm, position your mouth on her clit and do not move, let her indicate the angle. Put your fingers in her vagina (in “hey come here” mode) and touch her body too while you suck/lick her.

Continue: pay attention to the non-verbal feedback she sends back to you to find out if she likes it. Continue what works! Place your fingers against her sex by making a V oriented with the bottom towards the buttocks and the top towards her belly: it is the zone to be treated during the cunnilingus (a mark).

 

Make a good cunnilingus

Go easy at first. Take as much time as you want. But you need at least 10 minutes (or 30, depending on the girl), so find a comfortable position. Keep nails short, clean and filed.

Use a thin but hard tongue like a cat that drinks water. You do most of the work with the sharp 1 centimeter of your muscular tongue. From top to bottom? Circularly? It’s you who choose, you can alternate too. Meanwhile, your hands caress her.

Make longer preliminaries so that she relaxes more… do not force sex, give her desire rather. Be attentive to the indications she will give you in spite of herself…

Do not blow in her vagina. Especially not ! It’s dangerous !!! Watch out for that!

If you have a doubt about your performance, ask her for the pace and pressure when playing with her clitoris… there are some who are really sensitive and it can hurt or scare them especially when cold or approaching orgasm. Be careful with the teeth, just as she must be careful when she does a blowjob: respect.

 

Make a woman enjoy by cunnilingus

The girls do not always show their pleasure immediately as soon as you touch their sex. But after a while, their legs are shaking.

When she approaches orgasm, she may ask you to stop or shake your legs. At this point, place your hands in a ring around her thighs to prevent her from choking on you when she is going to cum. But continue! There are some who are afraid of orgasm because it is something very intense…

Have a finger in her during orgasm and you will feel her vagina contract. Stop as soon as she reaches orgasm because after that becomes very sensitive. I like to stop just when they orgasm and watch spasms! It seems they enjoy themselves after!

If she approaches orgasm, she can mean stop by tightening her legs. I do not advise you to obey: make her enjoy like never before. If she does not give it back to you, give it anyway, for the sake of giving (God will give it to you or she will thank you afterwards). Do cunnis because you have to show that you like your partner’s body. If the smell bothers you then breathe through your mouth but be careful put your nose so that you do not suffocate either.

 

What to do after cunnilingus?

Do not kiss her directly after cunnilingus… before, wipe at least on the sheets or against her legs. It’s politeness!

To make her a cunni is much easier than to penetrate her. But often when the tongue is inside, everything comes inside! So you know what to promise them instead of promising them a good dick!

Afterwards, to make herlose his head, it’s also good to finger her at the same time as you lick her. To find out where you are on the scale of orgasm, it’s a story of listening to your bodily reactions, breathing, etc. I often imagine myself opening a safe when I lick a girl! And I want to blow the lock!

 

All women are not fans of cunni

But a good cunni can still give pleasure to almost all women. You can either lick her as you would eat an ice cream or as a cat lapping water. If you have a tired tongue or jaw, do the fingering technique + caressing the clit with your thumb, the time to recover a little.

For smells, do not take your nose in her pussy, rather position yourself above. You can put your nose on her Pubis Mount and pull your tongue out. You can put a finger between your nose and the hole too: you do not have to stick to her vagina.

More tips on this in The awesome lover’s manual.

Attention if she is on her period, do not make me say what I did not say (you can stroke her clit but no fingers in it). If you have hair in your mouth, remove it discreetly… If she really has too much hair, remember that you do not have to lick either, it’s a choice. Give her the choice to kiss you or not directly after your cunni (wipe yourself quietly).

If she ejaculates (squirts) in your face during pussy-licking : it’s almost only water, for info it never happened to me that a girl has a really powerful jet that expels me so do not be afraid.

Be enduring and powerful: if you are bored, draw the alphabet on her sex. I advise you to put the condom during cunni, neither seen nor known, then you fuck her directly… she will be well wet.

 

Positions for cunnilingus:

The lick (positions):

The Forbidden fruit :

Very good for oral sex, very intimate. But it takes a lot of trust and attraction between the partners because it leaves the woman exposed, vulnerable. She must be relaxed, your two hands on the top of her buttocks to keep her pussy open and lick her clit. Open it with your finger and the clit will point the tip of its nose out so that you can gently suck it. It is very good as first sexual position or to prepare an animal doggystyle.

See foreplay as sex: all that is sexual anyway so see that as part of the act.

Do not press the sex too much, do not skip the preliminaries, there is no time limit for that. The sex will be better after.

Keep the women stimulated throughout the foreplay and act.

 

The Viennese oyster:

Very intimate position for oral sex: she can masturbate or suck you while you lick her.

This is not a 69, she may as well turn her back and take your cock in her hand. She can sit up as well (but I did not find a picture like that sorry).

Lick her pussy while she sleeps:

Queen’s awakening…

 

Why learning how to massage women or to give an erotic massage? The category “lesbian porn” is full of videos of erotic massages. Erotic massage is a practice that makes many women fantasize. I’m going to talk here about erotic massage for women: make it your specialty and you will drive a lot of girls crazy of you! If you are a couple, it seems ideal to spice up your antics…

 

Massage to sexualize

The massage as preliminary

You can not start a car in the middle of winter and go fast right away. You have to heat up the engine a bit… and prepare it for shifting gears. With women, it’s the same!

So, you can give her a massage to warm her up, they usually like massages and it can seem like an innocent proposition: it can deactivate a possible Last Minute Resistance (but in the collective unconscious, they implicitly accept the fuck in 90% of cases if they let a guy massage them).

 

A massage to relax

Make yourself comfortable, and relax: when you massage your partner or behave intimately with her, she will feel how you feel. We call it being in phase. It’s pure emotional contagion.

You can not make your partner comfortable or get her to relax unless you do it yourself. It is necessary to show the example: for this, you can take some great inspirations in your lower abdomen, to relax your body and your mind with each expiration.

It will balance and refocus you.

 

Prepare the atmosphere for the massage

Make the place where you plan to act, a pleasant place. It is also important, when doing a massage, to keep the girl literally “hot” .

Keep in mind that you will always be warmer than the person lying down, especially if you have an energetic massage. Cover the parts of the woman’s body that you are not working on with a blanket or towel.

It’s important for them to be warm and comfortable, so they can relax completely.

 

Run an innocent massage in erotic massage

With no rough hands, start softly and sensually… do not press too hard unless she asks.

During the massage, you can:
– Tell her to put on her underwear and then unzip her top casually ;
– Make small circles in her hair with the tips of your fingers;
– Massage her thighs, go back to her sex casually and then back down her thighs. Massage her buttocks too;
– Lick the hollow of her neck, of her ear lobes;
– Innocently approach your sex of hers then move away casually while continuing your massage;
– Do not bite her nipples too much, but lick or caress instead;
– The hollow of her knees, elbows, ankles: all this is all too often forgotten during the foreplay;
– You can follow her column with your tongue during a massage. Guaranteed sensations!
– Stroke her sex through her underwear.

I regularly used the technique of massage to sleep with girls, like in this adventure with a physio or this one with a very pretty girl.

That’s why, as a seducer it is important to learn how to massage a woman, how to give a good massage to a woman…

 

Have you ever tried body-body massage?

This is when you use your entire body to massage hers (of course both half-naked). It’s very exciting and it can quickly slip so much sexual tension can escalate! That’s how to make a good massage to a woman!

You must understand that society is trying to make you feel guilty about loving sex, or even just thinking about it… but it is actually a life energy (and a vital energy).

Shame or guilt are not good things when you talk about sex… sex is always better with people who are comfortable with their sexuality. I prefer girls who are in peace with who they really are.

 

How to make a good erotic massage?

Positioning for an erotic massage

She and you have to relax… this is one of the most important steps. Work from the neck and go down. Get rid of the tension.

Sexual energy is not only in the vagina, it is everywhere.

Put her in the position that makes she lies on her back with her legs up.

Put some oil on your hand and rub his mount of Venus (the pubis) as if you washed it and enter it with your hands.

For oil, prefer aromatherapy bottled rather than baby oil or whatever… and most importantly, take natural oils!

Why putting a cousin under her buttocks and knees to make her feel more comfortable?

 

How to take good care of a woman during an erotic massage?

Attention, an erotic massage is not necessarily a tantric massage, nor a libertine massage but on the other hand it is always a naughty massage. (Nor even a Yoni massage.)

Start to finger her using the fingering techniques I already told you about.

Go as deep as possible. From top to bottom. The first movements should be soft then go for it stronger.

In all directions this time, not only from top to bottom. Do not go too hard if she is very sensitive, listen to her if she says “stop” or “more gently”. You can also make circles inside her vagina with your fingers.

Every girl is different so we have to see what each one enjoys. The routine is flexible. If the girl is not yet awake sexually, it may even seem too intense for her, for the first time.

It is sometimes necessary to accompany the woman to orgasm: tell her to let go, that she can make noise if she wants, etc.

 

Calibration for a good erotic massage

Look at her face to see what she’s doing best and do it more. By the way, do not forget to massage her breasts.

If, at the approach of orgasm, contact with your fingers “hurts” her, you will either have to make wider circles around the clitoris, or go with your tongue or penetrate with your sex.

She may be ejaculating, do not hesitate to go see this page for tips to make a woman ejaculate. How to make a girl squirt ?

When she is well relaxed and ready, her pussy will normally be full of blood.

She will thus feel more emotions sensations and not just in the area of ​​her rump.

 

 

Erotic massage suite

Once her vagina is elastic, tell her to turn face down (this massage position is not bad for the feeling of security and comfort it provides).

Put a cushion under her feet.

Start by massaging her upper back.

Then, intensive fingering and tell her to talk, to let go!

Move back and forth, up and down, in circles.

With your other hand, press down on the bottom of her belly, on the place called the “Mount of Venus”. It will put more pressure on her G-spot and increase her pleasure. Listen to her instructions. If she tells you to go faster or harder, do it.

If your partner tells you that she feels the urge to pee, answer that it’s normal and she can let go. In a few minutes, she should start to ejaculate. You may even see a small jet or a few drops of liquid come out or gush from her vagina at that time.

Anyway, this kind of warm up will make her feel much more intimate with the person with whom she is about to make love. This is what I call the whole body massage.

If you enjoy doing this to her, she will also appreciate you doing it to her. All this must seem natural.

If you are in a relationship, you can practice it regularly before sex, to be sure that your partner is relaxed.

 

Erotic massage as a profession

If you are Parisian and want a good erotic massage, I suggest you call my friend Vincent Body-Expert.

In Lyon and Aix-en-Provence, on the other hand, I do not know anyone who does erotic massage for women… but it must exist.

If this interests you, know that for the price, it takes about €300, but it is often cheaper for students.

Anyway, attention, I must precise that being erotic masseur is not prostitution, it’s just an erotic massage that aims to relax and allow to realize this fantasy common to many women! 😉

Concerning what can happen next, you must see how much the woman and the masseur are libertines. For the anecdote, Vincent told me the other day that sometimes husbands accompany their wives during the erotic massage and that it is a fabulous preliminary! There are even some who are candaulists (they practice candaulisme) and who are really turned on by it without jealousy (we can call it candaulist massages)…